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What does it mean to stop being the “cool girl” and start putting yourself first? In this episode, Keltie Knight, three-time Emmy Award-winning TV personality, co-creator and host of The LadyGang, and New York Times bestselling author, joins us to talk about her new book, The F**k Them Theory: Self-Help for People Who Are Done Being the Bigger Person. We talk about the pressure women face to be easygoing, agreeable, and low-maintenance, why we often downplay our own needs to keep other people comfortable, and how to stop people-pleasing and start advocating for yourself. Keltie shares how the “cool girl” mentality shows up in dating and relationships, why you don’t have to pretend you’re okay with everything, and what it looks like to set boundaries without feeling guilty. We also get into career setbacks, rejection, heartbreak, and the moments that force you to rethink who you are and what you want. Keltie opens up about hitting rock bottom, rebuilding her confidence, and learning to see failure as data rather than a verdict on her worth. We discuss how to turn difficult experiences into motivation, why growth rarely happens in a straight line, and the importance of choosing relationships that bring peace rather than chaos. Whether you’re navigating dating, your career, or the pressure to always be the bigger person, this conversation is a reminder that you don’t have to make yourself smaller to be liked or loved. Get the book and find tour dates: fthembook.com. The F**k Them Theory is out November 24. Follow @keltie for updates! All links here (submit a Q, share your story on the pod, dating coaching & more) See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week on Cohosts for Life, we're putting each other on the spot with questions about dating advice, relationship rules, and the things we don't always see eye to eye on. We debate whether “if he wanted to, he would” is actually true, whether it's better to date someone who's needy or independent, and if timing matters more than being in love. Plus, we get into the personality traits we hope our son doesn't inherit from us, who will be the stricter parent, and a listener dilemma about whether to tell someone's fiancée that he's been reaching out to his ex. All links here (submit a Q, share your story on the pod, dating coaching & more) Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Ready to clean out your closet and make some extra cash? Download the Vinted app for free, start selling clothes you no longer wear, and keep everything you earn! 3 Million Butts Love TUSHY! Get 10% off your first bidet order with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at https://hellotushy.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEGet the smile of your dreams for under $1200 at smileset.com/seeingotherpeople See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if the things you admire in other people are actually clues about the person you want to become? In this solo episode, I’m sharing a conversation that made me think about the people who leave an impact on us, what we can learn from them, and how easy it is to overlook how far we’ve already come. Plus, what would the version of you from ten years ago think about your life today? Maybe you don’t have everything you thought you would by now, but there might be a lot the younger you would be really proud of. All links here (submit a Q, share your story on the pod, dating coaching & more) Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order.  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE 3 Million Butts Love TUSHY! Get 10% off your first bidet order with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at https://hellotushy.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We've had a LOT going on lately! This week, we're recapping our perfect babymoon, maternity photo shoot, baby shopping adventures, and the nursery furniture disaster that ended in tears. Then, we're diving into your dating and relationship questions about getting too comfortable with your partner, when playful teasing crosses the line, and whether you should shoot your shot a second time with someone you matched with on a dating app. All links here (submit a Q, share your story on the pod, dating coaching & more) Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order.  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Ready to clean out your closet and make some extra cash? Download the Vinted app for free, start selling clothes you no longer wear, and keep everything you earn! 3 Million Butts Love TUSHY! Get 10% off your first bidet order with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at https://hellotushy.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

A gentle heads-up: This episode touches on pregnancy loss and fertility struggles. We know these topics can be deeply personal and difficult, so please listen with care. A cancer diagnosis can change every part of your life, including your relationships. What happens when you're diagnosed with oral tongue cancer just three weeks after your wedding, and the trauma of treatment changes who you are and how you show up for the person you love? In this episode, Anonymous shares his experience navigating cancer, the lasting impact on his mental health, and the breakdown of his marriage. We talk about advocating for your health, the challenges of recovering from trauma, and what happens when two people are struggling in different ways. Plus, Anonymous opens up about rebuilding his life after divorce, dating again, and how his experience has changed his perspective on love and marriage. We discuss how to support someone going through a major illness, why showing up in specific ways matters, and the importance of giving both patients and caregivers grace. Through it all, Anonymous shares why he still believes in love and what it means to have someone who will help you stay afloat when life gets hard. All links here (submit a Q, share your story on the pod, dating coaching & more) Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order.  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE 3 Million Butts Love TUSHY! Get 10% off your first bidet order with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at https://hellotushy.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, we're letting a random question generator take the wheel, and let's just say things get a little personal. We're talking about whether alone time is essential in a healthy relationship, who would survive longer if we switched lives for a week, and the little things we do that drive each other absolutely crazy. We also get into some of the bigger conversations we've been having as we get closer to becoming parents, including what we're nervous might change in our marriage, how we'll navigate parenting responsibilities, and why communicating expectations matters so much. All links here (submit a Q, share your story on the pod, dating coaching & more) Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order.  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Ready to clean out your closet and make some extra cash? Download the Vinted app for free, start selling clothes you no longer wear, and keep everything you earn! 3 Million Butts Love TUSHY! Get 10% off your first bidet order with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at https://hellotushy.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if the way we experience dating and relationships has less to do with the other person and more to do with the state we’re in when we experience them? Dr. Sue Morter joins Seeing Other People to talk about how our internal state, nervous system, and relationship with ourselves can shape the way we communicate, make decisions, respond to triggers, and connect with other people. We talk about what happens when we’re operating from fear, anxiety, or the need to be chosen, and how becoming more grounded in ourselves can change the way we show up in relationships. Dr. Sue walks us through practical grounding techniques, including deep belly breathing, posture, and Mula Bandha, and explains how practicing these tools can help us get out of our heads and become more present in our bodies. We also talk about breaking patterns, changing the way we respond to difficult relationship dynamics, knowing when to stay or leave, and why the question might not be “How do I find the right person?” but “How do I become the right person for me?” Dr. Sue Morter Instagram YouTube All links here (submit a Q, share your story on the pod, dating coaching & more) Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order.  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week on Cohosts for Life, we're getting into a conversation we've been having more and more as we get closer to becoming parents: will we be sharing our baby on social media? We're talking about where we stand, the boundaries we're considering, and why it's such a complicated decision. Plus, we're catching up on pregnancy life, nesting, and the little things that make marriage entertaining. Then we're answering your listener questions, including an update from the girl who went on a date with her ex's friend, and a tough situation about what to do when you and your partner want the same future but can't seem to get on the same timeline. All links here (submit a Q, share your story on the pod, dating coaching & more) Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order.  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Ready to clean out your closet and make some extra cash? Download the Vinted app for free, start selling clothes you no longer wear, and keep everything you earn! 3 Million Butts Love TUSHY! Get 10% off your first bidet order with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at https://hellotushy.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Have you ever been so focused on whether someone likes you that you forgot to ask yourself if you even like them? In this solo episode, I’m breaking down how easy it is to confuse validation, attention, and the excitement of being chosen with actually liking someone. We’ll talk about why dating can start to feel like an audition, how to shift your focus from “Do they like me?” to “Do I like them?”, and the questions to ask yourself after a date to figure out how you really feel. All links here (submit a Q, share your story on the pod, dating coaching & more) Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order.  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Cohosts for Life is officially moving to Tuesdays! This week, we're catching up on life lately, pregnancy struggles, nursery prep, and Ilana's trip to North Carolina before diving into your listener questions. We're talking about how to keep the excitement alive in a relationship once you've settled into a routine, sharing our favorite ways to plan dates and date card days, and giving advice to a listener who's had a series of missed connections with a woman who just popped up on Hinge. Plus, a wedding etiquette update from a listener and a very real look at what happens when we try to decide what to eat for dinner. All links here (submit a Q, share your story on the pod, dating coaching & more) Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order.  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE 3 Million Butts Love TUSHY! Get 10% off your first bidet order with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at https://hellotushy.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Are you constantly thinking you should be married by now, should be over your ex, should know how you feel after a few dates, or should be further along in your life Dr. Lucette Beall joins me to break down what all of this “shoulding” actually does to our brains and how it can impact the choices we make in dating and relationships. We talk about societal timelines, learning to separate what you actually want from what you think you’re supposed to want, trusting yourself when dating, and how to stop measuring your life against everyone else’s. All links here (submit a Q, share your story on the pod, dating coaching & more) Get FREE full sized Mascara on your first purchase at Jonesroadbeauty.com with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Who keeps track of everything that needs to get done in your relationship? Ilana sits down with InvisiBILL – Anxiety Receipts founder Lisa Virginia Anderson to talk about mental load, invisible labor, and what happens when one person becomes the project manager of the relationship. They discuss why “just tell me what you need” isn't always as helpful as it sounds, how resentment builds when one person feels responsible for everything, and the signs to look for while dating that someone will actually be an equal partner. www.getinvisibill.com  All links here (submit a Q, share your story on the pod, dating coaching & more) Get FREE full sized Mascara on your first purchase at Jonesroadbeauty.com with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ilana and Jake are coming to you from a rainy weekend in the Hamptons with lots to catch up on: Ilana officially understands football, someone finally offered her a subway seat at six and a half months pregnant, she took her glucose test, and they toured their first daycare. Then, they get into your listener questions about how to stop internalizing rejection as proof that you weren’t “enough,” whether you can really stay close friends with someone who rejected you, wedding etiquette when your ideal date is close to a family member’s wedding, and what to do when you’ve spent three years in a situationship, know he’s not your person, but still can’t bring yourself to let him go. All links here (submit a Q, share your story on the pod, dating coaching & more) Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order.  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Rejection can make you question everything about yourself. Was I too much? Not enough? Did I do something wrong? And why did they choose someone else instead of me? In this solo episode, I’m talking about why someone not choosing you doesn’t mean you weren’t good enough, how to stop looking to everyone else for answers, and what rejection actually does and doesn’t say about you. Plus, I’m answering your questions about compatibility, self-trust, comparison, and learning when to take feedback to heart versus when to let it go. All links here (submit a Q, share your story on the pod, dating coaching & more) Get FREE full sized Mascara on your first purchase at Jonesroadbeauty.com with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Stefanos Sifandos, relationship coach, speaker, and author of Tuned In and Turned On, joins Seeing Other People to talk about what happens after you find the right person. We dive into why a relationship isn’t the finish line, how healthy relationships can bring unresolved patterns to the surface, and how to tell the difference between something you need to work through and something your partner needs to change. We also talk about knowing yourself before dating, finding alignment in values instead of relying on a checklist, and why sometimes the best thing you can do for your dating life is pause dating altogether. Stefanos shares how to navigate conflict, communicate your needs, move through a fear of being alone, and stay connected through major life transitions. Plus, he shares the relationship advice that has stuck with him most: don’t contort yourself to impress someone else. Find Stefanos at tunedinandturnedonbook.com, stefanossifandos.com and @stefanossifandos All links here (submit a Q, share your story on the pod, dating coaching & more) Get FREE full sized Mascara on your first purchase at Jonesroadbeauty.com with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.