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Every lie you tell her started long before her. In this raw conversation, I sit down with men's coach Craig White to unpack where male lying really comes from — family patterns, shame, and the survival masks we learned as boys. Craig shares how he lied to dodge anger at home then carried it into every relationship, and the relational fitness practices that finally set him free. If you hide, deflect, or shut down when truth feels risky, this will hit home. Watch to learn how to stop hiding and start leading with truth. Key Topics: ⭐ Masculinity, Emotional Masks & The Fear of Showing Your True Self  ⭐ Shame, Dishonesty & Why Men Struggle to Tell the Truth  ⭐ Patriarchy, Male Conditioning & The Pressure to Dominate  ⭐ Vulnerability, Emotional Range & Redefining Strength  ⭐ Toxic Masculinity, Cultural Conditioning & Breaking Generational Patterns  ⭐ Male Leadership, Control & The Need to Always Be Right  ⭐ Intimacy, Sexual Shame & The Shift from Performance to Presence  ⭐ Relationships, Defensiveness & Learning to Take Responsibility  ⭐ Male Loneliness, Emotional Suppression & Reclaiming Authenticity  ⭐ Presence, Self-Regulation & Building Deeper Emotional Connections Connect With David - The Authentic Man: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/  Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/  For Coaching: [email protected]  Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe    Connect With Craig White:  Craig's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/craigwhitementoring Craig's Website: https://craigwhitementoring.com  Craig's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/craig-white-performance-coach/   ___________   RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity

Feel like commitment means losing your freedom? You're not broken — your nervous system mistakes closeness for captivity. In this Avoidant Men episode, I break down why move-in talks trigger shutdown, chest tightness and fault-finding, how childhood rules and old relationship evidence keep the trap alive, and the hidden cost of choosing freedom over connection. You'll get the gym analogy that reframes commitment, plus 3 practical steps to stay present, say what you need, and build secure freedom without losing yourself. Join the live workshop below to go deeper. Perfect for avoidant men ready to love without feeling trapped now.   __________   RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity

I sat across from a woman raised in a culture where sex was never named — and who now teaches thousands how to unlearn that shame. Karishma Swarup joins me to unpack how culture teaches sexual shame, why South Asian men dating in the West feel labelled creepy, and how men ruin sex by performing instead of connecting. We get into the orgasm gap, porn scripts, the double life of kids raised between two worlds, and what parents must do differently. If you carry shame you didn't choose, this conversation will help you hand it back as a man today.   Karishma Swarup (she/her) has completed a Master's in Public Health in the Social and Behavioral Sciences concentration at the Harvard T.H. Chan School of Public Health. She is an internationally experienced sexuality educator and advocate who runs a sex ed Instagram page @talkyounevergot. Karishma was awarded "Influencer of the Year 2021" by UK's NHS SH:24 and Brook. In 2023, she received a grant from UNESCO and RNW Media for Digital Sex Ed creators to create a course for other content creators in sexual health. Simultaneously, Karishma also worked at a social impact consulting firm, Dalberg Advisors to design large-scale strategies for global non-profits and multilateral organisations (like the UNDP).   During her undergraduate at Brown University, she volunteered with Planned Parenthood to teach sex-Ed to high-schoolers. In India, she conducts workshops & online webinars with top educational institutions, student groups and young adults.   Karishma is passionate about destigmatizing sexual health, facilitating health communication, and understanding how public health systems can better serve sexual health needs.   Key Topics: ⭐ Sex Education, Sexual Shame & Breaking Cultural Taboos  ⭐ South Asian Culture, Family Expectations & Dating Restrictions  ⭐ Patriarchy, Gender Roles & Redefining Masculinity  ⭐ Consent, Rejection & Why Persistence Is Mistaken for Romance  ⭐ Pornography, Unrealistic Expectations & Sexual Insecurity  ⭐ Male Loneliness, Vulnerability & The Fear of Asking Questions  ⭐ Body Image, Performance Anxiety & Sexual Confidence  ⭐ Communication, Emotional Connection & Being Present During Sex  ⭐ Female Pleasure, The Orgasm Gap & Mutual Satisfaction  ⭐ Colonialism, Religion & The Cultural Roots of Sexual Repression  ⭐ Harmful Dating Scripts, Media Influence & Changing Relationship Norms  ⭐ Comprehensive Sex Education, Digital Access & Empowering the Next Generation Connect With David - The Authentic Man: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/  Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/  For Coaching: [email protected]  Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe    Connect With Karishma Swarup:  Karishma Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/talkyounevergot/ Karishma Website: https://www.talkyounevergot.com/     ______________   RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity

1️⃣ Work with me by emailing me "99" 👉🏽 [email protected] 2️⃣ How I went from avoidant to secure: From Avoidant Attachment to Intimacy: A Guide for Men 3️⃣ Why you keep pulling away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page   Feel lonely in a relationship  you actually want? If you're an avoidant man  with voidant attachment , that distance isn't proof she's wrong — it's the pattern. David Chambers breaks why you shut down, create a chasm, and end up feeling like a ghost in your own home — and the damage: sadness, blame, her feeling on the outside, intimacy dying. Learn 5 steps to reconnect: name the moment, trace it to childhood, shadow work, emotional mastery, emotional risk-taking. Stop thinking your way out. Start feeling your way back. Get freebie Why You Pull Away + RELATE workshop details below.   _____________   RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity

Two recovering avoidants sit down for an honest conversation most avoidant men never hear. If you've ever felt like the victim in your relationship, shut down during conflict, or used self-development to win arguments, this is for you. David and Drew share how they stopped blaming their wives, took 100% responsibility, and learned vulnerability, empathy and emotional regulation to build secure, connected marriages. This isn't theory — it's what healing actually looks like from the other side. Watch to see your patterns clearly and learn practical tools to change them.   Drew Daniels is a Relationship Coach who specializes in healing Anxious/Avoidant relationship dynamics for partners who feel doomed to repeat the same fights until they forfeit the relationship.    Drew has owned his Coaching Practice as a Certified Life & Trauma-Informed coach since 2021 and helped hundreds of partners embody a Secure Attachment Style. Prior to his practice he spent 10 years as a professional speaker in the faith & spirituality space, speaking to over 100,000 live audience members, while  leading a weekly in-person community of over 200 young adults.     As a guy with a Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style, Drew spent years of his marriage failing to create emotional safety because of his Avoidant patterns. As a child of divorce himself, he made it his mission to heal his attachment style and give voice to Avoidant Partners who fear they will never be good enough to fulfill their partners desire for emotional intimacy and connection.    Key Topics: ⭐ Avoidant Attachment, Emotional Withdrawal & Relationship Patterns ⭐ Vulnerability, Emotional Courage & Opening the Heart ⭐ Conflict Resolution, Healthy Repair & Rebuilding Trust ⭐ Accountability, Personal Responsibility & Lasting Change ⭐ Emotional Regulation, Nervous System Awareness & Self-Soothing ⭐ Defensiveness, Intellectualizing & Weaponized Psychology ⭐ Perspective Taking, Empathy & Understanding Your Partner's Experience ⭐ Shame, Fear of Not Being Enough & Core Relationship Wounds ⭐ Communication Skills, Honest Expression & Difficult Conversations ⭐ Self-Leadership, Emotional Maturity & Growth for Men ⭐ Intimacy, Connection & Creating Secure Relationships ⭐ Childhood Conditioning, Family Dynamics & Attachment Formation   Connect With David - The Authentic Man: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/  Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/  For Coaching: [email protected]  Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe    Connect With Drew Daniels:  Drew Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drewwdaniels/ TikTok accounts: @drewwdaniels.  Drew Website: https://drewdaniels.me/   _____________   RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity

You end it, feel huge relief, then weeks later the regret hits. If you keep ending good relationships then missing her, this is the avoidant breakup cycle. In this Avoidant Men Series episode, David Chambers breaks down the avoidant attachment breakup pattern — why relief lies to you, why stress feels like incompatibility, plus the car analogy and Matt's story of getting back together. Learn 6 steps to break the cycle: see the pattern, label feelings, meet your protector, turn concerns into conversations, build emotional capacity, focus on the good. Stop ending good relationships. Watch now to build secure love.   ______________   RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity

How to be a great dad when you never had one? I sat across from a man who was terrified he'd become his absent father — and turned that fear into The Dad Edge, now 40M+ downloads of fatherhood advice for men. Larry Hagner, founder of The Dad Edge and author of The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood, grew up with an absent, abusive father figure. In this conversation he breaks down the "drift" that pulls good men out of their marriage and fatherhood without them noticing, why marriage has to come before kids, and the 3 things your wife actually needs from you to feel seen, heard and safe. If you grew up without a model for this and you're scared you're repeating it, this is the map for how to break it. In this episode: Why high-performing men drift from their families even when they're "doing everything right" How to prioritize your marriage without neglecting your kids The skills gap no one taught men about love vs. the feeling of love How to build psychological safety so your kids tell you the truth Why male friendship is non-negotiable for fatherhood Guest: Larry Hagner — Founder of The Dad Edge (40M+ downloads), author   Key Topics: ⭐ Fatherhood, Parenting Skills & Becoming a Better Dad ⭐ Breaking Generational Patterns, Childhood Wounds & Family Legacy ⭐ Absent Fathers, Father Hunger & Identity Formation ⭐ Emotional Regulation, Anger Management & Psychological Safety ⭐ Marriage, Partnership & Intentional Relationship Building ⭐ Masculinity, Personal Growth & Self-Leadership ⭐ Vulnerability, Courage & Emotional Honesty for Men ⭐ Men's Loneliness, Brotherhood & Meaningful Male Friendships ⭐ Community, Accountability & Iron-Sharpens-Iron Relationships ⭐ Presence, Connection & Emotionally Available Fatherhood ⭐ The Drift, Disconnection & Reclaiming Purpose in Family Life ⭐ Joy, Wellbeing & Creating a Fulfilling Life Beyond Work   Connect With David - The Authentic Man: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/  Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/  For Coaching: [email protected]  Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe  Connect With Larry Hagner:    Larry Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedadedge Larry Website: https://thedadedge.com Larry Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TheDadEdge The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood ebook - https://thedadedge.com/legendary-fatherhood-book/   _____________   RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity

Why do avoidant men get stuck in fault finding? If you have dismissive avoidant attachment you meet a good woman, then start flaw finding over how she texts, eats, laughs. It's not standards. It's deactivation — fear spikes when she gets close, so you scan for faults to justify leaving. In this Avoidant Men episode I break down why you do it, the damage to you and her, the wrinkles story that exposes what your criticism means, and 5 steps to stop binning women: reflect, name it, find the need, have the conversation, add praise.   _____________   RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity

She can't open up to you — and it's not because she's broken. I sat across from a woman who rebuilt trust with her own body after rape, domestic violence and years of chronic pain — and what she taught me about safety changed how I coach men. In this episode, Sarah Carter reveals why male reactivity and shame shut women down sexually, why disconnection from your body kills attunement, and what true embodied presence actually feels like. If she goes quiet, pulls away, or says 'it's fine' — this is why. Watch to the end for the shift that creates real sexual safety.   Sara Carter is a Dance Artist, Embodiment Coach, Therapist and Mother who supports people in reconnecting with the wisdom of their bodies- beyond intellectual understanding into direct lived experience, through movement, meditation, creativity, and somatic inquiry. Her work weaves together embodiment practices, self awareness, creative exploration, and relational intimacy to help individuals cultivate greater authenticity, presence, well being and self-trust. Sara works with artists, performers, creatives, and purpose-driven individuals seeking deeper connection to themselves, their expression, and their lives.   Sara is especially passionate about empowering woman through her transformative offerings, to move from surviving to thriving, to living with embodied confidence and self care. She helps women struggling with midlife changes, such as menopause, as well as those on a path of healing and reclamation. Her own transformational success story of surviving the impact of sexual and domestic violence and now living a life she loves, has left her passionate about inspiring others to do so themselves. Dance and somatic movement has always been her medicine, grounding her work in the trust that the body holds a profound intelligence and all we need is already within us.   Sara's intention is simple: to help people come home to themselves so they can create, lead, relate, and live from a place that feels deeply aligned, intimately connected and fully alive.   Key Topics: ⭐ Trauma Recovery, Sexual Healing & Reclaiming Intimacy ⭐ Embodiment, Somatic Awareness & Mind-Body Connection ⭐ Vulnerability, Emotional Honesty & Authentic Expression ⭐ Shame, Self-Worth & Relationship Triggers ⭐ Communication, Consent & Conscious Intimacy ⭐ Trust, Safety & Secure Relationship Building ⭐ Self-Awareness, Personal Responsibility & Pattern Breaking ⭐ Self-Trust, Inner Authority & Living in Alignment   Connect With David - The Authentic Man: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/  Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/  For Coaching: [email protected]  Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe    Connect With Sara Carter:  Sara Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sara_carter_embodiment_coach Sara Website: sara-carter.com

If you can't ask for help , it's not strength — it's hyper independence  running your avoidant attachment . You go quiet, handle it alone, and she feels shut out. In this episode I break why asking felt dangerous as a kid, the 3 vague ways men ask that get rejected, and what it costs you, her, and the relationship. Then I give you my 3-sentence script to ask without feeling weak, plus 5 small bicep-curl practices to build interdependence.   Chapters  00:00 You tell her you're fine while you drown alone  01:12 Why asking for help felt dangerous as a kid  03:45 The 3 terrible ways you ask when you finally do  06:20 What it costs you — isolated, overwhelmed, no deep mates  08:10 What it costs her — no place in your life 09:30 What it costs the relationship — disconnection  10:30 Life is a team sport — interdependence + 5 bicep curls     RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity

I sat across from a man who was nearly stabbed three times and it changed nothing — because the thing killing him was never outside him. David Patrick Farrell spent his twenties in addiction, debt collecting and armed robbery, chasing a masculinity he'd learned from criminals instead of a father. Then, at 5am on the 18th of March 2019, everything broke open. We talk about the moment that actually changed him, why he refuses the phrase "toxic masculinity", what real brotherhood does that a gang never could, and how men learn to feel emotion without letting it run them. David Patrick Farrell is a global leader in men's work and transformational facilitation. With a background in Counselling & Psychotherapy, Psychosomatic Therapy, and Shadow Work, his approach bridges clinical depth, embodied practice, and grounded spiritual insight. Over the past decade, David has guided men's circles, rites-of-passage journeys, and immersive retreats across multiple continents, working with thousands of men from all walks of life. His work creates spaces where truth can be spoken, emotional intelligence restored, and real personal responsibility reclaimed. Known for his clarity, presence, and uncompromising integrity, David is recognised for his ability to hold deep emotional processes, catalyse profound inner breakthroughs, and lead groups through lasting, embodied change—not just insight. Rooted in devotion, purpose, and faith, his work calls men to rise to a higher standard of leadership, courage, and authenticity - within themselves, their families, and the wider world. His authority is earned through lived experience, deep inner work, and a lifelong commitment to walking his own path first.   Key Topics: ⭐ Brotherhood, Community & Men's Work ⭐ Intergenerational Trauma & Breaking Patterns ⭐ Masculinity, Identity & Male Role Models ⭐ Emotional Expression, Vulnerability & Healing ⭐ Accountability, Integrity & Personal Growth ⭐ Addiction Recovery & Life Transformation ⭐ Relationships, Communication & Conflict Repair ⭐ Purpose, Self-Leadership & Lasting Change   Connect With David - The Authentic Man: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/ For Coaching: [email protected] Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe   Connect With David Patrick Farrell: David Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidpatrickfarrell/ David Website: https://www.davidpatrickfarrell.com/   ___________ RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity

1️⃣ Work with me by emailing me "99" 👉🏽 [email protected] 2️⃣ The Flatmate Fix - 16th Sept 7.30pm UK time 👉🏾  https://linktwin.co/ysqjwt   If your marriage feels sexless or stuck in a dead bedroom, you're not broken and she's not cold — you've become flatmates not lovers.    For avoidant men, sex doesn't die in the bedroom, it dies long before, when emotional safety collapses. In this episode of The Authentic Man Podcast, David Chambers breaks down 3 invisible reasons intimacy shuts down — shutdown, pursuit-withdrawal, and performance pressure — and why fixing technique never works.    Understand where you disappeared and how to bring desire back. Plus the one shift that restores safety so she reaches for you again.   ____________   RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity

You've never lied to her. You've never cheated. So why does she still not feel safe with you? I sat down with former rabbi turned intimacy coach Ted Riter, and his answer hit hard: honesty is only level one of trust. Most men stop there. We unpack the 4 levels of trust — Words, Body, Heart, Soul — and why your emotional shutdown reads as dishonesty, even when you're telling the truth. Plus: how to fight with kindness, why 'curated vulnerability' kills intimacy, and the perimenopause conversation every man needs to hear. If you want to be truly trustable, start here. Ted Riter is a relationship and intimacy teacher, coach, and guide helping men, women, and couples build trust, repair conflict, and create deeper connection … with themselves, with others, and with the Divine.   Especially for high-functioning people who look "fine" on paper … and quietly feel lonely, disconnected, or stuck at home. Key Topics: ⭐ Trust & Emotional Safety ⭐ Masculinity & Men's Growth ⭐ Vulnerability & Emotional Expression ⭐ Intimacy, Connection & Relationships ⭐ Conflict, Communication & Trust Building ⭐ Desire, Sexuality & Lasting Attraction ⭐ Long-Term Love & Relationship Dynamics ⭐ Menopause, Partnership & Life Transitions   Connect With David - The Authentic Man: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/  Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/  For Coaching: [email protected]  Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe    Connect With Dr Ted Riter:  Ted Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tedritertalks/ Ted Website: https://www.tedriter.com/   ______________ RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity

1️⃣ Work with me by emailing me "99" 👉🏽 [email protected] 2️⃣ How I went from avoidant to secure: From Avoidant Attachment to Intimacy: A Guide for Men 3️⃣ Why you keep pulling away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page   If you can't express what you feel without guilt, shutting down, or going numb — this is why.  So many avoidant men want to say what they actually want, but in the moment the words disappear.  You people-please, keep the peace, then secretly resent her for not knowing what you never said.  In this episode I break down why communication in relationships feels so unsafe when you learned to hide need — and the 5 shifts to speak up, set boundaries, and be assertive without the guilt or the blow-up.    Chapters: 00:00 Why you go blank when she asks how you feel  02:28 What this episode will cover (Ep 4 - Avoidant Man Series)  05:50 The 3 hidden beliefs that keep you silent  07:50 Why speaking up felt dangerous as a boy  09:50 Why the world taught you your feelings don't matter  11:20 What silence is really costing you, her & the relationship  14:20 How to shift the belief and build capacity to stay  16:30 What happens when you actually get vulnerable  17:50 5 steps to say what you actually want (without guilt)  22:50 Bonus: How to repair after you shut down  24:00 Where to go from here   This is episode 4 of the Avoidant Man series. —  Want to do this work live with other men? RELATE is linked below. _____________ RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity

Is low testosterone really killing your sex drive — or is something deeper going on? In this episode, I sit down with Ben Davis to unpack the testosterone industry, what the numbers actually mean, and why so many men are chasing a hormonal fix for a psychological problem. We cover: • When low testosterone actually needs medical treatment (and what levels to look for)  • Why "more is better" thinking backfires  • The sponge analogy that explains why extra testosterone does nothing  • How sexual shame hijacks your sex drive — and what to do about it  • Natural ways to support healthy testosterone without TRT If you've ever worried your testosterone is too low or felt like something is "off" with your sex drive, this conversation is for you. 🎙️ The Authentic Man Podcast #testosteronetherapy #lowtestosterone #sexualshame #menmentalhealth #testosteronemyths   Dr Ben Davis is a private men's health GP in central London, with over 15 years of clinical experience and dual training in both men's health and psychosexual therapy. His approach is focused on helping men understand not just what is happening, but why — and supporting them in finding their way back to feeling like themselves again. Many of the men Dr Davis sees are busy, high-functioning, and accustomed to performing well in other areas of their lives. When something changes — whether it's energy, libido, erections, mood or confidence — it can feel confusing, frustrating, and difficult to talk about. Sometimes there is a clear symptom. Often, there isn't. Instead, there may simply be a persistent sense that something isn't quite right. Dr Davis believes that feeling is worth taking seriously — and that it is usually worth understanding properly. His role is to help men make sense of what is happening, clearly and thoughtfully, without oversimplifying the situation or jumping to quick fixes. Key Topics: ⭐ Testosterone, Hormones & Men's Health ⭐ Modern Masculinity & Male Identity ⭐ Sexual Desire, Libido & Attraction ⭐ Erectile Dysfunction & Sexual Performance ⭐ Sexual Shame & Male Vulnerability ⭐ Trauma, Anxiety & Emotional Health ⭐ Relationships, Intimacy & Connection ⭐ Communication & Sexual Expression ⭐ Healthy Masculinity & Self-Acceptance ⭐ Healing, Growth & Sexual Wellbeing   Connect With David - The Authentic Man: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/  Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/  For Coaching: [email protected]  Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe    Connect With Dr Ben Davis:  Ben Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbenuk/ Ben Website: https://drben.uk/   RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity