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Long before you ever tried to lose weight, you were learning things about yourself, love, belonging, and what it takes to be accepted. You were learning which emotions were okay to express, what you needed to do to earn love, and whether it was safe to ask for what you wanted.  Without even realizing it, most of those lessons are still shaping your relationship with food, with others, and the way you show up in your own life today. In this episode, I'm sharing more of my personal story and exploring a powerful question: What did you want most as a child, but didn't get? It's a deceptively simple question, but your answer may reveal more than you expect about the beliefs you've carried into adulthood, the patterns you keep repeating, and the ways you've learned to cope with unmet needs.  We explore: How childhood experiences shape the way we see ourselves and navigate adulthood. The connection between unmet childhood needs and the patterns we carry into our adult relationships. Why asking what you wanted most as a child can reveal important insights about your current struggles. How understanding your story can help you create a different one moving forward. You don't have to figure it all out by yourself. Schedule a consultation here, and let's explore what's keeping you stuck and what’s truly possible when you have the right support. Chapters (00:00:02) - Introduction: Origins of You(00:00:37) - Childhood Trauma and Adult Relationships Connection(00:02:14) - Recognizing Patterns Without Blame(00:02:47) - Love Bombing vs Rage: Same Pattern, Different Mask(00:04:52) - Holding Both Contentment and Desire for More(00:06:32) - Jillian's Childhood: Family Background(00:08:11) - Shame, Anger, and Feeling Unwanted by Bio Dad(00:09:58) - The Choking Incident and Learning to Minimize(00:12:11) - Keeping Secrets and Carrying Shame(00:13:13) - Minimizing Abuse in Her Own Marriage(00:14:12) - Protecting Herself and Her Son Now(00:15:12) - Core Wounds: Not Feeling Good Enough(00:16:14) - Seeking Worth Through Being Chosen(00:19:01) - Healing the Core Wounds to Stop the Cycle(00:20:58) - The Fishhook Metaphor: Unhooking from Toxic Patterns(00:22:18) - Doing the Work: Coaching and Moving Forward(00:24:06) - Closing: Your Next Steps to Break the Cycle

Long before you ever went on a diet, counted calories, or decided you were “good” or “bad” based on what you ate, you were learning rules about food. Maybe you learned... That you had to clean your plate. Dessert was a reward. Certain foods were “bad.” You should eat less if you were gaining weight. Or that food was how you celebrated, connected, coped, or showed love. Those messages don’t just disappear when you grow up. In this episode, we’re unpacking some of the beliefs about food we often absorb as children—and how those beliefs can quietly shape our relationship with food as adults. Because sometimes what looks like a lack of willpower around food is actually a belief you learned a very long time ago. And if you don’t question the belief, you’ll keep trying to fix the behavior. When you're ready to feel at peace and ease around food, especially during the holidays, I'd love to help.  Schedule your free consultation here: www.bodyyoucrave.com/schedule.  Chapters (00:00:02) - Intro: Relationships and childhood roots(00:01:37) - Why habits alone don't solve emotional eating(00:01:52) - The diet industry's dysfunctional parallels(00:03:09) - Mental and emotional weight from childhood and marriage(00:04:11) - Setting the stage for exploring childhood beliefs(00:04:47) - What we learn about food as children(00:06:41) - Taking ownership vs playing the victim(00:08:02) - Gender differences in body image conditioning(00:09:19) - Restriction, shame, and the binge cycle(00:10:40) - Common food beliefs learned in childhood(00:11:38) - Scarcity mindset and eating on autopilot(00:13:32) - Breaking the shame cycle with food(00:14:44) - Shame around body size and fitting in(00:17:01) - Personal story: fat thoughts from a young age(00:17:27) - Moving to Georgia and using candy for comfort(00:19:30) - The candy bar hoarding incident with her dad(00:21:09) - Family rules around food and shame(00:22:11) - Healing your relationship with food(00:23:27) - Body safety and the limits of habits alone(00:24:18) - Closing thoughts and next steps(00:26:09) - Outro: Break the cycle call to action

If you're tired of feeling like food is in charge, this is where we start. Join me for 6 weeks of private coaching inside When the Urge Hits: https://bit.ly/WhenTheUrgeHits You know the moment...  You weren't hungry. You weren't even thinking about food. And then suddenly… you NEEDED something sweet. Or salty. Or crunchy. Or whatever your particular “screw it, I need this RIGHT NOW” food happens to be. And that urge to eat feels almost impossible to ignore. But here's what I want you to know: There's a process for learning how to navigate the urge itself, and it's one of the first steps I teach clients who want to end emotional eating. In this episode, I'm breaking down what is actually happening when an emotional-eating urge hits, why trying to simply resist it often doesn't work, and what becomes possible when you learn how to handle the urge differently. The goal isn't to become someone who never wants cookies again. The goal is to become someone who can feel an urge without automatically handing it the steering wheel. Join me for 6 weeks of private coaching inside When the Urge Hits:  https://bit.ly/WhenTheUrgeHits Chapters (00:00:02) - Intro: The Late-Day Craving Trap(00:01:28) - Permission-Giving Thoughts & Why Willpower Fails(00:02:49) - The Five-Step Emotional Eating Process(00:04:37) - Willpower, Cravings and the Restrict-Binge Cycle(00:06:39) - Introducing 'When the Urge Hits' Program(00:08:33) - Pricing, Spots, and How to Sign Up(00:10:05) - Closing Thoughts and Call to Action(00:11:17) - Outro: Break the Cycle Call

When you’re constantly managing someone else’s moods, walking on eggshells, suppressing your needs, or trying to keep the peace, Your nervous system is dealing with A LOT. And eventually, you may find yourself reaching for food, not because you’re physically hungry, but because it gives you something you desperately need: Relief. In this episode, we’re talking about why food can become such a powerful source of comfort during a toxic relationship, and why emotions themselves can start to feel unsafe when you’ve learned that expressing them comes with consequences. Because when anger leads to conflict, sadness gets dismissed, and having needs gets labeled as selfish… you may start learning to make uncomfortable feelings disappear instead of actually feeling them. And food is really, really good at helping you do that. But understanding why you eat is only the beginning. If you’re ready to stop feeling like you’re constantly fighting yourself around food, join me for my free LIVE masterclass: How to Stop Giving Into Your 8pm Sugar Cravings  We’ll dig into what’s actually happening when those nighttime cravings hit, and what you can start doing differently so food doesn’t have to be your fastest route to feeling better. ️ Listen to the episode, then join me live for the masterclass. Register here: https://calendly.com/jillian-2/masterclass Chapters (00:00:02) - Introduction: Food and Toxic Relationships(00:01:19) - Why Food Becomes Soothing and Predictable(00:04:31) - Managing Others' Emotions and Dysregulation(00:06:17) - Learning Emotions Are Unsafe(00:08:10) - Tears, Shame, and Emotional Suppression(00:10:25) - Shame Around Desire, Stress, and Disappointment(00:12:50) - Generational Trauma and Coercive Control(00:15:24) - Staying for the Kids vs Leaving for the Kids(00:17:45) - Food as a Coping Tool and What It's Really Doing(00:20:18) - Finding Joy Beyond Food: The Line Dancing Story(00:21:47) - Closing Thoughts and Masterclass Invitation(00:22:51) - Break the Cycle Call Promo

