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I’ve got something incredible to share with you. As an adult, you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. Did you know this?! Pause. Breathe. Let that soak in. Many of us grew up in situations where we didn’t feel we had autonomy or the right to self-govern. We didn’t feel like we were in charge of our lives. So, in adulthood, we struggle to recognize that we have control over what we say yes and no to. Why is this a problem? Because, as adult ADHDers, it takes us so much mental and emotional energy to do things we don’t want to do. So, you stay stuck in a job you don’t like doing tasks you don’t enjoy. You feel burnt out. You spend your weekends unable to do things around the house because you’re exhausted. I’ll let you in on my little secret. I give myself an 'out' for everything. I tell myself I don’t have to do anything. It takes away any obligation and resentment so my brain can truly determine if it’s something I want to choose to do. Next time you are resisting and dreading a task and procrastination keeps nagging at you, ask yourself that question. Challenge yourself to consider what will happen if you don’t do it. Is that what you really want? Hang out with me on Instagram HERE Athletic Greens AG1

If you’ve ever wanted a look inside the brain of Kristen Carder, this episode is for you. Buckle up, it’s going to be a bumpy ride. Maybe it’s the fact that I’ve been sick or that I’ve just got things I want to say that don’t fit into a topic we’ve covered on the podcast lately… but this episode is going to be me dumping the contents of my brain for all to see (or…hear?!). So, find a comfy spot on the couch, grab your beverage of choice, and let’s chat! In this episode, I’m sharing about…How it’s so dang *hard* to be human. The actual meltdown I had after a crazy successful FOCUSED launch last monthWhy success is scarier for us ADHDers than failure. See point #1.The struggle happening in my mind after working for years to stop overcommittingWhether I’ll actually commit to going to yoga classes this year… tbdAll the things I learned from Dry January and the takeaway that surprised me mostThis episode is no-holds-barred. If you like a structured podcast episode, you may want to check out one of the other 249 I Have ADHD Podcast episodes. Hang out with me on Instagram HERE. 

If you’ve ever wanted a sneak peek at what happens inside FOCUSED, this podcast episode is for you. I recently added a new course to my group coaching program called How to Build Self-Trust Even with ADHD. It’s been so impactful I had to share a coaching call we had on the topic. Self-trust is hard for those of us with ADHD. If you feel alone, I encourage you to listen to this coaching call. It will help you understand yourself better. Whether you grew up with parents who interrupted your ability to build self-trust or society slowly eroded it, you need to change that inner voice/critic. Building self-trust is about changing how you talk to yourself. It’s time to stop saying you’re too much or not enough. Stop listening to the flippant comments from people who don’t build you up. On this call, you’ll learn how to become your own (overly protective) bestie who doesn’t listen to that voice in your head. Watching others get coached is so powerful. When you listen, ask yourself how you can identify with these stories. Take the questions I ask on the call. How can you apply them to your own life? I dare you not to get goosebumps listening to some of these stories! Come hang out with me on Instagram HERE. Athletic Greens AG1

On the latest podcast episode, I had the absolute honor of talking with my business and life coach, Breian Elliott, about the topic of saying sorry. We’re digging DEEP into why we feel the need to apologize so much when we should be saying sorry, and why it’s detrimental to constantly be in sorry mode. Spoiler alert: When you’re apologizing and haven’t done anything wrong, you’re actually putting the other person in an uncomfortable position. Brien’s breaking down the 6 different types of “sorry” we use most often, including the “negative self-image sorry” where we apologize because we’re seeking reassurance. If you find yourself apologizing for every little thing, this episode will be a game-changer. I know I learned a lot recording it. Come hang out with me on Instagram HERE. Breian Elliott Coaching

We get to enjoy the delicious Jen Kirkman on another episode of the podcast! The TV writer, comedian, New York Times best-selling author, podcaster, and FOCUSED member shared part 1 of her ADHD story. Jen’s story of misdiagnosis, navigating a career in the public eye, and figuring out how to use her diagnosis to help other people inspired so many of you. In part 2, we get to learn…  How Jen found ADHD coaching (spoiler: it was listening to this very podcast)The different ways she uses talk therapy and coaching Her daily morning routine she calls "Bedquarters"How she was able to step away from burnout and into a life she lovesWhat her career plans are for 2024 and beyond For being the *most* famous person in my group coaching program, Jen is incredibly relatable. You can use the tools and routines she’s incorporated into her daily life to set yourself up for success in living a life with ADHD. Jen is encouraging, entertaining, and educational. I can’t recommend part 2 of my interview with Jen Kirkman enough. Come hang out with me on Instagram HERE. 

Today's episode is part 1 of a 2-part interview with my dear client, Jen Kirkman. Jen is currently a writer/producer on the one-hour comedy Etoile for Amazon Prime. She was a writer/producer on 4 seasons of the The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel (Amazon Prime). Jen hosts a weekly solo podcast, "You Are A Lot" (An ADHD Podcast) - which is about navigating life with ADHD. Jen is a New York Times Bestselling author of two books. She has toured the world as a stand-up comedian and has two critically acclaimed stand-up specials on Netflix. You're going to LOVE this conversation - enjoy! Come hang out with me on Instagram HERE. AG1 by Athletic Greens

How long is your to-do list right now? If you’re like most ADHDers, you’ve got a laundry list of things that you’ve been carrying around for years now — and it’s anchoring you down. It’s time to stop holding this never-ending to-do list over your head and feeling guilty about not accomplishing the things on it. This isn’t serving you. I want to help you remove this unnecessary pressure from your life. In this podcast episode, we’re walking through how to let go of that anchor weight so you can quit being hard on yourself and create realistic expectations about what you truly want to get done. This is an interactive episode, so I’d love for you to grab a pen and some paper. You’ll walk away with a clear vision of: What you can let go from your list What’s on your list because someone else wants you to do itWhat’s *actually* important to youHow to set boundaries so you can get more doneWhat’s truly worthy of your to-do listStop trying to do all the things. We’re here to love and support ourselves with the expectations we set. If you’re ready to burn your to-do list, this episode will help you focus your attention on what’s really important. Come hang out with me on Instagram HERE. 

When it comes to ADHD, there are a lot of myths out there. For instance, you may have heard (or believed) that ADHD is an excuse. I can’t tell you how often I see clients worry that they’re using it as an excuse while working to set their lives up for success. Look: ADHD is NOT an excuse. It’s an explanation. It’s an explanation of why certain things are hard for you, why your memory sucks, why you’re terrible with time management, why you have exposed emotions. Other myths like ADHD is overly diagnosed, ADHD medication is dangerous or addictive, and everyone has a little ADHD are common. They’ve created beliefs around the disorder that just aren’t true. As a person with ADHD, it’s your job to be educated in the diagnosis so that you understand what you’re dealing with. This also allows you to teach those around you how they can best support you and your relationship. Because here’s the thing: Just because there's more access to information and people are being diagnosed more readily, it does not mean that there’s an overdiagnosis of ADHD. And no, ADHD medication is *not* addictive. In fact, when used correctly, it can actually help lower the risk of addiction. Oh, and just because someone struggles with some of the symptoms common to ADHD doesn’t mean that they have the disorder. That diagnosis is reserved for those who experience symptoms to a debilitating degree.  So, if you’re ready to further educate yourself on what it means to have ADHD so you can speak the truth and bust myths when they come up, episode 241 of the I Have ADHD Podcast is for you. For more education and support around your ADHD, I highly encourage you to check out my group coaching program, FOCUSED. Starting in January, you’ll have access to my brand new course called “How to Build Self-Trust (Even When You Have ADHD).” If you’re curious about what 2024 would look like if you finally trusted yourself, click here to learn more. Come hang out with me on Instagram HERE. AG1 by Athletic Greens

As we look to a new year, most of us start to think about what we want to do over the next 365 days. What do we want to change from 2023?  I’ve evolved a lot in my approach to goal planning over the past year. So I wanted to share a class I just taught in my group coaching program for this podcast episode because I think it will be validating for a lot of you as you look ahead. This is not a shame fest for the things you didn’t get done in 2023. And it’s not a hype fest for hustle as we move into 2024. It’s a very ADHD-friendly class. As ADHDers, we tend to shame ourselves for what we haven't been able to do. We often feel defeated before we even get started on a plan for a new year. But hear me out: maybe it’s okay for us to just live in reality, accept who we are, and make our plan based on where we are today We can create our vision around a kind, compassionate way of interacting with ourselves.  If you’re ready to take a look back at 2023 and figure out what worked and what didn’t work, I highly encourage you to listen to this episode. Adults with ADHD tend to struggle with self-reflection, so this can be challenging if you’re not doing it correctly. We also struggle with prioritization and organization. So, my approach to goal setting can be a great aid for you as you envision what you want the next year to look like. I’m handing you some questions to ask yourself based on your capacity, your current level of self-trust, and what you actually want to achieve in 2024. Before you sit down to write your goals or open your Notes app to jot down your vision for next year, I want you to think about who you want to be and what you want out of next year — then break down the domino effect of what needs to happen first.  I promise you that this class will help you feel empowered and not overwhelmed as we transition into a fresh calendar year. It’s a small time investment that can have some impactful results for you in 2024. Hang out with me on Instagram HERE. 

