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“Your brain is constantly looking for evidence of what you already believe.” -- Meg In this episode: Why personal growth starts with understanding yourself rather than constantly trying to fix yourselfHow your nervous system develops automatic physical responses through learned experiencesHow your brain's beliefs, biases, and mental patterns influence the way you interpret the worldHow the Enneagram reveals the motivations behind your behavior and helps you recognize patterns you can change Get your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app! What if the things you've spent years trying to fix about yourself aren't actually flaws, but patterns you've learned along the way? From overthinking and people pleasing to perfectionism and defensiveness, so much of what we think, feel, and do happens automatically. And the more we try to fix ourselves without understanding why these patterns exist, the more frustrated we become. In this episode, I'm breaking down the science behind our learned patterns and introducing my Body • Brain • Behavior Method, a science-backed, soul-rooted approach to personal growth. We'll explore how your nervous system learns to react before you're consciously aware of it, how your brain reinforces existing beliefs, and how the Enneagram can help you understand the motivations behind your behavior. Plus, I'm sharing three simple ways to start recognizing your patterns so you can respond with greater awareness and intention. Connect with Meg: Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer

"You end up with what you put up with.” — Dr. Rick Diamond In this episode: How your “should story” develops from the expectations, roles, and beliefs you've inherited—and how to recognize when it's running your lifeWhy we choose familiar discomfort over unfamiliar possibilities, even when we know something isn't rightHow your inner “gatekeepers” use fear and past experiences to keep you safe, but can also keep you stuck in old patternsHow to reconnect with your “heart story,” start trusting your inner wisdom, and create a life that feels authentically yours Get your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app! What if the biggest thing standing between you and the life you actually want isn't something wrong with you, but a story you've been telling yourself about who you're supposed to be? This week, I'm welcoming back Dr. Rick Diamond, story healer, teacher, and author of There Is Nothing Wrong With You: A Guide to Story Healing. We're diving into the invisible rules, expectations, and roles we've inherited throughout our lives—and how those stories can keep us stuck in familiar patterns, even when we know something isn't right. From the fear of leaving what's familiar to the inner voices that try to keep us safe, Rick and I explore what it really means to stop living according to your “should story” and start listening to your “heart story.” We get personal about the stories we've carried, the discomfort of changing them, and why creating a life that feels authentically yours begins with telling yourself the truth. Connect with Meg: Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer Connect with Rick: Read There Is Nothing Wrong With You: A Guide to Story Healing — [Book link]Listen to Rick's first appearance on Create Your Fate — [Previous episode link]Follow Rick on Instagram

"Pain is what’s happening. Suffering is the fight with the fact that it’s happening." -- Meg In this episode: The important difference between pain and suffering—and how we often unknowingly add a second layer of suffering to painful experiences.How the gap between what is and what we think should be can keep us fighting against circumstances we cannot change.Why acceptance is not approval, passivity, or giving up—and how you can accept what’s happening while still wanting something different.How to practice acceptance when a painful situation is still happening, identify what is actually within your control, and decide what you want to do next. Get your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app! There’s an idea rooted in Buddhist philosophy that says pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional. At first, that can sound almost dismissive—especially when you’re in the middle of something that genuinely hurts. But the distinction isn’t about pretending painful things aren’t painful. It’s about recognizing what happens when we add resistance to the pain we’re already experiencing. In this episode, Meg shares a Buddhist teaching that recently helped her look at a difficult season in her own life differently. She breaks down the gap between what is and what we believe should be, why the word “should” can be a clue that we’re adding suffering to our pain, and how acceptance can help us respond to reality without approving of it, giving up, or pretending everything is okay. Connect with Meg: Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer

“The freedom isn’t getting everybody to understand you and see you the way you want them to see you. The freedom is realizing you don’t have to—and you’re still lovable.” -- Meg In this episode: Why your body can brace for rejection or conflict before your conscious mind has caught upHow old beliefs about who you are can fuel defensiveness, perfectionism, and the need for approvalWhat it means to stop trying to be a “10” and allow yourself to show up as an imperfect, human “5”How letting go of the need to be right can create more accountability, connection, and freedom in your relationships Get your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app! Have you ever noticed how quickly your body braces when someone is disappointed in you? Before you’ve even had time to think, you’re preparing for the conflict, the rejection, or the possibility that someone might see you differently. Your brain may know you’re safe, but your body remembers the old pattern—and suddenly you’re explaining, defending, or trying to prove that you’re still a good person. In this episode, we’re talking about what happens when you stop trying to prove you’re a “10” and allow yourself to be a human instead. Because you can get things wrong, disappoint people, make mistakes, and even be misunderstood without losing your worth or your lovability. When you stop bracing against the possibility of being imperfect, you create space to take accountability, let go of the need to be right, and experience what it feels like to be loved without having to prove you deserve it. Connect with Meg: Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer

“Your brain might have decided that you’re done with the feeling, but your body may still be in the middle of its response.” -- Meg In this episode: What happens in your body when you suppress an emotionSuppression vs. repression vs. healthy expressionHow unprocessed stress can affect the body over timeWhy feeling an emotion is different from feeding it Get your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app! You say you’re fine. You move on. You find the silver lining. But does that mean you actually processed what you were feeling—or did you just get really good at pushing it down? In this episode, Meg explores what actually happens in your body when you don’t allow yourself to fully feel an emotion, including why your mind can decide you’re “over it” while your body may still be responding. She shares her own realization that being a positive person sometimes became a way of avoiding uncomfortable feelings, and why learning to feel them—not feed them—completely changed the way she understands emotional health. Connect with Meg: Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer

“You don’t change your life by fixing yourself. You change your life by finally understanding yourself.” — Meg In this episode: Why your repeated behaviors usually aren’t random, and what your patterns may be helping you avoid, protect, or receiveWhy mindset and behavior work were transformative for me—but still left a missing pieceThe difference between intellectually understanding an experience and actually allowing yourself to process itHow Body • Brain • Behavior work together to help you understand yourself, make conscious choices, and create your fate Get your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app! For the 250th episode of Create Your Fate, I’m taking you back to a version of me I barely recognize anymore: unhappy in my marriage, counting down the hours at a job I hated, carrying years of unprocessed grief, and living mostly on autopilot without realizing how much of my life was being driven by thoughts, patterns, and emotions I didn’t understand. My life looks very different today, but the biggest change wasn’t getting divorced, changing careers, moving, or starting a business. It was learning how to understand myself. In this episode, I’m breaking down the three things that changed everything for me—Brain, Behavior, and Body—and how understanding each one can give you more awareness, agency, and choice in your own life. Connect with Meg: Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer

“Self-trust isn’t knowing you’re going to get it right. It’s knowing that if you get it wrong, you trust yourself to handle what happens next.” — Meg In this episode: How to recognize when you’re seeking information versus seeking permissionHow your body, thoughts, and behavioral patterns each give you different informationA simple check-in for making decisions with more self-trustHow to learn from experts without giving away your authority Get your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app! There has never been more information telling us how to live our lives—and somehow, it’s become harder to hear ourselves. Between social media experts, personal development, endless advice, courses, certifications, podcasts, and the pressure to constantly improve ourselves, it’s easy to believe that someone else must have the answer we’re missing. But what happens when learning more becomes another way of avoiding trusting what we already know? In this episode, I’m sharing a recent moment when I almost signed up for yet another course before realizing I didn’t actually need more information—I was looking for permission. We’ll talk about why we outsource our decisions, why self-trust can feel so uncomfortable, and how understanding your body, brain, and behavior can help you come back to the person who knows you better than anyone else: you. Connect with Meg: Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer

"The goal isn't to become so agreeable that everyone can like you. It's to become authentic enough that the people who do like you are actually liking you." — Meg In this episode: Why being “easy” can quietly become a strategy for earning approvalThe difference between genuine kindness and abandoning yourself to keep the peaceHow constantly editing yourself can disconnect you from your own wants, needs, and identityWhy authenticity matters when creating relationships, opportunities, and a life that actually fits you Get your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app! In today's episode, Being agreeable sounds like a good thing. You’re flexible, easygoing, considerate, and people tend to like you. But what happens when being “easy” starts requiring you to edit who you are? In this episode, we’re unpacking the hidden cost of being overly agreeable and the thousand tiny ways we can sacrifice our authenticity in exchange for approval. We’ll explore why we learn to scan the room before checking in with ourselves, why other people’s approval never fully satisfies us when they’re approving of an edited version, and how losing touch with your authenticity can leave you living a life that doesn’t quite feel like yours. We’ll also talk about a simple shift you can start practicing right now: consulting yourself before you consult the room. Connect with Meg: Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer

"Don't settle simply because you're uncomfortable waiting." — Meg In this episode: Why rejection doesn't always mean you're on the wrong pathThe difference between seeking relief and choosing alignmentHow scarcity quietly convinces us to lower our standardsWhy self-worth is built by staying true to yourself—even when life hasn't rewarded you for it yet Get your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app! After being laid off from SoulCycle, I auditioned for another cycling studio feeling confident in what I had to offer. When I didn't get the job because my expectations and experience weren't aligned with what they were looking for, I found myself questioning something so many of us experience after rejection: Should I have asked for less? In this episode, we're exploring why it's so tempting to settle when life doesn't immediately unfold the way we hoped. We dive into the psychology behind why our brains crave certainty, how scarcity can convince us that "almost" is good enough, and why the waiting season is often where our self-worth is tested the most. If you've ever questioned your standards after hearing "no" or wondered whether you should accept less just to move forward, this conversation will remind you that sometimes the bravest thing you can do is stay true to yourself while you wait for what's actually aligned. Connect with Meg: Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer

“The reframe didn’t magically make me capable. It made me willing to find out what I was capable of.” — Meg In this episode: Recognize when “I’m bad at this” has become an identity instead of a factUnderstand how comparison can make being a beginner feel like being a failureLearn why action often creates confidence—not the other way aroundReframe the way you talk about yourself so you’re more willing to try Get your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app! How many things have you decided you’re bad at simply because you weren’t immediately good at them? We’re quick to label ourselves—bad with money, bad at working out, not creative, not flexible, terrible at public speaking—and then we unknowingly start making choices that reinforce those labels. In this episode, we’re looking at how the way you identify yourself can shape what you’re willing to try, why being a beginner can feel so uncomfortable as an adult, and how comparison can convince you that you’re failing when you’re actually just learning. You’ll learn a simple mindset shift for separating your current ability from your identity, why you don’t have to wait for confidence before taking action, and how giving yourself permission to try can reveal capabilities you may have already written off. Connect with Meg: Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer

"Stop asking, 'Am I on the right path?' Start asking, 'What is this path trying to teach me?'" -- Meg In this episode: Discover why feeling uncertain doesn't mean you're headed in the wrong direction.Learn how to stop comparing your timeline and start focusing on your direction.Reframe setbacks, detours, and disappointments as part of your journey—not proof you're off course.Walk away with one simple question that can bring more peace and clarity to every season of life. Get your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app! Have you ever wondered if you're making the right decisions, if you're behind in life, or if you've somehow wandered off the path you were meant to be on? In this episode, I share a simple experience from a walk in Bali that completely changed the way I think about purpose, timing, and uncertainty. We'll explore why so many of us spend our lives waiting for a sign that we're "on the right path," when the truth might be that we've been walking it all along. If you've been navigating a career change, heartbreak, a fresh start, or simply questioning what's next, this conversation will help you trade certainty for trust—and see your journey through an entirely new lens. Connect with Meg: Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer

“You can care deeply about people without emotionally carrying them.” -- Meg In this episode: The difference between empathy and emotional responsibilityHow childhood conditioning creates emotional hypervigilanceWhy people pleasing leads to emotional exhaustionPractical tools to stop absorbing everyone else’s emotions and protect your peace Get your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app! If you constantly feel emotionally drained after conversations, anxious when other people are upset, or responsible for keeping everyone around you emotionally okay, this episode is for you. Today we unpack why so many people absorb other people’s emotions and how hypervigilance, people pleasing, and emotional monitoring can quietly disconnect you from yourself. We also talk about one of the most powerful mindset shifts for emotional freedom: “I am OK even if you are not OK.” This episode will help you understand the difference between compassion and emotional responsibility, how boundaries protect your nervous system, and how to stay connected to yourself without carrying the emotional weight of everyone around you. Connect with Meg: Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer

"What if the thing frustrating you right now is actually the opportunity you've been asking for?" -- Meg In this episode: Discover why asking for more often leads to discomfort instead of immediate resultsLearn how to recognize opportunities for growth when they show up disguised as setbacks, delays, and difficult decisionsUnderstand why the same patterns keep repeating in your life—and the one question that can help you finally break the cycleLearn how to stop settling for old versions of yourself and make choices that align with the life you're trying to create Get your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app! This episode is Part 2 of last week's conversation about getting laid off from SoulCycle, but don't worry if you missed it—you can jump right in here. After sharing my story, I found myself asking a question that kept coming up: Did I accidentally manifest getting laid off? I had been asking for more freedom, more time, more impact, and more opportunities to create... so was this unexpected ending somehow connected to the things I'd been calling in? Then a friend asked me something that sent me down an entirely different rabbit hole: "Are we supposed to be careful what we ask for?" This was so interesting to me, I just had to share this with you! In this episode, we're exploring why life sometimes feels like it's giving us the exact opposite of what we want, why we may be tested before our manifestations take place, and why the thing frustrating you right now might actually be the opportunity you've been asking for all along. Connect with Meg: Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer

"Life knows what to do better than we do. Our job is to simply let go and receive each moment with an open heart and then dance skillfully with it." -- Meg In this episode: Learn how to process disappointment without getting stuck in bitterness, blame, or resentmentDiscover how the Drama Triangle keeps us trapped as the victim, villain, or hero in our own storyUnderstand the difference between resisting what happened and surrendering to what isLearn how to find possibility, gratitude, and freedom when life doesn't go according to plan Get your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app! Recently, I was laid off from SoulCycle after seven years with the company. While this episode shares that story, this conversation isn't really about losing a job. It's for anyone who has recently been blindsided by life—whether that's a layoff, breakup, friendship ending, unexpected change, or simply finding yourself in a chapter you never planned for. If you've been asking yourself, "What is happening right now?" this episode is for you. Together, we'll talk about what to do when life hands you something you didn't choose. I'll share the emotions that came up for me, the lessons I learned about acceptance and surrender, and why staying stuck in blame keeps us disconnected from our power. Most importantly, we'll explore how to stop feeding fear, resentment, and self-pity—and start creating space for possibility, growth, and whatever comes next. This is Part 1 of a special two-part series. Resources Mentioned: The Drama Triangle episode on Apple and SpotifyThe Power of Maybe episode on Apple and SpotifyYamas & Niyamas book (surrender)Letting Go book (acceptance) Connect with Meg: Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer

“Confidence is not what creates courage. Courage is what creates confidence.” -- Meg In this episode: Why your brain fights change even when you WANT itThe real reason confidence comes AFTER courageHow identity is built through tiny repeated actionsThe neuroscience behind reinventing yourself and becoming someone new Get your free 7-day trial to the FateCreator life coaching app! Reinvention isn’t about becoming a completely different person overnight. It’s about understanding how your brain, nervous system, and identity work together — and learning how to slowly build evidence for a new version of yourself. In this episode, I break down why change feels uncomfortable, why your brain clings to familiarity, and why discomfort does not automatically mean you’re failing. We also talk about the biggest misconception people have about confidence. Most people think confident people are naturally fearless, but the truth is confidence is built AFTER courageous action. If you’ve been waiting to feel ready before changing your life, this episode will completely shift the way you think about growth, fear, identity, and becoming the person you know you’re capable of being. Connect with Meg: Free 7-day trial to unlimited coaching tools!Follow Meg on InstagramFollow The Create Your Fate Podcast on InstagramTake your FREE Enneagram TestSubscribe to Meg's newsletterDisclaimer