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Welcome to Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast! I'm your host Michelle Panning - intimacy alchemist AKA your love, sex, and relationship bestie, trigger queen, and founder of my signature program The Connected Woman. I get it, you're done being left on read, getting ghosted and being caught up in a cycle of attracting emotionally unavailable men. Let's be real - you have NEEDS. You deserve it all, you deserve to feel worthy and confident. You deserve a fulfilling love life. For years I was going through the same experiences with men over and over again that left me feeling confused, anxious, and pissed off. I silenced myself in dating and relationships because I was terrified of being judged, rejected, and abandoned. I just wanted a meaningful relationship and thought I was doing all the right things. But none of it was working. I knew I couldn't continue to repeat the same cycle with different men. Something had to change. I decided in that moment that I was going to finally work on healing my own wounds and work on myself, so that I could experience a beautiful and fulfilling relationship. I decided to put myself first. And now, with this podcast, I want to share with you the exact internal work strategies that I did to get to a place of confidence, peace, and worthiness. You can kiss ALL of your worries and limiting beliefs around love goodbye. Are you ready? Grab your favorite glass of wine and let's get to work, because it is time to reclaim your self worth babe. For more information about the podcast, or other ways you can work with me, visit: www.michellepanning.com I would love to connect with you more on social media! You can find me at: IG: @michellepanning Website: michellepanning.com

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The End of an Era... (and a little life update)

2026/05/31

WORK WITH MICHELLE FOR THE LAST AND FINAL TIME INSIDE THE CONNECTED WOMAN: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN for the LAST AND FINAL LIVE round. A course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Episode 246: I Ignored My Own Advice… and It Landed Me in Hospital

2026/04/13

WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Episode 245: You're Not In Love With Him. You're In Love With His Potential.

2026/04/09

In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationships, I’m unpacking why so many women fall in love with potential instead of the person actually in front of them. You didn’t fall for who he was, you fell for who you believed he could become. And then you spent months or years trying to close the gap between the two, investing in the version of him you hoped would eventually show up. We talk about the fixer pattern, why being drawn to emotionally unavailable men often comes from a deeper belief that love has to be earned, and how focusing on someone else’s potential keeps you from being fully seen and chosen as you are. If you’ve ever stayed in a relationship believing someone would eventually become the person you needed them to be, this episode will challenge that pattern and show you what it looks like to start choosing reality instead of possibility. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Episode 244: You're Not Stuck. You're Loyal To The Wrong Version Of Yourself.

2026/03/30

In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationships, I’m talking about the identity you have to grieve before you can actually have the relationship you say you want. So many self-aware women spend years healing, learning their patterns, and understanding their wounds… yet still find themselves repeating the same dynamics. What if the issue isn’t that you haven’t healed enough, but that part of you is still loyal to the old version of yourself? We unpack how healing can sometimes become a way of staying stuck, why insight alone doesn’t create change, and the hidden loyalty many women have to the identity they built around their pain. If you’ve been doing the work for years but still feel caught in the same relationship patterns, this episode will challenge you to look at what you might still be holding onto and the version of yourself you may need to let go of to finally move forward. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Episode 243: Why You're Still Single When You've Done All The Work

2026/03/24

In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationships, I explain the difference between high standards and high walls and why so many self-aware women end up confusing the two. You’ve done the work, you know your worth and you refuse to settle. But if every potential relationship keeps ending the same way, or you find yourself screening men out before anything really begins, it might not be discernment. It might be protection. We talk about how fear can disguise itself as standards, why some women quietly shift from anxious attachment into avoidant patterns after doing “the work,” and why calm, consistent men can feel boring when your nervous system is used to intensity. If this sounds familiar and you’ve been telling yourself you just haven’t met the right person yet, this conversation will challenge you in the best way. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Episode 242: The Cost of Being The Girl Who Has It All Together - An Interview With Bia Zutis

2026/03/16

In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationships, I’m joined by one of my clients, Bia Zutis to talk about the perfectionism-to-self-worth journey so many high-functioning women quietly find themselves on. From the outside she looked successful, self-aware, and like she had everything handled. But underneath that? She was exhausted from performing, holding herself to impossible standards, and feeling like she had to love by being “better.” We talk about the gap between how she appeared to be doing and how she actually felt, the perfectionism that was quietly driving her self-abandonment, and the moment she realised the way she’d been relating to herself was costing her more than she thought. She shares what started to shift during the work, the patterns she began to see clearly, and why she chose to keep going deeper through The Connected Woman, retreats, and now The Experience. If you’re the woman who looks like she has it all together but secretly feels exhausted from trying to get everything “right,” this conversation will hit home. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Episode 241: Why You Can’t Let Go (Even When It’s Hurting You)

2026/03/09

In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationships, I’m unpacking trauma bonds, why smart, self-aware women stay in relationships that are hurting them, and why leaving can feel terrifying even when you know it’s unhealthy. This isn’t about weakness or lack of awareness, it’s about nervous system conditioning and intermittent reinforcement keeping you hooked. We talk about why intensity gets mistaken for intimacy, how relief after pain becomes addictive, and why information alone doesn’t break trauma bonds, attachment does. I break down the difference between love and survival wiring, why self-blame keeps you stuck, and how to start detaching from the fantasy without shaming yourself or bypassing the grief. The real question isn’t “Do I feel bonded?”, it’s “Is this person actually safe for me?”. If you realise you’ve been trying harder in relationships that require you to abandon yourself, this episode is your permission slip to stop.WORK WITH MICHELLE:Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-womanSign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experienceCONNECT WITH MICHELLE:Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanningWebsite: http://www.michellepanning.com

Episode 240: Healthy vs Unhealthy Needs in a Relationship

2026/03/02

In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationships, I’m breaking down the difference between healthy needs and unhealthy needs in love. Most couples aren’t fighting about the dishes or the sex or the late nights at work, they’re fighting to feel respected, safe, valued, and prioritised. We’re talking about respect, emotional safety, consistency, accountability, affection, and repair and how those differ from control, reassurance-testing, avoidance, mind-reading, and over-functioning. Having needs doesn’t make you needy, it makes you human. But when you don’t understand your needs or you try to meet them through fear and control, intimacy starts to erode.If you listen and realise you’ve been fighting about symptoms instead of the real issue underneath, good. That’s not failure, that’s awareness. When you can separate healthy needs from anxious coping, you stop weaponising love and start building something secure.WORK WITH MICHELLE:Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-womanSign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experienceCONNECT WITH MICHELLE:Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanningWebsite: http://www.michellepanning.com

Episode 239: 11 Ways Low Self-Esteem Ruins Relationships

2026/02/23

In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationships, I’m breaking down 11 ways low self-esteem quietly sabotages intimacy. It doesn’t just look like insecurity, it hides behind being chill, low-maintenance, and “the bigger person.” If you’re smart, self-aware, and still stuck in the same patterns, this one will be a mirror.We’re talking about conflict avoidance, over-giving, suppressing needs, reassurance-seeking, jealousy, withdrawing, and staying too long in unhealthy dynamics. Low self-esteem doesn’t just affect how you feel about yourself, it shapes how you show up in love. If you listen and think, “F*ck… this is me,” take that as information, not shame. Nothing is wrong with you, but your self-concept may be running the show and until that changes, your relationships won’t. WORK WITH MICHELLE:Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-womanSign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experienceCONNECT WITH MICHELLE:Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanningWebsite: http://www.michellepanning.com

Episode 238: 9 Ways Anxious Attachment Is Sabotaging Your Relationship (And You’re Letting It)

2026/02/16

In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationships I’m breaking down nine ways anxious attachment quietly sabotages intimacy, even when you’re self-aware, emotionally intelligent, and “doing the work.” This episode is for the woman who knows she’s anxious, she’s read the books, can articulate her wounds and understands her triggers. But her relationships still end the same way. This isn’t about understanding yourself better, it’s about taking responsibility for how you show up in you relationships.We’re looking at the behaviours that feel justified, loving, and understandable… but are actually pushing connection away underneath the surface. Because awareness without responsibility doesn’t change anything. It just gives you better language to explain the same patterns. If you’re ready to stop explaining your patterns and start changing them, this episode will shift somethingWORK WITH MICHELLE:Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-womanSign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experienceCONNECT WITH MICHELLE:Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanningWebsite: http://www.michellepanning.com

Episode 237: How to Grow From a Girl to a WOMAN

2026/02/09

In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationships I break down the pattern I see in so many smart, capable women who look like they have their life together on the outside, but keep self-sabotaging in love, money, habits, and commitment. We’re talking about the psychology of the eternal girl and why staying in potential feels safer than choosing realityI unpack how this shows up in your day-to-day life: inconsistency, avoidance, fantasy-based dating, fear of commitment, money sabotage, weak boundaries, and the addiction to beginnings. I’ll tell you why responsibility isn’t punishment, it’s the doorway to self-respect and emotional maturityThis episode is about shifting from “almost” into embodiment, moving from girlhood patterns of avoidance, people pleasing, and waiting to be chosen, into grounded woman energy rooted in self-leadership, standards, follow-through, and nervous system safety. If you’re ready to stop rehearsing your life and actually live it, this one is your wake-up call.WORK WITH MICHELLE:Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-womanSign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experienceCONNECT WITH MICHELLE:Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanningWebsite: http://www.michellepanning.com

