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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Caitlin V, a sex and relationship coach, YouTuber, HBO Max host, and author of "Harder, Better, Longer, Stronger," outlines her decade of work primarily with men experiencing performance anxiety. She emphasizes shifting from performance and comparison to an experiential focus on pleasure, communication, and treating sexual challenges as data. We also discuss fear, homophobia, and manosphere grifts. Key Points: 05:47 Beyond Premature Ejaculation 13:25 Performance vs Pleasure 19:24 Fear and Masculinity 23:23 Manosphere Grifts 37:44 Fear of Pleasure 42:17 Performance vs Receiving 48:54 Erotic Libraries and Porn

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Vanessa Cuccia, founder of Chakrubs and an interdisciplinary musician, shares how a period of healing from a toxic relationship, her work at an adult store, and exposure to crystals at a spiritual gathering sparked the idea of crystal pleasure tools for both pleasure and emotional support. Key Points: 04:30 Making Crystal Toys 11:54 Safety and Contraindications 14:03 Introducing Toys Intentionally 19:58 Ritual Methods and Moon Charging 24:31 Obsidian Anal Plug and Shame 31:21 Curiosity Over Rules 38:59 Depth Versus Play 42:23 Pressure Free Pleasure

This episode of #mensexpleasure features marriage, relationship, and intimacy coach Monica Tanner, who shares her background, including her parents’ divorce at 12, 23 years of marriage, and her work helping couples build connection and intimacy while aiming to reduce divorce. We discuss common marriage breakdown areas—communication, sex, money, and parenting—and how sex issues can feel larger when overall connection is weak, particularly for men who often experience closeness through physical intimacy. Key points: 02:16 Why Marriages Fail 12:49 Debunking Marriage Cliches 18:16 Collaboration Over Compromise 24:13 Modern Gender Roles 29:19 Three Step Request Method 39:01 Repair Is One Way Street 45:16 Eight Sentence Repair Script

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure, host Cam Fraser delves into the issues surrounding AI-generated deepfake abuse, featuring insights from guest Noelle Martin, a PhD candidate, lawyer, and global activist. Noelle sheds light on the harmful impacts of deepfake technology, particularly on women and girls, and discusses Australia's position and challenges in addressing online image-based abuse. The conversation highlights the importance of scrutinizing and enforcing regulations, the role of tech companies, and the need for a multifaceted approach including education, legal action, and grassroots activism. Cam and Noelle address the societal and cultural aspects underpinning this abuse, offering both despair and hope through advocacy and legal reforms. Key points: 03:17 Challenges in Enforcing Online Safety Laws 06:50 Global Nature of Image-Based Abuse 10:48 Educational Approaches and Challenges 25:44 Societal and Cultural Issues 36:19 Call to Action and Conclusion

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Jeff Bennett, founder and CEO of Morari Medical, returns to answers questions about his personal and professional background, his passion for improving men's sexual health, and the evolution of his company. Jeff shares significant milestones, including receiving FDA clearance for their product, which aims to enhance sexual performance by delivering mild electrical stimulation to the perineum. He discusses the challenges and triumphs in getting regulatory approval, the intricacies of product development, and the importance of patient safety and confidentiality. Jeff also highlights the company's strategic marketing efforts, their focus on couples in committed relationships, and future plans to expand internationally. The episode delves into the technical aspects of the product, the motivations behind it, and the broader implications of advancing sexual health and wellness. Key points: 04:12 FDA Approval Process 25:55 Navigating Regulatory Challenges 28:54 Personal Journey and Entrepreneurial Insights 35:08 Setting Realistic Expectations 37:42 App Integration and Data Privacy 43:50 Target Market and Future Plans

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Lee Chambers discusses his diverse roles as a father, educator, psychologist, and author, while emphasizing his fascination with human behavior and interaction. He shares his journey of understanding masculinity, gender dynamics, and generational perspectives on these issues. Lee's experiences, including overcoming a severe health challenge and exploring personal and professional growth, have shaped his insights. The discussion touches on the motivations behind Male Allies UK, challenges faced by teenage boys in today's digital world, and the importance of creating supportive environments for personal development. Cam and Lee delve into the complexities of competitiveness and the psychological and social impacts of modern technology on young people. Key Points:06:15 Reflections on Competitiveness12:14 Navigating Modern Masculinity21:06 Challenges of Young Men Today24:29 The Influence of Technology and Social Media32:19 The Importance of Offline Interaction for Boys47:51 Teenage Loneliness and AI Companions55:26 Economic Concerns and Future Uncertainty59:29 Reflecting on the Pandemic's Impact

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Cam is joined by his brother Callum to explore the story of Geddings David Osbon, an automotive shop worker from South Carolina who invented the penis pump. Key points: 01:33 Geddings' Early Life and Family 09:50 The Birth of the Penis Pump 17:52 Challenges and Acceptance 25:33 FDA Approval and Market Breakthrough 30:05 Family Legacy and Business Expansion 43:09 Third Generation and Modern Era 44:52 Reflections and Final Thoughts

In this episode of #mensexpleasure, Isiah McKimmie, a couples counselor and sexologist with 15 years of experience, discusses strategies for helping individuals and couples build healthier relationships and improve their sex lives. Isiah emphasizes the importance of discussing difficult topics outside the bedroom in low-stakes situations to foster better communication inside the bedroom. She highlights the impact of sexual challenges on overall well-being and offers insights into addressing common issues such as mismatched libidos, sexual dysfunction, and emotional disconnection. The discussion also covers the benefits of engaging in playful activities to bond with partners and new approaches to therapy, including couples retreats designed to provide a relaxing yet insightful experience. The conversation is rich with practical advice and underlines the need for empathy, structured communication, and creative solutions in nurturing intimate relationships. Key Points: 02:39 Two-Way Street of Sexual Dysfunction 09:51 Games and Activities to Improve Intimacy 15:57 Navigating Mismatched Libidos 22:53 Understanding Rejection Sensitivity in Relationships 23:45 The Need for Non-Sexual Physical Intimacy 29:02 Exploring the Erotic Menu Concept 32:53 Introducing Couples Retreats for Relationship Enhancement 37:50 Addressing Anxiety and Pressure in Romantic Getaways

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Jessica Soares, also known as the Erotic Muse or the Holy Hedonist, shares insights into her unique career as an erotic artist and experience designer. Jessica discusses her passion for fostering creativity and helping individuals live authentically. She delves into the nuances of creating erotic audio content aimed at arousal and its impact on both creator and consumer. Additionally, the conversation explores the complexities around authenticity, societal perceptions of erotic content, and the importance of paying for such artistry. We also touch upon Jessica’s methods for cultivating a shame-free environment and the evolving landscape of sexuality work. Key points: 00:32 Meet Jessica Soares: The Erotic Muse 04:48 Navigating Public Perception and Erotic Content 16:21 Permission vs. Prescription in Sexual Expression 27:06 Embracing Arousal in Practice 27:31 Creating Erotic Audio for Men 28:20 Guided Self-Pleasure Practices 29:04 Retention and Edging Techniques 31:53 Defining Pornography and Erotica 42:17 Supporting Erotic Artists Relevant links: https://patreon.com/HolyHetaira www.theroticmuse.com CODE for 25% off first month of membership: MSP25

In this episode, Mike Andryszewski shares his personal and professional journey in the realm of bodywork, sexuality, and spirituality. Mike discusses his background as a bodyworker and the various modalities he incorporates into his practice, including Thai massage, myofascial release, and craniosacral therapy. He emphasizes the importance of integrating mind-body connection and addressing deeper emotional issues through therapeutic touch. Mike also opens up about his experiences with premature ejaculation, sexual shame, and the transformative power of open communication with partners. The conversation delves into Mike's time as a celibate monk in a Hari Krishna ashram, his subsequent sexual renaissance, and how he reconciles his spirituality with his sexuality. The discussion culminates in the significance of connecting with nature and sensuality as a means to enhance both sexual and spiritual well-being. Key points: 00:00 Introduction and Hot Seat Questions 00:20 Mike's Background and Passion 01:57 Exploring Body Work 04:53 Integrating Coaching and Body Work 07:48 Personal Journey and Sexual Renaissance 12:22 Overcoming Premature Ejaculation 20:16 The Role of Communication in Sexual Health 27:46 Managing Shame and Expectations in Sexual Experiences 30:33 The Importance of Communication in Sexual Relationships 32:26 Exploring Spirituality and Sexuality 38:30 Integrating Spiritual Practices into Sexual Experiences 42:41 Connecting with Nature and Sensuality 47:13 Final Thoughts and Practical Advice

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Cam intterviews Alex, a men's sex coach, about authenticity in male sexuality. Alex shares his personal journey and experiences with societal pressures that shaped his early sexual experiences, including performance anxiety and the influence of substance abuse. Cam and Alex discuss the transition towards a more genuine, shame-free sexual expression. They explore how societal messages and stereotypes impact not only their sex lives but also their broader relationships and mental health. They emphasise the importance of open communication, vulnerability, and self-exploration to understand one's unique sexual blueprint. By overcoming fear and anxiety, they advocate for embracing one's authentic sexual self. The episode also touches on the significance of nervous system regulation in dealing with sexual anxieties and the role of men's support groups in facilitating open conversations about these issues. Key points: 00:00 Introduction and Opening Questions 00:47 Defining Authentic Sexuality 01:52 Societal Expectations and Masculinity 03:05 Personal Struggles with Sexual Performance 05:30 Journey to Sobriety and Self-Discovery 07:23 Facing Shame and Embracing Authenticity 15:33 Navigating Nervous System Responses 17:22 Breathwork and Nervous System Regulation 21:08 Communicating Sexual Desires with Partners 25:10 The Importance of Vulnerability 29:46 The Struggle of Asking for Help 30:05 Acknowledging the Need for Help 31:07 Vulnerability in Discussing Sexual Issues 31:59 Exploring Sexuality and Self-Understanding 33:20 The Power of Erotic Blueprints 35:14 The Fluidity of Sexual Desires 38:31 Breaking Free from Masturbation Habits 40:39 Navigating Shame and Self-Pleasure 42:29 The Anxiety Around Ejaculation 49:10 The Importance of Vulnerability in Men's Groups 50:16 Closing Thoughts and Where to Find More

On this episode, Cam interviews returning guest Kiki Maree, a sexologist, who discusses her passion for helping individuals express and understand their sexuality more authentically. The conversation covers the significant impact of body image on sexual satisfaction and the importance of understanding the fluidity of sexuality throughout life stages. Kiki shares insights on normalizing changes in sexual desire and function, particularly in relation to the menstrual cycle and life transitions such as parenthood and menopause. Cam adds his perspective on supporting men in accepting changes in their bodies and sexual function, highlighting the influence of media and societal expectations on self-perception. They also address practical tools and strategies for improving body image and sexual satisfaction, including focusing on body functionality and finding relatable representations in media. The episode concludes with a discussion on fostering a positive relationship with one's body, both individually and within intimate partnerships. 00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction 01:04 Understanding Sexuality and Menstrual Cycle 04:29 Body Image Issues in Sexuality 08:00 Impact of Body Image on Intimacy 16:43 Strategies for Positive Body Image 26:02 Practical Tips for Self-Compassion 35:11 The Reality of Porn Representation 36:24 Finding Authentic Representation 37:52 Exposure to Diverse Bodies 42:41 Personal Journey to Body Acceptance 46:21 The Influence of Social Media on Body Image 51:36 Reframing Exercise and Diet Culture 55:38 Conclusion and Resources Free Body Image Masterclass: https://www.wixforms.com/f/7398981604351149056

In this episode of #mensexpleasure, I speak with Nikki Justice—award-winning comedian, mother, and OnlyFans creator—about turning pain into punchlines and reclaiming power through comedy, courage, and self-expression. After a divorce during the pandemic, Nikki stumbled into stand-up, transforming her unconventional life and past struggles into bold, unapologetic storytelling. We explore the realities of being a woman in comedy and sex work, navigating online hate and societal judgment, and how humour can be both rebellion and release. Nikki also shares the inspiration behind her daring new show, The Naked Truth—a fully nude stand-up performance that celebrates vulnerability, body confidence, and freedom from shame. A raw, funny, and fearless conversation about resilience, reinvention, and the radical act of owning your story—on and off the stage. Key Points: @ 3:48 Finding comedy after divorce @ 7:53 Facing judgment and online backlash @ 21:44 Creating The Naked Truth @ 27:00 Balancing humour, healing, and authenticity Relevant Links: Nikki Justice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nikkijusticecomedy/ Nikki Justice Website: https://www.nikkijustice.com.au/

In this episode of #mensexpleasure, I speak with Annette Benedetti—Portland-based sex and intimacy coach, writer, and host of the acclaimed show Talk Sex With Annette—about reclaiming pleasure, power, and connection through curiosity and compassion. Ranked in the top 2.5% of podcasts globally, Annette’s work dives deep into taboo-breaking conversations around kink, trauma, and empowerment, informed by both her professional expertise and lived experience as a survivor. We explore how cultural narratives and trauma shape our relationship with sexuality, the body, and intimacy—and how healing begins with awareness, consent, and curiosity. Annette shares practical insights on rebuilding trust and sensation after trauma, moving away from performance-based sex toward mutual exploration, and helping men appreciate their own bodies as worthy of pleasure and beauty. A raw, empowering conversation about dismantling shame, embracing embodiment, and creating space for authentic healing and pleasure. Key Points: @ 0:52 Barriers to embracing feminine power @ 4:39 Navigating trauma and its impacts @ 9:43 Rebuilding trust and sensation after trauma @ 16:31 Reframing goals and expectations around sex @ 47:30 Appreciating the male form and body Relevant Links:Annette Benedetti Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/annettebenedetti/Annette Benedetti YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannette

In this episode of #mensexpleasure, I speak with Honey Brooks, a rural Australian mum, top OnlyFans creator, and bold voice redefining modern relationships—about navigating stigma, intimacy, and authenticity in the adult industry. From building a million-dollar business on her family farm to creating content with her husband, Honey shares her journey of creating content with her husband, including the importance of communication, trust, and respecting boundaries when sex and work intersect. We explore subscriber relationships, the responsibilities of adult creators, and the importance of fostering healthier conversations about sexuality. A candid and empowering dialogue on shame, connection, and writing your own rules. Key Points: @ 0:00 Introductions and background @ 3:30 Navigating disclosure and stigma @ 8:57 Creating content with a partner @ 27:41 Audience and subscriber relationships @ 42:39 Reflections on the adult industry @ 48:43 Closing thoughts Relevant links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/honeyybrooks/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@honeybrooks_