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We have hit 700 episodes of this podcast, y’all. I get goosebumps when I say that. If you would have told me in February of 2020 that I would still be doing this show, I would be so shocked. And it is because of you. When I started the show, I was still really, really deep in my healing journey, and all of the things I was teaching were because I desperately needed it. I’m not the same person that I was when I started this show. So this one is just you and me, like we’re out to coffee, and I’m telling you about this journey. Inside the Episode: Why I am the most supported I’ve ever been in my life, and what it took to finally feel worthy of supportThe four things I am really, really proud of since I launched this podcast 700 episodes agoWhat would be different if you stopped relying on motivation and just made the decision that you’re gonna show up? The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships. And please know, you’re so, so worthy of it. Want to do this work one-on-one with me? There’s only two spots left until the end of the year. This is your opportunity to finally rewire your brain, with direct coaching from me, customizing your healing journey so that you get to embody secure attachment and finally attract the kind of relationship that you deserve. Don’t keep trying to do this by yourself. You deserve support. 👉Apply for my One-on-One program here!

You cannot be authentically chosen while you’re performing a version of yourself that is designed to prevent rejection. So many of you say that yes, you want to be the main character of your life, but your actions and ways of being are not aligning with truly valuing yourself. This is not about taking a solo vacation or pretending that you don’t care about love. It means that your life is no longer organized around being wanted, around finally being chosen. You can desire partnership, you can feel it in your bones, and you can live your life as the main character now. Today, I’m doing what I wish someone had done for me: we’re talking about what it actually looks like in real life to stop waiting to be chosen and start choosing yourself. Inside the Episode: The questions you’re constantly asking yourself when you’ve made somebody else the main character of your life, and the ones I want you asking insteadHow a little thing called the pandemic forced me to build a full life I was excited about (and what happened to my podcast because of it)The conversation with Robert that could have gone horribly wrong, and why it’s what secure love actually looks like Maybe you’re like, “Dr. Morgan, I need to go deeper. Will you please hold my hand and guide me through exactly what to do?” I’ve got you. You deserve the deep work that actually changes you. Apply using the link and grab a time to speak with my team. 👉Apply for my One-on-One program here!

The goal is not to stop wanting love. The goal is to stop losing yourself while you are trying to receive it. Today we are kicking off a brand new series, your secure relationship era, and it’s all about decentering romantic love. (There’s a huge distinction between decentering and devaluing.) Somewhere along the way, you were taught that being chosen was the ultimate proof that your life mattered. So your mood depends on their attention, your confidence depends on their consistency, and your future begins to revolve around whether they choose you. This is not your fault, but you do get to decide whether you keep building your life around this pressure. This series is about how you hold on to yourself, step into that high self-worth, high self-love, and bring in the partner that you’ve always wanted. Inside the Episode: Why you can know somebody is inconsistent, maybe even incompatible, and still feel unable to let goThe deeper heartbreak that has nothing to do with them leavingThe questions to ask instead of “How do I get them to choose me?” (Some of you will be squirming.) Ready to start rewiring? You get it logically. You know in your brain that I’m right, but you don’t actually feel it. That’s why it’s so important to do this work on a deeper level. Identity Reset is my daily practice for rewiring your brain at the subconscious level, so you have the beliefs in place that support the behaviors that allow you to hold on to yourself. Start here: https://www.drmorgancoaching.co/identity-reset Ready to break this cycle? If you are so ready to break this cycle and bring in the kind of relationship you’ve always wanted, I am here for you. I just have a couple spots left to work with me 1:1 in my VIP program. Don’t wait till 2027. You will feel so much better if you get the momentum now. 👉Apply for my One-on-One program here!

