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A bit about ‘Thighs Wide Shut’: “When Emma hits her quarter-life crisis and moves back to the city where she went to college, she finds herself neighbours with the boy whose heart she broke five years earlier in this heartfelt and witty second-chance debut romcom for fans of Hannah Bonham-Young and Sex Education. Emma thought her late twenties couldn’t get more complicated after she quit her teaching job and moved across the country to figure out what comes next. Her new life in Boston is filled with more than enough to worry about: a basement apartment full of disorganized boxes, a resistance to finding love, a medical condition, vaginismus, that holds her back from putting herself out there, and on top of it all she hears a familiar voice from the apartment above . . . Harrison.” In this episode of the podcast, we were thrilled to be able to chat with author Hayley Fleming about her recent book, ‘Thighs Wide Shut’. It’s fun, it’s full of humour and follows a main character who has a medical condition that is often not spoken about – vaginismus. We chatted with Hayley about: The real-life inspiration behind Thighs Wide Shut and bringing vaginismus into contemporary rom-coms Why sex education often fails us when it comes to helping us understand our bodies Tips on how to advocate for yourself at a gynaecologist appointment (or in any medical setting for that matter!) Find Hayley at her website: https://hayleyfleming.com/ Check out her books here: https://hayleyfleming.com/books Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 01:32: - What is vaginismus? 02:18 – Hayley's experience with vaginismus. 05:41 – Advocating for yourself in medical settings. 07:12 – The physical and mental aspect of vaginismus. 10:34 – Why this book matters. 13:32 – How to support someone with vaginismus. 15:11 – Why we need to rethink our definition of sex. 18:13 – How can sex ed impact vaginismus? 21:55 – How writing this character was healing for Hayley. 24:22 – Why you should read this book whether you have vaginismus, or not. 26:15 – What alternate word can we have for vaginismus? 28:01 – What Hayley wishes more people would know about vaginismus. 30:44 – Where can you find a copy of the book (and what you should know before you read it!). ----------------- Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Toshi had the opportunity to chat with Michelle Fischler all about early ejaculation. Michelle recently published the book ‘Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer’, a practical, shame-aware guide that understands early ejaculation as a nervous system pattern, not a personal failure.  Together, Toshi and Michelle discussed:   The difference between early ejaculation and premature ejaculation The biological drive behind early ejaculation Why addressing shame before technique is so important How masturbation practices impact early ejaculation Tips for managing early ejaculation  How to talk about early ejaculation with a partner And more.  Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro   00:22 – Who is Michelle and what does she do?   01:26 – Why you should listen to this podcast  02:26 – What’s the reason Michelle wanted to write a book about early ejaculation?  07:18 – The way you feel about early ejaculation matters: here’s why  09:17 – Early ejaculation vs premature ejaculation: what’s the difference?   10:32 – The biological drive behind early ejaculation  12:03 – Why unlearning shame around early ejaculation has to happen before bringing in techniques  15:30 – Shame vs guilt: how are they different?   18:25 – Tips for turning down the volume on shame  21:45 – Advice if you’re avoiding sex because of early ejaculation  27:55 – How masturbation impacts early ejaculation  31:20 – How breathing exercises can help early ejaculation (and how to do them)  37:09 – What can cause early ejaculation?   39:05 – How to talk about early ejaculation with a partner   42:00 – Why you should be cuddling with your partner for six minutes after sex  44:42 – What does Michelle think of numbing creams?  47:09 – What you and a partner should know about early ejaculation   50:40 – Why the goal is not perfect control (and what the goal actually should be)  51:44 – Why has it taken so long for a book like this to be written?   55:48 – What people think of the book (and why you should grab a copy!)  Check out Michelle here: https://www.michellefischler.ca/  Grab a copy of her book here: https://getsome.ca/coming-soon-book  Read more about Michelle’s podcast here: https://getsome.ca/  Michelle Fischler, MSW, RSW, RP, is a Toronto-based Registered Psychotherapist, Registered Social Worker, ASTO-certified sex therapist and supervisor, author, speaker, and founder of GETSOME INC.   -----------------    Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.    Follow us here:  https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom  https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom  https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom  https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace   For more info, check out our website at:  https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Lillian Frances is a pop star, rock climber, and author of the cheeky guide "Finger Banging for Climber Boys". In this episode, Toshi spoke with Lillian all about how to talk about what you want in bed, advice for pre-hookup check-ins and sexy ways to set boundaries, as well as why you should know more about female anatomy if you want to have better sex.   Find more of Lillian (and her book) here. Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro   00:47 – What is finger banging for climber boys?   01:51 – Why this book is a trojan horse (in the best way)  03:22 – How asking questions makes you so much better in bed  07:23 – Why it’s important to talk about sex in your everyday life  12:12 – Asking for consent is sexy: here’s why  19:41 – Advice for a pre-hookup check-in  21:25 – The difference between opt in vs opt out consent (and why one leads to better sex)  27:18 – Try this if you want a fun, sexy way to set boundaries  30:33 – What you should know about the female anatomy to have better sex   33:39 – Why you should read Lillian’s book  -----------------    Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available here to download or buy.    Follow us here:  Instagram TikTok Facebook YouTube   For more info, find us on our website! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this episode of the podcast, Toshi spoke with Sarah and Cam all about asexuality. Sarah (whose artist name is Vōx), is a musician and writer on Substack, and Cam is a creative producer, a curator and creator of time and space. We came across Sarah and Cam after reading an article in the Guardian written about their relationship and how they’ve embraced Sarah’s asexuality. Toshi had the opportunity to talk with them both about: What asexuality and compulsory heterosexuality is How Sarah came to understand she’s asexual What it was like for both Sarah and Cam to embrace Sarah’s asexuality Common misconceptions about what it means to be asexual How neurodivergence is connected to this conversation Thoughts on decoupling romance from sex And more. -----------------    Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.    Follow us here:  https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom  https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom  https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom  https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace   For more info, check out our website at:  https://www.sexinspace.com/  You can check out Sarah’s Substack here: https://itsmevox.substack.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this episode of the podcast, Toshi spoke with Kate Daly, one of England’s leading experts on divorce, separation relationships and family law reform. Kate is the co-founder of amicable, the leading online divorce services company, and the co-founder and host of ‘The Divorce Podcast’. Together they had a conversation about why we need to change the narrative around divorce, advice for anyone navigating a separation or divorce, why communication is key – and how to be better at it – and a practical guide to divorce without the drama.   Find amicable here. Check out Kate’s book here. Timestamps:   00:00 – Intro  01:00 – Kate Daly’s experience with divorce  05:06 – We need to change the narrative: divorce is not a failure  08:38 – Why it’s important to acknowledge the emotional journey behind divorce  13:24 – Advice for navigating a separation or divorce  19:11 – What can divorce teach us about ourselves, and relationships?   22:37 – Two different questions: is it over, and should I leave?   25:39 – Why maintaining your identity is key to relationship success  28:30 – Why communication is key when it comes to navigating a divorce amicably (and how to be better at it)  34:33 – A practical guide to divorce without the drama  42:40 – One thing you should know about starting over  -----------------    Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.    Follow us here:  https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom  https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom  https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom  https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace   For more info, check out our website at:  https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this episode of the podcast, Tim chatted with board certified urologist Dr. Amy Pearlman about all things men’s health, including the health of your penis. Dr. Pearlman specialises in male sexual and hormonal health, and is fellowship trained in male genitourinary reconstruction, male infertility, and prosthetics. Although she is trained as a surgeon, Dr. Pearlman’s primary mission is to educate people on the basics of their bodies, encourage healthy behaviours to optimise health and help people live their most authentic lives.  Together, Tim and Dr. Pearlman spoke about:   Why we need a ‘Wellman’s visit’ at the doctor How testosterone impacts men’s health Her health tip for young men How much growth you can get from penile filler, and why men get it Advice for men looking to get penile filler And more.   You can find more of Dr. Amy here:  https://pearlmanmds.com/amy-pearlman-md/  Timestamps:   00:00 – Intro.  00:55 – What does Dr Amy Pearlman do?  04:35 – Why we need a ‘Wellman’s visit’ at the doctor.   09:00 – How testosterone impacts men’s health.  16:09 – Why do men get penile enhancement?   24:18 – How much growth can you get from penile filler?  27:16 – What does a ‘normal’ penis look like – does it even exist?   31:36 – Why Dr Pearlman doesn’t start the conversation talking about penis size.   33:34 – Does filler show up more when the penis is flaccid or erect?   39:39 – Advice for men looking to get penile filler.  42:40 – What makes Dr Pearlman’s practice different.   46:59 – Where to find more about Dr Pearlman.  -----------------    Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.    Follow us here:  https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom  https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom  https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom  https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace   For more info, check out our website at:  https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Toshi sat down with Jocelyn Silva to talk all things sexual shame. Jocelyn grew up in a conservative, Spanish-speaking Catholic home in Los Angeles, California. She attended Catholic school, went to weekly confession, and dreamed of becoming a nun at 16 - her entire world revolved around faith. But that faith also taught her to see her body and desires as sinful, leaving her ashamed and feeling disconnected from herself.  When she was 18 and had sex for the first time, this sent her on a different journey. By 21, Jocelyn was a sex educator. She earned a degree in Gender and Women’s Studies, ran a sexual wellness boutique for 4 years, and later completed her Master’s in Social Work. Over 15 years in this field and now 6 years coaching women, men, and couples, she’s learned that our sexuality is not something to be ashamed of – it’s where our power lives.  Together, Toshi and Jocelyn discussed:   Jocelyn’s journey from wanting to be a nun, to becoming a sex expert How she unlearned sexual shame (and how you can too) Tips for feeling more confident speaking your desires in the bedroom Jocelyn’s #1 sex tip (and it’s not communication) How Jocelyn reconnected with her faith The conversation you need to be having early on in your relationship  Find more of Jocelyn here: https://www.jocelynsilva.com/  Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro   00:46 – How Jocelyn's life plan went from nun, to sex expert  02:42 – Jocelyn's journey unlearning sexual shame  04:34 – The early messages around sex that follow us into adulthood  06:27 – Tips for unlearning sexual shame  11:56 – How to feel more confident expressing your sexual desires as a woman  18:37 – Jocelyn’s #1 sex tip  22:04 – What Jocelyn learned from being a cheater  24:33 – How to sit in discomfort   32:08 – How Jocelyn relearned faith  34:55 – Why you need clarity before a sexual experience   38:22 – The conversation you should have early on in your relationship  41:45 – Where to find more of Jocelyn Silva  -----------------    Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.    Follow us here:  https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom  https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom  https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom  https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace   For more info, check out our website at:  https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Toshi sat down with Sanja Zündorf, the founder of entzück dich selbst. For a long time, Sanja thought she was the only woman who masturbated – it wasn’t something she spoke about with her friends, even though they were very open in talking about sex. She began researching this topic in 2019 and realised how many women know very little about their bodies, as well as how many women are ashamed of masturbating, and the way they m********e. Sanja found in her survey that rubbing against pillows was a very popular method of masturbation but also associated with a lot of shame. Her mission is all about destigmatising masturbation and one of the ways she does this is by designing and selling a collection of sex toys specifically designed for pillow humping.   In this episode, Toshi and Sanja spoke about:   Practical tips for how you can start to feel less shame about masturbation Why Sanja views masturbation as a feminist act How the language we speak can shape our feelings towards our bodies and pleasure And why your masturbation habits are normal (and sexy!).   Find Sanja and her work here: https://entzueckdichselbst.com/de  Check out Sanja on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/entzueckdichselbst/  Timestamps:   00:00 – Intro.  00:58 – Who is Sanja and what does she do?   01:51 – What makes Sanja’s sex toy different to others on the market?   04:09 – Unpacking shame: Sanja’s early relationship with masturbation.  06:54 – How Sanja helps others feel okay about self-pleasure.  08:49 – How to feel less shame about masturbation.  11:35 – Why Sanja views masturbation as a feminist act.  14:42 – What do people think of pillow humping saddles?   21:06 – Why this sex toy is a self-love statement.  22:24 – How our language can contribute to our shame around masturbation.   30:09 – The importance of teaching kids the anatomically correct terms for their body parts  31:20 – Where you can see the saddles in person.   35:59 – Is using a phallic toy feminist?   39:12 – Your masturbation habits are normal (and sexy!).  45:15 – Where you can find more about Sanja and her work (and how you can participate).   -----------------    Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.    Follow us here:  https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom  https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom  https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom  https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace   For more info, check out our website at:  https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this episode of the podcast, Toshi spoke with Hollie McNish, an award-winning poet, writer and performer. Together they had a conversation Hollie’s latest book, ‘Virgin’. It's a six-letter word that holds such incredible power - the power to pressure, to judge, to harm, to praise, to profit, to punish. But virginity is also just a concept, a label that has been pressed upon people for centuries in numerous cultures worldwide. In ‘Virgin’, Hollie McNish unpicks the role this word has played in her own life, as well as others.  00:00 – Intro   01:04 – Who’s Hollie McNish? – Why you need to know!   01:41 – What inspired Hollie to write ‘Virgin’?   05:29 – What’s virginity got to do with purple carrots?   08:22 – The problem with ‘body count’.   12:54 – What does it mean to be sexy?  28:16 – How media shapes the way we think, feel and see the world.   34:11 – We can stop apologising!   41:07 – Social media’s not all bad – here's why.    45:43 – The ways we make love in real life.   49:25 – Time to get comfortable talking about sex, and why.   56:21 – Where to find Hollie and her work.   Check out Hollie here: https://www.holliepoetry.com/ https://www.instagram.com/holliepoetry/?hl=en Find 'Virgin' here: https://www.bookbaruk.com/product-page/virgin-by-hollie-mcnish -----------------    Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.    Follow us here:  https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom  https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom  https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom  https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace   For more info, check out our website at:  https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Willis Austin Chimano, known simply as Chimano, is formally a key member of Africa’s biggest band Sauti Sol. Hailing from Nairobi Kenya, Chimano, through the frequency of grace, love and discernment now embarks on a solo career designed to set the world on fire through his music, product lines and advocacy.   Chimano is celebrated for his deep baritone voice, dynamic stage presence, and distinct fashion sense. His first solo EP "Heavy is the Crown" highlights Chimano's vocal prowess and his ability to blend different musical styles, including pop, soul, and electronic influences. The EP has been well-received by fans and critics alike, noting Chimano's bold step in expressing his individuality and exploring new artistic territories.   Chimano is known for his bold fashion choices, often seen in flamboyant and stylish outfits that challenge traditional norms. He has been an advocate for self-expression and individuality, inspiring many fans to embrace their unique identities. In a landmark moment for his personal life and the LGBTQ+ community in Kenya, Chimano publicly came out as gay in 2021. His openness about his sexuality has been a significant step toward breaking down barriers and challenging societal norms in a region where LGBTQ+ rights are often underrepresented.  Chimano's influence extends beyond music. His advocacy for self-expression and his courage in sharing his personal journey have made him a role model for many. Through his solo work, he continues to inspire and entertain, leaving a lasting impact on the African music scene and beyond.  Find more of Chimano here: https://www.willischimano.com/  Check him out on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/willis.chimano/?hl=en  We asked Chimano which song he’d like us to play alongside this podcast episode. Here is ‘Beautiful Day,’ his song of choice: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3DICz0wi8RU    Timestamps:   00:00 – Intro  00:36 – Who is Chimano?   01:54 – Being a part of Sauti Sol   04:15 – Chimano’s experience of coming out publicly  12:40 – Rethinking his identity as an artist  21:13 – The importance of a positive mindset and how to achieve it   26:43 – Reflecting on your Chimano’s childhood relationship with music  34:30 – Chimano's message to young queer people in Africa  37:29 – What’s next for Chimano  42:23 – Outro  -----------------    Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.    Follow us here:  https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom  https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom  https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom  https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace   For more info, check out our website at:  https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Toshi sat down with Issy from Our Streets Now to talk about why showing Adolescence in schools isn’t a good idea – as well as some alternatives.  Our Streets Now is a UK based organisation that is looking to end public sexual harassment. It was founded in 2019 by two teenage sisters, sharing how they experienced the world as young women. They spoke about feeling afraid walking home at night. About being harassed in their school uniform. About how their lives were restricted by the fear of public sexual harassment. And about how this was an everyday reality for millions of women, girls and people of marginalised genders up and down the country.  They began a petition to make public sexual harassment (PSH) a criminal offence. Within 100 days, that petition had over 100,000 signatures. It now sits at almost half a million. It caught the attention of local media, then national media, then policymakers at the heart of government. And, in 2023, the five year campaign to make PSH a crime was a success.    Timestamps  00:00 – Intro  00:55 – What is Our Streets Now and what do they do?  03:20 – All about the workshops run by Our Streets Now about sexual harassment  07:06 – How different genders respond differently to these workshops  10:23 – How to get students involved in difficult conversations about sexual harassment   13:43 – What do young people want to know?   18:40 – How we are all part of the problem  25:24: The ‘little and often’ approach – and why it’s so useful  26:54 – Should Adolescence be shown in schools as a learning resource?   31:14 – The alternative to showing Adolescence in schools  34:25 – How can parents and carers support these conversations?   37:41 – Issy's message to young people   39:13 – Where to find out more about Our Streets Now  40:50 – Conclusion   Find out more about Our Streets Now: https://www.ourstreetsnow.org/  Our Streets Now support: https://www.ourstreetsnow.org/support  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Toshi spoke with Mistress Sofia, the UK’s oldest dominatrix. Together they had a conversation about what it means to be a dominatrix, how Mistress Sofia got into this work, common misconceptions and what she’s learned in her time being a dominatrix.  Check out more of Mistress Sofia here: https://www.mistress-sofia.co.uk/  Timestamps:  00:00 – Intro   00:47 – Who is Mistress Sofia?   01:20 – What does it mean to be a dominatrix?  02:12 – How did Mistress Sofia get started in this work?  04:05 – Why does Mistress Sofia not use the world ‘client’?   05:03 – How do people serve Mistress Sofia?   06:58 – Is Mistress Sofia a sex worker?  08:48 – “I always ask what their kinks are”  10:06 – Caning is not as simple as it looks  12:16 – For new dominatrixes: learn from Mistress Sofia  13:20 – What does it mean to be dominant?  14:58 – Mistress Sofia on confidence  16:24 – “You cannot do this for the money”  17:23 – What does Mistress Sofia love about her job?   19:13 – What is a lifestyle slave?  20:19 – When did Mistress Sofia realise she was dominant?   21:59 – Mistress Sofia’s message to women  23:14 – How does being 75 impact her work?  24:54 – Is seeing a dominatrix while you’re in a relationship considered cheating?    27:00 – Why seeing a dominatrix can be a kind of therapy   29:30 – Navigating shame  33:07 – Final thoughts  34:58 – Mistress Sofia’s thoughts on findoms  36:16 – Why Mistress Sofia doesn’t work with women  36:44 – Goals for the future  37:59 – Where to find more of Mistress Sofia  -----------------    Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.    Follow us here:  https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom  https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom  https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom  https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace   For more info, check out our website at:  https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

For this episode, Toshi had the opportunity to have a conversation with Will Adolphy, a former manosphere insider turned therapist. Will is a psychotherapist, educator, and speaker specialising in men’s mental health, masculinity, and emotional wellbeing. He leads M-Path, delivering talks and workshops to schools across the UK on masculinity, empathy, and the online world influencing boys. Will also hosts regular online parent + staff sessions for anyone interested in understanding the manosphere and how to approach conversations with boys more deeply.   Find him on Instagram @psychwill.  Check out Will’s website here: https://www.willadolphy.com/.    Trigger warning: mention of rape, suicide.  In this episode, we discuss:   Will’s story: how he was drawn into the manosphere and why online masculinity influencers attract young men. The scale of the issue: why this content is so widespread and influential. Inside the manosphere: Will’s experience with anti-feminist, anti-woke spaces. Engaging young men: how we can create safer, more open conversations about masculinity. A deeper problem: the manosphere as a symptom of society’s lack of support for men. Recovery steps: from self-empathy to accountability partners and honest dialogue.  Timestamps:  00:00 – Trailer  01:02 – Who is Will Adolphy?  03:06 – What drew Will to online masculinity influencers and why are they so appealing to young men and boys?  10:07 – How big is this issue?   12:05 – Will's experience of the manosphere  14:51 – How can we engage young men in this conversation?  17:31 – The manosphere isn’t the problem: it’s a symptom of the problem  19:00 – The difficulty of opening up as a man   21:22 – How was Will impacted by this masculinity content?   26:29 – The importance of having empathy for yourself  28:27 – What created the big shift for Will   33:53 – Will's step by step process for recovery  38:08 – How to find an accountability partner  39:45 – The importance of having open conversations  48:44 – What Will would want his younger self to know  53:34 – How do we become men?  58:36 – Conclusion  -----------------    Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.    Follow us here:  https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom  https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom  https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom  https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace   For more info, check out our website at:  https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this conversation, Daniel Guinness, co-founder and managing director of Beyond Equality, discusses the importance of engaging young boys and men in conversations about gender equality and mental health. He talks about his personal journey into this work, the organisation’s initiatives, and the impact of their programs on the boys and men who participate. Daniel emphasises the need for safe spaces for discussion, the importance of reframing how we see rejection, and advice for men who are trying to make new friends after a move.   TW: mention of self-harm.  Check out Beyond Equality here: https://www.beyondequality.org/  Find them on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beyond_equality    Timestamps:   00:00 - Intro  00:56 – Who is Dan Guinness and how did he get started in this space?   08:28 – What does Beyond Equality do and who do they work with?   12:56 – How do boys and men of different ages respond to these conversations?  15:22 – Working with a men's pie-making group  16:47 – Why you can’t do Beyond Equality’s work via powerpoint or podcast  19:06 – How do boys and men feel about Beyond Equality’s workshops?  24:33 – How societal structures prevent us from connecting with others  25:41 – Talking with boys and men who are resistant to these topics  31:26 – Why it’s a good thing to change your mind  32:37 – What has Dan learned from this work?  39:17 – Advice for young men trying to create friends after a move  46:38 – Reframing rejection for men   50:57 – Dan's message to young men – you're not the only one  52:55 – How you can support Beyond Equality  -----------------    Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.    Follow us here:  https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom  https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom  https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom  https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace   For more info, check out our website at:  https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In today’s episode, we were lucky enough to talk with Christopher Stephens and Louise Radnofsky, authors of ‘The Light of Day: The first man to come out at the dawn of gay liberation.’ This book is the story of the first man to come out voluntarily, using his own name, to the entire British public.   Toshi had a conversation with Christopher and Louise about Roger’s story and why he decided to come out publicly to all of Britain, as well as Christopher’s relationship to Roger. They also discussed why so many stories from gay men during this period have been lost, the similarities between the way that society treated gay and blind people at this time, the importance of intergenerational friendships amongst queer people, and Christopher and Louise’s take on what makes a life important.   Find a copy of the book here: geni.us/TheLightOfDay  Follow Christopher here: https://www.instagram.com/cwbstephens/  Check out Louise here: https://www.instagram.com/louiseradnofsky/  Timestamps:  00:00 – Trailer  00:45 – Intro to Christopher and Louise  02:36 – What is the book ‘The Light of Day’ about?   05:35 – Deciding on how these stories would be woven together  08:16 – How have people responded to the book so far?   10:40 – Do you know Raymond Gregson or Robert G. Moorcroft?   12:58 – Why have so many stories from gay men during this time been lost?   15:25 – What was it like for Christopher to read letters from Roger after his death?  18:44 – The similarities between society’s treatment of gay and blind people  21:51 – Intergenerational friendships amongst queer people  27:29 – The special nature of this audiobook  30:52 – Why did Roger Butler decide to come out publicly to all of Britain?   36:13 – Why you should read ‘The Light of Day’  39:49 – Reflecting on changes in law and society when it comes to homosexuality  43:17 – Where can you find a copy of ‘The Light of Day’?   45:26 – What makes a life important?   48:54 – Conclusion  -----------------    Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.    Follow us here:  https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom  https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom  https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom  https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace   For more info, check out our website at:  https://www.sexinspace.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.