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Rest Is Productive and Your Memory Is Lying to You This week, we're talking about the things we can't stop thinking about lately: the sudden end of Sean Croxton's Quote of the Day podcast, Jayla's fitness studio plans, a belated birthday unboxing, and why Lululemon might have some competition. Then we get into the stuff that really makes you think. Why do two people remember the exact same experience completely differently? Can your memories change over time? And why are we so good at pushing through exhaustion when maybe what we actually need is a nap? We're talking Aura Ring readiness scores, the underrated power of rest, and a simple practice we picked up from Gabby Bernstein: "I am willing to heal from this." Because sometimes the best thing you can do when something gets under your skin is pause before reacting. We're also reminding ourselves that not everything needs to be forced, figured out, or fixed immediately. A few things to take away: Short, intentional content can give your brain a much-needed reset. Your memory is a little more complicated than you might think. Rest is productive, even when your to-do list disagrees. You can pause before reacting instead of letting your emotions run the show. You don't have to force every outcome to make things work out. And if you need a little reminder to unclench your jaw, take a breath, and stop trying to manage every possible outcome, borrow our mantra: Everything's always working out for me in my favor. As always, we're asking ourselves why not? And hopefully reminding you to do the same. Listen now to Ask Yourself, Why Not? with Jayla and Shaye.

So... We Have Some Ideas. We went to Oglebay Fest, had the best time, made some questionable purchases, got wildly creative with the kids, and somehow came home with approximately 47 new business ideas. Because obviously. In this episode, we're talking about why Oglebay Fest has basically become a family holiday, the creative chaos that happens when you give kids a bunch of canvases and acrylic paint, and why Jayla thinks cabin rentals might need a pop-up hot tub option. We also get into Jayla's recent graduation from the West Virginia Association of Realtors leadership program, what she learned about West Virginia, the people she met along the way, and the slightly over-the-top enchanted forest outfit she created for the occasion. And because we can never just have ONE conversation, we also dive into Wayne Dyer's five steps to manifesting from Wishes Fulfilled and talk about how we can actually put those ideas into practice. Basically, this episode is about family, creativity, community, big ideas, manifesting, and letting yourself have a little fun with all of it. In this episode: Why Oglebay Fest is basically better than Christmas Creative projects with the kids The accidental pumpkin business Our latest business ideas Pop-up hot tubs at cabin rentals — hear us out Golf carts, because why not? Jayla's leadership program graduation What she learned about West Virginia The enchanted forest graduation outfit Wayne Dyer's 5 steps to manifesting from Wishes Fulfilled How to start thinking about what you want instead of just wishing for it Why creativity and curiosity can lead you somewhere unexpected As always, thanks for hanging out with us. Now go ask yourself... Why not?

Summary Join Jayla and Shaye as they chat about life, health, and personal growth, exploring topics like trapped emotions, healthy aging, and the power of positive affirmations. This episode offers practical insights and a light-hearted look at how to live a happier, healthier life.   Keywords:  personal growth, health, trapped emotions, positive affirmations, aging, wellness, mental health, lifestyle, self-care, motivation   Key Topics Trapped emotions and their impact on health Longevity secrets from Japan and their lifestyle habits Preventative health measures like fallopian tube removal The concept of mind movies for manifestation The role of community and social connections in aging well Sound Bites "Removing fallopian tubes can reduce ovarian cancer risk by 80%" "Every single cell in my body is happy and healthy" "Reprogram your subconscious with positive affirmations" Chapters 00:00Introduction and Life Updates 02:20Weather, Rain, and Seasonal Changes 04:05Home Decor and Furniture Cleaning 05:44Washable Couches and Furniture Innovations 08:00Interior Design Help and Local Resources 10:20Japan's Centenarians and Longevity Factors 12:10Healthy Habits and Community Engagement 13:48Healthcare Challenges and Navigating Bills 16:03Preventative Measures for Ovarian Cancer 17:53The Power of Trapped Emotions and Emotional Release 21:24Podcast Success and Women in Media 23:56Mind Movies and Manifestation Techniques 30:36The Happy Little Cells Song and Affirmations 34:02Upcoming Travel and Personal Plans 35:21Final Thoughts and Why Nots

summary In this episode, Jayla and Shaye explore personal growth, community building, and the power of mindset. They share insights from their recent experiences, upcoming events, and the importance of surrounding yourself with supportive people.  keywords personal growth, community, mindset, Oglebay Fest, studio opening, self-programming, empowerment  key  topics Making friends through walking and shared activities Planning and experiencing Oglebee Fest in Wheeling Starting a new fitness studio and building community Understanding brain waves and self-programming from childhood to adulthood The importance of surrounding yourself with supportive, entrepreneurial people  takeaways Walking is a simple yet powerful way to make friends and build community. Planning events like Oglebee Fest creates tradition and anticipation. Surrounding yourself with supportive people accelerates growth and success. Understanding brain wave states can help reprogram negative beliefs. Taking small, consistent actions leads to big progress in business and personal life.  sound bites "Stop asking yourself why, start asking why not." "Walking around is my new way to make friends." "Surround yourself with people who lift you up." Chapters 00:00 Introduction and podcast origins 01:50 Sharing memories of COVID-19 era and wine 04:07 Discussing Oglebee Fest and community traditions 05:54 Planning a cabin trip and family activities 07:50 Making friends in your forties through walking 09:18 Promoting the Broadway Sang Along event 11:09 Updates on opening a new fitness studio 13:52 Supportive community and mentorship in business 17:07 Reprogramming the brain and subconscious beliefs 19:55 Reflections on societal programming and beliefs

Summary Jayla and Shaye explore the challenges of changing habits, the programming of our beliefs, and how environment influences transformation. They share personal stories, insights from experts, and practical tips for embracing change and living authentically. Keywords habit change, behavior, transformation, environment, mindset, self-improvement, programming, confidence, fear, growth  Key  topics The difficulty of changing habits due to deep programming The role of environment and surroundings in supporting change The importance of self-compassion and giving oneself grace during transformation The impact of belief systems and labels on behavior Strategies for building confidence and reducing fear in new endeavors The concept of attachment to self-improvement and analysis paralysis The influence of social environment and community on growth Practical tips for embracing change and living authentically Takeaways Change is hard because it requires reprogramming deeply ingrained beliefs. Surrounding yourself with supportive environments and people accelerates transformation. Giving yourself grace and empathy is crucial during the change process. Belief systems and labels can limit or support your growth. Confidence grows as fear diminishes through evidence and experience. Attachment to self-improvement can become a barrier to living fully. Seeking out environments with like-minded people fosters growth. Progress involves giving up parts of your old identity and story.  sound bites 00:00 Introduction and personal updates 347:12:23 Shopping, fashion, and fall vibes 6305:32:29 Online estate sales and vintage finds 9999:59:15 Weekend trip to Canton and soccer tournament 14944:26:08 Chile's fruits and avocados 16527:46:11 Introduction to Carol Meese and behavioral change 18666:39:36 The programming of beliefs from childhood 20083:19:38 The challenge of transforming deeply ingrained habits 21527:46:20 The importance of environment and surrounding support 23722:13:02 The power of community and big picture thinking 24916:39:44 Next steps for personal growth and podcast expansion 26444:26:27 Transformation requires giving up parts of your identity 28083:19:48 Supporting children in healthy habits and choices 29999:59:50 The role of social environment in change 31555:33:10 The difficulty and necessity of giving oneself grace 33166:39:51 The danger of attachment to self-improvement 34777:46:34 Living and trusting your inner instincts 36333:19:55 Building confidence through evidence and experience 38694:26:38 Seeking out environments with like-minded people 40277:46:40 Closing thoughts and encouragement to embrace change

content  type Solo  primary  goal Discussion  summary In this episode, Jayla and Shay share personal updates, discuss fitness journeys, real estate ambitions, and reflect on inspiring stories about staying true to oneself and making bold decisions.  keywords self-improvement, fitness, real estate, motivation, decision-making, personal growth, Dolly Parton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, podcasting, community  key  topics The importance of conviction and having no backup plan Balancing family, work, and personal growth during summer Fitness journey and shifting to low-impact workouts Real estate licensing and opening a new studio The significance of community, culture, and environment Inspirational stories of Dolly Parton and Arnold Schwarzenegger The impact of making bold decisions and staying true to oneself Handling safety concerns around school zones and community activism The value of taking breaks and consuming content mindfully Future plans for the podcast studio and community events  sound bites "Stay true to you and make the hard decision" "All I ever wanted was to be a star and famous" "Freaking no to Elvis Presley" Chapters 00:00 Introduction and podcast return 01:57 Summer challenges and managing family and work 04:01 Fitness journey and shifting to low-impact workouts 09:07 Real estate licensing and opening a new studio 15:00 Studio branding, location, and community plans 19:50 Inspiring stories of Dolly Parton and Arnold Schwarzenegger 25:03 Community safety concerns and activism 29:56 Reflections on content consumption and personal growth 34:52 Lessons from Dolly and Arnold about conviction and decision-making 37:02 Closing remarks and future podcast plans

Summary Join Jayla and Shaye as they explore the power of positive self-talk, mindset shifts, and practical tips for living a more abundant and joyful life. They share personal stories, affirmations, and insights to help you reprogram your mind for success. Keywords mindset, affirmations, abundance, self-talk, personal growth, positivity, mental health, motivation, podcast Key  topics The impact of self-talk on mindset Reprogramming the subconscious mind Affirmations for abundance and success Overcoming scarcity mindset Practical tips for positive thinking Takeaways Your words shape your reality—choose them wisely. Repetition of positive affirmations can transform your life. Awareness of negative self-talk is the first step to change. Practicing gratitude and positivity attracts abundance. Small mindset shifts can lead to big life changes.  Sound bites "Your subconscious mind controls you." "Money flows to me with ease." "Make your thoughts a positive force." Chapters 00:00 Introduction and walk in the park 319:25:24 Discussing travel and upcoming retreats 5416:38:49 Talking about studio progress and plans 13333:19:18 The importance of mindset and inner dialogue 16444:26:04 The power of affirmations and reprogramming 25055:32:55 Overcoming scarcity mindset and money beliefs 32944:26:27 Practical tips for positive thinking and living 36916:39:56 Wrapping up with affirmations and mindset reminders

EmpowerFest is over, our feet still hurt, we're emotionally attached to everyone we met, and somehow a few left with a new tattoo. Normal Saturday behavior. This week we're spilling everything—from the behind-the-scenes chaos that no one saw, to the last-minute "we'll figure it out" moments, to why community always seems to show up exactly when you need it. We also talk about: Why getting a tattoo or piercing at a wellness event somehow made perfect sense. The local women-owned businesses that absolutely crushed it. The volunteers, kids, sponsors, and friends who became the real MVPs. Jayla's new wellness space. What we'd totally do differently next year... and what we'll never change. Here's the thing: EmpowerFest was never just about facials, shopping, or wellness. It's about creating a space where women walk in as strangers and leave feeling like they found their people. We laughed. We stressed. We pivoted approximately 4,000 times. We questioned our life choices around 7 a.m. setup. And we'd do it all over again. Because eventually... your sail opens. So grab your coffee, take us on your hot girl walk, clean your kitchen, or avoid folding your laundry for another hour—we're recapping one of our favorite days of the year. Thanks for being part of this little community we've built. We don't take it for granted. Love you. Mean it.

Summary Join Jayla Robinson and Shaye Pentino  as they explore the benefits of functional health, new fitness experiences, and personal growth strategies. This episode offers insights into preventive medicine, trying new activities, and embracing a feminine approach to business and life.  keywords functional medicine, preventive health, yoga, personal growth, wellness, empowerment, business strategy, intuition, empowerment festival Key  topics Functional health and preventive medicine Unique yoga experiences and challenges The role of intuition and spirit guides in life Building a wellness-focused community event Strategies for embracing feminine approaches in business Titles Unlocking Preventive Health with Functional Medicine Trying New Fitness: A Yoga Experience and More  sound bites "Why not ask yourself why not?" "Yoga is very challenging and mental." "Be open to unexpected paths in life." Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Walking Concept 02:39 Exploring Functional Health and Preventative Medicine 05:28 Yoga Experiences and Personal Growth 08:18 Building a New Studio and Overcoming Doubts 11:13 Setting Objectives vs. Goals in Business 13:55 EmpowerFest Wheeling and Community Engagement Resources Dr. Mark Hyman - Functional Medicine - https://www.instagram.com/drmarkhyman/ EmpowerFest Wheeling Tix

