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The Problem: You finally sit down to rest, but your brain won't let you. The guilt kicks in. The "shoulds" start screaming. You feel lazy, unproductive, unworthy. What's Really Happening: This isn't a character flaw, it's conditioning. Your nervous system learned that rest = unworthiness, and now it's stuck in overdrive. The Solution: You can retrain your brain so rest feels peaceful instead of anxiety-inducing. In This Episode: Why rest feels "wrong" (spoiler: it's your wiring, not you) The dark side of having a strong work ethic How to check in with your nervous system about rest A quick practice to identify what's driving your guilt Why transformation feels awkward before it becomes elegant Try This: Imagine taking the rest of today off. Just rest. What comes up? Anxiety? Guilt? That's just data and information for us to learn from, and you can rewire it. The Goal: Make unworthiness feel awkward and rest feel natural. This Episode is For You If: You equate your worth with productivity, struggle to take breaks without guilt, or you're on the verge of burnout. Ready to rest without the guilt? Book a free discovery call with me!   I'm here for you. I love you. I'm cheering for you, Dani   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

Ever said yes, when you knew wanted to say no? In this episode, I'm getting a wee bit vulnerable about my own fall back into the rescuer trap with my parents. I thought I had this figured out. I didn't. And in the past this 'always say yes and sacrifice for others,'  cost me my health. I literally burned out my adrenals years ago because I couldn't say no.  Here's what we're diving into: Why boundaries feel impossible at times when you've been taught that sacrifice = love The rescuer trap and how it shows up in your family, your church, your everyday life Generational patterns that are stealing your peace  The permission you've been waiting for: Just because you CAN doesn't mean you SHOULD How over-giving destroys the very people you're trying to help ✨ You get to have limits as a human being. Full stop. ✨ The more you prioritize your own health, the more you'll have to give to others. ✨ Ask yourself: Am I doing this because it's needed, or because I need to be needed? If you're tired of feeling stuck in cycles of over-giving, resentment, and guilt, you don't have to figure this out alone. Here's your plan: → Ready to further your healing journey, and step into your purpose more deeply? Book a free discovery call and let's map out your next move together. Glad you're here, Dani 🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

Struggling with guilt when you prioritize self-care? Learn practical ways to move from survival mode to thriving, honoring your God-given needs without apology. Ready to feel more fulfilled in life? If you're ever wanted to become a Life Coach, now’s the time to look into what it’s all about!  Book your free discovery call where we'll explore your dreams and see if  “Messy Life Transformation Coaching Certification" is a fit for you.  These calls are super chill, just me with my coffee, having a real conversation about your life and where you want to go. 👉 Schedule your free call at here! If you're drowning in everyone else's needs while yours stay buried, this episode is your permission slip to stop. I almost talked myself out of beach yoga this morning. The guilt showed up fast, “shouldn't I be working?” But here's what I've learned after years of running on fumes: you can't pour from an empty well, and God didn't design you to survive on exhaust. In This Episode: [00:03:15] Why Self-Care Feels Like Rebellion The guilt Christian women carry when prioritizing their needs, and the theology that actually supports self-stewardship. [00:08:42] The Frog in Boiling Water How we adapt to dysfunction without realizing it—and why you don't need different circumstances to start thriving (Isaiah 43:18). [00:14:20] Practical Self-Prioritization Time blocking, identifying your actual needs, scheduling white space, and giving yourself permission to figure it out as you go. [00:22:37] External Processing for Overthinkers Finding safe spaces to get the noise out—journaling, coaching, therapy, trusted community. [00:28:15] Your First Responsibility Why stewarding yourself isn't selfish—it's obedience. Key Truths: ✨ "Your first responsibility to the Lord is to steward YOU. How can you steward everyone else if you're just a dry well?" ✨ The Sabbath wasn't created for God—it was created for YOU. Rest is holy. ✨ Progress over perfection. Move yourself up one burner at a time. ✨ While you still have breath in your lungs, God is not done with you. Your 24-Hour Challenge: Do something radical for yourself. Beach yoga. Breakfast without phones. A walk where you just exist. Whatever you need—lean into it. Ready to Stop Running on Empty? If you're tired of survival mode and ready for a safe space to process what's actually going on, let's talk. Book your free discovery call where we'll explore where you're stuck, whether coaching is right for your season, and how to move forward. These calls are super chill, just me with my coffee, having a real conversation about your life and where you want to go. 👉 Schedule your free call at AHolyMess.com Remember: You're not selfish for taking care of yourself. You're being obedient to how God designed you to live. 💙 Cheering for you, Dani   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

Hey friend!  Today we're talking about nervous system regulation. If that sounds "woo" to you, I get it. But this is biblical, and science is catching up. What We're Covering: When I got sober, I was SO dysregulated. I'd go straight into fight or flight over everything. I had to learn to catch myself and regulate instead of constantly reacting from trauma. The Messy Life Transformation Coaching Certification: 6 months of YOUR transformation first. Yes, you'll learn to coach others, but it starts with you. We can't pour from an empty well. Key Truths: You're not too much AND you're enough (Ephesians 2:10 - you're God's masterpiece) Taking care of yourself isn't selfish—it's the most selfless thing you can do The world will dysregulate you over and over. You have to regulate yourself internally You deserve a seat at the table, not standing in the corner in the dark This Certification Is For: People who want to build a coaching business Bible study leaders who want real transformation (not just head knowledge) Anyone tired of having all the answers Those called to help others but don't know where to start Whatever you've done or whatever's been done to you—God's not done with you. Shame, limiting beliefs, and fear do not get the final say.   📅 Ready for see your next steps? Book your FREE complimentary call here   Peace, Dani   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

Ready to explore your purpose more?! Schedule your complimentary call here.    Just got back from Hawaii (boat sickness and all), and here's the thing: Nobody remembers three problems ago. I'm sharing about what it's like when life feels heavy even while good things are happening. Life keeps moving, and we have to learn to move with it. Holding both the hard and the good at the same time.   In This Episode: Why you might struggle to dream again after disappointment How healing happens even when circumstances aren't perfect The "whack-a-mole" reality of problems (and why that's actually hopeful) Recognizing what's blocking your ability to feel joy Being honest about your life without toxic positivity   What You'll Walk Away With: The truth is, life gets WAY better as you heal, even if your circumstances stay messy. If dreaming feels impossible, there's healing work to do Resilience matters more than having it all together.   Ready to step more into your purpose?   Schedule a call with me and let’s connect about what could possibly be next for you.    Book your complimentary call here.  You're not alone in what you're walking through. Keep showing up.  Love, Dani   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

Hello friends! I'm thrilled to bring you this spontaneous episode - we planned it this morning and hit record this afternoon because when inspiration strikes, you go with it! I'm joined by the wonderful Nici to discuss my upcoming life coach certification program and what led her to join the inaugural group. If you've been considering life coaching, questioning whether certification is necessary, or want to understand what becoming a transformational coach actually involves - you're in the right place. Episode Highlights Why Now? The Vision Behind This Program My motivation for creating this certification (hint: it's the program I needed when I started) Three pathways for life coaches: full-time practice, side income, or ministry enhancement Building a legacy by equipping coaches who'll reach people I never could What Sets This Program Apart Personal one-on-one coaching sessions with me across 6 months Bi-monthly small group calls (90-120 minutes each) Buddy coaching with recorded sessions that I review and provide feedback on Ready-to-use laminated frameworks and worksheets for client sessions A comprehensive experience combining certification, mentorship, transformation, and business development Nici opens up about her path from emotional exhaustion to self-care through the Feel Better Journey, including: Why individual attention and mentorship mattered in her choice Working through concerns about investment and timing The concept of serving from fullness rather than depletion How this represents legacy-building for her as well Program Overview Timeline: 6 months Includes: 6 individual coaching sessions with me Twice-monthly group sessions (90-120 minutes) Buddy coaching with personalized feedback Laminated coaching frameworks and materials Proven client programs available (optional to use) An intimate, carefully selected cohort community Ideal For: Those called to facilitate transformation in others People wanting to channel their experiences into meaningful work Anyone seeking professional skills alongside profound personal development Faith-oriented coaches desiring a comprehensive approach (mind, emotions, spirit, body) Is This Your Next Step? Consider these questions: Do people naturally seek your guidance and you want better tools to serve them? Are you sensing a call to deeper involvement in people's lives? Do you want to create a business, generate income, or enhance your service? Are you prepared to do transformative personal work while learning to facilitate it for others? If these resonate, let's connect! Schedule Your Exploratory Call! I'm personally selecting this founding cohort since they'll help shape the program's future. I'm looking for committed individuals who'll create great group synergy. Let's have a no-pressure conversation about your situation, aspirations, and whether this certification aligns with your goals. SCHEDULE YOUR CALL HERE We'll discuss: Your background and what draws you to coaching Which pathway resonates with you Any concerns or questions on your mind Your readiness for this 6-month commitment Program investment and flexible payment plans   Peace, Dani   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

Hi! If you've been feeling that pull toward something more, like maybe God's been whispering about using your story to help others… Oh friend, this one's for you. I'm officially launching something I've been dreaming about for YEARS: a Life Coach Certification and Training Program—and I want to tell you all about it. In today's episode, I'm sharing: Why I'm finally doing this (and how this dream went from "too big for me" to "okay God, I trust You") What makes a phenomenal life coach (spoiler: it's all about asking really good questions that help people find their own answers) How life coaching changed MY life first before I ever helped anyone else—these tools transformed my own healing journey Why your story matters and how it's meant for His glory, not your shame The "why not you?" question that shifted everything for me (your past doesn't define or limit your purpose) What makes this certification program different and what we'll cover over 6 months together Details about the training—one-on-one coaching with me, group sessions, practice coaching with real feedback, my signature tools and frameworks, plus an optional in-person retreat celebration Why I'm only taking 12 people in this first cohort (I want to pour into your well) Who this might be for—if you feel made for more, called to help people heal, or curious about stepping into your purpose This is a gentle, heartfelt episode about: Not despising small beginnings (God works with your mustard seed of faith) Stepping into what scares you because He equips you Using the very things that broke you to help others break free Trusting that your journey—all of it—has prepared you for this 👉 Book Your FREE Discovery Call If you're feeling called to help others heal, transform, and step into their purpose—and you're ready to explore if life coach training is your next step—let's connect. Let's explore together if this is your next step. You don't need it all figured out—just bring your open heart and your curiosity. Schedule Here!   Holiday Reminder: The holidays can be beautiful AND difficult. Make time for yourself and your soul. Remember what this season is about: Jesus being birthed into our lives and all He wants to birth through YOU. Prayer Request: Pray that God brings the right people to this training and that I steward this opportunity well!   Peace, Dani   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

👉 Book a Discovery Call If you’re ready for your next season to be filled with purpose and to help you get your spark for life back, let’s connect. You can schedule a complimentary call with me here. Hi! If you’ve been feeling pulled in a thousand directions, overwhelmed by expectations, or stuck in the old habit of people-pleasing… oh friend, this one’s for you. This week, I had to make a really big decision: Do I fly to a business retreat in sunny Florida that I’ve been looking forward to for six months… or do I stay home for my son’s state semifinal football game? Both were good. Both mattered. And honestly? It sent my nervous system into a spiral. In today’s episode, I’m sharing: What it’s like to make decisions when you’re overwhelmed How I calmed my nervous system enough to hear God clearly Why we cannot make wise choices from anxiety, guilt, or pressure How people-pleasing used to run my life (and almost broke me) A simple, biblical way to connect with your intuition and the Holy Spirit The exact phrase that finally brought me clarity and peace Why choosing alignment over approval is spiritual maturity And how to stop doing “all the things” so you can stay human, whole, and grounded This is a gentle, practical episode about letting go, honoring your limits, and trusting that God guides you when you get quiet enough to listen. 👉 Book a Discovery Call If you’re entering 2026 knowing something has to change, and you’re craving peace, clarity, and emotional alignment, let’s connect. You can schedule a complimentary call with me here. Peace, Dani 🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram   Key topics:  Christian women and overwhelm, decision-making with God, Holy Spirit guidance, faith-based nervous system regulation, how to stop people-pleasing, Christian life coaching, emotional burnout, intuition and faith, Christian boundaries, doing less with clarity, spiritual alignment, Christian women’s mental health, overwhelm in motherhood, faith and anxiety, finding peace in busy seasons.  

Happy Thanksgiving! Glad you're here, Dani   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

What if healing isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass… but learning how to find peace while it’s still raining? While driving down the California coast in a torrential downpour, with full sunshine pouring through the windshield, God gave me a powerful epiphany that changed the way I see healing, peace, and inner resilience. For years I believed healing meant fixing circumstances, praying away the struggle, or finally getting to an “easier” season. But sometimes the rain doesn’t stop. What can change is our capacity, our perspective, and our ability to hold both suffering and joy at the same time. This episode is especially for you if you’re tired, overwhelmed, spiritually disconnected, or waiting for life to calm down before you let yourself breathe again. Scripture: Hosea 2:15 — “I will make the Valley of Achor a door of hope.” Joel 2:25 — “I will renew the years the locusts have eaten.” Song: “Scars” by I Am They Quote: “You can’t change what happened in the past, but you can change how you frame it. We’re offered a range of different lenses: acceptance, forgiveness, and gratitude.” — Noelle Oxenhandler If this episode resonated and you’re ready to find peace in the storm, not just after it, I’d love to support you. 📅 Book a Free Discovery Call Let’s talk about where you’re at and how we can work together to help you find more serenity, purpose, and emotional freedom. 👉 Click here to schedule your discovery call Glad you’re here, Dani :)   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

Ever feel like you've tried EVERYTHING—therapy, retreats, prayer meetings, all the books—but you're still struggling? This episode reveals what might be the missing piece: integrating your body into the healing process. 👉If you’re tired of feeling lost, unheard, or disconnected from your purpose, AND you’re feeling a pull toward “something more” but can’t seem to find your way there, let’s talk. Schedule a complimentary Discovery Call and we’ll gently explore what’s getting in the way of the life you know you’re meant to live. Still feeling stuck after prayer, therapy, and all the self-help? You’re not broken, and you’re not alone. If you’ve ever wondered, “Why do I still feel this way after everything I’ve done?” I hope this episode helps.  Today I’m joined by one of my favorite humans on the planet (and my longtime therapist), Jim Beebe. Jim’s a wealth of wisdom, life experience and compassion. AND he’s the real deal! I’m so grateful when he shares his time with us on the show! Today we’re talking about my new Coaching program The Third Act, and about why so many of us still feel anxious, overwhelmed, or quietly disconnected on the inside… even though we’ve spent years trying to heal. We break down the real reasons you might feel stuck, including: why talk therapy, prayer, and spiritual work can eventually hit a ceiling how trauma and stress live in the body and nervous system the triune being: body, mind, and spirit working together The 3 Acts of your life story, and why so many of us end up circling in Act Two far longer than we need to. We also dive into what The Third Act really means, and how to step into a more grounded, purposeful, peaceful chapter of your life… one that actually feels like you. If you’re spiritually-minded, love Jesus, and feel exhausted, invisible, or quietly lost inside (even though your life looks “fine” or even great on the outside), this conversation will bring clarity, compassion, and a deep sense of hope. 👉 Ready for your Third Act? Schedule your complimentary Discovery Call with me here and let’s explore what’s possible for you in this next season. So grateful you’re here,  Dani 🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

Hey friend! Today we’re talking about growing our relationship with our Creator, AND why the phrase "quiet time" makes me cringe and how I learned to connect with God in ways that actually work for who HE made ME to be. If you've ever felt like you're not doing devotions "right" or that your relationship with God doesn't look like everyone else's, this episode is for YOU.  It's time to let go of the shoulds and discover what actually feeds your soul. What You'll Learn: ✨ Why traditional "quiet time" doesn't work for everyone (and that's okay!) 💪 What a "spiritual workout" looks like and how to create your own 🏃‍♀️ How movement, dancing, and even naps can be part of intimacy with God 📖 Permission to skip scriptures that bring shame instead of empowerment 🧠 The mind-body-spirit connection you can't ignore Key Quotes: "You may have been your mom's accident, but you are not God's accident. You are here for such a time as this." "I don't believe my thoughts until I move my body." "Scripture was meant to empower you. If there are scriptures tearing your soul apart, don't read them right now." "I'm so exhausted from trying to figure everything out on my own." My Spiritual Workout Includes: Gentle morning movement (12-minute circuit) Brain dumping & intentional journaling Dancing to worship music Nature meditation walks (praying and listening prayer) Sauna time for body + soul Rest when needed (yes, naps!) Ready to Go Deeper? Book Your Free Discovery Call If this episode resonated with you, let's talk! I work with women who are tired of religious "shoulds" and ready for authentic intimacy with God. During our call, we'll: Explore where you're feeling stuck spiritually Identify what's blocking your intimacy with God Discover if coaching together is right for you Create a vision for your spiritual workout Create a vision for YOUR FUTURE. You deserve a clear vision for what your heart desires. No pressure. No shoulds. Just honest conversation. 👉 Schedule Your Discovery Call Here Remember: There's no formula for connecting with the Lord. You have PERMISSION to do it differently. You have permission to evolve. God bless you! 💛 🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

  What's up my people! Today marks my 15th sobriety birthday! 🎉 In this episode, I'm getting real about recovery, purpose, and why your hardest moments don't disqualify you from living a life full of joy and meaning. If you're struggling with feeling unworthy or like your past has disqualified you from your future, this one's for you. Key Takeaways ✨ Your darkest hours can become your greatest purpose ✨ Nothing you've been through disqualifies you from helping others or having purpose ✨ You don't need to publicize your story to live out your purpose ✨ Healing takes time—be patient with yourself ✨ You're not a vending machine—set boundaries and prioritize yourself ✨ It's OKAY to be happy, joyful, and walk confidently in your purpose Ready to Transform Your Life? If this episode resonated with you and you're ready to work through past pain, find your purpose, and build genuine confidence—I'd love to support you! Book Your Free Discovery Call Let's talk about where you are, where you want to go, and how life coaching can help you get there. Schedule your complimentary discovery call You don't have to do this alone. Grateful, Dani   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

Are you ready to show up as the best version of yourself? Know you need support getting there? Schedule your complimentary call with Dani here.  Ever notice you show up as different versions of yourself depending on who you’re with or what’s going on? One version feels light and free — the “you” who laughs easily and feels close to God. Another feels heavy, guarded, or disconnected. In this episode, I’m sharing how to recognize the versions of you that show up in different seasons — and how to gently choose the one that feels most peaceful, authentic, and you. You’ll hear: ✨ Why it’s not inauthentic to have different “versions” of yourself ✨ How your environment shapes who shows up ✨ How to spend more time with the version of you that lights you up ✨ A prayer to help you return to peace This isn’t about doing more. It’s about coming home to who God made you to be. Much love, Dani Ready to explore your next steps? Schedule a free call with Dani to explore coaching.  🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram   Keywords:  how to feel like yourself again Christian life coach podcast faith based emotional healing Christian mindset coaching rediscover yourself Christian women midlife emotional burnout recovery faith after burnout reconnect with God spiritual renewal how to find peace again the third act coaching Dani Sumner podcast authentic self Christian overcoming people pleasing Christian  

🐸 THE FROG IN THE KETTLE: Why do high-achieving, empathetic women (and men) wait until their 50s, 60s, or 70s to find their voice? Because they're like the frog in boiling water—so adaptable to suffering, they don't realize they deserve better. This episode explores: The 3 S's of suffering: Service, Silence, Self-Doubt Why you self-sabotage when life finally gets good How to build capacity for joy when you've only known struggle Why most women don't wake up until midlife (and why that's perfect timing) If you've spent decades putting everyone else first and finally realized "I'm not even on the totem pole"—this is your wake-up call. You're not selfish for wanting peace. You're not too late. You're right on time. READY TO STOP BEING THE FROG IN THE KETTLE? If you want support finding more joy, harmony, and purpose in your next season, schedule a discovery call with Dani here. So glad you're here, Dani 🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram