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Over the last few months, we’ve focused on the topic of confidence by releasing chapters of my book, Validation Is For Parking (you can still get the confidence workbook for free by visiting https://nicolekalil.com/). Last week I read the final few pages, but we’re going to stick with that topic, because there’s not much I care more about than YOU connecting to your confidence.  In the book I share the 5 confidence derailers that are impacting women at the highest level… these are the things that are doing damage, chipping away at, and destroying our confidence. But if I were to write the book over again, People-Pleasing would be the 6th confidence derailer that’s wreaking havoc on most of our lives. So, we are re-releasing a “classic” episode we did almost a year ago… it is one of my personal favorites and it is definitely worth sharing again. Mara Glatzel, author, intuitive coach, and host of the “Needy” podcast, helps humans stop abandoning themselves and start reclaiming their humanity through embracing their needs. Because the antidote to people-pleasing is putting forward your own wants and needs The time has come for you to ask for what you need. And then expect it, first from yourself and then from others. Then advocate for it. Because you’ve always been worth it. Connect with Mara: Mara’s Book “Needy”: maraglatzel.com/book Instagram: instagram.com/maraglatzel Click here to access her “What Do You Need Right Now” quiz  Like what you heard? Please rate and review

In this episode, we cover a topic that I've been historically bad at.  Asking for help.  How do we learn to ask for help? Well, we ask for help. So I’ve invited an expert. Dr. Cynthia Bentzen-Mercer is the co-founder of Zeal of the Heel, a business executive, human capital strategist, author, and executive coach. Cynthia, along with Kimberly Rath, worked together to co-author their book “Now, Near, Next”, an essential guidebook for women to promote their skills to accelerate their careers. I’m sure each of them could have written this alone, but in the spirit of collaboration (which is a nice word we use a lot in business that basically means asking for help) they did it together. And Cynthia is here to help us get better at asking for help! I’m going to practice the learnings because action builds confidence and practice makes progress. Will you please help me increase the reach and credibility of this podcast by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify? YOUR review matters. It contributes to how our podcast gets ranked across the globe, it helps us get bigger and better guests, and it gives us feedback – which is very tough to get in any other way. Now it’s your turn to practice. Where would you benefit from asking for help, and who will you ask? The people who love and respect you WANT to help… sometimes it’s just figuring out how they can help best and having the courage to ask. Connect with Cynthia: Website: www.zealoftheheel.com  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/zealoftheheel/  FB: https://www.facebook.com/zealoftheheel  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Tnbt9zDaZc  IG: https://www.instagram.com/zealoftheheel/  Book: https://www.zealoftheheel.com/book/now-near-next  Like what you heard? Please rate and review  Thanks to our This Is Woman’s Work Sponsor: Head to https://ouraring.com/tiww - it has been the best wellness and self-discovery tool I’ve invested in. Instead of one-size-fits-all, it offers one-size-fits-YOU solutions and helps track your stress throughout the day (it also tracks your sleep, recovery, detects early signs of sickness, and can help predict your period)!

Click here to get your FREE Confidence Building Workbook or visit nicolekalil.com - this workbook will be available for FREE only thru the end of February ‘24. Each Monday I’ve been bringing a chapter of Validation Is For Parking: How Women Can Beat The Confidence Con) to life.  This week we cover the last few pages, the Final Thoughts, and I share what you can expect for our future Monday episodes. If you’ve been listening to all our VI4P episodes you just finished a book. Congratulations! I hope you enjoyed it as much as I did. And I’d greatly appreciate if you’d write a book review (or just click the 5 stars if you’re short on time): To leave a review on Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/62689458-validation-is-for-parking To leave a review on Amazon: https://geni.us/ValidationIsForParking  Like what you heard? Please rate and review on Apple Podcasts

