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In this episode, Ams and Kat explore Unicorn Threesomes.  Unicorns, you say?  But unicorns are single women in the lifestyle and the 2HotWives are…wives!  Well, even though Ams and Kat are not unicorns, they can still be “guest stars” in a threesome. But first, if you are looking for a little buzz without the drawbacks of alcohol, why don’t try this Canna-cocktail, the Apple Pom Spritz!  All you need is some apple cider, pomegranate syrup, and a little cannabis tincture! Mix one up while listening to Ams share her sexy experience landing a hot, bi bro. And wait, there are pictures involved?!?  Next, the Wives explore what it means to have a Unicorn Threesome. Unicorn threesomes are just any old threesome, it’s a chance to be welcomed as the cherished “third” in a couple’s fantasy.  While not every woman can be a unicorn, they can be the special guest in a threesome!     Why is it interesting to explore?  Well, apart from being a fantasy for many women, it’s an opportunity for partnered women to explore their sexuality without their primary partners and to be treated as a special guest in a couple’s most intimate space.  But unicorn threesomes also pose some challenges.  If you are a partnered woman, you may have trouble communicating your wants and boundaries alone.  You may even have safety concerns.  To learn more, the Wives talk with YouTuber, Toronto Unicorn about the dos and don’ts of exploring the lifestyle as a single woman.   Finally, the Wives decide on their sexy homework: Kat plans to go to a sex club with other ladies, while Ams looks for opportunities to invite herself into a couple’s bedroom. ABOUT TORONTO UNICORN:  TorontoUnicorn pulls back the curtain of secrecy on the swinger lifestyle, normally underground, for those curious to find their way to this sex positive lifestyle for themselves. Her mission is to “take the scary out of swinging and sex clubs” and invite sex positive people to observe the swinging world through her lifestyle vlogs and experiences. Learn more at https://torontounicorn.com/    

How easy is it to line up a threesome as a unicorn?  How about going to a sex club as a solo woman? How did Ams and Kat do on their sexy homework for Unicorn Threesomes?  Tune in to find out.  A Unicorn is a single woman in the lifestyle.  She may enjoy meeting and playing with other couples (i.e. - a Unicorn Threesome) or she may engage in all sorts of social and sexual activities with other people in the lifestyle.  Don't fence her in! Even though Kat and Ams are not single women, they are both curious to explore the dynamic of a Unicorn Threesome and wanted to experience what it is like to be the special guest star to a couple.  In Unicorn Threesomes Part One (https://2hotwives.com/unicorn-threesomes-aka-come-and-knock-on-our-door/), they set themselves sexy homework: Kat decides to go to a sex club without Mr. Kat to see what that would be like, and Ams is going to ask some of her lifestyle couple friends if they would like to have a threesome.  In this episode, they report back on their sexy homework. But first, mix up this episode's Canna-Cocktail, the Autumn Bliss: mix honey simple syrup, cranberry juice, lime and ginger beer, then add your favorite cannabis tincture.  Make sure it is alcohol based and not oil based so that it mixes into the drink better.  And, if you prefer adding a spirit, add Gin instead.  While sipping on your canna-cocktail, listen to Kat share her hot tale of a sexy encounter on the Bliss cruise.  Kat doesn't usually play on the first date, and never in a public setting.  But, it turns out that a sexy Irish accent is all that she needs to break all of the rules. If you are curious about what the playrooms are like on the Bliss cruise, this hot tale is for you.  Next, Ams and Kat recount their sexy homework on Unicorn Threesomes.  Can Ams line up a threesome with friends?  Does Kat make it to the sex club? Listen in for the download.  Mentioned in this episode:  ForPlay Films: https://forplayfilms.com/ (Video: Menage a Tois, directed by Inka Winter)

In this episode, Ams and Kat explore Boudoir Photography.  Boudoir photography is a style of intimate photography that captures individuals in a tasteful and empowering way, often in lingerie or semi-clothed, celebrating their unique beauty and sensuality. Boudoir photography can be a powerful tool for promoting self-love, body positivity, and empowerment. It challenges beauty standards and encourages women to embrace their uniqueness.  But first, if you are looking for a little buzz without the drawbacks of alcohol, why don’t try this Canna-cocktail, the Pumpkin Spice (or, if you are looking for a little extra spice, add Bourbon).  Mix one up while listening to this episode's hot tale: Ams never thought she would play on a show bed, but at a recent house party, she decides to hop on with a playful partner and a sexy voyeur. Never say never! Next, the Wives describe their past experiences with boudoir photography, including professional pictures taken at Desire, plus some DIY photo shoots at home. To get an expert's opinion, the Wives talk with photographer Nicole Marie, owner of Nicole Marie Boudoir.  Finally, the Wives decide to book in for a boudoir photo session as their sexy homework. Nicole Marie is a boudoir and portrait photographer located in Easton, Maryland. She is a lifelong hobbyist photographer, professional photographer for 15 years and boudoir specialist for 9 years. Her passion is providing a luxury experience and empowering imagery for women from all walks of life. WEBSITE | FACEBOOK| INSTAGRAM More About Boudoir Photography What is a typical boudoir session like? A boudoir session involves grooming, wardrobe selection and usually hair and make up.  A positive mindset is important. It's about feeling comfortable and confident in your own skin. Who Should Consider Boudoir Photography? Boudoir photography is for anyone seeking to boost their self-esteem, celebrate their sensuality, or mark a significant life event. It's inclusive and welcomes individuals of all backgrounds and body types. How Does a Session Usually Go? A typical boudoir session includes a consultation with the photographer, hair and make up, followed by the photoshoot. The photographer creates a comfortable environment, guiding the subject through poses that highlight their best features. Who Should Have Boudoir Photos Done?  Boudoir photography is for any women seeking to boost their self-esteem, celebrate their sensuality, or mark a significant life event. It's inclusive and welcomes women of all backgrounds and body types. How Is It Beneficial for Women's Empowerment? Boudoir photography empowers women by promoting self-confidence, challenging societal beauty norms, and fostering self-esteem. It allows women to see themselves in a new, positive light, which can have a profound impact on their self-esteem and well-being. Resource Notes: https://www.imaginated.com/blog/what-is-boudoir-photography/ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boudoir_photography https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YmE8Uqx8gCE#:~:text=Learn%20how%20to%20take%20your%20own%20amazing,self%20portraits%20from%20me%20on%20Patreon%20at: for taking boudoir self-portraits https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ua-hOH-u_bA&t=0s composition for at home boudoir https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FzpQnm7ddPM diy boudoir

Do you need to be "hot" to be successful in the lifestyle? In this episode, the Wives explore aesthetics and attraction in ENM relationships, including an interview with Coach April from Naughty Gym.   This bonus episode was inspired by a number of listener questions that the Wives have received, where listeners have shared their concerns and insecurities about looks in the lifestyle. So, do you need to be hot?  The answer is not simple.  On the one hand, lifestyle dating is a lot like vanilla dating, and looks are a big part of attraction. So, yes, looks play into success in the lifestyle and improving your looks can improve your chance of success.  But on the other hand, people of all shapes, sizes and ages participate in the lifestyle, so no matter where you fall on that spectrum, there is a good chance that you can meet people and make a connection. Also, attraction involves more than looks: confidence, intelligence, and romantic mental and emotional connections are an important part of attraction for many people, including sapiosexuals, polysexuals, and demisexuals.  To get more advice on the issue of aesthetics, fitness and wellness in the lifestyle, the Wives talk with their good friend: Coach April from Naughty Gym.  Referenced in this Episode: Be Better and Being Bad Don't You Want Me Baby Desire -  Riviera Maya About April: Coach April is a co-creator, with her husband Scott, of Naughty Gym, an online fitness and coaching platform tailored to the sex-positive community. April, a highly accomplished fitness and nutrition coach, has excelled in various fitness disciplines, such as competitive running, figure competitions, CrossFit, and Powerlifting. With a wealth of experience, she has guided thousands of athletes with diverse goals and fitness backgrounds, earning recognition as an expert in empowering women to feel confident in their bodies and motivating them to achieve their fitness aspirations.  

How did the Wives do with their Boudoir photography sexy homework?  Tune in to find out.  But first, check out this episode's Canna-cocktail, the Winter Berry Smash.  Thanks to a listener tip, Kat found a tincture that uses nano-technology for quicker absorbtion and a faster experience. Then, Kat brings it home with her Hot Tale: a threesome with the Wives and Mr. Kat.  Is he the luckiest man on the planet?  You decide.  Then, the Wives took a field trip to Nicole Marie's Boudoir Photography Studio in Easton, Maryland.  Building on their experience taking boudior shots at Desire Resort in Mexico, the Wives came prepared with a Pinterest board, lots of wardrobe changes, and a bunch of beauty tips before they even get to the studio.  They got special hair and makeup treatment and had a four-hour photo session.  Things got suprisingly naked!  As a bonus, the Wives got to visit their friend Adrienne from Midlife Craving Podcast.  Finally, the Wives share Just the Tips on ways to have a fantastic boudoir photography experience.  Mentioned in this Episode: https://allebachphotography.com/  https://www.botanyfarms.com/products/nano-delta-9-microdose-gummies

In this episode, Ams and Kat explore Tantric Sex.  Tantra is a complex and multifaceted spiritual and philosophical tradition that originated in ancient India. Tantric sex is the practice of using Tantric principles, such as mindfulness, breathwork and energy connection, to sexual experiences.  But first, if you are looking for a little buzz without the drawbacks of alcohol, why don’t try this Canna-cocktail, the Hot Buttered Cider.  Mix one up while listening to this episode’s hot tale: Ams, Mr. Ams and their friends have a grown-up sleepover, complete with Seven Minutes in Heaven: mini-threesomes while one person watches and keeps time.    Next, Ams and Kat explore Tantric principles and past experiences with mindful sex.  To learn more about Tantric Sex, the Wives interview author and educator Barbara Carrellas.  Finally, the Wives set themselves sexy homework, including solo tantra work, breath and energy orgasms and all-day sex sessions.  MORE ABOUT TANTRA The original practice of Tantra encompasses a wide range of beliefs, practices, and rituals, and its principles can vary among different schools and traditions. However, some core principles are commonly associated with Tantra: Unity of the Divine: Tantra often emphasizes the oneness or unity of the ultimate reality, which may be referred to as Brahman, Shiva, Shakti, or other names depending on the specific tradition. The idea is that everything in the universe is an expression of this ultimate reality. Energy and Consciousness (Shiva and Shakti): Tantra often conceptualizes the divine as a dynamic interplay between masculine (Shiva) and feminine (Shakti) energies. These energies represent the dual aspects of the supreme consciousness, and the practice of Tantra often involves awakening and harmonizing these energies. Sacred Sexuality: Some Tantric traditions incorporate rituals and practices that involve sacred sexuality. The goal is not mere physical pleasure but rather the spiritual union of Shiva and Shakti energies within the practitioners, aiming for heightened awareness and divine connection. Ritual and Symbolism: Tantra frequently employs rituals, symbols, and ceremonies to connect with the divine. These can include mantra chanting, yantra (geometric diagrams), mudras (hand gestures), and various ceremonies designed to invoke spiritual energies. Embracing the Mundane: Unlike some ascetic traditions, Tantra embraces the material world and the experiences of daily life. It encourages practitioners to see the divine in everything, including ordinary activities, and to use the challenges of the material world as opportunities for spiritual growth. Teacher-Student Relationship: Traditional Tantric practices often involve a guru-disciple relationship. The guru is seen as a guide and spiritual mentor who leads the disciple on the path toward self-realization. Non-Dualism (Advaita): Many Tantric traditions advocate a non-dualistic perspective, emphasizing that the ultimate reality is beyond distinctions such as good or bad, pure or impure. Practitioners seek to overcome dualities and realize the underlying unity of all things. Many Westerners have been applying Tantric principals to sex for over 100 years.  Some of these principals include adding ritual and mindfulness to sexual experiences, focusing on breath and energy, fostering a deep connection between partners and focusing on pleasure and ecstacy as opposed to orgasm.  ABOUT BARBARA Barbara Carrellas is an author, artist, innovator, instigator and thought leader in the fields of sex, gender and spirit. She is also a sex/life coach, sex educator, workshop facilitator, university lecturer, motivational speaker and theater artist. She is the author of Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century, Ecstasy is Necessary: A Practical Guide to Sex, Relationships and Oh So Much More, and Luxurious Loving: Tantric Inspirations for Passion and Pleasure.

How did the Wives do with their Tantric Sex homework?  Tune in to find out.  But first, check out this episode’s Canna-cocktail, the Orange Berry Tea with a new nano-tincture.  Sip on this delicious cocktail while Kat shares her Hot Tale: a professional massage gets a BDSM vibe with cupping and scraping.  Next, the Wives report back on their sexy homework, inspired by Barbara Carrellas' book, Urban Tantra. Kat shares her tantra ritual with Mr. Kat, while Ams explored solo tantra, including a no-hands, Breath and Energy Orgasm.  Finally, the Wives give their tips on exploring tantric practices.  MORE ABOUT TANTRA The original practice of Tantra encompasses a wide range of beliefs, practices, and rituals, and its principles can vary among different schools and traditions. However, some core principles are commonly associated with Tantra: Unity of the Divine: Tantra often emphasizes the oneness or unity of the ultimate reality, which may be referred to as Brahman, Shiva, Shakti, or other names depending on the specific tradition. The idea is that everything in the universe is an expression of this ultimate reality. Energy and Consciousness (Shiva and Shakti): Tantra often conceptualizes the divine as a dynamic interplay between masculine (Shiva) and feminine (Shakti) energies. These energies represent the dual aspects of the supreme consciousness, and the practice of Tantra often involves awakening and harmonizing these energies. Sacred Sexuality: Some Tantric traditions incorporate rituals and practices that involve sacred sexuality. The goal is not mere physical pleasure but rather the spiritual union of Shiva and Shakti energies within the practitioners, aiming for heightened awareness and divine connection. Ritual and Symbolism: Tantra frequently employs rituals, symbols, and ceremonies to connect with the divine. These can include mantra chanting, yantra (geometric diagrams), mudras (hand gestures), and various ceremonies designed to invoke spiritual energies. Embracing the Mundane: Unlike some ascetic traditions, Tantra embraces the material world and the experiences of daily life. It encourages practitioners to see the divine in everything, including ordinary activities, and to use the challenges of the material world as opportunities for spiritual growth. Teacher-Student Relationship: Traditional Tantric practices often involve a guru-disciple relationship. The guru is seen as a guide and spiritual mentor who leads the disciple on the path toward self-realization. Non-Dualism (Advaita): Many Tantric traditions advocate a non-dualistic perspective, emphasizing that the ultimate reality is beyond distinctions such as good or bad, pure or impure. Practitioners seek to overcome dualities and realize the underlying unity of all things. Many Westerners have been applying Tantric principals to sex for over 100 years.  Some of these principals include adding ritual and mindfulness to sexual experiences, focusing on breath and energy, fostering a deep connection between partners and focusing on pleasure and ecstasy as opposed to orgasm. 

How did the Wives come up with "Use Your Words" and do they follow their own advice?  Do the Wives still play on the second date?  Does Kat still use her Bedazzler before each theme party? What other stories and advice from Season 1 is still true and what has changed? In this episode, Ams and Kat reflect on Season 1: the good, the bad and the silly.  The Wives developed the idea of the podcast while in COVID lockdown, thinking if they can't play, why not talk about it in front of a microphone! They discuss how their play style has changed over time and discuss the definition of a demisexual and demisexuality.  They also share behind the scenes details on the recording and production process of the podcast. Now is a great time to re-listen to Season 1 while you wait for Season 4 to launch. Links to episodes from Season 1: 2HotWives Use Their Words 2HotWives Hit the Dating Scene 2HotWives Get to Play All About Erotica! (aka: The Wives Turbo Charge Their Sex Drive and Level Up Their Fantasies Through Sexy Stories) Impact Play (aka: This will only hurt a little bit) Triggers (aka: When Rough Sex Triggers Bad Feels) Sexy Dress Up Role Play the 2HotWives Way

What’s the big deal about squirting?  Is it the same thing as female ejaculation? Does it always happen during orgasm?  Can every woman squirt? Is squirt just pee?  If someone gushes or dribbles, is that still considered squirting?  What’s squirt made up of anyway?  The Wives answer these questions and more, including an interview with Lola Jean, the Squirting Queen. But first, it’s ORGY time!, Sip this episode’s juicy cocktail, the Mango Rum Spritzer, while listening to both Wives share their favorite orgy experience with two super-hot couples in Mexico.  Next, the Wives bust some myths on squirting: no, it’s not just pee, it doesn’t always include orgasm, it comes from the urethra, not the vagina.  And, despite what you see in porn, squirt doesn’t necessarily shoot across the room!   To get a sexpert’s opinion, the Wives interview Lola Jean, the world record holder in squirting volume.  Finally, the Wives assign themselves sexy homework: Kat and Mr. Kat are going to work on their g-spot stimulation techniques, while Ams schedules some “me” time to explore squirting: using a Womanizer Duo toy.  About Lola Jean  Lola Jean is a Sex Educator, Wrestler, Pro Domme, and World Record Holder for Volume Squirting (solo.) providing the No Frills Sex Education we both need and deserve. Lola brings a refreshing understanding to sex, sexuality, and kink to push individuals past what they think they are capable of.  Mentioned in this Episode Casual Toys - Womanizer Duo Wanderlust Swinger Podcast Travel with the 2HotWives! PCAP Desire Bliss Want to Learn More About Squirting? https://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/a19971929/make-yourself-squirt/ https://www.verywellhealth.com/skene-gland-5207878  https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/squirting?c=392364918709  https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a27008344/how-to-make-a-woman-squirt/ https://helloclue.com/articles/sex/lets-talk-about-squirting-why-is-it-important-what-does-it-feel-like https://www.webmd.com/sex/what-is-squirting-orgasm https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/female-ejaculation https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6522945/

Did the 2HotWives succeed with their sexy homework on squirting?  Tune in to Squirting Part 2 to find out.  First, start with a pitcher of the episode’s cocktail, Strawberry Mango Sangria.  We suggest that you make it a day ahead to let the fruits infuse their flavor. Then, Kat recalls a particularly juicy hot tale while on the Bliss Cruise: a MFM threesome.   Then, the Wives share the ups and downs of their sexy homework: Ams takes the advice of sexpert Lola Jean and starts with masturbation, while Kat and Mr. Kat focus on lots of g-spot foreplay.  Finally, it’s Just the Tips for anyone who wants to explore squirting, either solo or with a partner.  Did we wet your appetite for sexual exploration?  Check out www.2hotwives.com for articles, advice, drink recipes and more.  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Casual Toys – Womanizer Duo Wanderlust Swinger Podcast TRAVEL WITH THE 2HOTWIVES Check out our EVENTS PAGE, for a chance to meet the 2HotWives in person, including: Podcast a Palooza: June 2022 Desire Riviera Maya: August 2022 Bliss Cruise: November 2022 Keep checking back for new events.  WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT SQUIRTING? Check out these articles and references if you are curious about female ejaculation.  https://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/a19971929/make-yourself-squirt/ https://www.verywellhealth.com/skene-gland-5207878  https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/squirting?c=392364918709  https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a27008344/how-to-make-a-woman-squirt/ https://helloclue.com/articles/sex/lets-talk-about-squirting-why-is-it-important-what-does-it-feel-like https://www.webmd.com/sex/what-is-squirting-orgasm https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/female-ejaculation https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6522945/

If you and your partner enjoy recreational sex and emotional intimacy, you might be Swolly! Swolly is a form of consensual non-monogamy where a couple is open to both polysexual and polyamorous relationships.  Are you Swolly?  Tune in to find out.  But first, mix up a Tennessee Peach, this episode's sweet and sophisticated cocktail while Ams fan girls over Bridgerton and shares her hot tale of a total mindfuck with a smart and sexy new partner.  Next, the Wives explore the difference between swinging and polyamory, including this middle ground of Swolly. Swolly is a person who identifies as both a swinger and a member of the polyamorous community in that they have multiple relationships simultaneously and also enjoy recreational sex. The term is a portmanteau of the words swinger and polyamorous. Ken Haslam of the Kinsey Institute originally coined the term Swolly.  Here are some key components to Swolly: The foundation is a marriage/committed couple.  That relationship takes precedence over all other polysexual and polyamorous relationships  The couple is open to polysexual relationship and may  seek out casual sexual encounters or sex with "friends" that don't involve deep connections.  The couple is also open to polyamorous relationships that involve both physical and emotional intimacy.  The level of intimacy can vary between relationships (some relationships are purely polysexual, polysexual with friendship, or polyamorous).  Polysexual relationships are less complicated and involve less commitment.  You have a responsibility to make sure your partner is well taken care of during a sexual encounter (consent, pleasure, aftercare, the basic “camp-fire rule”), but you don’t have responsibility toward that person outside of the sexual encounter.  You might be friendly, you might be friends, that aspect might ebb and flow, but you don’t have a responsibility to build on anything outside of the bedroom. In Polyamorous relationships, you agree to share emotional intimacy, which means that you are committing to be an emotional support for this partner. These relationships can be more meaningful and rewarding, but also a lot of work.    To get a sexpert’s opinion, the Wives interview Dr. Elisabeth "Eli", Sheff, expert witness, researcher, educator & relationship coach with expertise in polyamorous culture.  Finally, the Wives assign themselves sexy homework: The Wives and the Misters are going to explore more emotionally intimate relationships with some of their swinger friends, including solo dates and lots of talk about "feelings". Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff is a researcher, expert witness, coach, speaker, and educational consultant. With a PhD in Sociology and certification as a Sexuality Educator from AASECT, Dr. Eli specializes in gender and sexual minority families, consensual non-monogamy, and kink/BDSM. Sheff is the foremost academic expert on polyamorous families with children, and her 25+ year Polyamorous Family Study is the only longitudinal study of poly families with children to date.  Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff is a researcher, expert witness, coach, speaker, and educational consultant. With a PhD in Sociology and certification as a Sexuality Educator from AASECT, Dr. Eli specializes in gender and sexual minority families, consensual non-monogamy, and kink/BDSM. Sheff is the foremost academic expert on polyamorous families with children, and her 25+ year Polyamorous Family Study is the only longitudinal study of poly families with children to date.  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE  We Gotta Thing Podcast Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay Types of Non-Monogamy    Check out our EVENTS PAGE, for a chance to meet the 2HotWives in person, including: Podcast a Palooza: June 2022 Desire Riviera Maya: August 2022 Bliss Cruise: November 2022 Keep checking back for new events.  WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT POLYAMORY? Check out these articles and

Can the 2HotWives walk that middle path between polyamory and swinging?   Tune in to Swolly Part 2 to find out.  First, start with the episode’s cocktail, the Blackberry Peach Fizz while Kat updates us on her sexy play time with a single guy.  If you dig a little upscale restraint play, this hot tale is for you.  Then, the Wives go deep on their journey toward Swolly.  Swolly is a form of ethical non-monogamy, where a couple is open to both polysexual and polyamory extramarital relationships.  Both Ams and Kat started their open marriage journey as "social swingers" with their husbands: they were looking for casual sexual experiences with other couples who were (or could be) friends, but emotionally intimate connections were off the table.  As time went on, a deeper connection developed between the Wives and their husbands, which led to a lot of excitement, but also a lot of drama. In this episode, the Wives discuss that struggle openly to each other for the first time.   Next, the Wives report back on their sexy homework: exploring independent dating and opening up to "the feels". Finally, it’s Just the Tips for anyone who wants to explore swolly.  Want to learn more about Polyamory?  Check out our interview with Dr. Elisabeth Sheff, author of The Polyamorists Next Door.  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE The Monogamish Marriage  We Gotta Thing TRAVEL WITH THE 2HOTWIVES Check out our EVENTS PAGE, for a chance to meet the 2HotWives in person, including: Podcast a Palooza: June 2022 Desire Riviera Maya: August 2022 Bliss Cruise: November 2022