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How do female cycles affect intimate relationship dynamics? How can we honor and respect the ancient wisdom and the natural cycles of the female body and integrate that embodiment into our modern masculine-driven western society? Kayla Alexander offers workshops on reclaiming the cyclical wisdom of the female body. She involves cultivating relationships with the natural living world i.e. the elements, with plants, and with our own unique ancestry.  Kayla has spent the last 8 years exploring and understanding her own body and how her cycles impact every other aspect of her life. She has taken a deep dive into exploring both somatic and spiritual traditions such as yoga, Vidanta, meditation, Tantra, organic farming, and circle work. In this episode we explore the 4 primary phases of the female cycle and how it can impact the dynamics of your intimate relationship. Resources mentioned in this episode: Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni WeschlerWomancode or In the Flo from Alisa Vitti Visit Kayla’s website here and follow her on Instagram @daughterofwater_

Have you ever dreamed of being with multiple partners simultaneously? Polyamory is supposed to bring more love to our relationships. So why does it often turn into the nightmare of polyagony? In this episode we explore the different styles of polyamory, we reflect on Jessica Fern’s book Polysecure, and we share our personal stories of polyamorous relationships.  Our free handout is available for download here as you listen in: https://relationshipalkemy.com/free-downloads/

We did not expect this episode to become so personal and emotional as it turned into a live couple’s coaching session… Katrina Vaillancourt is a relationship coach and a master at empathy. She has created a card game to practice empathy with yourself or with your partner so you can use empathy when challenging situations arise. What is empathy? Why is it so important? And how can you use empathy to come back to connection fast, even if you have strong disagreements with your partner? This is what you’ll learn in this episode as Katrina shares the moving story of how she came up with this card game of empathy and saved her relationship with her 9-year-old son. Listen as she coaches us live on practicing empathy to stay connected through difficult times. Get Katrina’s Empathy card game here: https://www.lovesmartcards.com

Today we have such a juicy topic with a sexy presenter… let’s talk about sex and expanding pleasure! What if you could unlock your unrealized potential and access altered states of orgasms? Leah Piper is a Tantra teacher and a sex geek. She combines her 20-year experience of Tantra with the latest scientific research to refine the female pleasure map. In this episode, you will learn about: Why your brain is your biggest sex organThe 4 major neural pathways all women can have access toThe clitoral orgasmThe vaginal orgasmThe difference between the G-Spot and the Sacred SpotUnderstanding Amrita, squirting and female ejaculationWhat to think about anal exploration If you enjoyed Leah’s talk, follow her and get her free video training on “Never Miss another clitoral orgasm again!” here: https://www.moreloveworks.com/free-gift

If you experienced attachment wounds in your early childhood, chances are you may be playing them out in your present relationships. What happened to you when you were young is not your fault. But, if you want to get out of self-sabotaging patterns, it’s important that you become aware of how early attachment wounds can influence your relationship dynamics. The Attachment Theory has become the center of modern therapy modalities. Here are the 4 attachment styles: Secure AttachmentAvoidant AttachmentAnxious AttachmentDisorganized Attachment In this episode, we share some personal examples to illustrate this theory and help you better relate to this concept. Our free handout is available for download here as you listen in: https://relationshipalkemy.com/free-downloads/

What does the Patriarchy have to do with Intimate Relationships? That’s the question we asked Nicky Dyal, an expert and coach on Detoxing from the Patriarchy. She has a very practical handout you can read called “301 Tip-Offs to Spot Patriarchy and Toxic Masculinity in Action”. The handout is divided in 3 sections: When Toxic Masculinity is ExternalizedWhen Toxic Masculinity is InternalizedReactions and Ways of Avoiding Toxic Masculinity Nicky is not saying that men are bad; her list is an extremely useful tool to detect potential blind spots, and it applies to both genders. What has been normalized for you? What are the ways you cope with toxic shame and bullying? Tune in to this eye-opening episode on “Detoxing from the Patriarchy”. Download Nicky’s free handout from her website at https://www.thunderandsage.com, under the Free Tools tab.

Back in 2013, my therapist said, “Love is not enough. You’ve got to address issues about power, sex, and money, otherwise, they will destroy your relationships.” She was right! Your partner, friend, or family member might say that they see you as their equal, but in tense situations, how do they treat you? Do they try to force their way on you? Power struggles can also start in very subtle ways. Do you tend to give your power away, or do you tend to unconsciously try to overpower others? If you want to nurture a thriving relationship that provides safety and deep connection, then recognizing and dissolving negative thoughts and power struggles is paramount. Tune in to this episode on Dissolving Power Struggles in Intimate Relationships. Our free handout is available for download here as you listen in: https://relationshipalkemy.com/free-downloads/

Especially in America, women are expected to have a strong masculine side: they’re expected to be high achievers, have a successful career, and be perfect parents, all while looking like fashion models and having out of this world pleasure in their sex life! But pleasure and intimacy can become elusive. There’s no action plan to figure out how to surrender into the Feminine. It’s quite the opposite. Tune in to this episode where Jordan shares her journey with orgasms and childbirth, and how she learned how to surrender into the Feminine.

Often when people want to place a boundary, they become rigid, forceful or detached. In other words, they withdraw their love. It sends out this message: “if you don’t behave the way I want you to behave, I don’t love you anymore.” That is not compassionate, it’s manipulative. There is a way to share your truth and protect your needs without force or withdrawing your love. While still loving the other unconditionally, you can place firm boundaries on behaviors that don’t work for you. Follow our 7 step formula to express your boundaries firmly, without rejecting the other. Our free handout is available for download here as you listen in: https://relationshipalkemy.com/free-downloads/

Nobody likes to be triggered. Most people run away from them, or blame others for their triggers. Yet, there’s a deeper truth about our triggers. You can get triggered at work, in your intimate relationship, or with family members. When you feel triggered, do you feel disconnected, hopeless, angry or resentful? There is an alternative. Triggers can be a chance to learn about ourselves and each other, lean in, and feel more connected! In this episode, discover a simple method that you can learn to do just that. Our free handout is available for download here as you listen in: https://relationshipalkemy.com/free-downloads/

Can Trauma Healing save your relationship? We think so! When we fall in love, it’s easy to appreciate everything about our special person. But soon enough, the inevitable differences arise, we poke at each other's trauma, and we get triggered. A couple came to therapy recently wanting to improve their communication skills. We soon realized that even though they were triggering each others, it was not really about the other person. 90% of their triggers were about past trauma. Definition of Trauma or Shadow: “A belief system that arises from an early core wound, that I still use to cope with the world.” 1. A belief system: “People are trying to take advantage of me. Life is fragile. I don’t deserve to be loved. Everybody ends up leaving me. People don’t change.” 2. An early core wound (aka trauma): A trauma can be a single, clearly defined event. Like being raped or emotionally overpowered. Or it could spread over the span of many years. My grandmother never brutalized me. But her incessant judgments over 15 years left me scared. 3. Coping with the world: This belief system has helped you cope with a difficult situation that happened when you were young and vulnerable. When similar situations present themselves into adult life, you still unconsciously use the same outdated strategies that you developed as a child. In this episode, you'll learn about: The 2 types of trauma.The therapy modalities that woks and those that don't.How to dissolve Trauma and your negative beliefs. Recommended book: No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model, by Richard Schwartz Ph.D.

Why is sexual intimacy sometimes so elusive? Television and social media show women how to look sexy and men how to appear successful. But when they meet in the bedroom, the feeling of intimacy and soul-nurturing connection can be elusive. What is the disconnect? And what can we do to reconnect? Sequoia Stafford is a sex and tantra educator, coach and therapist. She is the embodiment of a women over 50 with a thriving sexual drive. She’s on a mission to take the pain and suffering out of love and sex. She’s the bestselling author of It’s Hard!: Sexual Satisfaction Secrets to Beat ED and I'm Not Jealous: The Ethical Non-Monogamist's Guide to Free Love Relationships Without Suffering. In her Santa Cruz, CA temple, she guides couples to find reverence in moments of intimacy and challenges them in order to open doors for sacred partnerships.  Sequoia is a master healer with over 20 years of experience training coaches and individuals to reconnect with their bodies, relationships, and sexualities. A lifetime of study has allowed her to weave together the best bits from a huge range of modalities and practices, including Neuroscience, Tantra, Shamanism, and Evolutionary Psychology. Get her books for free at https://www.freelovemodel.com as well as her Top 12 Tips for Women Who WANT To Have Sex Again!