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I had this idea of having a husband that would be home every night for dinner. A husband that would have weekends off. A husband that I would see every day with some exceptions. A husband I would be able to attend events with. This is not what it's like for us. In singleness, I had this idea of what I thought my marriage would look like. Don't get me wrong, my husband is the perfect man for me, but our life is not what I expected. While I was waiting for my husband, God had me in a season of preparation. At the time I didn't know what I was preparing for, but now I do! I share what God did to prepare me and how I am living that out to this day even in marriage! Allow God to prepare you for what he has coming! Join the Single Women Collective - online community Monthly Membership Work with me! Follow me on Instagram @nikki.houseman Join my newsletter

It is possible to long for a husband AND be content in singleness. You are waiting for a spouse. You have a deep desire to be married, but you don’t know how or when. You may be asking yourself, “Will I be single forever?” You have days you feel okay with your situation. Other days are a struggle and you often cry out of frustration or disappointment. Regardless, this is the season you are in, so how do you make the most of it? I was in this season of waiting for a spouse for many years. I watched friends get married, and I was in a number of bridal parties. I had many moments of doubt and frustration. I cried in bed at night thinking it would never happen for me. I had a matchmaker, dating coach, and a mentor. I went on dating apps, attended events, until one day something changed in my heart and mind. I share what I did and how I learned to wait well in singleness. My desire and longing for a husband didn’t go away, but I was able to shift my focus and enjoy the life I did have. Get the document here with steps to wait well. Join the Single Women Collective! Ways to Work with me! Monthly Membership Join my newsletter Follow me on instagram Nikkihouseman.com

As Christians we are told to surrender, but how do we do that? Surrender is a heart posture. It’s letting go of what you think you know and giving it to God. It’s inviting the Holy Spirit into every part of who you are. It’s trusting God has your life in his hands and the ultimate plan for you. Surrender is not a one and done situation. It is daily. How do we do this? I will share what it looked like for me during my season of singleness. I will share how I got to the most desperate place while still having a desire for a husband. Join the Single Women Collective Join my newsletter Follow me on instagram @nikki.houseman

"He's not my type" Have you said this before? I sure have! I share advice from my own experience to help you meet the right person. The person you think is not your type may be the one for you all along. Give him a chance! What do you have to lose? Worst case, you never have to talk to him again, best case you marry him! Give God control and trust that he has the perfect person for you. Once I did this, everything changed! I give 4 pieces of advice to help you work through this concept. One may surprise you : ) Join the Single Women Collective- an online community of women in a similar season. You don't have to go through this season alone. Free 7 day trial Follow me on instagram @nikki.houseman Join my newsletter! I send out email with encouragement, advice, and discounts!

I host an online community for single women and in this group there were some questions and topics they brought up. I thought it would be a good idea to talk about them more in depth here on this episode. We discuss: How to Meet Singles Single Women Collectivevolosports.commeetup.comIRL San DiegoHow to be Available/Approachable When is it appropriate to make the first move (especially as a woman) Free gift for you! Here are tips I used to prepare myself to be a wife! Join the Single Women Collective! This is an online community for women who want to learn to wait well, prepare for their spouse, enjoy the season of singleness, and be in a community who understands. Join my newsletter! I send bi-weekly emails of encouragement, wisdom, and discounts! Follow me on instagram

This is a difficult question to think about, but what if? What if you don't get married? What if all you have in this life is Jesus? Is that enough? Let's work through this thought and question together! Spoiler: God IS enough and he knows what you need. Here are some resources and free guides for you: How to Prepare to Be a Wife (Guide)How to have Self-Confidence (Guide)Single Women Collective: How to Wait Well (online community)1:1 coaching with me! (info here and to set up a free consultation)Join my newsletterRead the articles I've written on SubstackRead my book!Follow me on instagram

You have a deep desire to have a husband. You don’t know how or when you will meet him. One day you want to have a successful marriage, so why not start now on preparing yourself to be a wife!  While I was single I had a mindset shift and thought, if I wanted to meet an amazing, healthy man, I need to be that myself. I needed to prepare myself to be a wife. I will share with you what I did to do just that. I am here to tell you that I am not perfect and I am still growing and learning, but I stepped into marriage more prepared and sure of myself and the man I was marrying because of the steps I took to prepare. Get your document to start preparing to be a wife here Learn more about the Single Women Collective Follow me on instagram @nikki.houseman

Have you heard the phrase, "I'll sleep when I'm dead"? Well, you may die sooner than you think with this mindset. Sleep is when your body recovers, restores, rejuvenates. All the systems in your body operate because of sleep. Don't underestimate it. In this episode, I share research and studies about sleep. I share how many hours you actually need and practical ways to help you be able to fall asleep and have quality sleep. One device I mention that will help with sleep is Red Light. Here is the link for a discount for Lumebox or use the code NIKKIH Single ladies! Join the Single Women Collective! More info here Join my newsletter here Follow me on instagram Here are the references and resources I used during my research https://health.clevelandclinic.org/are-energy-drinks-for-kids-a-good-idea https://health.clevelandclinic.org/are-energy-drinks-bad-for-you https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10535526/ https://www.fda.gov/consumers/consumer-updates/spilling-beans-how-much-caffeine-too-much#:~:text=For%20healthy%20adults%2C%20the%20FDA,it%20(break%20it%20down). https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2528821/ https://archive.cdc.gov/www_cdc_gov/healthyschools/features/students-sleep.htm https://www.thensf.org/what-to-know-about-teens-and-sleep/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G0Zj_InJ4BQ&t=2s https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7mTQbtZnN68 https://publications.aap.org/pediatrics/article/134/3/642/74175/School-Start-Times-for-Adolescents?autologincheck=redirected https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/doomscrolling-dangers

Do you feel you are getting “too old” to meet your spouse? Do you feel “left behind” as others around you are getting married, having kids? Do you feel you will never meet your life partner? This can be a hard place to be in. It can feel like you aren’t moving forward in life as you thought you would. Maybe you are approaching your 30s or 40s and you think you should have been married by now. When will it ever happen? Will it ever happen? This thought can hold you back. It can make you believe you are less than. This comes down to self trust, self worth, self talk and (the big one) COMPARISON! This also puts limits on God. He has the ultimate plan for your life. He is always working behind the scenes. It's important to listen to God's voice during times like this. I share a chapter from my book "A God You've Never Met: Who is the Holy Spirit" about how to hear the voice of God. Join the Single Women Collective! A community for single women who want to prepare their hearts, minds, and lives for a healthy, God-honoring relationship. Follow me on instagram @nikki.houseman

What do you do when things don't go as planned? Maybe you are in a waiting season. It can feel lonely and discouraging. I'm here to share with you what I do when things don't go as planned. I share real life experiences and how I've been able to get through them. One of these experiences was my singleness journey. I had moments of doubt, but someone offered me hope. Spoiler alert.... GOD! It's all because I've him! I would love to hear from you! What do you do when things don't go as planned? email me: [email protected] follow me on instagram and send me a DM @nikki.houseman Join the Single Women Collective for those who want to prepare their hearts, minds, and lives for a healthy, God-honoring relationship. Be in community with women in a similar season. Red light discount code 45% off Feb 5-8

We talk about the importance of sleep, hydration, nutrition, recovery, and mental health. All these need to be aligned to be able to achieve optimal health and performance. I share practical tips and things you can do today! You may want to take notes ; ) *don't feel you need to do all the things I share right away. I started with a few and once I felt ready, I added more. This is called Habit Stacking. Here are the links I mention in this episode: If you want to know all about Creatine, listen to this episode.Stretching and mobility videosRed Light Therapy Lumebox discount NIKKIHActive Skin Repair discount NIKKIHClearStem discount NIKKIHOUSEMAN FREE 20 minute consultation for 1:1 coaching with me! Follow me on instagram @nikki.houseman

As we age our muscle mass and cognition declines. There is a supplement to help with this and it's called creatine. There are many benefits of creatine -helps with muscle recovery -enhances focus -energy production -protects against brain neurodegenerative diseases -and so much more! In this episode, I share what creatine is, how to use it, who it's good for, when to take it, how much. This supplement is the most studied with more than 66,000 studies. Below are the references I used to create this episode. 1. https://physicalculturestudy.com/2015/02/26/creatine-a-short-history/ 2. https://www.uclahealth.org/news/article/creatine-supplements-can-help-build-muscle-mass 3. https://www.health.harvard.edu/exercise-and-fitness/what-is-creatine-potential-benefits-and-risks-of-this-popular-supplement 4. https://www.uhhospitals.org/blog/articles/2023/07/are-creatine-and-liquid-iv-save-for-teen-athletes 5.https://open.spotify.com/episode/72celMDl8clW0W2dBYi7P5?si=84e559359b5f4fc2 When looking for creatine, look for a monohydrate. Here are some brands ThorneNaked Creatine Optimum NutritionNutricost PerformanceSmart Creatine by Dr. Amen If you have any questions, DM me on instagram @nikki.houseman You can also send me an email [email protected] Lumebox Red light therapy 40 % off using code NIKKIH Cured Nutrition discount code NIKKIH I am offering 1:1 coaching for single women! Schedule a free consult with me here!

When I was single I didn’t think about certain things that would happen while being married. I didn’t really know what to expect. Yes, I’ve had people tell me what their marriage was like, but I didn’t think about what it would be like for me.  So I want to tell those of you who are single some aspects I didn’t think about of what marriage would be like. Giving you a heads up, something to prepare for, and to look forward to. I also share what to look for in a spouse and how important this decision actually is! DO NOT SETTLE! If you are a single gal and located in or near San Diego, you are invited to a Christmas party I am hosting. DM me on instagram @nikki.houseman or send me an email [email protected] to get the location. Join my newsletter here! Need help with sleep? Try Night Caps at Cured. Use code NIKKIH at checkout for 15% off. Red light therapy- Lumebox. Use code NIKKIH at checkout for a HUGE discount! Follow me on instagram @nikki.houseman

One thing I’ve come to realize and love about my relationship with my husband (there are many) is that we are on the same page politically, morally, and religiously. These are important things to note when you are dating someone and talking about marriage. No, you don’t have to agree on everything, but in my opinion the big stuff you should.  If you are single, dating, talking about getting married, I would ask these 3 questions What are their religious beliefs? What are their morals? What are their political views? These are hard topics to discuss, I get it, but they are vitally important in a relationship. Think about it, you want to spend the rest of your life with this person. This is the person you will be making all your decisions with. This is the person you will be raising your children with. This is the person you are sharing your finances with. This is the person you will live with. This is an important decision. I cannot stress this enough!! I want to help you become confident in your own skin. I want to help you see your worth. I want to help you become content in the season you are in while also preparing for a relationship. If this sounds like you, click here to learn more! And if you sign up now, I'm offering 50% off 6 coaching sessions!!! Interested in learning more about the Holy Spirit, my book is for you! Available on Amazon and Audible. Click here!

Do you struggle with the thought of feeling "left behind"? As if you are getting "too old"? Or thinking you may never be married? In this episode, I walk through what I did personally to work through the questions and doubts while I was single. I struggled thinking I would never be married as I watched my friends get married and start families. I'm here to offer hope and encouragement and practical tips! My book- if you want to learn to hear God's voice How to Boost Self Confidence - a free document for you! Join my newsletter! - get resources, encouragement, updates about upcoming events, and more!