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On this episode, Honey is joined by adult performer, content creator, and model Evie Rees. Evie started out doing sex work when she was 18, so we talk about how the industry has changed over the last 12 years, including misconceptions, relationships, and what she wants to see change. Evie also opens up about her self-image, including the plastic surgery she's had done, and how she perceives her appearance. We also talk about her relationship with her audience and if it impacts how she feels about herself. Thanks so much to Evie for joining. You can find her on multiple platforms here (support her work!). As always, you can find Sextras on Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and our website. Email us at [email protected], leave us an anonymous message on our website or DM us asking for advice, or tell us what you want to hear before the end of the season. GET INVOLVED IN OUR NEXT EPISODE: Please fill in our survey about lonely womxn. AFAB/ NB and trans+ folk are encouraged to participate too; share with your friends and family. Thank you! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Honey is joined by sex coach and author, Courtney Boyer, to talk about all things purity culture and polyamory. Courtney was raised in purity culture, so we talk about what she learnt about sex and relationships amidst a religious background. She explains how getting into a marriage confirmed everything she thought she knew about sex and relationships, and her journey to realising she was polyamorous, and beyond. We discuss what she has learnt about herself since revealing she's polyamorous, and why women are increasingly having these realisations later in life. You can find Courtney on Instagram, TikTok, and her website. Her books Opened and Not Tonight, Honey are available on Amazon and from local bookstores. As always, you can find Sextras on Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and our website. Email Honey at [email protected], leave us an anonymous message on the website, or DM me with any questions or dilemmas you have. Edited and produced by Honey Jane Wyatt Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We're back to our regularly scheduled(ish) programming! This week on the pod, Honey is joined by relationship coach and founder of Passport 2 Pleasure Ally Iseman to talk all things jealousy in relationships. As author of the upcoming book, For The Love Of Jealousy, Ally has dedicated her work to researching and learning everything there is to know about jealousy. We start the episode unpacking what jealousy is, including the difference between envy and jealousy and if jealousy can be healthy. We discuss how to recognise signs that you're jealous, and what you can do to deal with jealousy when it comes up in relationships (because, spoiler alert, it will!). We also talk about the misconceptions of jealousy and issues with how we talk about it as a society. You can find Ally on Instagram and her website. As always, you can find more of Sextras on Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and our website. Email us at [email protected], leave us an anonymous message on our website, or DM us with any questions or dilemmas you have, or tell us what you want to hear before the end of the season. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

For our third episode of Pride month, Honey is joined by relationships editor Daniella Parete to answer your queer dating and sex dilemmas and questions. We advise on everything from being pigeonholed as a top to how to dress as a femme lesbian. Please keep sending us your dilemmas! You can do so on Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and our website. Email us at [email protected], leave us an anonymous message on our website, or DM us. We'll be back next week with our final episode of Pride month, see you then! Produced, hosted, and edited by Honey Jane Wyatt. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sextras, Honey speaks to Zoe K, a sophrologist and somatic coach ‘for the girls, gays, and theys’. For as long as heterosexuality has been ‘the norm’, queer people have been forced into disconnect with their bodies, which naturally has a knock on effect on confidence.  Zoe tells us how sophrology – a blend of meditation, mindfulness, and breathwork – can help us feel in harmony with our bodies during sex again. She shares her experience being neurodivergent and a sex worker, and how those factors can also contribute to disconnect, as well as how breathwork can help get out of your mind during sex. To end the episode, Honey and Zoe discuss how sexuality and being present in your body is a radical act in a world where productivity is championed. Thanks so much for listening. You can find Zoe on Instagram, TikTok, and her website, where there are plenty of links to learn more about sophrology. As always, you can find Sextras on on Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and our website. We want to hear your queer sex and dating stories, dilemmas, and questions. Email us at [email protected], leave us an anonymous message on our website, or DM us on Instagram to get in touch. Produced and hosted by Honey Jane Wyatt. Edited by Leanne Marie Hall. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Happy Pride month! In case it wasn't clear already, we're huge fans of the LGBTQ+ community here at Sextras, so we'll be publishing an episode a week for the rest of the month. This week, Honey talks to Samuel Douek, founder of HOWL, a sexual wellness brand and queer, sex-positive rave. Samuel tells us all about his journey into starting the brand, including why he was drawn to running queer nightlife. We talk about the challenges of running a dark room and marketing a queer-friendly CBD lube in a world where sexual wellness is increasingly censored. Samuel even shares some upcoming launches and changes to HOWL raves to look out for. You can find Honey's favourite lube here, info about upcoming parties here, and follow Samuel and HOWL on Instagram to keep up with what they have coming up. As always, you can find Sextras on Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and our website. We want to hear your queer sex and dating stories, dilemmas, and questions. Email us at [email protected], leave us an anonymous message on our website, or DM us on Instagram to get in touch. Don't forget to leave a review wherever you're listening to support us! It's Pride month, don't let us down (or else...). Produced by Honey Jane Wyatt. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Happy Masturbation May! To mark one of the best months of the year (IMO) we're talking all about orgasms, and whether they need to be the goal during sex or masturbation. To start the episode, Honey talks to our deputy editor, Lucy, about faking orgasms. We discuss how the female orgasm varies from the male orgasm, and why the orgasm rates are different for women in straight relationships versus queer relationships. Honey then talks to Samantha Marshall, head of brand at Smile Makers Collection. Sam explains why the orgasm gap exists, and how that varies between sex and masturbation. We then delve into why women should take their pleasure seriously – both solo and with partners – and how we can approach masturbation more mindfully. You can find Lucy on Instagram and Substack. Smile Makers Collection has 11 incredible vibrators, and a pelvic floor device, and you can find them on Instagram, too. As always, you can find Sextras on Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and our website. Leave us a review (so I can keep getting amazing guests!) or get in touch with us at [email protected] with questions, dilemmas, or what you want to hear next. Hosted and produced by Honey Jane Wyatt. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If we're at all similar, you'll have been just as obsessed as I was with Temptation Island Season 2. It was the kind of show I had a million questions about: why would anyone go on it in the first place? What is it like to be on the show? Did the cast have any regrets? And, no shade, but the reunion didn't answer most of them. Thankfully, on this week's episode of the podcast I got to sit down with Kai Stone, one of the singles on Temptation Island Season 2 (of 'duh' fame) to talk all about why he went on the show, whether he enjoyed it, and the truth about dating on camera for a reality TV show. You can find Kai on Instagram or TikTok @kaistone808. As always, you can find Sextras on Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and our website. Leave us a review (so I can keep getting amazing guests!) or get in touch with us at [email protected] with questions, dilemmas, or what you want to hear next. Hosted and produced by Honey Jane Wyatt. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Happy Lesbian Visibility Week 2026! On this week's episode, I'm joined by Katie, founder of Labeless, a queer sex toy company. Katie tells me all about her latest release (hint: it's a sapphic sex toy) and we jump into why labels are sometimes problematic when it comes to lesbian sex. I ask Katie what kinds of sex toys can be used during lesbian sex, and how beginners or couples can start to integrate sex toys more in the bedroom. Thank you so much to Katie for joining! Labeless is on Instagram or you can shop the full collection here. You can find more of Sextras on our Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and website. Leave us a review or get in touch with us at [email protected] with questions, dilemmas, or what you want to hear next. We'll see you in a couple of weeks! If you like reality TV, you'll want to stick around for this one. Hosted and produced by Honey Jane Wyatt Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Internet feminism has latched onto a long-contested debate: can you work in porn and be a feminist? In this episode, Honey is joined by Cat, the head of creative, community at education at female-led porn company Ersties, to mull it over. They talk about what it's really like working for a female-led porn company, how it made Cat realise she wanted to date women, what the state of the porn industry is like today, and whether you can really be a feminist and work in porn. You can find Cat on Instagram and Ersties on their free SFW website or paid platform, and on Instagram and TikTok. You can find more of Sextras on our Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and website. Leave us a review or get in touch with us at [email protected] with questions, dilemmas, or what you want to hear next. We'll see you in a couple of weeks with our next episode ahead of Lesbian Visibility Day. See you then! Produced and hosted by Honey Jane Wyatt. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This episode we’re joined by sex and relationships educator, coach, and sexologist, Amari Leigh to talk about how you can have better luck in sex and dating.  Everyone’s in a situationship nowadays, and no one’s f*****g! (We don’t have to tell you, we’re sure). If you need a little extra helping hand, Amari joins to give us her dating and sex tips. Thanks for listening! You can find Amari on her admin website or her sex coaching website. As always, you can find us on Instagram, TikTok, Substack (where you can find an extended version of this episode) and our website. Get in touch with us there or email us at [email protected] with your questions, confessions, or what you want to see next. See you in a couple of weeks with the next episode. Byeeeee. Hosted and produced by Honey Jane Wyatt Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Want to win a free sex toy? All you have to do is follow us on Instagram and leave a review of the podcast wherever you're listening or become a paid subscriber to our Substack. For just £6 a month you'll get access to: extended podcast episodes, bonus episodes, exclusive features and essays, biweekly newsletters, and a community chat. Send us a screenshot of your submission to [email protected] or our Instagram DMs. Submissions close 31 March. Must be based in EU or UK to enter. A carefully curated post-break-up Instagram profile. A £3.5k wedding videographer. Shit-talking your ex on TikTok. We're obsessed with appearances and (guess what?!) it's impacting our relationships. In the first episode of the series, Honey was joined by relationships editor Daniella Parete Clarke to talk about how we're all policing each others' behaviour. This week Dani comes on the pod again to talk about the flip-side of that: how we're all performing for an imaginary audience. We start the episode by looking at Guy Debord's theory of the spectacle, and how it's showing up in politics, the workplace, our obsession with looksmaxxing, and our sex and relationships lives. We unpack why we can't stop putting on a show on dates, and why it's dangerous to force vulnerability and pleasure instead of just feel it. Thank you for listening! You can find us on Instagram, TikTok, and Substack (where we have tons of articles about sex and relationships and exclusive content), or contact us via our website to get involved in the conversation or tell us what you want us to talk about next. Got a sex/relationship/friendship-related confession or dilemma? Submit it anonymously here and we'll make a whole episode or write an article just for you. In this episode we reference: Guy Debord's The Society of the SpectacleThe inevitable rise of gooning, Cosmopolitan UKThe Good Squad, Harper'sThe relentless rise of impossible male beauty standards, The GuardianThe Unreal Spectacle of Trump's Authoritarianism, NYTI did no work for a year and no one noticed, Leyla Kazim, SubstackThe secret power of oversharing: How saying too much became the key to getting ahead, The IndependentTimothée and Kylie really need you to know they're still together, DazedHinge's D.A.T.E reportTill DVD release do us part: how far will Margot Robbie and Jacob Elordi take their Wuthering Heights showmance?, The GuardianI do? The rise and rise of the absurdly long engagement, The IndependentIs It Just Us? Or Are Engagement Rings Getting Bigger? Cosmopolitan USSince When Did Break-Ups Get So Public?, Vogue Hosted by Honey Jane Wyatt and co-hosted by Danielle Parete Clarke Music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Not to sound conspiratorial or whatever, but Big Tech doesn't want us to talk about sex on social media. But it's not just sex, and specifically pleasure, that's not allowed. Women's health content, LGBTQ+ issues, and sexual wellbeing is also not allowed – especially not when it's posted by marginalised community. So let's get into it: in this episode we paint a picture of the breadth of digital suppression, and why exactly we all need to be talking about it more. We speak to co-founder of campaign group CensHERship, Clio Wood, about what's happening to women's health content creators, as well as Kalila Bolton, co-founder of sexual wellness and education platform SheSpot, and Amari, a sex coach and virtual assistant, about their experience with having their accounts shadowbanned or paid ads removed. We look at why this censorship is happening and its impact, and ask porn historian Noelle Perdue whether legislating against sexual content online is the most effective approach. Thanks for tuning in, if you enjoy the episode please leave us a review wherever you're listening! Subscribe to our Substack to make sure you never miss an episode or an article, get involved in the conversation, and let us know what you want to hear next. You can find us on Instagram, TikTok, and our website, or get in touch with us via email [email protected] with what you want to hear next. You can find more on our guests below: CensHERship on their website, LinkedIn, or InstagramSheSpot on their website or InstagramAmari on Instagram or her websiteNoelle Perdue on her Substack. In this episode, we frequently reference: CensHERship's 2025 White Paper'Algospeak and performing for the alforithmic imaginary' in DazedNoelle's Substack post: 'Are you 18 or over? Are you my mother? Are you my sexy surveillance state?' Contact us with questions about other sources used! Hosted by Honey Jane Wyatt Music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If there's one aspect of sex that's severely misunderstood, it's kink. From 50 Shades of Grey misrepresenting it as being non-consensual and all about pain, to the stigma of openly associating with any kind of desire that's not ✨mainstream✨ it can be a little intimidating to consciously decide to engage in kink for the first time. And not least because there's so much information out there that, as a beginner, it can be easy to feel overwhelmed and wonder if your desires even count as kink at all. Well, never fear, because in this episode we're joined by the wonderful Gigi Engle to discuss everything you need to know about kink as a beginner. We start the episode answering some listener questions (to access more subscribe to our Substack @sextras) before jumping into why we need to talk about kink (hint: because more people engage in it than you realise, and it can be dangerous if you get it wrong!). Gigi tells me about her own journey into kink and explains what a kink actually is, and what it's not (ie. it's not just BDSM and foot fetishes). We look at how power dynamics come into it, and why they're not as scary as they might sound, how to know what kinks you're into, and what the most common kinks, or kink-related fantasies, are. To help you stay emotionally and physically safe when practicing kink, Gigi advises us on how to bring up your kink to a partner, and what steps you can take together before even thinking about exploring it in the bedroom – or wherever else you might want to. Thanks so much for listening! You can find Gigi on her Instagram, website, or Substack, and buy her book from the Common Press or your favourite indie bookshop near you (or Am*zon if you must!). We've changed our name on Instagram to @s3xtrasworld (more on this next episode), but as always you can find us there, on our website, TikTok, or subscribe to our Substack (pretty please!). Don't forget to review us wherever you're listening and we'll miss you until next time 💋. Hosted by Honey Jane Wyatt Music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's no secret talking about sex can be awkward – that is, if you get round to doing it at all. But what with a lack of sex education, the fact that pleasure for women and LGBTQ+ people is basically completely ignored, and not to mention the rise of conservatism, it can be almost impossible to know what to say and how to describe your pleasure. That's where sexual confidence is crucial. This week, we're joined by Dr Tara Suwinyattichaiporn, the dating expert on Channel 4's Celebs Go Dating, host of the Luvbites podcast, and professor of sexual and relational communication to to help us build the vocabulary for talking about sex, desire, and pleasure — but without the cringe, don't worry. We start with a conversation about how sexual confidence shows up outside the bedroom, how it's different from sexual self-esteem, and what you can actually do to feel more confident expressing your desires (hint: practice helps). Dr Tara then talks us through her sexual profile quiz. A part of her recent book How Do You Like It? A Guide for Getting What You Want (In Bed) the quiz offers 16 sexuality 'types' – or rather, practical terms you can use to communicate with your partner. Whether you're new to having sex, exploring your pleasure, or just talking about it with your partner, we're here to offer some hope! With a little time, effort, and introspection, learning how to describe what turns you on is possible, and it can take you from having someone touch nowhere near your c**t (not speaking from experience or anything...) to multiple, mind-blowing orgasms. We hope you enjoy the episode. If you want to hear more from Dr Tara, you can follow her on Instagram or TikTok. She has a ton of resources available on her website, and her book is available to buy at major retailers like Amazon, Barnes and Noble (US) and Waterstones (UK). Go check it out! To share your own experiences with talking about sex, you can get in touch with us on Instagram or TikTok, our website, email us at [email protected]. Two podcast episodes a month not enough for you? Fairsies, but don't worry – you can subscribe to our Substack for bonus episodes, exclusive articles about sex and relationships, and a subscriber-only chat to get all the tea on our sex and dating lives. ⏩ Had enough of me yapping? Skip to 14m50 to hear my interview with Tara. 📖 For some extra reading, you can find the Cosmopolitan article I mention here (you'll need an Apple News subscription, FYI). Read Sextras Magazine's profile of Dr Tara here. Hosted by Honey Jane Wyatt Music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.