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Welcome to episode #291! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast: Stop Fighting Your Urges. Start Redirecting Your Desires What if freedom from porn isn't primarily about getting better at suppressing your urges, but learning to redirect your desires toward something better? We can spend so much energy trying to resist temptation, manage our triggers, and rely on willpower that we lose sight of what really matters. Willpower has its place, but lasting transformation comes from making Jesus the focus of our lives. In this episode, we explore why simply trying harder isn't enough, what we're really longing for underneath our urges, and how redirecting our focus toward Jesus can lead to deeper, lasting freedom. Key Takeaways Willpower has limits: Relying solely on self-control makes recovery dependent on our performance.Change your focus: Don't just focus on suppressing urges; focus on following Jesus.Look beneath the urges: Often we're longing for connection, acceptance, validation, and fulfillment.Replace the counterfeit: Porn promises satisfaction but cannot meet the deeper needs we're trying to fill.Pursue transformation: God wants to do more than change our behaviour; He wants to transform our hearts.Embrace community: Following Jesus also means allowing Him to lead us into honesty, vulnerability, and healthy relationships.Scriptural Highlight John 6:35 (NIV) "Then Jesus declared, 'I am the bread of life. Whoever comes to me will never go hungry, and whoever believes in me will never be thirsty.'" Jesus offers what we're ultimately longing for. Instead of spending all our energy fighting against something, we can redirect our desires toward the One who truly satisfies. Action Steps Check your focus: Are you spending more energy trying not to look at porn than intentionally pursuing Jesus?Identify the deeper longing: When an urge hits, ask yourself what you might really be looking for. Connection? Comfort? Acceptance? Escape?Redirect your energy: Spend intentional time with Jesus through prayer, Scripture, and worship.Invite others in: Take a step toward honesty and authentic community. Don't try to navigate recovery alone.Pursue something better: Build a life filled with meaningful relationships, purpose, and a growing relationship with Christ.Remember: Freedom isn't simply about becoming someone who doesn't look at porn. It's about becoming someone whose life is increasingly shaped by Jesus. Let's stop being porn-focused and start being Jesus-focused. 🎧 Subscribe to the Pure Victory Podcast!💙 Want to help others find freedom? Visit PureVictoryPodcast.com to support the mission. You are not alone—and freedom is possible. Ask a question Have a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!  Resources FamilyLife Canada: Porn Recovery Resources FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada) Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code FLCANADA for 30 days freePure Freedom Community for men 18+Book a FREE call (men)Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Podcast Host BRADEN HAFNER Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

Welcome to episode #290! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast: What's Fueling Your Porn Use? The Connection Between Loneliness & Porn What if your porn use isn't just about sexual desire, but a deeper desire for connection that isn't being met? We're living in an increasingly disconnected world. Despite having more ways to communicate than ever, genuine relationships and meaningful connection can feel harder to find. In this episode, we explore how loneliness, cultural division, and growing mistrust between men and women can create fertile ground for pornography. Porn promises a counterfeit version of intimacy, offering stimulation without vulnerability and an experience without relationship. But rather than satisfying our desire for connection, it often leaves us more isolated. Key Takeaways: Loneliness can be a significant fuel behind porn use.Digital connection isn't the same as being genuinely known and loved.Cultural division, tribalism, and contempt can damage our ability to build healthy relationships.Porn offers an illusion of intimacy but ultimately reinforces isolation.Freedom isn't just about removing porn; it's about building a life filled with healthy relationships and meaningful connection.Scripture Highlight:John 17:20–23 – Jesus' prayer for unity among His followers. God's heart is for His people to live in love, unity, and genuine connection rather than division and isolation. Action Steps: Identify the fuel: Ask yourself whether loneliness, disconnection, or frustration with relationships might be contributing to your porn use.Audit your influences: Pay attention to the voices and online content you're consuming. Are they making you more loving and Christlike, or more cynical and divisive?Pursue real connection: Reach out to a friend, invest in your marriage, find a mentor, or get involved in a healthy community.Build something better: Don't just focus on what you're removing from your life. Focus on the healthy relationships and habits you're building in its place.Remember: Porn might offer an escape from loneliness, but it will never provide the genuine connection we're created for. You weren't designed to do life alone. 