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You know what nobody tells you about the fertility journey? That the woman doing everything right, the one who's researched every protocol, optimised every habit, and shows up perfectly every single day, is often the most stuck. This episode is different. No blackboard. No graphics. Just Monica, her eye patches, a pile of clean laundry on a semi-dirty floor, and one of the most honest conversations she's ever had on this podcast. Because the laundry isn't about the laundry. And the fertility journey isn't about the protocols. It's about the emotion underneath all of it that you've been avoiding, again and again, because feeling it is so much harder than just doing more. In this episode Monica gets raw and vulnerable about her own buffering, her own patterns, and the four stages of awareness that actually move the needle when you've already done everything right and you're still stuck. In this episode you'll discover: The four stages of awareness that create real, lasting change in your fertility journey Why awareness and understanding alone aren't enough — and what the missing action phase actually looks like Why there is no quantum leap without first sitting in the uncomfortable emotions blocking you What clean laundry on a dirty floor has to do with your fertility (seriously) Why the Type A identity you've been glorifying is contributing to the chaos in your body How changing the emotion connected to an event literally changes your cellular reality Why most people stop just before the stage that actually shifts everything Timestamps: 00:00 — Welcome to Finding Fertility 01:02 — Why Monica is folding laundry in her pyjamas and what inspired this episode 01:59 — Why she's been buffering and struggling to articulate this next phase of her work 03:28 — The knowledge is out there — why Monica's work has had to evolve beyond information 04:20 — When clients knew more than she did and what that revealed 05:18 — Observing yourself in real time — what true awareness actually looks like 06:17 — The four major stages of this work (awareness, understanding, emotion, action) 07:43 — Why most people stop before the action phase and what that costs them 08:39 — Stop adding knowledge — start calling yourself out with grace 09:34 — The clean laundry story and why the Type A identity was running the show 10:33 — How you get through what you want to change (it's not one session) 13:55 — There is no quantum leap without sitting in the fire first 14:51 — Why the people who make it look easy spent years sitting in the uncomfortable 15:22 — It's not the laundry. It's the emotion towards the laundry. 16:16 — What happens to your stories and emotions when you actually do the work 17:10 — When quantum leaps are real and when they're bypassing 18:08 — From AIP diet prison to eating lasagna again — what actually changed 19:12 — Where to start. Right now. Today. 19:36 — Closing reflection and leave a review 📖 Read the full blog post: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/fertility-burnout-the-hidden-pattern-nobody-talks-about-during-ivf-infertility Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Link to YouTube video & Blog post :: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-you-keep-repeating-the-same-fertility-struggles-even-after-doing-everything-right-infertility You're doing the yoga, protocols, inner child work & meditations. You've read every book, listened to every podcast, tried every supplement. And you're still stuck. Still not pregnant. Still wondering what the hell you're missing. This episode is for the woman who is doing everything right and still not getting the result she deserves. Monica breaks down the framework she's been living and observing for years — why knowledge alone will never be enough to shift your fertility, and why the unconscious and subconscious patterns running through every cell of your body are the real reason you keep cycling through the same loops. This isn't about adding another thing to your list. It's about finally understanding why the list isn't working. In this episode you'll discover: Why smart, high-achieving women are often the most stuck in their fertility journey The difference between collecting knowledge and actually changing your patterns Why your unconscious and subconscious beliefs live in your body, not just your mind The role of radical honesty, radical awareness, and radical responsibility in shifting your fertility Why cellular health and energetic work are not either/or — and why doing one without the other keeps you stuck What it actually means to take contradictory action and why it's the scariest and most essential step Timestamps: 00:00 — Welcome to Finding Fertility 01:02 — Why you feel stuck even when you're doing everything right 01:32 — Monica's personal story and how she started observing these patterns 04:45 — The type A burnout cycle and what finally woke Monica up 05:13 — The quick fix nobody can actually do (and why) 05:39 — Your unconscious beliefs don't live in your mind — they live in your body 07:29 — You don't need to be perfect — the real goal is enjoying your time here 07:58 — Your default frequency: where it comes from and why it was never yours 08:58 — The cycle most people stay stuck in and what keeps them looping 10:26 — Why we avoid going deeper and what that costs us 11:53 — Radical honesty, radical awareness, radical