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Thordis Elva is a writer, speaker, and activist from Iceland who specializes in violence prevention and has shaped national and international policy on digital rights and gender equality. In 2017, she gained worldwide recognition for her book South of Forgiveness, a memoir about her sexual assault and subsequent journey to healing in which Thordis collaborated with her perpetrator, making her the first rape survivor in the world to publicly do so. It has since been published across four continents, with the accompanying TED talk having been viewed over 10 million times. Host: Katie Koestner Editor: Evan Mader Producers: Catrina Aglubat and Emily Wang Image Credit: Eva Schram

Thordis Elva is a writer, speaker, and activist from Iceland who specializes in violence prevention and has shaped national and international policy on digital rights and gender equality. In 2017, she gained worldwide recognition for her book South of Forgiveness, a memoir about her sexual assault and subsequent journey to healing in which Thordis collaborated with her perpetrator, making her the first rape survivor in the world to publicly do so. It has since been published across four continents, with the accompanying TED talk having been viewed over 10 million times. Host: Katie Koestner Editor: Evan Mader Producers: Catrina Aglubat and Emily Wang Image Credit: Eva Schram

This week, we sit down with three more incredible activists from across the country, who share their experiences and expertise in advocacy.  Gia Lanteri is a recent graduate of Fordham University, where she studied Communications and Culture with a minor in Creative Writing. At Fordham, she served as the President of The Women’s Network, leading initiatives on professional development, equality, and mental health. She’s built professional experience in public relations, supporting technology and venture capital clients with media strategy and storytelling, and is now preparing to apply to law school. Nicholas Bloodworth currently serves as the Director of Counseling Services at Campbellsville University while maintaining an active clinical practice as a Marriage and Family Therapist. He is in the final year of his PhD in Marriage and Family Therapy with a specialization in children and adolescents, which has been a defining step in his professional journey. Throughout his career, he's worked in trauma care, crisis intervention, group therapy, and clinical supervision. He is passionate about advancing the field through evidence-based practice, leadership, and training the next generation of clinicians. Molly Harris received a Bachelor of Arts from Juniata College where she worked as a Student Advocate and Peer Educator in the Office for the Prevention of Interpersonal Violence. She has worked in several roles at a domestic violence agency, including Shelter Advocate, Legal Advocate, and Director for Coordinated Community Response. While advocating for domestic violence survivors, she also earned a Master of Science in Victimology from the University of Portsmouth (UK). Currently, she is the Director of Interpersonal Violence Prevention & Advocacy at Bucknell University. Host: Katie Koestner Editor: Sydney Tiller Producers: Catrina Aglubat and Emily Wang

Kristina Haight is a passionate advocate, healer, and mother who brings deep compassion and authenticity to her work. Her life was forever changed after surviving a random act of violence, a home invasion in which a stranger broke in and committed a robbery and sexual assault. That traumatic event marked the beginning of a long and courageous healing journey, ultimately leading her to become a hospital and hotline advocate for other survivors, holding space during some of their most vulnerable moments. Most importantly, Kristina's journey led her back to herself—one that has led her to a life she is now fully living, enjoying, and proud of. Host: Katie Koestner Editor: Evan Mader Producers: Catrina Aglubat and Emily Wang

"How do you forgive without an apology?"  Vulnerable due to neglected parenting, Becky is targeted by bullies and abusers. Falling victim to a powerful school superintendent, her journey seeking safety and connection takes her through trials and tribulations. She finally finds healing through a technique called brainspotting; hear more about her story and her healing in her book Anger, Alcohol, and Healing through Brainspotting.  Becky Nulle is a full-time student and published author. She lives in a rural area in Wisconsin with her Doberman and eight ducks, as well as the best husband in the world. She spends each day waking up thinking of something to be grateful for. Host: Katie Koestner Editor: Evan Mader Producers: Catrina Aglubat and Emily Wang

Faced with sexual violence at 10, Farhan used personal reflection and healing to push past societal stigmas and cultural barriers to break his silence, consciously committing to living bravely and authentically. Today, Farhan Manjiyani is a compassionate, relentless, brave leader living his vision of ending sexual assault in the world by being the permission slip for others to begin their own healing. Proudly identifying as an Ismaili Muslim with deep roots in the South Asian community, he leverages his personal and cultural experience to engage audiences with vital conversations around male sexual trauma. His latest short-term goal is to perfect his butter-chicken recipe. Host: Katie Koestner Editor: Evan Mader Producers: Catrina Aglubat and Emily Wang

For Donna Besel, words are her life. A dynamic writer, storyteller, and educator, she shares incredible insights from a lifetime of survivorship and reckoning, and how her truth rocked her small hometown. Donna's best-selling memoir, The Unravelling: Incest and the Destruction of a Family, provides an honest glimpse into the tolls of sexual violence on survivors and communities.  Host: Katie Koestner Editor: Evan Mader Producers: Catrina Aglubat and Emily Wang

Leaving a successful football career for a new calling, Don McPherson has spent the last few decades challenging classic notions of masculinity. Giving us the ins and outs of 'locker room talk' and male-only spaces, he shares insights from years of lived experience and activism.  Host: Katie Koestner Editor: Evan Mader Producers: Catrina Aglubat and Emily Wang

Fighting to be believed in the face of a famous abuser, Stacey Pinkerton left her entire life to put her experiences behind her. But as news of Bill Cosby's arrest reaches her decades later, she knows she must speak her truth. Now an advocate fighting tirelessly to make sure abusers are held accountable, she has been featured in several award-winning documentaries such as "We Need To Talk About Cosby" and "The Case Against Cosby".  Host: Katie Koestner Editor: Evan Mader Producers: Catrina Aglubat and Emily Wang

Our guest today is Danika, a Canadian author, traveler, and dance instructor who traded a conventional career path in sciences for a life of exploration and creativity. Moving abroad to teach internationally led her to unexpected opportunities—like teaching ballet in Iraq. Her travel memoir, 'One Year and a One-Way Ticket', shares her journey of self-discovery through solo travel and breaking expectations. Her work has been featured in Intrepid Times, Go World Travel Magazine, and more. Today, she’s here to share her insights on solo female travel safety, adventure, and making space for authenticity—welcome, Danika! Host: Katie Koestner Editor: Evan Mader Producers Catrina Aglubat and Emily Wang

Clare Awada is a survivor of childhood grooming and sexual abuse. Now a wife, mother of 3 boys, and forensic/SANE RN, Clare is working on spreading awareness of childhood sexual abuse and the red flags of grooming by sharing her story. Host: Katie Koestner Editor: Evan Mader Producers: Catrina Aglubat and Emily Wang

Growing up disconnected from her culture, Cher Obediah details her path to reconnect with the missing part of her indigenous background. She reflects on how colonialism and generational trauma affected her in an abusive relationship. Now, she helps others turn their “pain into purpose.” Host: Katie Koestner Editor: Evan Mader Producers: Catrina Aglubat and Emily Wang

Tammy Valicenti, LICSW, is an international psychotherapist and speaker. With expertise in trauma recovery, she has achieved remarkable success in co-transforming various forms of trauma and has developed Transformation Soulution™, a cutting-edge synthesis of Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing Therapy (EMDR), Internal Family Systems (IFS), and other evidence-based therapies. This approach accomplishes in weeks or months what traditional psychotherapy achieves in years. Tammy practices modalities of healing she has personally benefited from, and invites you to do the same. Host: Katie Koestner Editor: Evan Mader Producers: Catrina Aglubat and Emily Wang

"I feel that the glass is both half full and half empty." Rowena Chiu is a former assistant to Harvey Weinstein. In 1998, she was sexually assaulted by him at the Venice Film Festival and was coerced into signing a non-disclosure agreement (NDA), which silenced her for over twenty years. In 2017, a New York Times journalist came to her home and doorstepped her husband of over a decade, revealing information about the assault and NDA. Rowena was featured in the subsequent NYT investigation, but she insisted on remaining anonymous. In 2019, she finally broke her story on the NBC Today Show, live in front of three million viewers. Rowena's story was featured in both the book and the movie, SHE SAID. She has given over 700 media interviews across four continents, for international news outlets such as ABC, BBC, CBS, and NBC, and has testified at the House of Commons, the Massachusetts State House, and the State Of The Union. Rowena is writing a memoir, a novel, and a screenplay, in addition to working as a global #MeToo activist, advocating for the rights of those who are oppressed or voiceless, in churches, schools, universities, and workplaces around the world. Host: Katie Koestner Editor: Evan Mader Producers: Catrina Aglubat and Emily Wang

Brutally raped by a stranger in a hotel parking garage, Kira Wahlstrom was faced with a choice: remain nameless or speak her truth. Choosing the path of justice, she sues the hotel for failing to protect her from this man, who had raped an employee just 11 days prior. Kira elects to have her face and name associated with the case, and after 6 years of fighting, she wins, setting an incredible precedent in the state of Massachusetts. Now a survivor advocate, Kira continues to share her story and fight for survivors, and is currently working on a film about her case.  Host: Katie Koestner Editor: Evan Mader Producers: Catrina Aglubat and Emily Wang