I’m hijacking Valentine’s Day to celebrate our soulmates, specifically the ones that come in the form of friends. The older I get, the more I value friendship. I mean, these are the great love stories we should be talking about, right? And that’s what we’re going to do. I’ve invited three of my soulmates to join me on the show so we can talk about this great love – its value, what works and what doesn’t, and why we all need it.  Here’s what I know with absolute certainty, your FRIENDSHIPS matter at least as much as romantic love does. I’d argue, possibly more. Because it’s your friends that will go into the forest or the desert or wherever you might be lost and find you, and bring you home. Friends are the family you choose. Celebrate them, today on Valentine’s Day, sure. But EVERY day is better. Connect With Our Guests: Find and follow Kim Andrade, one of the very best leadership coaches I know, on LinkedIn!  For individual and organizational coaching, which includes an amazing self-awareness and development tool, you can find Lynn Casaletto and her team at Core Growth Consulting. Your premier talent partner, Forbes endorsed Claire Myers Consulting, led by the incomparable Claire Myers can also be found on LinkedIn.  Like what you heard? Please rate and review  Thanks to our This Is Woman’s Work Sponsor: Whether you are hiring your 1st employee or are looking for your 1,000th, have one role to fill or one hundred, reach out to Claire Myers Consulting! Your premier talent partner, CMC will work with you to find the next qualified candidate for your open position. They source, screen, interview, and manage the selection process for any role in the organization. Mention this podcast and get a FREE 15 minute hiring consultation call AND 10% off your first placement!

Click here to get your FREE Confidence Building Workbook or visit nicolekalil.com  Every Monday I’m bringing a chapter of Validation Is For Parking: How Women Can Beat The Confidence Con) to life!  This week we cover the final chapter, Chapter 10, which is all about the confidence con of Seeking Confidence Externally (pages 26 & 27 in the workbook), and all the ways we can begin to Build it Internally (page 36 in the workbook). Here’s what you can expect: The confidence con gets exposed for the bullshit that it is I share the “false equation” many of us are using to build confidence, and the equation that actually works We go thru 10 tips for building internal confidence that work and are sustainable  Congratulations!! If you’ve been listening to all our VI4P episodes you just finished a book! I’d greatly appreciate if you’d write a book review (or just click the 5 stars if you’re short on time): To leave a review on Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/62689458-validation-is-for-parking To leave a review on Amazon: https://geni.us/ValidationIsForParking  Like what you heard? Please rate and review

I’m releasing this solo episode for two reasons – first, I have some BIG news to share with you! Second, because I think my reaction and response to this big news will be relevant for many of you. If you’re part of my community you already know some of this – because my community always gets the good stuff, the free stuff, the funny stuff, and the important stuff FIRST. Side note, if you want to be in the know and aren’t part of my community yet, you can go to www.nicolekalil.com and download any of the free resources or drop your info under the “Join My Community” section at the bottom of my website. Or you can email me at info@nicolekalil.com and we’ll get you added. We have a couple of big opportunities coming, including the chance to BE a guest on our show – which we’ll communicate first, and in some cases only with my community. You’ll have to tune in to hear all about my big news! Like what you heard? Please rate and review  Thanks to our This Is Woman’s Work Sponsors: Get your Oura Ring at https://ouraring.com/tiww - it has been the best wellness and self-discovery tool I’ve invested in. Instead of one-size-fits-all, it offers one-size-fits-YOU solutions and helps track your stress throughout the day (it also tracks your sleep, recovery, detects early signs of sickness, and can help predict your period)!

Click here to get your FREE Confidence Building Workbook or visit http://eepurl.com/h_moXr  Every Monday I’m bringing a chapter of Validation Is For Parking: How Women Can Beat The Confidence Con) to life!  This week we go through Chapter 9 on Comparison & Judgment (pages 21-23 in the workbook) and Choosing Confidence (pages 33-34 in the workbook).  Here’s what you can expect: I acknowledge how easy it is to fall into the comparison trap and how judgment is its trusty sidekick Using social media as an example, I talk about how it’s the equivalent of mental junk food, and how it’s hurting our confidence The antidote to comparison and judgment gets revealed - it’s simple, but will require practice! I share 4 tips for choosing confidence that works for me and many, many others, including creating your own Recovery Plan (pages 37 - 40 in the workbook). For a FREE guide to design your own Recovery Plan, visit https://nicolekalil.com/designing-your-recovery-plan Like what you heard? Please rate and review

On this episode we discuss what I believe to be the common denominator of success. The thing that all the people who make it big have in common. What do you think that is? Hard work? Talent? Passion or great connections? I believe it’s this: They are RESILIENT. Which, for most of us, is a skill we get to build. Here to help us do just that is Erika Rothenberger. She uses her degree in Civil Engineering and Masters in Business Administration in her full-time career as Director of Performance Systems for the large national utility contractor, Henkels & McCoy. She runs two female empowerment networking groups in her community, is the host of the “Grit,Grace & Glitz” podcast, and is a captivating keynote speaker. So she’s busy, but I need you to hear me – she’s resilient.  As she shares, resilience is less about sucking it up or muscling your way through it, and more about adapting, learning, growing and recovering well. It’s about bending, but not breaking. Like what you heard? Please rate and review  Connect with Erika Rothenberger: Website: https://www.erikarothenberger.com/ Erika’s speaker reel:  https://vimeo.com/900147226. Grit, Grace & Glitz podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/grit-grace-glitz-with-erika-rothenberger/id1563962436  Thanks to our This Is Woman’s Work Sponsors: For CAKES grippy, not sticky, nipple covers visit cakesbody.com and use Promo Code: TIWW to get your 10% discount!

Click here to get your FREE Confidence Building Workbook or visit http://eepurl.com/h_moXr   Every Monday I’m bringing a chapter of Validation Is For Parking: How Women Can Beat The Confidence Con) to life!  This week we go through Chapter 8 and focus on Overthinking (pages 24 & 25 in the workbook) and Action (pages 29 & 30 in the workbook).  Here’s what you can expect: Discover why overthinking is an epic waste of time Here some examples of the ways women overthink (just in case you don’t believe it’s happening) The antidote to overthinking is… ACTION 3 steps to move from worry into action Like what you heard? Please rate and review

“Owners act and think differently than employees.” While that statement certainly applies to career and business, I want to go on record in saying that it applies to life and relationships too. An ownership mindset has advantages, creates success, and transforms your life – in every aspect of it. Kerry Siggins, CEO of StoneAge, Inc. a fast-growing manufacturing and technology company, joins me to talk about ownership mindset and personal responsibility. Under Kerry’s leadership, StoneAge has experienced double-digit growth, year over year, while transitioning the company’s ownership structure to an ESOP, ensuring that all employees share in the success of the company through employee ownership. Kerry is ALSO a dynamic, sought-after speaker, a podcast host, an author, blogger, and contributor to Forbes, Entrepreneur, and other major publications. It starts with you, of course – an ownership mindset couldn’t possibly start with ANYONE else.  First, you get to model it. And like attracts like, so when you choose responsibility and ownership you’ll attract and be attracted to the people who value it (and probably lose patience for those who don’t). While there are many important mindsets, an ownership mindset tops the list! Like what you heard? Please rate and review  Connect with Kerry Siggins: Website: https://kerrysiggins.com/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerry-siggins/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kerry.siggins/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kpsiggins Thanks to our This Is Woman’s Work Sponsors: Head to zenimals.com/NICOLEMKALIL and use my code NICOLEMKALIL to save 10% off your Zenimal!  Whether you’re looking for yourself, your kid(s)/teens, as a gift for someone else - everyone will benefit from more moments of zen (and they offer discounts on bundles)!

Click here to get your FREE Confidence Building Workbook.  On this episode, I go through Chapter 7 of Validation Is For Parking: How Women Can Beat The Confidence Con), which focuses on Head Trash (which is what I call my negative thoughts) and giving yourself grace. You can dig deeper into Head Trash on pages 17-20, and Giving Yourself Grace on page 35 of our workbook! Here’s what you can expect: What we can all learn about our Head Trash from our actual trash Giving yourself grace - how to talk to yourself like someone you love A simple two-step process for practicing grace How ripples can become waves Like what you heard? Please rate and review

We’re a few weeks into the new year, so how are your resolutions going? If the answer is anything but GREAT, this episode is for you. Because there’s a huge segment of people I want to acknowledge – those who make the resolutions and then don’t follow through, for whatever reason. And my concern is less about follow through, and more about the beat up, guilt, and shame that often comes along with it. My theory as to why many of us DON’T follow through is that whatever intention/goal/or resolution that was set was probably too big of a pendulum swing. This episode is for those of you, like me, who have very little “totally figured out”.  May you find YOUR best place for your pendulum to land and may you accept and maybe appreciate all the paradoxes life brings – like less is more, commitment creates freedom, and the more you try to please everyone, the less pleased everyone will be (especially YOU). Some things may be black or white - but in most cases, we live in a world of pendulum swings and paradoxes! Like what you heard? Please rate and review  Thanks to our This Is Woman’s Work Sponsor: Take the FREE BodCon Quiz  to begin your journey to cultivating a deeper level of body confidence: https://rebrand.ly/nicolekalil