Advertise on podcast: Dating Intelligence the Podcast

What if jealousy isn't a red flag, but information? Christopher and Natalie sit down with Ally Iseman, ICF-Certified Relationship Coach, founder of Passport 2 Pleasure, and forthcoming author of For the Love of Jealousy, to break down one of the most misunderstood emotions in dating and relationships. They get into what jealousy is actually telling you, why most people were never taught to handle it, and how Ally helps executives, individuals, and couples design relationships that fit the lives they're living, not the ones they inherited. If you've ever confused insecurity with intuition, this one reframes everything. Learn more about Ally: passport2pleasure.com Sponsor:  Vinted: https://www.vinted.com/?srsltid=AU7gw4WbxiU-wHdKIbRkdEhiOMDZA_Tez40gm6--JDXZ03BSFD6Av3_c BeWell Malibu:  https://bewellmalibu.com Guest:  Ally Iseman:  Instagram: @allyiseman  @passport2pleasure  Host links:  Christopher Louis:  Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/christopherlouisdate?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr Web: https://dating-intelligence.com/ Men.tality: https://www.datingmentality.com/ Natalie Stavola:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nataliestavola?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D Web: https://www.nataliestavolacoach.com/

Christopher Louis and Natalie Stavola cover a wide-ranging, highly personal conversation about travel, family transitions, event hosting, and the relationship work that sits underneath it all. They also share practical dating advice, including why the right venue and the right framing can lower pressure and help people connect more naturally.This episode is part life update, part relationship coaching, and part behind-the-scenes look at how both hosts are building community through events and audience engagement. Today's sponsor shout out goes to OtterSpirit.com and get your discounts using promo codes: Code Christopher20 — 20% off any order Code Christopher30 — 30% off orders over $99 And to Ike's Sandwich shout out go to Ikessandwich.com for more info.  Timestamps 00:00 - Opening banter and accent jokes  02:19 - Christopher's Otter Spirit crystal shoutout 04:31 - Natalie's Ike's Love and Sandwiches event shoutout  06:36 - Favorite sandwiches and what makes a great sub  08:19 - Discovering a caprese sandwich in Monte Carlo  10:08 - Dairy, lactose intolerance, and bread preferences  11:29 - Gluten-free, vegan labels, and food identity  12:11 - Natalie on stomach healing, sobriety, and dietary changes  14:53 - Dating while sober and gluten-free  15:49 - Why sushi is the safest first-date answer  17:16 - Christopher's college drop-off story begins  18:42 - The emotional airport goodbye and unexpected breakdown  20:30 - Transition into event hosting and travel updates  20:49 - Natalie on the first event, car accident recovery, and keeping going  22:34 - Co-host Alyssa's illness and still showing up  23:23 - Reframing a singles event into a social mixer  24:16 - Why "social mixer" feels lighter than "singles event"  25:17 - Sponsors, event atmosphere, and why the night worked  26:26 - Entertainment, hosting, and future F1-style events  27:08 - Daytime versus nighttime event timing in LA  28:41 - Venue geography, traffic, and why location matters  30:35 - Best start times for events and nights out  31:15 - Why some people need private downtime before going out  32:13 - Social overload, hair, makeup, and pacing energy  34:34 - How small resets restore energy at conferences  35:39 - Practical ways to stay fresh during long days  36:11 - Christopher's conference survival strategy  37:15 - Centering, grounding, and taking private pauses  38:31 - "I need three hours" and getting ready mindset  39:16 - Christopher shares he moved back into the house full time  40:39 - Rebuilding home life after three years apart  41:40 - Why healthy relationships mirror growth and insecurity  42:18 - Communication, boundaries, and shared space  43:43 - Trauma patterns, hypervigilance, and moving forward  44:12 - Men changing, accountability, and relationship repair  45:18 - Repeating patterns in career and relationships  47:38 - Procrastination as fear and subconscious protection  48:41 - Natalie's inner-child visualization work 50:30 - Why the subconscious can shut things down for safety  51:37 - Shame, self-protection, and being misread  52:11 - Why Natalie no longer tolerates draining people  53:34 - Boundaries, self-worth, and speaking from truth  54:54 - Feminine energy, silence, and why voicing yourself matters  55:59 - A friendship rupture and overcompensation  57:37 - Accountability versus dumping old pain onto new people  58:31 - How old wounds get projected onto safe people  59:24 - Whether a friendship can be repaired  61:13 - Natalie's framework for "my part, not my fault" 62:37 - How helping others can keep you from shining  63:43 - Christopher on self-reflection and course correction  64:04 - Hoping a friendship can still be repaired  65:22 - Why beliefs and triggers can become relationship dealbreakers  66:33 - Knowing people well enough to anticipate their patterns  67:16 - Political differences and dating compatibility  68:52 - Accidental dehumanization and fear-based reactions  69:57 - Natalie on trauma, sobriety, and hiding her body  71:14 - Becoming reactive after abuse and course correcting  72:31 - "Bunny with Knives" and old survival modes  73:27 - America, safety, and broader social fear  74:16 - Closing thoughts on peace and conflict  75:06 - Listener questions, audience involvement, and a new segment  76:49 - Bringing a listener on as a guest through a contest  77:48 - Where to find Natalie  78:10 - Where to find Christopher and datingmentality.com  78:46 - Goals for the show and future live content Sponsor Links:  OtterSpirit:  Instagram: @otterspirit TikTok: @otter_spirit Ike's: Instagram: @ikessandwich Web: Ikessandwich.com Host links:  Christopher Louis:  Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/christopherlouisdate?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr Web: https://dating-intelligence.com/ Men.tality: https://www.datingmentality.com/ Natalie Stavola:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nataliestavola?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D Web: https://www.nataliestavolacoach.com/

DJ, model, actress, and entrepreneur Colleen Shannon has spent two decades building a career most people would call impossible to categorize — and she's not apologizing for it. Christopher and Natalie dig into what it takes to reinvent yourself in public, from playing to crowds of ten to headlining for thousands, and why Colleen sat on dozens of unreleased tracks before dropping her new single, Dance for Life — which just cracked the Apple Music Top 20. Colleen opens up about the manifestation practices that shaped her career long before the accolades showed up, and how motherhood changed her pace. Natalie brings her own story of visibility and nervous system regulation into the mix. If you've ever felt like being good at more than one thing worked against you, this episode makes the case that your range is your edge. Also in this episode: her shoot with Bruce Weber, her upcoming Beverly Hills event, her Goddess Noir release, and why she plants seeds instead of forcing outcomes. Key topics:  - Colleen shares how her career spans DJing, modeling, acting, singing, and entrepreneurship, with more than 600 live shows worldwide. - Her new track, Dance for Life, reaches number 20 on the Apple Music charts and marks a new phase in her music career. - She explains why she held onto dozens of unreleased tracks while touring internationally and how stepping back created space to finally release music. - The conversation explores the idea that being a multi-hyphenate is not a weakness, but a strength built through experience, range, and repetition. - Colleen talks about building confidence in larger crowds, from early sets for 10 people to eventually performing for thousands. - She describes her move from super clubs to festivals and names Tomorrowland, EDC, and Coachella as dream stages. - Manifestation comes up repeatedly, including journaling, intention-setting, candles, oils, and visualizing specific outcomes. - Colleen recalls shooting with Bruce Weber and how energy, preparation, and belief helped her stand out among taller models. - Natalie shares her own story of visibility trauma, sobriety, and learning to regulate before stepping into bigger rooms and bigger opportunities. - The discussion closes on collaboration, alignment, and the importance of working with people who are ready to grow. Timestamps: 00:00 - Opening banter and life updates 03:32 - Introducing Colleen Shannon and her wide-ranging career 05:22 - Why now was the right time to release original music 06:52 - Why being multi-talented is a strength, not a flaw 08:01 - Touring the world before ever releasing a track 09:37 - From tiny rooms to massive crowds 11:22 - Festival visuals, graphics, and the future of live shows 12:16 - Dream festivals and the universal language of music 13:15 - Hearing her own track live for the first time 14:01 - Colleen's children's book and apparel line 15:02 - Why motherhood changed her pace and priorities 15:26 - Meditation, regulation, and handling visibility 17:12 - Moving to Los Angeles with turntables and big intentions 19:11 - Acting, voiceover work, and future film plans 20:13 - Natalie's acting background and healing journey 23:27 - Letting creativity come back after burnout 25:52 - Colleen's long engagement and reconnection with her partner 28:13 - Her partner's low-key life outside entertainment 29:14 - Arizona, Sedona, and life after LA 32:30 - Psycho Cybernetics, journaling, candles, and intention work 36:04 - The role of energy in modeling and creative success 37:37 - Planting seeds instead of forcing outcomes 40:47 - What to do when resistance shows up 42:25 - How Natalie's event fell apart before coming together 44:03 - Connection, collaboration, and alchemy 46:48 - Natalie's manifestation coaching and frequency work 50:04 - Frequency-based music, 432 Hz, and abundance energy 52:58 - Why doing creative work is not selfish 54:10 - Choosing collaborators who are ready for growth 55:17 - How Christopher and Natalie became co-hosts 57:17 - More on oils, candles, and manifestation rituals 58:49 - Why this story needs a part two 60:23 - Where to find Colleen and details on Goddess Noir 62:24 - Christopher and Natalie's closing info Sponsor: Men.tality:  https://www.datingmentality.com Guest links: Colleen Shannon:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/worldssexiestdj?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ== Weblink: https://www.djcolleenshannon.com TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@djcolleenshannon?_r=1&_t=ZP-98yFS7Xe2RS Host links: Christopher Louis:  Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/christopherlouisdate?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr Web: https://dating-intelligence.com/ Men.tality: https://www.datingmentality.com/ Natalie Stavola:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nataliestavola?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D Web: https://www.nataliestavolacoach.com/

Most men think trust is something you either have or don't. Jordan Candlish disagrees — and he'd know. After a heartbreak that put him flat on the floor, Jordan rebuilt himself from the inside out and became one of the leading voices helping men become the kind of partner people can actually rely on. In this episode, Jordan, Christopher and Natalie break down what emotional safety actually looks like in practice — not the Instagram-therapy version, the real one. They cover why internal stability matters more than any grand romantic gesture, how to catch yourself mid-pattern before an old wound runs the show, and why most men are more comfortable being physically intimate than emotionally honest — and what that costs them long-term. You'll also hear Jordan's take on why every man needs a tribe of other men who'll actually hold him accountable, practical tools for expressing what you're feeling without turning it into a fight, and how surrender — not control — is often the fastest path to peace in a relationship. If you've ever wondered why some men seem to lead effortlessly in their relationships while others keep hitting the same wall, this conversation is the blueprint. Key Topics Jordan Candless' journey from heartbreak to becoming a leading relationship coach The importance of internal stability for trustworthy and reliable men Recognizing the "rock bottom" moments that trigger profound transformation How men can become aware of old emotional reactions and interrupt unhealthy patterns The role of emotional connection over physical intimacy in long-term relationships Tips for guys to share vulnerabilities safely and build trust with their partners Strategies to find and develop a tribe of supportive men for emotional accountability The significance of surrendering to a higher power or God for peace and guidance Practical tools like journaling and nonviolent communication to express emotions effectively How to communicate your growth and intentions to your partner over time Timestamps 00:00 - Introduction: Why men need trust and emotional safety in relationships 00:32 - Jordan Candless' background and the mission behind his work 01:23 - Personal story of heartbreak and the awakening moment 02:13 - The significance of internal stability and emotional grounding 03:30 - Common "rock bottom" moments that prompt men to seek change 04:59 - Recognizing old emotional reactions and interrupting patterns 06:20 - The power of awareness and curiosity in emotional regulation 07:45 - How vulnerability and deep self-work transform relationships 08:33 - The importance of sustained effort and showing consistent growth 09:54 - How to find trustworthy men for emotional support and accountability 11:21 - The role of emotional work in healing childhood wounds and traumas 12:47 - Jordan's own transformation through heartbreak and spiritual awakening 13:44 - The deepening of maturity and leadership in relationships over time 15:01 - Navigating avoidance, ego, and emotional expression in men 16:28 - Practical tools: journaling, reading from prepared notes, and honest communication 17:48 - Managing triggers and reactions during conflict 19:14 - The link between emotional health and physical well-being 20:10 - Leading with confidence and boundaries in partnerships 21:40 - Embracing vulnerability as a strength for both men and women 23:02 - The societal disconnect from men's emotional expression and healing 24:36 - The importance of community and brotherhood for emotional resilience 25:52 - Balancing feminine and masculine energies in relationships 27:22 - How to lean into your power while respecting your partner's independence 28:44 - The significance of clarity, purpose, and self-leadership 30:01 - Reassurance, consistency, and honest dialogue to build long-term trust 31:21 - Practical steps for integrating emotional awareness into daily life 32:53 - The power of connecting with a higher power or divine guidance 34:10 - Letting go of control and embracing surrender for peace and growth 36:00 - Tools like prayer, meditation, and gratitude to stay grounded 37:08 - The importance of honesty and prepared communication in conflicts 38:07 - Building emotional intelligence as a foundation for trust 39:24 - Jordan's closing message: the importance of community, purpose, and continuous growth 40:50 - How to connect with Jordan Candless and upcoming retreats 41:32 - Final encouragement for men to step into their power and emotional truth Sponsor link: Vinted: https://www.vinted.com Guest links: Jordan Candlish Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jordancandlish01?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ== TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jordancandlish01?_r=1&_t=ZP-98ajD9k1XCw YouTube: https://youtube.com/@jordancandlish?si=U4bQLIiKqfEQGez- Host links  Christopher Louis:  Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/christopherlouisdate?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr Web: https://dating-intelligence.com/ Men.tality: https://www.datingmentality.com/ Natalie Stavola:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nataliestavola?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D Web: https://www.nataliestavolacoach.com/

