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In this episode of Relationship Factor, Kingsley chats with Registered Psychotherapist and founder of “Mind Over Borderline” Melanie Goldman to explore what it means to love and be loved by someone living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Melanie offers a compassionate approach at understanding how BPD traits can manifest in relationships and impact intimacy, conflict and sexual connection.  Borderline Personality Disorder relationships often have a "push and pull" dynamic which can be very overwhelming for both partners involved. Beneath this intense dynamic, however, are very human needs for safety, closeness and understanding.  This episode challenges the stigma and stereotypes associated with Borderline Personality Disorder. Melanie reminds us that with the right support and relational tools, meaningful and fulfilling relationships are possible. Whether you identify with BPD yourself, love someone who does, or are simply curious about the dynamics of intense relationships, this episode offers insight, compassion, and hope. You can find more information about Melanie’s work and support groups at https://mindoverborderline.ca/work/ Melanie's IG: @mindoverborderline Follow us at @lifecollectivecounselling Have questions about intimacy or need relationship support? Email us at [email protected]

Parenting is tough. Parenting alone is even harder. It’s a reality that many don’t talk about.  In this episode Kingsley sits with Registered Social Worker, Opeyemi Durodola to discuss the lived experience of single parent families, highlighting the emotional, financial and relational challenges that can come with raising children on your own. From navigating identity shifts to managing burnout and building support systems, this episode offers an honest look at both the weight and the resilience of single parenthood. Opeyemi is the founder of Standing Tall Together Foundation, a non-profit organization dedicated to empowering BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, People of Color) single and blended families through culturally responsive support, advocacy and education.  You can learn more about Standing Tall Together at https://standingtalltogether.ca Follow us on Instagram: @lifecollectivecounselling Visit us: lifecollectivecounselling.com Questions about relationships, trauma, or intimacy? Email us! [email protected]

So many women feel immense pressure to “bounce back” after having a baby — to return to a previous version of themselves as if pregnancy never happened. Kingsley chats with Confidence Coach, Alyssa McMasters to explore the evolving relationship many women have with their bodies after pregnancy. Alyssa asks us to challenge the notion that a woman’s body needs fixing after pregnancy. What if the season of motherhood is less about changing your body and more about allowing it to exist as it is?  Kingsley and Alyssa unpack the societal expectations placed on women’s bodies following pregnancy and the quiet shame that can grow when these changes go unspoken. Alyssa shares how adopting a mindset of neutrality can help women reclaim control over postpartum insecurities and move toward a more grounded and confident sense of self.  You can find out more about Alyssa and her work on her website: https://www.letmeintroduceyourself.com/aboutme Follow us on Instagram: @lifecollectivecounselling Visit us: lifecollectivecounselling.com Questions about relationships, trauma, or intimacy? Email: [email protected]

What happens when exhaustion collides with faith—and what does recovery look like on the other side? Kingsley is joined by Fred & Taku to explore burnout through the lenses of relationships, spirituality, and everyday family life. Drawing on clinical social work practice and lived parenting experience, they unpack the signs we miss, the beliefs that keep us stuck, and the practices that actually help us heal. We talk emotional honesty in faith communities; holding anger, grief, and desire without shame; and the skills of repair—empathy, accountability, courageous communication—that strengthen connection. You’ll learn: early warning signs of burnout, how beliefs shape stress responses and relationships, and practical rhythms for recovery (boundaries, rest, repair) with a faith-inclusive lens. Follow us on Instagram: @lifecollectivecounselling Visit us: lifecollectivecounselling.com Questions about relationships, trauma, or intimacy? Email: [email protected]

What does healing look like where gender, migration, labour rights, and mental health intersect? In this powerful conversation, Kingsley sits down with Samu Ngwenya Tshuma—a policy consultant and women’s rights advocate—to unpack the systems that drive gender-based violence (GBV) and the evidence-based practices that help prevent it. We explore survivor-centred, trauma-informed approaches; how data can shape better policy; and the everyday actions that build safety and dignity for women and girls. Samu has consulted for the UN Spotlight Initiative, the UN Special Rapporteur on Extreme Poverty & Human Rights, and the International Labour Organization (ILO), with a focus on evidence-based policymaking and scaling what works to eliminate GBV. Connect with Samu LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/samu-ngwenya-tshuma-5b79b6107/ Follow us on Instagram: @lifecollectivecounselling Visit us: lifecollectivecounselling.com Questions about relationships, trauma, or intimacy? Email: [email protected]

New Episode: The Weight We Carry with Jessica Yip  Calling in “The One” Coach & Executive Life Coach What does love look like when you're carrying the weight of generational expectations, unspoken sacrifices, and inherited silence? In this thought provoking episode, we sit down with Jessica Yip to explore how being a child of immigrants shapes our relationships—with ourselves and with others. Jessica shares how growing up feeling lonely or misunderstood can lead to unconscious self-sabotage in love, and what it takes to break those patterns. With compassion, wisdom, and lived experience, she invites us into the work of healing, honoring where we come from, and choosing connection over survival. As a leading Calling in “The One” coach, Jessica has the privilege of working directly with Katherine Woodward Thomas, NY Times Best-Selling Author of Calling in “The One”: 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life and Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After, as her Program Director and Faculty Coach for coaches-in-training. Jessica also support clients to turn their dreams into reality as a "Your Big Voice Master Coach" and Executive Life Coach, bringing playfulness, wisdom, and over a decade of experience in transformative coaching, leadership development, and somatic attunement to each session. Jessica is proud to support clients from all walks of life, especially children of immigrants like herself and those who grew up feeling lonely and misunderstood, yet are now ready to break the cycles of unconscious self-sabotage that have been passed on through generations. Follow us on Instagram: @lifecollectivecounselling Follow Jessica on Instagram: @jesstheyip Visit Jessica's website: https://jessicayip.com Jessica's Retreat Information: https://jessicayip.com/inspiredliferetreat/ Visit us at: lifecollectivecounselling.com Have questions or comments about relationships, trauma, or intimacy? Email us at [email protected].

Get ready for a powerful conversation about how our earliest experiences shape the way we love, connect, and heal. In this episode, we’re diving deep into early childhood experiences and the lasting impact of trauma on intimacy, emotional connection, and overall relational well-being. We’ll explore how attachment styles formed in early life influence adult relationships, the ways unresolved trauma can show up in our connections and sexual wellness, and the role of trauma-informed care—including emerging approaches like Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy—in fostering healing and resilience. Leading this conversation is Kelly, a Clinical Social Worker and therapist at Kind Heart Therapy, who brings a wealth of knowledge from both her professional practice and her experience as a parent. Joining her is Kingsley Moyo, Registered Psychologist at Life Collective Counselling, who offers grounded insight and thoughtful questions throughout the episode. Tune in for a heartfelt, clinically informed, and deeply human look at how the past can inform the present—and how healing is always possible. Follow us on Instagram: @lifecollectivecounselling Follow Kelly on Instagram: @kindhearttherapyca Visit Kelly’s website: kindhearttherapyca.com Visit us at: lifecollectivecounselling.com  Learn more about our integrated child health @kinpsychological.com Have questions or comments about relationships, trauma, or intimacy? Email us at [email protected].

Get ready for an eye-opening conversation about rupture moments—the turning points in relationships that can either deepen intimacy or create lasting wounds. In this episode, we’re exploring why these moments matter, how they shape connection, and what it takes to turn conflict into an opportunity for growth. We’ll break down the difference between ruptures that can be repaired and those that signal deeper issues, uncover the role of attachment styles in navigating conflict, and share practical strategies for moving through tension with understanding and resilience. Joining us is Danny Salinas, a Conscious Dating Coach who specializes in helping couples and individuals navigate relational challenges with compassion and insight. With a wealth of experience in Relationship Coaching, Danny brings a fresh perspective on how couples can rebuild trust and create lasting emotional security. Tune in for a conversation that might just transform the way you see conflict and connection. Follow us on Instagram: @lifecollectivecounselling Follow Danny on Instagram: @thedannysalinas Visit: Life Collective Counselling is a Relationship & Sex Therapy Center. If you've got any comments or questions about relationships and sex that you'd like to see answered, send your email to [email protected] Get some resources on relationships and sex at lifecollectivecounselling.com

In this episode, we dive into the deep and often unspoken impact of the core belief “Not Good Enough.” This belief, shaped by early experiences, can influence how we show up in relationships, work, and our overall well-being. But what if we could challenge and reframe it? Our guest, Sabrina Trobak, is counsellor and author of the book "Not Good Enough". In this episode she shares insight into how this belief forms, the misconceptions about overcoming it, and practical strategies for cultivating confidence and resilience in the face of self-doubt. Follow us on Instagram: @lifecollectivecounselling Follow Sabrina on Instagram: @nge_trobak Visit: lifecollectivecounselling.com Life Collective Counselling is a Relationship & Sex Therapy Center. If you have any comments or questions about relationships and sex that you’d like to see answered, send an email to [email protected]. Get resources on relationships and sex at lifecollectivecounselling.com.

