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Helping you identify toxic communication, emotional abuse, manipulation, and other forms of difficult behavior in relationships. Love and Abuse offers the perspective of both the victim and the perpetrator. Full of tips and advice for your friendships, family, love life, and marriage. You'll learn about covert abusive communication that takes away your power. And you'll discover how to pinpoint the specific toxic behaviors, such as narcissistic abuse and verbal abuse, before you are dragged into a psychological game so deep you come out a shell of your former self. Love and Abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook, an assessment and healing guide to help you evaluate the emotionally abusive and manipulative patterns in your relationship. Get the guide that will tell you exactly what's happening in your relationship over at loveandabuse.com. https://loveandabuse.com/

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When its impossible to get away from all the toxic behavior

2026/01/29

Some relationships end but continue leaving destruction in their wake. Some don't end and you suffer through the daily drip-feeding of emotionally abusive behaviors until you lose your sanity. When there's no way away from all the toxicity, what can you do?

Dont call them what they really are, it will work against you

2026/01/14

Calling a duck a duck makes sense. But this logic works against you in the emotionally abusive relationship. Calling out an abusive person for who they are might just turn the whole thing around on you.

Total defeat and burnout in the emotionally abusive relationship

2026/01/09

Every relationship should have stopping points when you feel yourself slipping away. Emotional abuse operates as a slow drip-feeding of toxic behaviors that gradually erode boundaries.

When you are a captive audience to the emotionally abusive monologuer

2025/12/30

The endless monologue of some emotionally abusive people is a tactic that keeps you silent and submissive. It's designed to wear you down until you finally give in.

Ive stopped being abusive, let's have sex

2025/12/04

Some emotionally abusive people do heal. And once they do, they might feel the relationship will be great from that point on. What they don't consider is that the victim of their abusive behavior is only starting their healing process.

Don't gaslight yourself into thinking you're the abuser

2025/11/17

The emotionally abusive relationship is confusing and draining. If you don't get a grip on what's going on, you may start to believe perhaps you are the problem and they are a saint. Let's fix that faulty thinking.

The feelings of guilt and shame after leaving the abusive person

2025/11/06

If you've ever questioned how to forgive yourself for choosing your own well-being over an abusive partner, you're not alone. If you're feeling guilt or shame for leaving an abusive person, this is an important episode to listen to.

Breaking the trauma bond can be hard as hell

2025/10/21

If you find yourself obsessively attached to someone who hurts you, is it a sign of a trauma bond? I'll tackle this challenging subject, shedding light on why you might stay in a relationship despite enduring hurtful behavior and what this could mean for your sense of self-worth and emotional well-being.

Can you heal from severe abuse while still in a severely abusive situation?

2025/10/09

Some people will deflect blame and make you feel like the problem. In this episode, I dive into this subject by examining a heart-wrenching story from a listener whose partner's jealousy turned violent, leaving her questioning the future of their relationship and her path to healing.

Why you may not be ready to call it abuse when it is abuse

2025/09/17

The emotionally abusive relationship can sometimes be hard to define. How long must abusive behavior go on before actually admit that what's really happening is abuse?

Do you end the relationship because they won't?

2025/09/03

How do you know when it's time to instigate a split? If your partner's behavior leaves you feeling oppressed and defeated, and they refuse to change, and they also don't want to end the relationship, then what?

The breadcrumbing of relationships' past

2025/08/19

Breadcrumbing can be a manipulative way to keep someone in your mind so that you can't fully move forward, keeping you as a pawn in another person's game. In this episode, a person wrote to me talking about their ex, a 13-year breadcrumber!

The language patterns of the abusive person

2025/08/13

The way someone talks about their relationship reveals a lot. Abuse victims and perpetrators each have their own language patterns. Knowing these language patterns will help you understand on which side of the fence you're on.

Can you ever go back to who you were?

2025/07/28

In abusive relationships it might be difficult or even impossible to discern which parts of yourself are truly you and which are shaped by the abuse. Let's talk about what it takes to start building or rebuilding your identity.

Never trust someone who wants to change who you are

2025/07/17

You walk into an emotionally abusive relationship as one person, but where do you go after you're in one for a while? Is the person you're with trying to change you into someone you're not?

Read Love and Abuse podcast reviews

4.7 out of 5

832 reviews

SahhTori 2025/10/14

Better than therapy

Thank you so very much!

Ermomgtv 2025/12/04

Unstructured

I don’t know if it is structured or not, I’m assuming it would be. Based on listening to it, however, it sounds like one long run-on sentence/train of...

❣️keeping classy ❣️ 2025/08/23

Thank You

For being married for 20 years and my 20th anniversary, we spent being abused by my perpetrator. I was at my wits end. I prayed for God to give me a s...

patricia micaela bessa 2025/08/05

Great show to stop the abuser

Boundaries get confused with care and crossing boundaries - cruel behavior, manipulation followed Random acts kindness … it makes you feel crazy Tha...

Shankgirl 2025/06/28

Wow. 1st time listener. He gots it!!!!

I just happened to be lead to this pod cast (thank you God) and am in awe. I have learned so much in this few 40 plus minutes. The details and clarity...

Millennial Man Reviewer 2025/03/16

Each Episode Helps!

Paul’s voice and insight helped me get over one of the toughest phases of my life. He helped me realize that the relationship failing was not my fault...

GiveThnx 2024/06/09

Saving my life

This podcast has made me feel like I’m not alone, or “crazy”. Whenever I feel down I put an episode on. To remind myself what I went through, what tha...

La Chama Graciosa 2024/12/28

I don’t want a fat wife

I wanted to learn about the silent treatment; the title of the episode. All I heard was a 25 min rant of how much this man did NOT want a fat, unattra...

Toughchick128 2024/06/05

Highly recommend!

I just found this podcast and listened to the episode about the walls that abusers put up. This is so insightful and I highly recommend this podcast t...

readbooksforsanity 2024/06/06

Latest episode

I’ll start by saying I appreciate this show. The last episode rubs me the wrong way. I am in an emotionally/verbally abusive relationship. I was al...

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