Summary Join us as we explore the upcoming EmpowerFest Wheeling, a build-your-own day event filled with vendors, experience stations, and wellness activities. Discover how this event offers personalized health, beauty, and wellness services, and learn about the diverse range of vendors and experiences that make EmpowerFest Wheeling unique. Keywords Empower Fest, wellness event, health and beauty vendors, experience stations, personalized services, community event, holistic health, self-care, local vendors, wellness activities Key Topics EmpowerFest  Wheeling event overview Vendor and experience station highlights Personalized health and beauty services Community and networking opportunities Titles EmpowerFest Wheeling  2026: Build Your Own Wellness Day Discover the Top Vendors at Empower Fest 2026  Sound bites "Early mornings give me good energy." "Build your own day, your way." "Healing and wellness start here." Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Ask Yourself Why Not Podcast 02:52 Empower Fest Overview and Highlights 05:24 Vendors and Experience Stations at Empower Fest 10:46 Wellness and Beauty Services Offered 16:27 Unique Vendors and Their Offerings 20:58 Conclusion and Event Details Resources EmpowerFest Tix

summary Jayla and Shaye explore the humorous side of how we romanticize and delude ourselves with trends, supplements, and life expectations, reflecting on personal experiences and societal influences. keywords self-delusion, trends, wellness, supplements, life expectations, humor, personal growth, societal influence key topics Self-delusion and societal trends Humorous reflection on wellness and beauty trends Impact of social media on self-perception guest name  Titles Are We Delusional or Romanticizing Our Lives? The Funny Side of Wellness Trends and Self-Delusion sound bites "We are fully participating in the protein trend." "I've bought into every supplement, every trend." "We're romanticizing our lives in our 20s." Chapters 00:00 Empower Fest Launch and Updates 02:55 Delusions vs. Romanticizing Life 05:32 Health Trends and Supplements 08:26 Reflections on Youthful Delusions 11:33 Life Changes and Realizations 14:11 Nostalgic Beauty Trends 17:07 Embracing Delusion in Life Planning

In this episode, Shaye and Jayla dive into the importance of regularly checking in with your routines to ensure they serve your well-being and happiness. They share practical tips on how to identify habits that may no longer benefit you and ways to make intentional changes for a more fulfilled life. Key Topics: The significance of adapting routines as life evolves Recognizing unhelpful habits and habits that no longer serve you Practical ways to reset during everyday transitions (like in line or while commuting) The role of dopamine and how to get it from healthy, meaningful sources Spring cleaning your mental space and physical environment for mental clarity The importance of connection and intentionality in daily life Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction to the episode and upcoming Empower Fest event 00:58 - Details about Empower Fest Wheeling on June 27th 02:07 - How to get involved as a vendor, sponsor, or experience station 03:04 - Tips for event sponsorships and ideas like signature drinks or swag 04:30 - The theme of the episode: checking in with routines to see if they still serve us 05:28 - How routines evolve and the importance of adapting them 06:23 - Mindful coffee drinking and managing caffeine intake 07:14 - Using lunch and breaks more intentionally 08:35 - Being present during car rides and waiting in lines, disconnecting from phones 09:54 - Transition moments and how they affect stress levels and productivity 10:20 - Moving through the day without energy or mental space 11:46 - The thriving need for dopamine and avoiding instant gratification 13:00 - The brain's craving for dopamine and healthy ways to meet that need 13:58 - Connection, real food, and physical movement as sources of dopamine 14:27 - Spring cleaning for your mind and environment 15:27 - Over-scheduling and reconnecting with loved ones and yourself 15:54 - Closing encouragement to tune into what benefits your well-being Resources & Links: Mark Hyman - Brain and Dopamine (search: "Mark Hyman" on Amazon for related books) Kroger 80 Acre Salad (search your local Kroger for availability) Connect with Shaye & Jayla: Instagram Facebook