What if secure love is not the absence of passion, but the absence of pain pretending to be passion? Maybe you have spent years believing that love is pain, heartbreak, unpredictability, chasing, proving. Then you find yourself in a connection that is predictable, reliable, consistent. They do what they say they’re going to do. And instead of feeling relieved, part of you might feel unsettled: wait, where are the butterflies? In this final episode of our series, Why Love Feels So Hard Right Now, we’re talking about what to do so that you do not sabotage healthy love when it finally comes to you. Inside the Episode: Why your brain might register uncertainty as chemistryThe question to stop asking in dating, and the one to ask insteadWhy secure love needs novelty, not instability (and the Chicago trip I’ll never forget) Ready to start redefining what love is? You are getting to decide who you are becoming. You’re no longer settling for the identity, the beliefs, the standards that were just handed to you. The Identity Reset is a little practice that takes 10 to 15 minutes tops per day, and it has the potential to change everything. 👉 Grab the Identity Reset today Don’t want to be dating from survival mode anymore? I have a couple of spots open to work with me for deeper, personalized support. This is where we will look at your attachment patterns and your relationship history, and uncover the identity you’ve been operating from. Awareness doesn’t actually change you. It’s about doing this work deeply enough so you can heal and embody secure attachment. I have very limited spots as we’re winding down 2026. Apply, it takes five minutes tops. Don’t make this a 2027 thing. 👉Apply for my One-on-One program here!

Sometimes the hardest relationship to get over is the one that was never actually a relationship. You weren’t officially together, you never had the DTR, but you talked with this person constantly. You were getting just enough closeness to keep you hopeful, but never enough reassurance, emotional investment, and clarity to allow you to relax. And when you try to get out, you feel ridiculous, because it wasn’t even a real relationship. I spent too much time in situationships, including one that was on again, off again for four years, so this episode is near and dear to my own heart. We’re unpacking why these connections are so hard to leave and how to actually get into the kind of relationship you really want to be in. And remember, this is not to judge yourself. This is to understand. Inside the Episode: Why you may not actually be craving the relationship at all, just the relief you feel when they finally reach outThe surprising reason situationships feel so safe when you have avoidant attachmentHow do you compete with a fantasy? Plus the clear and kind statement that finally closes the loop Ready to start? The best way to leave a situationship is to become securely attached. When I did the work, ending things was as easy as brushing my teeth, because I had changed internally. The Identity Reset is a little practice that takes 10 to 15 minutes a day, and it has the potential to change everything. You are getting to decide who you are becoming. 👉 https://www.drmorgancoaching.co/identity-reset Ready to go deeper? I do have a couple of spots open to work with me one-on-one. I can help you get to that place where your relationship decisions become easy and you’re only making space for secure, healthy relationships in your life. 👉Apply for my One-on-One program here!

You can text someone all day and know their entire childhood story, and still never feel close to them. We have more information about attachment than ever before, and somehow we’ve never been harder to reach. In this episode, I’m getting real about the emotional unavailability crisis: what emotional availability actually is, and why dating apps, social media, and even therapy speak are making it so hard to find. Here’s the part that might sting a little. Emotional unavailability doesn’t only live in the person who pulls away, and I know this because I used to be the one who swore I was the most available person in the room. Awareness is just step one, though, and I’m not leaving you stuck there. Inside the Episode: Why anxious attachment can make you just as emotionally unavailable as the person who disappears (plus the moment someone I was dating asked me, “Do you even know the real me?”)Five quiet signs you’re with someone who’s emotionally unavailable, even when they’re saying all the sweetest thingsThe one shift that changes who you attract: consistency over intensity Stuck in awareness hell? You know your patterns. You can predict exactly how the movie ends. Identity Reset is my daily practice mini-course that helps you move past knowing and start becoming the securely attached version of you, one morning at a time. Start here: https://www.drmorgancoaching.co/identity-reset Ready to go deeper with me 1:1? My VIP Coaching program is for the person who has done the therapy, read the books, and still hasn’t cracked the code on a healthy relationship. We’ll work together privately to release the old patterns and embody secure attachment for real. I take a very limited number of clients, and there’s no reason to wait until January. Apply for my One-on-One program here!