responsibility 12:53 — The danger of hyper-independence and rejecting support 13:51 — Neurons that fire together wire together — and you have decades of rewiring to do 14:48 — Your body is always fighting for you, even when it's fighting the wrong battle 15:15 — Why woo-woo work alone won't shift your human patterns 16:09 — The 3D game: why cellular health still matters alongside energetic work 17:35 — What happens when you actually sit with your subconscious instead of avoiding it 18:02 — Mind AND body — you can't energetically bypass a physical issue 18:32 — The first step: denouncing what was given to you that was never yours 19:31 — You are not on the timeline they sold you 21:56 — Closing reflection and leave a review Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Link to Youtube & Blog Post: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-you-re-still-not-pregnant-despite-doing-everything-right-infertility-failed-ivf-egg-quality In This Episode Why "doing everything right" can still keep you stuck How cellular health affects fertility and long-term health My personal IVF, miscarriage, and natural pregnancy journey Why subconscious work isn't just affirmations The hidden patterns that quietly keep you stuck How awareness—not more information—is what changes your life What if the reason you're still struggling isn't because you need more information? In this episode, I share one of the biggest shifts that's happened in my own work over the last year. After spending more than a decade teaching fertility, I've realized that knowledge alone doesn't create transformation. Most women I work with already know what to eat, what supplements to take, and what lifestyle changes they "should" be making. The real question is: Why aren't those things changing your reality? Using a simple timeline, I walk you through the way I now understand fertility, health, and life itself. We explore how your cellular health, inherited patterns, nervous system, subconscious beliefs, and identity all interact to shape the life you're living today—and why healing isn't about becoming perfect. It's about changing the direction you're moving. I also share my own fertility story, from two failed IVF cycles and recurrent pregnancy loss to eventually becoming pregnant naturally after being told my egg quality couldn't improve. More importantly, I explain why that wasn't the end of the journey. Because having the baby wasn't the biggest transformation. Becoming aware of the patterns that had been running my entire life was. 00:00 – Welcome to Finding Fertility 01:00 – Why I'm moving away from teaching and toward awareness 03:55 – My fertility story begins: what eight years of infertility taught me 05:20 – The timeline that changed everything: cellular health vs. simply getting older 08:00 – My first failed IVF and refusing to believe there was "nothing I could do" 10:30 – The fertility line: why improvement happens long before success 11:50 – Discovering immune issues, inflammation, and the gut connection 13:15 – My first pregnancy after years of infertility 15:10 – IVF success, miscarriage, and the natural pregnancy I never thought was possible 17:30 – The biggest lesson wasn't fertility—it was my subconscious patterns 19:25 – Why high-achieving women plateau despite doing everything right 21:20 – "How do I actually change?" 21:45 – Why affirmations work for some people—but not everyone 25:55 – The emotional blocks and identity patterns keeping you stuck 27:10 – "But what about women who do nothing and still get pregnant?" 29:10 – Doing vs. Being: the trap so many women never see 30:35 – Consistency creates evidence: rewiring your nervous system and subconscious 31:25 – Final thoughts Book a Fertility Breakthrough Session Today : https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation If this episode resonated with you, I'd love if you left a review. Every review helps another woman discover this work and reminds the algorithms that awareness matters just as much as information. Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Every pregnancy announcement can feel like a quiet accusation. Why can she get pregnant and I can’t. This question is not about comparison. It is about cellular health and the basic fertility line most women have never been taught. Pregnancy is not proof of health. It is proof that the body had just enough energy to cross a line. When your mitochondrial function gut health and nervous system are depleted you might still conceive but the system is borrowing from reserves. Fertility burnout IVF trauma subconscious blocks and emotional healing are rarely spoken about in the same breath as egg quality and hormone health. Yet your fertility does not live in isolation. It begins in the brain moves through the endocrine system and depends on the safety of your body. The frequency behind your effort matters. “It’s not the doing. It’s the energy behind the doing.” If you feel like you are doing everything right and it still is not working this is not about more effort. It is about awareness. About the patterns running beneath your mindset. About whether your body feels safe enough to create. Cellular health can be supported. Subconscious healing can shift your internal environment. And frequency is not something you fake. It is something you live. You are not broken. Your body is communicating. And sometimes the red zone is not punishment. It is an invitation. Egg Quality:: The Fertility Cliff: Why “It’s Your Age” Is the Most Convenient Scapegoat in Modern Medicine:: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/fertility-cliff-why-it-s-your-age-is-the-most-convenient-scapegoat-in-modern-medicine Full Transcription on the blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-she-gets-pregnant-you-can-t-ivf-infertility-the-hidden-reason-ivf-functional-medicine-are-not-enough-anymore Fertile Energetics Journal: Six Core Steps to Emotional Alignment, Cellular Support & Conscious Conception on Amazon: https://amzn.to/4trMszr Chapters: 02:26: Cellular health and the basic fertility line 04:21: Egg quality IVF and mitochondrial function 07:42: Pregnancy risks when reserves are low 11:27: Epigenetics stress and baby development 16:06: Partner energy resentment and subconscious blocks 23:54: Fertility burnout and pattern interruption 27:40: Frequency safety and emotional healing Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

“My life would still be beautiful even if I never had children.” Topics Discussed • The emotional death grip many women hold during infertility • Why fear of not having children creates nervous system tension • My personal fertility journey including failed IVF and miscarriage • The moment that shifted my relationship with motherhood • Why letting go does not mean giving up on having a child • The role of fear, identity, and control in the fertility journey • How emotional attachment can impact the body and nervous system • A powerful meditation to release fear around fertility outcomes Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be. Today’s episode is a vulnerable one because we are talking about one of the hardest truths many women on the fertility journey cannot even say out loud. What if life could still be beautiful even if you never had children? For many women struggling with infertility, the journey slowly becomes a death grip. Every decision feels like it determines your future, every month carries the weight of hope and disappointment, and life begins to revolve around one single outcome. I know this deeply because I lived it myself during my own years of infertility, failed IVF cycles, and miscarriage. In this episode I share the quiet moment that shifted everything for me. A realization that my life would still have meaning even if motherhood never happened. Not because I stopped wanting a family, but because loosening that grip allowed my body and mind to finally breathe again. We also walk through a powerful meditation inspired by a Psych-K balance that explores both the best case and worst case life scenarios without children. Facing those fears can release the emotional tension that keeps so many women stuck in overdoing, overthinking, and constant urgency on their fertility journey. “When your entire life revolves around fertility, you quietly enter what I call infertility hell.” 02:51 The death grip many women hold during infertility 04:17 How control patterns followed me into motherhood and business 05:13 The quiet moment that shifted my fertility journey 06:51 Why many women cannot say life would be okay without children 08:05 Releasing fear and loosening attachment to outcomes 10:02 The truth about physical healing and cellular health 11:30 Introducing the meditation inspired by birth and death balances 13:25 Preparing yourself emotionally before the meditation 17:04 Activating the thymus center 19:18 Activating the hara point 21:49 Connecting the thymus center and the hara point 24:39 Remembering when the desire for a child first began 27:54 Observing your fertility journey to the present moment 31:17 Imagining the best possible life without children 35:05 Facing the deepest fears about not having children 39:24 Returning to the present moment 43:49 Processing emotions after the meditation 45:45 Integration and emotional release after the exercise Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/hardest-truth-i-faced-during-infertility-not-having-children-how-i-let-go-to-get-pregnant-naturally Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

What This Episode Moves Through • the moment when control starts to loosen its grip without force • how overdoing slowly fades when you stop feeding it attention • the difference between doing the work & becoming the work • why nothing needing to be fixed can feel uncomfortable at first • the quiet shift from urgency into steadiness • what it feels like to live without bracing for what’s next There was a point where pushing just… stopped working. Not in a dramatic way. Not in a breakdown. Just a quiet realization that doing more wasn’t creating more. That the effort, the planning, the constant adjusting… wasn’t landing the way it used to. And for a moment, that felt like something was wrong. This episode sits inside that space. Not the part where everything clicks into place, but the part where the noise settles & you’re left standing in something unfamiliar. Something quieter. Something that doesn’t need to prove itself. It’s less about what to do next & more about what happens when there is no next step waiting. Timestamps 01:03 When there is no next step 02:03 Watching control soften over time 03:01 Creating from a different place 03:57 Expanding beyond just getting pregnant 04:24 Observing patterns without turning them into problems 05:23 The urge to rush & how it shows up 05:53 A different way of standing in your life 06:22 When pressure starts to dissolve 06:51 Letting uncertainty be enough 07:20 There is no finish line Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/what-happens-after-you-stop-trying-so-hard-to-conceive-during-ivf-infertility  Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

There was a point where doing more just stopped working. Not in a dramatic way. Not in a breakdown or a big realization. Just a quiet noticing that all the effort, all the tracking, all the trying… wasn’t creating what it was supposed to. And underneath that, something softer started to come through. Not louder. Not clearer. Just… different. This episode sits in that space. Not where something new is introduced. But where you start to see what has already shifted. Where control doesn’t grip the same way. Where urgency doesn’t run the show. Where you don’t need to force yourself back into alignment… because you can feel when you’ve left it. It’s not perfect. But it’s enough to notice. And that changes things. This conversation moves through: • The subtle shift from doing the work to living it • How control softens without effort when awareness stabilizes • The difference between discipline & embodiment • What it actually feels like to trust yourself again • Why there is no finish line, only a rhythm you return to • Letting go of the idea that something external will fix this There’s a different kind of honesty here. The kind that doesn’t ask you to try harder. The kind that doesn’t add more to your list. Just a quiet return to what’s already there. And maybe noticing… how much less effort it takes now to stay with yourself. Timestamps 00:57 Nothing new to add, only noticing what has changed 01:27 Control softening & awareness becoming steady 01:56 Coherence, surrender & embodied alignment 02:26 Moving differently without forcing it 02:54 There is no finish line, only a way of living 03:21 Consistency over the idea of a “magic fix” 03:51 Following intuition & releasing overdoing 04:21 Slipping back & finding your way again 04:49 Making this a daily way of being 05:18 Shifting from “have to” into “get to” 05:46 Supporting your body without pressure 06:13 Returning to who you are & trusting that 06:43 Closing reflection & integration Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/Why%20Letting%20Go%20of%20Control%20Feels%20So%20Uncomfortable%20but%20Necessary%20During%20Infertility%20&%20IVF Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

There was a point where slowing down didn’t feel like trust. It felt like I was falling behind. Like I was missing something. Like if I just paused for a second too long, everything would slip. But nothing slipped. What actually started happening was… space. Not loud. Not obvious. Just enough space to notice I wasn’t reacting the same way anymore. This episode sits right inside that space. Not the kind you force. Not the kind you try to create because someone told you to surrender. The kind that shows up when you stop pushing against yourself long enough to see what’s already there. And what’s already there isn’t always big. It doesn’t arrive with certainty or clarity or answers. It shows up in the smallest moments. Moments that are easy to miss if you’re still looking for something louder. This conversation moves through that. Not how to trust. But how to recognize when it’s already happening. What this episode moves through: • The subtle ways trust shows up before you’re ready to call it that • Waiting without anxiety & why that changes everything • The shift from urgency into internal timing • Choosing without fear even when nothing external has changed • Letting experience build trust instead of trying to think your way there There’s nothing to do with this one. Just noticing. Where you didn’t rush. Where you didn’t override. Where you stayed with yourself a little longer than you used to. That’s where it starts growing. Not through effort. Through repetition of being inside your own timing. And maybe the quiet part is the part that matters most. Timestamps: 00:00 Welcome to Finding Fertility 00:37 Radical responsibility & creating space 01:07 What begins to shift after weeks of slowing down 01:36 How trust actually starts to show up 02:05 The subtle signs you’re no longer reacting the same way 02:35 Noticing one moment of staying instead of rushing 03:04 Trust grows through experience not effort 03:33 Moving toward integration in week 20 04:02 Closing thoughts & reflection Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/The%20Subtle%20Shift%20From%20Anxiety%20to%20Trust%20in%20IVF%20&%20Fertility Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

What this episode moves through • The subtle ways control still shows up even when you think you’ve “done the work” • Why the mundane parts of your day hold more power than the big healing moments • The nervous system patterns built in repetition, not intensity • What it actually feels like to stop filling every quiet space • The difference between thinking about change & living inside it • How presence becomes something your body knows, not something you try to do There was a point where I stopped looking for the big moment to change everything. Not because I found it… but because I couldn’t keep chasing it. I remember thinking something must be missing. Another protocol. Another shift. Another layer I hadn’t uncovered yet. And yet nothing was actually changing in the way I thought it would. Not in the timeline I had quietly decided it should. And what I didn’t see at the time was how much of my life I was moving through without ever really being in it. This conversation starts to land there. Not in the dramatic parts of the journey. Not in the big decisions or the big healing moments. But in the places that feel almost too ordinary to matter. The parts of your day you usually rush through or fill up or try to get past. And how those exact moments are where something deeper either stays the same… or finally begins to shift. Timestamps 01:05 The reality of staying in the work over time 02:01 Bringing awareness into the mundane 03:17 Why big healing moments are not where change sticks 04:18 Presence inside ordinary life 05:17 Noticing the absence of urgency 06:12 How patterns are built in small moments 07:11 Parenting, awareness & self-compassion 07:40 Rewiring happens faster than you think 08:09 Returning to yourself in simple ways 08:35 What begins to shift without external change Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/The%20Hidden%20Pattern%20Keeping%20You%20Stuck%20in%20IVF%20&%20Fertility%20Burnout Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

“Awareness is not the same as self-monitoring.” Topics Discussed How awareness quietly turns into pressure and self-monitoring The deeply ingrained pattern of being hypercritical with yourself Why many emotional patterns are learned, not who you actually are The difference between observing and trying to fix yourself The concept of “the observer observing the observer” How judgment, shame, and blame activate the nervous system Why clean awareness creates regulation and softness in the body Letting go of the need to improve every moment you notice The internal stories that keep you stuck in “this is just who I am” Moving into a more neutral, graceful relationship with yourself Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… And this week… we go a layer deeper. Because a lot of you have done the work. You’ve slowed down. You’ve started noticing your patterns. You’re becoming aware. And instead of that bringing relief… it’s quietly turned into another thing you’re trying to get right. Watching yourself. Correcting yourself. Wondering if you’re doing it “well enough.” And I get it. I’ve lived that. But this is where things can get a little sneaky. Because awareness can very quickly turn into self-monitoring. And self-monitoring almost always turns into judgment. So instead of softening… your body tightens even more. This episode is where we shift that. Not by doing more. Not by fixing anything. But by learning how to observe yourself without adding another layer of pressure on top of everything you’re already carrying. Because the truth is… you’re not stuck because you’re doing it wrong. You’re stuck because you’re still judging yourself while you’re trying to change. And once you see that… something opens. “Judgment tightens the body. Awareness softens it.” Timestamps 00:00 Welcome and grounding into your fertility journey 01:35 How awareness turns into self-monitoring and pressure 02:29 The root of self-judgment and learned patterns 03:18 The observer observing the observer explained 04:47 Why judgment tightens the body and awareness softens it 06:12 You are the only one judging yourself Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/week-17%20Fertility%20Burnout%20&%20the%20Trap%20of%20Self-Monitoring%20Your%20Healing%20During%20IVF%20&%20Infertility Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

“You are not responsible for everything that happens… but you are responsible for how you meet it.” Topics Discussed The quiet ways control hides inside being responsible, organized, and “on top of it” How overdoing becomes identity without you even realizing it The internal pressure of time and the feeling of constantly being behind The nervous system’s attachment to urgency and why slowing down feels unsafe The difference between reacting from default patterns and responding from awareness Why radical responsibility is not blame, shame, or self-judgment The moment you start noticing yourself in real time and everything shifts How small shifts in awareness begin to change your default frequency The gap between noticing your patterns and criticizing yourself for them Letting yourself be human while still choosing something different next time “The hardest part of this journey is remembering to break the pattern.”   Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… And this week… we go there. Not the surface-level stuff. Not the “just stay positive” nonsense. We’re talking about the patterns that have been quietly running your life for years. The ones that look like responsibility. Like being on top of things. Like doing everything right. But underneath… it’s control. It’s pressure. It’s that constant hum of feeling behind. And I know this one can feel a bit confronting. Because when we start talking about radical responsibility, it can tip straight into blame if you’re not careful. That old energy of “this must be my fault.” It’s not that. It’s the moment you realize… you might not control what’s happening, but you are shaping how you meet it. And that changes everything. Because this isn’t about doing your fertility journey better. It’s about getting honest with how you’re showing up inside of it. And once you see it… you can’t unsee it. Timestamps 00:00 Welcome and grounding into the deeper fertility journey 02:06 The hidden layers of control most women don’t see 03:34 How time pressure creates urgency and tightness in the body 04:30 What radical responsibility actually means 05:55 Forgetting, looping patterns, and removing self-judgment 06:51 Why shifting patterns feels unsafe in your body Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/week-16%20IVF,%20Control%20&%20Time%20Pressure:%20Why%20You%20Still%20Feel%20Behind%20During%20Infertility Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Topics Discussed • Fertility burnout and the internal countdown • IVF trauma and rushed decision making • Subconscious blocks connected to age and timing • Nervous system responses to waiting • Emotional healing through integration not fixing • Mindset and frequency shifts through steady awareness Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… This week is not about doing more. It is about letting what you have already seen settle into your body. Over the last few weeks you have noticed how time pressure became personal. How fertility burnout was not just exhaustion but a constant internal countdown. How IVF trauma and waiting can quietly rush decisions and tighten your pace. Maybe something softened. Not perfectly. Not permanently. But enough to feel a little more space in your chest. Time is one of the loudest fears in a fertility journey. Age. Expectations. The story of I should have had this by now. And when that story runs unconsciously it shapes your mindset and frequency without you even realizing it. You start living inside the countdown. “Time pressure loses its power when it is no longer unconscious.” This week we are integrating. Not fixing. Not evaluating your progress. Not measuring how far you have come in your emotional healing. Just noticing how your body responds to waiting. Does urgency still grip the same way. Does your nervous system soften even slightly when you remember you are not behind. When you live outside the countdown even briefly something profound happens. Choices return that are not driven by fear. Presence returns. Trust returns. Not because your circumstances changed but because your relationship with time shifted. “When you stop racing the clock your system remembers how to feel safe.” This is subconscious healing in real time. The simple practice of being the ultimate observer without judgment. No labels. No performance. Just awareness repeated enough that the frequency naturally recalibrates. Next week we move into radical responsibility. Not as effort. Not as hustle. As ownership of how you meet your life. Timestamps 00:00 Welcome and settling into week 15 01:07 Letting awareness integrate instead of doing more 02:05 Time pressure age and the fear of being behind 03:03 Living outside the countdown 04:31 Reminding your body it is safe to slow down 04:59 Transition into radical responsibility If you have been holding your breath for years this episode will feel quiet. Almost too simple. And that is the point. Fertility burnout thrives on urgency. IVF trauma feeds on the countdown. This week we practice something radical. We let it soften. We let the body recalibrate. And we see what choices return when fear is no longer running the show. Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/week-15Subconscious%20Blocks%20Hidden%20in%20the%20Fear%20of%20Waiting%20During%20Infertility%20&%20IVF Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Topics Discussed Fertility burnout as nervous system time pressure not failure IVF trauma and how urgency imprints in the body Subconscious blocks around waiting and safety Emotional healing through subtle rhythm shifts Frequency changes that happen without force Radical responsibility without self blame Creating new evidence through small regulated moments Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… This week we are not fixing your fertility. We are not solving your timeline. We are looking at the quiet panic underneath it all. The fertility burnout that feels like exhaustion is often just fear dressed up as productivity. The internal clock that feels biological is usually emotional. And when you slow down enough to notice that time pressure is a story your nervous system has memorized, something softens. You are not behind. You are not late. You are not running out. What if the urgency you feel is not truth but conditioning? What if IVF trauma and subconscious blocks around time have trained your body to believe waiting is dangerous? That is the frequency we are unraveling. Not with force. Not with performance. Just awareness. “If I told you that you would have your dream family by 2028 and it was a hard guarantee, you would finally relax.” That is the gift you are practicing giving yourself. When the body no longer feels threatened by time, coherence begins. When you pause without fear, that is emotional healing in motion. And when you notice even one moment where you did not rush, that is subconscious healing happening in real time. “Your body knows how to regulate pace when it is not driven by fear.” This episode is about noticing those subtle shifts. The breath that deepens. The decision that waits. The moment you choose rest over reaction. Fertility burnout loses its grip when urgency is no longer your identity. And next week we close this chapter by asking one honest question. Has your relationship with time actually changed in your bones? Timestamps 00:00 Opening and the deeper layer beneath fertility burnout 01:32 Awareness creating space around time pressure 02:56 The magic wish and what happens when urgency dissolves 03:55 Recognizing subtle nervous system regulation shifts 04:53 Celebrating moments where waiting no longer feels dangerous 05:19 Feeling the shift in your relationship with time Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/week-14%20Fertility%20Burnout%20Time%20Pressure%20Healing%20Urgency%20at%20the%20Nervous%20System Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

Topics Discussed How time pressure reshapes fertility decision making The nervous system response behind urgency and fertility burnout IVF trauma and the fear of waiting too long Subconscious blocks around age timelines and regret The difference between relief based decisions and intuitive alignment How urgency contracts fascia nervous system and frequency Emotional healing through awareness rather than force Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… This week we are not fixing anything. We are noticing something. The quiet way time pressure starts deciding for you. Not loudly. Not dramatically. Just subtly enough that urgency begins to feel responsible and stillness starts to feel reckless. You can feel it in the body. The contraction. The narrowing. The sense that if you do not choose now you will miss your only window. Fertility burnout often does not come from doing too little. It comes from doing too much too fast because waiting feels dangerous. And sometimes what looks like decisiveness is actually relief. Relief from uncertainty. Relief from the discomfort of not knowing. “Time pressure does not just affect timing. It affects discernment.” There is a difference between intuition and urgency. Between a grounded next step and a subconscious block that whispers you are running out of time. If you have ever rushed into IVF from fear or rushed away from it from panic you know this energy. The body knows the difference even when the mind pretends it does not. “Decisions made under time pressure feel different in the body.” This episode is not about judging your past choices. It is about seeing the pace. Seeing where presence was replaced by pressure. And asking yourself one honest question. What would have happened if I had allowed more space? Next week we soften the pace. But first you get to see it. Timestamps 00:00 Welcome and the shift into week 13 01:14 How time pressure begins narrowing your choices 02:14 Relief based decisions versus clarity 03:12 The fear of waiting and rushing into IVF 04:11 How urgency affects the body and discernment 05:10 Noticing without correcting and preparing to soften pace Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/week-13When%20Time%20Pressure%20Hijacks%20Your%20Fertility%20Decisions%20During%20Infertility%20&%20IVF Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

“You are never doing something wrong. You are trying to stay safe inside uncertainty.” Topics Discussed • How fertility burnout subtly becomes identity • The nervous system response to time anxiety and perceived delay • IVF trauma and over identification with diagnosis • Self surveillance tracking and measuring progress • The disappearance of self compassion under pressure • Frequency shifts that begin with awareness not force • Subconscious healing through radical observation “When time pressure feels personal it creates self surveillance.” Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… There is a moment on this journey where time pressure stops being about the calendar and starts being about you. Your age. Your diagnosis. Your past failed IVF. Your story. And suddenly fertility burnout is not just exhaustion. It feels like identity. You are no longer navigating a season. You are carrying a label. This episode is about that shift. The quiet slide from circumstances into self surveillance. The tracking. The measuring. The way your breath shortens when you think you are behind. The way compassion disappears and the inner voice sharpens. This is not because you are broken. It is because you are trying to stay safe inside uncertainty. And that realization alone changes everything. We talk about subconscious blocks that form when IVF trauma or years of negative tests become personal proof. We talk about frequency and how tension narrows your body without you realizing it. And we talk about noticing. Not fixing. Not performing healing. Just seeing the moment the pressure moves from external to internal. Next week we look at how these identity stories quietly start dictating your choices. And once you see that… you cannot unsee it. Timestamps 00:00 Welcome and the invitation to radical responsibility 01:07 When time pressure stops being about time 02:03 Over identifying with infertility and past IVF 03:02 Self surveillance tracking and nervous system tension 04:30 Letting the body reveal where it is holding pressure 05:55 Consistency intuition and the quiet work of frequency shifts Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/week-12Frequency%20Shifts%20for%20Women%20Tired%20of%20Carrying%20Infertility Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok  🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon   Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.