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📝 Show Notes with Time Stamps00:00 – Why Dreaming Matters Opening reflections on why dreaming feels risky, unrealistic, or even foolish for many adults. 02:45 – The Cultural Drift Toward Cynicism How modern life, media, and comparison slowly train us to stop imagining better futures. 06:00 – When Life Becomes Survival Mode The shift from vision-driven living to simply paying bills and getting through the week. 09:10 – Redefining What “Dreaming” Is (and Isn’t) Dreaming as imagination and identity—not fantasy, irresponsibility, or denial of reality. 12:30 – Imagining the Person You’re Becoming A reflective moment focused on energy, presence, and how you show up in the world. 15:30 – Permission to Dream Again Closing encouragement to reclaim vision and begin imagining life intentionally.   Message us at [email protected] anytime! Thank you for listening! If you want to find out more about Matt and how you can get coached toward your better self, visit www.matthewwireman.com and check out his LinkedIn and Instagram accounts @matt.wireman.

Episode Guest: Pastor & author Jeff Kapusta (Life Point Church, Wilmington NC) Core Theme: Living fully alive in Christ – integrated life, calling, leadership, and personal growth [00:00:15 – 00:03:35]Intro, Jeff’s Story & Sneakerhead Side Matt introduces the Off the Wire podcast and his integrated approach to coaching: mind, body, and soul.Guest intro: Pastor Jeff Kapusta, church planter in Wilmington, North Carolina (Life Point Church).Brief church origin story (launching on Super Bowl Sunday 2006).Light banter on Jeff’s hobbies: mountain biking, CrossFit, and being a Jordan 1 sneakerhead.SEO keywords: Christian podcast, church planting, Wilmington NC pastor, Jordan 1 sneakerhead [00:03:38 – 00:09:06]“Fully Alive” Book & Podcast – Origin Story Jeff shares how the book “Fully Alive: God’s Will for Everyone Everywhere” came from his church’s slogan “pointing people to life.”Conversation with his counselor exposed that he had no clear outlet to teach the core theology behind the slogan.A season of vocal problems and vocal restpushed him to write instead of preach.Book goal: help people understand God’s will as living fully alive in Christ, whether or not they’re in vocational ministry.The Fully Alive Podcast expands those themes into family, hobbies, fitness, finances, and faith.SEO keywords: Fully Alive book, God’s will for your life, Christian spiritual growth, Christian podcast on faith and life [00:09:06 – 00:14:42]Integrated Life: Spirituality, Money, and the Body Matt and Jeff discuss integrated Christian living: spirituality, finances, time, body, and habits all connected.Jeff shares his and his wife’s story of financial freedom and how money stress affects marriage and ministry.They contrast “don’t store up treasures on earth” with wise stewardship, savings, inheritance, and generosity.Money as a tool for kingdom impact, not a savior or identity.SEO keywords: Christian finances, biblical money wisdom, financial freedom, stewardship, abundance vs prosperity gospel [00:14:42 – 00:23:05]Pathway to Living Fully Alive (Salvation to Purpose) Jeff outlines the logical journey in the book:Relationship with God through repentance and grace in JesusBaptism as a public, obedient next stepProcessing past wounds, trauma, addictions, unforgivenessMoving from being freed from sin to letting sin and slavery be removed from usIllustration: scar vs. wound – many keep re‑opening emotional wounds instead of letting Jesus heal them.Importance of Scripture:Where to start in the BibleWhy Leviticus often kills Bible reading plansWhy we can trust the Bible logically and historicallyBeing fathered by God:Healing from father woundsLuke 3: “This is my Son, whom I love; with him I am well pleased” as identity, affection, affirmation.SEO keywords: inner healing, Christian counseling, Bible reading plan, father wound, identity in Christ, spiritual formation [00:23:05 – 00:30:07]Excellence, Work, and Calling in Everyday Vocation Matt describes his integrated coaching (mind, body, soul) and how bad past experiences can still shape us.Jeff on calling:Everyone is called to ministry, but not everyone to vocational ministry.We need more teachers, lawyers, sanitation workers, coaches who live fully alive for God in secular spaces.Colossians theme: “Whatever you do, do it all to the glory of God.”Christians should be known for excellence and hard work, not mediocrity.Jeff distinguishes excellence vs. excess, and critiques “good enough for God” attitudes.SEO keywords: Christian vocation, calling vs career, excellence for God, Christian work ethic, faith and work [00:30:07 – 00:36:22]Mediocrity, Distraction, and Spiritual Neglect Why some Christians settle for mediocrity: laziness, warped theology, distraction.Time spent binging Netflix vs. time in prayer and Scripture.Matt mentions a free decision‑making resourceat MatthewWireman.com to help with calling and big life choices.SEO keywords: spiritual laziness, Christian discipline, decision making God’s will, Christian productivity [00:36:22 – 00:43:28]Big Problems in the Church: Insider Focus & Missionary Mindset Jeff’s critique of insider‑focused churches:Pastoral mindset: “These are my people, I must care for them.”Missionary mindset: “This is my city, I must reach it.”Church planting forced him into a missionary mentality: learn the culture, build relationships, seek out the unchurched.Concern: churches that only see kids come to faith but few adults may not truly be reaching their community.Discipleship is not just making Christians “smarter,” but reaching those who don’t yet know Jesus.SEO keywords: church growth, discipleship vs evangelism, missionary mindset, reaching the unchurched, local church strategy [00:43:28 – 00:52:44]Engaging Men & The Crisis of Fatherlessness Jeff’s second major concern: disengaged men in church.Cites stats (61% female, 39% male attendance, plus data on fatherlessness: prison, dropout, homelessness, suicide).Introduces “Brotherhood”:Six‑month mentoring program for menApplication, cost, homework, and high challengeFruit: men leading at home, serving at church, modeling worshipStory of the paralyzed man with four friends: the real miracle is a grown man having four real friends willing to carry him to Jesus.Brotherhood tagline: “Born for battle” (Prov. 17:17).SEO keywords: men’s ministry, Christian manhood, fatherlessness, mentoring program, Brotherhood, discipling men [00:52:44 – 01:02:41]Personal Leadership: Goals, Habits, and “I Will” Statements Jeff: everyone is a leader at least of themselves.Difference between personal leadership and just holding a positional title.Practical areas to own with “I will…”:Spiritual: Bible reading, prayer, waking earlyPhysical: sleep, nutrition, exercise, CrossFit, runningFinancial: budget, debt payoff, long‑term planningRelational: small groups, serving teams, real friendshipsSacrificial/Generosity: living beyond selfJeff signs up for a half marathon, builds a training plan, and invites others.Quote: “Nothing changes if nothing changes.”SEO keywords: Christian leadership, self‑leadership, spiritual habits, goal setting, Christian health, half marathon training [01:02:41 – 01:08:28]Accountability, Feelings, and Doing the Hard Things Accountability defined as calling people up, not just calling them out.Group text threads and shared runs as natural structures for accountability and encouragement.Key line: “Feelings are a good indicator, but a terrible dictator.”Discipline as choosing long‑term vision over short‑term comfort.Importance of trust in accountability relationships – friends want for you what you said you want for yourself.SEO keywords: Christian accountability, discipline, habits, spiritual growth, Christian community [01:08:28 – End]How to Connect with Jeff & Closing Prayer Where to find Jeff:Instagram: @jeffkapustaWebsite: JeffKapusta.com (email list, resources)Life Point Church: Wilmington, NCFully Alive Podcast & Fully Alive bookMatt offers a book giveaway for listeners who review the podcast and email a screenshot.Jeff closes in prayer:Gratitude for the conversationAsking God to help listeners live fully alive, honor their commitments, and walk in their calling.Matt gives his contact: [email protected] for questions and feedback.SEO keywords: Jeff Kapusta, Fully Alive podcast, Life Point Church Wilmington, Christian coaching, Off the Wire with Matthew Wireman Thank you for listening! If you want to find out more about Matt and how you can get coached toward your better self, visit www.matthewwireman.com and check out his LinkedIn and Instagram accounts @matt.wireman.

[0:00:56] Welcoming Guest Jeff Hancher Matt welcomes Jeff, who just released his book “Firm Feedback in a Fragile World.”Discussion about the unique difficulties leaders face when giving firm feedback due to the desire to be liked.[0:02:29] Jeff’s Passion for Leadership Jeff shares his passion for equipping future leaders, gratitude for mentorship he received, and his mission to help others reach their potential.[0:03:02] Jeff Hancher Enterprises Overview Jeff describes the evolution of his business, focusing on leadership and sales training, executive masterminds, and building leadership cultures.Mentions that the book came from their popular leadership workshop.[0:04:21] How to Connect with Jeff Provides details on how listeners can find him (jeffhancher.com), contact, and participate in training/masterminds.[0:05:05] The Biggest Leadership Challenge in 2025 Jeff discusses the enduring challenges of effective leadership and succession planning from his Fortune 500 background.Pinpoints hesitancy to give productive feedback as a primary issue.[0:07:54] The Feedback Gap and Leadership Blind Spots Discussion of leadership effectiveness vs. self-perception gaps (65% of managers think they give good feedback; 21% of subordinates agree).The role of “quiet quitting” and the importance of healthy feedback.[0:10:25] The FEAR Framework Jeff outlines the “FEAR” acronym: Fallout, Emotion, Amateur, Retaliation – core reasons why leaders avoid giving hard feedback.[0:14:34] Mindset Shift and Personal Story Advice on reframing fear (“What if I DON’T have this hard conversation?”).Jeff details his story: military background, family struggles, first job at Cintas, and the huge impact of his manager Sean—tough love leading to growth and numerous promotions.[0:22:35] The Three Types of Feedback Jeff explains the feedback “toolbelt”: directive (for new/emergency situations), collaborative (for high performers), and supportive (for underperformers or those in crisis).[0:27:06] The Benefits of Feedback (Illustrative Roleplay) Roleplay illustrating relational equity in giving feedback and the difference relational deposits make (helpful feedback is a “gift” if trust is earned).[0:30:59] Engagement vs. Compliance Culture Importance of driving employee engagement, not mere compliance.Example from Chick-fil-A on culture and motivation.[0:34:58] Decision-Making and Free Resources Mention of decision-making tools at matthewwireman.com.Discussion about setting expectations and vulnerability in leadership.[0:39:45] Handling Accountability Publicly and Privately Step-by-step process for addressing tardiness in a team meeting.Breakdown of the five accountability questions used in feedback/development conversations.[0:45:24] Earning the Right to Give Feedback Jeff shares story about Brent, tying personal motivation (taking daughters to Disney) to performance.Leaders earn trust by helping connect work to personal goals.[0:50:07] Addressing Multiple Issues & Importance of Relationship Equity Advice: Don’t ignore recurring problems, but avoid “piling on.” Build trust first and address issues meaningfully.[0:53:53] Inspiring High Engagement in a Distracted World Effective leaders find and leverage their team’s “why”—purpose-driven engagement, even in transactional jobs (e.g., selling defibrillators).[0:59:05] The Power of Mentorship (Dr. Joe Bradley Story) Jeff credits Dr. Bradley (now passed) with transformational mentorship in composure and self-awareness. The importance of gentle, direct guidance.[1:04:44] Leadership Reflection and Self-Awareness Discussion on journaling, reflecting on weaknesses, strengths, and blind spots.Value of honest self-reflection for growth; key questions to ask yourself.[1:11:08] Final Call to Action & Resources Jeff’s top advice: Get great at asking leadership questions. Offers a free resource of his five favorite questions (jeffhancher.com).Matthew invites listeners to leave a podcast review for a chance to get a free copy of Jeff’s book.[1:14:37] Closing Prayer & Final Thanks Jeff closes with a blessing for listeners to be impactful, equipped, and bold as leaders.[1:15:46] Podcast Wrap-Up Thank you for listening! If you want to find out more about Matt and how you can get coached toward your better self, visit www.matthewwireman.com and check out his LinkedIn and Instagram accounts @matt.wireman.

Guest Bio**Josh Bradley** is the Lead Coach at Heart the Mission, where he helps leaders discover clarity and confidence in their calling. With a background in ministry, church planting, and executive coaching, Josh specializes in guiding individuals and teams toward authentic leadership and purpose-driven impact. -- Detailed Timestamps & Key Topics0:00:00 – Introduction & Theme Matt introduces the episode, referencing “Listen to Your Heart” by Roxette and the importance of listening to your heart in leadership. 0:01:00 – About the Host & Podcast Matt shares his coaching background and the integrated approach of the podcast (mind, body, soul, spiritual formation, goal setting, life hacks). 0:02:00 – Guest Introduction: Josh Bradley Josh’s background in personal development, executive coaching, and ministry. How to connect with Josh: heartthemission.com 0:03:30 – The Story Behind “Heart the Mission” Josh explains the inspiration for the name and his early days as a church planter. Emotional challenges, burnout, and the journey to self-understanding. 0:06:00 – Leadership, Identity, and Emotional Health The importance of knowing your unique wiring and calling. The pitfalls of modeling leadership after others without self-awareness. 0:08:30 – DISC Profile & Leadership Models Josh’s experience with the DISC personality assessment. The pressure to fit dominant leadership models and the value of authenticity. 0:10:00 – Transition from Ministry to Coaching Josh’s move from church planting to denominational work and eventually to executive coaching. The role of mentors and learning to ask powerful questions. 0:13:00 – Finding Your Calling & Blessing The concept of blessing and identity in leadership. Biblical examples (Jacob, Abraham) and the importance of receiving affirmation from respected voices. 0:18:00 – Practical Steps for Discovering Your Calling Matt’s “One Page Decision Maker” resource. The value of reflection, seeking input from trusted mentors, and understanding your unique contribution. 0:23:00 – The Power of Community & Team Coaching How team environments foster vulnerability, validation, and clarity. Real-life examples of team coaching and the impact of speaking blessing over others. 0:30:00 – The Four E’s Coaching Framework Explore: Exposing yourself to new ideas and content. Experience: Trying out new skills or concepts. Evaluate: Reflecting on what worked and what didn’t. Equip: Teaching others and reinforcing your own learning. 0:42:00 – Why Coaches Rarely Give Direct Advice The importance of ownership and self-discovery in coaching. The role of the coach as a guide, not a sage. 0:48:00 – Overcoming Barriers to Change Why people struggle to implement new ideas. The importance of regular evaluation, accountability, and integrating new habits. 0:56:00 – Personal Mission, Vision, and Accountability How to keep your mission and values front and center. The need for ongoing reflection and course correction. 1:06:00 – Relearning Passion and Dreaming Again How to rediscover what energizes you and what you’re called to do. The connection between frustration, gifting, and calling. 1:12:00 – Taking the Next Step Toward Your Calling Advice for those feeling called to make a change but are hesitant. The importance of dreaming, wrestling with God, and taking practical steps. 1:17:00 – Living Out Your Calling in Every Sphere Applying your unique gifts at home, work, and in your community. Stories of leveraging your calling for greater purpose. 1:20:00 – How to Connect with Josh Bradley Website: heartthemission.com Email: [email protected] 1:21:45 – Closing Prayer & Final Thoughts Josh offers a prayer for listeners seeking clarity and courage. Matt invites listeners to connect and leave feedback. -- Key TakeawaysAuthentic leadership starts with understanding your God-given identity and calling. Community and trusted voices are essential for discovering and affirming your purpose. Practical frameworks like the Four E’s can help you and your team grow in clarity and confidence. Regular reflection, evaluation, and accountability are key to lasting change. Take small, intentional steps toward your calling—don’t wait for the “perfect” time. -- Connect with Josh BradleyWebsite: heartthemission.com Email: [email protected] -- SEO Keywordspersonal development, executive coaching, leadership, heart the mission, Josh Bradley, Matt Wireman, Off the Wire podcast, spiritual formation, coaching, goal setting, emotional health, identity, church planting, leadership clarity, team coaching, calling, Christian leadership Thank you for listening! If you want to find out more about Matt and how you can get coached toward your better self, visit www.matthewwireman.com and check out his LinkedIn and Instagram accounts @matt.wireman.

Give us a rating to help others grow in their lives! [0:00:01] Introduction & Setting the Stage  - Host Matt Wireman introduces the episode and guest, Edwin Arroyave.  - Overview of Edwin’s background: entrepreneur, faith-driven leader, and his journey of resilience. [0:02:00] The Power of Words and Faith  - Edwin shares the influence of his mother and the importance of positive confession.  - Discussion on faith vs. fear and focusing on what you can control. [0:06:00] Early Life & Overcoming Adversity  - Edwin’s childhood in Colombia and moving to the US.  - Taking responsibility for his family at age 15 after his father went to jail.  - Working at a call center despite being shy and timid. [0:12:00] Dreaming Big & Building Confidence  - Visualizing success from a young age.  - The importance of hope, faith, and believing in yourself.  - How small wins build self-worth and identity. [0:18:00] Career Growth & Taking Risks  - Becoming the youngest manager at his company.  - The role of mentorship and stepping out of comfort zones.  - Transitioning to entrepreneurship and achieving new milestones. [0:25:00] Discipline, Habits, and Resilience  - How discipline and good habits carry you through tough times.  - The connection between discipline, happiness, and long-term success.  - Building resiliency and the importance of getting back up after failure. [0:32:00] Integrity, Self-Worth, and Personal Growth  - Keeping promises to yourself and its impact on confidence.  - Aligning your subconscious and conscious mind for success.  - The importance of integrity in all areas of life. [0:38:00] Faith, Generosity, and Overcoming Personal Struggles  - Edwin’s journey with tithing and giving out of scarcity.  - How faith and generosity led to personal breakthroughs. [0:44:00] Purpose, Challenges, and Creating a Fulfilling Life  - The necessity of having a purpose and embracing challenges.  - How solving problems leads to growth and fulfillment.  - The cycle of purpose, challenge, and restricted freedom. [0:50:00] Bringing Others Along & Paying It Forward  - The importance of mentorship and helping others succeed.  - Edwin’s story of being given a chance and now providing opportunities for others. [0:55:00] Final Reflections & Closing Prayer - Edwin shares final thoughts on discipline, happiness, and purpose.  - Closes the episode with a prayer of gratitude. Thank you for listening! If you want to find out more about Matt and how you can get coached toward your better self, visit www.matthewwireman.com and check out his LinkedIn and Instagram accounts @matt.wireman.

0:00:00 – Introduction and Background of Dr. Ron Reese Matthew Wireman introduces the podcast and Dr. Ron Reese, highlighting his extensive coaching and psychology experience. Dr. Reese shares his journey into psychology and his educational background. 0:04:35 – Distinction Between Psychotherapy and Coaching Dr. Reese explains the difference between psychotherapy (focused on pain/pathology) and coaching (focused on present/future). Discussion of various psychological methodologies and the importance of trust in the coach-client relationship. 0:09:21 – Building Trust and Overcoming Resistance The process of building trust and understanding clients' cognitive processes. The value of using clients' existing successful tools and the concept of "impact psychology." 0:13:22 – Personal Examples and Strategies for Change Dr. Reese shares personal stories and strategies for adapting and maintaining effectiveness. Introduction of "anchor statements" and the importance of modeling successful individuals. 0:15:26 – Impact Psychology and Intrinsic Value Recognizing one's inherent value and creating meaning through deliberate actions. The role of external motivators and public acknowledgment. 0:51:38 – Motivation and Deliberate Change Identifying learning styles and applying them to personal goals. The importance of small, incremental changes and resilience. 0:52:05 – Resilience and Overcoming Anxiety Resilience as an ordinary, developed trait. Facing anxiety and taking on challenges to build resilience. 0:55:42 – Triggering Statements and Communication Critique of "triggering statements" and their impact on open dialogue. The importance of free, open communication for growth. 1:01:26 – Goal Setting and Achieving Success Step-by-step approach to goal achievement, including visualization and accountability. Final thoughts on deliberate action and personal fulfillment. 1:05:13 – Closing Thoughts and Prayer Episode closes with a prayer and invitation for listeners to connect and seek further resources. Thank you for listening! If you want to find out more about Matt and how you can get coached toward your better self, visit www.matthewwireman.com and check out his LinkedIn and Instagram accounts @matt.wireman.

0:02:00 – Personal Stories & The Power of Influence Ray shares his background, referencing his new book The Boy in the Yellow House, which details his upbringing in a challenging environment. Theme: The power of personal influence and how various people (coaches, neighbors, mentors) shaped his life. Discussion on how everyone is a coach or leader in some capacity. 0:08:00 – Coaching, Mentorship, and Leadership Ray discusses the difference between coaching and mentorship, sharing stories of influential mentors. Key lessons from his mentor Michael Cat: reading the Bible, prayer, sharing faith, serving others, and living in community (James 5:16). Theme: The importance of honest, open, and transparent (HOT) relationships for personal growth and healing. 0:15:00 – Circles of Influence & Community Matt introduces a free resource on evaluating circles of influence. Discussion on the importance of community, trust, and vulnerability in leadership and personal life. Theme: The dangers of isolation, idleness, and "adultery" (substituting real connection with unhealthy substitutes). 0:22:00 – Boundaries, Transparency, and Healthy Relationships Conversation about setting boundaries versus building walls in relationships. The importance of having a few trustworthy people for genuine transparency. Theme: Good fences make for great neighbors; healthy boundaries foster strong relationships. 0:28:00 – Coaching Distinctions & Life Experience Ray distinguishes his coaching from others: focus on real-life experience, not just certifications. Shares lessons learned from various roles (corporate, agriculture, family). Theme: The value of practical wisdom and tools developed from personal and professional experience. 0:34:00 – The Role of Spouses as Coaches Discussion on how Ray’s wife, Stephanie, has coached him in kindness, patience, and managing anger. Theme: Spouses as complementary partners who help each other grow. 0:40:00 – Boundaries, Delegation, and Leadership Tools Matt and Ray discuss the importance of boundaries and delegation for leaders. Introduction of the "Do, Dump, Delegate, Delay" tool for prioritizing tasks. Theme: Leaders must focus on the highest and best use of their time to avoid burnout and scale effectively. 0:46:00 – The True Role of a Leader: Duplication Ray challenges common notions of leadership (vision, leading, serving) and asserts the primary role is to duplicate oneself (make disciples). Theme: Are you a leader worth duplicating? The importance of modeling and multiplying positive influence. 0:52:00 – Self-Awareness as the Biggest Hurdle Discussion on self-awareness as the key personal hurdle for leaders. The importance of understanding how one is perceived and the impact of nature, nurture, and choice. Theme: Growth begins with self-awareness and the willingness to change. 0:58:00 – Emotional Intelligence, Empathy, and Personal Growth Book recommendations: Emotional Intelligence 2.0 and Crucial Conversations. Ray shares a personal story about learning empathy from his wife and the difference between sympathy and empathy. Theme: Dealing with personal pain to develop empathy and the capacity to understand others. 1:05:00 – Steps for Personal Change & Coaching Moments Matt summarizes the process of personal change: assuming the best about others, recognizing personal growth areas, being receptive, and taking action. Theme: Growth requires vulnerability, receptivity, and willingness to step into discomfort. 1:10:00 – Encouragement & The Greatest Commandment Final reflections on the importance of encouragement in coaching. Reference to Jesus’ teaching: love God, love others, and the importance of self-love and compassion. Key Themes Covered: The power of personal influence and coaching in everyday life.The importance of community, vulnerability, and trust.Setting healthy boundaries and the difference between boundaries and walls.The role of self-awareness and emotional intelligence in leadership.The value of practical experience and learning from mistakes.The process of personal change and growth.The true role of a leader: to duplicate positive influence in others.Empathy, compassion, and the impact of personal pain on relationships. Thank you for listening! If you want to find out more about Matt and how you can get coached toward your better self, visit www.matthewwireman.com and check out his LinkedIn and Instagram accounts @matt.wireman.

Christian Leadership and Engagement: Importance of leading with love, patience, and integrity [0:35:16 - 0:42:39]Speaking truth while maintaining compassion [0:42:39 - 0:50:15]Avoiding anger and tribalism in cultural and political discourse [0:25:19 - 0:28:34]Religious Liberty and Social Issues: Defending religious freedom [0:43:30 - 0:49:09]Pro-life perspectives and support for crisis pregnancy centers [0:12:09 - 0:16:12]Transgender issues, particularly concerning minors [0:16:49 - 0:19:55]Respecting diverse beliefs while maintaining Christian principles [0:22:34 - 0:23:49]Ethics and Cultural Engagement: How Christians should interact with political and social issues [0:37:52 - 0:42:39]The role of the Ethics and Religious Liberty Commission (ERLC) [0:04:43 - 0:08:35]Balancing conviction with love and respect [0:49:09 - 0:51:52]Importance of personal integrity in leadership [0:31:38 - 0:35:16]Spiritual Growth: Developing leadership through prayer and biblical study [0:32:07 - 0:35:16]Focusing on personal discipleship [0:50:15 - 0:51:52]Treating all people with dignity as image-bearers of God [0:19:55 - 0:22:34] Thank you for listening! If you want to find out more about Matt and how you can get coached toward your better self, visit www.matthewwireman.com and check out his LinkedIn and Instagram accounts @matt.wireman.

How do you intend to make a difference with the passion you have? So many people unfortunately think that they were created just to pay their bills, live for the weekend, and retire as soon as they can. You were made for so much more than that! You were made to be creative and to see the intricate linking of your passions and God's calling in your life. In this episode I sit down with podcast extraordinaire and entrepreneur Rich Cardona (@podcastrich) of Unfiltr Studio (@unfltr.studio) to discuss the intersection of faith and faithfulness.  We discuss a wide range of topics from meeting people where they are, auditing your content, and dreaming about making an impact in the world.  Topic Highlights from "Off the Wire" Podcast with Rich Cardona: 1. Podcasting and Entrepreneurship Importance of long-form contentBuilding authentic connections through podcastingStrategies for creating engaging podcast episodesTechnical requirements for starting a podcast2. Faith and Business Integration Balancing faith with professional workServing clients regardless of their religious beliefsIncorporating prayer and spiritual principles in businessMaintaining authenticity while sharing a message3. Personal Branding - Developing a consistent social media presence - Overcoming fear of self-promotion - Creating content that serves an audience - Building trust through transparent communication 4. Entrepreneurial Challenges - Navigating loneliness in entrepreneurship - Finding connection through interviewing others - Supporting business owners and founders - Developing a mission-driven approach to work 5. Church and Entrepreneurship - Lack of specific support for entrepreneurs in church communities - Creating niche groups for business professionals - Integrating faith principles in professional environments - Encouraging believers to serve through their vocations 6. Content Creation Strategies - Understanding target audience - Consistent content production - Auditing and improving content quality - Managing expectations in content creation   Key Takeaways: Authenticity, service, and continuous improvement are crucial in podcasting, entrepreneurship, and faith-based work.   Connect with Matt on social media at: 👉🏻 LINKEDIN 👉🏻 INSTAGRAM 👉🏻 FACEBOOK   📲 SCHEDULE A FREE 30-MINUTE COACHING CALL HERE   Thank you for listening! If you want to find out more about Matt and how you can get coached toward your better self, visit www.matthewwireman.com and check out his LinkedIn and Instagram accounts @matt.wireman.

Matt, hey, my friends, welcome to the off the wire podcast. My name is Matt Wireman, and with over 25 years of coaching experience, I bring to you a an integrated approach to coaching where we look at mind, body and soul. So this being my little corner of the universe, welcome we cover everything from spiritual formation or the interior life all the way to goal setting and how to make your life better with life hacks, and I cover everything in between. So whatever it fits my fancy, I'm going to share with you, and I'm so thankful for your time, and I hope this episode helps you. All right. Well, hey, welcome, welcome to another episode of Off The Wire. This is Matt, still I haven't changed, but I do have with me, my friend. Really proud to call him a friend. And from seminary days, Dr Josh chatro, who is the Billy Graham chair for evangelism and cultural engagement at Beeson. That's a mouthful. Josh, well done. And then he is also, they just launched a concentration in apologetics at Beeson, which is really exciting. They got a conference coming up this summer. Is that also an apologetics Josh, its own preaching and apologetics? Okay? Awesome. And, and largely, you're also, you're also part of the Tim Keller Center for Cultural apologetics, and then also a, they call them fellows at the Center for Pastor theologians as well. That's right, yeah. And you in, you have been at Beeson for a couple years, because prior to that, you were at a you were heading up. And what was it largely an apologetics group, or was it, was it more broad than that in Raleigh? Yeah, it was. It was much more expansive than that. Evangelism and apologetics is part of what we were doing, but it was the Center for Public Christianity, okay? It was also very much in the work and faith movement. And I was also resident theologian at Holy Trinity Anglican in Raleigh. We were there for five years, excellent and and you don't know this because you don't keep tabs on who bought your book, but I've got every one of your books brother, so every every book you put out, and I'm like, I love this guy, and I'm gonna support him and buy his book. So it started all the way back, if you remember, with truth matters, yeah. And I use that book for one of the classes that I built here where I teach. And then then I want to go through the Litany here and embarrass you a little bit. And then it goes to apologetics, at the Cross Cultural Engagement, telling a better story, surprised by doubt. And then one that you just released called the Augustine way, retrieving a vision for the church's apologetic witness. So do you write much on apologetics? Is that kind of your thing? Yeah, I've written a few books on that. So why? Like, what is it about apologetics that has really captured your heart, in your mind and like, as opposed to just teaching theology, yeah, it's a certain it's a certain stream. If folks are first of all, folks are curious, like, What in the world is apologetics? Are you apologizing to folks? Like, are you saying I'm sorry? Well, I do have to do that. I'm sorry a lot. That's a good practice. That's not quite what apologetics is. Okay. Okay, so we, one of the things I would say is, and when I meet, when I meet up with old friends like you, sometimes they say, What have you been doing? Because we didn't see this coming. And when we were in seminary together, it wasn't as if I was, you know, reading a lot of apologetic works. And so one of the things is, and you weren't picking fights on campus too much. You were always a really kind person. And most, most time, people think of like apologists as, like, real feisty. And you're not a feisty friend. I'm not. I actually, unless you start talking about, like, soccer and stuff like that, right? Yeah, yeah, I'm not. Yeah, I don't. I don't love, I don't love, actually, arguments I'd much rather have, which is an odd thing, and so I need to tell how did I get into this thing? I'd much rather have conversations and dialog and kind of a back and forth that keeps open communication and and because, I actually think this ties into apologetics, most people don't make decisions or don't come to they don't come to any kind of belief simply because they were backed into an intellectual corner. And but now maybe I'll come back to that in a second. But I got into this because I was doing my PhD work while I was pastoring. And when you do your pH was that in in Raleigh, because you did your PhD work at Southeastern, right? That's right, that's right. But I was actually, we were in southern, uh. In Virginia for the first half, we were in a small town called Surrey. It was, if you know anything about Tim Keller, it was he served in Hopewell, Virginia for seven or nine years before he went to Westminster and then to New York. And we were about 45 minutes from that small town. So if you've read Colin Hansen's book, he kind of gives you some background on what is this, these little communities, and it does, does kind of match up the little community I was serving for two years before moving to another little community in South Georgia to finish while I was writing. And so I pastored in both locations. So these aren't particularly urban areas, and yet, people in my church, especially the young people, were asking questions about textual criticism, reliability of the Bible. Those are any topics for folks like, yeah, something happened called the Internet, yes. All of a sudden now, things that you would, you would get to, maybe in your, you know, thm, your your master's level courses, or even doctoral level courses. Now 1819, year old, 20 year olds or 50 year olds had questions about them because they were reading about some of this stuff on the internet. And because I was working on a PhD, I was actually working on a PhD in biblical theology and their New Testament scholar, people would come to me as if I'm supposed to know everything, or you know. And of course, of course, when you're studying a PhD, you're you're in a pretty narrow kind of world and very narrow kind of lane. And of course, I didn't know a lot of things, but I was, I kind of threw myself into, how do I help people with these common questions. So it wasn't as if, it wasn't as if I was saying, oh, I want to study apologetics. I kind of accidentally got there, just because of really practical things going on in my church context. And and then as I was reading and I started writing in response to Bart Ehrman, who is a is a agnostic Bible scholar. Wrote four or five New York Times bestsellers, uh, critical of the New Testament, critical of the Bible, critical of conservative Christianity. I started writing those first two books. I wrote with some senior scholars. I wrote in response. And then people said, so your apologist? And I said, Well, I guess I am. And so that, yeah, so I'm coming at this I'm coming at this area, not because I just love arguments, but really to help the church really with really practical questions. And then as I began to teach it, I realized, oh, I have some different assumptions coming at this as a pastor, also as a theologian, and trained in biblical theology. So I came with a, maybe a different set of lenses. It's not the only set of lens. It's not the it's not the only compare of lenses that that one might take in this discipline, but that's some of my vocational background and some of my kind of journey that brought me into apologetics, and in some ways, has given me a little bit different perspective than some of the dominant approaches or dominant kind of leaders in the area. That's great. Well, let's go. Let's get after it. Then I'm gonna just throw you some doozies and see how we can rapid fire just prove all of the things that that are in doubt. So here we go. Okay, you ready? How do we know that God exists? Yeah, so that word no can have different connotations. So maybe it would be better to ask the question, why do we believe God exists? Oh, don't you do that? You're you can't, you can't just change my question. I was kidding. Well, I think, I think you bring up a great point, is that one of the key tasks in apologetics is defining of terms and understanding like, Okay, you asked that question. But I think there's a question behind the question that actually is an assumption that we have to tease out and make explicit, right? Because, I mean, that's, that's part of you. So I think sometimes people get into this back and forth with folks, and you're like, Well, you have assumptions in your question. So go ahead, you, you, you go ahead and change my question. So how do we know the issue is, is there is that when we say something like, you know, we people begin to imagine that the way Christianity works is that we need to prove Christianity in the way we might prove as Augustine said this in confessions, four plus six equals 10. And Augustine, early church father, and he's writing, and he's writing about his own journey. He said I really had to get to the point where I realized this is not how this works. Yeah, we're not talking about, we do not one plus one, our way to God. Yeah. And when is Augustine writing about When? When? So people are, yeah, 397, at. This point. So he's writing right at the, you know, right right before the fifth century, okay? And, and, of course, Augustine famously said, we have to believe to understand, for most believers, God is intuitive, or what? Blaise Pascal, the 17th century Christian philosopher He called this the logic of the heart. Or I can just cite a more contemporary figure, Alvin planeta, calls this basic belief that. He says that belief in God is a basic belief, and and for So, for for many believers, they would say something like this. And I think there's validity in this so is that God just makes sense, even if, even if they haven't really worked out arguments that they they say, Well, yeah, this God makes sense to me. Now I can kind of begin to explore that. I will in just a secon

Podcast: Off the Wire with Matt Wireman Guest: Dan Creed, Business Coach and Entrepreneur Episode Overview: In this inspiring episode, Matt Wireman interviews Dan Creed, a seasoned entrepreneur and business coach with over 15 successful startup experiences, discussing business growth, personal development, and overcoming challenges. Key Timestamps and Themes: 0:00-10:00: Dan's Entrepreneurial Journey - Transition from farm life to radio industry - Founding and selling 15 successful startups - Creating groundbreaking technologies like Interactive Voice Response - Key Takeaway: Entrepreneurial success requires adaptability and innovation 10:00-20:00: Entering the Coaching World - Mentorship from business legends like Zig Ziglar and Brian Tracy - Motivation to help businesses avoid common mistakes - Developing a comprehensive coaching curriculum - Key Takeaway: Continuous learning is crucial for professional growth 20:00-30:00: Coaching Philosophy and Techniques - Importance of listening and understanding client needs - Shifting from "telling" to "asking" mode - Priority management vs. traditional time management - Key Takeaway: Effective coaching is about empowering clients, not dictating solutions 30:00-40:00: Business Challenges and Solutions - Common obstacles entrepreneurs face - Importance of clarity and goal-setting - Overcoming self-limiting beliefs - Key Takeaway: Clear vision and written goals are fundamental to success 40:00-50:00: Navigating Difficult Times - Maintaining business growth during pandemic - Creative problem-solving strategies - Focusing on opportunities instead of obstacles - Key Takeaway: Resilience and adaptability are key to business survival 50:00-60:00: Mindset and Personal Development - Survival mindset vs. possibility mindset - The power of hope and belief - Importance of surrounding yourself with positive influences - Key Takeaway: Your mindset determines your potential for success 60:00-70:00: Coaching Beyond Business - Work with prison rehabilitation programs - Reducing recidivism through goal-setting and personal development - Holistic approach to coaching and personal growth - Key Takeaway: Personal transformation is possible with the right support Contact Information: - Website: www.mastercoachdan.com - Email: [email protected] - LinkedIn: Dan Creed Recommended for: - Entrepreneurs - Business owners - Professionals seeking personal development - Anyone looking to overcome self-limiting beliefs Hashtags: #BusinessCoaching #Entrepreneurship #PersonalDevelopment #LeadershipSkills #BusinessGrowth Thank you for listening! If you want to find out more about Matt and how you can get coached toward your better self, visit www.matthewwireman.com and check out his LinkedIn and Instagram accounts @matt.wireman.

0:00 – Welcome & Introduction Matt introduces the Off the Wire Podcast, an integrated approach to mind, body, and soul Guest introduction: Bobo Beck, founder of Wisdom Calling 1:07 – How Matt & Bobo Met Their story of friendship and shared passion for faith-based leadership coaching Exploring how faith and personal growth intersect 2:48 – Bobo’s Personal Journey & Upbringing Growing up as the youngest of 6 in Atlanta Influenced by lifelong educator parents → exposure to growth mindset and learning culture Childhood entrepreneurship: started a candy business in 6th grade to buy Air Jordans 8:01 – Early Leadership Development in Church & Youth Ministry Serving in volunteer leadership roles as a teen Learning event planning, motivating peers, leading without authority 9:47 – Redefining Leadership as Influence, Not Position Leadership story: reimagining a missionary awareness program in college Bobo’s philosophy: “Leadership is influence, not title” 14:01 – Leadership, Faith & Personal Development Matt & Bobo discuss leadership as inspiring people toward a greater purpose The role of wisdom in personal development coaching 15:15 – Wisdom Coaching: Applying Ancient Wisdom Today Bobo’s focus on helping young professionals navigate career, calling, and faith Biblical wisdom offers timeless guidance for modern challenges 18:45 – Holistic Wisdom for Whole-Life Coaching Wisdom encompasses physical, emotional, relational, intellectual, and spiritual health Bobo’s coaching process: addressing sleep, fitness, mindset, friendships, and more 23:52 – Coaching Beyond Surface Goals: Addressing the Interior Life Helping clients move past external goals to focus on identity, soul care, and faith Why integration > compartmentalization for sustainable growth 31:39 – The 4 Pillars of Wisdom Knowledge Knowledge of God → foundational to wisdom Knowledge of Self → cultivating self-awareness Knowledge of Others → understanding relational dynamics Knowledge of Creation → recognizing systems, structures, environment 40:16 – Overcoming Compartmentalized Living The Western tendency toward segmented living and productivity obsession Coaching as a safe, objective space to connect the dots between life areas 49:47 – Practical Steps for Goal Achievement Focus on systems and habits over goals alone Backward design: breaking 2–3 year goals into quarterly action plans Example: growing income by $25K → mindset shifts, networking, accountability 56:56 – How to Sustain Motivation Intrinsic vs. extrinsic motivation Using environment design (e.g., laying out workout clothes) to trigger habits 1:01:43 – Balancing Ambition with Grace Embrace human limitations → avoid tying self-worth to productivity Biblical wisdom → celebrate weakness, depend on God’s strength 1:07:51 – Avoiding Productivity Idolatry You are more than your output → resist culture’s push for endless achievement 1% daily improvement (Kaizen) as a sustainable growth mindset 1:10:54 – Connect with Bobo Beck (Wisdom Calling) Website: wisdomcalling.org Instagram: @wisdomcallingnow LinkedIn: Bobo Beck 1:12:13 – Closing Prayer & Final Reflections 🌟 Key Takeaways from This Episode✅ Leadership is influence, not title → opportunities to lead are everywhere ✅ Biblical wisdom coaching integrates faith, mindset, health, and relationships ✅ Goal achievement starts with systems and habits, not willpower alone ✅ Addressing the interior life and spiritual formation leads to authentic transformation ✅ Integration over compartmentalization → live a holistic, aligned life ✅ Embrace limitations → success isn’t tied to endless output ✅ Wisdom begins with knowledge of God, self, others, and creation ✅ Focus on small daily improvements (1% better) → sustainable personal development 💬 Learn More or Connect with Bobo Beck👉 Visit wisdomcalling.org 👉 Follow on Instagram: @wisdomcallingnow 👉 Connect on LinkedIn: Bobo Beck Thank you for listening! If you want to find out more about Matt and how you can get coached toward your better self, visit www.matthewwireman.com and check out his LinkedIn and Instagram accounts @matt.wireman.

Join me as I sit down with Doug Wood to unpack his compelling transformation from a life of limitations to one of incredible success and fulfillment. Doug shares his personal journey as detailed in his book "From Church Boy to Millionaire," offering an inspirational look at how he harmonized mind, body, and soul to achieve remarkable personal and professional growth. Taking personal responsibility and intertwining it with faith, Doug narrates his climb from being in debt struggling for wellness to a state of flourishing health and financial prosperity. His story is a testament to the power of life coaching, actionable faith, and confronting fears to actualize dreams on a grander scale.   Listen in as we tackle the significance of wise counsel across the spectrum of life's challenges, from managing finances to making tough, life-altering decisions. We shed light on the journey of overcoming staggering debt, emphasizing the profound lessons learned about stewardship and the need to scrutinize advice in a world where expertise is often self-proclaimed. The discussion ventures into the concept of 'living above the line,' embracing radical ownership of our actions and choices, and the liberating power of shifting from a scarcity to an abundance mindset. Doug's narrative encourages listeners to align with the strength God provides and act in concert with it for a life rich in finances, relationships, and purpose.   In our heartfelt exchange, Doug and I reflect on the intersection of faith and finances, challenging the misconceptions that often hinder progress and discussing the potential for wealth to be a force for good when directed by purposeful generosity. We explore the implications of responsible stewardship and the impactful role of fatherhood and mentorship in society. This episode is a beacon for anyone seeking to break free from limiting beliefs and step into a life marked by abundance, responsibility, and impactful living. Thank you for listening! If you want to find out more about Matt and how you can get coached toward your better self, visit www.matthewwireman.com and check out his LinkedIn and Instagram accounts @matt.wireman.

In this second part of a two-part interview with Dan "Kill Mode" Long, Dan shares how we can move past our past. The difficulties that we experience in life can actually be the very thing God uses for us to help others. Thank you for listening! If you want to find out more about Matt and how you can get coached toward your better self, visit www.matthewwireman.com and check out his LinkedIn and Instagram accounts @matt.wireman.

00:00 Introduction and Background 03:00 Growing Up in Turmoil 11:41 The Impact of Divorce 20:10 Moving Forward and Making Choices 28:11 Negative Coping Mechanisms 37:48 Recognizing the Need for Change 42:09 Learning from Others' Mistakes 43:37 Making a Decision for Change 45:03 Using Distractions to Cover Up Pain 45:29 The Turning Point: A Near-Death Experience     Off the Wire (00:10) Welcome back to another episode of Off the Wire. And I have the privilege of having my coach, Kill Mode, Dan Long, on this podcast. And I am privileged because Dan has invested a ton in me as a friend, as a mentor, as a coach, to be able to make my life better, to be able to do the things, the dreams that I have and the things I've been trying to execute on in my own life.   And as you know, in this podcast, Off the Wire, I'm trying to link together both what we believe about God and the life of faith, and then how that applies to our life so that it's not just, hey, I believe in God, but it has nothing to do with the here and now in our physical bodies. And a lot of times we can differentiate between what we do in our physical bodies from what we do in our spiritual lives. But what we're gonna be talking about today with Dan, because he has been a fitness entrepreneur over 20 years, is that right, Dan? I mean, how long have you been doing it? Well, I've been really dedicated. First of all, thank you so much for having me on here, Matt. I am very blessed and for everybody listening, please, if we give you some value today, give Matt some love back to this podcast because that's what this is really all about. It's about you, it's about us spending time, sharing time, and literally dumping the value into you guys that we possibly can give you because God gave us our gifts and it's our choice and it's our job to actually open those gifts and share them with the world. And that's what our goal is today. And so thank you so much for having me today, Matt. I mean, I am literally blessed to be on this podcast with you today and I am blessed to share time. And so getting into personal training and not only that, but just health and fitness. I mean, I've been, I have been dedicated to the health and fitness space since the age of 20 years old. So everybody knows I'm now 50.   And so I've been doing this for a little over 30 years. Now, as far as dedicated and full time, like literally changing people's lives and impacting people globally, yeah, it's been a good 20 years, but putting it in a business realm, it's been since 2009. Like 2009 is really when I went all in and realized that health and fitness is my 100% passion. Not only do...   I love helping people like yourself and other people in the world that I've been blessed to be able to be a part of your lives. It's also something for me to be able to share these gifts that God gave me because I've gone through a lot of turmoil. There's been a lot of things that have gotten me to this point. It didn't just happen. It was something that, you know, everybody's like, well, how do I find my passion? You know, how do I really hone in on what I should be doing and what God thinks I should be doing? And, you know, this is all, honestly, I believe in God's messengers.   And so, you know, I believe people come to you and they tell you what you're really great at. They tell you what you should be doing more of, and you should be   paying attention to that. And mine just happened to be health and fitness. One of those things was that coaching was another thing because I love people. I'm a people person. If you've ever met me, I may look intimidating from a distance, but once you talk to me, you'll realize that I'm a good dude. I really do care.   and I'm here for you, you know, and if I have anything that I can help lift you up and or give you any positivity or give you any type of a blueprint that can help you get to where you want to go, you can bet your bottom dollar. I will do that. And that's really what it's all about for me, Matt. So, you know, I've been in this game for a little while now and I got a lot more to go everybody. Listen, I'm 50. This is a short life. Wouldn't you agree, Matt? In a short life like it's not really that long.   We're on the downhill now according to the timeline of history, right? Like I just turned 45 a couple days ago and we're on the down swing now, according to everything. But I think in a lot of ways, you know, many good things that have happened and a lot of the people that have blessed the world have done that on the back half of their life. You know, as you think about all of the, you know, everybody that...   I can think of right now, it takes time for you to find your calling and to step into that. It takes a lot of courage and it takes a lot of just being fed up with what you've been dealing with. And I want to double click for a minute on you mentioned that you've had your share of struggles in life. And I'd love to hear just how you came in, not just the fitness space, but just a little bit of your journey. You came from a pretty rough upbringing.   but you're probably one of the most positive people that I know. What in the world happened to where you're not falling into that vein of doing what has always been done around you? Because so many people that I talk to, they live their lives out of habit and out of not thinking about what they're actually doing, and they just pick up the habits that they were taught over time. So what clicked for you? What snapped? What was the point where you're like,   This is not going to be true of Dan Long. This may have been true for other people that I've grown up with, but not me. Can you walk us through that a little bit? Sure. So everyone knows, I'm 50 years old. I have an amazing wife of 16 years, married 13 years now. She's my Greek princess. As you can tell, if you're watching this right now, you can tell this is the Parthenon here in Greece where I've taken my whole family. We've been multiple times. I'm so blessed to have my wife. She is the rock of our family.   On top of that, I have three amazing kids. I have a stepdaughter that is 25 years old. I have my own daughter that's turning 19 next month. And then I also have my son that is from previous marriage. And all three of my kids are my kids, but they're from a previous marriage. My son's 17 turning 18 December. Now, I want everybody to know, I was never always a family man. I was never always a husband. I was never always, honestly, positive of every single moment of the day. I had to get there. I really did. I had to get there because I went through a lot of things. And my mom and dad, my father went to the Vietnam War and he went at a young age of 18 years old, they were handing him a gun and said, you're going to go fight for our country right out of high school. And my mom was more or less kind of on the standby waiting on him to come back. And my father was over there earning every award you could imagine, even including being   shot at and he's got to this day he has shrapnel in his legs that still sits in there because they didn't want to remove it because it would have caused more problems and so he had a purple heart from all that. So he spent years over there fighting right. So I grew up in a, I want to everybody understand like my mentality of when I grew up in my household was military and my father was, my father didn't have a father and so this is one of the reasons why when you get into my story here.   I've given him more of a pass a little bit. And I've also, you know, I love him no matter what, but I also know why he's the way he is. And so, you know, my father never grew up with a father figure and his dad died from leukemia at the age of four when he was four years old. And so he never really knew his dad. And so going into the war, that's already a lot, right? On a man to put you out in war at 18 years old. And then he comes back and now he knows he has to provide for the family and back then in these days, right? That's what the man did, right? He went out and provided for the family.   If the wife could stay home, she was the housewife. And that's the way it became. Well, they were obviously high school sweethearts and that's what they, they grown close together. But then they grew far apart. And I noticed this as a kid, now that I know what I know, they started growing apart because he was always gone. And this is gonna come front and forward in the future of why I'm where I'm at today. But my father was, he was always really good at what he did and he really wanted to serve. And so he decided to go in the police academy.   and he decided to become a police officer. And I remember those days. I remember him coming home. I'll never forget it. I remember him coming home and just being so excited about going into the police academy and he got accepted. And this was a life-changing event. Matter of fact, this was right before John Lennon got shot. I remember when that happened. And so at that time, my father is like, okay, I'm gonna go do this. Well, now, so everybody understands if you have a police officer in your family or someone in your spouse,   is a police officer or anyone knows, like you are gonna get 40 hours of work, but you're gonna make all your money when you work overtime. That's the way it works, okay? And so with police officers, they entice them to work off duty shifts all the time. So I never saw my dad. I played 10 years of sports throughout school. Four and a half years of baseball, I played three years of track and field, three years of cross country and I ran cross country and I also played two years of football.   During the entire time of all of that, my father was never in the stands one time. Now, I could say that that's all his fault, or I could say that half of it's the job, the J-O-B, and half of it's because he made the decisions the way that he did. Now, he was never big into