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Every decision you make comes from a place internally before it ever shows up externally. Most people think they make decisions with logic. But you actually make decisions from one of five places: DisappointmentDesperationDiscernmentDesireDisciplineTune in to dive deeper into the definition, declaration and direction understanding these concepts have in your life.

We all ask the same question in two completely different seasons of life: “How Long Does It Last?” We ask it when things are going really well and we’re waiting for something to go wrong. And we ask it when life feels heavy and we’re desperate for relief. In this episode, we explore the duality behind that question, why we struggle to be present in both good and hard seasons, and how perspective can help us find the silver lining no matter what we’re facing. This conversation is a reminder that joy is a choice, seasons don’t last forever, and the present moment deserves to be experienced fully.

On this episode of Aye Man, Say Man: The Podcast, we’re talking about default mode — the automatic version of you that shows up when you’re triggered, overwhelmed, scared, or trying to protect yourself. Your default mode was built from trauma, past disappointments, survival instincts, and environments that demanded strength. And while it once kept you safe, what protected you before may now be limiting your growth. We unpack how trauma responses can disguise themselves as personality traits like people-pleasing, shutting down, hyper-independence, over-explaining, and even self-sabotage. Because healing isn’t about changing who you are — it’s about becoming intentional about how you respond.

Have you ever looked up and realized you and someone you love are no longer in the same season of life? In this episode of Aye Man, Say Man: The Podcast, we talk about what happens when friendships, family relationships, romantic partners, coworkers, and even college friends start to feel… out of sync. Not because of drama. Not because of beef. But because life is life-ing. We unpack: How relationships grow apart or grow togetherWhy some people you can “spin the block” with — and others are truly a dead endThe grief of outgrowing people you still loveThe maturity it takes to not force alignmentAnd how to honor people for the season they were meant to be in your lifeThis episode is for anyone navigating distance without hatred, change without conflict, and love without proximity. Sometimes the hardest realization is this:Everybody isn’t meant to go with you to the next season — and that’s okay.

We talk a lot about waiting, grinding, and surviving — but what about when the prayer finally gets answered? In this episode, Kiaya J.  dives into what it means to slow down and actually sit in the blessings you once begged for. From new jobs to new peace, from relationships to personal growth — God’s been showing out, but are you taking time to receive it? This conversation is a reminder that gratitude is not laziness — it’s alignment. Learn how to stop minimizing your wins, honor your answered prayers, and stay grounded in gratitude. Because sometimes the next step isn’t “more” — it’s “thank you.”

Are you so focused on what’s next that you can’t appreciate what’s now? In this episode of Aye Man, Say Man: The Podcast, we’re breaking down the trap of always striving for the next title, goal, or glow-up — and learning how to sit in the season you’re in. We’ll talk about why the present moment matters, how to release the past so it doesn’t block your peace, and why you are not behind (you’re right on schedule). 🔥 Plus, the Killa Countdown will give you 5–4–3–2–1 practical ways to ground yourself in the now — from mindset shifts, to reflection questions, to simple daily rituals that keep you centered. If you’ve ever felt like you’re running out of time or like your life is stuck on “pause,” this one’s for you. Tune in and be reminded that where you are is necessary for where you’re going.

On this episode of Aye Man, Say Man: The Podcast, we’re digging into the difference between character and circumstance. Have you ever wondered if someone’s actions reveal who they really are or if it’s just a reflection of the season they’re in? That’s where discernment comes in. In this conversation, I share practical ways to recognize the difference, why it matters in your relationships, and how to protect your peace without hardening your heart. Plus, in the Killa Countdown, I’m giving you 5 tools to help you navigate tricky moments when you’re unsure if it’s character… or circumstance. This one is all about clarity, growth, and not mislabeling people—or yourself.

Knowing your worth sounds easy—until life, love, work, and self-doubt put it to the test. In this episode, I open up about my personal journey of recognizing my value across jobs, relationships, friendships, and even within myself. We’re getting real about the struggles, the lessons, and the moments that forced me to choose myself, even when it hurt. You’ll hear why knowing your worth is an everyday practice, not a one-time decision. Plus, I’m dropping a powerful Killa Countdown to help you recognize when you’re settling, reclaim your power, and walk boldly in your purpose. 💥 If you’ve ever questioned if you’re asking for too much, if you’ve stayed somewhere too long out of fear, or if you’re ready to show up fully and unapologetically—you need this episode in your life. Let’s kill the doubt, elevate the love, and move different. ✨ #KASHMOVEMENT

Aye Man, Say Man are you having a hard time processing your reality? Feel like your life is spiraling out of control? It’s probably because you are basing your life off of how you feel versus what’s real. Facts Over Feelings.  Facts Over Feelings emphasizes the importance of making decisions based on logic, evidence, and rational thinking rather than emotions or biases. It doesn’t mean emotions aren’t valuable; rather, it promotes a balance between emotions and logic to make informed choices. Check out this episode to break down how applying a Facts Over Feelings mindset can help decision making a lot easier.

Aye Man, Say Man are you struggling with establishing boundaries? This is the episode for you. Join Kiaya J. as she defines boundaries, explains how to put them into practice in all aspects of your life, and challenges you to reflect on where your boundaries are. Are you setting boundaries or creating walls? Are your boundaries being tested or respected? Find out on this episode of AMSM: The Podcast.

The moment every college student prays for. Walking across that stage. But what happens next? Everyone talks about the big moment, but no one talks about the aftermath. Kiaya J. has a few things to say regarding life after college. Check out this episode as we discuss the transition, post-graduation depression, and how to embark on your new journey.

How many times have you had an idea but felt like it wasn't the right time? What about a plan but felt like you didn't have the resources or money to execute it? We all have been there. This episode will motivate you to Do it Today. Inspired by Brian Dickson's song Do it Today, this episode will encourage you to put your ideas into action. We are our biggest hurdle. Sometimes we allow fear to hold us back.  Life is a gamble. You have to be willing to bet on yourself. Join us as the Killa Countdown provides a play-by-play on how to Do it Today.

Aye Man, Say Man, haven't been feeling like yourself lately? Well, Hard Times don't last. It's ya girl Kiaya J., and I know just how you feel. Sometimes when we experience different seasons in life we get lost in the sauce. We lose ourselves in our experiences. We give so much of ourselves to other people, our jobs, and a plethora of other things that consume us.  This episodes highlights the signs of when you may start to not feel like yourself, provides explanations as to why you may be feeling this way, and a bit of advice on how to pull yourself out of a rut.  Killa Countdown 5 - Reasons You May Not Feel Like Yourself Hormones- They affect your mood, stress, appetite, and sexual functions.  Stress- Your sense of self can shift due to overload of stress. Major Life Changes- This can be positive or negative. Your focus is pulled away from yourself. You neglect your own wants and needs. Loss- Grieving can make you feel like you lost apart of yourself.  Changes in Relationships- Shifts within your realtionship can affect how you view yourself.  4- Ways to Feel Like Yourself Again Getting grounded- Be consisitent with something to establish stability. Stray away from substances- Put the bottle and the bud down. Substances cloud your judgement and numb your feelings.  Revist old activities.  Place yourself around people who appreciate the real you.  3- Places to Go Home- Recenter yourself. Anywhere but the bed. A spot of significance. (ie. a hideout, lake, park)  2- Affirmations "I create my reality."  "I'm the best me because of what I've been through."  1- Thing to Remember  Breathe Follow us on all platforms Instagram: @kashmovement1  Personal Instagram: @_kiaya_j Twitter: @kashmovement1 Facebook: KASH MOVEMENT

Welcome Back to Aye Man, Say Man: The Podcast. I hope you're ready for me to read you to filth. I may not know what you're specifically going through, but as long as your rocking with me, know you're not going through life alone. This season is personal. We will be having guests, advertisements, and more as the season develops.

Episode 12: Me Vs Me Series Part 3: Extending Grace Aye Man, Say Man! When was the last time you gave yourself a pat on the back? This episode will challenge you to sit back and think about how you treat yourself. Sometimes we forget to extend the same grace and credibility we give to others, to ourselves. It is more important to embrace where you are, rather than where you want to be. Join Kiaya J. as she shares her experience with denying herself of grace and how she was able to build herself back up. This message is for anybody feeling as if they aren’t doing great. You are overachieving. Countdown with Killa: 5 - Ways to Remind Yourself What You’ve Done - Talk to an old friend (this person has a different perspective of you -  Think about what your parents say to their coworkers or Facebook about you. - Think about what you have overcame in the last 24 hours that tested your character -  Reflect on past accomplishments -  Share a conversation with someone who truly loves you. 4 – Ways to Celebrate You -Self Care Session -Treat yourself to your favorite meal -Buy something nice -Go Out! 3- Ways to Pull Yourself out of a Hole -Speak what you know, not what you feel. -Prioritize spiritual time -Place yourself around people who love you. 2-Things to Stop Doing -Pouring so much time and energy into social media - Adding so much to your plate 1-Quote to Live By “You, yourself, as much as anybody in the universe, deserve your love and affection.” Be sure to follow us social media for more content: Instagram and Twitter: @kashmovement1 Facebook: KASH MOVEMENT