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237 episodes
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Lauren Spigelmyer & Jessica DoeringExplicit
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Date created
2021/03/04
Latest episode
2026/04/21
Average duration
23 min.
Release period
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To help people who help people, the organization needs to be healthy and have practices in place that consider the trauma of those they serve. Lauren Spigelmyer and Jessica Doering have helped thousands of people who help people all over the world. Each week they'll explore tools, insights, and stories to help you lead and live with more clarity, calm, and connection. If you’re looking for support as you grow your organization’s capacity for caring for staff and the community, we would love to be part of that journey.
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Sound, Rhythm, and a Needed Pause
2026/04/21
Lauren offers a gentle reminder that pausing is not a disruption, but a necessary part of regulation and sustainable leadership. As the podcast takes a short break, she encourages listeners to consider where they, too, might need to slow down and create space for reset.
She shares a simple, accessible tool using sound based regulation like binaural beats or isochronic tones to help shift the nervous system from chaos to calm in just a few minutes. With an emphasis on both reactive and preventative use, the invitation is to build small, intentional moments of steadiness into daily life, supporting a more grounded and regulated way of showing up.
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The Behavior Hub WebsiteThe Calm AppOther related resources from Five Ives:
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Why Traditional Employee Wellness Programs Fail (And What Works Instead)Survive Mode: Recognizing When Your Organization is in CrisisWhat are the Five Ives?Podcast:
Repair without Weakening AuthorityHow Regulated Leaders Make Better Decisions in High-Stress SystemsLeading Through Conflict Without EscalationBoundaries as Leadership InfrastructureClarity as a Safety CueEpisode 2: Authority Without FearEpisode 1: What Stress Does to Decision MakingThe Pause Between Now and NextLeading From a Regulated CoreWhen Culture DysregulatesGrowth & Feedback Without FearThe Regulated Organization: What it Means to be a Regulated OrganizationOur Online Programs:
Behavior BreakthroughPolicing Under PressureBoard Governance TrainingUniversity of Pennsylvania Behavior Breakthrough Accredited Course
Subscribe to our mailing list and find out more about Stress, Trauma, Behavior and the Brain!
Check out our Facebook Group – Five Ives!Five Ives WebsiteThe Behavior Hub blogIf you’re looking for support as you grow your organization’s capacity for caring for staff and the community, we would love to be part of that journey.
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Repair without Weakening Authority
2026/03/31
Repair is often where leadership breaks down, but it is also where trust is built. In this episode, Lauren walks through why rupture is inevitable in high stress environments and how avoiding it quietly erodes culture, connection, and accountability. Rather than weakening authority, thoughtful repair work signals emotional maturity, steadiness, and self awareness, qualities that strengthen leadership over time.
Through a simple, practical framework of naming the moment, owning your part, and re anchoring the expectation, this conversation reframes repair as a critical leadership skill. When done well, it lowers defensiveness, restores clarity, and allows teams to re engage without losing standards or direction.
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Why Traditional Employee Wellness Programs Fail (And What Works Instead)Survive Mode: Recognizing When Your Organization is in CrisisWhat are the Five Ives?Podcast:
How Regulated Leaders Make Better Decisions in High-Stress SystemsLeading Through Conflict Without EscalationA Fresh Look at the Five Ives Framework in the WorkplaceBoundaries as Leadership InfrastructureClarity as a Safety CueWhen Leaders Become the StressorEpisode 2: Authority Without FearEpisode 1: What Stress Does to Decision MakingThe Pause Between Now and NextLeading From a Regulated CoreWhen Culture DysregulatesGrowth & Feedback Without FearThe Regulated Organization: What it Means to be a Regulated OrganizationOur Online Programs:
Behavior BreakthroughPolicing Under PressureBoard Governance TrainingUniversity of Pennsylvania Behavior Breakthrough Accredited Course
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Check out our Facebook Group – Five Ives!Five Ives WebsiteThe Behavior Hub blogIf you’re looking for support as you grow your organization’s capacity for caring for staff and the community, we would love to be part of that journey.
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Revisiting The Regulated Team: Creating Cultures that Breathe
2026/03/24
This week, we’re revisiting a past episode of the podcast, The Regulated Team: Creating Cultures that Breathe. As recent episodes have explored sustainable authority and the shift away from urgency driven leadership, this conversation feels especially relevant. It expands those ideas beyond the individual, showing how regulation or dysregulation spreads across a team and shapes the culture as a whole.
Through the Five Ives framework, this episode reminds us that thriving organizations don’t just perform differently, they feel different. With a focus on co regulation, predictable rhythms, and simple rituals, it offers a practical look at creating environments that support steadiness, creativity, and long term sustainability.
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Why Traditional Employee Wellness Programs Fail (And What Works Instead)Survive Mode: Recognizing When Your Organization is in CrisisWhat are the Five Ives?Podcast:
Why Accountability Feels ThreateningHow Regulated Leaders Make Better Decisions in High-Stress SystemsLeading Through Conflict Without EscalationA Fresh Look at the Five Ives Framework in the WorkplaceBoundaries as Leadership InfrastructureClarity as a Safety CueWhen Leaders Become the StressorEpisode 2: Authority Without FearEpisode 1: What Stress Does to Decision MakingWhen Culture DysregulatesOnboarding as Co-RegulationThe Regulated Organization: What it Means to be a Regulated OrganizationOur Online Programs:
Behavior BreakthroughPolicing Under PressureBoard Governance TrainingUniversity of Pennsylvania Behavior Breakthrough Accredited Course
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Check out our Facebook Group – Five Ives!Five Ives WebsiteThe Behavior Hub blogIf you’re looking for support as you grow your organization’s capacity for caring for staff and the community, we would love to be part of that journey.
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Why Accountability Feels Threatening
2026/03/10
Lauren begins a new series on maintaining authority without escalation, focusing on why accountability can feel threatening in high-stress or trauma-exposed systems. When teams are already carrying chronic stress, even small moments of correction can activate the nervous system and trigger defensiveness, avoidance, or shutdown.
Rather than avoiding hard conversations, Lauren encourages leaders to understand these reactions as stress responses and approach accountability with clarity and compassion. When done well, accountability reduces ambiguity, strengthens trust, and supports healthier, more sustainable teams.
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Blog Post:
Why Traditional Employee Wellness Programs Fail (And What Works Instead)Survive Mode: Recognizing When Your Organization is in CrisisWhat are the Five Ives?Podcast:
How Regulated Leaders Make Better Decisions in High-Stress SystemsLeading Through Conflict Without EscalationA Fresh Look at the Five Ives Framework in the WorkplaceBoundaries as Leadership InfrastructureClarity as a Safety CueWhen Leaders Become the StressorEpisode 2: Authority Without FearEpisode 1: What Stress Does to Decision MakingThe Pause Between Now and NextLeading From a Regulated CoreWhen Culture DysregulatesGrowth & Feedback Without FearOnboarding as Co-RegulationThe Regulated Organization: What it Means to be a Regulated OrganizationOur Online Programs:
Behavior BreakthroughPolicing Under PressureBoard Governance TrainingUniversity of Pennsylvania Behavior Breakthrough Accredited Course
Subscribe to our mailing list and find out more about Stress, Trauma, Behavior and the Brain!
Check out our Facebook Group – Five Ives!Five Ives WebsiteThe Behavior Hub blogIf you’re looking for support as you grow your organization’s capacity for caring for staff and the community, we would love to be part of that journey.
Schedule a free discovery call and let us be your guide
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How Regulated Leaders Make Better Decisions in High-Stress Systems
2026/03/03
In this final episode of the Leading Under Pressure series, Lauren reframes authority as nervous system stability rather than intensity or control. She explains how regulated leaders build trust through emotional predictability, consistency, and co-regulation instead of urgency and reactivity.
Sustainable authority, she argues, is not about being the strongest personality in the room, but the most steady, creating resilient teams where people can perform, speak honestly, and thrive long term.
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Why Traditional Employee Wellness Programs Fail (And What Works Instead)Survive Mode: Recognizing When Your Organization is in CrisisWhat are the Five Ives?Podcast:
Leading Through Conflict Without EscalationA Fresh Look at the Five Ives Framework in the WorkplaceBoundaries as Leadership InfrastructureClarity as a Safety CueWhen Leaders Become the StressorEpisode 2: Authority Without FearEpisode 1: What Stress Does to Decision MakingThe Pause Between Now and NextLeading From a Regulated CoreWhen Culture DysregulatesGrowth & Feedback Without FearOnboarding as Co-RegulationPolicy as a Nervous SystemThe Regulated Organization: What it Means to be a Regulated OrganizationOur Online Programs:
Behavior BreakthroughPolicing Under PressureBoard Governance TrainingUniversity of Pennsylvania Behavior Breakthrough Accredited Course
Subscribe to our mailing list and find out more about Stress, Trauma, Behavior and the Brain!
Check out our Facebook Group – Five Ives!Five Ives WebsiteThe Behavior Hub blogIf you’re looking for support as you grow your organization’s capacity for caring for staff and the community, we would love to be part of that journey.
Schedule a free discovery call and let us be your guide
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Leading Through Conflict Without Escalation
2026/02/24
After taking a week off to tend to personal matters, Lauren returns to the series on leading under pressure with a focus on navigating conflict without escalation. She reframes conflict as a nervous system event rather than simply a communication issue, explaining how stress activates threat responses around control, safety, and belonging. When leaders become dysregulated, they lose access to clarity and often default to avoidance, control, or appeasement.
She also explores what it looks like to stay grounded in tense moments through steady tone, clear boundaries, defined next steps, and meaningful repair when needed. Conflict is inevitable, but escalation is not when leaders choose regulation over urgency.
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The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel A. van der Kolk, M.D.
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Behavior BreakthroughPolicing Under PressureBoard Governance TrainingUniversity of Pennsylvania Behavior Breakthrough Accredited Course
Subscribe to our mailing list and find out more about Stress, Trauma, Behavior and the Brain!
Check out our Facebook Group – Five Ives!Five Ives WebsiteThe Behavior Hub blogIf you’re looking for support as you grow your organization’s capacity for caring for staff and the community, we would love to be part of that journey.
Schedule a free discovery call and let us be your guide
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A Fresh Look at the Five Ives Framework in the Workplace
2026/02/17
In this earlier episode from Returning to Us, Lauren introduces the foundations of what would become the Five Ives framework, including the Five Ives continuum and the 4Ps (Policy, Practice, Practitioner, and People). Listening back now, this conversation serves as a helpful reminder of how workplace culture, leadership, and environment all play a role in regulation and healing.
Today, the 4Ps remain a core part of the Five Ives framework, supporting organizations in building awareness, strengthening culture, and creating trauma informed change. This episode offers a timely reminder of how these tools continue to guide meaningful, system wide impact.
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A 5-Category Regulation Framework - Five Ives!Boundaries as Leadership InfrastructureClarity as a Safety CueWhen Leaders Become the StressorEpisode 2: Authority Without FearEpisode 1: What Stress Does to Decision MakingThe Pause Between Now and NextLeading From a Regulated CoreDesigning Rhythms that RegulateWhen Culture DysregulatesGrowth & Feedback Without FearOnboarding as Co-RegulationPolicy as a Nervous SystemThe Regulated Organization: What it Means to be a Regulated OrganizationOur Online Programs:
Behavior BreakthroughPolicing Under PressureBoard Governance TrainingUniversity of Pennsylvania Behavior Breakthrough Accredited Course
Subscribe to our mailing list and find out more about Stress, Trauma, Behavior and the Brain!
Check out our Facebook Group – Five Ives!Five Ives WebsiteThe Behavior Hub blogIf you’re looking for support as you grow your organization’s capacity for caring for staff and the community, we would love to be part of that journey.
Schedule a free discovery call and let us be your guide
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Boundaries as Leadership Infrastructure
2026/02/10
Lauren shares how clear boundaries serve as vital leadership infrastructure, helping regulate teams, reduce anxiety, and prevent burnout. She explains how predictable limits build psychological safety and support creativity and sustainable performance, while unclear boundaries lead to over-availability, resentment, and exhaustion.
She also offers practical guidance on system-level boundaries like response times, recovery periods, escalation protocols, and shared agreements, encouraging leaders to start by tightening just one boundary to support long-term sustainability for both themselves and their organizations.
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Resources:
Clockwork by Mike Michalowicz
Gino Wickman
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Why Traditional Employee Wellness Programs Fail (And What Works Instead)Survive Mode: Recognizing When Your Organization is in CrisisWhat are the Five Ives?Podcast:
Clarity as a Safety CueWhen Leaders Become the StressorEpisode 2: Authority Without FearEpisode 1: What Stress Does to Decision MakingThe Pause Between Now and NextLeading From a Regulated CoreDesigning Rhythms that RegulateWhen Culture DysregulatesGrowth & Feedback Without FearOnboarding as Co-RegulationPolicy as a Nervous SystemWhy Women in Leadership MicromanageThe Regulated Organization: What it Means to be a Regulated OrganizationOur Online Programs:
Behavior BreakthroughPolicing Under PressureBoard Governance TrainingUniversity of Pennsylvania Behavior Breakthrough Accredited Course
Subscribe to our mailing list and find out more about Stress, Trauma, Behavior and the Brain!
Check out our Facebook Group – Five Ives!Five Ives WebsiteThe Behavior Hub blogIf you’re looking for support as you grow your organization’s capacity for caring for staff and the community, we would love to be part of that journey.
Schedule a free discovery call and let us be your guide
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Clarity as a Safety Cue
2026/02/09
Lauren explores why clarity is one of the most powerful safety cues a leader can offer in high-pressure systems. Rather than micromanagement, clear expectations help regulate the nervous system by creating predictability, reducing rumination, and allowing people to think, decide, and perform more effectively.
This episode also examines the cost of ambiguity, from burnout to disengagement, and offers guidance on providing clarity without over-detailing. Lauren invites leaders to reflect on where clearer structure could support greater psychological safety and sustainability at work.
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Learn about the Staff Sustainability System a proven system to reduce burnout at the root
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Why Traditional Employee Wellness Programs Fail (And What Works Instead)Survive Mode: Recognizing When Your Organization is in CrisisWhat are the Five Ives?Podcast:
When Leaders Become the StressorEpisode 2: Authority Without FearEpisode 1: What Stress Does to Decision MakingThe Pause Between Now and NextLeading From a Regulated CoreDesigning Rhythms that RegulateWhen Culture DysregulatesGrowth & Feedback Without FearOnboarding as Co-RegulationPolicy as a Nervous SystemWhy Women in Leadership MicromanageThe Regulated Organization: What it Means to be a Regulated OrganizationRetain: Sustaining Staff, Culture, and CapacityReset: Moving from Relief to Real Transformation
Our Online Programs:
Behavior BreakthroughPolicing Under PressureBoard Governance TrainingUniversity of Pennsylvania Behavior Breakthrough Accredited Course
Subscribe to our mailing list and find out more about Stress, Trauma, Behavior and the Brain!
Check out our Facebook Group – Five Ives!Five Ives Website websiteThe Behavior Hub blogIf you’re looking for support as you grow your organization’s capacity for caring for staff and the community, we would love to be part of that journey.
Schedule a free discovery call and let us be your guide
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When Leaders Become the Stressor
2026/01/27
In this episode, Lauren explores how leadership stress can quickly spread through a team and shape trust, communication, and performance. She reflects on how awareness of your own regulation is a core leadership skill and why noticing tension early can change the entire direction of a meeting or organization.
Lauren also shares practical guidance on repair as a leadership strength. By naming impact, taking responsibility, and restoring clarity and predictability, leaders can rebuild trust without losing authority and create steadier, healthier teams even under pressure.
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Resources:
Rising Strong by Brene Brown
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Why Traditional Employee Wellness Programs Fail (And What Works Instead)Survive Mode: Recognizing When Your Organization is in CrisisWhat are the Five Ives?Podcast:
Episode 2: Authority Without FearEpisode 1: What Stress Does to Decision MakingThe Pause Between Now and NextLeading From a Regulated CoreDesigning Rhythms that RegulateWhen Culture DysregulatesGrowth & Feedback Without FearOnboarding as Co-RegulationPolicy as a Nervous SystemWhy Women in Leadership MicromanageThe Regulated Organization: What it Means to be a Regulated OrganizationRetain: Sustaining Staff, Culture, and CapacityReset: Moving from Relief to Real Transformation
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Behavior BreakthroughPolicing Under PressureBoard Governance TrainingUniversity of Pennsylvania Behavior Breakthrough Accredited Course
Subscribe to our mailing list and find out more about Stress, Trauma, Behavior and the Brain!
Check out our Facebook Group – Five Ives!Five Ives Website websiteThe Behavior Hub blogIf you’re looking for support as you grow your organization’s capacity for caring for staff and the community, we would love to be part of that journey.
Schedule a free discovery call and let us be your guide
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Episode 2: Authority Without Fear
2026/01/20
In this episode, Lauren continues the Leading Under Pressure series by exploring how authority and power shape the nervous system and why leadership is never neutral. She unpacks how fear based practices drive compliance, silence, and burnout, while regulated authority builds safety, clarity, and trust.
This episode offers insight into shifting from control to connection, showing how presence, tone, and timing shape safety more than policy. Lauren closes with a simple reminder to pause before you release and lead with intention.
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Why Traditional Employee Wellness Programs Fail (And What Works Instead)Survive Mode: Recognizing When Your Organization is in CrisisWhat are the Five Ives?Podcast:
Episode 1: What Stress Does to Decision MakingThe Pause Between Now and NextLeading From a Regulated CoreDesigning Rhythms that RegulateWhen Culture DysregulatesGrowth & Feedback Without FearOnboarding as Co-RegulationPolicy as a Nervous SystemWhy Women in Leadership MicromanageThe Regulated Organization: What it Means to be a Regulated OrganizationRetain: Sustaining Staff, Culture, and CapacityReset: Moving from Relief to Real TransformationHive- The Last Stage of the Five IvesThrive- The Fourth Stage of the Five Ives
Our Online Programs:
Behavior BreakthroughPolicing Under PressureBoard Governance TrainingUniversity of Pennsylvania Behavior Breakthrough Accredited Course
Subscribe to our mailing list and find out more about Stress, Trauma, Behavior and the Brain!
Check out our Facebook Group – Five Ives!Five Ives Website websiteThe Behavior Hub blogIf you’re looking for support as you grow your organization’s capacity for caring for staff and the community, we would love to be part of that journey.
Schedule a free discovery call and let us be your guide
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Episode 1: What Stress Does to Decision-Making
2026/01/13
Lauren starts a new series on leading under pressure, looking at how chronic stress shifts the way leaders think, decide, and lead. She explains how dysregulation narrows perspective and pushes people into urgency, control, and short term thinking.
This episode reframes those patterns through a nervous system lens and shows how small moments of regulation can bring leaders back to clarity and trust.
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Jim KwikOther related resources from Five Ives:
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Why Traditional Employee Wellness Programs Fail (And What Works Instead)Survive Mode: Recognizing When Your Organization is in CrisisWhat are the Five Ives?Podcast:
The Pause Between Now and NextLeading From a Regulated CoreDesigning Rhythms that RegulateWhen Culture DysregulatesGrowth & Feedback Without FearOnboarding as Co-RegulationPolicy as a Nervous SystemMeetings that Calm, Not DrainWhy Women in Leadership MicromanageThe Regulated Organization: What it Means to be a Regulated OrganizationRetain: Sustaining Staff, Culture, and CapacityReset: Moving from Relief to Real TransformationHive- The Last Stage of the Five IvesThrive- The Fourth Stage of the Five IvesStrive- The Third Stage of the Five Ives
Our Online Programs:
Behavior BreakthroughPolicing Under PressureBoard Governance TrainingUniversity of Pennsylvania Behavior Breakthrough Accredited Course
Subscribe to our mailing list and find out more about Stress, Trauma, Behavior and the Brain!
Check out our Facebook Group – Five Ives!Five Ives Website websiteThe Behavior Hub blogIf you’re looking for support as you grow your organization’s capacity for caring for staff and the community, we would love to be part of that journey.
Schedule a free discovery call and let us be your guide
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The Pause Between Now and Next
2026/01/06
Lauren opens the new year with an invitation to pause between “now and next.” This episode creates space to reflect on the past year, release what no longer serves, and move forward with more clarity and steadiness instead of urgency or burnout.
Lauren explores how pausing supports nervous system regulation, sustainable leadership, and intentional design. Listeners are encouraged to do less on purpose and reset their systems for a more unhurried year ahead.
Sign up for the University of Pennsylvania Behavior Breakthrough Accredited Course
Learn about the Staff Sustainability System a proven system to reduce burnout at the root
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Blog Post:
Why Traditional Employee Wellness Programs Fail (And What Works Instead)Survive Mode: Recognizing When Your Organization is in CrisisWhat are the Five Ives?Podcast:
Leading From a Regulated CoreDesigning Rhythms that RegulateWhen Culture DysregulatesGrowth & Feedback Without FearOnboarding as Co-RegulationPolicy as a Nervous SystemMeetings that Calm, Not DrainThe Regulated Organization: What it Means to be a Regulated OrganizationRetain: Sustaining Staff, Culture, and CapacityReset: Moving from Relief to Real TransformationHive- The Last Stage of the Five IvesThrive- The Fourth Stage of the Five IvesStrive- The Third Stage of the Five IvesRevive- The Second Stage of the Five IvesSurvive- The First Stage of the Five IvesOur Online Programs:
Behavior BreakthroughPolicing Under PressureBoard Governance TrainingUniversity of Pennsylvania Behavior Breakthrough Accredited Course
Subscribe to our mailing list and find out more about Stress, Trauma, Behavior and the Brain!
Check out our Facebook Group – Five Ives!Five Ives Website websiteThe Behavior Hub blogIf you’re looking for support as you grow your organization’s capacity for caring for staff and the community, we would love to be part of that journey.
Schedule a free discovery call and let us be your guide
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Leading from a Regulated Core
2025/12/30
In this episode, Lauren explores what it means to lead from a regulated core and why a leader’s internal state is the most powerful influence on culture, safety, and decision-making. She explains how nervous system regulation shapes teams long before words or strategies do and shares simple, practical micro-regulation tools leaders can use before meetings, conversations, and decisions to reduce reactivity, increase clarity, and build psychological safety across organizations.
Sign up for the University of Pennsylvania Behavior Breakthrough Accredited Course
Learn about the Staff Sustainability System a proven system to reduce burnout at the root
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Why Traditional Employee Wellness Programs Fail (And What Works Instead)Survive Mode: Recognizing When Your Organization is in CrisisWhat are the Five Ives?Podcast:
Designing Rhythms that RegulateWhen Culture DysregulatesGrowth & Feedback Without FearOnboarding as Co-RegulationPolicy as a Nervous SystemMeetings that Calm, Not DrainThe Regulated Organization: What it Means to be a Regulated OrganizationRetain: Sustaining Staff, Culture, and CapacityReinforce- Ensuring that Change becomes Cultural Muscle Memory Reset: Moving from Relief to Real TransformationHive- The Last Stage of the Five IvesThrive- The Fourth Stage of the Five IvesStrive- The Third Stage of the Five IvesRevive- The Second Stage of the Five IvesSurvive- The First Stage of the Five IvesOur Online Programs:
Behavior BreakthroughPolicing Under PressureBoard Governance TrainingUniversity of Pennsylvania Behavior Breakthrough Accredited Course
Subscribe to our mailing list and find out more about Stress, Trauma, Behavior and the Brain!
Check out our Facebook Group – Five Ives!Five Ives Website websiteThe Behavior Hub blogIf you’re looking for support as you grow your organization’s capacity for caring for staff and the community, we would love to be part of that journey.
Schedule a free discovery call and let us be your guide
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Designing Rhythms that Regulate
2025/12/23
Lauren explores how rhythm regulates both the nervous system and organizations, showing how predictable routines create safety, clarity, and capacity, while chaos increases stress and burnout.
She shares practical examples of daily, weekly, monthly, and quarterly rhythms leaders can use to replace urgency with coherence, and invites listeners to try one regulating rhythm and notice how it shifts energy and pace over time.
Sign up for the University of Pennsylvania Behavior Breakthrough Accredited Course
Learn about the Staff Sustainability System a proven system to reduce burnout at the root
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Why Traditional Employee Wellness Programs Fail (And What Works Instead)Survive Mode: Recognizing When Your Organization is in CrisisWhat are the Five Ives?Podcast:
When Culture DysregulatesGrowth & Feedback Without FearOnboarding as Co-RegulationPolicy as a Nervous SystemMeetings that Calm, Not DrainThe Regulated Organization: What it Means to be a Regulated OrganizationRetain: Sustaining Staff, Culture, and CapacityReinforce- Ensuring that Change becomes Cultural Muscle Memory Reset: Moving from Relief to Real TransformationThe Regulated Team: Creating Cultures that BreatheHive- The Last Stage of the Five IvesThrive- The Fourth Stage of the Five IvesStrive- The Third Stage of the Five IvesRevive- The Second Stage of the Five IvesSurvive- The First Stage of the Five IvesOur Online Programs:
Behavior BreakthroughPolicing Under PressureBoard Governance TrainingUniversity of Pennsylvania Behavior Breakthrough Accredited Course
Subscribe to our mailing list and find out more about Stress, Trauma, Behavior and the Brain!
Check out our Facebook Group – Five Ives!Five Ives Website websiteThe Behavior Hub blogIf you’re looking for support as you grow your organization’s capacity for caring for staff and the community, we would love to be part of that journey.
Schedule a free discovery call and let us be your guide
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sunnyfunny28 2021/04/16
Very informative
I have been thoroughly enjoying Returning to Us. Lauren gives a lot of great information in easily digestible segments. I cannot wait to listen more e...
Ang9517 2021/03/17
Wonderful Podcast
Definitely one of the best podcasts I’ve listed to in awhile. 10/10 recommend!
The Constant Journey 2021/03/16
One of the most valuable podcasts out there
I listened to the one on emotions and oh my gosh the analogy about the dog and the owl totally hit home. And the way you Lauren incorporates informati...
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