Celebration as Christopher and Natalie hit a milestone most podcasts never reach: episode 150. In this unscripted, no-notes conversation, they pull back the curtain on what it's actually taken to keep Dating Intelligence going — the burnout, the format pivots, the moments they almost quit — and why the real work was never about dating advice, it was about doing the inner work themselves first. They talk candidly about authenticity versus performance, building community that actually sticks, and how personal transformation shows up in everything from relationships to money to how you show up on camera. Then they shift gears entirely: road trip stories, DJ Nani makes an appearance, and a reminder that even people who talk about relationships for a living are still figuring it out in real time.  Key  topics Milestone celebration and behind-the-scenes stories The importance of authenticity and inner work in personal growth Strategies for building community and meaningful connections Insights on podcasting evolution and content format changes The role of humor, energy, and authenticity in hosting and relationships Celebration of 150 episodes Personal growth and transformation Road trip stories and snacks Music and self-expression Vulnerability and evolution in life and podcasting Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Milestone Celebration 00:30 Host Appreciation and Show Evolution 01:49 Overcoming Burnout and Staying Motivated 02:47 The Power of Authenticity and Charisma 04:00 How Social Media Sparks Led to Collaboration 07:55 Podcast Format Changes and Video Integration 08:50 The Importance of Perspective in Relationships 12:01 Handling Toxic Environments and Energy Management 15:02 Personal Stories of Overcoming Challenges 19:54 Event Highlights and Community Building 24:00 The Intersection of Romance and Finance 26:59 Unblocking Mindsets for Better Opportunities 30:01 Road Trip Adventures and Personal Growth 31:06 Closing Remarks and Future Plans 32:29 Wedding in Utah and Celebrating Love 34:15 Yin and Yang in Relationships 36:03 Road Trip Snacks and Music Rituals 48:01 Memorable Road Trip Moments 54:38 Favorite Music and Playlist Tips 01:00:33 Reflections on Growth and Future Goals Links: Alyssa Jenkins - Genesis Wealth Partners - https://www.linkedin.com/in/alyssajenkins Natalie Stavola - Coach and Podcast Host - https://www.linkedin.com/in/nataliestavola Christopher Louis - Podcast Host - https://www.instagram.com/christopherlouisdate Natalie Stavola Coaching - https://nataliestavolacoach.com DatingMentality.com - https://datingmentality.com LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/natalie-stavola Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/nataliestavola Dating Intelligence - https://www.dating-intelligence.com

Natalie Stavola and Christopher Louis dive into what really creates attraction in today's digital world—and it's not the perfect photo or carefully curated profile. From dating app pictures and social media filters to confidence, presence, and self-worth, they explore how authenticity becomes your greatest advantage. They share personal stories, practical strategies, and mindset shifts for building genuine confidence, overcoming self-doubt, handling rejection with resilience, and showing up as your most authentic self. You'll also learn why your energy matters, how presence changes the way others experience you, and simple techniques to instantly access greater confidence in everyday life. Whether you're navigating dating apps, building stronger relationships, or working on personal growth, this conversation offers actionable insights to help you stop performing and start attracting from a place of authenticity.  Keywords: dating profiles, authenticity, self-confidence, social media, photos, self-image, dating apps, inner work, self-love, digital dating confidence, energy, presence, self-worth, relationships, personal growth, mindset, authenticity, rejection, success Key Topics The importance of authentic photos on dating apps How social media influences self-perception The role of inner confidence in dating success Tips for taking genuine and flattering photos The impact of editing and filters on self-image The role of self-confidence in social interactions How energy and mindset influence attraction Techniques to switch on confidence instantly Handling rejection without losing self-worth The importance of presence and authenticity in success Takeaways Confidence is a skill that fluctuates and can be learned.  Energy and mindset directly impact how others perceive us. Practicing presence helps in reducing anxiety and increasing authenticity. Reframing rejection as a growth opportunity boosts resilience. Being true to your emotions accelerates personal and relational growth. Sound Bites "You look how you look like who you look like." "iPhones distort your face." "Confidence is a skill set." Chapters 00:00 – Introduction and Personal Stories 01:55 – The Reality of Bathroom Selfies and Profile Photos 04:01 – The Evolution of Self-Perception and Photos 06:02 – The Skill of Taking Good Photos and Posing 09:01 – Authenticity vs. Filters and FaceTune 12:03 – The Impact of Social Media and Editing Apps 15:06 – Inner Confidence and Self-Love in Dating 17:54 – The Future of Video Profiles and Authenticity  21:07 – Rejection, Self-Worth, and Inner Work 24:01 – The Power of Self-Perception and Belief Systems 28:02 – The Fluctuation of Confidence and How to Manage It 30:08 – Techniques to Instantly Switch on Confidence 35:12 – Handling Rejection and Maintaining Self-Worth 40:42 – The Power of Presence and Authenticity 44:59 – Using Energy to Attract Success and Love 50:35 – Overcoming Childhood Programming and Limiting Beliefs 55:01 – Practical Tips for Staying Present in Daily Life 1:00:00 – The Role of Inner Work in Personal Transformation 1:05:02 – Celebrating Small Wins and Building Confidence 1:10:02 – The Importance of Self-Compassion and Forgiveness Sponsor: If you're struggling with OCD or unrelenting intrusive thoughts, NOCD can help. Book a free 15 minute call to get started: https://learn.nocd.com/dating Hosts info: Natalie Stavola - Instagram Natalie Stavola Coaching - https://natalie-stavola-coach.com Christopher Louis - Instagram Dating Intelligence - https://dating-intelligence.com/

In this episode of Dating Intelligence, hosts Christopher and Natalie explore the complex landscape of love, marriage, and self-discovery. Featuring therapist Jamie Lynn, they delve into societal pressures, the evolving mindset around marriage, and how personal growth influences relationship choices. Whether you're contemplating marriage or navigating love at any age, this conversation offers clarity and fresh perspectives. Main Topics Explored: Societal expectations and the role of marriage as a status symbol The differences in mindset about marriage for younger vs. older adults The impact of childhood conditioning and trauma on relationship choices How love differs from attachment and trauma bonds Practical advice on having honest conversations about marriage expectations The influence of cultural standards on women's perceptions of worth Navigating pressure from family and society to marry The significance of self-love and authenticity in partnership Benefits and challenges of marrying young vs. later in life Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction and banter between hosts 01:13 - Guest introduction and conversation about her background 02:42 - Perspective on marriage and societal conditioning 04:21 - The influence of childhood and societal programming 06:05 - The importance of authentic connection over societal approval 09:10 - Why many women marry for status, not love 11:52 - Differences in marriage mindset across life stages 14:21 - Risks and benefits of marrying young vs. later in life 16:36 - Love versus attachment—key distinctions 18:08 - Traditional roles in marriage and personal preferences 21:01 - The impact of trauma bonds and soul connection 23:32 - Gender differences in marriage pressure 27:14 - How to approach relationship conversations early 30:20 - The importance of alignment and shared values 33:23 - Feeding into societal narratives and real self-awareness 36:52 - Women's wiring for companionship and relationship fulfillment 38:45 - Self-love as a foundation for healthy partnerships 41:16 - Pros and cons of getting married young 45:17 - The significance of family lineage and cultural expectations 46:21 - Jamie Lynn's experience with Australian family 48:01 - Connecting with the guests and closing remarks Guest links:  Jamie Lynn- Instagram Pinkpill Therapy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/pinkpilltherapy Hosts info:  Natalie Stavola - Instagram Natalie Stavola Coaching - https://natalie-stavola-coach.com   Christopher Louis - Instagram  Dating Intelligence - https://dating-intelligence.com/   Whether you're single, dating, or considering marriage, this episode encourages you to reflect on your worth, values, and the true indicators of a fulfilling relationship.

Dana and Daniel built a viral comedy series out of their real polyamorous relationship — and the result is funnier, messier, and more honest than most people expect. On this episode, Natalie and Christopher sit down with the duo behind The Poly Couple to talk about what actually happens when you turn your love life into content: the boundaries that hold it together, the jealousy that has to be worked through (not avoided), and the friendship that makes the whole thing possible. This isn't a polyamory 101 lecture. It's a real conversation about communication under pressure, what ethical non-monogamy looks like day-to-day, and why authenticity — on camera and off — is the only thing that actually works. In this episode: The evolution of their web series inspired by true events and their journey into filmmaking What polyamory truly means: loving more than one person in diverse ways The importance of communication, trust, and boundaries in ethical non-monogamy How to introduce poly concepts to a partner and navigate difficult conversations The role of jealousy: a natural indicator of care and trust issues Personal boundaries, including scheduling and respectful communication The humorous side of poly life: clips from their series and real-life anecdotes The ongoing challenges and lessons learned in maintaining multiple relationships How their long-term friendship and collaboration strengthen their relationship storytelling The significance of authenticity and emotional truth in their content creation Timestamps:  00:00 - Welcome and episode overview: Exploring humor and honesty in polyamory 00:21 - Introducing Dana and Daniel, creators of a viral poly series 03:42 - What is polyamory? Definitions and misconceptions 05:15 - How they discovered polyamory and its inspiration from historical tour stories 07:24 - The realities and challenges of opening up a relationship 08:49 - The importance of trust and communication in navigating poly environments 11:17 - Differentiating between genuine polyamory and misused labels 13:08 - The cathartic process of writing and filming personal stories 15:40 - The emotionalDepth of the series and learning from mistakes 17:31 - Handling jealousy and red flags in relationships 20:24 - Managing insecurities and trust issues with partners 23:52 - Setting boundaries: transparency and respecting each other's space 28:22 - How they organize their busy schedules and maintain trust 31:31 - Life filming the series: balancing creativity with daily life 33:36 - How long they've been friends and collaborators 34:41 - Resources and social platforms where you can follow Dana, Daniel, and the  Series Resources & Links: Sponsors:  J4L  Web link: - https://trk.pdt.im/uK4nXo  J4L festival link: https://j4l.com/dating-festival Twitter: https://x.com/ComJ4love  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFig402uwrJuhz-Ub25I60g/videos  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/j4l_com_/    Poly Couple Info:  [Dana and the Wolf - YouTube](https://youtube.com/channel/ DanaandtheWolf) Connect with Dana and Daniel: @danaandthewolf  (I THINK ALL OF THEIR HANDLES ARE DANA AND THE WOLF        ELECTRICNOW - TT - @electricnow / INSTA - @electricnowtv / TWITTER - @electricnowtv        ELECTRIC ENTERTAINMENT TT - @electricentertainment / INSTA - @electricentertainmentofficial  / TWITTER - @electricEnt1       DEAN DEVLIN - TT - @DDEVLINJR / INSTA - @officialdeandevlin/ TWITTER - @dean_devlin Air Date: The episode drops June 16th at 4am PST  Follow their series for more real, raw, and hilarious insights into polyamory Christopher Louis:  Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/christopherlouisdate?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr Web: https://dating-intelligence.com/ Men.tality: https://www.datingmentality.com/   Natalie Stavola:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nataliestavola?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D Web: https://www.nataliestavolacoach.com/  Special thanks to the hosts and their engaging questions. Stay connected, stay truthful, and keep exploring the complexities of modern love.

You've done the therapy. You've read the books. You've done the work — or at least you think you have. So why does the same relationship keep showing up with a different face?  In this episode, Christopher and co-host Natalie Stavola sit down with energy healer Stefanie Truino to explore what traditional self-help can't reach: the energetic and subconscious layers driving your love life from underneath. They break down how emotional blockages get lodged in the body, why cord attachments to past partners keep you energetically tethered long after the relationship ends, and how tools like Reiki, astrology, and the Akashic Records can reveal the patterns you've been too close to see. This isn't woo. This is the part of the work most people skip — and why they stay stuck. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Current Events 02:59 Exploring Dating Dynamics and New Partnerships 05:52 Introducing Energy Healing and Its Impact 08:53 Understanding Emotional Blockages in Relationships 11:59 Skepticism and the Healing Process 14:58 Reprogramming Thought Forms for Better Relationships 18:45 Exploring Inner Child Healing 21:31 The Role of Intuition in Healing 24:18 Energy Cleansing Techniques 25:32 Understanding Cords of Attachment 30:08 Navigating Energy Drain in Social Situations 33:49 The Dynamics of Social Interactions 34:45 Astrology and Personal Validation 36:50 The Influence of Astrology on Life Decisions 39:05 Understanding Personal Patterns Through Astrology 41:01 Exploring the Akashic Records 43:22 Starting Your Healing Journey Sponsors: J4L Web link: - https://trk.pdt.im/click?pid=239&offer_id=15&sub1=June2 J4L festival link: https://j4l.com/dating-festival Twitter: https://x.com/ComJ4love  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFig402uwrJuhz-Ub25I60g/videos Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/j4l_com_/ Christopher Louis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christopherlouisdate?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr Web: https://dating-intelligence.com/ Men.tality: https://www.datingmentality.com/ Natalie Stavola: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nataliestavola?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D Web: https://www.nataliestavolacoach.com/

Modern dating has a noise problem — reality TV selling fairy tales, apps reducing attraction to a swipe, and social media quietly eroding how we see ourselves and what we expect from love. In this episode, Christopher Louis and Natalie Stavola cut through all of it. They get into why most people enter relationships still carrying the wreckage of the last one, how blurry boundaries masquerade as flexibility until everything falls apart, and what emotional intelligence actually looks like in real-time — not in theory. They also break down what shows like Love Is Blind and Age of Attraction get right, get wrong, and what they unintentionally reveal about how desperate most people are for genuine connection. If you've been wondering why the same patterns keep showing up with different people, this episode is the answer you didn't know you were looking for. Key Topics The importance of boundaries in relationships Healing from past relationships and self-growth Strategies for effective communication and vulnerability The importance of patience and self-awareness in relationships Insights into popular dating shows like Love is Blind and Age of Attraction The impact of social media and media on self-esteem and dating The role of emotional intelligence and authenticity in love Strategies for personal growth and healthy relationships Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Dating Intelligence 02:55 Exploring Intentional Dating and Matchmaking 05:34 Navigating Relationship Dynamics 12:55 Conscious Uncoupling and Healing 18:28 Balancing Relationships and Personal Growth 20:53 Harnessing Anger for Growth 23:05 The Dynamics of Relationship Conflicts 25:46 Understanding Boundaries in Relationships 27:07 The Importance of Communication and Journaling 29:00 Navigating New Partnerships 32:15 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Patience 36:03 Reality TV and Relationship Dynamics 42:08 Insecurity and Gaslighting in Relationships 44:01 Dating Shows: Love is Blind vs. Age of Attraction 44:49 Navigating Breakups and Dating as a Coach 46:36 The Dynamics of Age in Dating 48:55 The Importance of Depth in Relationships 52:14 Healing and Growth in Modern Relationships 54:43 Feminism and Chivalry in Dating 58:56 The Rat Race of Toxic Relationships Sponsors:  Web link: https://trk.pdt.im/uK4nXo J4L festival link: https://j4l.com/dating-festival Twitter: https://x.com/ComJ4love  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFig402uwrJuhz-Ub25I60g/videos  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/j4l_com_/  Christopher Louis:  Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/christopherlouisdate?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr Web: https://dating-intelligence.com/ Men.tality:  https://www.datingmentality.com/ Natalie Stavola:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nataliestavola?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D Web: https://www.nataliestavolacoach.com/

In this episode, Christopher and Dr. Mario Sacasa, a relationship expert blending faith, psychology, and strategy, shares insights on maintaining healthy relationships, effective communication, and the importance of emotional connection. Discover practical tips for couples at any stage to strengthen their bond and avoid common pitfalls. Chapters 00:00 The Importance of Time in Dating 05:00 Drifting in Relationships 10:05 Communication and Vulnerability 15:03 Building Emotional Connection 20:03 The Role of Trust in Relationships 27:34 The Relationship as the Client 30:12 Navigating Communication in Counseling 36:22 Understanding Relationship Dynamics 38:06 Establishing Healthy Communication from the Start 43:23 Managing Conflict and Timeouts 48:39 The Importance of Seeking Help Early   Dr. Mario Sacasa links: Resources Dr. Mario Sacasa's Podcast - Always Hope Attachment Theory - Sue Johnson Relationship Counseling Services weblink: https://www.drmariosacasa.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@drmariosacasa Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmariosacasa Sponsor:  No Such Thing: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/no-such-thing/id1780210954 Men.tality : https://www.datingmentality.com/ Christopher Louis:  https://dating-intelligence.com/ Instagram: @fetchsport

