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Are you actually preparing or are you procrastinating in a way that looks productive? In part three of the 5 Hidden Ways Trauma Holds You Back at Work series, trauma therapist turned coach Jess DeMarchis breaks down the Perpetual Preparer: the high-achieving woman who is constantly researching, planning, thinking, gathering opinions and looking for more information but struggles to actually make the decision. You'll learn why overthinking can feel responsible, how fear of making the wrong choice can quietly slow your career growth, why indecision is still a decision, and how chronic preparation can erode your self-trust. Jess also teaches the 70% Decision and a simple mindset shift that can help you make faster, thoughtful decisions without waiting for certainty. Want to identify all five patterns now? Access the free training, 5 Hidden Ways Your Trauma Holds You Back at Work & Keeps You From Your Next Level of Income and Impact, using this link: https://jessicademarchis.myflodesk.com/5hiddenimpacts   Stay in Touch: www.jessicademarchis.com IG @jess_demarchis_coaching

Do you constantly think, "It's just easier if I do it myself"? In part two of the 5 Hidden Ways Trauma Holds You Back at Work series, trauma therapist turned coach Jess DeMarchis breaks down the Control-Seeking Leader; the successful, highly capable woman who desperately wants more support but struggles to trust other people enough to actually receive it. You'll learn why control often develops as a form of protection, how hyper-independence can quietly turn you into the bottleneck in your career or business, why doing everything yourself eventually limits your income and impact, and how to begin building support without lowering your standards. Jess also walks you through her Delegation Ladder, a practical way to gradually increase your tolerance for relying on other people while protecting the responsibilities that genuinely require your expertise. Want to identify all five patterns now? Access the free training, 5 Hidden Ways Your Trauma Holds You Back at Work & Keeps You From Your Next Level of Income and Impact, using this link: https://jessicademarchis.myflodesk.com/5hiddenimpacts   Stay in Touch: www.jessicademarchis.com IG @jess_demarchis_coaching

What if the same qualities that helped you become successful are now limiting your next level? In the first episode of this five-part series, trauma therapist turned coach Jess DeMarchis introduces the 5 Hidden Ways Trauma Holds You Back at Work and breaks down Pattern #1: The Capable but Cautious Leader. If you're smart, successful and highly capable but still find yourself overthinking decisions, holding back in meetings, waiting to feel ready, hesitating to ask for more money or watching less-qualified people move faster than you, this episode will help you understand why and what to do instead. You'll learn why the issue may not be a lack of confidence, how old protection strategies can become intertwined with achievement, the difference between certainty and self-trust, and a practical five-question exercise to help you make bigger decisions without waiting for fear to disappear. Want to discover all five patterns now? Access Jess's free training, 5 Hidden Ways Your Trauma Holds You Back at Work and Keeps You From Your Next Level of Income and Impact. GET YOUR FREE TRAINING HERE: https://jessicademarchis.myflodesk.com/5hiddenimpacts  Want support creating your next level of success without sacrificing your personal life? Jess's 1:1 coaching books are open. Book a consultation through this link: www.chatwithjess.com   Stay in Touch: www.jessicademarchis.com IG @jess_demarchis_coaching

If you're successful but keep searching for better work-life balance, another productivity hack or the perfect schedule, the problem may not be your time management. In this episode, Jess breaks down why traditional work-life balance can be the wrong goal for high-achievers and offers a different way to think about your career, family, health and ambition: values, seasons and intentional trade-offs. You'll learn why your calendar doesn't have to allocate equal time to everything you care about, how to identify when work has quietly started consuming priorities that matter more, why work-family conflict and values misalignment can contribute to burnout, and four questions you can use to decide what deserves your time and energy in this season of your life. If you've been wondering how to keep succeeding without sacrificing your health, relationships or family to do it, this episode will help you redefine what "balance" actually means. To apply for private coaching with Jess, visit www.chatwithjess.com.

You're exhausted, increasingly frustrated with work, and starting to wonder whether you need to quit completely. But are you actually in the wrong career or are you burned out from the way you're currently doing it? In this episode of The Art & Skill of Coaching, Jess breaks down the difference between burnout, a bad work environment, unsustainable work patterns, and genuine career misalignment. You'll learn a simple four-part framework, Demands, Design, Defaults, and Direction, to identify what's actually creating your burnout before making a major career move.  Jess also explains the psychology of burnout, why working hard isn't always the real problem, and how workload, leadership, control, values, boundaries, perfectionism, and people-pleasing can completely change your experience of the same career. If you're questioning your job, career, or professional future, this episode will help you figure out what needs to change before you decide what comes next. To work with Jess one-on-one, book a consultation at www.chatwithjess.com. Stay in Touch: www.jessicademarchis.com IG @jess_demarchis_coaching

You have the degree, the salary, the title, and the career you worked incredibly hard to build…so why are you secretly fantasizing about quitting? In this episode of The Art & Skill of Coaching, Jess breaks down five signs you may have outgrown your career and how to tell the difference between temporary frustration, burnout, and genuine career misalignment. You'll learn why getting a raise, taking a vacation, changing companies, or trying to "just be grateful" often doesn't solve the real problem, plus the questions to ask yourself before making a major career move. Jess also shares examples of women who discovered very different solutions: leaving a career completely, changing roles within the same profession, and restructuring a business so success no longer required constant sacrifice. If you hate your job, feel burned out, or keep wondering whether it's time for a career change, this episode will help you figure out what's actually wrong before deciding what needs to change. Ready to figure out your next professional move without sacrificing your health, relationships, or personal life to get there? Book a consultation with Jess at www.chatwithjess.com. Stay in Touch: www.jessicademarchis.com IG @jess_demarchis_coaching

If you're a successful woman who already knows you should eat well, move your body, sleep more, and manage stress, why can taking care of yourself still feel so hard? In this episode, I'm joined by a lab scientist turned health, nutrition, and fitness coach to talk about what high-achieving women actually need to understand about their health beyond another workout plan or list of foods to eat. We explore how chronic stress, perfectionism, all-or-nothing thinking, control, overachievement, and the habit of pushing through can affect the way women approach nutrition, fitness, recovery, and their bodies.  We also talk about what the science really says versus the health advice you can safely tune out, why more discipline is not always the answer, and what sustainable health looks like when you're also building a career, leading a company, raising a family, or carrying a lot of responsibility. If you want to feel strong, energized, healthy, and capable without turning your health into another full-time job, this conversation is for you. Want support creating your next level of success without sacrificing your personal life? Jess's 1:1 coaching books are open. Book a consultation through this link: www.chatwithjess.com Stay in Touch: www.jessicademarchis.com IG @jess_demarchis_coaching   Guest's contact information: IG @eveguzmanofficial https://www.themacrouniversity.com/   Release date: Tuesday September 15, 2026

You got the degree, built the career, got the title, made the money, and checked nearly every box you once believed would make you feel happy. So why doesn't it feel the way you thought it would? In this episode of The Art & Skill of Coaching, Jess explores why so many high-achieving women in their 30s and 40s are reaching professional milestones while simultaneously feeling burned out, overwhelmed, unfulfilled, and strangely empty inside the lives they worked so hard to create. And she explains why achievement alone doesn't create lasting happiness. You'll also learn why your ability to tolerate stress is different from your capacity to sustainably hold it, how chronic pressure can turn an ambitious life into one driven by urgency and survival, and why productivity hacks aren't enough when the deeper problem is that you haven't defined what success actually means to you. If you're a successful, smart, capable woman who has achieved a lot but is questioning whether the way you're doing life is actually sustainable, this episode will help you create a definition of success that feels as good internally as it looks externally and a framework to keep it.   Free Resource: Download Jess's 50 Trauma-Informed Coaching Questions to start identifying the deeper patterns, beliefs, and behaviors influencing the way you work. https://jessicademarchis.myflodesk.com/50questions  Want support creating your next level of success without sacrificing your personal life? Jess's 1:1 coaching books are open. Book a consultation through this link: www.chatwithjess.com Stay in Touch: www.jessicademarchis.com IG @jess_demarchis_coaching

What if childhood trauma didn't make you fall apart but instead made you highly capable, responsible, resilient, ambitious, and successful? Trauma doesn't always look like dysfunction. For some high-achieving women, it looks like becoming the strong one, the responsible one, the woman everyone depends on, or the entrepreneur who always figures it out. In this episode of The Art & Skill of Coaching, Jess DeMarchis shares her personal experience with childhood trauma, C-PTSD, healing, and high achievement, and explores the unexpected strengths and hidden costs that can come from becoming exceptionally good at surviving. You'll learn how childhood trauma can contribute to patterns like perfectionism, hyper-independence, people-pleasing, over-functioning, overworking, hypervigilance, and an unusually high tolerance for stress. These adaptations may help you build a successful career, business, and life, but eventually the same strategies that helped you survive can make it difficult to rest, receive support, trust yourself, feel safe, or actually enjoy what you've created. Jess also explains the concept of the trauma drive: when achievement and ambition become partially fueled by survival, and why reaching the next milestone often doesn't create the peace, security, or sense of enoughness you expected it to. The goal isn't to become less resilient, capable, or ambitious. It's to keep the strengths that helped you succeed while letting go of the fear, pressure, hypervigilance, and survival patterns attached to them. If you've built an impressive life but still struggle to relax, stop proving yourself, feel safe in your success, or believe you've finally done enough, this episode will help you understand why. Free Resource: Download Jess's 50 Trauma-Informed Coaching Questions to start identifying the deeper patterns, beliefs, and behaviors influencing the way you work. https://jessicademarchis.myflodesk.com/50questions  Want support creating your next level of success without sacrificing your personal life? Jess's 1:1 coaching books are open. Book a consultation through this link: www.chatwithjess.com Stay in Touch: www.jessicademarchis.com IG @jess_demarchis_coaching

Can you be highly successful without being exhausted all the time? Yes, and you don't have to choose between growing your career and having a life you actually enjoy. In this episode, Jess DeMarchis shares how she made $39,000 in one month while working just 12 days, and more importantly, what had to change in the way she approached success and work to make that possible.  As a trauma therapist, coach, and expert in behavior change, Jess explains why so many ambitious, high-achieving women become trapped in overworking, perfectionism, hyper-independence, people-pleasing, and the belief that success requires sacrifice. If you've ever felt successful on paper but exhausted behind the scenes, struggled to slow down without feeling guilty, or wondered why your career seems to require sacrificing your health, relationships, boundaries, or peace, this episode will help you understand what's really driving those patterns. Jess breaks down four shifts that have helped her grow her income and impact while creating more time for her personal life. If you're a high-achieving woman, entrepreneur, leader, or ambitious professional who wants to grow without burnout, this episode will give you a new way to think about success. In this episode, you'll learn: How to be successful without sacrificing your personal life Why high-achieving women struggle with overworking and burnout The connection between trauma, achievement, and productivity How trauma adaptations can drive perfectionism, hyper-independence, and overfunctioning Why rest can feel uncomfortable or unsafe for ambitious women How to create sustainable success without sacrificing your health or relationships Four strategies for growing your income and impact with less time How to prioritize your life while still building an ambitious career Why being busy doesn't necessarily mean you're being productive How to protect your cognitive energy and make better business decisions Why self-care, sleep, health, therapy, and personal relationships are business assets How to stop using productivity as a measure of your worth Free Resource: Download Jess's 50 Trauma-Informed Coaching Questions to start identifying the deeper patterns, beliefs, and behaviors influencing the way you work. https://jessicademarchis.myflodesk.com/50questions  Want support creating your next level of success without sacrificing your personal life? Jess's 1:1 coaching books are open. Book a consultation through this link: www.chatwithjess.com   Stay in Touch: www.jessicademarchis.com IG @jess_demarchis_coaching

You know what to do. You've done the research. You've talked to everyone you trust. And somehow you're still sitting there wondering, "But what if I make the wrong decision?" If that sounds familiar, this episode is for you. Today I'm breaking down why so many high-achieving women struggle to trust themselves, how overthinking quietly sabotages their leadership and success, and why collecting more information isn't actually making you more confident. I'll teach you a research-backed decision-making framework that helps you make better decisions faster, explain why self-trust, not certainty, is the real competitive advantage, and show you how one small shift can dramatically change your confidence, leadership, and results. In this episode you'll learn: Why overthinking is actually a self-trust problem The hidden cost of delaying decisions A science-backed framework for making better decisions How to stop outsourcing your confidence to everyone else The simplest way to start rebuilding self-trust today If you're tired of second-guessing yourself and you're ready to create sustainable success without sacrificing your health, relationships, or yourself, this episode is for you.   1-1 Coaching Consult: www.chatwithjess.com   FREE Guide- 50 Trauma Informed Coaching Questions: https://jessicademarchis.myflodesk.com/50questions    Stay in Touch: www.jessicademarchis.com IG @jess_demarchis_coaching

Most people believe trauma is healed through insight. That if you understand your patterns, identify your triggers, and process your story cognitively, change will naturally follow. But in reality, many people discover something confusing: They understand their trauma… but their body still reacts as if it's happening now. In this episode, we explore the gap between psychological insight, subconscious rewiring, and nervous system regulation and why true healing requires more than cognitive understanding. You'll learn why trauma is stored not just in thoughts, but in physiological and nervous system patterns, and why strategies like NLP, mindset coaching, and awareness work can fall short when the body is still organized around survival. We also explore what it actually looks like when change becomes embodied, not just intellectual, and how practitioners can ethically integrate trauma-informed coaching, subconscious work, and nervous system awareness without overstepping scope or oversimplifying complex trauma responses. This episode covers: Why trauma is not resolved through insight alone The difference between cognitive awareness and nervous system regulation How subconscious patterns are reinforced in the body Why clients "get it" but still feel stuck The intersection of NLP, trauma work, and coaching What ethical trauma-informed practice actually requires Why behavior change fails when the nervous system is still in survival What real integration and embodied change looks like If you are a coach, therapist, or practitioner working with trauma survivors, or someone who has done extensive self-development but still feels stuck in reactive patterns, this episode will help you understand what traditional frameworks often miss. (Episode 232) How to Break Bad Patterns: The 4-Step AVRR Method for Lasting Behavioral Change: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-art-skill-of-coaching-get-any-client-any/id1612960277?i=1000777665533   1-1 Trauma-Informed Coaching: www.chatwithjess.com   FREE Guide- 50 Trauma Informed Coaching Questions: https://jessicademarchis.myflodesk.com/50questions    Stay in Touch: www.jessicademarchis.com IG @jess_demarchis_coaching   Marsha Vanwynsberghe: https://www.marshavanw.com/ IG @ marshavanw

You're doing the work. You're investing in yourself. You're making better decisions. You're healing. You're setting boundaries. You're building healthier habits. So why does it still feel like you're behind? One of the biggest mistakes high achievers make is believing growth only counts when there's something visible to show for it- aka a promotion, more money, a thriving business, weight loss, or another milestone. But that's not how transformation actually works. In this episode, I'm breaking down the three stages of growth that almost no one talks about: internal growth, maintenance growth, and external growth. You'll learn why the biggest changes often happen long before your life looks different, why maintaining progress during difficult seasons is a form of growth, and why so many ambitious women quit just before their results begin to show. If you've been wondering whether all of your hard work is actually paying off, this episode will change the way you measure progress forever. 1-1 Coaching Consult: www.chatwithjess.com   FREE Guide- 50 Trauma Informed Coaching Questions: https://jessicademarchis.myflodesk.com/50questions    Stay in Touch: www.jessicademarchis.com IG @jess_demarchis_coaching

Most coaches assume clients are stuck because they lack awareness, motivation, clarity, or the right strategy. But in many cases, that's not what's actually happening. In this episode, we break down one of the most misunderstood dynamics in coaching and psychology: secondary gains. These are the hidden, unconscious benefits a client receives from staying in a pattern they consciously say they want to change. You'll learn why clients can fully understand their behavior and still not change, and why increasing motivation, accountability, or strategy often fails when a deeper psychological function is being met. We explore how secondary gains show up in coaching containers, including patterns like avoidance, procrastination, emotional withdrawal, perfectionism, and relational resignation as well as why these behaviors persist even when clients are highly self-aware. You'll also learn how to distinguish between true resistance and protective behavioral payoff, and how to shift your coaching from surface-level intervention into deeper behavioral and nervous system–informed change work. This episode covers: What secondary gains are in psychology and behavioral science Why clients stay stuck even when they "know better" How protective payoff systems override motivation The difference between resistance and function Why strategy changes fail when underlying needs are unmet How secondary gains show up in real coaching containers A case example of resignation in dating and relational trauma How to help clients meet underlying needs in healthier ways If you are a coach, therapist, or practitioner who works with clients who "get it but don't do it," this episode will shift how you understand behavior change at a fundamental level.   Apply to The Art and Skill of Coaching: https://calendly.com/jessicademarchis     1-1 Trauma-Informed Coaching: www.chatwithjess.com   Stay in Touch: www.jessicademarchis.com IG @jess_demarchis_coaching

Most coaches assume that awareness leads to change, but in reality, awareness alone rarely creates lasting behavior change. In this episode, we break down why clients can deeply understand their patterns, childhood wounds, and emotional triggers and still remain stuck in the same cycles for months or even years. You'll learn why traditional mindset coaching often stays at the surface level, and what actually creates sustainable transformation in coaching sessions. I introduce my four-step behavior change framework, the AVRR Method (Awareness, Disruption, Replacement, Repetition), a trauma-informed coaching strategy designed to help coaches move clients from insight into embodied, lasting change. This episode covers: Why awareness is not enough for behavior change The neuroscience behind why patterns repeat How environmental cues drive client behavior Why disruption is the missing step in most coaching models How to replace old patterns with sustainable new behaviors The role of repetition in creating identity-level change A real coaching case study showing transformation in action If you are a coach, therapist, or practitioner who feels like your clients "get it" but aren't changing, this episode will show you exactly why and what to do differently.   Apply to The Art and Skill of Coaching: https://calendly.com/jessicademarchis     1-1 Trauma-Informed Coaching: www.chatwithjess.com   Stay in Touch: www.jessicademarchis.com IG @jess_demarchis_coaching