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What if the person you trusted never gave you the truth you needed to make an informed decision about your own body, relationship, or sexual intimacy? Is withholding the truth a form of lying? Is hiding multiple sexual partners a betrayal of consent? And when someone deliberately omits information, deflects questions, or allows you to believe a false version of your relationship, how much of your consent was truly informed? This week on More Than Sex and Secrets, Dr. Lisha Antiqua explores the painful reality of lies by omission, half-truths, infidelity, sexual deception, betrayal trauma, and the relationship between honesty and informed sexual consent. Drawing from her own past relationship, the experience of a friend, and the sexual assault allegations and survivor advocacy surrounding Cornell University, Dr. Lisha asks difficult questions about the things people choose not to say and the consequences for those who trust them. When someone secretly maintains multiple sexual relationships, the people involved lose access to information that might change their decisions about exclusivity, sexual health, intimacy, and whether to remain in the relationship. The betrayal goes beyond cheating. It raises serious questions about autonomy, sexual boundaries, and the right to make informed choices. We explore why silence is not always innocent, how deflection and selective honesty undermine trust, and why discovering the truth years later can leave someone questioning their memories, judgment, sexuality, and entire relationship history. We also examine an important distinction: sexual deception can violate trust and compromise informed decision-making, but whether a particular deception legally invalidates sexual consent or constitutes sexual assault depends on the circumstances and applicable law. For survivors of sexual assault, emotional manipulation, narcissistic behaviors, coercive control, or intimate partner betrayal, these experiences can affect far more than a relationship. They can disrupt emotional safety, self-worth, sexual confidence, nervous system regulation, and the ability to trust again. This episode asks you to examine a difficult truth: What responsibility do we have to disclose information when we know the truth might change another person's willingness to be intimate with us? And what happens when the truth finally comes out? Your body. Your boundaries. Your decisions. You deserve the information necessary to make choices about your own life. Continue the conversation with Dr. Lisha Antiqua. Learn more about Reclaim Intimacy Explore Your Own University®, trauma-informed education, personal development, and programs for rebuilding identity, intimacy, and self-trust. https://yourownuniversity.com Connect with Dr. Lisha, buy her a coffee while you explore her book In To Me See, and find additional resources: https://linktr.ee/drlishaantiqua Subscribe to More Than Sex and Secrets, share this episode with someone who needs this conversation, and leave a review to help more survivors find the show.

What if the reason you've struggled to heal from childhood sexual abuse isn't a lack of effort, but an incomplete understanding of how deeply trauma affects your identity, body, emotions, relationships, and sense of safety? In this episode of More Than Sex and Secrets, Dr. Lisha Antiqua sits down with Susan Pease for a deeply personal conversation about childhood sexual abuse (CSA), ritual abuse, complex trauma, and the realities of healing from experiences that are often difficult to explain, disclose, or even fully understand. For survivors of severe childhood trauma, the effects often extend far beyond painful memories. Trauma can influence nervous system responses, emotional regulation, self-worth, intimacy, trust, boundaries, and the ability to feel safe in your own body. Survivors may spend years seeking answers, trying different healing approaches, and wondering why certain trauma responses persist despite their efforts. Together, Susan and Dr. Lisha explore the challenges of healing from childhood abuse, the importance of understanding the whole person, and the questions survivors deserve to ask about trauma recovery and therapeutic support. This conversation challenges the assumption that every survivor follows the same healing path. We explore the difference between managing trauma symptoms and rebuilding a relationship with yourself, including the role of identity, self-trust, personal choice, and reclaiming your life beyond abuse. If you've experienced childhood sexual abuse, complex PTSD, dissociation, betrayal trauma, or long-term emotional and relationship difficulties after abuse, this episode offers perspectives on recovery, resilience, and finding support that respects the complexity of your experiences. You deserve a healing journey that recognizes the full impact of what you've survived. Connect with Susan (Sue) and all the amazing resources she shared on the show. www.suepeasebanitt.com - Her books and work. www.endritualabuse.org - Dr. Ellen Lacter’s website with resources and research https://isstdworld.isst-d.org/network/network-find-a-professional - The International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation’s Find a Therapist website where you can search for professionals experienced with dissociative disorders, trafficking, and RAMC (ritual abuse and mind control). https://ra-free.org/migration-model - My colleague and fellow therapist author Eileen Aveni has developed a spiritual technique to help parts stuck in darkness move towards spiritual freedom. In her new book it also includes an appendix showcasing this technique. Eileen wrote a chapter.https://ritualabuse.us/ - Neil Brick’s organization SMART (Stop Mind Control and Ritual Abuse Today) sponsors a conference every year and has a great depth of information as well as a newsletter. He has been doing advocacy work for decades and is a survivor of ritual abuse and mind control. Continue Your Healing Journey and learn more about your host. Explore Dr. Lisha Antiqua's trauma-informed education, coaching, books, and resources: https://linktr.ee/drlishaantiqua Begin with SSS: Safe, Secure & Successful, a seven-day introduction to building daily practices for greater safety, emotional awareness, and self-connection. https://yourownuniversity.com/sss-invite Search keywords: childhood sexual abuse recovery, CSA healing, ritual abuse survivor recovery, healing childhood trauma, complex PTSD, C-PTSD, dissociation and trauma, trauma therapy, trauma-informed healing, childhood sexual trauma, healing after abuse, nervous system regulation, trauma and identity, sexual abuse survivor podcast, healing from ritual abuse, Susan Pease, Dr. Lisha Antiqua, More Than Sex and Secrets.

I Am Jane Doe is a movement: The Cornell 7, Sexual Assault Trauma, and the Fight to Be Heard What happens when surviving sexual assault is only the beginning of the fight? The Cornell 7 case and the growing #IAmJaneDoe movement have brought national attention to sexual violence, consent, institutional accountability, and the extraordinary challenges survivors face when seeking justice. But what happens to the person behind the headlines? In this episode of More Than Sex and Secrets, Dr. Lisha Antiqua explores why sexual assault is among the most devastating forms of violence, affecting far more than the physical body. From trauma responses, shame, and self-blame to disrupted identity, relationships, intimacy, and personal power, sexual violence can change how survivors experience themselves and the world. Drawing from her personal experience of rape, research in transpersonal psychology, and years of teaching trauma recovery, Dr. Lisha shares four phases of healing: finding safety, understanding trauma, reclaiming identity, and rebuilding a life beyond abuse. You'll hear about the fight to be believed, the difference between consent and compliance, why survivors sometimes freeze or fawn, and how healing begins with reclaiming authority over your body, mind, emotions, and future. This conversation is for survivors, loved ones, educators, advocates, and anyone who wants to better understand the lasting effects of sexual assault. Your story matters. Your identity belongs to you. And your future deserves more than survival. Explore Dr. Lisha's book In To Me See: Reclaim Identity, Be Yourself, the Safe, Secure and Successful (SSS) program, and the Amazing YOU Method at https://LishaAntiqua.com. Listen, follow More Than Sex and Secrets, and share this episode to help bring informed conversations about sexual violence and healing to more people.

What happens when a survivor decides, “I’m ready to do something about what happened to me”? Where do you start? What should you know before entering the legal system, especially when trauma, family, children, custody, or years of silence are part of the story? This week on More Than Sex and Secrets, Dr. Lisha Antiqua sits down with family-law attorney, author, speaker, and advocate Jamie Britt Paine for a candid conversation about survivors, the legal system, and what people should understand before taking their next step. Jamie brings more than legal experience to this conversation. Her work with families navigating divorce, custody, and major life transitions is informed by a difficult childhood and her advocacy for vulnerable children and families. We also move beyond the courtroom and into Jamie’s own story. She shares about growing up in foster care, life with a mother who lived with bipolar disorder, losing her mother, grief, childhood pain, and the experiences behind her writing. We talk about what happens when the stories you inherited keep running your adult life, and what it takes to survive long enough to decide who you want to become. Jamie calls part of this process coming “HOME,” Honoring One’s Magic in Evolution. Her work explores rebuilding safety, breaking people-pleasing patterns, trusting yourself, creating boundaries, and moving from surviving to thriving. Are you a survivor wondering about your legal options, someone carrying complicated childhood experiences into adulthood, a former foster child, or someone learning how to build a life beyond what happened to you? This conversation belongs in your headphones. Find Jamie [email protected] Buy the host a coffee - and find all the other goodies too SEO keywords: survivor legal rights, reporting abuse, should I report my abuser, sexual assault survivor, domestic violence legal help, survivors and the legal system, family law, childhood trauma, foster care survivor, growing up in foster care, bipolar parent, childhood abuse recovery, grief after losing a parent, breaking generational patterns, people pleasing after trauma, rebuilding safety after abuse, trauma survivor podcast, Jamie Britt Paine, Dr. Lisha Antiqua, More Than Sex and Secrets.

In this episode, you are my bestie, and we are having a chat. I just turned on the mic and shared that I have been going through a rebirth, and my business has too. We talk about how many versions of yourself are you still trying to keep alive because you worked so hard to become them? This week on More Than Sex and Secrets, I get personal about rebirth, reinvention, identity shifts, and the courage required to let an old version of yourself end. With new websites, a new Amazing YOU Flow app, new work, and another season of her own life unfolding, Dr. Lisha shares what she is learning about recreation. We cannot be everything to everyone. We do not have to keep carrying every identity, business, relationship, dream, or version of ourselves simply because each once mattered. Sometimes growth asks you to stop fixing the old life and start choosing the next one. We talk about holding onto the past, grieving identities you have outgrown, releasing the pressure to remain who other people expect you to be, and giving yourself permission to reinvent yourself again and again. For trauma survivors especially, identity after healing raises a bigger question: Who are you when survival is no longer running your life? Rebirth requires space. You get to decide what comes with you. If you are in a life transition, starting over after trauma, rebuilding your identity, changing careers, ending a relationship, entering a new chapter, or feeling the pull toward something you have never experienced before, this episode is for you. Learn more about Lisha - http://www.LishaAntiqua.com Ready to put reinvention into daily practice? Join me inside Amazing YOU Flow. Choose who you are becoming, build daily evidence through the six Amazing YOU Power Zones, and begin living your next identity one choice at a time. Amazing YOU Flow:http://app.yourownuniversity.com SEO: how to reinvent yourself, personal reinvention, identity shift, starting over in life, life after trauma, identity after trauma, letting go of the past, becoming yourself, rebuilding your life, personal transformation, starting a new chapter, self discovery, women reinventing themselves, healing and identity, Amazing YOU Flow, Dr. Lisha Antiqua, More Than Sex and Secrets.

What happens when a man wants closeness, love, and intimacy, but has never learned how to safely open up? In this episode of More Than Sex and Secrets, Dr. Lisha Antiqua sits down with men’s embodiment coach and group facilitator Jason Lange for an important conversation about male trauma, childhood abuse, emotional intimacy, relationships, vulnerability, and the need for meaningful connection between men. Men have pain histories too. Men experience abuse, rejection, abandonment, shame, loneliness, and relationship wounds. Yet many men grow up learning to contain those experiences rather than speak about them. That silence does not erase the pain. It often follows them into adulthood, affecting how they communicate, receive love, handle conflict, experience intimacy, and hold emotional space for the people they love. Jason and Dr. Lisha talk about what men are often seeking underneath emotional withdrawal, how men learn to open up without losing their sense of self, and what holding space in a relationship looks like when both people have emotional needs. They also explore the role of men’s groups and why having healthy spaces with other men gives men opportunities for connection, accountability, support, embodiment, and personal growth that a romantic partner cannot replace. Jason Lange is a men’s embodiment coach, group facilitator, and evolutionary guide who helps men develop greater clarity in their purpose and relationships. He is a certified No More Mr. Nice Guy coach and has trained and studied with John Wineland, Dr. Robert Glover, Jun Po Roshi, Tripp Lanier, and Ken Wilber. If you are a man carrying a history you rarely talk about, or you love a man who struggles to let you close, this conversation offers a different way to understand what might be happening underneath the silence. Connect with Jason - Jason Lange's Website Connect with Dr. Lisha - http://www.linktr.ee/drlishaantiqua SEO keywords: male trauma, men and childhood trauma, male sexual abuse survivors, men’s mental health, men’s emotional health, emotionally unavailable men, men and vulnerability, emotional intimacy for men, men’s groups, male loneliness, healing childhood trauma, men and relationships, masculine embodiment, men opening up emotionally, holding space in relationships, men’s personal development, Jason Lange, More Than Sex and Secrets.

What is virginity, and why has society tied it to purity, innocence, and a person’s value? In this episode of More Than Sex and Secrets, Dr. Lisha Antiqua challenges the hymen myth, virginity culture, sexual shame, and the belief that consensual sex or sexual abuse changes your worth. If your first sexual experience involved molestation, coercion, betrayal, or assault, the responsibility belongs to the person who violated your right to choose. Your body is still yours. Your innocence, goodness, and value never left. You will receive a live healing, a body reset to complement, and identify new experiences you are ready to choose on your terms. Start reclaiming your body, identity, confidence, and future with your free Identity Shift Blueprint: https://identity-shift-bluep.vibepreview.com/ Subscribe to More Than Sex and Secrets, share this episode with someone who needs it, and leave a review. Visit Dr. Lisha’s Linktree to explore her programs, connect with her, and buy her a coffee: http://www.linktr.ee/drlishaantiqua

What happens when you reach 40 and realize part of your identity has been waiting for you to acknowledge it? In this deeply personal episode of More Than Sex and Secrets, Dr. Lisha Antiqua sits down with Sarah Rutledge Fischer for an open conversation about dissociation from the body, sexuality, identity, relationships, and Sarah’s experience of coming out as a lesbian later in life. Sarah shares what it was like to recognize and admit her sexuality at 40, after years of feeling disconnected from parts of herself. We talk about the complicated space between knowing something internally and becoming ready to name it, what dissociation from your body and sexuality can look like, and what happens when the identity you have been living no longer reflects who you know yourself to be. We also explore coming out later in life, divorce and family transitions, shame, authenticity, self-trust, sexual identity, LGBTQ+ relationships, and the process of reconnecting with your body after years of disconnection. Today, Sarah is a queer attorney, divorce coach, mediator, and founder of Thresholds Mediation, where part of her work focuses specifically on supporting people coming out later in life and LGBTQ+ individuals and families moving through major relationship transitions. If you have ever wondered why you feel disconnected from your body, questioned your sexuality, struggled to understand your identity, or realized the life you built no longer fits the person you have become, this conversation gives language to an experience many people live silently. Connect with Sarah and learn about her work: Thresholds Mediation Sarah on TikTok Sarah on Instagram Sarah on Facebook Sarah on LinkedIn Join the UNSTOPPABLE community - Start with your very own Identity Shift Blueprint

Have you ever thought, “Something took over,” “I wasn't myself,” or “Where did THAT reaction come from?” In this provocative episode of More Than Sex and Secrets, Dr. Lisha Antiqua explores the intersection of demons, trauma responses, dissociation, psychosis, spiritual experiences, and the moments when we feel disconnected from ourselves. We look at the language of “fighting your demons” through the four elements of self: physical, mental, emotional, and etheric. What is happening in your nervous system? What thoughts and beliefs are taking over? What emotions are driving the reaction? And where does spirituality enter the conversation? Rather than forcing every frightening experience into one explanation, this episode asks you to become more conscious of what is happening within you, reclaim your authority, and learn how to return to yourself when fear, triggers, overwhelm, or old survival patterns take over. If you need something practical for those moments, get the SSS Bundle, Safe, Secure, Successful. These short practices help you reconnect with your physical, mental, emotional, and etheric self when you feel triggered, overwhelmed, disconnected, or pulled out of your center. Get SSS and explore more at:http://www.linktr.ee/drlishaantiqua

This show is a complete experience you can do again and again. My guest this week is amazing: Louise Swartswalter, who generously walks us through a complete BRAIN system session. I have never had a guest totally open up her heart and method to share a transformation live. I have listened a few times, and each time I feel tingles and openings. Let me know what you think. She has a wonderful event happening where we will experience this dynamic work firsthand and see the shifts in our faces. Get the Gems louiseswartswalter.comJoin The Miracle Codes -3-day transformational event to activate the millionaire in you https://louiseswartswalter.lpages.co/integration-retreat-october- Join the Unstoppables when you take either quiz at Your Own University - http://www.linktr.ee/drlishaantiqua

What if the life you're living isn't being created by your personality... but by the identity you've been carrying since childhood? In this eye-opening episode of More Than Sex and Secrets, Dr. Lisha Antiqua explores one of the most powerful concepts in personal transformation: identity shifting. You'll discover the difference between identity, personality, and character—and why understanding these distinctions could change the way you approach healing, relationships, confidence, business, and purpose forever. If you've been trying to change your habits, mindset, or circumstances but keep ending up in the same place, the problem may not be your motivation. It may be the identity you're unconsciously living from. In this episode, you'll learn:✨ What identity really is✨ How trauma, life experiences, and beliefs shape identity✨ The difference between identity, personality, and character✨ Why lasting transformation always begins with identity✨ How to use the Identity Shift Blueprint to create meaningful, lasting change Your future isn't created by what you do occasionally. It's created by who you believe you are. 💫 Ready to discover the identity that's waiting to emerge? Download your free Identity Shift Blueprint:👉 https://identity-shift-bluep.vibepreview.com/ Or explore more resources, coaching, and courses:👉 https://LishaAntiqua.com

What if your joy has never been lost, only buried beneath stress, trauma, and the expectations of everyone else? In this uplifting episode of More Than Sex and Secrets, Dr. Lisha Antiqua welcomes Marla Sacks for a heart-centered conversation about chakra alignment, energy healing, self-discovery, and reclaiming your natural radiance. Marla shares how aligning your energy centers can help you reconnect with your authentic self, release emotional blocks, and experience greater peace, confidence, and joy. She also guides listeners through a beautiful chakra alignment practice you can return to whenever you need to reconnect with yourself. ✨ If you're ready to stop surviving and start shining, this episode is for you. 🌿 Learn more about Marla Sacks and her work:👉 https://www.marlasacks.com/ Grab her book - https://www.marlasacks.com/book-orders 💜 Ready to reclaim your confidence, purpose, and joy? Take the Soul Confidence Quiz and explore the YOU Matter Club at:👉 http://www.linktr.ee/drlishaantiqua #ChakraHealing #EnergyHealing #Radiance #Joy #SpiritualGrowth #HolisticHealing #SelfDiscovery #WomenEmpowerment #HealingJourney #YouMatter #MoreThanSexAndSecrets #DrLishaAntiqua https://www.marlasacks.com/

This episode is a download in itself. Let me know in the comments or via email what you learned about yourself through it ([email protected]). Last Friday I went to a fun concert, and during it the whole audience leveled up. In this episode, you will level up, know yourself, feel more connected to you, or see exactly where your old identity is holding on for dear sick life. In this show, we go over the 4 areas of dissociation and why it's hard for some survivors to live again. We discuss what 5 D is, primal screaming, and how to do it for relief in the moment. We go over dissociation and how to stop fixing yourself and healing yourself so you can be yourself. Let me know what you get from it and if you would like me to cover this topic or another one, more on the show. Take the Identity Shift Blueprint and join my email list to be the first to know when In To Me See (the Amazing YOU book) is ready for pre-orders.

What if your greatest struggles, lessons, and healing journey were actually the foundation of your most authentic brand? In this inspiring episode of More Than Sex and Secrets, Dr. Lisha Antiqua sits down with branding expert Angel Dash to explore how our life experiences shape our voice, message, and the businesses we are meant to create. Together, we discuss why the most impactful brands are not built from strategy alone they are built from authenticity, purpose, healing, and courage. Angel shares powerful insights on: ✨ Creating a brand that truly reflects who you are✨ Overcoming mindset blocks and fear of being seen✨ Finding your authentic voice and message✨ Building a purpose-driven business inspired by your life experiences✨ Why your story may be your greatest asset This episode concludes with a beautiful and healing breathwork practice designed to help listeners reconnect with themselves, access clarity, and align with their unique voice, style, and soul-led business path. Whether you're an entrepreneur, coach, creative, or simply someone trying to discover what makes you unique, this conversation will inspire you to stop comparing, start trusting yourself, and remember that your authenticity is your superpower. 💫 Because the world doesn't need another copy. It needs YOU. Angel Dash-  Flamekeeper & Brand Alchemist helps soul-led visionaries become seen, trusted, and aligned with their true voice. She is the creator of the trauma-informed B.O.L.D. Method™ and an international speaker known for turning visibility into ceremony. Social Media Handles: Website   |   Instagram   |   Facebook   |   LinkedIn   | 👉 Learn more about Your Own University, the Soul Confidence Quiz, and the YOU Matter Club:http://www.linktr.ee/drlishaantiqua

This week, millions of people in the US will celebrate freedom with fireworks, family gatherings, and flags waving in the summer sky. But what if you're safe... and still don't feel free? What if survival didn't end when the trauma ended? In this heartfelt Fourth of July episode, Dr. Lisha Antiqua explores the invisible prison of survival mode and why so many people continue living with chronic stress, hypervigilance, financial pressure, people-pleasing, and nervous system exhaustion long after the original danger has passed. Survival was designed to save your life. It was never designed to give you freedom. Drawing from her own life, decades of working with trauma survivors, and research on nervous system regulation, neuroplasticity, chronic stress, and CPTSD, Dr. Lisha shares why so many of us ask, "What's the point?" and how that question is often the voice of survival, not the truth about your future. If you've ever felt like you're constantly trying, working, healing, and doing "all the right things," yet still feel stuck, this episode will help you understand why. Because true freedom isn't just something we celebrate once a year. It's something we learn to embody. In this episode, you'll discover: • The difference between surviving trauma and living in survival mode• Why your nervous system mistakes familiarity for safety• How survival quietly steals your sense of choice• Why money, resources, and healthy relationships expand freedom• The surprising question that can help you move from merely surviving to fully participating in your life This Independence Day, don't just celebrate freedom. Ask yourself... Where in my life am I finally ready to be free? Become Unstoppable - join here Learn More About the Host and Your Own University programs - All the links