🎧 Subscribe to the Pure Victory Podcast!💙 Want to help others find freedom? Visit PureVictoryPodcast.com to support the mission. You are not alone—and freedom is possible. Ask a question Have a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!  Resources FamilyLife Canada: Porn Recovery Resources FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada) Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code FLCANADA for 30 days freePure Freedom Community for men 18+Book a FREE call (men)Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Podcast Host BRADEN HAFNER Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

Welcome to episode #289! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast: The Battle of the Quick Fix: Why Porn Recovery Takes Time Want to break free from porn? Stop looking for a quick fix. We live in a world of instant results, but lasting freedom doesn't happen overnight. In this episode, Braden explores why porn recovery is a journey of ongoing transformation, not a one-time breakthrough. Discover how God's grace, consistent obedience, accountability, and a life centered on Jesus help us move toward lasting freedom. 🔑 Key Takeaways Freedom takes time. Don't confuse the lack of immediate results with a lack of progress.Grace requires participation. We can't earn God's love, but we can actively engage in the transformation He's working in us.Don't quit too soon. Accountability, community, and healthy habits take time to develop and bear fruit.Sobriety isn't the finish line. The goal isn't simply a life without porn—it's a life increasingly centered on Jesus.📖 Scriptural Highlight Philippians 2:12–13 — Work out your salvation, knowing that God is at work in you. God is the source of our transformation, and we're invited to participate in the work He's doing in us. ✅ Action Steps Check your mindset: Are you pursuing lasting transformation or just looking for a quick fix?Stay the course: Don't abandon healthy accountability, community, or recovery support just because progress feels slow.Take the next step: Identify one habit, relationship, or pattern you need to address as you pursue freedom.Keep Jesus at the center: Build a life around Him, not just a life where porn is absent.Remember: Don't just pursue a life without porn. Pursue a life increasingly full of Jesus. 🎧 Subscribe to the Pure Victory Podcast!💙 Want to help others find freedom? Visit PureVictoryPodcast.com to support the mission. You are not alone—and freedom is possible. Ask a question Have a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!  Resources FamilyLife Canada: Porn Recovery Resources FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada) Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code FLCANADA for 30 days freePure Freedom Community for men 18+Book a FREE call (men)Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Podcast Host BRADEN HAFNER Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

Welcome to episode #288! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast: What Does It Mean to Expose Your Porn Addiction? Finding Freedom Through Honesty Hiding keeps us stuck. Bringing our struggles into the light opens the door to freedom. Porn addiction thrives in secrecy, shame, and isolation. But what does it really mean to expose your sin? In this episode, we explore three essential steps toward freedom: confessing honestly to God, telling a trusted person the whole truth, and committing to healthy community. Discover why vague confessions and staggered disclosure can keep us trapped, and how God's grace, accountability, and meaningful relationships help us move toward lasting change. Key Takeaways Confess to God: Stop hiding and receive His forgiveness and grace.Tell the whole truth: Move beyond vague language and partial confessions.Choose wisely: Find a trusted, mature person who offers both grace and truth.Commit to community: Address the patterns and blind spots behind your behavior, not just the behavior itself.Scriptural Highlight “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.” — James 5:16 (NIV) Your Action Steps Ask yourself: Am I being completely honest with God?Identify one trusted person who can help you walk in the light.Take one step toward honest disclosure and ongoing recovery community.Remember: You don't have to fight alone. Freedom begins when you stop hiding and start walking in the light. Episode to learn how to properly disclose:83. Husbands: Here's What To Tell Your Wife 🎧 Subscribe to the Pure Victory Podcast!💙 Want to help others find freedom? Visit PureVictoryPodcast.com to support the mission. You are not alone—and freedom is possible. Ask a question Have a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!  Resources FamilyLife Canada: Porn Recovery Resources FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada) Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code FLCANADA for 30 days freePure Freedom Community for men 18+Book a FREE call (men)Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Podcast Host BRADEN HAFNER Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

Welcome to episode #287! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast: When Porn Comes Looking for You Porn isn't just something people seek out anymore—it can show up when you least expect it. From social media algorithms to sexualized content online, today's digital world makes it easier than ever to be pulled toward pornography. So how do we protect our freedom in a world that constantly competes for our attention? In this episode, we explore how the digital landscape has changed, why young people are especially vulnerable, and how awareness, healthy boundaries, and real connection can help us stand firm. Key Takeaways Recognize the new landscape: Porn can find you through content you never intended to watch.Understand the pull: Algorithms can gradually normalize sexualized content and keep you scrolling.Protect the next generation: Create safe spaces for honest conversations without shame or fear.Choose intentional boundaries: Be proactive about your digital habits and what shapes your heart.Prioritize real connection: Don't let digital stimulation replace connection with God and others.Scriptural Highlight “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” — Proverbs 4:23 (NIV) Action Steps Review your social media feed and unfollow accounts that pull you toward sexualized content.Set one practical boundary around your phone use this week.If you're a parent, start an age-appropriate conversation with your kids about online content and create a safe place for them to ask questions.Remember: You may not control everything that finds you, but you can choose what you welcome into your life. 🎧 Subscribe to the Pure Victory Podcast!💙 Want to help others find freedom? Visit PureVictoryPodcast.com to support the mission. You are not alone—and freedom is possible. Ask a question Have a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!  Resources FamilyLife Canada: Porn Recovery Resources FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada) Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code FLCANADA for 30 days freePure Freedom Community for men 18+Book a FREE call (men)Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Podcast Host BRADEN HAFNER Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

Welcome to episode #286! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast: Cheap Grace: Is God’s Forgiveness Keeping You Stuck in Sin?What happens when we start using God’s grace as an excuse to stay stuck? In this episode, we unpack cheap grace vs. costly grace and what Romans 6 teaches us about following Jesus while battling sin. We look at Dietrich Bonhoeffer, Billy Graham’s encounter with Mickey Cohen, and a recent conversation involving OnlyFans creator Sophie Rain. The issue isn’t whether we struggle with sin—we all do. The question is: Are we fighting it, or have we started making peace with it? Key Takeaway: Grace doesn't give us permission to stay where we are. It invites us into a better life with Jesus. Scripture: Romans 6:1–2 Action Step: Ask yourself, “What am I rationalizing or defending in my life—and what would surrender to Jesus look like today?” Don't confuse grace with permission. Run toward Jesus, not away from Him. 🎧 Subscribe to the Pure Victory Podcast!💙 Want to help others find freedom? Visit PureVictoryPodcast.com to support the mission. You are not alone—and freedom is possible. Ask a question Have a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!  Resources FamilyLife Canada: Porn Recovery Resources FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada) Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code FLCANADA for 30 days freePure Freedom Community for men 18+Book a FREE call (men)Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Podcast Host BRADEN HAFNER Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

Welcome to episode #285! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast:Toxic Empathy: When Understanding Becomes an Excuse Understanding our past can be an important part of healing—but what happens when understanding becomes an excuse? In this episode, we explore “toxic empathy” and how it can keep us stuck by excusing destructive choices rather than calling us toward responsibility. Whether it’s pornography, infidelity, or another destructive behavior, our past may help explain why we do what we do, but it doesn't remove our responsibility for what we choose today. At the same time, taking responsibility doesn't mean living in shame. There is a difference between saying “I did something wrong” and “there is something wrong with me.” True freedom brings those two realities together: truth about our actions and grace for who we are in Christ. Key Takeaways Understanding your past can bring clarity, but it shouldn't become an excuse for your present choices.Empathy doesn't mean removing responsibility.Shame says, “Something is wrong with me.” Responsibility says, “What I did was wrong, and I'm willing to own it.”Healing often means facing the consequences of our choices rather than trying to avoid them.God's grace doesn't require us to pretend our actions weren't wrong—it allows us to bring them into the light and experience redemption.Scriptural Highlight John 8:36 — “So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.” Freedom isn't found by denying what we've done or allowing shame to define us. It's found by stepping into the light, taking ownership, receiving God's grace, and allowing Him to lead us toward change. Action Steps 1. Understand your story.Ask: What experiences, wounds, or circumstances have contributed to where I am today? 2. Take ownership.Ask: What do I need to own right now? Where have I made choices or crossed a line? 3. Consider the impact.Ask: Who has my behavior hurt, and what responsibility do I have toward them? 4. Step into the light.Instead of hiding behind shame or excuses, identify one person or one practical step that can help you move toward honesty, accountability, and freedom. 🎧 Subscribe to the Pure Victory Podcast!💙 Want to help others find freedom? Visit PureVictoryPodcast.com to support the mission. You are not alone—and freedom is possible. Ask a question Have a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!  Resources FamilyLife Canada: Porn Recovery Resources FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada) Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code FLCANADA for 30 days freePure Freedom Community for men 18+Book a FREE call (men)Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Podcast Host BRADEN HAFNER Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

Welcome to episode #284! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast: Sobriety Isn’t Safety: Understanding Betrayal Trauma With Kristy RodriguezPorn addiction doesn’t happen in a vacuum. Its impact can reach deep into a marriage, family, and especially the heart of the person who has been betrayed. In this powerful conversation, we sit down with Kristy Rodriguez, Executive Director of Hope After Betrayal, to talk about betrayal trauma, rebuilding trust, the difference between sobriety and safety, and what genuine repentance actually looks like. Kristy shares her own story of discovering her husband's pornography addiction and affair, the devastation that followed, and how God slowly brought healing and redemption to her marriage and family. This conversation is heavy—but it’s also filled with hope. Your story is not beyond God's ability to redeem. Key Takeaways Betrayal is trauma. Understanding the wound matters because the right wound requires the right kind of care.Sobriety isn't the same as safety. Stopping the behavior is important, but rebuilding trust requires becoming a person who consistently creates safety.Regret isn't repentance. Remorse feels bad about the wound; repentance begins picking up the bricks and rebuilding what was broken.The betrayed spouse is not responsible for fixing the addiction. You aren't the cause, and you can't be the cure.Forgiveness and healing aren't the same thing. Healing takes time, intentional work, truth, community, and often professional or ministry support.Don't walk through betrayal alone. Community can be a vital part of healing.God's redemption is bigger than our wreckage. What sin has damaged does not have to have the final word.Scripture Highlight “He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted...”— Isaiah 61:1God doesn't minimize our wounds. He meets us in them—and He is able to bring restoration where we thought there was only loss. Action Steps If you're the betrayed spouse: Find safe, informed community instead of walking through this alone.Give yourself permission to heal rather than feeling pressured to “just get over it.”Focus on what you can control: your own healing, boundaries, and relationship with Jesus.Seek wise counsel when you're unsure what healthy boundaries should look like.If you've been the one causing the harm: Don't settle for simply stopping the behavior.Learn about betrayal trauma and understand the wound you've caused.Pursue genuine repentance, accountability, and deeper healing.Ask yourself: “Am I becoming a safer person, or am I simply becoming a more sober person?”For all of us:Bring your pain, questions, and brokenness to Jesus. Don't let what someone else has done—or what you've done yourself—become bigger than the redemptive power of God. Connect to Kristy and Hope after Betrayal:Hope after Betrayal 🎧 Subscribe to the Pure Victory Podcast!💙 Want to help others find freedom? Visit PureVictoryPodcast.com to support the mission. You are not alone—and freedom is possible. Ask a question Have a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!  Resources FamilyLife Canada: Porn Recovery Resources FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada) Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code FLCANADA for 30 days freePure Freedom Community for men 18+Book a FREE call (men)Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Podcast Host BRADEN HAFNER Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

Welcome to episode #283! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast: Is Porn Use Always Linked to Trauma? Is porn addiction always rooted in trauma? Not necessarily. Porn can begin with curiosity, accidental exposure, or simply having easy access to something highly stimulating. But over time, it can become something we use to escape stress, loneliness, disappointment, rejection, or other difficult emotions. In this episode, we look at the difference between trauma being the cause of our porn use and porn becoming a coping mechanism for pain. We also explore what happens when we stop hiding and start asking honest questions about what’s really going on beneath the surface. Freedom isn’t just about running away from porn—it’s about learning to run toward something better. Key Takeaways You don't have to have experienced trauma to develop a struggle with porn.Porn can become a coping mechanism for difficult emotions and life circumstances.Temporary relief isn't the same as healing.Asking “What am I trying not to feel right now?” can reveal important patterns.Hiding creates distance from God, others, and even ourselves.Bringing what we're experiencing into the light is an important part of freedom.Your story may contain pain or trauma, but it doesn't have to define your future.True freedom is about more than stopping a behavior—it's about learning to live differently and moving toward Jesus.Scriptural Highlight Genesis 3:9 — “Where are you?” God already knew where Adam and Eve were, but His question invited them out of hiding and into honesty. Sometimes we need to ask ourselves the same question:Where am I emotionally? Where am I spiritually? What am I hiding? Action Steps Look at what happens before the behavior. What were you feeling or experiencing right before you turned to porn?Ask the deeper question: “What am I trying not to feel right now?”Name the pattern without shame. Understanding your triggers isn't about beating yourself up—it's about becoming aware.Bring it into the light. Talk to God and, when appropriate, a trusted person, spouse, mentor, or counsellor.Run toward something better. Don't just focus on getting away from porn; focus on growing in connection with God, others, and yourself.🎧 Subscribe to the Pure Victory Podcast!💙 Want to help others find freedom? Visit PureVictoryPodcast.com to support the mission. You are not alone—and freedom is possible. Ask a question Have a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!  Resources FamilyLife Canada: Porn Recovery Resources FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada) Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code FLCANADA for 30 days freePure Freedom Community for men 18+Book a FREE call (men)Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Podcast Host BRADEN HAFNER Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

Welcome to episode #282! When Both Spouses Have a Story: Finding Hope After Sexual Brokenness With RJ and Melissa Whaley What happens when both spouses bring sexual brokenness into a marriage? RJ and Melissa Whaley join us to share their incredibly honest story of pornography, betrayal, recovery, rebuilding trust, and discovering that God can use even the hardest parts of our story for His glory. Their journey is a powerful reminder that recovery isn't simply about stopping a behavior. It's about learning to become healthier people, rebuilding connection, taking responsibility for our own choices, and creating a new path for our marriages and families. Most importantly, your story doesn't have to end where your struggle began. Key Takeaways Marriage doesn't automatically fix sexual brokenness—healing requires intentional work.Your pain matters, but you are also responsible for how you respond to it.Recovery isn't just about sobriety; it's about rebuilding the relationship.Trust is rebuilt through honesty, consistency, and actions that match our words.Look for the small wins—or "glimmers"—that show you are moving in a healthier direction.You can't change your spouse, but you can change how you show up.You don't have to walk this journey alone. Authentic community can make all the difference.Scripture Highlight “Choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve.” — Joshua 24:15 We have a choice in how we respond, how we show up, and what direction we take. We may not be able to control everything around us, but we can choose the next right step. Action Steps Take responsibility for your yard. Ask: What is mine to own in this situation?Look for a glimmer. Identify one area where you or your relationship is doing better than before.Choose one small change. Don't try to fix everything at once. What is one healthy step you can consistently take this week?Find community. Don't keep sexual struggles, pain, or recovery isolated. Find someone safe who can walk with you.Remember: You don't have to change perfectly. You just have to keep choosing differently—and keep moving toward Jesus. Connect to the Whaley's:Instagram: The Trail Blazing LifeRJ and Melissa's Website 🎧 Subscribe to the Pure Victory Podcast!💙 Want to help others find freedom? Visit PureVictoryPodcast.com to support the mission. You are not alone—and freedom is possible. Ask a question Have a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!  Resources FamilyLife Canada: Porn Recovery Resources FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada) Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code FLCANADA for 30 days freePure Freedom Community for men 18+Book a FREE call (men)Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Podcast Host BRADEN HAFNER Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

Welcome to episode #281! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast: The Battlefield Has Changed: Are You Prepared? The landscape of pornography has changed dramatically. What once required a magazine or a computer can now be accessed instantly—and emerging technologies like AI are making pornography increasingly personalized, interactive, and harder to recognize for what it really is. But awareness isn’t meant to create fear. It’s meant to prepare us. In this episode, Braden looks at how the “battlefield” has shifted and why understanding what we’re up against matters if we want to walk in freedom. More importantly, we’re reminded that while the world around us may be changing, God hasn’t changed—and His power is greater than anything coming our way. Key Takeaways The pornography landscape is constantly evolving, and awareness helps us prepare rather than panic.AI and personalized, interactive content create new challenges that can blur the lines between fantasy, relationships, and reality.Pornography doesn’t just affect what we see—it can shape what we believe about sex, intimacy, relationships, and ourselves.We need more than “don’t look at porn.” We need to be discipled in what is true, good, noble, and healthy.Freedom grows through honesty, community, awareness, and a deeper relationship with Jesus.The battlefield may be changing, but God is bigger than the battle.📖 Scriptural Highlight “Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.” — 1 Peter 5:8Being alert doesn’t mean living in fear. It means knowing what we’re facing, staying awake, and trusting God as we walk forward. This Week’s Action Steps Take inventory: Are there new technologies, apps, or habits pulling you closer to pornography?Get honest: Talk with a trusted, godly person about what you’re actually battling.Replace the lie: Ask yourself, What is pornography teaching me about sex and intimacy—and what does God say instead?Stay awake: Don’t become obsessed with the darkness, but don’t be unaware of it either.Lean into Jesus: Freedom isn’t ultimately found in better strategies—it’s found in becoming more deeply rooted in Christ.🎧 Subscribe to the Pure Victory Podcast!💙 Want to help others find freedom? Visit PureVictoryPodcast.com to support the mission. You are not alone—and freedom is possible. Ask a question Have a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!  Resources FamilyLife Canada: Porn Recovery Resources FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada) Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code FLCANADA for 30 days freePure Freedom Community for men 18+Book a FREE call (men)Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Podcast Host BRADEN HAFNER Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

Welcome to episode #280! When Your Body Is Trying to Tell You Something with Dr.Dave Janvier What if the urge to look at porn isn’t always about sex? In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Dave Janvier, a clinical counselor and certified sex therapist, to explore embodiment—learning to recognize what’s happening inside our bodies, emotions, and nervous systems. Dave explains why simply trying to “think” our way out of addiction often isn’t enough. Sometimes the craving we experience is pointing to something deeper: loneliness, stress, grief, disconnection, or an unmet need for relationship and connection. Rather than running from uncomfortable feelings, we can learn to slow down, notice what’s happening in our bodies, and respond with wisdom instead of automatically reaching for an escape. And perhaps most importantly, we discover how this connects with our relationship with God. God doesn't just want us to know about Him—He wants us to experience His presence, love, grace, and acceptance. Key Takeaways Awareness creates space for choice. Learning to recognize physical sensations and emotions earlier can help us respond before we're overwhelmed.Porn can be a symptom, not the root. Sexual urges may sometimes mask deeper needs such as loneliness, grief, stress, or a desire for connection.You can't heal what you continually avoid. Instead of immediately numbing uncomfortable emotions, learn to notice them and sit with them in a grounded way.Our bodies matter. God created us as whole people—body, mind, emotions, relationships, and spirit.God is present in the struggle. Sexual brokenness doesn't mean we have to hide from God. His presence meets us with compassion, grace, and truth.Scriptural Highlight “For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses...” — Hebrews 4:15Jesus understands what it means to live in a human body, experience emotion, face temptation, and experience suffering. We don't have to hide the difficult parts of ourselves from Him. This Week's Action Steps Pause and check in. A few times throughout the day, stop and ask: What am I noticing in my body right now? What am I feeling?Don't immediately escape the feeling. When a craving or difficult emotion shows up, slow down and breathe before deciding what to do.Ask what's underneath. When you experience an urge to act out, ask: What am I really longing for right now? Connection? Comfort? Rest? Acceptance?Bring it to God. Instead of hiding when you're struggling, practice noticing God's presence with you right in the middle of it.Practice before the battle. Build these awareness and grounding skills when you're calm—not just when you're already triggered.Freedom isn't simply learning how to stop a behavior. Sometimes it's learning to understand what that behavior has been trying to tell you. 🎧 Subscribe to the Pure Victory Podcast!💙 Want to help others find freedom? Visit PureVictoryPodcast.com to support the mission. You are not alone—and freedom is possible. Ask a question Have a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!  Resources FamilyLife Canada: Porn Recovery Resources FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada) Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code FLCANADA for 30 days freePure Freedom Community for men 18+Book a FREE call (men)Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Podcast Host BRADEN HAFNER Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

Welcome to episode #279! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast: Myth Busters: 3 Myths That Keep People Stuck in PornWhat if some of the biggest obstacles to freedom aren't pornography itself—but the lies we've come to believe about it? In this episode of the Pure Victory Podcast, Braden unpacks three common myths revealed in a recent survey from Beyond the Porn Phenomenon. Backed by Scripture, recovery experience, and practical insight, he exposes why these beliefs keep people trapped and points listeners toward the freedom and healing Jesus offers. Freedom doesn't begin with trying harder—it begins with believing what's true. Key Takeaways Willpower alone won't defeat porn. Healing happens in the context of honesty, confession, and community—not isolation.Porn and sexual health cannot coexist. Porn rewires the brain, distorts God's design for intimacy, and leaves lasting relational damage.Porn doesn't improve your sex life—it undermines it. Healthy intimacy is built on trust, sacrifice, and covenant, not fantasy and consumption.Sobriety isn't the finish line. True freedom comes when God heals the deeper wounds beneath unwanted sexual behaviour.Scripture Highlight James 5:16"Therefore confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed." Forgiveness comes through Christ, but healing often begins when we step out of secrecy and into authentic community. Action Steps Ask yourself: Which of these myths have I believed?Share your struggle with one trusted, safe person instead of continuing to fight alone.Spend time asking God to reveal the deeper hurts or unmet needs that pornography has been covering over.Take one intentional step this week toward healing—not just sobriety.Freedom starts when lies are exposed and truth takes their place. Jesus isn't simply calling you away from pornography—He's inviting you into real intimacy, real freedom, and real healing. 🎧 Subscribe to the Pure Victory Podcast!💙 Want to help others find freedom? Visit PureVictoryPodcast.com to support the mission. You are not alone—and freedom is possible. Ask a question Have a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!  Resources FamilyLife Canada: Porn Recovery Resources FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada) Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code FLCANADA for 30 days freePure Freedom Community for men 18+Book a FREE call (men)Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Podcast Host BRADEN HAFNER Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

Welcome to episode #278! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast: AI & Relationships: How to Stay Human in a Digital World (Part 2) With Michael LeahyAI is changing the way we work, communicate, and even connect with one another. But what happens when technology begins to replace the very relationships God designed us for? In Part 2 of our conversation with Michael Leahy, we explore the growing influence of AI on marriages, families, friendships, and our relationship with God. From AI companions to digital therapy, we unpack the opportunities, the dangers, and the hope Christians have as we navigate this rapidly changing landscape. Key Takeaways Your relationship with AI matters—it's a conversation every couple and family should be having.AI is an incredible tool, but it can never replace real, embodied human relationships.Friction in relationships isn't something to avoid—it's often where growth happens.The Church has an incredible opportunity to offer hope, authentic community, and discipleship in an increasingly artificial world.As AI advances, our deepest need remains unchanged: a thriving relationship with Jesus and meaningful relationships with others.Scripture Highlight Proverbs 27:17"As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another." Real growth happens through authentic relationships—not frictionless digital ones. Action Items Ask your spouse, kids, or close friends: "What is your relationship with AI?"Evaluate whether AI is serving as a helpful tool or beginning to replace healthy human connection.Prioritize face-to-face conversations and intentional time with people this week.Deepen your relationship with Christ through prayer and Scripture before turning to technology for answers.Pray for wisdom and discernment as you navigate the opportunities and challenges AI brings.Connect to Michael Leahy:BraveHearts – Faith-based recovery, mentoring, and resources for individuals and couples pursuing freedom from sexual addiction.https://bravehearts.org Daily Disciplines™ for Sexual Integrity – A practical online recovery program designed to help men pursue lasting freedom and spiritual growth.https://bravehearts.org/daily-disciplines-for-sexual-addiction-recovery/ Porn Nation – Michael Leahy's bestselling book exploring the impact of pornography and the hope of redemption through Christ.https://www.amazon.com/Porn-Nation-Conquering-Americas-Addiction/dp/0805426797 🎧 Subscribe to the Pure Victory Podcast!💙 Want to help others find freedom? Visit PureVictoryPodcast.com to support the mission. You are not alone—and freedom is possible. Ask a question Have a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!  Resources FamilyLife Canada: Porn Recovery Resources FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada) Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code FLCANADA for 30 days freePure Freedom Community for men 18+Book a FREE call (men)Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Podcast Host BRADEN HAFNER Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

Welcome to episode #277! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast: AI, Addiction & the Future of Relationships (Part 1) With Michael Leahy Could artificial intelligence become the next major addiction crisis? AI is changing the world at an astonishing pace—but are we prepared for the impact it could have on our relationships, mental health, and recovery from pornography and sexual addiction? In Part 1 of this eye-opening conversation, Braden and Kristen sit down with Michael Leahy, founder of BraveHearts and one of the leading voices on AI's emerging impact on addiction recovery. Together they unpack the incredible promise of AI while honestly confronting its hidden dangers—including AI companions, deepfakes, and why today's technology may be creating entirely new pathways for addiction. This isn't a conversation about fear—it's a conversation about wisdom. Key Takeaways Why AI is both an incredible tool and a growing spiritual challenge.How AI companions are designed to create emotional attachment.The connection between dopamine, addiction, and frictionless relationships.Why AI-generated pornography and deepfakes raise serious concerns for recovery.Understanding AGI, ASI, and why AI development is accelerating faster than most people realize.Scripture Highlight 1 Corinthians 10:12–13 "So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don't fall! No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful..." Technology itself isn't the enemy—but we must remain alert, discerning, and dependent on Christ as new temptations emerge. Action Steps Evaluate how AI is currently influencing your daily life.Ask yourself whether technology is helping you connect with people—or replacing real relationships.Begin a conversation with your spouse, family, or accountability group about healthy AI boundaries.Pray for wisdom and discernment as technology continues to evolve.Be sure to tune in next week for Part 2 as we explore how AI is reshaping marriage, intimacy, and what hope and practical wisdom Christians need for the future. Connect to Michael Leahy: BraveHearts – Faith-based recovery, mentoring, and resources for individuals and couples pursuing freedom from sexual addiction.https://bravehearts.org Daily Disciplines™ for Sexual Integrity – A practical online recovery program designed to help men pursue lasting freedom and spiritual growth.https://bravehearts.org/daily-disciplines-for-sexual-addiction-recovery/ Porn Nation – Michael Leahy's bestselling book exploring the impact of pornography and the hope of redemption through Christ.https://www.amazon.com/Porn-Nation-Conquering-Americas-Addiction/dp/0805426797 🎧 Subscribe to the Pure Victory Podcast!💙 Want to help others find freedom? Visit PureVictoryPodcast.com to support the mission. You are not alone—and freedom is possible. Ask a question Have a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!  Resources FamilyLife Canada: Porn Recovery Resources FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada) Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code FLCANADA for 30 days freePure Freedom Community for men 18+Book a FREE call (men)Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Podcast Host BRADEN HAFNER Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com