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In this final episode of Season 5, we expose the warning signs of domestic violence-related murder-suicide with Danielle Edwards, Victim Services Coordinator for Gwinnett County Sheriff's Office, and Kylee Elliott, Senior Program Coordinator for Training and Engagement at the Georgia Commission on Family Violence. Using a Georgia case study as a point of reference, we explore events leading up to the final act of violence, the ripple effects on surviving families and communities, and a practical approach to postvention that helps people heal and reduces future harm. This episode discusses homicide and suicide. We also dig into what the data can tell us and what it still misses. National figures point to roughly 1,200 deaths a year in murder-suicide incidents, with intimate partner violence making up most cases, and firearms playing an outsized role. Beyond the statistics, lie instances of coercive control, suicide threats, and financial abuse long before any physical violence is visible. We take an honest look at why survivors may not label their experience as abuse, how systems can unintentionally shut doors when shelters are full or safety planning is skipped, and why “just leave” ignores the realities of money, housing, isolation, and fear. We also focus on what happens after the unthinkable. Murder-suicide can leave a wide circle of survivors including children, extended family, coworkers, and witnesses who face traumatic grief, stigma, and overwhelming practical needs. Danielle and Kylee explain postvention and why they treat postvention as prevention, including Georgia’s survivor-driven Support for Survivors of Murder Suicide Project, clinician networks, support groups, and a freely shared response protocol communities can adapt now.

According to SPARC, stalking is a pattern of behavior directed at a specific person that would cause a reasonable person to fear for their safety or the safety of others, or suffer substantial emotional distress. In this episode, we sit down with stalking survivor and advocate Nicole Bialko to name what stalking really looks like and why it so often gets romanticized or minimized. Using Nicole's personal experience as a backdrop, we walk through warning signs, documentation, and what it takes to keep pushing for safety when the system feels hard to navigate. We also get practical about respecting our own intuition and about what matters most when you’re trying to stay safe: understanding stalking as a pattern of behavior that causes fear or substantial emotional distress, and building documentation that clearly shows that pattern. Nicole shares tips for creating a simple timeline, saving texts and emails, capturing time-stamped photos or video, and gathering witnesses when possible. We also talk about the reality of reporting stalking, including moments of support from law enforcement and the frustration that can hit once a case moves into the court system, where communication gaps and plea deals can leave survivors feeling minimized.

In this episode author and survivor Jessi Bixler shares the story behind her memoir, The Story We Share: How One Sexual Assault Rippled Through a Family and Their Fight for Healing, recounting the assault that occurred in her home in 2013, the immediate aftermath, the failures of the criminal justice system, and her family’s decision to pursue civil accountability. The conversation explores how trauma can fracture memory, disrupt relationships, and leave loved ones unsure of how to help. Jessi reflects on the role her husband, parents, brother, and friends played in her recovery, and how writing the book opened long-overdue conversations that ultimately strengthened many of those relationships. She also discusses her advocacy work with MOCSA, the importance of believing survivors, and why silence can deepen isolation. Jessi’s message to survivors is clear and compassionate: find your person, seek support, and know that there are people and organizations ready to believe you.

What if fear isn’t weakness… but wisdom? In this powerful episode of Genesis the Podcast, Maria MacMullin sits down with Genesis CEO Jan Langbein to unpack a truth we don’t talk about enough: for women experiencing abuse, fear is not an overreaction—it’s a signal. A signal that something isn’t safe. A signal that control is taking hold. A signal that it’s time to listen. Together, they explore how fear shows up long before physical violence, why it’s so often dismissed by others, and how that dismissal can deepen isolation and self-doubt. But this conversation doesn’t stop there. It also reveals something extraordinary: fear can be the beginning of courage. Through real stories from Genesis, you’ll hear how women—while still afraid—take brave, life-changing steps toward safety, healing, and hope. Because bravery isn’t the absence of fear… it’s what we do in spite of it. 💜 If you’ve ever questioned your instincts, this episode is for you. 💜 If you want to better support someone who may be afraid, this episode is for you. 💜 And if you believe we must do better at listening, believing, and responding to domestic violence—this episode is for all of us.

