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Author and educator Laura Danger (@thatdarnchat) brought weaponized incompetence and the nag paradox into the mainstream, and today she's here to talk about how these dynamics can show up way before you're married with kids. We get into the early warning signs of domestic inequity you can spot while dating, the green flags that actually matter for a long-term partnership, and what a truly collaborative relationship looks like day to day. Plus, Laura shares her unexpectedly romantic love story, we unpack why "happy wife, happy life" makes me cringe, and we tackle a dating dilemma from someone who started dating their roommate. Check out Laura's amazing book, No More Mediocre: A Call To Reimagine Our Relationships And Demand More THANKS TO OUR PARTNERS Meundies: Get up to 50% off on underwear with code DATING! meundies.com/dating Quince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/talia Pique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/dating Rocket Money: Cancel unwanted subscriptions easily and manage your finances with Rocket Money! Go to rocketmoney.com/dating to get started. AG1: Go to drinkag1.com/dating and get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2 when you first subscribe! Olive & June: DIY salon-level nails! Get 20% off your first mani system at oliveandjune.com/dating20 JOIN THE COMMUNITY datingintentionallypod.com/community CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠ ⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Feeling uneasy about your partner's friendship with someone of the opposite sex? You're not alone. In this episode, I'm breaking down what that jealousy actually means, when it's a you problem vs. a real red flag, and how to navigate it without sabotaging your relationship. I'm sharing my own experience working through this with Johnny and the one boundary we set that made all the difference. Plus: why your partner having women friends is actually a green flag, how to bring this up without it turning into a fight, and what to do if the conversation goes badly. Then, in this week's dating dilemma, a guy who had a "Hallmark movie moment" with someone who's already in a relationship wants to know if he should pursue it. Instagram post I'm referring to! THANKS TO OUR PARTNERS Meundies: Get up to 50% off on underwear with code DATING! meundies.com/dating Quince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/talia Pique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/dating Rocket Money: Cancel unwanted subscriptions easily and manage your finances with Rocket Money! Go to rocketmoney.com/dating to get started. AG1: Go to drinkag1.com/dating and get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2 when you first subscribe! Olive & June: DIY salon-level nails! Get 20% off your first mani system at oliveandjune.com/dating20 JOIN THE COMMUNITY datingintentionallypod.com/community CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠ ⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sabrina Bendory, author of Detached: How to Let Go, Heal and Become Irresistible, joins me to break down what detached dating actually means (hint: it's not about not caring). We get into why you keep ending up in situationships, the difference between limerence and real connection, and two tools to manage dating anxiety that you probably never heard of before. Plus, we tackle a dating dilemma about financial generosity in relationships. THANKS TO OUR PARTNERS Meundies: Get up to 50% off on underwear with code DATING! meundies.com/dating Quince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/talia Pique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/dating Rocket Money: Cancel unwanted subscriptions easily and manage your finances with Rocket Money! Go to rocketmoney.com/dating to get started. AG1: Go to drinkag1.com/dating and get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2 when you first subscribe! Olive & June: DIY salon-level nails! Get 20% off your first mani system at oliveandjune.com/dating20 JOIN THE COMMUNITY datingintentionallypod.com/community CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠ ⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I'm answering four real dating dilemmas from listeners stuck on whether to stay or leave a relationship. I get into how to end a medium-term relationship, what to do when you've been on the fence for months, the difference between accepting imperfections and settling, and what to actually look for when you give someone a deadline to change. If you're in a relationship that feels "fine" but you're questioning whether fine is enough, this one's for you. THANKS TO OUR PARTNERS Meundies: Get up to 50% off on underwear with code DATING! meundies.com/dating Quince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/talia Pique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/dating Rocket Money: Cancel unwanted subscriptions easily and manage your finances with Rocket Money! Go to rocketmoney.com/dating to get started. AG1: Go to drinkag1.com/dating and get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2 when you first subscribe! Olive & June: DIY salon-level nails! Get 20% off your first mani system at oliveandjune.com/dating20 JOIN THE COMMUNITY datingintentionallypod.com/community CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠ ⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I'm chatting with Travis Ambrose, an attachment-focused coach who specializes in helping people on the avoidant end of the spectrum heal and build healthier relationships. We're discussing everything from signs of avoidant attachment to the common mistakes anxious daters make that push avoidants away. Travis also shares his framework for knowing when a relationship is workable versus when it's time to walk away. We also tackle a dating dilemma: navigating a two-month relationship with someone who shows classic avoidant patterns. THANKS TO OUR PARTNERS Meundies: Get up to 50% off on underwear with code DATING! meundies.com/dating Quince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/talia Pique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/dating Rocket Money: Cancel unwanted subscriptions easily and manage your finances with Rocket Money! Go to rocketmoney.com/dating to get started. AG1: Go to drinkag1.com/dating and get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2 when you first subscribe! Olive & June: DIY salon-level nails! Get 20% off your first mani system at oliveandjune.com/dating20 JOIN THE COMMUNITY datingintentionallypod.com/community CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠ ⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Let's get ready for a first date! I'm sharing a pep talk for your next first date, plus my best quick tips for flirting, so you can actually create a romantic connection instead of just a friendly one. I'm covering how to lower the stakes and stop putting so much pressure on yourself, what your real mission is on a first date, and what to do if you're nervous. Then I get into the basics of flirting and more advanced moves. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma from a woman who matched with a guy on Bumble, lost him when she reset her profile, and now he's popped up on Instagram. Should she slide into his DMs? Get 90+ dating questions (and all my free guides): datingintentionallypod.com/gift THANKS TO OUR PARTNERS Meundies: Get up to 50% off on underwear with code DATING! meundies.com/dating Quince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/talia Pique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/dating Rocket Money: Cancel unwanted subscriptions easily and manage your finances with Rocket Money! Go to rocketmoney.com/dating to get started. AG1: Go to drinkag1.com/dating and get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2 when you first subscribe! Olive & June: DIY salon-level nails! Get 20% off your first mani system at oliveandjune.com/dating20 JOIN THE COMMUNITY datingintentionallypod.com/community CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠ ⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I'm chatting with Amy Nobile Messing, a holistic dating coach who "turbo dated" her way through NYC after leaving a 20-year marriage in her 40. She's now remarried and helping clients of all ages find love with intention. We're discussing everything from how to bring up your divorce on a first date to her four pillars for filtering someone out by date four. Amy also shares the trick question she uses to figure out if someone's actually ready for a relationship. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about navigating post-divorce dating when external markers like marriage and kids are off the table. THANKS TO OUR PARTNERS Meundies: Get up to 50% off on underwear with code DATING! meundies.com/dating Quince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/talia Pique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/dating Rocket Money: Cancel unwanted subscriptions easily and manage your finances with Rocket Money! Go to rocketmoney.com/dating to get started. AG1: Go to drinkag1.com/dating and get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2 when you first subscribe! Olive & June: DIY salon-level nails! Get 20% off your first mani system at oliveandjune.com/dating20 JOIN THE COMMUNITY datingintentionallypod.com/community CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠ ⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I’m breaking down the real signs someone is actually ready for a relationship beyond what they say on a dating app or how excited they seem early on. I’m also covering what doesn’t mean much on its own (like good morning texts or initial excitement), how long it should realistically take to see these signs, and what you’ll never see from someone who’s truly ready. Along the way, I share personal examples from my relationship with Johnny. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma from a woman whose boyfriend aired his doubts about her to his friends, which is causing them major issues. Episode mentioned: are you ready for a relationship? THANKS TO OUR PARTNERS Quince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/talia Pique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/dating Rocket Money: Cancel unwanted subscriptions easily and manage your finances with Rocket Money! Go to rocketmoney.com/dating to get started. AG1: Go to drinkag1.com/dating and get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2 when you first subscribe! Olive & June: DIY salon-level nails! Get 20% off your first mani system at oliveandjune.com/dating20 JOIN THE COMMUNITY datingintentionallypod.com/community CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠ ⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I'm chatting with Allora Dannon, who went on her first date ever at 32. She's now engaged, and we're discussing everything from how to bring up your lack of experience on a date to navigating physical intimacy when it's all brand new to grieving the timeline you thought you'd have while still moving forward. Whether you're a late bloomer yourself or you want to better support someone who is, this conversation is packed with encouragement and practical advice for anyone who's ever felt "behind." At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about whether inconsistent texting is a real dealbreaker or a sign of self-sabotage. Check out Allora on TikTok and grab her book! THANKS TO OUR PARTNERS Quince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/talia Pique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/dating Rocket Money: Cancel unwanted subscriptions easily and manage your finances with Rocket Money! Go to rocketmoney.com/dating to get started. AG1: Go to drinkag1.com/dating and get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2 when you first subscribe! Olive & June: DIY salon-level nails! Get 20% off your first mani system at oliveandjune.com/dating20 JOIN THE COMMUNITY datingintentionallypod.com/community CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠ ⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I'm breaking down 8 things that seem like red flags but are actually just part of being with someone for a while, like feeling bored sometimes, not being "in love" every single day, having doubts, disagreeing about money, and yes, occasionally thinking about an ex. I'm sharing where the line is between normal and actually problematic, plus what Johnny and I have experienced along the way. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma about whether needing to tell your partner how to show up for you is a sign to move on. Mentioned in this episode: Relationship Needs Masterclass - catch session two on 1/12!Study on how often couples fight about money THANKS TO OUR PARTNERS Quince: Get free shipping & 365-day returns on luxe basics, bedding, and more. quince.com/talia Pique Life: Unlock 20% off your first order! piquelife.com/dating Rocket Money: Cancel unwanted subscriptions easily and manage your finances with Rocket Money! Go to rocketmoney.com/dating to get started. AG1: Go to drinkag1.com/dating and get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2 when you first subscribe! Olive & June: DIY salon-level nails! Get 20% off your first mani system at oliveandjune.com/dating20 JOIN THE COMMUNITY datingintentionallypod.com/community CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠ ⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I’m joined by dating coach Erika Ettin again to break down the mindset shifts that make dating feel calmer, clearer, and more intentional. We talk about dating NATO (not attached to outcome), avoiding pen-pal dynamics, reading texting patterns, and how to stay open without over-investing too early. At the end, we dive into a text support question from a listener about a promising first date that turns into confusing texting and how to handle it. Where to Find Erika: IG: https://www.instagram.com/alittlenudge Podcast: https://sowemetonline.com/ Website: https://www.alittlenudge.com/ JOIN THE COMMUNITY datingintentionallypod.com/community CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠ ⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple DATING COURSES ⁠Swipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating Apps⁠ Relationship Needs Master Class See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Starting fresh in dating can feel exciting and overwhelming at the same time. In this episode, I'm sharing my top 10 tips for dating intentionally in 2026, from building confidence and resilience to utilizing phone calls to combat flakiness to finding an in-person approach that actually fits your life and getting crystal clear on your core needs. This episode is packed with the direction and positivity you might be craving as we head into a new year. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma about people who are on the apps but say they're not ready to date. Sign up for my Relationship Needs Masterclass on 1/5 and 1/12! datingintentionallypod.com/needs Mentioned in this episode: How to set boundaries (ep 73)Being the chooser vs being chosen (ep 218)Dating Intentionally Basics IG post Thanks to our partners: Rocket Money: Cancel unwanted subscriptions easily and manage your finances with Rocket Money! Go to rocketmoney.com/dating to get started. AG1: Go to drinkag1.com/dating and get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2 when you first subscribe! Rula: Go to rula.com/datingintentionally and take the first step towards better mental health today. Olive & June: DIY salon-level nails! Get 20% off your first mani system at oliveandjune.com/dating20 CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠ ⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠ SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Being single is treated like something to escape, like something's wrong with you. But what if we stopped thinking of it that way? In this episode, I'm sharing the exact exercise I did after leaving my 6-year relationship that completely changed how I approached dating. I'm sharing the reflection questions I used to build my own security while actively dating, so you can do the same. This episode will help you re-frame urgency and desperation around just finding your person already. REFLECTION QUESTIONS: If I don't like it here, where should I live?How do I want to spend my time? What do I want my lifestyle to be?How will I make my life meaningful without a romantic relationship?What kind of friend and daughter do I want to be?How will I show up for the people in my life?How do I want to spend my money and what are my financial goals as a single person?If I don't meet anyone in the next few years, will I choose to have kids on my own?If I don't get married, what does the best version of my life look like? Rocket Money: Cancel unwanted subscriptions easily and manage your finances with Rocket Money! Go to rocketmoney.com/dating to get started. AG1: Go to drinkag1.com/dating and get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2 when you first subscribe! Rula: Go to rula.com/datingintentionally and take the first step towards better mental health today. Olive & June: DIY salon-level nails! Get 20% off your first mani system at oliveandjune.com/dating20 UPCOMING EVENT Relationship Needs Masterclass: datingintentionallypod.com/needs JOIN THE COMMUNITY datingintentionallypod.com/community CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠ ⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠Swipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating Apps⁠ Relationship Needs Master Class SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Are you overthinking your dating situations, or are people showing you exactly who they are? In this episode, I break down four real dating dilemmas, which will help you trust your gut, set firmer boundaries, and date with more confidence and ease. Dilemma 1) dating someone who isn’t truly available, Dilemma 2) dealing with inconsistency and repeated cancellations, Dilemma 3) knowing when to state a boundary versus walk away, and Dilemma 4) figuring out whether a “slow burn” is real or a stalled connection. When you learn to observe instead of explain away behavior, dating becomes less confusing and a lot more empowering. Join my Relationship Needs Masterclass on 1/5 and 1/12! datingintentionallypod.com/needs Thanks to our partners: Rocket Money: Cancel unwanted subscriptions easily and manage your finances with Rocket Money! Go to rocketmoney.com/dating to get started. AG1: Go to drinkag1.com/dating and get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2 when you first subscribe! Rula: Go to rula.com/datingintentionally and take the first step towards better mental health today. Olive & June: DIY salon-level nails! Get 20% off your first mani system at oliveandjune.com/dating20 JOIN THE COMMUNITY datingintentionallypod.com/community CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠ ⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠Swipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating Apps⁠ Relationship Needs Master Class SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Breakups aren’t fun, but they don’t have to break you. In this episode, I’m joined by breakup coach Cole Zesiger to talk about why we ruminate, how to stop comparing new dates to an ex, and when you are actually ready to date again. We also get into his divorce story, real healing strategies, and at the end we get into a dating dilemma about staying in touch with exes. Connect with Cole Zesiger: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachcolezesiger YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbR-Co-YONE96kmIsxQPstA Get Cole's Book! Ex's and No's: The Breakup Advice You Don't Want to Hear Thanks to our partners: Rocket Money: Cancel unwanted subscriptions easily and manage your finances with Rocket Money! Go to rocketmoney.com/dating to get started. AG1: Go to drinkag1.com/dating and get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2 when you first subscribe! Rula: Go to rula.com/datingintentionally and take the first step towards better mental health today. Olive & June: DIY salon-level nails! Get 20% off your first mani system at oliveandjune.com/dating20 JOIN THE COMMUNITY datingintentionallypod.com/community CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Ask a question for me to answer on the pod⁠ ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally!⁠ MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT ⁠Free texting templates & dating FAQ guide⁠ ⁠Get more dating advice from me on YouTube⁠ DATING COURSES ⁠Swipe, Match, Date - Master The Dating Apps⁠ ⁠Relationship Needs Master Class SUPPORT THE POD ⁠Rate on Apple See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.