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Feeling stuck in dating, waiting for a text, or wondering when love will finally arrive? What if the answer isn't trying harder—but following your pleasure? In this episode, I'm sharing one of my favorite ways to get out of a dating rut: Pleasure Quests! From my own adventures in New York City and Toronto to the difference between being a pleasure receiver and an overachiever, discover how following what lights you up can bring you back into flow, possibility, and romantic connection. Whether you're single or partnered, pleasure is a life skill—and a powerful way to reclaim your agency in love. Plus, a sneak peek at Hot for the Holidays, my 12-day pleasure experience opening November 14! 💗

What if the person you've been waiting for to turn you on… is you? So many of us have learned that pleasure is something another person gives us. But what happens when we stop outsourcing our erotic aliveness? In this episode, we're talking about self-pleasure, masturbation, sexual sovereignty, and the difference between being desirable and experiencing desire. Plus, why knowing your own pleasure can transform the intimacy you share with someone else. Your erotic life belongs to you—whether you're single, dating, or partnered. And stay tuned for Hot for the Holidays, my $22, 12-day pleasure experience beginning December 1. Registration opens November 14! 💗

What if the secret to more flirting, chemistry, and connection isn't trying harder to be attractive—but enjoying yourself more? When you're focused on being desirable, you're constantly wondering how others perceive you. But when you're connected to your own pleasure, you become more playful, expressive, curious, and available for authentic connection. In this episode, discover why pleasure is the foundation of authentic flirting, how it changes your experience of dating, and why enjoying yourself can be one of the most inviting things about you. Plus, a sneak peek at Hot for the Holidays—my upcoming 12-day celebration of pleasure, sensuality, and joy. Registration opens November 14! 🔥

Ever spent so much energy making sure everyone else was having a good time that you completely forgot to have one yourself? People-pleasing isn't really about pleasure. It's about managing other people's reactions. In this episode, discover how people-pleasing disconnects you from your desires, sabotages authentic flirting, and can quietly extinguish the spark in your relationships. And why when you're constantly overriding your no, you're often suppressing your yes, too. Plus, I'm sharing a sneak peek at Hot for the Holidays—12 days of getting frisky, festive, and putting your pleasure on the list. Just $22, with half going to the Restore the Earth Foundation. Registration opens November 14! 🔥

Have you ever gotten to the end of the day and realized you did everything you were supposed to do—but almost nothing that actually felt good? We've been conditioned to believe pleasure is something we earn after we've worked hard enough, taken care of everyone else, or finally found love. But what if we've got it backwards? In this episode, discover why pleasure isn't just about sex, why it's the foundation of authentic flirting and intimacy, and what becomes possible when you stop postponing your own enjoyment of life. Plus, a sneak peek at Hot for the Holidays, my upcoming 12-day celebration of pleasure, sensuality, and self-love for singles and partnered people alike. Registration opens November 14. Stay tuned.

In this heartfelt conversation, my friend and former client Susan shares her journey from feeling invisible to becoming fully expressed, and how that transformation opened the door to extraordinary love. Susan H. Hines is an author, speaker, storyteller, and founder of TJP Publications LLC. Through her writing, she explores self-discovery, personal growth, relationships, and the courage to reinvent oneself. Her latest book, CRAZY Won't Leave Me Alone: Dating, Doubt, and Discovering the Woman I Was Meant to Be, is the first installment in the CRAZY trilogy. The book introduces the CRAZY Method, a five-step framework: C — Challenge the narrativeR — Reclaim your powerA — Accept yourselfZ — Zero in on what brings you joyY — You choose what's nextThe CRAZY Method Workbook is scheduled for release November 17, 2026, followed by the CRAZY Journal in December. Susan is also the creator of the Buckley children's book series. Upcoming Book Signing & CelebrationSunday, November 8, 2026 | 2:00–4:00 PM The Gallery at Hood Street, McDonough, Georgia Join Susan for an intimate author conversation, audience Q&A, book signing, photographs, and light refreshments. Tickets are available through Eventbrite. The Celebration Experience ticket includes a signed paperback copy of CRAZY Won't Leave Me Alone. Connect with SusanWebsite: https://susanhhines.com Instagram & Facebook: @susanhhines Book: CRAZY Won't Leave Me Alone: Dating, Doubt, and Discovering the Woman I Was Meant to Be

What if you have far more power to create the love you desire than you've ever imagined? Agency is inner capacity #5 in our mini-series on the skills and capacities for lasting love. It's about taking love into your own hands—not by forcing, chasing, or controlling, but by choosing, initiating, and creating from a place of pleasure and sovereignty. In this episode, discover how to move beyond waiting to be chosen, why taking action actually builds your capacity for love, and how to become an active co-creator of the relationships you desire. We also bring together all three relational skills and five inner capacities to close out this series. Love is an art. Relationship is a skill. And you are an artist who can bring love to life and co-create with your beloved.

Have you ever opened up to someone, or thought you did, and still struggled to feel truly connected? Openness is inner capacity #4 in our mini-series on the skills and capacities for lasting love. And it's about more than vulnerability. It's about allowing another person to touch your inner world, influence you, and help you grow. In this episode, I share personal stories from my first marriage and my now marriage with Jason, along with a client's journey into deeper intimacy. You'll discover the difference between healthy boundaries and emotional fortresses, and how to let love transform you without losing yourself. You can be sovereign and permeable. You can belong to yourself and belong with another person.

What if the love you've been longing for finally arrives—and receiving it feels more terrifying than being alone? Emotional Range is inner capacity #3 in our mini-series on the skills and capacities for lasting love. It's about expanding your ability to experience the full spectrum of emotions, from grief and anger to pleasure, desire, joy, and ecstasy. In this episode, we explore why healthy love can feel so vulnerable, how we unconsciously limit the goodness we allow ourselves to experience, and a simple practice to expand your emotional range. The goal isn't intensity or drama. It's the capacity to feel more fully alive—and more deeply loved.

Ever known exactly why you're triggered—but still felt powerless to respond differently? Regulation is inner capacity #2 in our mini-series on the skills and capacities for lasting love. And it isn't about being calm. It's about being able to feel without losing yourself. In this episode, discover how to work with your fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses rather than overriding them, and move from old protective patterns into conscious choice. I'll share personal stories, practical embodiment exercises, and a simple framework for communicating your feelings and needs without abandoning yourself or blaming someone else. You don't have to fix everything when you're triggered. You can return to yourself first.

Ever reacted to something in dating and thought afterward, What the hell was I thinking? When a man canceled our first date because he was sick, I felt so rejected that I sent a rude text—and sabotaged a beautiful connection. In this episode, discover the difference between intellectual insight and embodied awareness, and how noticing your body's sensations, emotions, and stories can help you interrupt old patterns before they take over. Plus, a personal story about how sharing my vulnerability on a date with my now-husband actually brought us closer. Sometimes the first sign that you're changing isn't that you feel better. It's that you're willing to feel uncomfortable without abandoning yourself.

Ever known EXACTLY what to do in love—and then watched yourself do the opposite? You know your attachment style. You've done the therapy. You understand your patterns. So why is it still so hard to change them? Discover the 5 inner capacities [Awareness, Regulation, Range, Openness, and Agency] that help you move from intellectual insight to embodied change. Plus, the story of a client who went from people-pleasing, unavailable partners, and lingering heartbreak to dating someone extraordinary. Knowing what to do in love is one thing. Becoming capable of doing it when your heart is on the line is another. Which capacity do you most want to strengthen? Email me at [email protected] and tell me!

What if lasting love isn't someone you find...but something you create? Love is one of the most powerful creative acts we experience. And like any art, it requires practice, courage, and skill. Discover how Authentic Flirting, Loving Boundaries, and Conflict to Connection work together to create chemistry, deepen intimacy, and build a relationship where you can be fully yourself AND deeply connected to someone else. Because the love you want isn't just about who you meet. It's about what you can create together.

What happens when you've tried EVERYTHING to save your marriage, and nothing seems to work? In this episode, I'm joined by trauma-informed somatic marriage coach Becky Aste, who shares how she went from separation and the brink of divorce to a marriage with more trust, intimacy, and authenticity than ever before. We explore why talking, analyzing, and trying to fix your partner aren't always enough—and how healing your nervous system can transform your relationships from the inside out. Whether you're dating, married, or wondering if your relationship can be saved, this conversation is a powerful reminder that true intimacy isn't about avoiding conflict: it's about being authentic, even when things get messy. Connect with Becky: Instagram: @becky_astePodcast: Your Breakthrough BlueprintEmail: [email protected]

You had a fight. You're lying inches apart, feeling a million miles away. You want to reconnect, but neither of you makes a move. How can you love someone so much and still struggle to find your way back? Discover five hidden blocks to repairing after conflict—from fear of being hurt again and needing to be right to shame, pride, and simply not knowing how. Because the cost of conflict isn't just the fight. It's all the connection you lose afterward.