Welcome to the second podcast episode of my series on self-trust. In episode one, we talked about how challenging it can be for someone with ADHD to trust themselves and the decisions they make.  I highly encourage you to start there if you haven’t listened already, but if you only have 30 minutes, this episode will give you tangible takeaways that you can start applying today.  First, I want to tell you that this is not a quick fix. This is deep work. It takes time. But it’s worth working toward because self-trust is at the foundation of every decision you make. It’s the foundation of being a grown adult.  Here’s the thing: If self-trust was not built for you as a child like it was for most people, you’re going to have to build it on your own as a grown adult. What does that mean? To start building trust with yourself, you need to: Begin validating your own needs, emotions, and experiences. Forgive yourself and make amends for mistakes you’ve made in the past.Get to know yourself better and only commit to what you *want* to do.I want to help you start making progress toward these goals. I want to help you make 2024 the year you begging to trust yourself. I’ve built an incredible roadmap for you inside my group coaching program, FOCUSED. This type of progress is best made in the community. Come surround yourself with people who will validate you, your needs, your emotions, and your experiences. Click HERE for details on what the FOCUSED ADHD coaching program includes! Come hang out with me on Instagram HERE. Athletic Greens AG1

One thing that I’ve noticed in myself and other adults with ADHD that I coach is a massive lack of self-trust. We don’t trust ourselves to follow through. We don’t trust ourselves to make good decisions. We don’t trust ourselves to manage money wisely or to curb our impulsive spending habits. We don’t trust that we’re good parents or that we’re good at our jobs. We are never really sure if we’re doing “the right thing” or if we’re “on track” with where we’re supposed to be. For the average ADHD adult, life feels very wobbly. Instead of feeling grounded within ourselves like confident adults, we often look to others to gauge how we’re doing. I can’t tell you how many ADHDers I’ve talked to who seem to live by the motto, “If other people are happy with me, then I can be happy with myself.” Well, that stops now. Join me for this 2-part series on How to Build Self Trust (yes, even with ADHD). In today's episode you'll learn why adults with ADHD don't trust themselves, and next week we'll discuss what we can do about it. We would love to have you join us in FOCUSED! Come hang out with me on Instagram HERE. 

Have you noticed that your relationships look different than other people? Friendships and partnerships are harder for adults with ADHD, largely due to the fact that we’re highly sensitive to rejection. Research has shown that ADHDers have experienced more rejection than their neurotypical peers. This results in several relational tendencies that can lead to toxic dynamics. Because they know how awful it feels for people to be upset with them, they constantly say yes to other people, even when their plate is already full. They spend time with people who don’t fill their cups. They exhaust themselves by overcommitting to avoid the feeling of rejection. Adults with ADHD also tend to dismiss red flags and not hold others accountable for their flaws because they know they’re also hard to live with (they’re often late, they talk too much, they’re impatient, etc.). These tendencies can result in some truly toxic, boundaryless relationships. But there are things you can do to change the dynamic and put yourself in the driver’s seat of your relationships. In this episode, I’m giving an overview of relationship dynamics with ADHD. You’ll leave with several immediate steps you can take to create a healthier view of relationships. And, if you want an in-depth look at how ADHD can impact your relationships, be sure to check out my four-part series (starting at episode 178) on relationships and ADHD or my series on rejection-sensitive dysphoria (beginning at episode 204). If you’re feeling really inspired after listening today, I encourage you to join my group coaching program, FOCUSED. In 2024, I’ll be teaching brand new content on how to have self-trust even when you have ADHD. You don’t want to miss out! Come hang out with me on Instagram HERE AG1 Athletic Greens