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How does the way we move shape the way we feel? Can movement heal the body and mind? In this episode, Josh and Aya explore movement in its many forms — from practices like yoga, pilates, dance, stretching, strength training, and sports to physical therapy and rehabilitation, navigating injury and the fear of re-injury (including Josh's back injury), meditative and expressive movement, free movement and contact improvisation, reconnecting with the physical world, the experience of immobility and the limits that come with aging or genetics, movement as language and self-expression, and how shifts in the way we move reshape how we see ourselves.

How do you cope with loss? Is it possible to "be ready" for a loved one’s passing? In this episode, Josh opens up about the recent death of his father, reflecting on the funeral, eulogy, and shiva, as he and Aya delve into the complexities of grief, how it changes a person, the contrasts between sudden death and prolonged illness, the pain of grieving a future that will never come, the expectations we carry for our parents to witness our lives, the bodily toll of mourning, coping mechanisms, the interplay between grief and personal growth, the reshaping of self that follows loss, and the question of whether things happen for a reason.

What sustains modern antisemitism? What challenges do Jews face today? In this episode, Aya and Josh continue their examination of antisemitism in a post-October 7th landscape—including the terror attack itself—exploring tokenism (Norman Finkelstein, Jewish Voice for Peace, J Street, Candace Owens), scapegoating, ‘westsplaining,’ propaganda, Holocaust inversion, visibility and safety concerns, relationship dynamics, mental health impacts, and the challenges of fostering genuine dialogue in an increasingly antisemitic world.

What are the roots of modern antisemitism? Why is antisemitism often overlooked or misunderstood? In this episode, Aya and Josh cautiously examine antisemitism in a post–October 7th landscape—including the terror attack itself—exploring progressive tensions, Jewish identity, Zionism and the Jewish connection to Israel, the Israeli-Palestinian conflict, social media misinformation, whataboutism, conspiracy theories, gaslighting, selective outrage, historic discrimination, self censorship, diverse manifestations of Jew hatred, and personal perspectives (fears, frustrations, struggles) on what it’s like to be Jewish in an increasingly antisemitic world.

How does identity shape our views in life? What happens if we lose an identity? In this episode, Aya and Josh delve into the complex tapestry of identity, exploring its various types (personal, social, cultural, gender, professional, digital/online) and formation, as well as communal identity, Jewish identity, the persistence/fluidity of identity, losing an identity, challenging or questioning the legitimacy of an identity, coping with shameful identities, conflicting identities, false or mistaken identities, validating identities, identity crises, identity politics, self-identification forms, the Ship of Theseus, group-think, gatekeeping, and how identity can ultimately grant purpose to our lives.

How does questioning our core beliefs and assumptions lead to more informed and empathetic viewpoints? What practical steps can we take to achieve this? In this episode, Aya and Josh challenge some of their own deeply held beliefs, drawing inspiration from Megan Phelps-Roper’s podcast “The Witch Trials of JK Rowling” and Anne-Laure Le Cunff’s insights in “Deliberate Doubt: The Art of Questioning Our Assumptions," exploring deliberate doubt vs. indiscriminate skepticism (e.g., conspiratorial thinking), the scientific method, the reliability of trusting one's gut, the challenges of polarization, the gun debate, Megan Phelps-Roper's 6 questions to ask ourselves, the value of listening to opposing views (e.g., Jordan Peterson, Ben Shapiro, Sam Harris, Matt Walsh), notable practitioners of deliberate doubt (e.g., Socrates, Galileo, Marie Curie, Albert Einstein), and the pitfalls of making beliefs a part of one's identity (e.g., religious beliefs).

Special Guest: Jacob J. Tanenbaum. Are guns the best form of self-defense? Should we arm school teachers? In this episode, Aya and Josh continue their debate on gun violence with Jacob, exploring police shootings, the effectiveness of guns compared to other defenses (dogs, cameras, police, Tasers), gun control measures/perspectives in other countries (UK, Israel, Australia, China), guns versus knives, sci-fi/futuristic gun control solutions, school shooter drills, the implications of arming teachers, Josh and Jacob's viral film "Active Shooter," and defending against an oppressive militarized state.

Special Guest: Jacob J. Tanenbaum. What are the main causes of gun violence? Is it justifiable to infringe on certain rights to ensure greater public safety? In this episode, Aya and Josh are joined by Jacob, Josh's close friend and writing partner, to discuss the epidemic of gun violence in the United States and the critical issues relating to it, including gun control, access to firearms, the difference between active, mass, and school shootings, mental illness, Alex Jones, gun violence in the United States vs. the rest of the world, the influence of violent media (movies, videogames) in connection to gun violence, infamous shootings in the U.S. (Columbine, Sandy Hook, Parkland, Stoneman Douglas, Virginia Tech, Uvalde, Buffalo and Vegas shootings), the controversial AR-15, common sense gun laws, self-defense, the Supreme Court, and the role of news media in inspiring copycat killers.

How are we using AI like ChatGPT to change the way we work? What does the rise of AI mean for us and the future of our fields? In this episode, Aya and Josh explore the positives and negatives of artificial intelligence, including the influence of AI on creativity and content creation, its application in education, ethical concerns (e.g., misuse, plagiarism, job displacement), the AI arms race (e.g., ChatGPT vs. Google Bard), the democratization of art, AI image generators, AI censorship, AI porn, the WGA writers strike, Judge Judy, socialism, the future of AI, and the rise of deepfake technology.

Special Guest: Dr. Grant Vezina. How big is the universe? How have key astronomical discoveries fleshed out our understanding of Earth and the universe beyond? In this episode, Aya and Josh further explore the mysteries of the cosmos with Dr. Vezina, including the faint young sun paradox, the great oxidation event, global ice ages, climate feedback loops, mass extinctions and the resilience of life, infrared astronomy, the James Webb vs. Hubble space telescopes, Stargate vs. Futurama, the size and topology of the universe, the expansion of space, the cosmological event horizon, time dilation and black holes, delving deeper into mind-bending sci-fi concepts like FTL travel, wormholes, warp drives, negative mass, dark matter, and manipulation of spacetime, while also touching on the potential merits of astrology (e.g., oracle cards), comparing Western and Eastern astrological practices, and assessing their comfort and entertainment value.

Special Guest: Dr. Grant Vezina. Do the stars influence our lives? Is there any scientific basis to astrology? In this episode, Aya and Josh are joined by longtime friend Grant Vezina as they chat about high school and delve into the origins of — and differences between — astronomy and astrology, exploring the dichotomy between science and pseudoscience, horoscopes, the PT Barnum Effect, the precession of the equinoxes, orbital changes and paleoclimatology, comparing the scientific basis (or lack thereof) of astrology to the rigor of astronomy and the scientific method, while also touching on the potential for relativistic speeds and interstellar travel, the vastness of the universe, and the power of science fiction to inspire and predict the future.

What makes someone feel stable? How do they maintain it? In this welcome-back episode, Aya and Josh discuss the four main types of stability (physical, mental/emotional, financial, relationship/social), stability vs. stagnation, long-term vs. short-term stability, improving stability (medication, exercise, yoga, healthy eating, meditation, nurturing relationships), imposing our own definitions of stability on others, instability, clinical trials, the Sit-to-Stand Longevity Test, and stability in connection to age, productivity, career, and comfort.

How do you recognize abuse? Can men be victims of domestic violence? In this episode, Aya and Josh continue their discussion on domestic abuse in context of the Johnny Depp-Amber Heard defamation trial as they explore the cycle of abuse, signs of abuse, history of abuse, characteristics of abuse victims, power dynamics, misogynistic vitriol, believing survivors, spotting deception (body language/behavior analysis), false accusations, the plausibility of mutual abuse, abuse of the #MeToo movement itself, and Josh and Aya's own experiences with domestic abuse (Josh's parents, Aya's friends and volunteer work). [CW // physical abuse, emotional abuse]

What constitutes abuse? Did Johnny Depp deserve to win his defamation lawsuit against Amber Heard? In this episode, Aya and Josh discuss the reality of domestic abuse/intimate partner violence against the backdrop of the Johnny Depp-Amber Heard defamation trial, characteristics of abuse victims vs. perpetrators, whether men can also be considered victims, healthy vs. toxic reactions to the trial (internet mockery), the #MeToo movement, Cluster B personality disorders (Borderline, Histrionic, Antisocial, Narcissistic), the “narcissist’s prayer,” and wielding mental health as a weapon to discredit DV survivors vs. using diagnoses to explain abusive behavior. [CW // sexual abuse, physical abuse]

How do you avoid disappointment? Are low expectations the key to happiness? In this milestone episode (50!), Aya and Josh talk about expectations, including about the podcast itself, how Covid has ruined expectations, the concept of meeting expectations, betraying expectations, exceeding expectations, subverting expectations, magical expectations, childhood expectations, relationship expectations, societal expectations, shifting expectations, managing expectations, hope vs. expectations, positive vs. negative expectations, reasonable vs. unreasonable expectations, communication vs. expectation, and expectations of yourself vs. others.