In this episode, we explore how to reignite joy and passion in long-term relationships. Over time, relationships can lose their spark, but with the right mindset and strategies, couples can cultivate deeper intimacy and connection. Jason and Tina Marie Scott are certified life and relationship coaches and authors of the bestselling book Manifest A Joy-Filled Relationship. They share practical steps for maintaining emotional closeness, fostering passion, and building a relationship that continues to thrive. Follow us on Instagram: @lifecollectivecounselling Follow Jason and Tina on Instagram: @legendaryrelationship Visit: legendaryrelationship.com Life Collective Counselling is a Relationship & Sex Therapy Center. If you have any comments or questions about relationships and sex that you’d like to see answered, send an email to [email protected]. Get resources on relationships and sex at lifecollectivecounselling.com

Get ready to dive deep into the heart of what intimacy truly means. In this episode, we’re peeling back the layers to expand our understanding of intimacy beyond the physical. From spiritual and cognitive to intellectual intimacy, we’re breaking down the many ways we connect on a deeper level. We also tackle how trauma and attachment shape our views of intimacy as adults—and how we can start to redefine and reclaim it in new, meaningful ways. Joining us is the insightful Joshua Dale, a Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying) with a passion for helping people overcome life’s toughest challenges. Whether it’s addiction, anxiety, faith, self-esteem, or adoptee trauma, Joshua’s approach is all about making you feel heard, affirmed, and hopeful. Tune in for a thought-provoking conversation that might just change the way you see intimacy. Follow us on Instagram: @lifecollectivecounselling Follow Josh's on Instagram: @https://www.instagram.com/joshdale.therapy/# Visit: Josh's Booking Link - - - - - Life Collective Counselling is a Relationship & Sex Therapy Center. If you've got any comments or questions about relationships and sex  that you'd like to see answered, send your email to [email protected] Get some resources on relationships and sex at lifecollectivecounselling.com

In this episode, we explore men's mental health and intimacy. You will get an introduction into the societal and cultural pressures men face regarding mental health and intimacy. We also explore how societal expectations shape and influence the definitions men have of sex and how that impacts intimacy itself.  Marcus Narsaiya  is a Registered Clinical Counsellor and is passionate about empowering individuals on their path to self-discovery, healing and holistic well-being. Marcus is also an accredited coach for individuals who identify as having intellectual disabilities. Follow us on Instagram: @lifecollectivecounselling Follow Marcus on Instagram: @therapywithmarcus Visit: Marcus' Booking Link - - - - - Life Collective Counselling is a Relationship & Sex Therapy Center. If you've got any comments or questions about relationships and sex  that you'd like to see answered, send your email to [email protected] Get some resources on relationships and sex at lifecollectivecounselling.com

In this episode, we talk about Somatic Exercises for Singles & Couples. You will get an introduction into what somatic exercises are and how they can aid your healing journey, as well as better overall pleasure. We also explore some examples of these exercises for individual as well as partnered practice, while unveiling their power in encouraging pleasurable and safe sexual experiences. Grace Crawford-Smith (she/her) is a sex therapist, she holds a Master of Counselling at Monash University. She is also a certified sexological bodyworker, having completed her Certificate in Sexological Bodywork with the Institute of Somatic Sexology. Follow us on Instagram: @lifecollectivecounselling Follow Grace on Instagram: @sexologywithgrace Visit Grace's Booking Link: https://www.goodvibesclinic.com.au/grace-crawford-smith-sex-therapist - - - - - Life Collective Counselling is a Relationship & Sex Therapy Center. If you've got any comments or questions about relationships and sex  that you'd like to see answered, send your email to [email protected] Get some resources on relationships and sex at lifecollectivecounselling.com

In this episode, we talk about ACEs or Adverse Childhood Experiences. You will get an introduction to  understanding the context around the ACE study, what adverse childhood experiences are and how adversity in childhood can be viewed differently when wearing different cultural lenses. Furthermore, we explore the impact ACEs can have on adult relationships.  Shayla S. Dube is a Clinical Social Worker/Therapist and the founder of Wellness Empowered Inc. A place where you come exactly where you are and are met with a team open to non-judgementally bear witness to your multi- stories and healing journey.  Follow us on Instagram: @lifecollectivecounselling - - - - - Life Collective Counselling is a Relationship & Sex Therapy Center. If you've got any comments or questions about relationships and sex  that you'd like to see answered, send your email to [email protected] Get some resources on relationships and sex at lifecollectivecounselling.com

In this episode, we talk about Revenge Porn. You will get an introduction to  understanding what revenge porn is and how it affects people differently.  We explore the psychological effects of revenge porn, how its' definition has transitioned in today's society and useful considerations in supporting those healing from this experience. Harp Chana is a Psychology Intern and is part of the Counselling team at Life Collective Counselling. Follow us on Instagram: @lifecollectivecounselling - - - - - Life Collective Counselling is a Relationship & Sex Therapy Center. If you've got any comments or questions about relationships and sex  that you'd like to see answered, send your email to [email protected] Get some resources on relationships and sex at lifecollectivecounselling.com