Is what you’re getting enough to grieve what you’re not? My friend Sabrina Zohar is back on the show for round three, and this time she’s bringing her brand new book along. We talk about the night she sent 173 texts (her count stopped there because her phone kept refreshing), the programming that made her believe she was too much and not enough at the same time, and the moment she lost the person she was most afraid of losing. Here’s what I love about Sabrina: she will hold your hand and call you out in the same breath. If you’ve been reading every attachment book out there and still keep picking the same unavailable person, this conversation is going to land hard. Buckle up, because Sabrina does not sugarcoat. Inside the episode: Why your brain keeps choosing the “hell it knows” over the life you actually want, and the deadlift metaphor that finally explains itThe one thing nobody wants to hear about healing, and why accepting it is what sets you freeWhat healing looks like when you’re partnered with a secure person (spoiler: you still get triggered, and that’s a good sign) Connect with Sabrina: 📖 Get her book, WHY AM I LIKE THIS?: Sabrinazohar.com/book 📱 Instagram: @sabrina.zohar 🎧 The Sabrina Zohar Show: https://sabrinazohar.com/podcast 🌐 Website: https://sabrinazohar.com/home Ready to stop knowing and start changing? Awareness was never the finish line. Identity Reset is my daily practice that helps you rewire the beliefs keeping you stuck, a few minutes at a time, so the new version of you starts to feel like home. Start here: https://www.drmorgancoaching.co/identity-reset Want me in your corner? If you’re ready for deep, personalized work, my VIP 1:1 Coaching is where we go all in on your patterns, your nervous system, and the relationship you deserve. It’s application only and spots are limited. Apply here: Apply for my One-on-One program here!

Have you ever been more devastated over someone you almost dated than someone you actually dated? Maybe it was only a few dates. Maybe it was never official. You still find yourself rereading the texts, checking their stories, and comparing everyone you meet to a relationship that never actually existed. I’ve been there, and there’s nothing wrong with you. Today we’re kicking off a brand new series on why love and dating feel so hard right now, starting with limerence and romantic obsession through an attachment lens. The truth is, you may not be obsessed with them at all. You may be obsessed with what being chosen by them would finally prove about you. Inside the Episode: Why “just enough” connection is more addictive than a real relationship, and the cycle that keeps you hookedHow limerence shows up differently for anxious and avoidant attachment (avoidants, this one might surprise you)The poem I wrote a guy on date number two, plus the questions I wish I’d asked first Ready to start becoming your secure self today? Grab the Identity Reset, my most popular practice. It’s 10 minutes a day to align with your highest and best self, with instant access that’s yours for life. I’ve done this practice since 2019, and it’s the one my clients love most. Don’t wait for January. https://www.drmorgancoaching.co/identity-reset Ready to go deeper? If you don’t want to walk into 2027 repeating the same patterns, apply to work with me 1:1 in my VIP coaching program. Spots are very limited. I would love to help you become the securely attached version of you who easily attracts the relationship you actually want. Apply for my One-on-One program here!

What if secure attachment was never something you had to earn? This episode has been on my heart for months, and I'm so glad it's finally here. So many of us walk around saying "I'm anxious" or "I'm avoidant" like it's a life sentence. But you weren't born with an insecure attachment style. You were born with an attachment system designed for secure love, and everything else was a brilliant survival strategy you picked up along the way. Today I'm sharing why healing isn't about becoming someone new. It's about coming home to who you were always meant to be. Inside the Episode: The quiet way your attachment style becomes your identity, and the lies it starts telling you about loveWhy I look at people with 40-year friendships and think, "Wow, how wealthy are you?"A client story that still gives me goosebumps, and what it proves about how far healing can really go Start Living From Your Secure Self Secure attachment isn't something you have to go out and find. It's already in you, and it grows stronger every time you practice it. Identity Reset is my daily practice mini-course that helps you rewire the old beliefs and step into your secure identity one day at a time. Start here: https://www.drmorgancoaching.co/identity-reset Work With Me 1:1 If you've got your career figured out but love still feels out of reach, and you don't want another year to slip by, I'd love to help. I have just a couple of VIP coaching spots open, and they go quickly. Let's do this work together. Apply for my One-on-One program here!

