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Text me your feedback. The constant barrage of terrible news can be overwhelming and exhausting. While big feelings are normal responses to what we're seeing our feeds, we also need to metabolize those feelings so they don't take up residence in our hearts and minds and prevent us from finding pathways forward.  In this guided practice, Jen takes you through an embodied and grounded practiced called Felt Sensing. Part of a broader therapeutic practice called Focusing, Felt Sensing helps you be with feelings with grounded presence so they don't overwhelm and take you out.  If you want to skip the intro, jump to 2:53 or use the chapter marker if it's supported by your app. ~ ~ ~ SMP welcomes your comments and questions at [email protected]. You can also get in touch with Jen through her website: https://www.sati.yoga Fill out this survey to help guide the direction of the show: https://airtable.com/appM7JWCQd7Q1Hwa4/pagRTiysNido3BXqF/form To support the show, consider a donation via Ko-Fi.

Text me your feedback. We're kicking off the new year with an exploration of the ways in which we can capture the energy and freshness of a new calendar year to every day moments, creating new beginnings whenever we need them. Topics include: how temporal landmarks, like a new year, pull us out of the ordinaryhow walking meditation teaches us how to start over in the present momentand we can train up the capacity to let go in order to embrace a fresh moment in mindfulness of breathing meditationWe'll also go through ways to reaffirm your values, not only as a ritual way of starting over, but also because following your values will capacitate you for the challenges head.  Resources mentioned on the show: Sign up for the newsletter: https://www.sati.yoga/letter/index.htmlVIA Virtues and Strengths: https://www.viacharacter.org/character-strengthsSchwartz's Values Wheel: http://theschwartzmodel.com/~ ~ ~ SMP welcomes your comments and questions at [email protected]. You can also get in touch with Jen through her website: https://www.sati.yoga Fill out this survey to help guide the direction of the show: https://airtable.com/appM7JWCQd7Q1Hwa4/pagRTiysNido3BXqF/form To support the show, consider a donation via Ko-Fi.

Text me your feedback. Working through dilemmas and challenges usually involves trade-offs, compromises, or imperfect third options. After all, if there was a lot of internal consensus, it wouldn't be a dilemma.  Sometimes, parts may feel bruised and disappointed, making you feel unsure about whether you made the right choice.  In this parts work practice, Jen helps you connect with your inner skeptics and naysayers where you can soothe their nerves and solicit their advice on how to move forward more confidently. Skeptics can be a well of insight for how to navigate tricky situations - in other words that can be great allies if you take the time to get to know them.  If you want to skip the intro, jump to 2:02 or use the chapter marker if it's supported by your app. ~ ~ ~ SMP welcomes your comments and questions at [email protected]. You can also get in touch with Jen through her website: https://www.sati.yoga Fill out this survey to help guide the direction of the show: https://airtable.com/appM7JWCQd7Q1Hwa4/pagRTiysNido3BXqF/form To support the show, consider a donation via Ko-Fi.

Text me your feedback. The busy holiday season is here, and that means lots of demands on our time and attention. It also means navigating tricky family gatherings with difficult people.  A common question this time of year is whether or not to engage your trollish Uncle Jerry or stand down to keep the peace.  This episode is all about how to tap into what will feel true and authentic to you, so you can walk this line confidently and on your own terms. In this episode you'll find: Perspectives on authenticity and values from psychologyInternal Family Systems (IFS)/Parts Work strategies for solving your interpersonal dilemmas Guidance from Buddhism and The Yoga Sutras~ ~ ~ SMP welcomes your comments and questions at [email protected]. You can also get in touch with Jen through her website: https://www.sati.yoga Fill out this survey to help guide the direction of the show: https://airtable.com/appM7JWCQd7Q1Hwa4/pagRTiysNido3BXqF/form To support the show, consider a donation via Ko-Fi.

Text me your feedback. Rug up and head outside for this outdoors walking meditation. Practiced by the Buddha himself, walking meditation is an antidote to restless and aching joints and can be practiced anywhere you you're already walking.  The meditation starts at 2:56 if you want to jump ahead, but assumes you're already outside and ready to go.  Halfway through the practice (~15mins), you'll be prompted to pause the recording if you want continue for longer. Just hit play again when you're about 15 minutes from your final destination.  ~ ~ ~ SMP welcomes your comments and questions at [email protected]. You can also get in touch with Jen through her website: https://www.sati.yoga Fill out this survey to help guide the direction of the show: https://airtable.com/appM7JWCQd7Q1Hwa4/pagRTiysNido3BXqF/form To support the show, consider a donation via Ko-Fi.

Text me your feedback. Jen's back from a brief hiatus to talk about how to build a sustainable spiritual/contemplative practice that can withstand the shifting demands of your time and energy. You can't really lose a practice, but circumstances change and your practice can and should change with you.  In this episode you'll find Why "class" as a construct isn't the paradigm you need to follow when crafting your personal home practiceWhat the Buddha's Raft Parable can tell us about letting your practice adapt to your situation and not the other way aroundHow to approach resistance in your practice with support from IFS Parts Work and the Four Hindrances~ ~ ~ SMP welcomes your comments and questions at [email protected]. You can also get in touch with Jen through her website: https://www.sati.yoga Fill out this survey to help guide the direction of the show: https://airtable.com/appM7JWCQd7Q1Hwa4/pagRTiysNido3BXqF/form To support the show, consider a donation via Ko-Fi.

Text me your feedback. While Jen's taking a mini-break to get her homework done, here's the second of two short practices based on research she did last summer.  If you're curious about the theory behind these yin yoga micro-practices, check out the last segment of Episode #113, where she talks about how practices like this can boost your mood by reducing tension and elevating your energy.  In this micro-practice, Jen guides three yin yoga poses  while directing your attention to the the breath. The sequence uses minimal verbal cues and several minutes of silence for each pose to help you deepen into the embodied experience.  Poses: sphinx + reclining twist on each side Suggested/Optional Props: folded blanket, blocks, small cushions  ~ ~ ~ SMP welcomes your comments and questions at [email protected]. You can also get in touch with Jen through her website: https://www.sati.yoga Fill out this survey to help guide the direction of the show: https://airtable.com/appM7JWCQd7Q1Hwa4/pagRTiysNido3BXqF/form To support the show, consider a donation via Ko-Fi.

Text me your feedback. While Jen's taking a mini-break to get her homework done, she's bringing you the first of two short practices based on research she did last summer.  If you're curious about the theory behind these yin yoga micro-practices, check out the last segment of Episode #113, where she talks about how practices like this can boost your mood by reducing tension and elevating your energy.  In this micro-practice, Jen guides three yin yoga poses  while directing your attention to the physical experience of being in the poses.  The sequence uses minimal verbal cues and several minutes of silence for each pose to help you deepen into the embodied experience.  Poses: butterfly + half butterfly on each side Suggested/Optional Props: folded blanket, blocks, small cushions  ~ ~ ~ SMP welcomes your comments and questions at [email protected]. You can also get in touch with Jen through her website: https://www.sati.yoga Fill out this survey to help guide the direction of the show: https://airtable.com/appM7JWCQd7Q1Hwa4/pagRTiysNido3BXqF/form To support the show, consider a donation via Ko-Fi.

Text me your feedback. This is an encore practice with former co-host Sarah Jane Shangraw from back in November 2019.  Developed by Tara Brach, RAIN is a technique you can use to skillfully relate to difficult emotions in life, whether they turn up in a meditation session or in daily life. The acronym — which stands for Recognize, Allow, Investigate, and Nurture — invites us to accept inner discord with an open heart.  I, Jen, wanted to share this practice as a companion to the most recent episode on Self-Compassion (#113). RAIN evolved as an approach to working with the hindrances, where the Buddha himself implored us to meet common meditation obstacles (aversion, craving, dullness, restlessness, and doubt) as inevitable and, therefore, not worthy of self-criticism. The practice of RAIN provides us with steps for letting go of self-judgement while inviting in the natural impulse to alleviate our own suffering through kindness and acceptance.  You can find Sarah Jane at https://www.sarahjaneshangraw.com/coaching.html where she offers online classes and coaching support.  ~ ~ ~ SMP welcomes your comments and questions at [email protected]. You can also get in touch with Jen through her website: https://www.sati.yoga Fill out this survey to help guide the direction of the show: https://airtable.com/appM7JWCQd7Q1Hwa4/pagRTiysNido3BXqF/form To support the show, consider a donation via Ko-Fi.

Text me your feedback. To wrap up the 4-part series on practices and teachings that nature open-heartedness, we're focusing on self-compassion.  We can be our own worst critics, but the wisdom teachings want us to remember that compassion shouldn also be directed towards ourselves. We are, after all, manifestations of the divine.  So, in this episode we look at what Buddhism, Yoga, and Taoism have to say about self-compassion (which - spoiler - isn't much!) through the lens of moderation, non-harming, and cultivating contentment. We also take a look at what modern psychology research - primarily by Dr. Kristen Neff - has to say about the benefits of self-compassion.  Jen also answers a listener question about how to get started with Buddhist practice before sharing a bit of context behind the two yin yoga micro-practices she's sharing in October.  Resources Mentioned on the Show Self-compassion.org ~ hosted by Dr. Kristen NeffSelf-compassion exercises: https://self-compassion.org/self-compassion-practices/Buddha ~ by Karen ArmstrongSiddharta ~ by Herman HesseBuddhism: A Concise Introduction ~ by Huston Smith & Philip NovakEssential Buddhism: A Complete Guide to Beliefs and Practices ~ by Jack MaquireThe Heart of the Buddha's Teachings ~ by Thich Nhat HanhBhavana Society Meditation CenterPlum Village Practice CentersPlum Village Meditation GroupsMindfulness in Plain English ~ by Bante GunaratanaDharmaseed~ ~ ~ SMP welcomes your comments and questions at [email protected]. You can also get in touch with Jen through her website: https://www.sati.yoga Fill out this survey to help guide the direction of the show: https://airtable.com/appM7JWCQd7Q1Hwa4/pagRTiysNido3BXqF/form To support the show, consider a donation via Ko-Fi.

Text me your feedback. In order to be an open-hearted, compassionate person, we first have to notice the things things that need our support. This is where mindfulness — the practice of presence — comes in. It teaches how to engage directly with what's real, rather than what we wish were true.  This month we're back to mindfulness basics with a guided practice that starts with concentration practice (samata) and then follows with insight (vipassana). The practice starts right away (no intro) and includes periods of silence (nothing wrong with your player).  ~ ~ ~ SMP welcomes your comments and questions at [email protected]. You can also get in touch with Jen through her website: https://www.sati.yoga Fill out this survey to help guide the direction of the show: https://airtable.com/appM7JWCQd7Q1Hwa4/pagRTiysNido3BXqF/form To support the show, consider a donation via Ko-Fi.

Text me your feedback. In Part 3 of the Awakening the Heart series, we're looking at why acts of kindness and service are powerful resilience-builders — possibly the exact things we need if we're to overcome so much divisiveness in our relationships and discourse.  To understand why a generous spirit is so supportive, we explore the Buddhist and Yoga concepts of dana (generosity) and seva (selfless service) and how they relate to modern psychology's hope theory (hat tip to CR Snyder).  Then Jennifer is joined by friend and colleague Laurent Goldberg to talk about her simple but brilliant Career Support Care Packages, which perfectly illustrate how generosity can restore our sense of agency and hope when everything feels so dispiriting.  Highlights include: how the Eastern philosophical traditions from India view dana and sevahow willpower and waypower fuel hopewhy helping others should be in your resistance/resilience toolkithow Lauren designed her care packages to support both sender and receiverthinking about service not as self-sacrifice but as a way to put your skills and talents toward the greater goodLinks Get in touch with Lauren Goldberg: https://laurengoldbergcoaching.com/Send a Career Support Care Package: https://laurengoldbergcoaching.com/career-support-care-packageBuilding Movement Project's Social Change Ecosystem Map: https://buildingmovement.org/our-work/movement-building/social-change-ecosystem-map/~ ~ ~ SMP welcomes your comments and questions at [email protected]. You can also get in touch with Jen through her website: https://www.sati.yoga Fill out this survey to help guide the direction of the show: https://airtable.com/appM7JWCQd7Q1Hwa4/pagRTiysNido3BXqF/form To support the show, consider a donation via Ko-Fi.

Text me your feedback. Tonglen - the practice of sending and receiving - helps us to be with hardship without falling into despair.  An explanation of the practice appears in the Lojong teachings and is associated with those who follow the path of the Bodhisattvas.  In addition to cultivating an open, spacious heart, Tonglen can help us to cultivate the paramitas - the perfections - especially generosity, loving-kindness, determination, and diligence.  The practice starts at 3:14 after a brief introduction. If your player supports chapter markers, you can skip ahead. ~ ~ ~ SMP welcomes your comments and questions at [email protected]. You can also get in touch with Jen through her website: https://www.sati.yoga Fill out this survey to help guide the direction of the show: https://airtable.com/appM7JWCQd7Q1Hwa4/pagRTiysNido3BXqF/form To support the show, consider a donation via Ko-Fi.

Text me your feedback. Continuing our series on Awakening the Heart, this month we're exploring the Buddhist path of the bodhisattva through the cultivation of bodhicitta - the awakened heart-mind that forms the foundation of compassionate living.  Drawing from Mahayana Buddhist teachings, we also take a look at Lojong (mind training), the Tibetan Buddhist contemplative practice that can be used as a powerful framework for developing genuine compassion. Highlights include: Cultivating the open-hearted attitude of enlightened ones (Bodhisattvas) Two types of BodhicittaParamitas (Perfections)Short history and details of LojongUnpacking of the First Lojong statement: Train the PreliminariesTips for working with the Lojong phrasesMentioned on the show: Judy Lief's online Lojong translation and commentary: https://judylief.com/offerings/slogans-of-atisha/Norman Fischer's "Training in Compassion: Zen Teachings on the Practice of Lojong" https://bookshop.org/p/books/training-in-compassion-zen-teachings-on-the-practice-of-lojong-norman-fischer/9663817?ean=9781611800401&next=tVIA Character Strengths & Virtues: https://www.viacharacter.org/Dalai Lama Poem "This Precious Human Life" https://mountainsangha.org/a-precious-human-life/~ ~ ~ SMP welcomes your comments and questions at [email protected]. You can also get in touch with Jen through her website: https://www.sati.yoga Fill out this survey to help guide the direction of the show: https://airtable.com/appM7JWCQd7Q1Hwa4/pagRTiysNido3BXqF/form To support the show, consider a donation via Ko-Fi.

Text me your feedback. In this variation of loving-kindness, or metta, meditation, tap into the energetic resonance of the heart to awaken loving feelings within before sending them outward.  Inspired by Taoist visualizations, Mahayana buddhist practice, and Hearth Math's quick coherence technique, generate love and good will toward yourself and others. Many studies have shown that practices like this not only feel good, but also reduce stress, increase a sense of calm, and help us avoid despair by reminding us of our shared humanity.  The practice starts at 3:52 after a brief introduction. If your player supports chapter markers, you can skip ahead. Mentioned in the introduction: Love 2.0 by Dr. Barbara Frederickson Heart Math Quick Coherence Technique~ ~ ~ SMP welcomes your comments and questions at [email protected]. You can also get in touch with Jen through her website: https://www.sati.yoga Fill out this survey to help guide the direction of the show: https://airtable.com/appM7JWCQd7Q1Hwa4/pagRTiysNido3BXqF/form To support the show, consider a donation via Ko-Fi.