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What happens when you break into a federal facility to retrieve your own helmet, then have to convince the bloke who runs an airline that you're not a complete liability? Well, of course our Scotty Douglas has a story for that.  Yep, old mate's back, and as usual, we've managed to cover a ridiculous amount of ground. There's a cracker of a story involving federal police, a potentially ruined career and a $283 bottle of scotch that may or may not have helped save his arse. Seriously, you couldn't make this sh*t up if you tried... But underneath the stories and the lols, we also got back into the whole 'hard things' conversation, why getting comfortable with being uncomfortable matters, and why the hard thing that helps you grow isn't necessarily the one you're already good at.  Oh, and Scotty, we're still waiting for book number three. Get cracking, kid. SPONSORED BY TESTART FAMILY LAWYERS Website: www.testartfamilylawyers.com.au  SCOTT DOUGLAS Website: horatio-jones.com.au TIFFANEE COOK Linktree:  linktr.ee/rollwiththepunches Website: tiffcook.com     See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why do we sometimes push people away before they even get the chance to hurt us? And how much of what we call our personality is actually a bunch of survival strategies we picked up as kids? I had an absolute cracker of a conversation with psychoanalyst Dr. Galit Atlas, who just happens to be the author of Come Closer, about childhood wounds, adult relationships and the stuff we carry into our grown-up lives without even realising it. If you're a sucker to exploring the protective patterns we develop, the stories we tell ourselves to justify our behaviours, and things like Tiff Cook's emotional avoidance, abandonment issues and other dysfunctional adaptations she's had to overcome so far (or still has a way to go with) then buckle up for the ride and hit play on this bad boy... SPONSORED BY TESTART FAMILY LAWYERS Website: www.testartfamilylawyers.com.au  DR. GALIT ATLAS Website: galitatlas.com TIFFANEE COOK Linktree:  linktr.ee/rollwiththepunches Website: tiffcook.com   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why do we keep getting in our own way, even when we bloody know better? Beck King and I get stuck into the patterns, fears and stories that keep us repeating the same shit, why the problem isn't always the problem, and what it takes to actually make a change. Beck shares some of her own journey through depression, anxiety and grief, and we talk about why knowing what to do and actually doing it are two very different things. Because let's be honest, most of us don't need another book, podcast or course telling us what to do (except this one, obviously 😂). We need to figure out why we're not doing the bloody thing in the first place. If you're sick of getting in your own way, this one's for you. SPONSORED BY TESTART FAMILY LAWYERS Website: www.testartfamilylawyers.com.au  REBEKAH KING Website: moonbeammonday.com.au TIFFANEE COOK Linktree:  linktr.ee/rollwiththepunches Website: tiffcook.com   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How much of your potential are you leaving on the table because you're waiting for the right time to get your sh*t together? We do we humans cling to comfort, certainty and the familiar, even when they're the very things keeping us stuck? Harps and I bang on in this ep about the stories we tell ourselves, the ways we resist the things that could help us grow, and why being willing to suck at something is often the price of actually getting better at it. I share a few recent realisations about myself and my tendency to resist the very help for, insist on doing things my own way, and then discover that the thing I was pushing back against was actually pretty bloody useful. Whoopies. 😂 But here's the thing. Ya don't need to have it all figured out... Ya don't need to feel confident... And ya definitely don't need to wait for the stars to align. Being willing to adapt, do things differently, learn as you go, and take action before you feel completely comfortable is where it's at! And if you're waiting for the perfect time to start, take a look at your watch now... I think it's bloody time! SPONSORED BY TESTART FAMILY LAWYERS Website: www.testartfamilylawyers.com.au  TIFFANEE COOK Linktree:  linktr.ee/rollwiththepunches Website: tiffcook.com   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why do we sometimes find it easier to jump off a cliff, swim in massive surf or lift a stupidly heavy weight than have an honest conversation about how we're actually feeling? Well, these are some of the questions Scotty and I get stuck into as we explore the whole hard things conversation, and why the thing that looks courageous on the outside isn't always the thing we're actually scared of. So if you're up for a chat about why we deliberately put ourselves in dangerous situations, how our childhoods shape the way we operate, and why some of us would rather do everything the hard way than ask for a bloody hand... this might be the one for you! Scotty shares some exceptional life tips, including how his fear of looking stupid has sometimes seen him throw a metaphorical hand grenade into a situation rather than admit he doesn't know how to do something. Which, let's be honest, is one way to handle it. Not necessarily the best way, though. There's a bit of ADHD, a few uncomfortable truths, some excellent examples of Scotty being Scotty, and a reminder that doing hard things is pretty bloody useful. But understanding WHY we're doing them is where the rubber really hits the road. SPONSORED BY TESTART FAMILY LAWYERS Website: www.testartfamilylawyers.com.au  TIFFANEE COOK Linktree:  linktr.ee/rollwiththepunches Website: tiffcook.com     See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

G'day whippersnappers. No guest this ep. Just you and me, sitting down for a chat about change. I've been having heaps of conversations lately while building Strong AF, and so many of them have brought me back to the same question: if I keep doing what I'm doing now, where does this take me? Because we are what we repeatedly do. Not what we intend to do. Not what we say we value. Not what we did six months ago. I'm getting into stories we tell ourselves, the identities we build, the way we speak to ourselves, and why wanting to change and actually being willing to change are two very different things. I also get into something I've come to believe pretty strongly: your body is the consequence, not the problem. Especially as women and as we get older and our bodies start responding differently to the things we've always done, the answer isn't automatically to eat less and do more. And then I give you something ridiculously simple you can actually do TODAY. Do one thing. Do it first thing in the morning. Do it again tomorrow. Then again. Because change doesn't require you to move mountains on day one. It requires you to start becoming the person you say you want to be Give this one a listen and then go do the bloody thing. SPONSORED BY TESTART FAMILY LAWYERS Website: www.testartfamilylawyers.com.au  TIFFANEE COOK Linktree:  linktr.ee/rollwiththepunches Website: tiffcook.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Vicki Connor has been through... well, honestly, I'm not sure how to describe it without sounding like I'm making sh*t up. A serious head injury that changed her personality. Type 1 diabetes from the age of seven. Major surgery at 15. Elite sport. Abusive relationships. Severe depression. A complicated pregnancy. A massive postpartum haemorrhage. Early menopause. Cancer. Losing both her parents. And then, just last year, a haemorrhagic stroke that left her having to learn to walk and talk again. And yet, the thing that has probably shaped her most isn't any one of those things. It's the identity she built around being 'strong'. Vicki talks about how being the strong one became something she was praised for from a very young age. She became the person who could handle anything, push through anything and never need anyone. And for a long time, that looked like resilience. Until it didn't. Because when being strong becomes who you are, asking for help starts to feel like failure. This is such a bloody good conversation about resilience, identity, recovery, trauma, asking for help and what happens when the thing that got you through life starts getting in the way of actually living it.   SPONSORED BY TESTART FAMILY LAWYERS Website: www.testartfamilylawyers.com.au  VICKI CONNOR Website: linkedin.com/in/vicki-connor TIFFANEE COOK Linktree:  linktr.ee/rollwiththepunches Website: tiffcook.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Katrina lost her husband Scott to a heart attack when he was just 42. He was fit, active, an exercise physiologist, didn't smoke, didn't have high cholesterol and had normal blood pressure. He'd even been to the doctor about chest pain. And yet, he still died. That experience, as you can imagine, completely changed the trajectory of Katrina's life. She's now a heart health advocate, working with researchers to improve early detection and access to heart health checks, particularly in rural Australia. We get into why being fit and healthy doesn't necessarily mean you're low risk, what family history can tell us, the limitations of current heart health screening, why rural Australians face another layer of risk, and why Katrina thinks we're putting far too much responsibility on patients to 'advocate for themselves'. And then there's the other side of this conversation. Grief. Raising two boys after losing their dad. Learning to live with the waves rather than trying to outrun them. And the decision to keep having a crack at life, even when life has dealt you a pretty effing brutal hand. This one got me in the feels... Now get out there and get ya bloody heart checked! SPONSORED BY TESTART FAMILY LAWYERS Website: www.testartfamilylawyers.com.au  TIFFANEE COOK Linktree:  linktr.ee/rollwiththepunches Website: tiffcook.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Two ADHD-ers walk into a podcast studio... what could possibly go wrong? Well, once we got past flamethrowers and weed killing, eventually we went down the rabbit hole of what happens when you finally understand how your brain actually works. Patrick was recently diagnosed with ADHD, and the diagnosis has given him a completely different lens on a whole bunch of things he's done throughout his life. The distractions... hyperfocus... inability to sit still... endless interests... the ridiculous number of things he manages to cram into a weekend... and the fact that when something genuinely grabs him, he'll move heaven and earth to do it. We compared notes on being the 'disruptive' kid at school, being labelled lazy or difficult, and what can happen when you're simply in the wrong environment or being asked to learn in a way that doesn't work for you. We also talked about medication, executive function, motivation, finding the right career fit, taking risks, trying shit just because you're interested in it, and why I reckon we can do ourselves a fair bit of damage when we start believing someone else's story about who we're supposed to be. Patrick has had one hell of an eclectic life, from journalism and radio to Tai Chi, technology, paragliding and community radio. If that kind of feels relatable for you... maybe you're not flaky. Maybe you're curious. Maybe you're not incapable of sticking at something. Maybe you just haven't found the thing that keeps you interested. And maybe... just maybe, being a little bit different isn't something that needs fixing at all.   SPONSORED BY TESTART FAMILY LAWYERS Website: www.testartfamilylawyers.com.au  PATRICK BONELLO Website: taichiathome.com.au/ TIFFANEE COOK Linktree:  linktr.ee/rollwiththepunches Website: tiffcook.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Narcissism gets thrown around so much these days that I was really bloody interested to get underneath the label and actually talk about what we know, what we don't know, and where we've potentially got it very wrong. Dr Peter Salerno has worked clinically with people who meet the criteria for severe personality disorders and now works predominantly with survivors of pathological relationships. We got into narcissism, psychopathy, manipulation, why highly intelligent and successful people can still get completely caught in these dynamics, and why telling someone to 'just leave' massively oversimplifies what can actually be happening to their brain and nervous system. We also got into the nature versus nurture debate, genetics, trauma, empathy, confirmation bias, why some people actively target others, and whether you can actually break these patterns and future proof yourself from ending up in another toxic relationship. There's a LOT in this one. And some of Peter's explanations completely challenge the way we usually talk about narcissism and abusive relationships.   SPONSORED BY TESTART FAMILY LAWYERS Website: www.testartfamilylawyers.com.au  DR. PETER SALERNO Website: drpetersalerno.com TIFFANEE COOK Linktree:  linktr.ee/rollwiththepunches Website: tiffcook.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Imagine being a rambunctious & ridiculously active weapon one minute, and one who's barely able to walk from the car to the supermarket without your heartrate sky-rocketing the next...Well, welcome to the world of Claire Clark... Claire was a paramedic, PT, yoga teacher, retreat organiser, ridiculously active human and basically someone who just kept doing all the things she could dream up. Until a back injury at work lead to a cascade of events that eventually saw her diagnosed with POTS. She spent years of not being believed and being told her tests were 'normal', losing the career she'd worked so bloody hard for, watching friendships change, and having to completely rethink what her life was actually for. I sure can't imagine the mental gymnastics of waiting so long for a diagnosis on an invisible illness in a body that's capacity to perform and function can change from one day to the next... Chatting with Claire sure holds the mirror up when it comes to how we so often measure our life by how much we can do, how much we earn, or what we achieve. These days it's all about 'finding the glimmers'... which sounds like a pretty bloody good philosophy if you ask me! SPONSORED BY TESTART FAMILY LAWYERS Website: www.testartfamilylawyers.com.au  POTS FOUNDATION Website: https://potsfoundation.org.au/become-a-member/ TIFFANEE COOK Linktree:  linktr.ee/rollwiththepunches Website: tiffcook.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What happens when we stop guessing and actually start paying attention to what our body is telling us? This was one of those conversations where I could've kept talking for another three hours. Dr. Kristen Holmes is the Global Head of Human Performance and Principal Scientist at Whoop, and she works with some of the best athletes and teams in the world, including Ferrari F1 and Paris Saint-Germain. We got into data, HRV, recovery, overtraining, women's health, perimenopause, sleep, fuelling, the menstrual cycle and why being absolutely farkin' exhausted shouldn't be considered normal. We also went deep on the psychology of performance, self-efficacy, trauma and the weird ways the things that once helped us survive can become the things that hold us back. And then I shared with Kristen the slightly uncomfortable realisation for me that a lot of what I thought was toughness in my boxing years may actually have been me being chronically under-recovered and under-fuelled. Kristen is ridiculously knowledgeable, but she's also incredibly open about her own story, including childhood trauma, elite sport, burnout and learning how to move from achievement and fear towards actually living with more joy and agency. Basically, there's a LOT in this one. Data nerds, athletes, women over 40, high performers and anyone who's ever worn exhaustion like a badge of honour, you're going to LOVE this one. SPONSORED BY TESTART FAMILY LAWYERS Website: www.testartfamilylawyers.com.au  DR. KRISTEN HOLMES Website: drkristenholmes.com/ TIFFANEE COOK Linktree:  linktr.ee/rollwiththepunches Website: tiffcook.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What happens when our body starts changing - particularly around 40 and beyond, and why do so many of us keep trying to live like we're still 35 when our biology is screaming, "Yeah, nah, we're not doing that anymore, bro" In this ep with Dr. Cam McDonald, we talked perimenopause, stress, hormones, exercise, food timing, nervous system regulation, emotions, subconscious stories and why sometimes the answer isn't to push harder, but to actually back the fark up and recover. Cam shared some pretty fascinating case studies where tiny changes to training, meal timing, daily rhythm and stress completely changed people's symptoms. We also got into the way we interpret our feelings, why sadness doesn't have to mean something is wrong, and how easily we can create stories about ourselves that simply aren't true. At the end of the day, this is a conversation about how our body isn't our enemy and it's not trying to sabotage us. It's constantly giving us information about what's going on... We just tend to ignore it, smash another coffee and carry on. So yep, there's plenty in this one for the over-40 crowd, but honestly, this is about understanding your body as an individual rather than trying to follow someone else's rulebook. And apparently, we all need more rest. Annoying, right... but there it is.   SPONSORED BY TESTART FAMILY LAWYERS Website: www.testartfamilylawyers.com.au  TIFFANEE COOK Linktree:  linktr.ee/rollwiththepunches Website: tiffcook.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Buckle up for this one! Since we last spoke, Jason Blyth has thrown himself headfirst into what he believes is the greatest social issue in the nation... protecting children. Jason is Australia's Child First Voice, and he's building the Child First Movement after spending his own childhood being failed by the very systems designed to protect him. He grew up in an incredibly traumatic home, begged to be taken away, reported abuse over and over, saw countless mental health professionals and still wasn't removed. Eventually that trauma followed him into adulthood, taking him to some very dark places before he finally started rebuilding his life. Now he's using that lived experience to awaken the conscience of a nation and call out the systemic failures happening across Australia's child protection system. We got into what happens when children fall through the cracks, why lived experience needs to have a seat at the table, why following procedures and ticking boxes means f*ck all if the child isn't safe, and what needs to change if Australia is serious about protecting its most vulnerable. Jason is building a movement around a pretty bloody simple idea: 5.8 million children. One national promise. You will be safe. And his message is that we are the Child First Generation. The generation that decides we're no longer going to tolerate children being failed, abused, neglected and forgotten by the systems that are supposed to protect them. It's confronting, it's angry, it's incredibly important, and honestly, it's one of those conversations that makes you wonder how the hell we've allowed this to become normal.   SPONSORED BY TESTART FAMILY LAWYERS Website: www.testartfamilylawyers.com.au  JASON BLYTH Website: jasonblyth.com TIFFANEE COOK Linktree:  linktr.ee/rollwiththepunches Website: tiffcook.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Imogen Hobbs exclusively coaches men, and she pulls no punches... so it's fair to say we got along like a house on fire. We talked about why she walked away from coaching women, backed herself into a completely different direction, and nearly watched her business die for three months while she waited for the men to find her. We also got into why so many blokes don't want to talk about their shit, why group work can end up being one of the most powerful parts of the process, the difference between personal development and actually developing yourself, along with intuition, self-trust, spirituality, adversity, shame, childhood shit and pretty much all the things I love digging into on a regular basis.  There's a lot in this one about trusting yourself enough to make the uncomfortable call, and what can happen when you stop treating your life like a series of random events and start asking what it's trying to show you. SPONSORED BY TESTART FAMILY LAWYERS Website: www.testartfamilylawyers.com.au  IMOGEN HOBBS Website: changechannel.com.au TIFFANEE COOK Linktree:  linktr.ee/rollwiththepunches Website: tiffcook.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.