You can know exactly what a healthy relationship looks like and still find yourself sending that third text. Awareness matters, but it was never going to be enough on its own. In Pt. 1 we did the belief work, in Pt. 2 we worked with your nervous system, and today we're putting the rubber to the road with what secure attachment actually looks like in your behaviors with real human beings. If you've been beating yourself up for not changing fast enough, this episode is going to give you a whole lot more compassion and a whole lot more clarity. Here's the truth I want you to hold onto: you don't become securely attached by finding the perfect person. You co-create it by showing up differently in a relationship that has the capacity to support it. Inside the Episode: The one behavior every single client I've worked with struggles with (and why it may be quietly blocking the love you're asking for)Why support can backfire, and the simple question that changes how your partner shows up for youHow to tell the difference between an old attachment wound and a relationship that truly doesn't have capacity Start rewiring today: Identity Reset is my daily practice for becoming the securely attached version of you, one morning at a time. Short, doable, and built to fit into real life. Grab it here! Ready for 1:1 support? If you want me in your corner, walking you through the beliefs, the nervous system work, and the new behaviors in real time, apply for VIP Coaching. My team will connect with you to see if it's the right fit. Apply for my One-on-One program here!

If you still get anxious when someone pulls away, does that mean you haven't healed? "Heal your nervous system" gets thrown around constantly, and almost nobody explains what it actually means. So in Part 2 of this series, I'm breaking it down in plain language, in the context of your attachment style and your real relationships. I've spent years living in disorganized attachment, and I've helped over a thousand people become securely attached. Here's what I know: secure attachment was never about becoming permanently zen. It's something far more doable, and far more freeing. Inside the Episode: The two words that should replace "stay calm" as your healing goalWhy your partner's support might be making you feel worse (and what the research says about it)The one question to ask after you get triggered that shows you exactly how far you've come Ready to start rewiring? Identity Reset is my daily practice mini-course that helps you show up as your secure self, one morning at a time. Grab it here! Want to go deeper with me personally? My VIP 1:1 Coaching is for those who are ready for high-touch, private support to become securely attached and build the relationship you deserve. Spots are limited and application-only. Apply for my One-on-One program here!

What if the reason you keep repeating the same relationship patterns has nothing to do with willpower, and everything to do with the map your brain is still using? You know your attachment style. You can name your triggers in real time. And somehow you're still ending up in the same place with a different person. Here's what I wish someone had told me in my twenties: awareness is necessary, but awareness alone won't make you secure. Underneath every pattern is a system of beliefs your brain built to keep you safe, and in this new three-part series on what actually changes your attachment style, we're going straight at those beliefs. No toxic positivity, no "just think happy thoughts." This is the research-backed work of teaching your brain to stop using the past to predict the future. Inside the Episode: Why familiar treatment can feel more magnetic than healthy love (and the belief that kept me choosing unavailable partners for years)The simple reality-testing questions that can stop a "he hasn't texted back" spiral before it takes over your whole afternoonWhat happened on an ugly gray IKEA couch that I still think about to this day Ready to meet the securely attached version of you? Identity Reset is the exact practice I use to intentionally connect to my highest and best self. I walk you through it step by step and give you emotional regulation tools to help you stay in that version of you when life gets loud. Grab it here! Want me in your corner? If you're ready to stop doing this alone, apply for my VIP 1:1 coaching. Over four months, we'll restructure the beliefs keeping you stuck and build secure attachment that actually lasts. Apply for my One-on-One program here!

