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There was a time when Rae woke up every single day and cried. In the shower. In the car. Before work. After work. Sometimes for no clear reason at all. And then one day… she didn’t. In this deeply honest, brave, and beautiful episode, Rae shares what it was like to get married in her 20s, spend nearly a decade inside a life that slowly stopped fitting, and ultimately make the hardest decision of her life: to leave. We talk about the grief of divorce, the shame society puts on women who choose themselves, and the quiet fear of starting over when you’ve spent so long being someone’s wife. But this isn’t a story about failure. It’s a story about becoming. We talk about strength you don’t know you have until you’re forced to find it. About reclaiming your body, your voice, and your identity. About dating again, rediscovering desire, and learning who you are when you’re no longer shrinking to survive. We talk about the moment you realize the pain isn’t permanent. That the crying doesn’t last forever. Rae’s story is a reminder that divorce is not the end of a life. For many women, it’s the beginning of one. This episode is a swan song. A love letter to anyone who has grieved a marriage, questioned their worth, or wondered if choosing themselves was a mistake. It wasn’t. And Rae is living proof.   Listener note: We had some unexpected technical challenges during this recording. I did my absolute best in post-production, but you may notice a few moments where the music or sound effects feel a little wonky. Thank you for your patience — this conversation mattered too much not to share.

Pack your passports and your pleasure maps because this Full Frontal we’re getting worldly. In this episode of What’s Your Position, we talk to “Hugh” and “Chris,” a married pair of digital nomads celebrating 20 years together and over a decade of consensual non-monogamy. From Colombia to Argentina, Thailand to Bali, they’ve explored how different cultures embrace sex, polyamory, and the art of open desire. We dive into their favorite places to live out the lifestyle (spoiler: South America’s got a heat of its own), and why watching each other’s deepest fantasies unfold isn’t jealousy—it’s joy. With nearly 1 in 5 couples reporting some form of non-monogamous experience, CNM isn’t fringe—it’s freedom. Hugh and Chris share how travel stripped away shame, made communication a daily ritual, and deepened their connection far beyond what monogamy ever did. It’s raw, romantic, and just a little bit risqué—proof that love, like a passport, is meant to be stamped often.

Ready to fall in love… scientifically? In this Quickie we dive into the famous 36 Questions That Lead to Love — the psychology-backed intimacy experiment that once made two complete strangers marry six months later. Created in 1997 by Dr. Arthur Aron, these questions have been shown to make people feel closer to someone they just met than the average person feels toward their actual friends. Yes, vulnerability is that powerful… and that sexy. We’ll explore why these questions work, how to use them to deepen your current relationship, and what your answers might reveal about your desires, fears, fantasies, and emotional needs. You’ll even get interactive moments throughout the episode to play along — think flirty eye contact, juicy personal confessions, and a few “oh no, I wasn’t ready to go that deep today” giggles. We ask each other some pretty deep stuff and give our honest answers. Research shows that couples who engage in novel, vulnerable conversations report higher relationship satisfaction and stronger sexual passion, so consider this your invitation to turn your next date night into a science experiment with benefits. Grab a partner, grab a mirror, or just grab some headphones… love is about to get real.

In this Full Frontal with Matt and Corey—two former insiders of Teen Mania, the evangelical youth empire that packed stadiums, preached purity, and operated with the psychological control of a cult. With an estimated 10,000 cults currently active in the U.S. and cult survivors reporting PTSD at rates over ten times higher than the general population, this conversation gets real about how “just a youth group” can become spiritual warfare with a side of sexual repression. Together, they dive into the hype of Acquire the Fire, the brutal discipline of the Honor Academy, and the purity culture rules that taught millions of teens that their bodies were dangerous and desire was demonic. But it’s not all trauma—there’s laughter, liberation, and the sexy, joyful truth of what happens when you finally reclaim your pleasure. This episode is messy, honest, political, hilarious, and deeply human. Come for the cult tea, stay for the healing.

Ever wonder why haunted houses make your heart race and your jeans feel a little tighter? In this episode, we dive headfirst into the science of fear and arousal — where the line between being scared and being turned on gets deliciously blurry. We’ll explore how your amygdala, that tiny almond-shaped part of your brain, lights up when you’re terrified and when you’re turned on. That’s right — your fear response and your sexual excitement run on the same neurochemical fuel: adrenaline, dopamine, and cortisol. We’ll talk about why horror movies on first dates work so well (hint: your body doesn’t always know if you’re turned on from fear or from the hottie next to you). Plus, we’ll get into “benign masochism” — the psychological thrill of choosing to be scared, sweaty, and screaming, knowing deep down that you’re safe. So whether you’re making out in a haunted hayride, screaming through The Conjuring, or just wondering why you love being scared half to death, this episode is your sexy crash course in the chemistry of fear, pleasure, and why your brain loves to flirt with danger.

ChatGPT said: In this episode of What’s Your Position?, we unzip the messy, seductive world of vanity sizing and how it quietly shapes our bodies, brains, and sex lives. From the hourglass worship of the 1940s and 50s to the waif-thin “heroin chic” of the 90s and the Instagram body of today, we walk through the history of women’s clothing sizes in American and European fashion and why a “size 8” means something totally different in every store. We break down how brands use shrinking numbers as a marketing trick, why women’s sizes were never truly standardized, and how all of this mess fuels body dissatisfaction and unrealistic beauty ideals. You’ll hear about the psychology behind that little dopamine hit when you fit into a smaller size, the mental health fallout when the tag goes up, and how feeling “wrong” in your clothes can follow you straight into the bedroom. Most importantly, we reclaim the idea that sexy has never been a number on a tag—it’s confidence, comfort, and the ability to feel good naked in the body you have right now.

On this quickie In this episode of What’s Your Position?, we take a playful, evidence-based tour through the history of sex toys — from sacred ancient objects and carved stone dildos to “respectable” medical massagers, all the way to the Bluetooth-enabled, app-controlled toys in your nightstand today. We unpack the persistent (but largely debunked) myth that Victorian doctors used vibrators to treat “hysteria,” dig into censorship like the Comstock Act and modern laws that still try to police pleasure, and highlight how feminist, queer, and disability communities have reshaped sex toys into tools of autonomy and joy rather than shame. Along the way, we talk about how big this world really is: the global sex toy market is estimated in the tens of billions of dollars, and research suggests that well over half of women — and around half of men — have used a sex toy at least once. From ancient temples to Texas courtrooms to your group chat, this episode shows how the story of sex toys is really the story of who gets to feel good, and who’s been trying to stop them.

Hello Humans! In this awesome, stat filled, research driven quickie we dive into some of the sex research currently shaping our world! From menstrual bloods MAGICAL healing powers to the first time we have had male broth control make it past phase 2, to research on strippers and ovulation! This is an episode for all you sexy nerd lovers. Stay safe, stay kind, and stay sexy 🤓

In our first Full Frontal of Season 6 we talk to our FAVORITE BDSM sex-pert, Sir Rucifer, as he guides us on a kinky journey into gently introducing kink into your everyday routine. HE teaching Husband how to spank and teaches Ashley the "proper positions" (which we will post in our insta!). We also play "Guess That Toy!" where Rucifer gives the audience a sound and the blindfolded hosts and listeners have to guess the BDSM toy being presented! This episode is for anyone wanting to try an easy entry into kink and foreplay in the bedroom. 

IN this first episode of Season six we breakdown some amazing stats from Season 5, some listener questions, some great topics we will cover in season 6 and more! The Quickies are quicker and the Full Frontals are fewer! We introduce a new segment called "What's Bringing Your Joy?" Get ready for a sexy, quickie heavy season with your favorite Sex Podcasters! We can't wait to discover new areas of love, life, sex and pleasure!

In this unforgettable Full Frontal of What’s Your Position, we sit down with the incomparable Jessica Lynn—international speaker, educator, and trans rights advocate whose personal story has changed laws, hearts, and minds around the world. With raw vulnerability and unapologetic brilliance, Jessica opens up about her decades-long fight for truth, identity, and justice—including her high-profile custody battle that became a lightning rod in the global conversation around transgender rights.   We explore her evolution from a life lived in hiding to one of radical visibility, and how her scientific knowledge, emotional intelligence, and deep compassion have made her one of the most sought-after voices in gender education today.   Fewer than 30% of trans adults over 50 say they have strong support systems. Jessica is changing that—one conversation, one courtroom, and one country at a time.   This episode is honest, intimate, and full of the kind of truth that lingers long after the mic goes off. Whether you’re questioning, learning, or unlearning, Jessica’s story will move you to think deeper, love harder, and show up louder. Check out her website here: Jessica’s Website

Hello Fellow Humans! For todays Full Frontal, slip into something a little more comfortable and join us for a steamy stroll through the aisles of desire. In this episode, we get intimate with “V,” a fabulous friend and fierce expert from a local California sex shop, as we uncover the surprisingly scandalous history of erotic retail. Did you know the first recorded sex shop opened in London in 1738? That’s right—across the pond, folks were already in the mood for mood lighting and feather ticklers. But when it came to the U.S., things got a little… stiff. Cue the Comstock Laws, those Victorian-era vibe-killers that tried to criminalize anything sexy—including your grandma’s vintage vibrators.   We dish on how laws have tried (and failed) to police desire, and “V” dishes on why walking into a real, brick-and-mortar pleasure shop can still offer something the internet never could: human connection, trusted guidance, and a judgment-free zone to explore your deepest curiosities. We spill the tea, and the lube on just how horney Americans are. Did you know we are buying pleasure products by the millions? In fact, the U.S. sex toy market hit over $10.6 billion in 2024. That’s a whole lot of buzz, babes. So grab your lube and get comfy—we’re talking vibrators, vibrancy, and the value of keeping things real in a digital age. This one’s for the lovers, the learners, and everyone in between. 💋

We are re-releasing some super important episodes to make sure you all got an earful the first time around! Be sure to check out our friends at Arya.FYI.com!   Is your bedroom getting boring? Need a spice in your sex life? In this Full Frontal we are joined by Arya's own Head of Relationship Research, Nicholas Velotta, to bring attention to this incredible, relationship changing subscription service. Arya is unlike any "date night" box you have ever seen, with constantly changing scenes that are tailor made for you and your partner by your very own "relationship concierge". From tame to tantric, Arya has boxes curated with high-end sex toys, sexy playlists, ideas for getting started, safe words, aftercare and so much more. Nicholas talks to us about how each box is made, how the scenes are created and the statistics they have learned from the couples who have tried and tested Arya from the start. We also discuss Kevin and my first box and take a look at the future of Arya. Wanna try it for yourself? Use code WYP15 for 15% off your first 3 months. This revolutionary relationship rejuvenator has the WYP sexy stamp of approval. Go check out Arya today, and reignite the passion in your romance.    To reach Nicholas: TikTok: mindonlove Instagram: mind_on_love website: mindonlove.com Arya contact: Arya's instagram and tiktok: arya.fyi Arya's website: Arya.fyi USE CODE WYP15 AT CHECK OUT FOR 15% OFF!

Welcome to part 3 of Afternoon Delight: Birth Control Chronicles! We’ve talked about the facts, we’ve broken down the methods, but now—it’s time to dive deep into REAL stories from YOU, our incredible listeners. 🫶 Over 10 submissions came through when I asked for your stories, and I was overwhelmed with the willingness to share. We got a wild mix of call-ins, write-ins, and unforgettable stories that give us the inside scoop on everything from vasectomies to IUDs, and beyond. Huge thanks to everyone who took the time to share—you’re the real MVPs! 💖 💥 What’s on the table? 💥 🔪 Vasectomy Stories: We’ve got three different vasectomy journeys, each one as unique as the person who shared it. Whether it was a quick decision, a long contemplation, or a "why didn't I do this sooner?" moment, these stories bring all the feels. 😱🔪💥 💊 The Pill Chronicles: A few listeners walk us through decades of being on the pill—from being a teen to now. Spoiler: It’s not always sunshine and rainbows, but the lessons learned are priceless. 🌈💊 💉 The IUD Experience: Painful insertion? A breeze? Multiple listeners spill their IUD stories, each more different than the last. Did they almost pass out from the pain? Did they keep it in? Let’s just say, it’s a wild ride. 🚨😵‍💫 🌟 And let’s not forget... our amazing Erin is BACK to talk about life off the pill—what's it REALLY like, and did the grass turn out greener?  💡 Did You Know? 💡 🔹 IUDs are over 99% effective and last anywhere from 3 to 10 years—pretty solid for low-maintenance. 🔹 Vasectomies are 99% effective at preventing pregnancy, but remember—reversal rates can drop over time. 🔹 The Pill revolutionized reproductive health in 1960, but it wasn’t until 1972 that all women could legally access it in the U.S. 😳 Thank you a million times to our listeners for sharing these powerful, personal stories. You inspire us and we are SO grateful for you. 💖 This felt like going back to season 1 where the guests were my friends, so thank you for bringing it full circle.  🎧 Tune in for a raw, real, and hilarious episode full of love, laughs, and life-changing insights. We hope you hear your story, feel validated by similar experiences, or hear something that sparks you to take control over your reproductive health.  #WhatsYourPosition #BCConfidential #RealTalkReproductiveHealth #ContraceptionChronicles #mybodymychoice #listenerstory 

We’re BACK, baby! 💃 If you thought we covered it all in Afternoon Delight Part 1, think again—because birth control comes in many forms, and we’re breaking them all down. Whether you’re popping a pill, slapping on a patch, or letting the ring do its thing, we’ve got the facts, the history, and the stats you need to make the right choice for YOU. Because when it comes to birth control, one size does NOT fit all! 🔥 What’s on the agenda? 🔥 💊 The Pill: ✔️ First hit the market in 1960—and changed everything. ✔️ With perfect use, it’s 99% effective, but typical use brings it down to 93%. 👕 The Patch: ✔️ Releases steady hormones through the skin—set it and forget it (for a week!). ✔️ Can be less effective in people over 198 lbs, so weight may be a factor. 💍 The Ring: ✔️ Insert it once a month—hello, low maintenance! ✔️ Contains a lower dose of hormones than the pill, but just as effective. 💉 The Shot: ✔️ Just 4 shots a year—talk about easy! ✔️ Can take 10 months or longer to regain fertility after stopping. ⚠️ REMEMBER: Not all birth control is created equal, and not all bodies react the same way. What’s perfect for your BFF might not vibe with you—and that’s okay! Your body, your rules, your choice. 🎧 Tune in, get the facts, and take control of your reproductive health like the badass you are! And come back for part 3 where we hear listener stories about experience on birth control! Stay protected. Stay smart. Stay sexy. 😘🔥 #WhatsYourPosition #BirthControlBoss #MyBodyMyChoice #SafeNotSorry #ReproRights #SexEdMatters #ContraceptionConversation