Inspired by her own son with disabilities, Lisa Lightner is an award-winning blogger and advocate. She has previously worked for her county's Arc and has served on the Boards of Directors for several disability organizations. Currently, she is her county's chairperson for the Right to Education Task Force, a federally decreed group set up in 1971 to ensure that all children in Pennsylvania had the opportunity to an education. When not attending IEP meetings with families or lobbying in Harrisburg and DC for disability rights, she can be found on the web at her IEP advice blog, A Day in our Shoes. She is known for her practical, realistic and implementable advice for parents.Warning: I've been told I have a Philly accent. I don't hear it. Also, I curse. It's something I'm working on as far as personal development. So please don't be put off. I'm trying.
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ChatGPT, Privacy, and the High Stakes of IEP Decisions
2026/10/21
In this episode of Don’t IEP Alone, Lisa Lightner clears up what she means when she criticizes generative AI and ChatGPT. She explains why concerns about privacy, content theft, environmental costs, and inaccurate information matter to families navigating IEPs.
Lisa Lightner also challenges the idea that ChatGPT can replace an advocate. AI can only respond to the information you provide, it may miss what’s actually absent from an IEP, and it can be confidently wrong. When your child has only a limited number of school years, Lisa Lightner argues, there’s no room to waste time on bad advice or shortcuts.
Don't IEP Alone with Lisa Lightner, Special Education Advocate
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Why I Don’t Ask for FBAs Anymore.
2026/10/07
When a child’s behavior increases, the usual response is often to revisit the FBA or behavior plan. But Lisa Lightner argues that teams should first step back and examine the IEP itself. Are all of the child’s needs being met? Are evaluations missing something? Is the IEP being implemented with fidelity?
Special Education Advocate Lisa Lightner explains why she now approaches behavior concerns differently. Many behaviors, she says, reflect lagging skills or unmet needs, and an FBA takes significant time and resources to complete. The focus should be on building and following a robust IEP that addresses the reason behind the behavior, not simply adding another plan after the behavior appears.
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Who Decides When an IEP Support Is Needed?
2026/09/30
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Placement Should Follow the IEP, Not Define It
2026/09/23
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Least Restrictive Environment Isn’t Always General Education
2026/09/16
More information about LRE and a graphic of the LRE continuum: Least Restrictive Environment (LRE) in IEPs: Placement Must Be Based on Progress, Not Labels.
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Don't IEP Alone with Lisa Lightner, Special Education Advocate
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Training Parents to Ask Better IEP Questions
2026/09/15
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When Advocacy Isn’t Changing Your Child’s IEP
2026/09/09
Training Objections
In this episode, Lisa Lightner tackles the objections parents often have about advocacy training: “I already speak up,” “I can find information online,” and “I don’t have time.”
Her point is direct: knowing your child’s rights isn’t enough. Parents also need to know how to apply those rights, use documentation and data, and move an IEP team toward yes.
At 03:25, Lisa Lightner explains why her four-step advocacy strategy focuses on applying the law, not simply learning it. She also addresses the difference between being assertive and being confrontational, and why speaking up at meetings may not change an IEP without the right paper trail.
For overwhelmed parents, the goal is less guessing and less busywork, with a defined process that can be used across disabilities.
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Building IEP Advocacy Momentum Without Feeling Overwhelmed
2026/09/02
Back-to-school season brings a familiar reminder: don’t wait for an IEP crisis to start paying attention.
In this episode, the conversation explores why families shouldn’t wait until Thanksgiving to discover that services aren’t being delivered or progress isn’t happening 02:35.
A key theme that emerged is that advocacy doesn’t require one dramatic meeting or hours of research. It can look like following up on a disappointing test, documenting the support needed to finish homework, reading school updates, or sending one thoughtful email 04:31.
These small actions build a record, create momentum, and make the IEP process easier to manage over time. As the episode puts it, advocacy is “a bunch of tiny little things,” things that add up 07:07.
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Responding to No at IEP Meetings: Questions Every Parent Should Ask
2026/08/26
Welcome to "Don't IEP Alone." I’m your host, Lisa Lightner, special education advocate.
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In today’s episode, we’re tackling one of the toughest parts of advocating for your child in IEP meetings: how to respond when the team tells you "no." Lisa Lightner opens up about her early fears of rejection and how hearing "no" has become just another data point in her advocacy journey.
She shares concrete strategies for handling those automatic refusals from school teams, including exactly what questions to ask, how to document responses, and ways to keep the conversation moving toward what's best for your child—no matter how many obstacles you face. Stay tuned for practical advice, scripts for your next meeting, and tips to challenge the "culture of no" so your child gets the services they deserve.
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Breaking the Myth: IEP Meetings Aren’t Where Success Happens
2026/08/19
Welcome to "Don't IEP Alone" with Lisa Lightner, your go-to source for special education advocacy and support. In this episode, Lisa Lightner challenges a common belief among parents and advocates: the idea that IEP meetings are the most important part of the special education process.
Drawing from her years of experience, Lisa Lightner explains why the real work—and true advocacy power—happens before and around the IEP meeting itself. With practical tips, honest insights, and a fresh perspective, she reveals how advance preparation, clear communication, and data-driven groundwork are what truly shape successful outcomes for your child.
Whether you’re dreading your next IEP meeting or seeking to strengthen your advocacy skills, this episode offers valuable guidance to transform how you approach the IEP process.
00:00 Parents' anxiety about IEP meetings
03:07 Preparing for IEP meetings
07:37 Tips for Successful IEP Meetings
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A Parent’s Guide to Back to School IEP Readiness
2026/08/13
Welcome back to the Don't IEP Alone podcast! In this episode, Lisa Lightner dives into the realities of back-to-school season for parents navigating IEPs. She shares strategies to help you get organized before classes begin, including a game-changing new approach to reading and understanding your child’s IEP.
Whether your summer break is winding down or you’re already prepping backpacks, Lisa Lightner offers practical advice to help ease your worries, focus on what you can control, and move into the new school year feeling confident and empowered.
Plus, she tackles common concerns about related services and reminds you—you’re doing better than you think!
1. Introduction and Welcome
Lisa Lightner greets new and returning listeners 00:01Brief mention of podcast hiatuses and evergreen episodes 00:13Reference to the "February freak out" experienced by parents and advocates 00:202. Back-to-School Transition for IEP Parents
Personal anecdote about shopping for back-to-school with her son 01:29Discussion about not having the luxury to delay back-to-school planning as an IEP parent 02:29Emphasizing the need to prepare before school starts to avoid children being left behind 02:353. How to Read an IEP Effectively
Announcement of a new "How to Read an IEP" PDF, blog post, and YouTube video available in show notes 02:59Explanation of the common mistake: reading IEPs cover to cover instead of by issue 03:32Introduction of a new method: track specific issues (e.g., executive functioning) throughout the IEP 04:00Encouragement to focus on 1 or 2 main concerns for the new school year 04:49Mention of IEP progress monitoring—caution not to wait until report cards (often as late as Thanksgiving) to check progress 05:114. Self-Assessment and Reassurance for Parents
Encouragement to focus on progress, even small, rather than stress 05:52Reassurance that listening to the podcast means parents are ahead of the game 06:22Observation that most IEPs have bright spots, not just problems, based on Lisa Lightner's IEP record reviews 06:52Invitation to email Lisa Lightner for support if things feel dire 07:34Reminders for parents to take deep breaths and acknowledge their prior experience 07:38Welcoming both new and returning IEP parents 07:475. Patience with IEP Related Services at Start of School Year
Encouragement not to panic about missed related services in the first weeks (e.g., OT, speech) 08:12Explanation that scheduling and caseloads are often still being settled in the first week or two 08:49Suggestion that IEPs are often written to account for start/end of year disruptions 09:05Importance of perspective: missing a couple of sessions likely won’t affect long-term success 09:33Practical advice for documentation and following up if no contact after two weeks 09:546. Closing Remarks
Reminder to document ongoing issues for patterns 10:04Goodbye and encouragement to tune in again 10:15
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Why "Gotcha!" is not an effective advocacy strategy.