What if the biggest reason your relationships aren't working… is something you're not fully seeing? In this episode of Dating Intelligence, host Christopher Louis and co-host Natalie Stavola sit down with relationship coach Ana Lea Christian to explore how self-awareness directly shapes your love life—who you're attracted to, how you show up, and why certain patterns keep repeating. Ana works with high-achieving men and women to break toxic cycles, rebuild confidence, and create relationships that feel both safe and deeply fulfilling. In this conversation, she shares how emotional intelligence, authenticity, and inner work are the real keys to attracting aligned partners. From understanding attachment styles to recognizing red flags early, this episode gives you the clarity to stop repeating old patterns—and start creating something different. If you've ever felt stuck in your dating life or questioned why you keep attracting the same outcomes, this episode will shift your perspective completely. ⸻ 🔑 In This Episode:     •    How self-awareness impacts attraction and relationship choices     •    Why you keep repeating the same patterns in dating     •    How to recognize and break toxic cycles     •    The role of emotional intelligence in healthy relationships     •    Understanding attachment styles and how they affect you     •    How to build confidence and attract aligned partners     •    What it takes to create a relationship that feels safe and alive ⸻ 🧠 Topics Covered: dating advice, relationships, self-awareness, emotional intelligence, toxic patterns, attachment styles, confidence, self-love, personal growth, red flags, modern dating ⸻ ⏱ Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Personal Updates 02:49 The Importance of Boredom and Self-Reflection 05:41 Introducing Ana Lea Christian 08:49 The Dangers of Leading with Assets in Dating 11:32 Understanding High-Value Relationships 14:26 From Performance to Authenticity 17:22 Healing Childhood Patterns & Self-Worth 20:15 The Seven Pillars of Relationship Coaching 22:15 Navigating First Dates: The Art of Connection 29:05 Red Flags & Relationship Patterns 41:39 Breaking Free from Toxic Relationships 47:24 Finding Alignment in New Relationships 49:00 Understanding Dating Dynamics 51:56 Recognizing Red Flags 52:53 Healing from Toxic Relationships 55:53 The Importance of Self-Work 59:35 Attachment Styles Explained 01:01:53 Attracting Aligned Partners 01:04:45 The Role of Honesty in Relationships ⸻ 🎙 Guest: Ana Lea Christian 💻 https://analeacoaching.com 📸 Instagram: @ana__lea__ 🎵 TikTok: @ana__lea__ ⸻ 📲 Follow and Connect Christopher Louis - @fetchsport Natalie Stavola - @nataliestavola Dating Intelligence - dating-intelligence.com Sponsors: Men.tality: https://www.datingmentality.com/

What if divorce wasn't the end… but your biggest opportunity to rebuild your life and relationships the right way? In this episode of Dating Intelligence, host Christopher Louis and guest divorce coach, Kristine Krishnan break down the reality of dating after divorce—what actually works, what holds people back, and how to move forward with clarity, confidence, and emotional maturity. They explore how to rebuild trust, rediscover your identity, and stop carrying old relationship patterns into new connections. From navigating dating apps to balancing healing with putting yourself back out there, this episode gives you the tools to date with intention—not fear. If you're starting over or questioning your approach to dating, this conversation will help you shift from survival mode into power and clarity. ⸻  In This Episode:     •    How to rebuild yourself after divorce     •    Why emotional maturity is the key to better relationships     •    How to stop repeating old patterns in dating     •    The balance between healing and putting yourself back out there     •    How to trust again after being hurt     •    Navigating dating apps with clarity and confidence     •    Why self-reflection changes everything ⸻ Chapters:  00:00 Investing in Relationships: A New Approach 01:15 New Year, New Beginnings: Setting Intentions 02:30 Emotional Maturity and Conscious Connection 03:56 Reinventing Yourself After Divorce 05:24 Navigating Life Post-Divorce 07:15 Overcoming Fear and Embracing Change 09:10 The Weight of Baggage: Moving Forward 10:38 Self-Reflection: The Key to Healing 11:53 The Role of Coaching in Divorce Recovery 13:12 January: The Month of Divorce 14:08 Moving Forward: Tips for Life After Divorce 15:06 Taking Time for Self-Assessment 17:03 Healing vs. Dating: Finding Balance 19:12 The Importance of Journaling 20:38 Gratitude and Growth: A Positive Outlook 22:32 Rediscovering Your Identity 23:20 The Challenge of Being Alone 24:14 Understanding Values in Relationships 25:34 The Unique Challenges for Women Post-Divorce 27:00 Men's Perspective: The Struggles After Divorce 28:21 The Importance of Support Systems 29:38 Navigating the Dating Scene After Divorce 30:59 The Role of Dating Apps in Modern Relationships 32:22 Accountability in Relationships 34:18 Trusting Again: From Guarded to Grounded 36:38 Healing vs. Hiding: Emotional Availability 39:49 Adapting to Online Dating 42:35 Authenticity vs. Perfection in Dating 44:28 Building Trust in New Relationships 46:11 The Importance of Communication 49:12 Creating Safe Spaces for Vulnerability 51:31 Truth or Honesty: A Game for Connection 54:45 Final Thoughts: Moving Forward with Intention ⸻ Kristine Krishnan  webpage - https://www.coachkristine.com/ ⸻ Christopher Louis- https://www.instagram.com/fetchsport?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr Natalie Stavola- https://www.instagram.com/nataliestavola?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ== Dating Intelligence- https://dating-intelligence.com YouTube- https://youtube.com/@DatingIntelligencethePodcast?si=Fr2amnYP8nqd4h2x ⸻ Sponsor: Mentality: https://www.datingmentality.com/