If you love yourself beautifully when you're single and then lose yourself the second you're in a relationship, this one's for you. We're wrapping up Self-Love September with the question so many of you bring to me: what does it actually look like to love yourself while you're loving someone else? I spent years focused on becoming securely attached and attracting my person, and then I had to learn that staying me inside the relationship was a whole different skill. Because two, three, even seven years in, you can look in the mirror and not recognize who's looking back. Loving yourself in a relationship is how we prevent the resentment, the self-abandonment, and those sudden "I can't do this anymore" moments before they ever start. Whether you're dating, partnered, or ready to course correct, this is your roadmap. Inside the Episode: The sneaky way so many of us ghost the most important friendship we have the moment a relationship beginsWhy your partner being disappointed with you might actually mean you're doing this rightThe one on this list that made me emotional, and why it takes the longest to master Start showing up for yourself today: Identity Reset is my daily practice mini-course to help you rewire how you see yourself from the inside out, one small, doable practice at a time. Grab the Identity Reset today! Ready for the deepest level of support? I have just two VIP 1:1 coaching spots open for October. If you're ready to feel confident, securely attached, and free from your past relational trauma (and you don't want to wait until 2027), apply using the link below. It takes five minutes, and I would love to walk this journey with you. Apply for the VIP program here!

She almost said no to the man who became her person, because he didn't check every box. This week I'm sitting down with Serena Kerrigan, author of Let's F*****g Date, to talk about the standards that almost kept her from Felix, the guy who's now her partner of four years. Serena opens up about the "deal breakers" she used to swear by, why she almost walked away from someone six years younger, and the moment she realized her real non-negotiable was never age or income, it was how he treated her. We go deep into healing, self-love, and the repetition compulsion that had her attracting the same guy over and over until she finally asked why. Serena shares the therapy work that got her there, what secure love actually felt like once she found it (hint: it's boring in the best way), and her "Mirror Mirror" practice for rebuilding self-worth one conversation at a time. If you've ever wondered whether your standards are protecting you or isolating you, this episode is your permission slip to look closer. Inside the Episode: The dating "standard" Serena had to let go of to find her personWhy the fear of being "too intimidating" is keeping the wrong men in your dating poolThe two-day text rule that tells you everything about where you stand Connect with Serena: TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@serenakerriganInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/serenakerrigan/Get the book, Let's F*****g Date Ready to do this work for yourself? Start with Identity Reset the audio training that walks you through rebuilding your self-worth from the ground up.Grab the Identity Reset today! If you're ready for real, personalized support, applications are open for Empowered. Secure. Loved. my 1:1 VIP coaching container where we rebuild your self-worth, restructure your beliefs, and get you to secure attachment. Apply for the VIP program here!

Here's the thing nobody tells you about self-love: you can do all the right behaviors and still feel empty if the beliefs underneath them are broken. I'm recording this one from a hotel room in New York, and honestly, I've been thinking about this episode all day. This is part two of our September Self-Love series, and I want to talk about something I don't think gets talked about enough, the actual beliefs that have to be there for self-love to be real and lasting, not just a phase you're in until life gets hard again. If you've ever set an intention to treat yourself better, lasted three days, and then quietly went back to old patterns, I need you to hear this. That's not a willpower problem. That's a belief problem. So today I'm walking you through the eight beliefs I consider absolutely essential, four about yourself and four about the people in your life, and what it actually looks like to live this out day to day, not just talk about it. Inside the episode: The self-esteem roller coaster I was on for over a decade, and why getting the promotion, the relationship, or the number on the scale never actually fixed how I felt about myselfThe eight core beliefs I walk every client through, including the one that quietly keeps people single without them even realizing it's the reasonWhat self-love actually looks like in your daily life, not the Instagram version, the real one If this episode stirred something up for you and you're realizing your belief system needs some rewiring, that's exactly what I built Identity Reset for. It's a short, focused audio training to help you start shifting those subconscious beliefs we talked about today. Grab the Identity Reset today! And if you're ready to do this work with me directly, I have a couple of spots open for VIP 1:1 coaching right now. This is where we rebuild your self-worth, rewrite the beliefs, and get you to secure attachment together, step by step. Apply for the VIP program here!