Fear is one of the most powerful personal safety tools we have, because it’s often the first hint that something is off. In this episode, we sit down with expert and author Laura Frombach to talk about fear as useful data, not drama. We break down the difference between being afraid and being aware, and we share a simple, practical approach to situational awareness using the military-style color codes (green, yellow, orange, red). The goal is not to live in panic, but to stay calm, notice sooner, and act earlier when something feels wrong. From Laura we also learn: How offenders test boundaries.How women are socialized to “keep the peace,” and why that conditioning can be dangerous in real time. How intuition is your nervous system's “hardware,” and how social rules can act like “software malware” that teaches you to talk yourself out of your own instincts. Practical safety planning ideas, boundary-setting scripts, and a reminder to look out for others when we can.We also name a truth we never want to lose sight of: people can do everything right and still be harmed, and responsibility always belongs to the perpetrator, not the victim.

Fear can keep someone alive and it can also keep them trapped. To explore this topic, we sit down with Ruth Guerreiro, Chief Clinical Officer at Genesis Women’s Shelter & Support, to unpack how abusers weaponize fear to establish power and control, ensure compliance, and cut off escape routes long before anyone sees a bruise. In this episode, we break down the real-world mechanics of coercive control: threats, monitoring, intimidation, isolation, social engineering, and the quiet ways an abusive partner interferes with a survivor’s ability to function day to day. Ruth explains why fear can be present without physical violence, what hypervigilance can look like (constant check-ins, “proof” photos, changing hobbies, always scanning for mood shifts), and why the question “why didn’t she leave?” ignores the fact that danger often escalates during and after leaving. We also revisit survival responses to danger: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn, plus how abusers and even outsiders can misinterpret those responses in courtrooms, families, and communities. You will hear practical, compassionate next steps, including safety planning ideas for friends and family, and how to reach confidential support even if you are not ready to make a big decision.

Fear can hit in a split second, before we have words for it, and then we’re left wondering why we reacted the way we did. With this episode we begin our 4 part series about fear by getting specific about the science. With Jordyn Lawson, Chief Residential Officer at Genesis Women’s Shelter & Support, we unpack what fear really is in the brain and body, why it’s tied to survival, and how the amygdala works like a smoke alarm that can shut down the thinking brain when it senses danger. We talk through fight, flight, freeze, and fawn, including why “freeze” can feel like total paralysis and why memory can get fuzzy during terrifying moments. We also explore the difference between real threat and perceived threat, and how trauma can make the nervous system extra sensitive to cues that resemble past danger. For survivors of domestic violence, that context matters: fear often tracks patterns, and instinct can be protective even when other people dismiss it. From there, we move into PTSD and complex PTSD, the impact of chronic fear on adults and children, and the behaviors that can grow out of survival mode, like anger, avoidance, people-pleasing, isolation, perfectionism, and dysregulation. We close with practical nervous system regulation tools you can use right away, including simple grounding, box breathing, five-finger breathing, cold water, and paced movement, plus the mindset shift we keep coming back to: fear isn’t the problem, what happened is.

Roblox isn’t just a game, it’s a massive social world where kids can meet strangers, build friendships, and chat in real time. That sounds normal for online play, until you understand how quickly “friendly” interactions can turn into grooming. In this episode, we sit down with Susan Jones Knape, founder of A Case for Women, to unpack how predators allegedly use Roblox to target children and why the platform’s kid safe marketing can leave families with a false sense of security.  We walk through the grooming pattern step by step: how trust is built through gameplay, how offenders pretend to be a peer, and how many children are pushed to move conversations off Roblox to apps like Discord or Snapchat where monitoring is harder. Susan shares what families report after the fact, from disturbing sexual conversations and image sharing to cases that escalate into in person meetings, assault, and trafficking. We also talk about scale and moderation, repeat offenders, and the emerging multidistrict litigation that aims to force change.  Most importantly, we focus on practical protection for parents and caregivers. You’ll hear clear warning signs to watch for, how to set safer household boundaries like keeping gaming out of bedrooms, and what to do if you suspect exploitation. Susan explains why reporting to federal resources matters, including the FBI Internet Crime Complaint Center and the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children.

Navigating court-ordered visitation can be overwhelming for children, especially when they're required to spend time with predatory parent. Many kids cope by masking their true emotions, staying compliant during visits, and then unraveling once they're safe at home—often exhibiting behaviors like anger, withdrawal, people-pleasing, or even sudden aggression. These responses leave protective parents feeling confused, guilty, and drained. In this episode, we review Dr. Christine Cocchiola’s insightful children's book, Every Moment of Every Day, and delve deeper into what’s really going on beneath the surface for mothers and children navigating custody orders. Dr. Cocchiola, a clinician, protective parent, and author, sheds light on how coercive control intentionally disrupts a child’s attachment to the safe parent through shame, manipulation, and false narratives. She explains the four stress responses—fight, flight, freeze, and fawn—and why children may mimic an abuser, appear "fine" when they're not, or act out upon returning home. The conversation offers practical strategies for navigating transitions, such as co-regulation instead of interrogation, empowering children with choice, and using rhythmic, relational activities like music, dancing, trampoline play, drumming, or pillow forts to help them release stress. We also discuss Dr. Cocchiola’s “three Ps” for managing high-stakes handoffs and acknowledge the difficulty of healing when court-mandated contact persists. Still, Dr. Cocchiola reminds us that meaningful recovery is possible through informed, protective parenting and intentional repair. If you’re concerned about child safety, family court custody battles, trauma-informed parenting, or the impact of coercive control, this review and discussion of Every Moment of Every Day will equip you with critical insights and actionable steps for supporting children through challenging transitions.

This week we talk with Jessica Smith Wilcott, sister of Officer Jillian Smith of the Arlington Police Department about how one fateful domestic violence disturbance call changed two families forever. In this episode, Jessica shares the story of what happened to Jillian that December night in 2010, who Jillian was beyond the badge, and how remembrance turned into action can transform law enforcement responses to domestic violence. Our conversation moves from stark national statistics to the on-the-ground reality of officer safety and victim safety. Jessica details the shifts since Jillian’s death: two-officer responses to domestic calls, pairing women and men on scene, and departments across Dallas–Fort Worth weaving Jillian’s story into training and recruitment. We examine what still needs work—more officers on high-risk calls, trauma-informed de-escalation, reliable advocacy referrals, and dedicated pathways at police departments where victims can seek help without fear. Along the way, we talk about representation in law enforcement, why diverse recruiting builds trust, and how belief and patience can open the door to lifesaving disclosures. Jessica also offers a deeply personal look at living with loss: the hard holidays, the role of faith and church community, and the small daily practices—photos, stories, saying her name—that keep Jillian present for the family. She reflects on the offender’s actions and the complex relief of being spared a grueling trial, and she describes an enduring connection with the girl Jillian saved that proves legacy can be a living promise. If you care about domestic violence prevention, officer safety, advocacy partnerships, and the human heart behind policy change, this conversation will stay with you.

In this episode we visit with Texas-born singer-songwriter and single mother of four Erin Duvall to unpack how she turned a season of survival into soulful songs, purposeful routines, and a foundation that champions single parents year-round. In this lively conversation Erin traces her path from a childhood spent chasing any stage to a grown-up return to the studio with new clarity. She breaks down the collaborations that sharpened her sound—Dallas legends the Baker Brothers, Grammy-winning producer Keith Thomas, and Nashville writer-producer Brian White—and how those sessions shaped two creative eras: the relational healing of her album One by One and the hard-won selfhood in her new single Back to Me. Along the way, she shares how she protects her kids’ privacy while still letting them share the joy of performance when they choose. The heart of our conversation lands at home. Erin explains why nothing is off limits at her kitchen table, how clear boundaries make kids feel safe, and why a strong village—grandparents, trusted neighbors, dependable carpools—turns chaos into momentum. She offers practical advice for single parents and busy creatives: start now, even small; guard your yes; trade FOMO for JOMO; and make time for rest nonnegotiable. We also spotlight the Twice the Love Foundation, Erin’s platform that raises awareness and resources for single parents through concerts, community events, and partnerships with on-the-ground organizations. If you’ve wondered how to pursue a dream while raising a family as a single parent and still show up for others, this story delivers both inspiration and a blueprint. Listen for the mindset shifts, the daily systems, and a preview of the new release Back to Me that captures life after the storm.

What if the moment you finally said “enough” became the spark that built your legacy? We sit down with DeShandra (Monet) Cullins—a survivor, mother of five, entrepreneur, and author of You Good, Sis?—who turned lifelong trauma into a blueprint for healing, purpose, and generational change. From escaping intimate partner violence to walking into a shelter with her daughters, she shares the precise steps that moved her from survival mode to building a beauty brand that began in a women's shelter and grew into a platform for women's empowerment. Dishandra opens up about complex PTSD and why it’s often misread as “just depression.” She breaks down how chronic trauma reshapes a nervous system, how EMDR helped her separate triggers from identity, and how simple daily structure—miracle mornings, hydration, journaling—became anchors that outlast motivation. We also spotlight the insidious tactics of financial abuse and the practical pivots that counter them: turning tax refunds into startup capital, learning credit repair and business credit, and using honest landlord letters to rebuild housing stability. At the heart of the episode is ROOTS, her five-part framework—Reveal, Own, Open, Turn, Sustain—that integrates inner work with business strategy. You’ll hear how bold lipstick shades named for power and courage helped her reclaim her voice, why “Monet” was armor and “DeShandra” is integration, and how the You Good, Sis? book and journal teach check-ins that prevent burnout before it breaks us. If you care about survivor advocacy, faith-informed healing, entrepreneurship, or building legacy from hard beginnings, this story will change how you think about resilience. Learn more about DeShandra and her work at www.deshandracullins.com or www.discoveringdeshandrasolutions.com and on Instagram at @discovering.deshandra

Genesis experts Ruth Guerreiro and Jordyn Lawson join the conversation to unpack models that explain domestic violence and provide real, practical solutions for survivors and those who support them. Together we walk through the Cycle of Violence framework as well as the Power and Control Wheel derived from the Duluth Model to understand their origins, purpose, and applications.  Our discussion also grounds these theories in real-world practice: how survivors can identify escalation cues, why a “violent episode” isn’t limited to physical harm, and the safety planning steps that can reduce risk at each stage—at home, during separation, and long after. We explore the emotional work of healing—naming love bombing, processing betrayal, and rebuilding trust in one’s instincts. Throughout the conversation, we push past outdated terms to language that validates lived realities and sharpens judgment: manipulative kindness over “honeymoon phase,” impact over intent, control over conflict. Whether you’re a survivor, ally, or professional, you’ll leave with clearer frameworks, practical examples, and a more intentional way to talk about and respond to abuse.

What if the most powerful weapon in an abusive relationship isn’t a fist, but a login? We sit down with Jordyn Lawson, Chief Residential Officer at Genesis Women’s Shelter & Support, to unpack how financial abuse and coerced debt quietly trap survivors—even long after they leave. From paychecks diverted into hidden accounts to loans opened under threat or deception, money becomes a leash: it governs housing, food, credit, and the ability to move toward safety. Jordyn shares what frontline work reveals: the overwhelming prevalence of financial control, the shock of discovering debts for cars or even boats survivors never saw, and why credit scores can become gatekeepers to a new home or job. We connect the dots between personal harm and public cost—billions lost to intimate partner violence, millions of workdays missed, and the chilling number of workplace homicides tied to abusers. Most importantly, we map the way forward: how to spot red flags, how loved ones can support without minimizing, and how workplaces should prepare to protect employees targeted by abusers. There’s real hope in policy and practice. We highlight legal reforms that recognize coerced debt as identity theft in Texas, how survivors can challenge fraudulent accounts, and why advocacy partnerships streamline credit repair with minimal cost. We also dig into financial literacy strategies that restore control—pulling credit reports on safe devices, securing independent accounts, documenting coercion, and planning for deposits and child care. Along the way, we confront enduring myths about who works, who controls the money, and why “everyone fights about finances” is not a free pass for abuse. If you care about safety, equity, or simply want to help someone you love, this conversation gives you clear tools and next steps. Listen, share with a friend, and help us push for policies and workplace practices that put safety first. If this episode resonates, subscribe, leave a review, and tell us: what change would most improve financial safety for survivors?

We open the new year by exposing myths that keep victims unheard and abusers protected: the “nice guy” persona, the anger excuse, the belief that leaving solves everything. With Ruth Guerreiro, Chief Clinical Officer at Genesis Women’s Shelter & Support, we walk through the mindsets that drive coercive control and the covert tactics that slip past friends, families, courts, and even clinicians. In this episode, Ruth breaks down recognizable patterns and behaviors of abusive men. From the demand man and Mr. Right to the drill sergeant, the player, and the terrorist, she shows how entitlement fuels different strategies with the same outcome: fear, isolation, and control. We explore social engineering and how a polished public image becomes a weapon in custody disputes and community spaces. You’ll also hear why anger management misses the point, how “high conflict” labels mask abuse, and what post‑separation abuse looks like when contact is enforced through parenting apps, daily calls, and court orders. We also get practical. Learn how financial control can hide behind “I’ll handle the bills,” why the silent treatment harms more than shouting, how reckless driving is used to terrify, and how location sharing becomes surveillance.