What if your attraction patterns aren't random… but programmed? In this powerful episode of Dating Intelligence, host Christopher Louis and co-host Natalie Stavola sit down with Sheena Reynolds to unpack how trauma silently shapes who we're drawn to, how we show up in relationships, and why so many people repeat the same painful patterns. Sheena shares her journey from acting in Israel to becoming a successful entrepreneur in the U.S., revealing how resilience, reinvention, and deep inner work transformed her life—and how it can transform yours too. This conversation goes beyond dating advice. It dives into the psychology of attraction, emotional patterns, self-awareness, and the deeper truths behind personal growth, empowerment, and healing. If you've ever wondered why you're attracted to certain people—or how to break cycles that no longer serve you—this episode will shift everything. What You'll Learn:     •    How trauma influences attraction and relationship choices     •    Why you keep repeating the same patterns in dating     •    The role of self-awareness in breaking toxic cycles     •    How to rebuild yourself after emotional setbacks     •    The truth about resilience and personal reinvention     •    How societal expectations shape identity and relationships     •    The power of self-reflection and inner work Topics Covered: dating advice, relationships, trauma healing, attraction psychology, personal growth, self-discovery, emotional intelligence, resilience, empowerment, feminism, media influence, radicalism, mental health, self-awareness Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Co-Host Introduction 04:02 Introducing Sheena Reynolds: A Journey of Reinvention 06:44 From Israel to America: Sheena's Story 10:44 Resilience, Mindset & Growth 20:37 How Trauma Shapes Attraction 39:54 Escapism & Self-Discovery 43:01 Feminism & Political Extremes 45:04 Cultural Perspectives on Rights 46:38 Understanding Radicalism 48:08 Media & Education Influence 51:58 Self-Reflection & Healing 54:36 Relationships & Societal Expectations 01:01:34 The Hero's Journey Through Trauma 01:10:28 Self-Dialogue & Acceptance 01:15:58 Finding Meaning in Life's Challenges Guest: Sheena Reynolds: Book: Unstoppable-  Here is your book link.  https://www.amazon.com/Unstoppable-Inspiring-Story-Israeli-Actress-ebook/dp/B0GFBWLMPB?ref_=ast_author_dp&th=1&psc=1 Social Media:: https://www.instagram.com/sheenaray_reynolds?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ== Sponsor: Mentality: https://www.datingmentality.com/ Links: Christopher Louis-  https://www.instagram.com/fetchsport?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr Natalie Stavola-  https://www.instagram.com/nataliestavola?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ== Dating Intelligence-  https://dating-intelligence.com YouTube-  https://youtube.com/@datingintelligencethepodcast?si=Fr2amnYP8nqd4h2x

In this episode of Dating Intelligence, Christopher Louis and guest cohost, Jamie Date, explore the intricacies of modern dating, discussing the importance of investing time wisely in relationships, the pros and cons of online dating, and the significance of community in finding meaningful connections. They delve into strategies for building confidence, navigating first dates, and understanding what women truly want from men. The conversation also touches on the dynamics of the friend zone and the importance of authenticity and adding value in relationships. Chapters 00:00 Investing in Relationships 01:14 Introduction to Jamie Date 02:34 Summer Updates and Community Building 03:48 The Pros and Cons of Online Dating 05:40 Finding the Right Social Circles 06:58 Building Confidence and Overcoming Comfort Zones 08:50 First Date Strategies for Success 10:12 The Importance of Fun on Dates 12:34 Setting the Right Atmosphere for Dates 14:25 Shared Experiences and Emotional Resonance 16:39 Navigating Flirting and Connection 20:26 Building Rapport and Connection  23:15 Confidence and Authenticity in Dating 26:04 The Importance of Action and Experience 29:00 Adding Value in Relationships 34:06 What Women Want from Men 40:14 Understanding the Friend Zone 47:31 The Dynamics of Relationships and Community Sponsor: Mentality https://www.datingmentality.com/ Guest Links: Website: https://www.jamiedatecoaching.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamiedate/