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In Episode 143 of The Things We All Carry we delve into the powerful and inspiring story of Tim Spradlin, a veteran, a retired firefighter, and a fire marshal who now runs a successful equine therapy farm in Ohio. Tim shares his multifaceted journey through trauma and recovery, his battles with depression and anxiety, and the transformative power of equine therapy. This episode not only highlights Tim's personal experiences but also explores the profound impact of understanding trauma, seeking help, and the importance of community support. Tune in to hear Tim's invaluable insights and learn how he helps first responders and veterans find peace and recovery. 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:22 Reflecting on Personal Struggles 02:50 The Question of Doing Enough 05:43 Holiday Struggles and Support 07:58 Introducing Tim Spradlin 10:41 Tim's Journey and Equine Therapy 18:47 Military and First Responder Experiences 29:45 Healing and Helping Others 37:37 Understanding Herd Animals: Horses and Humans 38:23 The Healing Power of Vulnerability 38:47 Learning Through Equine-Assisted Activities 41:26 Personal Reflections and Childhood Memories 46:31 The Importance of Being Present 47:33 Combining Therapy and Peer Support 52:47 Daily Practices for Mental Well-being 55:32 The Journey to Inner Peace 01:04:32 The Future of Finally Home Farm 01:10:54 Final Thoughts and Reflections

Episode 142 In this powerful episode of 'The Things We All Carry,' Stack returns after a hiatus to share his personal battle with depression and self-reflection. He introduces his guest, Ashley Iverson, the widow of Corey Iverson, a firefighter who perished in the Thomas Fire of 2017. Ashley talks about coping with her immense loss, finding gratitude, and her mission to support first responders through the Iverson Foundation for Active Awareness (IFAA). She discusses mental health, the importance of gratitude, self-care, and how she continues to carry forward and make a difference in the lives of others. 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:25 Personal Struggles and Introspection 02:03 Understanding Depression 04:17 The Journey to Self-Forgiveness 13:43 Introducing Episode 142 16:42 Interview with Ashley Iverson 18:58 Ashley's Background and Early Life 32:39 Meeting Corey Iverson 34:42 A Love Story Begins 36:13 The Proposal and Marriage 36:33 The Thomas Fire Tragedy 37:18 Coping with Loss 38:23 Mental Health Awareness 53:13 The Iverson Foundation 01:07:43 Elements of Healing 01:15:20 Moving Forward 01:19:59 Final Thoughts and Reflections

In this heartfelt episode of 'The Things We All Carry,'  Stack interviews grief coach Lynn Lewis, who shares her journey through grief after the tragic loss of her son to suicide. Lynn talks about her mission to help others by sharing her own story and the importance of grieving out loud. They discuss the complexities of grief, the misconceptions around the stages of grief, and the critical need for self-care. Lynn also emphasizes the emotional toll on first responders and how her work aims to break the stigma surrounding mental health and grief. This episode is a reminder that it's okay to talk about our pain and loss and that doing so can be a powerful step toward healing.   00:00 Introduction to The Things We All Carry Podcast 00:45 Host's Personal Reflections and Struggles 01:45 Dealing with Grief and Emotions 03:39 Upcoming Episode Preview 07:19 Guest Introduction: Lynn Lewis 07:34 Lynn's Story: A Mother's Grief 08:11 The Impact of Suicide on Family 08:26 Lynn's Journey to Becoming a Grief Coach 09:25 Encouragement to Share and Heal 10:19 Conversation with Lynn Lewis 16:35 Daniel's Life and Career 24:37 The Day of the Tragedy 30:17 Understanding and Coping with Suicide 41:02 Turning Pain into Purpose 41:14 Sharing the Story: A Path to Healing 42:34 Navigating the Stigma of Suicide 44:02 Understanding Grief and Its Stages 47:11 Acknowledgement vs. Acceptance 48:42 Creating an Action Plan for Grief 49:45 Dealing with Guilt and Moving Forward 53:16 Coping with Anniversaries and Special Dates 57:35 The Importance of Talking About Grief 01:06:58 Resources and Final Thoughts

In this episode of The Things We All Carry, Stack shares personal reflections on grief, healing, and change. Nearing the one-year anniversary of his mother's passing, he discusses the importance of family time, dealing with emotional pain, and the unpredictable nature of grief. The episode also explores managing retirement, overcoming feelings of being lost, and seeking community connection. Stack addresses common listener questions on topics like self-care, imposter syndrome, and finding the right therapist. He also introduces a new podcast, 'The Things We All Can,' focused on positive change-makers in the fire service. Listen in for a candid discussion about the challenges and steps toward healing, resilience, and community support. 00:00 Introduction to The Things We All Carry 00:45 A Personal Reflection on Grief 02:14 Dealing with Loss and Healing 07:10 Navigating Post-Retirement Challenges 11:17 Changing Fire Department Culture 15:29 Finding the Right Therapist 18:30 Addressing Imposter Syndrome 22:05 The Importance of Self-Care 29:09 Upcoming Projects and New Show 32:44 Call for Stories and Conclusion

In this comprehensive episode of 'The Things We All Carry,' we delve into the profound challenges surrounding trauma and suicide, particularly among first responders and military personnel. The host reflects on personal struggles, including the anniversaries of significant losses in October. Guest Mike, a trauma and suicide researcher and U.S. Army veteran, provides valuable insights into why these issues are so prevalent in high-stress professions. Key topics include the difference between being 'triggered' and 'activated,' the psychological theories of suicidal ideation, and the impact of addiction. The episode highlights the importance of trust, community support, and actionable steps individuals and communities can take to mitigate suicide rates. Join us as we explore these heavy topics and strive to foster better mental health support systems.   00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:25 Personal Struggles in October 01:07 Reflecting on Past Intros 02:08 Embracing Imperfection and Taking Action 04:20 The Importance of Conversation 05:14 Facing Personal Demons 06:34 The Power of Talking 08:24 Commitment to Self-Improvement 12:39 Episode 139 Introduction 13:04 Understanding Suicide 17:09 Triggered vs. Activated 23:12 Overt and Covert Suicide 32:16 Addiction and Depression 33:26 Interpersonal Theory of Suicide 34:41 Understanding Thwarted Belongingness 35:34 Perceived Burdensomeness in Veterans 36:30 Acquired Capability of Suicide 37:34 The Role of Past Traumas 38:55 Substance Use and Self-Medication 39:49 Mental Health in First Responders 42:33 The Importance of Continued Support 46:41 Community and Personal Responsibility 01:00:44 Changing the Narrative Around Suicide 01:01:29 Final Thoughts and Reflections

Join 'The Things We All Carry' for an in-depth exploration of the shared and unique traumas experienced by military veterans and first responders. Reflecting personal grief and the emotional impact of service, this episode features insights from Mike, a trauma and suicide researcher. It addresses the mental health challenges of these communities, delving into 'big T, little T' definitions of trauma, the spectrum of responses, and strategies for seeking help. Through poignant personal stories and professional analysis, we uncover the lasting effects of trauma and the importance of trauma-informed care. Tune in for a compelling conversation on coping mechanisms, camaraderie, and the drive to serve despite overwhelming odds.   00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:23 Conference in Beaver Creek, Ohio 01:19 Personal Reflections on Grief 04:00 Taking Action for Mental Health 07:35 Introducing Today's Guest: Mike 07:45 Mike's Background and Research 13:44 Growing Up in Virginia 15:59 Military and First Responder Experiences 21:34 Joining the Coast Guard 26:17 Army Career and Behavioral Health Initiative 27:21 Clinical Hours and Publications 28:11 Medically Retired from the Army 28:30 Ongoing Work and Connections 29:04 Focus on Trauma and Suicide 31:03 Defining Trauma 32:13 Trauma in Military and First Responder Communities 34:11 Trauma Responses and Their Impact 45:05 Conditioned Responses and Fight or Flight 54:25 Managing Crisis and Calm 57:07 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

In this episode, the focus is on the transformative power of mindfulness for first responders. This episode features Josh, a fire captain and founder of Foundation Fortified. The discussion highlights how mindfulness and meditation can be crucial tools for managing trauma, enhancing focus, and improving mental well-being in high-stress professions. Josh shares his mission to make mindfulness accessible through various platforms, addressing its benefits for both professional and personal life, including for families and children of first responders. The conversation also draws parallels between mindfulness and situational awareness training, emphasizing improved decision-making under stress. Listeners are offered insights into the potential of mindfulness to reshape approaches to mental health and the importance of nonfiction literature in understanding human culture.   00:00 Introduction to The Things We All Carry 00:25 Personal Reflections and Family Memories 02:32 Struggles with Grief and Self-Improvement 03:42 Commitment to Therapy and Personal Growth 07:08 Episode 137: Featuring Josh from Foundation Fortified 09:16 Josh's Background and Mindfulness Journey 10:05 Understanding Mindfulness and Meditation 13:01 Mindfulness for First Responders 37:02 Practical Steps to Start Mindfulness 42:27 The Essence of Mindfulness 42:53 Finding Joy in the Present Moment 43:21 Explaining Mindfulness to Others 44:06 The Mind's Role in Dissatisfaction 45:46 Training the Mind Against Unhappiness 46:16 Mindfulness and Suffering 47:05 The Importance of Mindfulness in Daily Life 47:47 Mindfulness as a Trainable Skill 49:06 Mindfulness for First Responders 49:55 Mindfulness Practice and Emotional Waves 50:20 The Future of Mindfulness in the Industry 53:10 Mindfulness Resources and Programs 54:18 Mindfulness for Families and Children 55:17 Daily Mindfulness Practice for First Responders 57:47 The Journey of Creating Mindfulness Content 01:03:30 Mindfulness and Leadership 01:05:34 The Impact of Technology on Attention 01:13:10 Mindfulness in High-Stress Situations 01:16:18 The Benefits of Mindfulness Practice 01:18:20 Experiencing Awe Through Mindfulness 01:20:35 Book Recommendations and Final Thoughts

In this episode of 'The Things We All Carry,' we explore the mental health challenges and recovery journeys of first responders. Featuring a profound conversation with Brandon, a firefighter from Cincinnati, who shares his battle with PTSD and his experience with stellar ganglion block treatment. The episode highlights the importance of therapy, the impact of traumatic calls, peer support, and the fight to break mental health stigmas. Additionally, practical strategies for managing mental health, including therapy, meditation, and supportive family interactions, are discussed, offering valuable insights for coping with job-related stress and fostering personal growth.   00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:28 Reflecting on Conversations with Former Guests 01:09 Challenges of Returning from Inpatient Treatment 06:30 Personal Struggles and Seeking Help 08:16 Introducing Episode 136: Brandon's Story 11:44 Brandon's Background and Fire Service Journey 12:12 Growing Up in a Firefighting Family 21:51 Dealing with ADHD and Personal Challenges 29:41 Joining the Marine Corps and Facing Setbacks 34:11 Pursuing a Career in the Fire Service 36:29 Navigating Multiple Departments 37:11 Paramedic School and Injury 38:20 Facing Physical Limitations 39:02 Transition to Hospital Work 40:49 Struggles with PTSD 49:55 Therapy and Recovery Journey 53:51 Finding Effective Therapy 55:54 The Impact of ART Therapy 57:50 Stella Ganglion Block Experience 01:08:51 Daily Rituals and Mental Health 01:10:10 Department's Mental Health Approach 01:12:31 Moments of Awe and Reflection 01:13:44 Book Recommendations and Closing

In this episode, Stack dives deep into the nuanced and often complex experiences of grief, particularly as it relates to first responders. The episode underscores the importance of open discussion and healthy management of grief and trauma. This week's guest, Jamie, the Clinical Director of The Battle Within, shares her personal experiences and insights into trauma-informed care. The Battle Within is an organization dedicated to providing mental and behavioral support to veterans and first responders. Jamie elaborates on their flagship program, the Revenant Journey, a five-day intensive workshop designed to arm participants with essential coping skills and tools. Additional programs such as the Frontline Therapy Network and Dogs for Valor also aim to support individuals dealing with trauma. Tune in to learn more about the impact of grief, the importance of talking about it, and the valuable resources available through The Battle Within.   00:00 Introduction to The Things We All Carry 00:28 Exploring the Theme of Grief 01:49 Personal Stories of Loss 05:04 The Importance of Healing Out Loud 08:44 Introducing Jamie from The Battle Within 14:05 Jamie's Background and Childhood 16:54 Jamie's Professional Journey 19:15 The Impact of Personal Trauma 21:35 Challenges in Systemic Support 27:01 Integrating Professional and Personal Experiences 29:29 Joining the Club: Embracing the Battle Within 29:48 Origins of the Battle Within 31:13 Personal Journey to the Battle Within 34:10 Core Programs of the Battle Within 34:27 The Revenant Journey: A Deep Dive 35:28 Holistic Healing Approaches 40:27 Building Community and Vulnerability 43:35 Measuring Success and Testimonials 47:44 Getting Involved and Additional Programs 54:26 Cost and Logistics 55:05 Moments of Awe and Book Recommendations 01:01:51 Final Thoughts and Farewell

In this episode of 'The Things We All Carry,' Stack interviews Brad, a recently retired firefighter from Ohio with a background in the Navy. Brad shares his journey from working in crash and salvage on a flight deck to becoming a dedicated firefighter. He discusses the significant impact of the opioid epidemic on his career, his struggles with the mental toll of the job, and his current pursuit of a degree in psychology and counseling to help first responders. Tune in for a compelling conversation about trauma, recovery, and the importance of peer support in the firefighting community.   00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:22 Stepping Out of the Comfort Zone 00:43 Operation Yellow Tape Event 01:56 Engaging with the Community 06:26 Upcoming Appearances and Reflections 07:55 Episode 134 Introduction 08:04 Interview with Brad: Life After Fire Service 12:38 Brad's Background and Early Life 17:07 Military Service and Challenges 26:40 Transition to Firefighting 29:36 Reflecting on a Firefighting Career 29:58 Challenges and Realizations 32:13 Types of Calls and Community Dynamics 33:57 Impact of the Heroin Epidemic 36:00 Personal Struggles and Peer Support 37:10 Transition to Therapy and Retirement 38:27 Ongoing Involvement and Future Plans 40:43 Final Thoughts and Reflections 48:31 Conclusion and Farewell