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This week in The Labia Lounge I bring back my darling pal Dan (of 'Chats with Dan' fame) to unpack my final 24 hours of the Find Freya A Fella campaign. This is one of the most vulnerable and honest episodes I've done to date, laden with fresh tea from my dating escapades and recorded from my bed in the middle of a big ol' existential come down! It's an intensely candid post-campaign debrief about hosting the Mates & Dates mixer - the culmination of the last 3 months of campaigning to crowdsource a boyfriend - the emotional crash that followed, and the complicated business of wanting connection in a dating culture full of ghosting, flaking, future faking, and nonchalant, immature and avoidant Aussie men. In this episodeThe Find Freya a Fella campaign comes to an end after three months of dating IRL, content creation, risk-taking, and campaigning for more intentional connectionThe pressure of hosting the Mates and Dates mixer, including last-minute cancellations, host anxiety, and the shame hangover that followedA flirtatious post-event encounter with a mystery babeThe mental gymnastics that follow when someone says they’ll message and then doesn’t, including catastrophising, missed-connection fantasies, and the unhinged compulsion to search for someone online with almost no identifying information (you've all done it!)Loneliness in company, the limits of casual intimacy, and the moment a casual supportive connection starts highlighting what it can’t provide“The boys are not okay”: how avoidance, poor communication, self-preservation, entitlement, and a lack of emotional consideration contribute to loneliness (and a trail of caranage l;eft behind in the dating world when men can't just be mature, empathetic adults. (women can sometimes do this too, for that matter)The difference between having a disability or neurodivergence and making no effort to understand how behaviour affects other peopleFuture faking, ghosting after sex, dopamine chasing, and why having a hoe phase doesn’t require hurting peopleThe mixer’s unexpected success stories, including people swapping numbers and reconnecting after eight yearsThe existential exhaustion of trying to make a passion-led business financially sustainable through algorithms, content, and constant self-promotionWhy candid, sex-positive conversations can be uncomfortable while still helping people challenge shame and purity culture Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my c**t if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy! The Find Freya A Fella campaign can be found here: https://www.freyagraf.com/find-freya-a-fella Or watch the YouTube playlist to binge all the content in order: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLf6U0tcrG7jo *** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/ Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/ Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A debutante ball can look like a glamorous night of dresses, limos, dancing, and family photos. Look closer, and the tradition carries older ideas about purity, heterosexuality, marriageability, gender roles, and who gets presented to society. This episode follows the thread from debutante balls to weddings, gender reveal parties, children’s toys, beauty pageants, rites of passage & coming-of-age rituals, and the Manosphere. The conversation asks what gets lost when traditions disappear, and whether the celebratory parts can be rebuilt without the patriarchal framework. In this episodeThe contrasting experiences of debutante balls in a country town and a larger school communityDebs as “a mini wedding” and a public presentation of girls as available for partnershipThe different expectations placed on girls and boys, from dresses and professional photos to identical rented tuxedosWhy coming-of-age rituals can feel meaningful even when their origins are deeply sexistThe connection between debs, weddings, proms, quinceañeras, bar mitzvahs, and other rites of passageHow children are taught gender roles through toys, clothing, beauty standards, and relationship languageThe sexualisation of children and the pressure placed on girls to look young, hairless, and “pretty”Gender reveal parties, binary thinking, and the problem with imposing a future on a childHow gendered toy aisles limit children’s choices, including boys who want to play with dollsThe appeal of flashy milestone events in communities with limited opportunities for celebrationReimagining traditions through queer formals, inclusive rituals, and more flexible coming-of-age ceremoniesThe Manosphere, manufactured insecurity, and the people profiting from narrow ideas of masculinity Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my c**t if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy! The Find Freya A Fella campaign can be found here: https://www.freyagraf.com/find-freya-a-fella Or watch the YouTube playlist to binge all the content in order: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLf6U0tcrG7jo *** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/ Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/ Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/ AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week in The Labia Lounge I chat with my darling friend Wren about being made to feel like we're "too much" for men to "handle" and how this shows up in dating. We also cover a bunch of recent tea from the Freya Finds A Fella campaign, and various other meaty topics like feminism, intimacy, boundaries, beauty standards, and the unequal risks women face when building relationships or having babies with men. Included in this ep: The “too much to handle” narrative, and why “I want to be held, received, and respected” offers a better frame than being “handled” 12:00How women internalize being misunderstood as a personal problem, when the deeper issue may be a gap in emotional skills and relational capacity 12:13The tension between feminism, independence, and the desire for love, partnership, and family 25:01The financial, emotional, and energetic cost of changing a life plan for a relationship 29:06Why love isn’t enough when circumstances, sacrifice, and commitment aren’t balanced 38:37Beauty labour, makeup, cosmetic procedures, ageing, and the social penalties women face for not conforming to beauty standards 41:10How beauty standards intersect with ageism, fatphobia, classism, patriarchy, and consumerism 54:10Why asking a woman why she doesn’t have children can be invasive, especially when fertility, health, finances, career, and personal choice are involved 56:07The difference between wanting to be a dad and being prepared to be an equal, informed, and present father 59:25Pregnancy, sperm health, contraception, and the vastly different physical and social costs of parenthood for men and women 01:00:00Celibacy, sexual boundaries, pleasure, and deciding who gets access to your body 01:13:21Exploring casual intimacy while decentring male pleasure and prioritising mutuality, touch, and women’s pleasure 01:42:08The possibility of softening personal rules without abandoning boundaries or self-trust 01:53:52 Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my c**t if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy! The Find Freya A Fella campaign can be found here: https://www.freyagraf.com/find-freya-a-fella Or watch the YouTube playlist to binge all the content in order: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLf6U0tcrG7jo The Mates & Dates Mixer and any future events tix and deets can be found here: https://www.freyagraf.com/events You can check out Wren's work and events here: https://www.wrenrapture.com/ *** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/ Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/ Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/ AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This bonus eppy is a candid hike-side conversation about casual sex, asking for pleasure, sexual boundaries, and the deeply ingrained conditioning that makes receiving or asking for what you want feel like taking too much. In this episodeThe conversation focused on a casual friends-with-benefits dynamic, including flaky communication, late-night plans, and the relief of not being emotionally invested in someone’s inconsistency 05:49.One concept discussed was asking directly for what feels good, including requesting a massage before sex instead of defaulting to small talk or sexual expectations 09:36.A key theme that emerged was the discomfort of receiving pleasure without immediately calculating what needs to be given in return 21:57.The discussion explored the idea of a “service top” or “pleasure dom”, someone who genuinely enjoys focusing on another person’s pleasure 24:13.Several points were raised about orgasm-focused sexual scripts, ejaculation as the assumed endpoint of sex, and the freedom that comes from decentering it 28:38.Condom use became a clear boundary-setting moment. The conversation examined how cluelessness, social conditioning, and the expectation that women will eventually give in can create coercive dynamics, even without overt pressure 34:40.The episode frames casual dating as a place to practise “micro rebellions” against people-pleasing, patriarchal scripts, and the pressure to be endlessly accommodating 42:39.The conversation also turned to thoughtful gestures, bare-minimum expectations, love bombing, and the importance of watching the pace and intention behind escalating intimacy 46:04. Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my c**t if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy! The Find Freya A Fella campaign can be found here: https://www.freyagraf.com/find-freya-a-fella Or watch the YouTube playlist to binge all the content in order: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLf6U0tcrG7jo *** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/ Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/ Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/ AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week in The Labia Lounge I recorded an impromptu solo episode. In this eppy I speak on the less-talked-about realities of singlehood: the emotional labour of dating, the “single tax,” loneliness, reduced support, and the pressure to pretend that independence always feels empowering. I also talk about what happened after taking a romantic risk in person, including the nerves, embarrassment and “shame hangover” that followed my last attempt to shoot my shot! I also unpack the grief of watching friends couple up, get married and have children while grieving a future that once felt certain. From the financial strain of living and travelling alone to the practical and emotional support that can come with a healthy partnership, the eppy challenged the hackneyed advice to “just enjoy being single” and "it'll happen at the right time when you least expect it". I yarn about things like: The cost of the “single tax,” from housing and travel to meals, gifts and household responsibilitiesMissing regular touch, cuddles, co-regulation and someone to come home toThe strange loneliness of going to festivals, gigs and events alone, knowing no one may notice if you disappearWhy dating can feel like exhausting, repetitive labour, especially when every new connection requires retelling your life storyThe yearning to stop dating and finally put down roots in a lasting relationshipWhy “it’ll happen when you stop looking” can be particularly unhelpful advice in the current dating climate Trigger warning: This episode discusses grief, loneliness, fertility, gender-based violence and the emotional realities of dating. Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my c**t if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy! The Find Freya A Fella campaign can be found here: https://www.freyagraf.com/find-freya-a-fella Or watch the YouTube playlist to binge all the content in order: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLf6U0tcrG7jo *** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/ Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/ Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/ AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This bonus episode of The Labia Lounge pod is a sizzler! I bring back my fav guest, Dan, for some candid chats about everything from cervical orgasms, dick size and preferences, body compatibility, and dirty talk all the way to soft domming, service topping, kink, ejaculation, and being able to fully receive as a woman without feeling guilt or pressure around needing to "return the favour." I share some tea about my current sexplorations with my new f*ck buddy as I traverse the Find Freya A Fella campaign and what I'm learning about myself, edges I'm exploring, and fun that I'm having along the way. Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my c**t if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy! *** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/ Check out the camapign or get in touch here: https://www.freyagraf.com/find-freya-a-fella Try out Captain Spice's sticky chai here: https://www.captainspice.com.au/ Special thanks to sponsors of the campaign: Moments - https://momentswellness.com.auThat's the Spot - https://thatsthespot.com.auHeaps Normal Beer - https://heapsnormal.comSmooch Soda - https://www.instagram.com/smooch.drinks/Ballard's Thornbury - https://carrot-jellyfish-7mgz.squarespace.com/Das T-shirt Automat - https://www.dastshirtautomat.com.au/ Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/ Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/ AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week in The Labia Lounge I welcome Lexy Davis on to talk about dating as part of the Find Freya A Fella campaign/dating experiment! We discuss why we can say we want love, then quietly keep it at arm’s length, and the sneaky hidden patterns that can keep women single, emotionally unavailable, or stuck choosing chaos over consistency. We unpack hyper-independence, dating fatigue, rejection, high standards versus protective walls, and why a safe relationship can initially feel “boring” when your nervous system is used to intensity. Lexy explains how performing, overthinking, avoiding eye contact, ghosting, and needing certainty before a first date can all point to discomfort with vulnerability. She also shares why self-awareness isn’t enough on its own, and how self-regulation, self-compassion, and honest communication help turn insight into actual change. Together, we explore how to stay open without lowering your standards, assess red flags without spiralling, and create more opportunities for unexpected connection in real life. In this episodeWhy wanting a relationship and being available for one can be two different things 05:20Hyper-independence, interdependence, and the fear of letting someone disrupt your carefully built life 05:52How dating apps can fuel endless searching and a “grass is always greener” mindset 06:42The difference between genuine standards and fear-based protection 12:42Why safe, stable love can feel boring when chaos has been mistaken for chemistry 34:15How to recognise when your nervous system is running the dating show 29:41Moving from intellectual insight to embodied change 59:16Using communication as a way to gather data, build intimacy, and assess compatibility 01:02:58Small ways to become more approachable and create room for connection offline Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my c**t if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy! Check out Lexy's course and work here: Www.iamlexydavis.com or https://iamlexydavis.com/lover-girl-links Contact Lexy for the 50% discount code for listeners. *** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/ Check out the camapign or get in touch here: https://www.freyagraf.com/find-freya-a-fella Try out Captain Spice's sticky chai here: https://www.captainspice.com.au/ Special thanks to sponsors of the campaign: Moments - https://momentswellness.com.auThat's the Spot - https://thatsthespot.com.auHeaps Normal Beer - https://heapsnormal.comSmooch Soda - https://www.instagram.com/smooch.drinks/Ballard's Thornbury - https://carrot-jellyfish-7mgz.squarespace.com/Das T-shirt Automat - https://www.dastshirtautomat.com.au/ Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/ Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/ AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this bonus episode of The Labia Lounge podcast we're diving into some dating stories and tales of rejection as part of the #FindFreyaAFella campaign! I get my friend Matt on to chat about the unlikely story of how we met and became friends in the wake of a date invitation that I said "no" to. We unpack rejection, parasocial relationships, coping mechanisms, dating-app fatigue, and how to say no while still leaving someone better than you found them. There's also some text examples sent in by a listener to show how they've handled saying "no, thank you" to women who're interested in them. Rejection doesn't have to be so hard, and we discuss ways to handle it from both sides, AND still retain the humanity and warmth that is so often missing from how we treat people when we're rejecting them, or God-forbid, ghosting them! Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my c**t if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy! *** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/ Check out the camapign or get in touch here: https://www.freyagraf.com/find-freya-a-fella Try out Captain Spice's sticky chai here: https://www.captainspice.com.au/ Special thanks to sponsors of the campaign: Moments - https://momentswellness.com.auThat's the Spot - https://thatsthespot.com.auHeaps Normal Beer - https://heapsnormal.comSmooch Soda - https://www.instagram.com/smooch.drinks/Ballard's Thornbury - https://carrot-jellyfish-7mgz.squarespace.com/Das T-shirt Automat - https://www.dastshirtautomat.com.au/ Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/ Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/ AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week in The Labia Lounge I have another Bonus episode for you as part of the Find Freya A Fella campaign! I brought on my friend and expert labial legend Dr. Mardi Wilson to talk about the double standards in dating when it comes to how men and women are perceived and treated when they're actively looking for love and partnership. We chat about things like: Benevolent sexismHow our vagina calls the shots and decides against men sometimesShame around being single as a woman.Stigma around wanting a male partner while also being independent and feminist.The difficulty of discussing vulnerability while actively experiencing it.Reactions that can pressure women back into more passive dating roles.Heterosexual dating norms that typically position men as active pursuers and women as passive recipients of romantic attentionAnd so much more - it's a meaty chat! Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my c**t if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy! *** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/ Check out the camapign or get in touch here: https://www.freyagraf.com/find-freya-a-fella Try out Captain Spice's sticky chai here: https://www.captainspice.com.au/ Special thanks to sponsors of the campaign: Moments - https://momentswellness.com.au That's the Spot - https://thatsthespot.com.auHeaps Normal Beer - https://heapsnormal.comSmooch Soda - https://www.instagram.com/smooch.drinks/Ballard's Thornbury - https://carrot-jellyfish-7mgz.squarespace.com/Das T-shirt Automat - https://www.dastshirtautomat.com.au/ Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/ Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/ AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week on The Labia Lounge I bring on the absolutely divine Ruby Josif to talk about how to use authenticity as a d******d filter and attract our true people with our true selves. As part of the Find Freya A Fella campaign I'm chatting with friends and experts alike about all things dating on these bonus episodes for the duration of the campaign. There'll be tips, advice, and dating insights, along with updates and stories from the campaign in more detail than I can share on social media. We've added in a new segment called Ghostbusters! - where we read out texts that listeners have sent to their ghosters calling them out. As well as a section where we hear whimsical stories about meet-cutes and creative, daring, and inspiring ways that listeners have made a new romantic connection. It's all pretty wholesome and interesting, if you ask me! Tune in for the latest campaign gossip and some practical dating guidance in these episodes! You can also follow Ruby's work here: https://www.ruby-josif.com/ and https://www.instagram.com/ruby.josif.sex.coach/ Keep in the loop about the campaign, send in stories or date applications here: https://www.freyagraf.com/find-freya-a-fella Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my c**t if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy! *** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/ Check out Laura's work and pre-order her book here: https://www.lauraforbes.com/pre-order https://www.quitdatingidiots.com/ And do her 'What's Your Love Pattern' Quiz: https://www.lauraforbes.com/archetype-quiz Or watch her YouTube video on Avoiding The Chemistry Trap: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pwl0OandlCg&t=105s Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/ Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/ AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week on The Labia Lounge I'm back with my 201st episode! This one is a dating related episode as part of the Find Freya A Fella campaign, and I'm interviewing Laura Forbes from 'Quit Dating Idiots'! She's a dating and relationships expert and this chat is super validating, empowering, and insightful if you or someone you care about is navigating the dating world right now. Join us for a candid, no-nonsense conversation packed with giggles and real talk on why so many of us override our gut instincts, get stuck in people-pleasing, and end up with crumb-level efforts from dates (or worse, straight-up idiocy). In this episode: The role of social conditioning, rom-com culture, and people-pleasing in wrecking our self-trustHow scarcity mindset and the infamous "3-month mark" trip us upSpotting subtle tells (not just red flags!) and what flakiness or inconsistency really meansWhy "secure is sexy" and how big love beats breadcrumbing every timeNavigating the urge to coach, fix, or settle for less—plus, drawing a line when it comes to low-effort datingBuilding your own benchmark for healthy relationships and learning to orient towards what you truly wantPractical strategies and boundaries to reclaim your dating powerPlus: HPV sex ed fails, the cool girl trap, Peter Pan syndrome in the wilds of Melbourne, and tactical tips for anyone tired of doing "emotional labor for free." Tune in to get brutally honest insights, a dose of encouragement to keep your standards high, and validation for anyone battling the nonchalance epidemic on the dating scene! Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my c**t if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy! *** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/ Check out Laura's work and pre-order her book here: https://www.lauraforbes.com/pre-order https://www.quitdatingidiots.com/ And do her 'What's Your Love Pattern' Quiz: https://www.lauraforbes.com/archetype-quiz Or watch her YouTube video on Avoiding The Chemistry Trap: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pwl0OandlCg&t=105s Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/ Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/ AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

My 200th episode of The Labia Lounge podcast!!! So wild to think about how many hours I've put into this and awesome guests I've interviewed over the last 4.5 years since launching the pod. This one is an extra special Bonus episode for ya - a live recording from that time I braved the stage as a contestant at Human Love Quest AND a hard launch of the Find Freya A Fella campaign that I'm currently embarking on! All of this is a hybrid blend of social experiment meets PR campaign meets guerrilla marketing meets crowdsourcing a boyfriend! I hope you find it entertaining at the very least, and ideally, inspiring and galvanising as well! In this episode you'll get the full run down on what the deal is with Find Freya A Fella, and my commentary on the experience of being on the live dating game show in front of an audience of 250 people! There's also a great meet-cute story from an audience member that night facilitated by yours truly and some Labia Lounge conversation starters. And the meat of the episode is made up of a never-before-done live recording of the actual game show in action when I took to the stage, full of nerves and "no going back now" energy! This one is not to be missed and has been MONTHS in the pipeline! Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my c**t if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy! *** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/ Try out Captain Spice's sticky chai here: https://www.captainspice.com.au/ Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/ Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/ AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week in The Labia Lounge I chatted earnestly with Heb on The Web about her creative, self-made lifestyle and career. Heb is a delight to hang with (you should check out her podcast Hangs with Heb) and we had such great yarns about the realities of choosing to commit to the bit and continue to lead a passion-led, creative life in the face of a world that doesn't make this commitment easy. In this episode:Creativity, intersectional feminism, and the challenges of living a self-made, passion-driven lifeBalancing multiple creative careers and battling burnout (06:05)Financial instability, mental health, and finding routine with part-time work (21:15)Dating as a self-possessed, ambitious, and feminist content creator (33:00)Sex education gaps from a Christian upbringing and pathways to sexual empowerment (38:00)Queerness, coming out, and integration after growing up religious (44:30)Where the boundary lies between personal life and public content (53:04)Hilarious TMI stories about the realities of being human (01:09:29)Heb’s journey of going “vibrator sober”—how it affected her pleasure (01:13:27)Trigger Warning: This episode discusses mental health, burnout, sexuality, dating, religion, and bodily functions with humor and honesty. Listener discretion is advised. Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge! Check out Heb's work here: instagram.com/hebontheweb Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my c**t if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy! *** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/ Try out Captain Spice's sticky chai here: https://www.captainspice.com.au/ Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/ Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/ AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Choking during sex is now so normalised among teenagers that most of them don't even clock it as a red flag. That's the world we're navigating — and in this episode, I sat down with the Shel and Drew from SafeBAE to talk about how we actually help young people find their way through it. We got into the manosphere, the algorithm, porn, and why the US is so far behind places like Australia and the UK when it comes to funding real sex ed. And we talked about SafeBAE's new tool, Vibe Check — a choose-your-own-adventure style resource where young people can anonymously reflect on consent, harm, accountability, and repair. No judgment, no adults breathing down their neck. Just a useful tool built for the way teens actually think and communicate. Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge! Try out Safe BAE's tool Vibe Check here: https://checkyourvibe.org/ And explore SafeBAE's other incredible work and resources here: https://www.safebae.org/ Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my c**t if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy! *** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/ Try out Captain Spice's sticky chai here: https://www.captainspice.com.au/ Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/ Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/ AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week in The Labia Lounge I interviewed the incredibly impressive Jiabao Li. Jiabao Li is an artist, inventor, and professor whose work explores more-than-human ecologies, feminist biotech, multispecies intelligence, and how technology reshapes perception. Her work has been exhibited at MoMA, Ars Electronica, the Venice Architecture Biennale, Exploratorium, and The Contemporary Austin. Her TED Talk uncovered how technology mediates the way we perceive reality, and she was named Forbes China 30 Under 30. I've never been so blown away by someone's body of work and the way their mind works more than I am with this woman! She's growing clitoris's in the lab from her own menstrual blood, a heart for her mother who has heart disease, creating the most prolific body of work and art I've literally ever seen, and pioneering so many epic projects at the intersection between bio-tech, nature, art, and activism. We cover everything from hypo-sex, to growing up in China as a girl during the one child policy times, and her approach to everything she does with a unique and creative feminism lens. This chat is rich and fascinating. Enjoy ***Correction of the stats cited in this interview: China recorded more than 200 million abortions linked to one child policy. Not 2 million*** Check out her work here: https://www.jiabaoli.org/ https://www.jiabaoli.org/mom Use code LABIA to get a special discount at https://wisteriahealth.org/ Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my c**t if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy! Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge! *** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/ Try out Captain Spice's sticky chai here: https://www.captainspice.com.au/ Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/ Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/ AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.