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This week, Elise Loehnen is sitting down with Dr. Tracy and sharing her journey from a behind-the-scenes ghostwriter to a New York Times bestselling author, tackling the unrealistic expectations placed on women to always be the "good girl." Through her own personal story and insights from her book "On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good," Elise invites us to question why women are hard on themselves and each other. She explores the nuances of envy and jealousy, urging us to view these feelings as signals to our desires rather than sources of shame, and touches on the inherent fear women have about expressing anger. By encouraging women to embrace their ambitions and emotions authentically, Elise offers a pathway to a more fulfilling and self-aware life, challenging societal norms that restrict women's expressions and desires.    You can find Elise on Instagram and grab a copy of her book here!    Feeling like roommates? Join my 10-day challenge now!   Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass      Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Dr. Tracy, her favourite co-host, and husband Greg dive into the power of "relationship check-ins," sharing their personal experience as partners, parents, and business co-owners. They unpack the value and long-term benefits of these intentional discussions, with Greg shedding light on breaking down the barriers and debunking the stigma from a man’s perspective. Together, they guide us through setting up effective check-ins that don't include personalization and blame and how to focus on constructive feedback and celebrating successes. By weaving in their personal stories, they illustrate how consistent, open conversations can bridge gaps, enhance understanding, and solidify the connection between partners, making the relationship stronger and more fulfilling for both parties.   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Zocdoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Feeling like roommates? Join my 10-day challenge now!   Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass      Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this insightful episode, Dr. Tracy welcomes Dr. Jamie Zuckerman, a renowned expert on narcissistic abuse, to explore the complexities of navigating relationships with narcissists. Dr. Zuckerman discusses the subtle yet damaging ways narcissistic relationships can erode one's sense of self and the challenges of recognizing and escaping these toxic dynamics. She highlights the common warning signs that you might be dealing with a narcissist, the textbook behaviour to be aware of, and the long-term impact of having a narcissistic parent, partner, family member, or even friend. Lastly, Dr. Zuckerman offers her wisdom on recovering from narcissistic abuse, emphasizing the need for setting boundaries, understanding the difference between narcissists and those who suffer from chronic defensiveness, and the process of healing and reclaiming one's life.    You can follow Dr. Jamie on Instagram, check out her practice here and find her books here!   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Zocdoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Feeling Disconnected? Grade my *Free* 100 Questions to Deepen Your Connection Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Improve and elevate your relationship. Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mary Van Geffen is an international parenting coach specializing in "spicy" children. This week, she is sitting down with Dr. Tracy and bringing her coaching and teaching skills directly to us! Mary shares her transformation from an overwhelmed mother to an empowering guide, discussing her journey of self-discovery and healing while raising a "spicy" one herself after coming from a long line of "spicy" children. She touches on the importance of understanding and connection over discipline and the necessity of self-care for parents. She then dispels common misconceptions about "spicy" children, highlighting where they shine as individuals. Lastly, Mary provides practical advice for parents on maintaining a united front as they navigate the complexities of parenting "spicy" ones. Whether you are a parent to a "spicy" child yourself or not, hopefully this episode serves as a reminder to give yourself some grace throughout your parenting journey.   You can follow Mary on Instagram, check out her website and find her courses, CALM: Self regulation 101, and Moms of Spicy Ones. A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Zocdoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Feeling like roommates? Join my 10-day challenge now!   Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass      Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. Tracy welcomes Shelly Robinson, a certified family wellness coach and conscious parenting educator. Together, they explore the intricacies of parenting, relationships, and self-connection. Shelly dives into the concept of re-parenting, addressing the feelings of anger that show up for many parents, the importance of attunement, and practical ways to foster meaningful connections with oneself, children, and partner. The conversation dives into Shelly's insights on inherited toxic behaviours, the significance of self-compassion, and the key to building deep connections within a family. Join them for a thoughtful discussion on breaking generational cycles and creating homes filled with compassion, calm, and joy.  You can follow Shelly on her Instagram, website and find her Connected Kid Toolkit here!  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Zocdoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today.   Feeling like roommates? Join my 10-day challenge now!   Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!   Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this vulnerable episode, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Nina Caviggiola, an influential online creator, a mom in her mid-thirties, and the powerhouse host behind the "Mama Knows” podcast. Nina shares her journey, from postpartum anxiety to an ADHD diagnosis, and the ways motherhood has shaped the woman she is today for the better. Together, Dr. Tracy and Nina discuss the impact of online comparisons and the power of the “mute” feature on Instagram. Nina opens up about the struggles she’s currently facing in her marriage, and Dr. Tracy provides insightful guidance on how best to navigate these dynamics, especially when you work with your spouse, like they both do! Tune in for an authentic and empowering conversation on self-discovery and the ongoing journey of navigating motherhood and marriage. As a reminder, we don't get to go through life without struggling, and embracing our struggles is a powerful step towards resilience and personal growth.    You can find Nina on her Instagram, website and listen to her podcast here!   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Zocdoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Feeling like roommates? Join my 10-day challenge now!  Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!   You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass      Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ready to leave people pleasing behind this year? This week, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Maria Victoria Albina, a seasoned somatic life coach and family nurse practitioner. Together, they unravel the intricacies of our nervous system's impact on daily life, exploring topics like codependency, perfectionism, and self-sacrifice. Using the polyvagal theory, they dive into the connection between our nervous system and how we experience the world. The conversation touches on self-abandonment, the origins of shame, and the empowering journey of reclaiming personal agency. Sharing tools to practice self-compassion and mindfulness, the two provide valuable insights for a transformative new year. Tune in as they navigate the path to break free from old patterns and create a life centered on compassion and self-empowerment!   You can follow Maria Victoria Albina on Instagram and visit her website.   A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Zocdoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!   You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass      Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected     Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

New year, new season! Dr. Tracy is kicking off Season 5 with fellow clinical psychologist, colleague, and friend, Dr. Meagan Gallagher, to dive into the complexities that come with the new year. They address the societal pressures, especially the overused and abused "new year, new you" mantra, that often lead to comparison and anxiety. The discussion emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, rest, and acknowledging one's "enoughness." Dr. Tracy and Dr. Meagan challenge the damaging fitness and diet culture associated with resolutions and advocate for setting intentions aligned with personal needs. They also touch on insights about supporting partners in their goals and so much more. Join them for a refreshing perspective on approaching the new year with authenticity and self-compassion!  You can follow Dr. Meagan on Instagram and find her at Integratedottawa.ca  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Zocdoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/INYS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today.    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For today’s episode, Dr. Tracy is resharing one of her favourite and most beloved conversations from this year with fellow psychologist Dr. Shefali to discuss what it means to build a healthy parent-child relationship.  Dr. Shefali is an acclaimed author, international speaker, and clinical psychologist.   If you haven't already, be sure to check out season 3 episode 4 where Dr. Shefali and Dr. Tracy discuss the parent-child relationship.  EPISODE LINKS  Order Dr. Shefali's book The Parenting Map  Free Online Summit the Parenting Mastery  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Honeylove - Save up to 50% Off sitewide at honeylove.com/INYS  OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In her final solo episode of the year, Dr. Tracy reflects on this incredible year of podcasting before diving into something she's personally struggled with and found the power of confronting: self-abandonment. Drawing from both personal experience and listener questions, she explores the signs, reasons, and consequences of self-abandonment in our relationships. The episode offers practical insights into setting boundaries, practicing self-compassion, and building a supportive community. Dr. Tracy candidly shares the challenges she's faced this year with the creation and release of her new book, "I Didn't Sign Up for This," the ways it brought her self-abandoning tendencies to the light, the relationships she had to walk away from, the loneliness she felt, but the beautiful growth that came from finally choosing herself. Hopefully, this episode serves as a guide for staying true to yourself and living a full and authentic life!  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Honeylove - Save up to 50% Off sitewide at honeylove.com/INYS  OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co    You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the heart of the holiday season, Dr. Tracy and her husband Greg embark on the first official "Dear Dr. Tracy" episode, tackling a fitting and timely listener question about navigating family dynamics. With a primary focus on mother-in-law relationships, they delve into topics like addressing defensive reactions, handling guilt trips, and initiating difficult conversations. Throughout the conversation, this dynamic duo highlights the importance of setting boundaries, practicing effective communication, and initiating generational change within one's own family. With a blend of personal experiences and professional advice, this episode sets the stage for honest and insightful discussions on family dynamics during the holiday season and beyond.  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Honeylove - Save up to 50% Off sitewide at honeylove.com/INYS  OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co  You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As we embrace the holiday spirit, it's essential to recognize the challenges it brings and the importance of setting boundaries. In today’s episode, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Terri Cole, a licensed psychotherapist and renowned relationship expert, to unravel the intricacies of setting and maintaining boundaries. Terri, the author of "Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free," shares her personal journey from being a "boundary disaster" to a boundary advocate. The conversation delves into the confusion surrounding boundaries, the concept of high-functioning codependency, and the challenges of setting boundaries with family. The two also discuss navigating guilt, standing firm in decisions, and the empowering choice to stop people pleasing and prioritize what you really want over obligations during the holiday season. Lastly, Dr. Terri leaves listeners with valuable insights on handling boundary challenges with family members and why it's perfectly okay to set them during the holidays and beyond.  Today’s topics include:  Terri’s definition of what boundaries are  Why women often fear setting boundaries or saying "no"  The importance of making your preferences and limits known  Codependency and auto-accommodation  Setting boundaries with family and the guilt associated   What to do when your loved ones aren’t respecting your “no”     You can find Terri on her Instagram, website, and podcast.  Check out a special gift just for you from Terri when you visit https://boundaryboss.me/codependency/  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Honeylove - Save up to 50% Off sitewide at honeylove.com/INYS  OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices