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Early in my sales career, I found myself teaching sales new hires (who were struggling to get up to speed) about our products, services, and systems. I'm a teacher and healer at heart, so helping them came naturally, even though the time I spent supporting them was time away from earning commission. What I couldn't see then was that making those small deposits would eventually lead me into sales training and open up an entirely new direction in my career. That experience has stayed with me because we don't always know what will come from simply sharing what we have to offer. Sometimes it's our knowledge, our time, or one of those natural gifts that can make a real difference for someone else. Following our heart and being of service can create opportunities we never expected, but it's also important to notice when giving starts to feel one-sided. We can make deposits in others while still communicating what we need and allowing them to make deposits in us. On today's Wise Walk, we're slowing down to notice that ebb and flow in our own lives. We're looking at what it means to see a need, offer what feels aligned, and stay open to receiving support when we need it too. When that exchange comes from the heart, we have a chance to strengthen our relationships, appreciate what each of us brings to the table, and create a little more connection along the way. Can you reflect on a time when you saw a need that wasn't technically your responsibility, but you chose to step in and help anyway? What did you receive in return from that experience, whether it was satisfaction, appreciation, an opportunity, or something unexpected? Where in your life have you experienced that ebb and flow of making deposits in others and eventually receiving support in return? What needs do you have in your life right now, and are you communicating them clearly enough for someone else to recognize where they can help? Are you willing to receive help with gratitude when someone feels called to make a deposit for you? Where do you see opportunities to make deposits in your neighbors, your team, your community, or the people around you? How can you make sure the time, energy, and natural gifts you contribute are seen and appreciated? When someone has made a meaningful deposit in you, how can you look for the right opportunity to return that support in a way that feels meaningful to them? Wherever you are in life, I'd love to hear how you're following your heart, noticing where you can be of service, and making sure your contributions are valued. When we stay open to both giving and receiving those deposits, it creates a beautiful flow.  Feel free to reach out and share. I look forward to next Thursday's Wise Walk, so be sure to tune in for another episode. Until then, please be sure to prioritize fun as you read the signs, direct your path, and get your Stride On. In this episode: [06:42] One of the things I love about that experience is that seeing the need for new hires prompted me to get into sales training and teaching. [08:08] I began helping new hires and it turned into an entire career. I even trained people in Paris, Frankfurt, and England. [09:28] This experience reminded me of how important it is for all of us to follow our hearts. We don't know until we try and see what magical doors the universe is opening up for us.  [10:39] If we are able to see a need and share our natural born talents, we just won't know where the universe takes us. [11:09] The more we invest in those around us, the stronger those energetic exchanges are.  [15:24] Living in the country, sometimes we need to depend on our neighbors and call on someone when we have a need. We also need to be open to opportunities where we can be of service. [16:08] Growing together as a community is a beautiful gift that we can give to each other. Memorable Quotes: "Until we try, we really don't know. Sometimes the universe has a magical way of opening doors for us." - Mary Tess "The more that we invest in each other and ourselves, these energetic exchanges just happen more naturally." - Mary Tess "When you see a need and feel called, listen, be aware, and decide if it feels right for you to be of service." - Mary Tess "We can grow together as a community and have this natural energy exchange that comes from the heart." - Mary Tess Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Heart Value Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram

I have a wonderful chiropractor who always has availability when I unexpectedly hurt my back. He makes time for his patients and emergency appointments when they are in critical need, and I loved this idea of how he honors time. He intentionally leaves space in his schedule for the unexpected, which means he doesn't have to rush through the patients who are already there. He can give them his full attention while still having room for someone who suddenly needs his help. It made me think about how often we do the exact opposite in our own lives. We fill every open space, try to squeeze in one more thing, and sometimes leave ourselves almost no room for anything to go differently than planned. Then traffic happens, something takes longer than expected, or we simply get behind, and suddenly we're rushing. We feel that pressure to catch up, be on time, and avoid disappointing someone else. I know for me, being late can bring up all kinds of uncomfortable feelings, even when what caused the delay was completely out of my control. On today's Wise Walk, we're talking about what all that rushing is really about and what might change if we gave ourselves a little more breathing room. We'll look at the pressure we put on ourselves, how we respond when things don't go according to plan, and why communicating can take some of that pressure away. We'll also talk about being more present with the time we do have, offering the same grace to others that we hope they'll give us, and trusting that sometimes the best thing we can do is allow life to unfold in perfect and elegant timing. Are you noticing any rushing in your life right now? Do you find yourself in a constant state of urgency? Are you rushing out of fear of falling behind, disappointing someone else, or feeling guilty? Has rushing simply become a habit? Do you constantly fill your calendar and try to squeeze in one more thing before you leave the house or shut down your computer? When you find yourself rushing, how does it make you feel? Does rushing bring up uncomfortable feelings for you? Can you notice why you are in that state of urgency? What can you do to change it? When you find yourself running late for something you scheduled, can you give yourself permission to pause, breathe, and safely communicate that your timing has changed? When you give yourself that permission, can you also release any guilt you may be feeling? Can you create space for perfect and elegant timing and trust that the person you are meeting will offer you the same space and grace? If you are chronically running behind because your calendar is packed or overscheduled, can you intentionally slow down and create more physical and mental space? Can you catch yourself before you overschedule and give yourself some breathing room? Where can you create unexpected buffer time so you have space for whatever is meant to come your way? Before you start your car, move on to a new task, or spend time with people you care about, how can you set yourself up for success? How can you be fully present without rushing through the experience? How often do you turn off your electronic devices? How often do you silence your notifications? Can you silence distractions during meals, drive time, or focused project time? How are you holding space for yourself to stay focused, stay present, and relieve some of the pressure you put on yourself? Where can you simply breathe, enjoy the moment, and be open to receiving the best experience possible? What does being on time mean to you? I would love to hear what strategies and techniques you use to remove that sense of urgency in your life, to notice the rush when it's happening, to notice where those uncomfortable feelings of guilt or pressure are building up in your life.  Please let me know what you took away from today's episode and where in your life you're creating more space and more perfect and elegant timing. I look forward to next Thursday's Wise Walk, so be sure to tune in for another episode. In this episode: [03:53] The beauty of perfect and elegant timing. [04:59] We need to allow ourselves to go with the flow and take the pressure off of ourselves and others. [05:32] When I'm running late and getting anxiety, I take a moment and pause and breathe.  [06:15] When I pause, breathe, and communicate, the other person is very understanding. [07:45] Nothing in life is worth getting in an accident over. We need to keep in mind that perfect and elegant timing is what we trust in. [10:55] It's also important to pause and breathe so our attention is fully focused and we are present in the situation. [13:29] What does being on time mean to you?  [15:55] When we communicate together, and pause and breathe, so many perfect and elegant things can happen. [16:16] There's nothing more important than caring for ourselves and those around us. [16:49]  As a community, how can we eliminate that pressure or sense of urgency? [17:22]  We are also going to silence distractions and some of the noise. We'll honor the time in the best way possible. Memorable Quotes: It's important to take the pressure off ourselves, and it's important to take the pressure off other people. - Mary Tess "Give yourself some unexpected buffer time and see what can happen with that buffer time instead of filling your schedule to the brim." - Mary Tess "When we communicate together, when we pause and breathe together, then so many perfect and elegant timing things can happen." - Mary Tess   "There is nothing more important than caring for ourselves and caring for those around us." - Mary Tess "It'll happen in perfect and elegant timing." - My Aunt Caron Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Heart Value Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram

Have you ever gone back to something you haven't done in a while and immediately wondered if you still know how to do it? It's funny how quickly that doubt can creep in. We can have years of experience and plenty of proof that we're capable. Somehow, we can still convince ourselves that too much time has passed or that we've forgotten everything we once knew. Then we step back into it and realize, wait, I actually know more than I thought I did. I've been noticing this in my own life lately, especially as I return to things I haven't done for a while. I also had a moment recently when a friend was going through a difficult loss. There was a chance I might need to step into her role and emcee a call with very little notice. My first thought was whether I could really pull it off without having time to prepare. But when I stopped and looked at everything I've already done, I realized I had plenty of experience to draw from. I needed to give myself a little more credit. On this Wise Walk, we're exploring what happens when our inner critic gets louder than the evidence of what we already know. We'll look at the expectations we put on ourselves. We'll also talk about letting go of the need to be perfect. Sometimes being present is enough. Sometimes saying yes to something that makes us a little uncomfortable is exactly what reminds us what we're capable of. Are there times in your life when you stepped away from something you enjoyed or got really good at, then wanted to return to it later? When you go back to it, does fear or anxiety surface? Do you give yourself enough credit for what you already know? Instead of feeding that fear, can you remind yourself that you probably know more than you think you do? Is there an activity, passion, or hobby you want to return to but have been putting off because too much time has passed? What is stopping you from going back to something you are curious about? Can you get grounded in why you have been holding yourself back? Can you trust your ability to work through whatever comes up and allow yourself to have the experience you are meant to have right now? Has someone ever asked you at the last minute to do something you felt unprepared for? What was your internal dialogue at that moment? Were you able to honor what was coming up for you while still moving past your self-doubt? When something pushes you outside your comfort zone, can you get curious about why it feels uncomfortable? What choices do you want to make when you find yourself outside your comfort zone? What actions can you take to let go of perfection and simply be present? Can you show up for yourself and others without expecting yourself to be perfect? Where in your life can you say yes to something that feels uncomfortable? Can you step outside your comfort zone, put your inner critic on the back burner, and surprise yourself? When you do surprise yourself, who are you going to tell? How can you be your own cheerleader? How can you appreciate the progress and momentum you are creating? Where can you gently tell your inner critic, "Not right now. I'm moving ahead anyway"? How can you give yourself credit for doing something uncomfortable or challenging? Who can you share your wins with who will be just as delighted as you are? I want to give you a shout-out for doing those scary things and not feeling like you have to be perfect. You are present, and you are showing up for yourself and others in ways that matter. I would love to hear what you took away from today's episode and what else is going on in your life. Feel free to reach out and share. I look forward to next Thursday for another Wise Walk. Until then, please be sure to prioritize fun as you read the signs, direct your path, and get your Stride On. In this episode: [04:21] How I had to realize that I could step up and help someone who needed support in their time of need, even though I wasn't sure that I was ready.  [05:24] I knew it was important for me to give my friend support to feel what she needed to feel.  [06:22] My friend is still being the emcee for the event, but she knows that she has my support, and that I can step up if needed. [07:05] Presence over perfection. Perfection isn't what people are typically looking for. They want the raw, vulnerable, good stuff that they could relate to. [09:18] When I was on this Wise Walk, I realized that we all have this inner critic. This inner critic also creates a lot of noise. [10:17] Sometimes we also have unrealistic expectations. We need to keep these in check and realize something magical will come out. [12:12] We can't lose faith in ourselves. We need to believe in ourselves and expect good outcomes to come our way. [13:26] The importance of giving ourselves credit and owning our wins. [14:56]  As children, we get used to something new every year. As adults, there isn't as much change until we start going through major life changes like retirement or a new business or career. [16:15] I'm grateful that I can apply these concepts to my own life and that I'm seeing so many people who I care about doing the same thing. Memorable Quotes: "You probably know more than you think you do. Give yourself credit and trust what you already know." - Mary Tess "Challenge your inner critic. Growth often begins when you move forward even when part of you feels uncomfortable." - Mary Tess "Say yes to something that scares you a little. You may discover you're far more capable than you expected." - Mary Tess "Perfectionism is overrated. Something beautiful can happen when you let go of unrealistic expectations." - Mary Tess Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Heart Value Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram

I like to think of emotions a lot like waves in the ocean. Some roll in gently and barely disturb us, while others seem to come out of nowhere and knock us off our feet. Lately, I have been experiencing some of those heavier waves. With the 25th anniversary of September 11, memories from when I was living and working in New York have surfaced in ways I did not necessarily expect. Grief can be tricky like that. We can feel completely fine one moment, and then a memory, a conversation, or even the energy around us brings something back that we thought we had already worked through. I used to think being positive meant pushing those heavier feelings aside and keeping myself moving. Now I see how important it is to make room for them instead. Sometimes that means clearing the calendar, letting yourself cry, talking with someone you trust, or simply being still long enough to notice what is coming up. We do not always have to fix what we are feeling, and we certainly do not have to have everything together all the time. On today's Wise Walk, we explore how to ride those emotional waves instead of fighting them, create space for vulnerability, support the people we love when their own waves come in, and give ourselves the grace to rest and recharge afterward. Are you able to process the range of emotions you experience from day to day, or even minute to minute, much like the waves in the ocean? Can you feel those waves of emotion when you are in a storm and allow them to wash over you? Can you ride those emotional waves when you can? Can you ground yourself so the waves do not knock you over, allowing them to pass through you instead of resisting them? Can you pause and feel gratitude when those waves of emotion bring you joy and satisfaction? Where in your life are you holding space to watch the waves come in and go out, accepting that sometimes you have no control over them? Can you give yourself the space and grace to experience those emotional waves in whatever form they appear? When heavy emotions surface, can you pause, take them seriously, and reflect on why they may be appearing at this moment? Can you honor what you are feeling? Can you feel your feelings in a safe and vulnerable way, knowing that expressing them does not make you weak? When you experience waves of emotion that feel heavy, confusing, or sad, do you allow yourself to process them? Who can you reach out to, who will hold a safe and sacred space for you? Can you allow yourself to be vulnerable and share what is on your mind with people you trust? Can you also lean in and listen when someone else shares what is surfacing for them? What is going on for you? How are you feeling about this experience? What personal memories are surfacing for you? Are you allowing yourself to heal by feeling your feelings and giving others space to share theirs too? Can vulnerability help you deepen your connections and build greater trust with the people in your life? Allow yourself to be present with whatever feelings are surfacing and just look at them like waves of emotions and be kind to yourself. I would love to hear what waves you are allowing to wash over you.  I look forward to next Thursday's Wise Walk. I hope you'll join me. Until then, please be sure to prioritize fun as you read the signs, direct your path, and get your Stride On. In this episode: [03:43] This year marks 25 years since September 11th. And I have very vivid memories of September 11th. I was living and working in New York at the time. [04:11] That day was fundamentally life-altering for many of us. It altered our shared sense of safety. We also lost so many humans that day and in the aftermath. [05:46] 25 years later we still feel the energy of those days and also the energy of the mass collective.  [06:03] We are all so intertwined that we feel our memories and the memories and grief of others. [07:03] When I was young, I tried to resist grief and waves of heavy emotion. [08:39] I've honored September 11th in a variety of ways. Sometimes I just take alone time. I also participated in the Tunnels to Tower Run.  [10:02] This year when I started feeling those emotions, I knew the best thing to do would be to talk about it. [11:12] When we accept that waves of emotion are going to surface, it doesn't have to be a bad thing, and we don't have to judge it. [14:15] When we feel grief or a wave of emotion it can be related to so many different things. [15:34] You are going to get through the storm of whatever you are feeling. There's a beginning, middle, and end. [16:39] You are strong, and you can handle whatever waves of emotion come at you. [17:23] Be kind to yourself when those heavy emotions wash over you. Memorable Quotes: "Sometimes the healthiest thing we can do is accept the waves and learn to work with them instead of fighting them." - Mary Tess "Sometimes there isn't anything to fix. Healing happens in how we show up for ourselves and for each other." - Mary Tess "Whatever you're experiencing has a beginning, a middle, and an end. You will get through the storm." - Mary Tess "Life is ever-changing. Let the emotions wash over you and trust that this moment will not always feel the way it does right now." - Mary Tess Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Heart Value 5k Run & Walk NYC Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram

I've always loved the idea of trying something on a small scale before going all in. In my corporate days, we did this all the time with pilots. We would test a new idea, product, process, or system with a small group, see what worked, notice where things started to crack, and then decide what needed to change before taking it any further. That same approach has helped me in so many other areas of life too. Sometimes the best way to move forward is not to have everything figured out. It is simply to create a safe way to test what is calling you and pay attention to what you learn. Pressure testing can reveal a lot more than whether an idea will work. It can show us how we respond when we feel vulnerable, how other people react to change, and where we may be ready to grow. It can also teach us something about our relationships because we often learn the most about ourselves and the people around us when life gets uncomfortable. On today's Wise Walk, we explore where we may be playing it a little too safe, what we might be ready to test, and how we can use those experiences to build confidence, resilience, and deeper connections. Is there something in your life that has been calling you that you would really like to test? Is there an idea in your personal or professional life that excites you, but you have been hesitant to try? Could you pilot that idea on a small scale and see what kind of feedback you receive? What might you learn by testing the idea before making a bigger commitment? What is something you are curious about and ready to give a trial run? Who in your life could give you thoughtful, honest feedback as you test your idea? Are you willing to be brave enough to try something new and simply see what happens next? What is an area of your life where you have been playing it a little too safe lately? Have you become comfortable doing the same things because you know you will not fall? Where might you be ready to take a risk, try something new, and see how you can grow? When was the last time you cracked under pressure? Can you give yourself some self-love and self-compassion as you reflect on that experience? How were you able to move through that difficult situation? Was there someone who helped you move through it with a little more ease? Have you ever gone through a crisis with someone and felt your relationship deepen because of what you experienced together? Can you acknowledge the deeper connection you formed with someone who rose to the occasion with you? What did you learn about yourself during that difficult experience? What did you learn about the people who supported you? Can you feel gratitude for the growth and connection that came from moving through that experience together? The more we practice pressure testing, the better we get at handling what comes our way. It helps us build confidence and resilience, and over time, we may find that we are less reactive and better able to move through stressful situations with more ease. As always, I would love to hear what you took away from today's episode and what areas of your life you are excited to pilot and pressure test. Feel free to reach out and share, and be sure to tune in next Thursday for another Wise Walk. In this episode: [07:04] How the idea of pressure testing was inspired by one of my friends. [08:21] I also shared my ideas of a pilot test and charting the results. [10:07] All of these skills in having the pilot program are helping my friend grow. When we pressure test ourselves, we pilot our own ability. [11:14] We also get to see how we perform under pressure and discover our strengths. [12:55] We don't know how people will react or how the dynamics will play out unless we test them. [13:31] I'm going to pilot. I'm going to run a test. I'm going to see what comes out of it. [14:06] We should never look at a pilot failure as a personal failure. We gain so much in the process. [16:06] The other area where this comes to mind is the idea of relationships. You never really know someone until you experience a crisis together. [17:22] We all crack under pressure occasionally. That doesn't mean there's anything wrong with us. [18:12] Pressure cooker careers like firefighters, police, and military professionals are often put in pressure cooker situations where they gain awareness of who has their back. [20:11] I've had my fair share of crisis situations in my life. I'm going to focus on gratitude for what I learned and gained through those experiences. [21:32] The more we work the muscle of pressure testing, the better we will get at it. Memorable Quotes: "Sometimes putting yourself out there is the pressure test that helps you find your voice." - Mary Tess "Sometimes the best way to move forward is to pilot an idea on a small scale and see what happens." - Mary Tess "Pressure reveals our strengths, our weak spots, and where we still have room to grow." - Mary Tess "The people who stand beside you under pressure can deepen your sense of connection and trust." - Mary Tess Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Heart Value Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram

A friend of mine is doing some really exciting things right now. She is building a new business, speaking at fashion events, and stretching herself in all kinds of new ways. When we were talking recently, one of the things she focused on was the fact that she has not been exercising. I remember thinking, why are we so quick to notice the thing we have not done instead of everything we have and have done? I have caught myself doing the same thing. We can accomplish 99 things and somehow we let that one thing we didn't complete, overshadow all we accomplished. Sometimes life simply requires us to put certain priorities on the back burner while we give our energy to something else. That does not mean those things no longer matter. It may simply mean we are exercising different muscles right now and focusing on what this season in life needs from us. On today's Wise Walk, we talk about shifting our attention from the have-nots to the haves, appreciating what we are accomplishing instead of judging ourselves for what we have not gotten to, and giving ourselves permission to prioritize what matters most right now with more self-love and compassion. Do you find yourself beating yourself up over things you haven't done lately or haven't gotten around to? In those moments, can you catch yourself and let self-love and self-care wash over you? Can you shift your focus from what you haven't done to appreciating what you have accomplished and the new muscles you are exercising? Is there an area of your life where you are being critical of yourself because you haven't gotten to something? Can you reframe that disappointment by acknowledging what you want to circle back to while appreciating everything that is benefiting from your heart, energy, and intention? Are you able to give yourself credit for how you are showing up, what you are accomplishing, and how you are supporting both your present and future self? When you reframe your mindset, how do you feel, and can you get excited about the vision you hold for your future self? Catch yourself when you focus on what you haven't done, and take a moment to appreciate everything you have accomplished. Trust what you are being called to focus on when it feels aligned with your energy, effort, and expertise. Let me know what you took away from this episode, and I'll talk to you on next week's Wise Walk. In this episode: [03:07] Our brains are conditioned to hold on to the negative elements in life. [04:16] How one less than glowing review took over my thoughts. [05:48] Reframing how to look at critical feedback is so important. We need to appreciate our wins. [06:51] We can focus on priorities and circle back to the other things later. [07:42] We need laser focus to incorporate the elements that help us become our highest and best self. [09:18] Just like my friend, I too realized I wasn't exercising as much as I wanted to. I'm still moving my body and using different muscles than I'm used to. [10:20] I need to let go of the list of what I haven't done lately. [11:07] Sometimes we need to step back and appreciate what matters. [13:17] Think about how you can help yourself move with more self-love and compassion. Be appreciative about what you're doing and how you're showing up for yourself. Memorable Quotes: "We need to appreciate the wins in our lives and recognize what we are doing right, what we are accomplishing, and how we are showing up." - Mary Tess "Let go of the things you are not getting to without guilt. You can circle back to them when the time is right." - Mary Tess "Give yourself self-love and compassion for being present with what you need right now instead of focusing on everything you haven't done." - Mary Tess "Move through life with more self-love, self-compassion, and a deep appreciation for what you are doing and how you are showing up." - Mary Tess Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Heart Value Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram

Sometimes life gives us a lesson we already know, but apparently need to learn again. I recently tweaked my back while moving an extremely heavy piece of furniture, and I knew immediately that I had to stop. There was a time when I might have tried to push through the pain and finish what I started, but experience has taught me that ignoring what my body is telling me usually makes things worse. This time, I grabbed the ice, stopped trying to solve the problem myself, and started figuring out who I could call for help. What surprised me was how vulnerable that felt. Asking movers to finish the job was one thing, but as the reality of my injury set in, I realized I needed help with some very basic parts of my life. I couldn't drive home as planned. I couldn't bend down to feed my dogs. I had to call people I love and admit that I simply could not do certain things on my own. As uncomfortable as that was, every phone call became a reminder that receiving support is not a failure of self-reliance. Sometimes it is exactly what allows us to take care of ourselves and move through a difficult moment without making it harder than it already is. In this episode, we're taking a Wise Walk together to look at the heavy loads we carry and why so many of us wait until we're in crisis before asking someone to share them. Where could you use a little more support right now? Who has shown you that they genuinely have your back? And can you allow yourself to receive their help without guilt or the feeling that you're putting someone out? I am learning that being strong doesn't always mean doing everything myself. Sometimes strength looks like being vulnerable enough to say, "I need help," and then letting someone show up for me. What memorable painful experiences have forced you to stop midstream because pressing on would have caused further harm? When physical, emotional, or energetic pain surfaced, were you able to pause, honor what you were feeling, regroup, and determine your next steps? Where in your life have you ignored pain or discomfort that was trying to tell you to stop? What did you learn from those experiences that you want to carry forward the next time something painful happens? Where in your life are you carrying a physical, emotional, or energetic load that you may not need to carry alone? Where can you become vulnerable and ask for help before you reach a crisis point? Once you ask for help, how can you receive that support without guilt or feeling like you are putting someone out? What resources are available through your family, friends, or contacts that could help you carry a difficult load? What other tools, techniques, or resources could help you move through a vulnerable period with greater ease, support, and confidence? How can receiving the support you need help you move through hardship while carrying the lessons from that experience forward? I hope you're not carrying heavy loads by yourself. Be vulnerable enough to ask for the support you deserve and allow others to share the load. In doing so, you may deepen the bonds of friendship, love, respect, and support around you. I would love to hear what you took away from today's episode. Thank you so much for listening. Be sure to tune in next Thursday for another wise walk. Please be sure to prioritize fun as you read the signs, direct your path and get your Stride On. In this episode: [03:26] I've tweaked my back in the past. My back has vulnerable points. I need to be more careful than most. [04:39] Each time I injure my back I get a little more in tune on how to respond. [05:36] While I was laid up, I began to make phone calls and request help for my current situation.  [06:44] The thing I took away from this experience is that I had to learn how to ask for help. [07:27] When we are down and out we have to face our fears about being vulnerable. Pain forces us to confront the feeling of resistance when asking for help. [09:09] I also had to call my cousin for help with feeding my dogs. [11:21] Once I started exercising the muscle of asking for help, it actually got a lot easier. [12:33] When we are vulnerable, it's important to feel seen and heard. [13:37] I also started thinking about support in broader terms. I invested in a back brace to feel more secure and calm. [16:17] My big takeaway is that it's okay to have a mentality of self-reliance. It's also important to remember that we don't have to carry everything by ourselves. [17:28]  We all need each other and are better together. We stand stronger in our foundational root chakra when we know when to ask for help. Memorable Quotes: "Where in your life are you carrying a heavy load that you don't need to carry alone? Sometimes asking for help is exactly what allows life to move a little more smoothly." - Mary Tess "When we are vulnerable enough to ask for help, we also get to see who genuinely shows up for us, who has our back, and who is willing to stand beside us when things get hard." - Mary Tess "When we ask for help and allow ourselves to receive it without guilt, we create a beautiful balance between self-reliance and the support that is available all around us." - Mary Tess "The more we allow ourselves to be vulnerable and receive the support we need, the more easily we can move through life's difficult moments with confidence that we will get through them." - Mary Tess Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Heart Value Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram

Years ago, I spent some time studying Ayurveda and learning more about how food can support the body. One thing I remember really liking was the idea of bringing different tastes into a meal. Instead of eating something that hits only one note, you include a mix of flavors so the meal feels more satisfying and complete. I started thinking about that again recently, only this time in terms of life. There are certain things I need in my day that help me feel good about how I invested my time. Moving my body is one. Being outside is another. I love learning, having meaningful conversations, working with my animals, and knowing I did something useful for someone else. I also need that point when I can say, "day is done," and stop pushing myself to do more. On today's Wise Walk, we talk about the different flavor profiles that make a life feel satisfying, why those ingredients will look different for each of us, and how being more intentional about what we include in our days can help us feel more balanced and complete. What does feeling satisfied mean to you? In what ways do you feel satisfied in your body, heart, energy, relationships, career, and activities? How can you direct or redirect your energy toward the things that help you feel satisfied? What activities allow you to actively direct your energy toward the areas of your life that bring you satisfaction? How do you incorporate those activities into your day? Do you have enough variety in the things that help you feel satisfied? Are your personal flavor profiles connected to relationships, learning, acts of service, or other meaningful experiences? How are you incorporating your heart, mind, body, and soul into the way you live each day? What are the things that light you up, and how do you feel when you make time for them? What do you notice when those important elements are missing from your day? Where can you be more intentional about choosing the things that help you feel satisfied, grounded, calm, and balanced? How can you create a clear stopping point at the end of the day and shift your energy toward reflection, recovery, restoration, or nourishment? How do you create satisfaction during the times when you do not need to be "on"? Are there areas of your life where you are depriving yourself of the flavor profiles or sensory experiences that help you feel abundant, grateful, and fulfilled? How can you become more aware of what feels aligned for you and what does not? How can you intentionally choose more of the things that bring you satisfaction? What can you eliminate from your life that is weighing you down or pulling you away from the experience you want to create? What elements help you feel complete in how you show up for others and how you show up for yourself? How can you create balance between being of service to others and giving yourself what you need to unwind at the end of the day? I'd love to hear what helps you feel satisfied and how you create balance in your life. Please send me your thoughts and feedback. I look forward to next Thursday's Wise Walk. Until then, prioritize fun as you read the signs, direct your path, and get your stride on. In this episode: [01:47] I studied Ayurvedic practices as a way to support my body. Ayurveda has different healing beliefs and works with food and spices as nourishment, and also incorporates body cleansing practices. [02:16] They focus on the mind, body, heart and soul alignment. It's being intentional about how we prepare our food.  [03:07] Spices are incorporated to help our bodies feel supported. [04:02] There are six fundamental taste that we should achieve in every meal including sweet, sour, salty, bitter, pungent, and astringent. [05:19] Things I should include in my everyday life flavor profile include exercise, nature, meaningful conversations, learning, and being of service. [07:07] At the end of the day, my aunt and I will always say, "Day is done." [08:36] Shifting energy and going inward and using your "off switch" is also very satisfying. [12:51] One of the ayurvedic flavor profiles is sweetness. I make a point to incorporate sweetness in my day. I have something sweet after my meal. [14:40] My sweet stopper has helped prevent me from overindulging. [15:43] This helps close out the eating experience for me. [17:11] We can be intentional about incorporating flavor profiles into our days so we feel satisfied. Memorable Quotes: "Satisfaction is personal. Each of us has to recognize what makes us feel nourished, supported, and complete, then intentionally direct our energy toward those things." - Mary Tess "A satisfying life is not built from one thing alone. It comes from understanding the different experiences that energize us and making space for them in our daily lives." - Mary Tess "When we make room for the things that light us up, we give ourselves a better chance to end the day feeling complete rather than wondering what was missing." - Mary Tess "Balance includes knowing when to be fully engaged and when to create a clear stopping point so our energy can shift toward calm and recovery." - Mary Tess Links and Resources:  Mary Tess Rooney Email Heart Value Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram

One of the messages I heard over and over growing up was simple: if you start something, you see it through. My mom taught us to keep going, push through the hard parts, and trust that we could get to the other side. That lesson gave me a lot of confidence, but I also remember one time in high school when she completely surprised me. I was struggling with a situation that had become hurtful, and instead of telling me to keep going, she told me that sometimes it is okay to "lick your battle scars and move on." At the time, I was almost shocked to hear those words from her, but I needed them. I had been so focused on not being a quitter that I wasn't paying attention to how much the situation was costing me emotionally.  That lesson came back to me recently when a friend told me about recognizing a red flag with someone she had just started talking to and deciding, very simply, to "tap out." I loved the phrase because there is strength in knowing when enough is enough. Tapping out does not always mean giving up. Sometimes it means protecting your peace, stepping away before more damage is done, or giving yourself enough space to come back with a clearer mind. I have been learning that on the farm too, where sometimes the best thing I can do is stop forcing a project, reset, and look at it again later with fresh eyes. So on today's Wise Walk, I'm looking at that line between staying the course and knowing when it's time to step back, regroup, and put your energy somewhere that feels better.   Have you ever been in a challenging situation that creates a lot of conflict in your life, yet you hold on because you don't want to quit? Are you holding on so tightly that you may be directly or indirectly causing harm to yourself and collecting those micro battle scars along the way? When you find yourself in an unhealthy situation or predicament, do you give yourself permission to lick your battle scars, move on, and give yourself time to heal? Can you redirect the energy you've been using to push past the discomfort or conflict toward something that feels more aligned, fulfilling, and supportive of your overall well-being? Are you managing something in your life right now that feels unhealthy or is weighing on you, but you keep telling yourself you have to push through?  Is there an opportunity to choose again, step back, hit pause, or tap out so you can reset and give yourself room to heal?  Can you find a different way forward that still supports what you ultimately want, but feels more aligned and sustainable?  If you step away for a while, do you actually feel called to re-engage, or might you realize that you're ready to let it go?  I hope today's episode reminds you that stepping back doesn't make you a quitter. Sometimes tapping out gives you the space to reset, heal, and move forward with more clarity. I'd love to hear what stood out to you, and I look forward to connecting again next Thursday for another Wise Walk. In this episode: [05:39] I share a story about an event that happened to a dear friend of mine when she attempted online dating. She called out a guy when he wasn't telling the truth. Then she tapped out. [07:20] I love that my friend recognized the red flags and was able to tap out. We often forget that tapping out is an option. [08:51] Tapping out can prevent injury and prevent us from getting hurt. [09:38] Tapping out can also reset our cognitive fatigue. [10:33] Tapping out can also help us redirect our energy in a healthy way. [12:27] Tapping out can also create space for better long-term results. [16:11] Forcing something that does harm to us creates trauma and gives up our control. [17:04] I see tapping out as a healthy boundary setting not quitting. Memorable Quotes: "We do not have to push beyond pain and discomfort if we feel that tapping out is in our best interest." - Mary Tess "Sometimes pulling back or sometimes stepping away, it just gives us that ability to see things from a different lens." - Mary Tess "I still don't see that idea of tapping out as quitting. I see it more as a healthy boundary setting that prevents harm to us." - Mary Tess "Knowing when enough is enough, knowing when to walk away, knowing when to step back, like that is a power you obtain always." - Mary Tess Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Heart Value Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram

Sometimes you do not realize how much your life has changed until something makes you stop and look at it. New interests emerge. Our priorities change. Everyday experiences begin to feel natural even though they would have surprised an earlier version of us. A recent conversation with my sister gave me a chance to see my own transformation through her eyes. While she was excited about business meetings in Dallas, I was equally excited to spend the week harvesting green beans and learning canning. Her surprised laughter reminded me just how far my life has shifted from my years in New York City. Each of us has an opportunity to reflect on the many versions we've experienced during our lifetime and appreciate each one without feeling obligated to remain there. On our Wise Walk, I share how I am reinventing my approach to exercise as my body and responsibilities change, along with the patience required to grow into a new way of living. Together, let's consider the small steps that can help us move toward the person we are becoming. Reinvention takes time, honest adjustments, and plenty of grace for ourselves and for the people who may need a moment to catch up with who we are becoming. As you appreciate where you are today, can you look back and value the many different versions of yourself? How many times have you reinvented yourself throughout your life? Have you ever surprised someone you love because they still pictured an earlier version of you? Is there a new version of yourself calling you forward right now? Who can support and encourage you as you move into this next phase of your life? Can you make room to try something new, even if what you have always done still feels familiar and comfortable? What does reinvention mean to you at this point in your life, and why does it matter now? What needs to change or be cleared away so you can move toward the vision you have for yourself? What small step could bring you even one percent closer to the person you want to become? How can you build momentum and begin to feel connected to this new version of yourself? How are you sharing the small changes in your life with the people who care about you? Can you invite supportive people into your vision so they have time to understand who you are becoming? Can those conversations strengthen your desire to make the changes that feel important to you? As you reinvent yourself, can you pause and recognize how far you have already come? Can you appreciate the person you once were while also welcoming the person you are becoming? What is lighting you up as you continue to grow, evolve, and reinvent yourself? I encourage you to appreciate every version of yourself that helped bring you to where you are today. Give yourself the time and grace to keep growing, and trust that each small step is helping shape the person you are becoming. I would love to hear what you took away from today's episode. Feel free to reach out and share how you are reinventing yourself or what changes you are beginning to explore. Please join us for another Wise Walk next Thursday. In this episode: [04:27] I've even found a few moments where I've had to laugh at the dramatic change in my life since I've been on the farm. [05:04] In New York, I lived in the hustle and bustle of the city. My nature fixes were in Central Park. [06:12] I've reinvented myself, and I'm enjoying this new phase of my life. I'm transforming into a country girl. [08:22] One area that I'm clear on reinventing for myself is the way that I work out. My body has evolved to a place where hiking is a better fit than running. This change was hard to accept. I'm also incorporating more strength training. [10:21] True reinvention requires personal growth, transformation, and adaptation. This could take 5 years. I need to give myself space and grace. [11:56] Whatever your reinvention time, be realistic about it and give yourself permission to clarify and take baby steps. [12:43] Also give people around us the space and grace to adapt with us. [15:34] This conversation with my sister helped me take stock of just how far I've come. [16:07] We have the opportunity to reinvent ourselves at any age. [17:03] The choices you make today will write your biography for tomorrow. Memorable Quotes: "How cool that at any age, we have the opportunity to reinvent ourselves. We are not stuck in who we were, and the future has yet to be written." - Mary Tess "I have to give myself a lot of space and grace to really get in flow with this new version of myself." - Mary Tess "True reinvention requires personal growth. It requires transformation. It requires adaptation." - Mary Tess "We are reinventing ourselves in small ways every single day. We change. Our tastes change. Our interests change." - Mary Tess Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Heart Value Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram

Sometimes you can think you know exactly what you want, but actually experiencing it tells you something completely different. In backpacking, a shakedown gives you a chance to test your gear on a shorter trip before heading out on a bigger adventure. I love that idea because we do the same thing in everyday life, whether we realize it or not. I have test driven cars that looked great on paper, but felt completely wrong once I got behind the wheel, and my first trip hauling horses across the country taught me very quickly that leggings and sneakers were not nearly as practical as denim and cowboy boots. The experience gave me information I could use the next time around. There are so many areas of our lives where giving something a trial run can help us figure out what actually fits. It might be a career, a neighborhood, a relationship, a subscription, or even where we set up a desk. Sometimes we just have to try something and see what happens. Maybe it works exactly the way we hoped, or maybe we realize pretty quickly that it is not for us. Either way, we learn something, and we can use that information to decide what comes next. On today's Wise Walk, we talk about where a test drive might help us figure out what fits, what doesn't, and what we want to choose from here. Is there an area of your life that would benefit from a shakedown or a test run to see if it truly aligns with you? How does that experience fit and feel for you right now? What feels good, what feels off, and what can you do with that information? Is there anything missing from the experience that would help you feel more prepared and avoid regrets later? When was the last time you were excited about something but realized, once you were in the experience, that you did not know what you did not know? Have you ever wished you had tried something on a smaller scale first so you could better understand what to expect and prepare accordingly? Is there something you are interested in experiencing or taking on that you could test in a smaller, lower-commitment way first? Do you give yourself opportunities to take something for a test drive before fully jumping into the deep end? Can you look at the many things that you're juggling in your life right now, get curious, and give them a little bit of a shakedown? Can you try them on for size or give them a test run? Can you give yourself the space and grace to try it on for fit, feel, and no regrets before you fully commit? As always, I would love to hear what you took away from today's episode. Feel free to reach out and share whatever areas of your life you are testing out for fit, feel, and no regrets. Please join us for another Wise Walk next Thursday. In this episode: [02:43] When I think of a test drive, I think of taking cars for a test drive. Things can look good on paper and make logical sense, but you don't know until you've taken it for a test drive. [04:42] We can apply the test drive concept in any area of our lives.  [05:22] I tried many neighborhoods on for size when I was thinking about moving. [06:20] I'm evaluating my closet and clothes to see what's a good fit. How does it feel? How does it fit? Is there a real life application for this? [08:18] Denim is definitely the best outfit for farm work. [11:39] When I was promoting my coaching service, I used the initial call as a two-way opportunity for the client to get to know me and for me to get to know them. [12:45] Am I doing this out of enjoyment or am I doing this out of obligation? [13:53] I share my friend's online dating systematic approach. After messaging, then he has a call. If the call doesn't go well, he doesn't move forward. Memorable Quotes: "Anytime we are open to this idea of doing a shakedown with a certain area of our life, we're just gaining information." - Mary Tess "We are trying things on for size. We are giving that experiential test for fit, for feeling, for no regrets." - Mary Tess "We can take career aspirations for test runs. We can take activities and interests for test runs. We can take vacations for test runs." - Mary Tess "We are not locked into anything. We always have permission to choose again. It is ours to choose again." - Mary Tess Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Heart Value Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram

Bravery is easy to admire when we see someone do something extraordinary. Lately, though, I have been noticing it in much quieter moments. It shows up when someone learns new skills because their career is changing. It is there when a friend tries online dating again or takes on an adventure that feels a little beyond their comfort zone. They may still feel nervous or unsure. They are simply choosing to move forward anyway. Life on the farm has given me plenty of chances to practice this myself. Driving the tractor and learning to use the zero-turn lawn mower were both intimidating at first. I did not automatically feel confident just because other people told me they were easy. After a while, the tractor stopped feeling strange. The zero-turn is taking a little longer, but I am getting better at that too. None of it became easier because I suddenly knew exactly what I was doing. It became easier because I kept trying. On this Wise Walk, we talk about the many ways bravery can show up in our lives. Sometimes it means making a major change. Other times, it is getting back on the mower, signing up for a class or taking one step toward something we have been putting off. It may not go exactly as planned, but there is still something to gain from doing it. We learn what works, what does not, and what we may do differently next time. That experience makes the unknown feel a little more manageable. Where can you appreciate the ways you are taking action despite your fear of the unknown? When discomfort rises, how can you tap into your bravery and do it anyway? How can you give yourself credit for bravely moving forward into the unknown? Where do you see bravery showing up in the people around you? How can you acknowledge someone who is pursuing what matters to them despite their fear of the unknown? Is there a career unknown you are struggling with right now? How can you recognize the courage it takes to embrace that discomfort and keep moving forward? Are you facing uncertainty in a relationship or in dating? How can you show up authentically, move through the discomfort and become braver through the experience? Is there an adventure or experience that has been calling to you? What small step can you take to move closer to it? Where in your life are you feeling challenged or uncomfortable with the unknown? How can you draw on the bravery you have shown at other times in your life? Once you take a small step in the direction you want to go, how can you celebrate it? Who can you invite to recognize and celebrate your bravery with you? How can you admire and encourage the bravery you see in others? How can you remind one another of the bravery that exists within you and all around you? Where can you set an intention to be brave without becoming too focused on the outcome? How can you appreciate yourself for entering unfamiliar territory with courage? How can you prepare through education, research, or practice and then show up with your best effort? Do your best to prepare, show up with bravery, and move through the unknown with self-care and love. I would love to hear what helps you feel brave and how you are putting yourself out there. I look forward to next Thursday's Wise Walk. In this episode: [02:37] I have a friend whose job has been impacted by the world of AI. She's learning and getting certifications, so she can continue to do the work she loves. [04:09] Instead of being paralyzed by fear, she decided to dive into the world of AI and learn how to understand it better. She's taking action despite the fear of the unknown. [05:01] I have another brave friend who is dating online. She's putting herself out there. There is risk and a fear of the unknown. [06:01] Every time we do brave things, we exercise that bravery muscle. I'm proud of my friends for taking action and being brave. [08:46] I grew up in a small town and a sheltered environment. I went to college and moved to Manhattan during a time when crime was at an all time high.  [09:08] My transition to Manhattan and my new transition to living on a farm are both equally brave. [11:02] Whatever we are grappling with is about consistently showing up for ourselves and knowing that we have bravery within us. [14:30] We can step in and flex our bravery muscles, and show up for ourselves and embrace the discomfort and take action to pass the fear.  [15:40] Each time I push through and take action I grow and get stronger and more confident. [16:40] Each time we step in with intentions of bravery, we get stronger. Memorable Quotes: "Bravery is the act of doing something despite the fear of the unknown." - Mary Tess "Each time we embrace bravery, whatever we do next that is scary or unknown works that bravery muscle and makes the next time less intimidating." - Mary Tess "You have already been brave in more ways than you remember. That strength is still there when you need it." - Mary Tess "Courage becomes easier to find when we take the time to recognize how far we have already come." - Mary Tess Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Heart Value Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram

There is a big difference between being taught something and actually feeling like you are learning it. I was reminded of that recently when I signed up for an eight-week line dancing class. Although I had tried line dancing before, this class felt different almost immediately. Rather than introducing the music and expecting us to follow along, the instructor broke each dance into smaller pieces. We practiced one move, added another, went back when someone had a question, and built from there. By the time the music started, we already had a foundation, and instead of feeling overwhelmed, we were having fun. That experience stayed with me because it highlighted something we do not always recognize when learning a new skill. The struggle may not be the subject itself. Sometimes we need a different teacher or a more supportive environment. Other times we need time to become comfortable with the basics. Investing in our learning is so important. We need willingness to participate, stay curious, and put what we are learning into action. In this Wise Walk, we talk about the experiences and relationships that can shorten a learning curve without taking away the value of doing the work. I share what this line dancing class taught me about repetition, confidence, and the importance of allowing ourselves to be beginners. We also explore the role commitment plays in the learning process, why small wins create momentum, and how the right support can make growth feel both challenging and rewarding. What are you naturally drawn to right now, even though you still feel like a novice or beginner? Since you are naturally curious about it, what could you do to invest in your own success? What resources might empower you in ways you have not yet anticipated? Where can you carve out 10 to 60 minutes a day to practice, build consistency and confidence, and apply what you are learning? As you reflect on something you are excited to learn, how do you feel about your learning experience so far? Do you feel like you are being set up for success? Have you invested in the right resources to gain the knowledge and support you are seeking? Do you leave your learning sessions or practice time feeling encouraged, or do you walk away feeling frustrated and deflated? If you are feeling frustrated, what could you give yourself or incorporate into the experience that would help you start small, build confidence, and experience a meaningful win? Are you allowing yourself to celebrate your progress and reinforce what you have learned in ways that will stay with you? How are you investing in your learning? Are you showing up with commitment and taking the process seriously? Are you contributing your time and energy in ways that keep the momentum and learning moving forward? Are you willing to listen, pay attention, and apply what you are learning so you can discover what works best for you? How can you honor your own learning style while exploring different resources, mentors, and educational opportunities? How can you make sure you feel supported and committed as you pursue something that is calling to you? Can you become comfortable with being a novice or beginner before advancing to the next level? Are you allowing yourself enough time to build a strong foundation before trying to move ahead? What are the small steps that will help you learn without becoming overwhelmed? Can you recognize that each new skill you develop is building your competence and bringing you closer to the next level? Can you get excited about completing something new without feeling frustrated or unsure of yourself? Can you continue to practice so that, when you are ready for the next level, you can relax and fully immerse yourself in learning what comes next? Wherever your curiosity is leading you, I hope you give yourself the time, resources, and encouragement to enjoy the learning curve and recognize every bit of progress you are making. I would love to hear what you took away from today's episode, so please feel free to reach out and share. I look forward to next Thursday's Wise Walk. In this episode: [03:19] After my first line dancing session, I thanked the instructor for giving us short, digestible entry points. [04:31] We would learn one short move and then add on another. The repetition was beautiful. [05:14] There was also a safe environment to ask questions. Our confidence was built as we grew.  [06:06] We also nailed one dance before going on to a new one. Each session builds and is broken down step-by-step. [08:54] Investing in your learning and success is broad. You can mentor and rally around people who can help you learn.  [10:47] I'm still learning with my friends that are going to hike the John Muir Trail.  [12:58] It's amazing what we can accomplish when we put our minds to something. [13:18] I love teaching, and some of the same elements apply as my love for learning. [15:57] If your heart isn't in it, it's not going to be a good time for the student or the teacher. [18:13] I'm so jazzed about my teacher that I'm also carving out time to learn the steps she's teaching us.  [19:07] Building your foundation also sets your teacher up for success. Memorable Quotes: "Learning doesn't just happen in a classroom. We are constantly learning. We are constantly challenging ourselves." - Mary Tess "It is amazing what we can accomplish when we put our minds to something and we invest in that commitment for ourselves." - Mary Tess "Each item that you learn, you're building competence, you're getting one step closer to advancing to that next level." - Mary Tess "All of us need that foundational work. We need to learn how to stand and walk on our skis before we can go down the slope." - Mary Tess Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Heart Value Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram

It can be humbling to realize how much energy a new chapter asks of us, even when it is something we wanted. A new job, a new home, a new business, a relationship, a move, or any fresh beginning can bring possibility and purpose, but it can also bring pressure. Suddenly there are more doors open in the hallway, more decisions waiting, more people offering opinions, and more distractions trying to pull our attention away from what matters most. I have been thinking about how companies create onboarding plans to help people succeed, but in our own lives we often expect ourselves to skip that process. We want to understand the new environment, make smart choices, adapt quickly, and prove we are capable, all while we are still learning the lay of the land. That is a lot to ask of ourselves. Sometimes the most aligned thing we can do is give ourselves permission to learn before we lead, to gather information before we act, and to let the learning curve have the space it needs. On this Wise Walk, we slow down and check our reality around the new chapters we are navigating and the expectations we are carrying. We talk about creating a personal onboarding plan, protecting our boundaries, and using a shield of focus to keep distractions from draining the energy we need for this season. When we give ourselves grace, lower the noise, and stay present to what we are learning, we can move through change with more clarity, more patience, and a stronger sense of alignment. If you are managing a new chapter, endeavor, career, relationship, home, or transition, how are you managing your personal expectations? How are you approaching this new chapter as an onboarding experience that gives you grace, space, and support to learn, process, make mistakes, and adapt? How are you honoring the learning curve while setting realistic expectations you can actually manage? How are you protecting the boundaries you need during this season of newness? As you consider your new endeavor or new chapter, what expectations are you putting on yourself? What expectations can you eliminate? What distractions are pulling you away from being present and shortening your learning curve? How can you protect yourself from other people, outside opinions, and non-essentials so you can learn before you lead? Where did you get distracted this week? Where did you create space to fully discover, process, and adapt to the change you are in? Where did you do a good job of getting curious and asking questions? What other questions do you have as you move through this phase of life? What would make your onboarding experience in this new endeavor more meaningful? I hope you honor your learning curve and move through your onboarding process in a way that feels aligned for you. Pace yourself, protect your energy, and give yourself the space you need for long-term success and alignment. I would love to hear what you took away from today's episode, so please feel free to reach out and share. I look forward to next Thursday's Wise Walk. In this episode: [04:15] Successful companies create an onboarding blueprint for an employee's success. When we onboard ourselves and establish a new learning curve, it makes things so much easier. [06:03] I know a successful company that didn't allow new leaders to make decisions within the first 6 months. This gave them critical time to adjust. [07:58] We have to feel safe in the unknown before we can see the strategic picture and take tactical actions. [08:48] Keeping early input slow can compress the learning curve. [10:31] I love the phrase learn before you lead. [11:22] When you know yourself, you can determine whether saying yes feels good or bad in your body. [12:52] Daily and weekly check-ins are another great strategy. [13:40] How do I create a winning onboarding plan for myself? Have check-ins for however long this plan will take.  [15:07] Give yourself time to think about what is your onboarding blueprint for success. Implement a shield of focus to protect you from the outside. [16:50] We also can't make good decisions without all the data or information. Memorable Quotes: "Trying something new in your life can be awkward. It can be messy, but that's okay because it's part of our growth." - Mary Tess "When we honor the learning curve and give ourselves time to experience the lay of the land before taking action, that can be a beautiful thing." - Mary Tess "The shield of focus protects us from outside distractions and from well-intentioned people who want to tell us where our attention should go." - Mary Tess "Learning before you lead is all about knowing ourselves." - Mary Tess Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney EP301: Moving Through the Hallway of Life Email Heart Value Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram

It seems like everyone I talk to right now is carrying a lot. We have the normal responsibilities of work, home, health, relationships, and family, but then summer arrives and somehow adds even more. More plans, more projects, more people needing support, more things blooming in the yard, and more opportunities that sound wonderful but still ask for time, energy, and attention. I have been thinking about it like standing in a long hallway filled with doors. Some doors are open because they excite us and feel aligned with where we want to go. Others are open because life forced them open, like an unexpected home project or a responsibility that suddenly becomes urgent. Then there are the doors we opened with good intentions, but when we check in honestly, they may be draining us more than they are supporting us right now. When everything is open at once, it can be hard to know where to begin. Sometimes we need a simple routine, a brain dump, a short list, or one small win that helps us feel grounded again. On this Wise Walk, we slow down and check our reality so we can see which doors are lighting us up, which ones need our attention, and which ones we may need to close, pause, hand off, or release as we keep moving one step at a time. As you stand halfway through the year in the hallway of your life, which doors are open because they excite you, light you up, and energize you? Which doors are open because they are priorities that need your attention right now? Which doors did you open with the best intentions, but now feel draining or unhealthy at this moment? Is there an opportunity to close the doors that are not energizing you or hand off the doors that are not yours to solve? In this hallway of possibilities and responsibilities, which doors are you ready to tackle because they will keep you energized and excited? Which doors are simply necessary, and which ones are you ready to release or surrender for now? Do you have a process for documenting the possibilities and responsibilities in your life? How do you acknowledge and appreciate the progress you are making, whether you use a checklist, a digital system, or another process that works for you? How do you stay present with the doors that are open, while still acknowledging the doors that are closed but not forgotten? How do you chip away at your list one item or one doorway at a time, while celebrating your progress and building your success rate? Do you ever feel like you are in a hallway of hell, surrounded by doors that are open, half open, or still waiting for your attention? How do you manage anxiety around the doors of possibility and responsibility? How can you reframe those opportunities and responsibilities as things you get to do because they are in service of you, your loved ones, your environment, and your well-being? What strategies help you eliminate distractions and stay focused on the doors that need your attention right now? How do you manage being overwhelmed when you are standing in the hallway of possibilities and responsibilities? How can you help yourself or your loved ones stay the course and feel better with each completed step? What routines, basics, or familiar tasks make you feel successful, grounded, and accomplished in this moment? Can you return to those basics as you assess your bigger dreams, ideas, and priorities? How can you create space for the possibilities that excite you and the memories you want to make with your loved ones? How can you create a container for it all so you can move through this hallway with greater ease, energy, and confidence? I know there are so many great strategies for how you manage your hallways of possibilities and responsibilities, so I would love to hear what you took away from today's episode. Please be sure to tune in next Thursday for another Wise Walk. I look forward to connecting with you. Until then, please be sure to prioritize fun as you read the signs, direct your path, and get your Stride On. In this episode: [00:38] Everybody is expressing a sense of overwhelm. We are halfway through the year. Summer seems to heighten the amount of things on our plate.  [02:30] It's like being in the hallway of life with doors that represent different obligations, responsibilities, or dreams.  [03:06] We all have too many doors calling to us. [05:03] What makes routine beneficial is that it's a door that we don't have to open and close. An ingrained routine doesn't require mental fatigue.  [06:02] When we accomplish things that we know are good for us, we clear the mind and clear the path. Those little habits and routines become ingrained, making it easier to tackle the hallway of responsibilities and possibilities in front of us. [07:18] One strategy I'm using is having a notebook with a list of to-do's that are on my plate right now. There are doors I need to get to, and doors that I find exciting. [08:25] I draw a heart next to my to-do items and then color it in. [11:17] My original list was overwhelming. Now, it's just a matter of choice.  [14:57] I have too many items on my to-do list. I had to reframe my mindset as I get to do these things. [18:11] When there is newness in our lives, the to-do list becomes crazy. [19:03] When you're going through a major change in life, give yourself a lot of grace and patience. [20:32] We need to give ourselves grace when we can't show up like we used to as we are evolving. Memorable Quotes: "Once something is ingrained as a habit or routine, it doesn't really require mental capacity. It becomes one less door we have to struggle with." - Mary Tess "We can focus our energy on the doorways that are more complicated or unknown when our routines help us feel successful." - Mary Tess "With each doorway of life that we manage, we gain momentum, energy, excitement, and confidence in our own abilities." - Mary Tess Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Heart Value Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram