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In this episode of Only Trying to Help, Kate Watson sits down with seasoned couples’ counselor Melanie Gibbons to explore the well-intentioned—but often ineffective—ways partners try to support each other. From offering unsolicited advice to trying to “fix” feelings, Kate and Melanie break down why common helping habits can create distance instead of closeness. They share insights, gentle reframes, and practical tools for offering support that actually strengthens connection. A thoughtful listen for anyone who wants to show up better in their relationships.

In this episode of Only Trying to Help, Kate Watson is joined by internationally recognized self-defense expert Nicole Snell for a candid conversation about the well-meaning—but often unhelpful—messages people share about staying safe. Together, they unpack common safety myths, explore why these messages can backfire, and offer more empowering, practical approaches instead. If you’ve ever wondered how to talk about safety without fear-mongering or victim-blaming, this episode is a must-listen.

In this episode, Kate Watson sits down with guest Leslie Ballway for a thoughtful conversation about the simple yet powerful act of asking permission before offering help. Together, they explore why well-intentioned support can sometimes miss the mark, how “rescuing” can undermine autonomy, and what it looks like to shift from assumption to curiosity. Kate and Leslie share practical language, real-life examples, and gentle reminders that asking first isn’t just polite—it’s foundational to trauma-informed, respectful, and effective helping relationships. Tune in for an honest, illuminating discussion that will change the way you show up for others.

In this episode, Dr. Kate Watson sits down with Reyna Puentes for a candid conversation about our natural urge to give advice—especially when we want to help. Together, they unpack why “fixing” often feels like caring, how advice-giving can unintentionally shut down connection, and what to do instead when someone comes to us in pain. It’s an honest, insightful look at the tension between wanting to help and learning to truly listen. 

In our season finale, Kate and Peter talk about how it can (sometimes) be helpful to break the rules. Unprecedented times might call for it. 

Andrea talks about severe mental illness

Nurture by Nature: A Chat with Marie Burgess

Explore the connection between our bodies and our minds with Somatic Therapist, Marie Delorme.

Margo joins us to talk about helping yourself in tiny simple ways

Scott Kerby joins the show to talk about the power of togetherness and group support.

Kate reads a letter from a listener who is curious about ambiguous loss

Back to basics! Jennifer and Kate talk about simple listening skills. 

Ravi joins us to talk about performative helping

Learn about accountability with Meg Rogers and Elizabeth McElroy

Only trying to help the homeless: Well-meaning behaviors when trying to help folks living in poverty