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Welcome to episode #267! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast: Are You Overcomplicating It? The Simple Link Between Physical & Spiritual Health What if the breakthrough you’ve been chasing isn’t complicated… but simple? In this episode, we explore how easily we over-spiritualize struggles with porn, addiction, and burnout—while overlooking the physical habits that may be fueling them. From sleep and nutrition to movement and screen time, your body plays a major role in your spiritual resilience. This episode is a call back to the basics: stewarding your body as an act of worship and unlocking freedom through simple, consistent habits. 🔑 Key Takeaways Don’t skip the simple answer—sometimes the root issue isn’t deeper, just overlooked. Occam’s Razor applies to life: the simplest explanation is often the right one. Physical health impacts spiritual strength—low energy, poor habits, and fatigue increase vulnerability to temptation. Bad patterns feed bad patterns—when your body is depleted, your decisions suffer. Stewardship matters—caring for your body is a form of honoring God, not vanity. 📖 Scriptural Highlight 1 Kings 19 (Elijah’s Story) After a massive spiritual victory, Elijah crashes—exhausted, overwhelmed, and ready to give up. God’s response? Not a lecture, but rest and nourishment. Key Insight: Sometimes the most spiritual thing you can do is take care of your body. ⚡ Action Items Start with one simple shift: Go to bed earlier tonight or take a walk today. Evaluate your habits: Are sleep, food, and movement helping or hurting you? Reduce late-night screen time: Cut down on doom-scrolling before bed. Fuel your body better: Be intentional instead of reactive with meals. Move daily: You don’t need a gym—just start using your body consistently. 💬 Memorable Quotes from This Episode  “What if the thing we’ve been overcomplicating… actually has a simple answer?”  “Bad patterns feed bad patterns.”  “Sometimes the most spiritual thing you can do is take care of your body.”  “The breakthrough you’re looking for might start with how you treat your body.”🎧 Subscribe to the Pure Victory Podcast!💙 Want to help others find freedom? Visit PureVictoryPodcast.com to support the mission. You are not alone—and freedom is possible. Ask a question Have a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!  Resources FamilyLife Canada: Porn Recovery Resources FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada) Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code FLCANADA for 30 days freePure Freedom Community for men 18+Book a FREE call (men)Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Podcast Host BRADEN HAFNER Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

Welcome to episode #266! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast: Breaking the Intentions Loop: From Saying the Right Things to Living Them Ever said “never again”—only to find yourself right back in the same cycle? In this episode, we unpack the gap between good intentions and real action. It’s easy to say the right things—to God, to others, and even to ourselves—but without consistent action, those words fall flat. If you’re tired of the cycle of acting out, feeling shame, and making empty promises, this conversation will help you shift from behavior-focused striving to life-giving transformation—by learning to draw near to God and actually fill your life with something better. Key Takeaways Good intentions don’t produce freedom—consistent action does Many people get stuck in an “intentions loop”: failure → promises → no change → repeat Willpower is limited—you can’t sustain freedom on discipline alone  Real change comes through inner transformation, not behavior modification Freedom isn’t just about removing porn—it’s about filling your life with God and what is good God values the “yes” of your actions, not just the “yes” of your words Scriptural Highlight Matthew 21:28–32 Jesus shares the parable of two sons—one who says the right thing but doesn’t act, and one who resists at first but ultimately obeys. Truth: God isn’t looking for perfect words—He’s looking for lived obedience. Also: James 4:8 – “Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you.” Action Steps 1. Take one real step today Don’t just say what you’ll do—do something tangible:  Reach out to an accountability partner  Set a boundary or filter  Change an environment or routine 2. Shift your focus from “removing” to “filling”  Spend intentional, unhurried time with God  Don’t come with an agenda—just be with Him 3. Build life-giving rhythms  Community  Accountability  Healthy habits and outlets  Self-awareness and reflection 4. Stop relying on willpower alone Recognize its limits and lean into daily dependence on God 5. Be honest, not just spiritual-sounding Drop the mask. Real freedom starts with real honesty before God and others. 🎧 Subscribe to the Pure Victory Podcast!💙 Want to help others find freedom? Visit PureVictoryPodcast.com to support the mission. You are not alone—and freedom is possible. Ask a question Have a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!  Resources FamilyLife Canada: Porn Recovery Resources FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada) Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code FLCANADA for 30 days freePure Freedom Community for men 18+Book a FREE call (men)Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Podcast Host BRADEN HAFNER Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

Welcome to episode #265! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast: The Stress Trap: Why Numbing Leads to Crumbling Stress isn’t just a bad day—it’s often the doorway to destructive patterns. In this episode, we unpack how unmanaged stress can quietly erode your defenses and drive you toward numbing behaviours like pornography, scrolling, or isolation. But there’s hope. Instead of running from stress, what if you learned to face it—with Jesus at the center? This episode offers a powerful shift: from avoidance to surrender, from coping to connection, and from feeling like a victim to walking in freedom. 🔑 Key Takeaways Stress is a primary trigger for addiction—but ignoring it only makes it stronger. Numbing doesn’t solve stress—it compounds it (and often adds shame on top). Avoidance creates weakness—we never learn how to face life’s challenges with God. You are not your stress—don’t let it become your identity. Real peace isn’t found in escape, but in God’s presence.Surrender is the starting point—healthy strategies flow from there. 📖 Scriptural Highlight Matthew 11:28–30 “Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest…” Jesus doesn’t promise a stress-free life—but He offers something better: rest in the middle of it. You’re invited to stop carrying it alone. 🙌 Action Steps Pause & Identify: The next time you feel stressed, don’t ignore it—name it. Surrender It: In prayer, picture handing that stress over to Jesus. Replace the Escape: Instead of numbing out, try:  Going for a walk  Practicing deep breathing  Reaching out to a trusted friend Get Curious: Ask God, “Why am I feeling this?” (fatigue, loneliness, pressure?) Build New Patterns: Small, consistent choices will rewire how you respond to stress. 💬 Final Encouragement Stress is inevitable—but being controlled by it isn’t. When you stop running, invite Jesus in, and build your life around His presence, everything begins to shift. You don’t have to numb out anymore. You don’t have to live as a victim. You can learn to manage stress—and walk in lasting freedom. 🎧 Subscribe to the Pure Victory Podcast!💙 Want to help others find freedom? Visit PureVictoryPodcast.com to support the mission. You are not alone—and freedom is possible. Ask a question Have a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!  Resources FamilyLife Canada: Porn Recovery Resources FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada) Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code FLCANADA for 30 days freePure Freedom Community for men 18+Book a FREE call (men)Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Podcast Host BRADEN HAFNER Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

Welcome to episode #264! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast: Tough Topic Series- Should I Tell Them? Navigating Porn Use in Dating This week kicks off a brand-new Tough Topics series, diving into real, honest questions around porn recovery and relationships. Today’s conversation tackles a big one: Should you tell someone you’re dating about your porn use? The answer isn’t just yes or no—it depends on where you’re at in your journey. This episode walks through how to assess your readiness for dating, why secrecy destroys intimacy, and how to approach disclosure with wisdom, honesty, and courage. If you’re navigating dating while pursuing freedom, this is a must-listen. Key Takeaways Start with honesty about your own journey – Are you actively pursuing healing, or trying to manage things alone? If you’re not getting help, dating may need to wait – Hidden struggles eventually surface and can deeply hurt others. Healing requires exposure, not secrecy – Freedom grows in community, accountability, and honesty. Don’t overshare too early—but don’t wait too long – The goal is timely, thoughtful disclosure. Take responsibility, not just intention – Share from a place of action and growth, not vague promises. You don’t decide readiness alone – Invite wisdom from mentors, counselors, or trusted community. A relationship won’t fix your struggle – Healing starts with God, not a partner. Scriptural Highlight 1 John 1:7 – “But if we walk in the light, as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another…” Living in the light—through honesty and openness—creates the foundation for real connection. Secrecy leads to distance, but truth invites intimacy and healing. Action Steps Do a personal check-in: Ask yourself honestly—am I pursuing real healing, or hiding and managing? Build your support system: If you’re not already, step into accountability through a group, mentor, or counselor. Seek wise counsel: Talk to trusted people in your life about whether you’re ready to date. Plan your disclosure: Think through how you can share your story simply, honestly, and responsibly. Choose courage over comfort: If you’re currently hiding this in a relationship, take a step toward honesty this week. Focus on healing first: Prioritize becoming whole in Christ before expecting a relationship to fill that space. Closing Thought The healthiest relationships aren’t built on perfection—they’re built on truth. When you choose honesty and pursue healing, you’re not just protecting yourself—you’re honoring the person you hope to build a future with. 🎧 Subscribe to the Pure Victory Podcast!💙 Want to help others find freedom? Visit PureVictoryPodcast.com to support the mission. You are not alone—and freedom is possible. Ask a question Have a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!  Resources FamilyLife Canada: Porn Recovery Resources FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada) Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code FLCANADA for 30 days freePure Freedom Community for men 18+Book a FREE call (men)Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Podcast Host BRADEN HAFNER Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

Welcome to episode #263! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast: Closing the Gap: From Temptation to Intentional Living Episode Summary: There’s a critical moment most people overlook—the gap between temptation and action. In this episode, Braden explores how that space, whether seconds or hours long, is where real change happens. Instead of white-knuckling or negotiating with temptation, you’ll learn how to respond quickly, intentionally, and with purpose. Freedom isn’t just about avoiding porn—it’s about building a life you actually want to run toward. 🔑 Key Takeaways The gap matters: What you do between temptation and action determines your direction. Temptation isn’t the problem: Even Jesus was tempted—it’s how we respond that shapes us. Don’t negotiate with temptation: Delayed responses give temptation momentum. Willpower alone fails: “Don’t do it” thinking keeps your mind stuck on the very thing you’re trying to avoid. Close the gap quickly: Faster, intentional responses weaken temptation over time. Replace, don’t just remove: Real freedom comes from filling your life with something better, not just eliminating a behavior. Preparation is key: You don’t build a healthy response in the moment—you build it beforehand. 📖 Scriptural Highlight Matthew 4:1–11 Jesus in the wilderness shows us a powerful model: when temptation came, He didn’t debate or delay—He responded immediately with truth. His preparation before the moment led to victory in the moment. 🛠️ Action Steps Create a “rapid response” plan: Decide now what you’ll do when temptation hits (text a friend, go for a walk, pray, change environments). Shorten your response time: Practice moving from awareness → action as quickly as possible. Build life-giving rhythms: Invest in connection, purpose, and your relationship with God daily. Strengthen accountability: Don’t fight alone—invite others into your process. Identify your patterns: Notice what fuels your temptation (stress, boredom, loneliness) and address those roots. Shift from reactive to proactive living: Build a life today that makes temptation weaker tomorrow. 💬 Final Thought Don’t just focus on what you’re running from— focus on building a life worth running toward. 🎧 Subscribe to the Pure Victory Podcast!💙 Want to help others find freedom? Visit PureVictoryPodcast.com to support the mission. You are not alone—and freedom is possible. Ask a question Have a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!  Resources FamilyLife Canada: Porn Recovery Resources FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada) Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code FLCANADA for 30 days freePure Freedom Community for men 18+Book a FREE call (men)Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Podcast Host BRADEN HAFNER Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

Welcome to episode #262! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast: Understanding Your Arousal Template: Why Your Brain Craves What Your Heart Doesn’t Many people in recovery ask the same painful question: “Why does my brain crave things I know I don’t want?” In this episode of the Pure Victory Podcast, we unpack the concept of the Arousal Template—the internal blueprint that shapes what triggers sexual arousal. Drawing from recovery research and biblical truth, we explore how pornography can reshape this template over time, why escalation happens, and most importantly, how God can begin the process of rewiring our minds. This conversation shifts the focus away from shame and toward understanding. Instead of asking “What’s wrong with me?” we start asking a healthier question: “How has my brain been wired, and how can it be rewired?” The encouraging truth is that while porn may train the brain, God’s truth and intentional healing can retrain it. Key Takeaways Your Arousal Template Is Learned Sexual arousal patterns develop over time through experiences, environment, and repeated exposure—not simply personal failure.Pornography Rewires the Brain Unlimited novelty online can expand and distort the template, leading to escalation and stronger cravings for stimulation.You Can’t “Un-Bake the Cake,” But You Can Bake a New One Some memories remain, but you can weaken unhealthy pathways and build new ones through healthier attachments and habits.This Is About Formation, Not Just Behavior Pornography disciples the brain toward objectification, while Christ forms us toward intimacy, covenant, and love.Rewiring Is Possible Through consistent spiritual renewal, accountability, and healthy relationships, the brain can learn new patterns aligned with God’s design.Scriptural Highlight Romans 12:2 “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” Healing and recovery are not just about stopping a behavior—they are about renewing the mind and allowing God to reshape our desires over time. Action Steps 1. Replace Shame with Curiosity Instead of asking “What’s wrong with me?”, begin asking “What patterns has my brain learned?” 2. Guard What You Look At Jesus said the eye is the lamp of the body. What we repeatedly view trains our desires. 3. Build New Attachments Strengthen pathways toward life through: deeper intimacy with Godhealthy relationships and accountabilityemotional connection with safe people4. Train Your Mind Intentionally Practice focusing on what is true, pure, and life-giving (Philippians 4:8). 5. Commit to the Long Game Rewiring the brain takes time. Progress often looks like two steps forward, one step back—but forward is still forward. 🎧 Subscribe to the Pure Victory Podcast!💙 Want to help others find freedom? Visit PureVictoryPodcast.com to support the mission. You are not alone—and freedom is possible. Ask a question Have a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!  Resources FamilyLife Canada: Porn Recovery Resources FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada) Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code FLCANADA for 30 days freePure Freedom Community for men 18+Book a FREE call (men)Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Podcast Host BRADEN HAFNER Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

Welcome to episode #261! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast: Willpower vs. Wisdom: Why Trying Harder Isn’t the Answer When it comes to breaking free from porn, most people assume the answer is simple: try harder. Just be stronger than temptation. Say “no” more often. But what if that strategy is actually the problem? In this episode, Braden unpacks the difference between willpower and wisdom in the fight for freedom. Instead of relying on white-knuckled resistance, real change happens when we structure our lives with wisdom and learn to surrender temptation to Jesus in the moment. You’ll discover why we only have so many “no’s,” how small decisions lead to bigger failures, and how shifting from willpower to surrender can transform your recovery journey. Freedom isn’t found in one heroic moment of resistance—it’s built through wise choices and daily surrender. Scriptural Highlight 1 Corinthians 6:18 “Flee from sexual immorality.” Scripture doesn’t tell us to stand in the pocket and outlast temptation—it tells us to run from it. God’s strategy isn’t raw willpower; it’s wisdom and dependence on Him. Key Takeaways 1. Willpower alone will fail. If your strategy is simply saying “no” when temptation appears, eventually your strength will run out. 2. Temptation usually starts long before the moment of sin. Isolation, exhaustion, stress, and unhealthy habits often set the stage for relapse hours or even days earlier. 3. Biblical willpower looks like surrender. True strength isn’t trying harder—it’s choosing daily practices that keep you aligned with Christ. 4. Wisdom makes decisions before temptation shows up. Healthy boundaries, accountability, and rhythms with God reduce the opportunities for temptation to take hold. 5. Temptation can become a moment of dependence. Instead of hiding or fighting it alone, bring your struggle to Jesus immediately and turn it into an act of surrender. Action Steps for This Week 1. Identify your vulnerable moments. Ask yourself: When am I most tempted? What patterns lead me there? 2. Build one guardrail. Put a practical boundary in place this week (bedtime phone habits, accountability check-ins, etc.). 3. Practice immediate surrender. When temptation appears, pause and pray: “Jesus, I need you right now.” 4. Replace, don’t just remove. Start one daily rhythm that strengthens your walk with God—Scripture, prayer, worship, or connection with community. Final Encouragement If you’ve been trying to beat porn through sheer willpower and keep falling, you’re not hopeless—you may just be fighting the battle the wrong way. Freedom grows through wisdom before temptation and surrender in the moment of temptation. And when your life is structured around the right “yes” to Jesus, you’ll find you don’t need nearly as many “no’s.”   🎧 Subscribe to the Pure Victory Podcast!💙 Want to help others find freedom? Visit PureVictoryPodcast.com to support the mission. You are not alone—and freedom is possible. Ask a question Have a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!  Resources FamilyLife Canada: Porn Recovery Resources FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada) Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code FLCANADA for 30 days freePure Freedom Community for men 18+Book a FREE call (men)Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Podcast Host BRADEN HAFNER Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

Welcome to episode #260! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast: 10 Decisions Away: How Small Choices Shape Your Freedom What if the difference between freedom and destruction isn’t one massive moment—but a chain of small decisions? In this episode, we unpack a powerful quote: “Everyone is 10 decisions away from committing murder.” While shocking at first, it reveals something deeply biblical—no one wakes up intending to wreck their life. Destruction happens incrementally. So does freedom. If sin has momentum… so does obedience. We explore how tiny compromises lower our resistance over time—and how small, Spirit-led decisions can rebuild integrity, character, and sexual freedom one step at a time. 🔑 Key Takeaways Decisions don’t exist in a vacuum. Every choice is connected to the one before and the one after it.Sin grows incrementally. Tolerance builds. Boundaries shift. What once shocked you becomes normal.Addiction rarely starts extreme. One click makes the next click easier. One secret makes the next one simpler to keep.But momentum works both ways. Small, deliberate acts of obedience build spiritual strength.Freedom isn’t a lightning bolt. It’s a series of wise, repeated choices empowered by Christ.📖 Scriptural Highlight James 1:15 – Desire → Sin → Death A clear progression. Sin grows when it’s fed. Galatians 6:8 – Sow to the flesh or sow to the Spirit. Whatever you plant grows. 2 Samuel 11 – The story of David and Bathsheba. David’s fall didn’t begin with adultery—it began with subtle disengagement. He stayed home when kings went to war. He lingered. He inquired. Each decision linked to the next. One different choice could have broken the chain. The same principle applies to us. 🛠️ Action Steps Instead of asking, “How do I conquer this mountain?” ask: “What is my next wise decision?” Consider starting here: 🙏 Pray one honest prayer.📱 Leave your phone outside the bedroom tonight.👥 Text a trusted friend and check in.🛏️ Get a full night of sleep.🏋️ Move your body.🎵 Worship instead of scrolling.🗣️ Choose one moment of honesty over secrecy.You don’t just stop watching porn. You become a man or woman who consistently makes wise decisions. 🔄 Final Encouragement You are not “too far gone.” You are one Spirit-led decision away from starting a new chain. When small compromises move you toward chaos, small acts of obedience move you toward freedom. One choice at a time. One step at a time. With Christ’s help, you’re not just breaking a habit—you’re building a life.   🎧 Subscribe to the Pure Victory Podcast!💙 Want to help others find freedom? Visit PureVictoryPodcast.com to support the mission. You are not alone—and freedom is possible. Ask a question Have a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!  Resources FamilyLife Canada: Porn Recovery Resources FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada) Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code FLCANADA for 30 days freePure Freedom Community for men 18+Book a FREE call (men)Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Podcast Host BRADEN HAFNER Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

Welcome to episode #259! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast: Guardrails, Not Handcuffs: Navigating Opposite Sex Friendships in Marriage Opposite sex friendships—harmless or hazardous? In this honest and nuanced conversation, Braden and Kristen (“Wifey”)  tackle one of the most sensitive topics in marriage. With culture saying, “If you trust me, it shouldn’t matter,” and Scripture calling us to wisdom, where’s the balance? This episode isn’t about fear. It’s about unity. It’s about protecting what matters most—your covenant. Through practical examples (yes, including Sour Patch Kids and chocolate 🍫), cultural lies like Temptation Island-style thinking, and a powerful biblical reminder from Samson, this episode helps couples think proactively—not reactively—about boundaries that build safety, not restriction. Because strong marriages don’t test temptation—they guard against it. In This Episode, We Cover: Why opposite sex friendships can feel like a “minefield”The danger of relying on “self-control” aloneHow emotional intimacy quietly replaces marital intimacyThe difference between social connection and emotional bondingWhy secrecy—not friendship—is often the real red flagCultural myths vs. biblical wisdomWhy boundaries are guardrails, not barriersScriptural Highlight 1 Corinthians 10:12 – “So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall.” The downfall of Samson wasn’t weakness—it was believing he was too strong to fall. Maturity isn’t seeing how close you can get to temptation. It’s being wise enough to avoid it. A strong marriage doesn’t dance around the fire. It protects the covenant God entrusted to you. Key Takeaways Trust is not the absence of boundaries. It’s built through transparency and shared expectations.Self-control is not a strategy. Wisdom means staying far from the line, not managing yourself at it.Secrecy is the warning light. If details are withheld, minimized, or hidden, something deeper may be happening.Marriage sets the relational hierarchy. Once married, every other relationship comes underneath that covenant.Boundaries create safety. They say, “I value us too much to risk this.”Practical Action Steps This week, sit down with your spouse and ask: How can we navigate opposite sex friendships in a way that feels safe, healthy, and strengthens our marriage?What guardrails would help us protect our unity?Are there any current relationships that feel unclear or uncomfortable?Do we need outside help (pastor, counselor, trusted mentor) to navigate this well?Remember: This is not a debate. It’s a conversation. The goal isn’t to win—it’s to align. Final Encouragement No one wakes up planning to have an affair. Most people slide there slowly—through unchecked boundaries and unspoken expectations. Your marriage is too valuable to “stress test.” Life is hard enough. Choose wisdom. Choose unity. Choose guardrails. Your future is worth protecting. 🎧 Subscribe to the Pure Victory Podcast!💙 Want to help others find freedom? Visit PureVictoryPodcast.com to support the mission. You are not alone—and freedom is possible. Ask a question Have a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!  Resources FamilyLife Canada: Porn Recovery Resources FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada) Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code FLCANADA for 30 days freePure Freedom Community for men 18+Book a FREE call (men)Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Podcast Host BRADEN HAFNER Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

Welcome to episode #258! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast: Stop Mowing Your Neighbour's Grass: The Power of Emotional Ownership 🎧 Subscribe to the Pure Victory Podcast!💙 Want to help others find freedom? Visit PureVictoryPodcast.com to support the mission. You are not alone—and freedom is possible. Ask a question Have a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!  Resources FamilyLife Canada: Porn Recovery Resources FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada) Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code FLCANADA for 30 days freePure Freedom Community for men 18+Book a FREE call (men)Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Podcast Host BRADEN HAFNER Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

Welcome to episode #257! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast: The Unseen Battle: Winning the Spiritual War Against Porn The fight against porn isn't just about willpower or habit loops; it’s a battle for your soul. If you’re treating the physical symptoms but ignoring the spiritual roots, you’re only fighting half the war. Key Takeaways The Three-Layer Battle: Recovery must address the Physiological (brain wiring/dopamine), the Emotional (trauma/shame), and the Spiritual (authority/agreement).The Power of Agreement: The enemy cannot "own" a believer, but he gains a foothold when we agree with lies like "I’ll never change" or "I need this to cope."Legal Rights & Footholds: Unforgiveness, secret vows, and past trauma can create spiritual "legal ground" for the enemy to harass and torment you.Authority Over Willpower: We don't fight for victory; we fight from the victory Jesus already won. Freedom starts by submitting to God so we can effectively resist the devil.Scripture Highlight "The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisoners and recovery of sight for the blind, to set the oppressed free." — Luke 4:18Action Items: Reclaiming Your Ground Audit Your Agreements: Identify one lie you’ve been believing (e.g., "I'm too far gone") and explicitly renounce it out loud in Jesus' name.The Forgiveness Inventory: Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal if there is anyone you are holding a debt against. Choose to forgive to close that spiritual door.Break the Secrecy: Darkness thrives in the dark. Tell one trusted person or mentor about your struggle this week to bring it into the light.🎧 Subscribe to the Pure Victory Podcast!💙 Want to help others find freedom? Visit PureVictoryPodcast.com to support the mission. You are not alone—and freedom is possible. Ask a question Have a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!  Resources FamilyLife Canada: Porn Recovery Resources FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada) Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code FLCANADA for 30 days freePure Freedom Community for men 18+Book a FREE call (men)Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Podcast Host BRADEN HAFNER Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

Welcome to episode #256! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast: Trusted vs. Trustworthy: The Difference That Brings Real FreedomWhat’s the real difference between being trusted and being trustworthy—and why does it matter so much in recovery? In this episode, we unpack a game-changing distinction that impacts healing after betrayal, freedom from porn, and rebuilding integrity. Through personal stories, biblical truth, and hard-won insight, this conversation challenges the idea that regaining trust is the goal—and instead points us toward inner transformation that leads to lasting freedom. Because freedom isn’t found in being believed… it’s found in being transformed. 🔑 Key Takeaways Being trusted is external; being trustworthy is internal One is about perception. The other is about character.You can fool people—but you can’t fool God True healing starts when integrity matters even when no one is watching.Behavior management isn’t transformation Surface-level change may restore trust temporarily, but it won’t bring freedom.Being trusted can actually block deeper healing When trust is restored, we often stop confessing, stop going deeper, and stop inviting accountability.Trustworthiness leads to freedom, integrity, and wholeness When the heart changes, trust eventually follows—slowly, safely, and authentically.📖 Scriptural Highlight “Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” —1 Samuel 16:7“Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight.” —Hebrews 4:13God isn’t after image management—He’s after heart transformation. 🛠️ Action Steps Ask the deeper question: Not “What do I need to do so others feel safe?” But “Who do I need to become so I am safe?”Practice integrity in hidden moments Pay attention to what you do when there are no consequences.Invite light, not performance Confess honestly, pursue healing, and bring trusted, safe people into your story.Shift the goal Stop chasing trust. Start becoming trustworthy.📣 Share This Episode Know someone rebuilding trust, walking through recovery, or stuck in a cycle of performance? Share this episode—it might be the mindset shift that unlocks real freedom. 🎧 Subscribe to the Pure Victory Podcast!💙 Want to help others find freedom? Visit PureVictoryPodcast.com to support the mission. You are not alone—and freedom is possible. Ask a question Have a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!  Resources FamilyLife Canada: Porn Recovery Resources FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada) Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code FLCANADA for 30 days freePure Freedom Community for men 18+Book a FREE call (men)Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Podcast Host BRADEN HAFNER Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

Welcome to episode #255! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast: Karissa's Story (Part 2): From Confession to CourageIn Part 2 of this powerful conversation, we return to Karissa’s story and step deeper into the healing side of freedom. Karissa shares how shame and isolation kept her stuck, how confession broke addiction’s grip, and why community, support, and a renewed relationship with God were essential to staying free. This episode offers hope—especially for women who feel alone in their struggle—and paints a clear picture of what life can look like on the other side of secrecy and shame. This is a raw, grace-filled conversation about courage, identity, forgiveness (including forgiving yourself), and discovering that God is not distant in our struggles—He’s deeply present. 🔑 Key Takeaways Confession is the starting line, not the finish line. Freedom grows when confession is paired with ongoing support and community.Shame thrives in secrecy—but loses its power when brought into the light.True healing goes beneath behavior to address identity, unmet desires, and underlying wounds.Forgiving yourself is often a missing piece of freedom. God’s grace must be received personally, not just intellectually.Intimacy with God changes desires. As love for Him grows, old patterns lose their appeal.Freedom in one area often unlocks freedom in others. Healing leads to courage, growth, and forward movement in life.📖 Scriptural Highlight “Where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.” — 2 Corinthians 3:17This verse marked a turning point for Karissa, reminding us that freedom isn’t achieved through willpower—but through God’s Spirit at work in us. 🛠️ Action Items Break the silence: Share your struggle with one safe, trusted person—even if you’re still in it.Seek support: Consider a godly counselor, coach, or recovery group to walk alongside you.Spend intentional time with God: Read Scripture, pray honestly, and practice listening—especially around identity and forgiveness.Write down what you need to forgive yourself for and surrender it to God in prayer.Take the next courageous step: Don’t wait to feel “ready.” God meets us as we move forward.🎧 Subscribe to the Pure Victory Podcast!💙 Want to help others find freedom? Visit PureVictoryPodcast.com to support the mission. You are not alone—and freedom is possible. Ask a question Have a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!  Resources FamilyLife Canada: Porn Recovery Resources FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada) Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code FLCANADA for 30 days freePure Freedom Community for men 18+Book a FREE call (men)Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Podcast Host BRADEN HAFNER Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

Welcome to episode #254! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast: Karissa's Story: Breaking the Silence Porn, masturbation, and erotica are often labeled as “men’s issues”—but what happens when a woman bravely breaks the silence? In this powerful and honest conversation, Braden and Kristen welcome Karissa, who shares her deeply personal journey of struggling with masturbation and erotica from a very young age, all while growing up in a Christian environment. What unfolds is a story of secrecy, shame, isolation—and ultimately, hope. This episode explores how addiction thrives in silence, how shame distorts God’s voice, and why courage and confession are often the first steps toward true freedom. Whether you’re male or female, single or married, Karissa’s story offers insight, compassion, and a reminder that you are not alone. ⚠️ This is Part 1 of a two-part series. Don’t miss next week as Karissa shares the practical steps and resources that helped her walk into healing and lasting freedom. 🔑 Key Takeaways Porn, masturbation, and erotica are not gender-specific struggles—women often suffer in silence.Shame keeps people stuck by convincing them something is “wrong” with who they are, not just what they do.Freedom often begins before behavior changes, when secrecy is broken and the struggle is brought into the light.Triggers are rarely just visual—they are often connected to loneliness, stress, unmet desires, or emotional pain.Choosing the right safe person to share with can dismantle years of shame in a single moment of courage.📖 Scriptural Highlight “But if we walk in the light, as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus… purifies us from all sin.” — 1 John 1:7Bringing hidden struggles into the light doesn’t bring condemnation—it creates space for healing, community, and grace. 🛠️ Action Items Reflect: Ask yourself, “Where am I staying silent out of fear or shame?”Identify a Safe Person: Choose one trusted, grace-filled individual you could talk to if you were ready.Name the Cycle: Pay attention to emotional triggers (loneliness, boredom, stress) that often come before temptation.Stay Curious, Not Condemning: Replace self-judgment with curiosity—“What am I really needing right now?”Commit to Part 2: Make a plan now to listen to next week’s episode for practical tools and next steps toward freedom.🎧 Subscribe to the Pure Victory Podcast so you don’t miss Part 2 of Karissa’s story. 💙 Want to help others find freedom? Visit PureVictoryPodcast.com to support the mission. You are not alone—and freedom is possible. Ask a question Have a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!  Resources FamilyLife Canada: Porn Recovery Resources FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada) Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code FLCANADA for 30 days freePure Freedom Community for men 18+Book a FREE call (men)Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Podcast Host BRADEN HAFNER Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

Welcome to episode #253! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast: How To Find The Right Group For Healing!New year, new habits—but what about the right community? In this episode, we tackle one of the most common (and most important) questions in the healing journey: How do I find the right group? Not all groups lead to freedom—and some can actually keep you stuck. We unpack what makes a group healthy, Christ-centered, and truly transformative, and why God uses community as a primary tool for healing and lasting freedom. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Why the wrong group can slow or sabotage your healingHow surface-level accountability trains people to hide instead of healWhat separates a behavior-focused group from a Christ-centered, healing-focused oneThe essential elements every healthy recovery group needsWhy freedom is relational—and never meant to be pursued aloneKey Takeaways: Not all support is healthy support. Community can shape us for better or worse.A good group focuses on identity, healing, and formation, not just stopping behavior.Healthy groups prioritize safety, confidentiality, and honesty.Real accountability goes beyond “Did you look?” and asks, “How are you healing?”God designed healing to happen in authentic, committed, Christ-centered community.Scriptural Highlight: “The companion of fools suffers harm, but whoever walks with the wise becomes wise.” — Proverbs 13:20“Confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed.” — James 5:16Healing doesn’t happen in isolation—and it doesn’t happen in unhealthy community. Action Items: Evaluate your current group: Is it helping you heal—or just cope?Ask better questions: Are you growing in honesty, self-awareness, and intimacy with God?Look for leadership: Is the group led by someone who has walked the road of healing?Don’t settle: If you’re searching for a group, prioritize safety, Christ-centered teaching, and real transformation.Commit to community: Healing takes time, consistency, and intentional connection.Thanks for listening! If this episode encouraged you, hit subscribe and share it with someone who needs clarity and hope today. Support the mission at PureVictoryPodcast.com—your generosity helps others find the freedom they’re longing for. Ask a question Have a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] Share this with your friends Who do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well. Subscribe Subscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes!  Resources FamilyLife Canada: Porn Recovery Resources FamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriage Online marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada) Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code FLCANADA for 30 days freePure Freedom Community for men 18+Book a FREE call (men)Pure Freedom Journey for men and women Podcast Host BRADEN HAFNER Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com