Are you tired of feeling hurt or defensive when faced with criticism or insults? In this episode, Shaye and Jayla explore how to recognize, reframe, and leverage negative comments—whether direct or backhanded—to propel your personal and professional growth. Key topics: The significance of insults and negative feedback as signals rather than setbacks Personal stories of pivotal moments involving misunderstood or backhanded insults How to use criticism to ignite motivation and prove doubters wrong Recognizing when comments reflect others' limitations versus your potential Strategies for maintaining confidence and setting boundaries amid negativity The importance of reframing "insults" into opportunities for self-awareness Practical ways to handle unwelcome opinions: asking ChatGPT for perspective, talking with friends, or going for a walk The power of self-reflection: understanding why certain remarks sting and how to turn that into growth Overcoming imposter syndrome and societal expectations through resilience and self-trust Cultivating gratitude and redirecting energy into positive action and self-affirmation Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction to turning insults into growth opportunities 00:28 - Announcing EmpowerFest Wheeling details and engagement opportunities 02:17 - Handling backhanded and unkind comments in personal life and career 03:15 - Overcoming initial feelings of insult during real estate career beginnings 04:40 - How a comment about young motherhood fueled Jayla's motivation 06:00 - Seeing criticism as a reflection of others' limitations, not personal failure 07:17 - Facing COVID-related challenges and asserting confidence in business 08:46 - Using feedback to highlight your competence, not diminish it 10:10 - Acknowledging the power of pushing through perceived limitations 11:33 - Reframing societal labels like "too much" or "all over the place" into assets 12:33 - Recognizing the value in personal routines and boundaries 13:31 - The role of others' perceptions in growth and setting boundaries 15:24 - Self-awareness, apology, and growing from accidental missteps 16:44 - The importance of understanding your communication style and energy 17:40 - Overcoming the narrative of being "too much" and embracing your full self 18:36 - Practical tools: asking ChatGPT for perspective, talking with friends, and physical movement 19:06 - Final thoughts and encouragement to embrace criticism as a growth tool   Remember, every insult or criticism can be spun into motivation. Your response defines your growth!

Breaking the Groundhog Day Routine: Small Shifts for a More Exciting Life In this episode, Shay and Jayla explore practical ways to break free from the monotony of daily routines and infuse more excitement, awareness, and purpose into everyday life. Whether you're feeling uninspired or just looking for fresh ideas, these tips can help you create more space for joy and growth. Key Topics: How our brains operate on autopilot and why routines can feel monotonous Simple ways to introduce novelty, like changing inputs or trying new experiences The power of micro-adventures and local explorations to boost mood How to incorporate intentional focus and mindfulness into daily activities Practical tips for reducing overwhelm by asking for help or delegating tasks Using gratitude, reflection, and perspective shifts to enhance overall well-being Tools and apps, like masterclass and health trackers, to inspire learning and self-care The importance of connection—reaching out to friends and re-evaluating your perceptions Timestamps: 00:00 - Introducing Empower Fest 3.0 and upcoming event details 00:31 - Venue highlights and food vendor updates at Waterfront Hall 01:27 - Experience stations and vendor showcases at EmpowerFest 02:51 - Intentional living and creating space in your day 03:17 - Reflecting on the busy first quarter and finding pauses 04:16 - The concept of "softening" and asking for help 05:14 - The benefits of creating mental and physical space 06:08 - Tips for reducing mental overload and managing nervous system health 07:03 - The idea of brain dump and to-do list management 07:56 - Self-care practices like dressing up or trying new products 08:45 - Using wearables like Aura Ring to understand your body better 10:31 - Eating mindfully and avoiding distractions 11:25 - Micro adventures and local exploration as a way to challenge routines 12:19 - Reframing perceptions and hosting small adventures in daily life 13:44 - Trying new activities, like rollerblading, and discovering new spots 14:43 - Planning future self-care activities and learning experiences 15:36 - Cultivating human connection and reaching out intentionally 16:34 - Shifting perspectives on irritations and challenges 17:31 - Summing up small ways to spark inspiration and gratitude Resources & Links: MasterClass Aura Ring Oglebay Park Fort Henry Capital Waterfront Hall Connect with Shay & Jayla: Shay on LinkedIn Jayla on Instagram Let's embrace small intentional changes to brighten our days and renew our spirit!

Summary In this episode, Jayla and Shaye explore the importance of creating space and softening in our busy lives. They share practical tips on how to ask for help, declutter your mind, and prioritize mental well-being to enhance overall life balance.  keywords mindset, self-care, mental health, time management, stress relief, empowerment, self-improvement key  topics Creating space in daily life The concept of softening and asking for help Managing stress and nervous system health  takeaways Creating space in your day can reduce stress and improve mental health. Asking for help, like carpooling, can free up mental and physical space. Writing things down or decluttering can help clear mental overload. Recognizing signs of stress, such as acid reflux or sleep disturbances, is crucial. Small acts of doing nothing can significantly improve well-being. Titles Create Space, Find Calm: Practical Mindset Tips The Power of Softening: How to Reduce Stress and Overload  sound bites "Putting things on paper helps clear mental overload." "Recognize signs like acid reflux as your nervous system in overdrive." "Feel a little better inside by creating space and asking for help." Chapters 00:00 Empower Fest 3.0 Announcement 03:30 Creating Space in Our Lives 09:51 Softening and Letting Go