2026/02/13
You can be right.
You can even prove you’re right.
That doesn’t mean you’ll get what your child needs.
Read instead of listen: Why “Gotcha” Doesn’t Win IEP Meetings.
related content: Is My Child Receiving FAPE? What It Actually Looks Like in Real Life.
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What's the Most Imporant Part of the IEP?
2026/01/28
If you have limited time and just want to know what to focus on quickly, which section of the IEP is the most important?
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Avoiding the February IEP Freakout: Proactive Tips for Parents
2026/01/13
In this episode of Don't IEP Alone, Lisa Lightner shares why February can be a stressful month for IEP parents, what causes the annual "February freakout," and proactive steps you can take now to better advocate for your child. Get essential advice on IEP renewals, kindergarten and transition webinars, progress monitoring, and how to avoid last-minute panic as spring approaches. All the tools and resources you need are in the show notes!
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Navigating Family Boundaries: Grief, Politics, and Advocacy
2026/01/07
In this special episode of "Don't IEP Alone," Lisa Lightner shares her personal journey of setting boundaries with family amid political and social divides, especially as a special needs parent and advocate. She discusses the grief of lost relationships, the importance of protecting your energy, and how the disability community can find support and understanding—even when it means creating your own village. An honest conversation about family, advocacy, and staying strong when facing adversity.
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ℹ️ IEP Present Levels for Teachers: https://dontiepalone.com/sale-iep-present-levels/
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⚠️More on IEP Progress Monitoring: https://adayinourshoes.com/how-to-monitor-iep-progress-for-parents/
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4.4 out of 5
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LaurenElizabeth23 2025/08/19
Hard pass. Wrong information.
“Imagine being told your child can’t go on a field because they are Jewish, black or Catholic…”
Huh? You’re comparing race, ethnicity and religion ...
★★★★★
MandyATL 2025/02/27
Helpful
I have been meaning to listen for a while and just listened to a few episodes. I wish I would’ve found this sooner. Great advice and helpful!
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BritIsBooked 2025/01/30
Yes!!
I love how real talk this podcast is! As a parent of two children with autism on way different areas on the spectrum, knowing other people are out the...
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Tina-Louise Wallace 2020/05/31
Lisa is amazing - a blessing!! Thank you!
I really want to leave a detailed review but I will come back and edit this. 5 stars isn’t enough!! Join the Facebook group, like and follow the page...
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Oravet 2019/12/10
So good!!!
As a parent of children with special needs, this podcast is a breath of fresh air and helps remind me that we are not doing this alone! The IEP/504 pr...
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Skylar.Andie 2019/10/23
Excellent, great information
I love this podcast, Lisa is very knowledgeable and honest. She admits when she’s wrong and does her makes an effort to listen to the prospective of d...
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Chackit 2019/10/20
Language
I’d love to listen to this podcast without headphones but unfortunately there’s a lot of language that I’d rather not have the kids hear. Sad because...
★★★★★
lime1207 2019/10/08
so much great information
This is a really great resource for parents navigating the complexities of Special Education and I recommend it frequently. Lisa has really help me un...
★★★★★
lilyirelandrose 2019/09/24
Great resource
Thank you!! I am so proud of my iep team we have most of what you say we should ask for in my sons iep. I have one annoyance however. Your 3 minute en...
★★☆☆☆
Billian28 2019/09/24
Read the blog
I find the blog and Facebook group very helpful but this podcast is slow with a lot of self talk about the host’s thoughts on blogging, audience size,...