You know that moment. You’ve made it through a long, exhausting day. You finally have a minute to yourself…  and suddenly that sleeve of Oreos in the pantry sounds like the best idea you’ve had all day! Even if you’re not actually hungry. Even if you told yourself you weren’t going to eat them. Even if you KNOW you’ll probably feel annoyed with yourself afterward. So why does food feel so good at the end of the day? There’s actually a reason, and it has a lot less to do with willpower than you think. In this episode, we’re talking about why nighttime eating can become such a reliable source of relief, especially when you’ve spent your day managing stress, emotions, other people, and simply holding it all together. If you’ve recently left a toxic relationship, there may be an even bigger piece of this pattern you haven’t considered yet. Because the question isn’t “Why can’t I stop eating?” It’s “What is eating doing for me that I haven’t learned to do another way?” Listen in, and then join me for an upcoming free LIVE masterclass:  How to Stop Giving Into Your 8pm Cravings (Even When You Were “So Good All Day”)  I’ll show you how to start breaking this cycle for good. Register here: https://calendly.com/jillian-2/masterclass Chapters (00:00:02) - Intro: The nighttime snacking spiral(00:01:14) - Food isn't the problem - what's underneath it(00:02:06) - Toxic relationships and the pattern of turning to food(00:04:57) - The shame spiral after emotional eating(00:06:02) - Restricting, avoiding events, and holiday binge triggers(00:08:47) - Trusting yourself and breaking the self-sabotage cycle(00:11:17) - Invitation to the live masterclass(00:12:41) - Personal binge-free journey and workshop details(00:13:57) - Closing and call to action

I’ve coached men and women around food and weight for years, and there’s one thing I know for sure: “Just try harder” is NOT a coaching strategy. So I’m doing something a little different. I’m looking for one person to coach through their emotional eating for FREE for 10 weeks – and I’m bringing you along for the ride. This is The Emotional Eating Experiment. We’re going to start with the food. The nighttime eating. The cravings. The “I don’t even know why I’m doing this” moments. And then we’re going to get curious. What’s happening right before you eat? What is the food doing for you? What do you believe you should be doing instead? What are you avoiding, suppressing, or not allowing yourself to want? To feel? And what happens when you stop trying to control the behavior and actually understand it? I don't know exactly what we're going to uncover, and honestly, that's what makes this so damn interesting! Because I want you to hear what coaching actually looks like when the answer isn't another diet, more discipline, or a lecture about willpower. You'll get to listen as we work through the real stuff in real time.  If you're tired of fighting with food and curious about what's really going on underneath it, you can apply to be my coaching participant here: https://form.typeform.com/to/Y6m8d1sg Applications are open September 15–27, 2026. Or come back and listen along as we find out.  xoxo Chapters (00:00:02) - Intro to the Emotional Eating Experiment(00:00:24) - The Detective Mindset for Emotional Eating(00:01:34) - Looking for a Coaching Participant(00:03:19) - Why This Idea Matters and Backstory(00:05:04) - Application Timeline and Process(00:06:30) - Who I'm Looking For: Traits and Patterns(00:08:00) - Vulnerability, Coaching, and Being Coached(00:09:28) - Privacy, Anonymity, and Sharing Options(00:10:05) - Application Details and Selection Process(00:11:01) - Why the Holidays Are the Ideal Time(00:12:27) - Closing Invitation and Call to Action(00:13:26) - Outro and Break the Cycle Offer

Today's episode is an MVP you don't want to miss!  What if I told you your people-pleasing habit was really just a desire to control others? Typically, this desire for ‘control’ stems from a place of survival.  You learned you needed to show up a certain way in order to keep other people happy and avoid conflict, so that they would keep meeting your emotional needs.  But this coping mechanism is only holding you hostage.  Keep listening as I break down the nuanced dark side of this trait, and learn the first steps to breaking free. Ready to heal from toxic relationships and stop falling into the same cycles with food, alcohol, dating, money, and parenting that only keep you stuck?  Schedule a free consultation and I'll show you how: www.bodyyoucrave.com/schedule  Chapters (00:00:02) - Hungry for Love(00:00:24) - People Pleasing(00:01:28) - People Pleasuring and Control(00:03:07) - People Pleasing and Over-Completing(00:11:40) - I Got Sucked In With Love Bombing(00:17:11) - How to Stop Stuck in Karmic Cycles(00:17:35) - The Problem of Controlling Others' Emotions(00:22:04) - How to Stop Complaining About My Partner's Emotions(00:26:47) - What Emotions Do I Refuse to Feel?(00:28:19) - The Word of Recrevestation(00:35:12) - How to Stop People Pleasing (For Real)(00:39:31) - Binge Eating and Relationship Cycle Break the Cycle

I’m turning 41 this week, and it got me thinking… What could actually change in the next 8 months? Because eight months can feel like a long time, and somehow, can also fly by!  Think about where you were eight months ago. What were you tolerating? What were you putting off? What did you hope would be different by now? Now imagine deciding that the next eight months are going to be different. Not because you suddenly have everything figured out, but because you finally decide to stop putting your own life on hold. In this episode, I’m talking about what can happen when you intentionally make the next season of your life about you – your desires, your decisions, your self-trust, your identity, and the life you actually want to create. You are going to wake up eight months from now either way. The question is: who do you want to be when you get there? And because I’m turning 41, I decided to turn this birthday into an invitation:  8 months of private coaching with me, from September through April 30, 2027. If you’re curious and want to talk through whether it might be the right fit for you, schedule a free consultation with me here: www.bodyyoucrave.com/schedule  This birthday offer is available through September 15, 2026, or until the 5 spots are filled. Happy birthday to me – and happy new beginning to you! ❤️ Chapters (00:00:02) - Hungry for Love(00:00:24) - What If You Dedicated 8 Months to Your Life?(00:08:13) - 8 Months of Private Coaching for Your 41st Birthday(00:15:42) - It's time to break the cycle of binge eating and toxic relationships

Why is it that one glass of wine can so easily turn into two… or three? And what if the answer has nothing to do with either wine or willpower??  Towards the end of my marriage, I was drinking about two glasses of wine almost every night.  I loved the taste, I looked forward to it, and it became a little ritual that signaled the day was finally over. I could exhale. I could relax. I could have something that felt good. Looking back, I can see that I wasn't craving wine. I was craving relief. In this episode, we're going deeper than the usual conversation about moderation, self-control, or why you “can't just have one.” We'll explore what your glass of wine might actually be doing for you, and why understanding the need underneath the behavior can change the entire conversation. P.S. - I'm celebrating my 41st birthday by opening a limited number of private coaching spots at a special birthday rate. Curious? Come talk to me: www.bodyyoucrave.com/schedule Don’t let another year pass you by before you finally start choosing your own life. Chapters (00:00:02) - Why I Drink Alcohol in Toxic Relationships(00:04:38) - Marriage and the Alcoholics(00:12:47) - How I Learned To Love My Alcoholic Partner(00:19:33) - How to Create a Life That Feels Like Your Own

Why do we think getting help means we’re cheating? A woman will happily use IVF if she needs medical support to get pregnant. We hire lawyers when we need help navigating the legal system, or accountants when we need help with taxes.  We understand that using the right tool or getting expert support doesn’t mean we didn’t do the work. And yet, when it comes to our health—especially weight loss and metabolic health—we can feel like needing medication, coaching, or other support somehow means we failed. In this episode, I’m getting a little spicy about the idea that you should be able to “do it on your own,” and why we need to stop moralizing diet, exercise, medication, and the process of healing. Because sometimes your body needs more support. Sometimes your life circumstances mean you need more support. And sometimes the most self-trusting thing you can do is admit that you don’t have to figure it all out alone. You don't get extra points for doing it the hard way. When you're ready to heal your body after trauma, so that you can create a life that fully lights you up inside, I can help.  Schedule your free consultation to learn more: www.bodyyoucrave.com/schedule Chapters (00:00:02) - Hungry for Love(00:00:26) - Weight Loss: Is It Cheating?(00:06:18) - Is IVF a Cheating Tool?(00:14:33) - GLP1s for weight loss and healing(00:22:20) - Where to Find the Blind Spot?(00:25:50) - Broken the Cycle: How to Cope with Your Body

You eat well all day. You’re “good.” You follow the plan. And then 8pm rolls around—and suddenly you’re standing in the kitchen eating something you didn’t even plan to have. So why does this keep happening? In this episode, we’re decoding the pattern instead of blaming your lack of willpower. Because the question isn’t just “What did I eat?” It’s “What was happening inside of me when I reached for the food?” We’ll explore some of the deeper blind spots that can show up around food at the end of the day, including: Using food as a reward, Feeling like you have to earn rest or pleasure, and Treating productivity like currency. Because sometimes what looks like a food problem is actually a worthiness problem, a rest problem, an emotional regulation problem, or a permission problem. And when you can decode the pattern instead of judging it, you can finally start changing what’s underneath it. That's exactly what I do on a Blind Spot Call. We look at what's happening in your life right now, identify the patterns underneath it, and uncover the belief or blind spot that may be keeping you stuck in something you desperately want to change. If you’re feeling a little after listening to this episode, maybe there’s something worth looking at. Book your Blind Spot Call here: https://calendly.com/jillian-2/mini-session Chapters (00:00:02) - Hungry for Love With Jillian Scott(00:00:29) - Why Can't I Control My Eating Habit at Night?(00:08:03) - In the Fight Against Love Bombing(00:15:14) - How to Review Your Life's Rules(00:15:50) - The Psychology of Time and Feelings(00:21:11) - Neither Should You Expect Yourself to Be a Robot(00:29:07) - Blind Spots

Sometimes the thing keeping us stuck isn’t something we can see. It’s a blind spot. In this first episode, I’m introducing a conversation that has been unfolding for me through my own experiences, my work with women, and most recently, a conference where I had the opportunity to speak with women about emotional abuse, emotional eating, self-worth, and the patterns we can carry long after a difficult relationship ends. We talk about what happens when we’ve spent years learning to prioritize everyone else’s needs, expectations, emotions, and approval—and how difficult it can be to recognize that we’re still doing it, even after we’ve decided we want something different. Because sometimes the hardest part isn’t knowing that you want to change. It’s seeing the pattern you’re participating in without realizing it. And that’s exactly why some blind spots are so hard to see alone. This episode is an introduction to the themes we’ll be exploring together in the episodes ahead: self-abandonment, people-pleasing, guilt, boundaries, survival mode, toxic relationship patterns, and ultimately, what it looks like to create a life you actually crave—without abandoning yourself to get there. Ready to find your own blind spots when it comes to food, your body, relationships, and more?  Schedule your free 30 minute coaching call here: https://calendly.com/jillian-2/mini-session Consider this the beginning of the conversation. ❤️ Chapters (00:00:02) - Eat Hungry for Love(00:00:24) - Back in the Elevator(00:08:21) - Should I Leave or Should I Stay?(00:16:02) - How to Find the Blind Spot(00:21:29) - Broken the Cycle: How to Cope with Your Body

Have you ever had a dream that stayed with you long after you woke up? This week, I'm sharing two vivid dreams that, at first, seemed completely unrelated. But as I began to unpack them, I realized they weren't really about airports, relationships, or missed flights at all—they were revealing something much deeper. They were showing me an identity shift. In this episode, we'll explore how our subconscious often begins rehearsing the woman we're becoming long before our external life catches up. We'll talk about self-trust, intuition, agency, and why lasting transformation isn't about changing your habits—it's about changing your relationship with yourself. If you've ever felt like you're in between chapters, questioning the timing of your life, or wondering whether you're on the right path, this conversation is for you. Because maybe you're not lost. Maybe you're simply becoming. In this episode, we'll explore: What our dreams can reveal about our personal growth Why your subconscious may already know who you're becoming The difference between waiting to be rescued and trusting yourself to find the way Why identity shifts happen before life shifts How to recognize when you've outgrown an old version of yourself If something inside you has been whispering that there's more waiting for you—that you're ready to stop living by everyone else's rules and create a life that feels deeply aligned—I hope this episode reminds you to trust that voice. ✨ Ready to step into your next chapter and create a life you don't need an escape from?  Schedule your free consultation to learn more about working together.  www.bodyyoucrave.com/schedule Chapters (00:00:02) - Hungry for Love(00:00:24) - Dreams and My(00:07:43) - The Power of a Dream(00:09:03) - Dream 2: Finding my way through the airport(00:13:03) - I Had A Dream That I Lost My Flight(00:17:11) - Both My Dream and Real Life(00:24:30) - How to Create a Life You Deserve

Have you ever felt yourself changing... but kept trying to fit into a version of your life that no longer fit? For the past several months, I've been in a season of questioning. Not just my business, but the rules I was still following without even realizing it. The truth is, this isn't just a story about a business pivot. It's a story about permission. Permission to change your mind. Permission to outgrow old identities. Permission to disappoint people. Permission to stop living by rules you never consciously chose. Permission to become more of who you've always been. In this episode, I'm sharing why I've chosen to evolve my business, the lessons this season has taught me, and the bigger vision that's been unfolding behind the scenes. If you've been standing at the edge of your own next chapter, wondering whether you're allowed to want something different… This episode is your permission slip. And if, as you're listening, you find yourself thinking, "This is exactly what I've been craving," I'd love to invite you to join me inside Phoenix Rising. Learn more here: https://www.skool.com/phoenix-rising/about Chapters (00:00:02) - Hungry for Love(00:00:24) - Permission to Want What You Want(00:03:00) - What You Need To Do To Grow(00:10:38) - What Made Me Real About My Love Life(00:18:42) - How Do I Get the True Me Back?(00:25:49) - The Weight Loss Coach's Rules(00:31:02) - Giving myself Permission to Create Phoenix Rising(00:38:18) - A nudge to start exploring your body and soul

Have you felt like something is changing lately? Maybe you're questioning your career, your relationships, your health, or the life you've spent years building?  Maybe you're realizing the rules you've been following no longer fit the woman you're becoming. You're not alone. In this episode, I'm exploring one of the biggest collective energy shifts of the next 18 months—and why so many women are feeling called to pause, reevaluate, and intentionally create what's next.  Whether you follow astrology or not, this conversation isn't about predicting your future. It's about using the season we're in as an invitation to ask better questions. We'll talk about: Why so many women are waking up to the feeling that "something is off" The difference between surviving a life that no longer fits and consciously creating one that does Why self-trust is becoming one of the most important skills of this next chapter How to stop following rules that were never meant for you and start listening to your own inner compass If you've been feeling restless, stuck, or like you're standing on the edge of a new chapter but aren't sure what comes next, I hope this episode reminds you that you're not falling apart—you're being invited to rise. ✨ Ready to go deeper? Phoenix Rising is my new community and coaching experience for women who are ready to move beyond survival mode, rediscover who they are, and intentionally create a life that feels deeply aligned with who they're becoming. Learn more and join us here: https://www.skool.com/phoenix-rising/about If this episode resonated with you, I'd love for you to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a woman who's been quietly questioning everything, too.  You never know who might need the reminder that this isn't the end of her story—it's the beginning of her next chapter. Chapters (00:00:02) - Hungry for Love(00:00:24) - The Collective Shift in Women's Energy(00:06:54) - The Sign of Leela and What It Means for Your Future(00:13:35) - In the Elevator With Al Gore(00:14:34) - 3 Things That My Ex(00:20:01) - Phoenix Rising: A Community for Women Who Are Ready to Step Into(00:26:44) - Phoenix Rising