Episode 236: The Beginner’s Guide to Shadow Work

2026/02/02

In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationships, I break down what shadow work actually is, why so many self-aware women still feel stuck after years of healing, and how hidden parts of you quietly run your relationships, boundaries, and self-worth.Shadow work isn’t about fixing yourself, it’s about understanding the parts of you that learned to people please, shut down, over-explain, or self-abandon to feel safe. I explain that these patterns weren’t random, they were survival strategies formed when love or safety felt conditional. This is why behaviour is never the real issue, triggers point to the core wound underneath, and insight alone isn’t enough to create change.This episode is about moving from managing your patterns to leading yourself, by building awareness, nervous system safety, and embodied action, so you’re no longer run by old fears of rejection or abandonment, and can show up in relationships from self-connection, safety, and confidence.WORK WITH MICHELLE:Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-womanSign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experienceCONNECT WITH MICHELLE:Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanningWebsite: http://www.michellepanning.com

Episode 235: How to Heal an Abandonment Wound

2026/01/26

In this episode of Unfck Your* Relationships*, I break down what an abandonment wound actually is, why most women aren’t truly healing it, and how it keeps running the show in relationships, even when you’re self-aware, educated, and have “done the work.” An abandonment wound isn’t about being needy or dramatic. It’s a nervous system injury formed through inconsistency, emotional unpredictability, and love that came and went. And more often than not, the deepest wound isn’t that people leave, it’s that you learned to leave yourself to keep connection. I unpack why triggers feel so intense, why panic isn’t about the present moment, and how self-abandonment shows up as over-giving, over-explaining, and staying in relationships that hurt because being alone feels worse. This episode is about shifting from managing your wound to actually healing it, by building self-connection, emotional safety, and a nervous system that no longer needs chaos to feel love. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Episode 234: What Actually Happens When an Avoidant Realises They’ve Lost You

2026/01/19

In this episode of Unfck Your Relationships, I break down what actually happens when an avoidant realises they’ve lost you and why this moment is so often misunderstood and romanticised. Avoidants don’t experience breakups the same way anxious or secure people do. Instead of immediate grief, they often feel relief as the fear of closeness shuts off. It’s only later when distractions stop working that the loss truly hits. I unpack the avoidant timeline, from the relief phase to the delayed grief, why breadcrumbing often follows, and why missing you does not automatically mean growth or emotional availability. This episode isn’t about getting them back. It’s about understanding the dynamic so you can stop waiting, stop self-abandoning, and start choosing secure love without needing someone else to realise your worth. WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-womanSign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experienceCONNECT WITH MICHELLE:Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanningWebsite: http://www.michellepanning.com

Episode 233: 11 Habits That INSTANTLY Make You Hotter (that have nothing to do with looks)

2026/01/12

In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationship, I break down why attraction has very little to do with how you look and everything to do with how you move, respond, and relate to yourself. The most magnetic women aren’t performing for attention… they’re grounded, regulated, and deeply self-trusting. I’m sharing the 11 habits that instantly make you more attractive not in a “pick me” way, but in a secure, embodied, unf*ckwithable way that completely changes how you’re treated in relationships. Here’s what I unpack in this episode: • Why chasing kills attraction and what to do instead • How emotional regulation makes you magnetic • The power of silence, boundaries, and standards • Why honesty early builds connection • How staying connected to yourself changes love WORK WITH MICHELLE: Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience Sign up for THE AWAKENING RETREATS now before they sell out. These aren't just retreats. These are where we turn your inner chaos into GOLD: https://michellepanning.com/awakening CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

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Pd Mutti 2026/03/11

Who would have believed?

I would not have thought I would get so much ON POINT information from a much younger woman whose life was very different from mine & yet DAMN! On poi...

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Julia Wonder 2025/06/30

Okay

The content is great but it felt like over 50 percent of the episode was just her trying to sell me a program. I obviously understand you have to prom...

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AP Warrior Lady 2025/03/03

Empowering Content

I listen to this podcast often for the last two months and every time I listen I feel empowered and have a new sense of strength and lessons learned t...

★★★☆☆

Sushi lover 83 2025/02/26

Lotsa pitching

I really like this podcast but the promotion of coaching is way too much. Maybe at the beginning and a reminder at the end as a cta at the end but I’v...

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andthatshowyoudothescarn 2025/02/14

Where have you been all my life

I listen while I’m training for my half marathon, golly I wish I found this earlier

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sonica_s 2025/02/14

Not it

I listened to a couple of episodes and maybe I didn’t give it enough time, but the sheer unacknowledged privilege that comes from this podcast is insa...

★★★★★

mayalalalas 2025/02/11

reality check

this podcast literally smacked me in the face with reality and I LOVE IT!

★★★★★

ssuummc 2025/01/24

I wish I could rate this podcast a million stars

I have shared this podcast with ALL of my friends. I found this podcast a month or two ago, I haven’t made it through all of the episodes but WOW. Mic...

★★★★★

Thaibodian 2024/12/21

Learn how to love yourself and listen to these episodes

I started listening to this podcast this month 12/2024 and have gone back to past episodes. I’m in that phase in my life to find self love self care a...

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who8mycakes 2024/11/19

Unqualified and Shallow

Another unqualified podcaster masquerading as a therapist/life coach peddling shallow confirmation-biased advice. Nothing but trite platitudes and ove...

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