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Dr. JJ Kelly is a clinical psychologist, best selling author, emotional intelligence skills training expert, CEO & founder of UnthoroDocs. On this episode, we interview Dr. Kelly about the top reasons why today's kids are so stressed, what schools and parents could do to decrease stress, and how to incorporate effective coping skills. We also discuss why today's current mental healthcare and school systems are ineffective to treat today's youth. Lizz and Mariah share how they use identifying and aligning values to increase and decrease specific behaviors.  Connect with Us: Instagram: @howcometheydidntpodcast Email: [email protected]  Connect with Dr. Kelly Instagram: @drjjkelly YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLWVu-64eiNvhsV56y4jC4g Website: https://www.drjjkelly.com/ Connect with Dr. Lizz Dexter-Mazza Instagram: @dbtinschools Website: https://www.dbtinschools.com/ Connect with Mariah Covington Instagram: @mariahcdbt

Data shows that about 50% of marriages end in divorce. This means that 50% of our student population is experiencing, have, or will experience a significant shift in their family dynamics. On this episode, we talk to Tracy Callahan best-selling author, founder of the Split Society, and certified Divorce Coach on how schools can effectively connect and communicate with students of separated parents. Tracy drives home the point that "children experience divorce in the eyes of their parents" and that while conflict is inevitable it is also an opportunity. Tracy provides practical ways how schools can best support students and parents of separation. Connect with Us: Instagram: @howcometheydidntpodast Email: [email protected] Connect with Tracy Callahan Facebook: The Split Society Instagram: @thesplitsociety Connect with Dr. Lizz Dexter-Mazza Instagram: @dbtinschools Email: [email protected] Website: dbtinschools.com Connect with Mariah Instagram: @mariahcdbt --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

On this episode, we interview Christi Venable, NCC, LPC. Christi is a Licensed Professional Counselor and founder of Smile Therapy Services, LLC. Smile provides mental health services for the community and schools. Christi shares both the pros and cons of being a mental healthcare provider as an outside contractor and how Smile is working to fill the gap that schools desperately need. Christi speaks candidly about how schools can financially compensate contracted mental health services, strategies to promote school staff wellness, and trends she and her staff have noticed since returning from the pandemic.  Connect with us: Instagram: @howcometheydidntpodcast Email: [email protected] Connect with Lizz: Instagram: @dbtinschools Email: [email protected] Website: dbtinschools.com Connect with Christi Instagram: @smilesetherapyllc Website: https://www.smiletherapyservices.com/ Email: [email protected] --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

On this episode, we interview Aimee Buckley who is the founder of Study Help and veteran public school teacher. Study Help is an online platform that connects top quality teachers with students who are looking for a better understanding of their academic skills. We discuss how teachers can  build motivation with their students, how school counselors can support teachers in the classroom, and what she skill every student should know before graduating. Aimee also shares how as a special education student what strategies she uses for students who have emotional difficulties. Connect with Us Instagram: @howcometheydidntpodcast Email: [email protected] Connect with Liz Email: [email protected] Website: www.dbtinschools.com Instagram: @dbtinschools Connect with Aimee Buckley Email: [email protected] Website: study.help Instagram: @study.help.inc --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

On this episode, we interview Dr. Jeannine Jannot child and developmental psychologist, college professor, mother of three, and author of The Disintegrating Student: Struggling but Smart and Falling Apart: And How to Turn it Around. She speaks candidly about how we can build motivation within our students and children and move away from the fixed mindset. Dr. Jannot discusses how to remedy the tension between pushing for academic achievement by giving our children a sense of control and allowing them to make mistakes without immediately intervening. This show is also packed with tangible ways on how to build a habit with your child or student.  Dr. Jeannine Jannot Website: https://www.jeanninejannot.com/about Book: The Disintegrating Student: Interview with Dr. Jeannine Jannot Instagram: @jjanot Connect with us: Instagram: @howcometheydidntpodcast Email: [email protected] Learn more about DBT in schools: Website: dbtinschools.com Instagram: @dbtinschools Email: [email protected] --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

As schools have reopened, activities have restarted, and the holidays are almost upon us some of us are realizing that overarching feeling of burnout might also be back. On this episode, we talk about the importance of self-care, how school staff can incorporate it into their day, and actionable steps schools can do to decrease staff burnout. We always hear "catch burn out before it is too late" but what do we do when we are already there? This episode is great for all of our staff, parents, and students who are counting down the days, hours, minutes, and even seconds until the Thanksgiving break. Connect with Us: Instagram: @howcometheydidntpodcast Email: [email protected] Learn more about DBT STEPS A in schools: Website: dbtinschools.com Instagram: @dbtinschools --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

In the United States, more than 7.8 million students qualify for Special Education services (ages 3- 21) during the 2018 to 2019 school year. This number is around 14% of all public school students. However, depending on your population, location, or school setting this number can climb much higher or decrease. In addition, with early detection, special education services have increased tremendously in the school setting since the 1970's. On this episode Lizz and Mariah discuss IEP's (Individual Education Plan) in schools. We outline what parents need to know if their child is found eligible for an IEP, how schools can use their SEL (social emotional learning) programs to meet IEP goals, and how counselors can write measurable goals to meet their students needs. We also talk about how to encourage students to become an active participant in their IEP process to remove the stigma. This will be a great listen for our parents, teachers, clinicians, school administrators, and students who want to learn more about IEPs and the connection between mental health. We understand that we can help to erase the stigma of IEP's by providing information to the general public. Source: National Center for Education Statistics Connect with us: Instagram: @howcometheydidntpodcast Email: [email protected] Learn more about DBT STEPS-A www.dbtinschools.com [email protected] --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

On this episode, Dr. Lizz Dexter-Mazza and Mariah Covington speak about how to effectively self disclose to our students, children, and colleagues. We share tips on how to model self-disclosure without oversharing or inadvertently invalidating the person's experience. Conversely, we provide examples on how to decrease some children and adolescents tendency to overshare.  Connect with us Instagram: @howcometheydidntpodcast Facebook: howcometheydidntpodcast Email: [email protected] More on DBT in Schools: Instagram: @dbtinschools Website: dbtinschools.com Email: [email protected]

On this episode, we interview Dr. Carlene Reid. Dr. Reid is a Speech & Language Pathologist, representative for the State Board of Education (Washington DC, Ward 8), and full-time federal employee. Dr. Reid has evaluated over 300 students to determine the need for special education services. We interview Dr. Reid regarding the signs to look for if a referral to a speech & language services are needed, how the field has changed due to the pandemic, and how SLP's function in schools. Dr. Reid also speaks passionately about the requirements of the school when parents or staff make speech referrals and how parents can support their child's needs. Dr. Reid provided us with the important message to all our listeners of "don't wait, if you see something make the referral!" Connect with us: Instagram: @howcometheydidntpodcast Email: [email protected] Learn more about DBT STEPS A in Schools: Instagram: @dbtinschools Dr. Lizz Dexter-Mazza: @drlizzdm Website: dbtinschools.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

As we progress through the school year, practices, activities, sports, games, etc. have made a return. During the pandemic, our everyday lives came to an abrupt halt and forced us ALL to realize just how busy we were. Now that activities are seemingly resuming in most states, how do we find the balance between engaging in enough activities and intentional "downtime"? On today's show we discuss activities families and schools can do to assess their schedules and specific activities and skills schools and counselors can reinforce to most effectively support their students. We talk through how to encourage a student to engage in activities when they are explicitly aversive. Connect with us: Instagram: @howcometheydidntpodcast Email: [email protected] Learn more about DBT STEPS A in schools: Instagram: @dbtinschools Email: [email protected] Website: dbtinschools.com

The National Association of School Psychologist (NASP) recently released an article entitled "School Reentry Considerations: Supporting Student Social and Emotional Learning and Mental and Behavior Health Amidst Covid-19." Lizz & Mariah do a deep dive into the article and the importance of making SEL a top priority and part of the school day for ALL staff. We provide recommendations on how schools can incorporate a multi-disciplinary approach when  it comes to providing mental health services and move upstream where schools aren't waiting for a student to fail to a where point they must seek outside treatment.  We know that providing mental health in school is a heavy lift and we also know how difficult it is to educate a child who is experiencing emotional difficulties. We advocate strongly for every adult that interacts with students at schools to understand, teach, and model social and emotional well-being in all that they do. Article: https://www.nasponline.org/x55418.xml Connect with Us: Instagram: @howcometheydidntpodcast Email: [email protected] Learn more about DBT STEPS-A in schools: Instagram: @dbtinschools Twitter: @dbtinschools Website www.dbtinschools.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

We are back!!! As schools return for the 2021-2022 school year, there is a spectrum of emotions we all may be experiencing; ranging from anxiety to excitement to fear and sometimes all of them at once. Dr. Lizz Dexter-Mazza and Mariah Covington discuss how to emotionally prepare your students and staff for this upcoming school year (whatever that will look like). Lizz and Mariah also review what it means to be non-judgmental, why it is important to teach it to our children and staff, and offer a step by step exercise on how to teach taking a non-judgmental stance that you can do in your home or classroom today. Connect with us: Instagram: @howcometheydidntpodcast Facebook: How Come They Didn't podcast Email: [email protected] Website dbtinschools.com