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What happens when one partner keeps reaching, the other keeps retreating, and both end up feeling rejected? And... How do you talk about it? Well today, we do talk about it. Everything from the loneliest six inches in a relationship to when "not tonight" starts to mean "not you." Sue helps you navigate the differences between what different people need to get in the mood. For some it's spontaneous desire, but for others, desire is more responsive. Have you ever felt like every touch is a demand? We talk about it. And we dive into the real reasons WHY desire disappears. We also offer some tips on breaking that rejection "pressure loop." This week, Sue's Sassy Sex Secret is an incredible plan that she calls "the 10 minute maybe." And for our swingers, we get into how being desired in the lifestyle, while hot, it doesn't fix what's happening at home. Plus - don't miss Sue's heart to heart conversation with Charla Hathaway - a self proclaimed "whore since 50" who now, at the age of 80 is receiving rave reviews for her stage show "Naked At My Age." https://charlahathaway.com We're online at www.turnedonpodcast.com Sue's Newsletter: www.turnedonpodcast.com/newsletter Questions For Sue: [email protected] John: [email protected] And on Fetlife: @ TurnedOnPodcast @ MistressInCharge @ Megahurts Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

25 minutes and 51 seconds. That is the most lied about number in sex. Today, Sex With Sue (Sue McGarvie) and John explain why as we discuss how long sex usually lasts, and how long is SHOULD actually last. We'll address the question you've asked yourself in bed but never said out loud... "Is my sex life normal?" And we'll give you the most honest answer plus offer some tips that should help to fix it! Are you normal if you haven't had sex in a long time? Are you normal if you compare the amount of sex you're having with the amount of sex others are having? Is there something wrong with your body that's making you not crave it as much? You've asked. And we'll answer you. Plus - Sue's Sassy Sex Secret this week - remote control toys! OMG the fun!!!! It's the perfect seduction date and it can really heat things up! Sue also lets you in on 5 things that you can change today that will help you feel more than normal. And, on our swinger segment this week - Just how normal IS swinging anyway? (More normal than you probably think.) Your questions for Sue: [email protected] Sue's Newsletter: www.turnedonpodcast.com/newsletter Our webite: www.turnedonpodcast.com Fetlife links: @ TurnedOnPodcast @ MistressInCharge @ Megahurts Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's an entire show devoted to the inability to achieve orgasm. Sex With Sue is North America's leading expert on human sexuality and today she and John discuss this issue, which is more common that most probably realize. It not only affects individuals, but can impact your partner as well. We'll explore why sometimes you're able to cum when you're by yourself, but can't always get there when you're with somebody else. Sue has some tricks up her sleeve to help with that too! This week's "Sassy Sex Secret" is all about the "frenulum switch!" We think you'll REALLY like this! For some people, orgasm actually hurt. We'll examine the reasons why and go over some options that might help to take that pain away so you can enjoy them again. For our swinger friends (hi!) - most probably imagine that in this community, it's orgasms everywhere all the time with everyone. Except, it's not. And, you don't have to make finish into a report card either. Finally... Some of the best, if you'll pardon the pun, f*****g orgasm tricks! Cum see us online at www.turnedonpodcast.com Questions for Sue: [email protected] Subscribe to Sue's newsletter: www.turnedonpodcast.com/newsletter Turned On, on Fetlife: TurnedOnPodcast Sue on Fetlife: MistressInCharge John on Fetlife: Megahurts Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What do you do when you have a hard time getting hard? Or staying hard? Today, we talk about it. Including new treatments, and how commonplace erection medications are on porn sets, and at swinger clubs. In this week's swinger segment we'll get into why some men can't get hard even in that environment, and, as a bonus, we have a conversation about the couple's crush. Sue and John will offer insight into why porn can impact your dick, and why your boss may be more to blame for not being able to get it up than your partner is. What weakens erections and what men can do to make them harder and more reliable, and why playing with your partner's flaccid penis can be a LOT of fun! For both of you! Questions for Sue: [email protected] Our website: www.turnedonpodcast.com Fetlfe links: @ TurnedOnPodcast @MistressInCharge @Megahurts Sue on TikTok: @s3xwithsue.swingdateguru Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey it's Sue and John - your guides today on how to better your odds of ending up in bed with someone you are attracted to! A 40 minute conversation that covers that space between flirting and spending the night together. We'll reveal where most people either freeze, fumble or accidentally kill the mood. And we offer some tips on how to avoid those pitfalls, and how to lean into your awkwardness as a super power! Think about what song you'd strip to for someone you're trying to seduce, because Sue will teach you and incredible three minute strip tease! You know those people who seem to have game every day and every night? What if YOU knew how to do that? After this conversation, you'll have some things to try! Oh, and guys... Bridgerton. There aren't many places you can go to get better lessons on seduction that Bridgerton. You have your homework! For our swinger friends (hi!), why swingers may be more sexually confident. Swinging isn't always a guaranteed romp. Swingers have learned to deal with rejection, but they also have learned how communication, articulating desires, flirting and confidence can lead to incredible connections! Sue has an entire list of seduction secrets she'll share with you on this episode, and we walk you through how to handle it when things go sideways and sex doesn't happen. We're online at www.turnedonpodcast.com - including links to our Kinky Confessions, how to subscribe to Sue's newsletter, even products Sue recommends on our new Amazon store! On Fetlife: @ TurnedOnPodcast Sue on Fetlife: @ MistressInCharge John on Fetlife @ Megahurts Questions for Sue: [email protected] Questions for John: [email protected] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today we bring you inside a BDSM dungeon! It's an enormous space, in a very small community, in small town New Brunswick Canada! We'll introduce you to Mistress Aaliyah and Her husband Chuck, who is also the dungeon master. In just a few short years they turned their lifestyle into a space that attracts people from across Canada, the USA and around the world. From BDSM sessions to swinger events and incredible adult lifestyle parties, Mistress and Chuck will introduce you to this converted warehouse that started as the location for their custom auto shop. If you've ever wondered if you could work as a Pro Domme, Mistress will tell you some of the things you need to know about that line of work. From what you need to get started to what skill sets you need to have. This is an eye opener and a very fun conversation! See the Warehouse for yourself online at www.thewarehousenb.ca Plus... Sue has a conversation with one of our listeners, Copper Delight, who took us up on our invitation to have you, the listener, help answer some of the questions other listeners have. Today, she and Sue go through several questions we received recently about the Swinger lifestyle - it's fun to get a new perspective! Find us online at www.turnedonpodcast.com And on Fetlfe: @ TurnedOnPodcast John on Fetlife @ Megahurts Sue on Fetlife @ MistressInCharge Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today... Meet a gigolo! Sue speaks to an Australian man who makes a living catering to the sexual needs and desires of women. It's a very usual occupation, and we'll explore who the woman are that use his service. This week we also guide you through what to expect if and when you visit a sex worker for the first time. It can be overwhelming, but we hope the right information helps you enjoy your experience a lot more. On our So You're A Swinger segment this week, we look at paid intimacy vs the lifestyle. We also hear from a listener who wants to gain experience with women but doesn't quite know where to begin. He also doesn't want to be arrested. And... Sue's Sassy Sex Secret this week is all about electro stimulation! (Hint: One of us REALLY loves it!) And... It's our first ever installment of our weekly "soap opera" As The World Turns On... Your questions for Sue: [email protected] Our Website: www.turnedonpodcast.com Us on Fetlife: @ TurnedOnPodcast John on Fetlife @ Megahurts Sue on Fetlife @ MistressInCharge Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to the 200th episode of Turned On With Sue And John! Our friendship began when we both worked at the same radio station in 1992. John was a music DJ and Sue hosted a nationally syndicated, call in show about all things sex, including countless phone calls from people with questions that they were too shy to ask anyone else. Today, we discuss the sex questions everyone is REALLY asking in 2026 - including the differences between sex then and now, the sex advice that people get that is, to be blunt, b******t and so much more. We address questions from our friends in the swinger community as they continue to explore, we address porn and toys, erectile dysfunction, and sex as you get older. This entire hour is devoted to the questions we get from you every week. And that has been, is, and always will be Sue's goal; to answer your questions, provide you with answers based on research and experience, and to make you know, without a shadow of a doubt, that you are not alone in your likes, your wants, your desires. Thanks for being with us for 200+ conversations! Here's to 200 more! Our website: www.turnedonpodcast.com Sue's Newsletter: www.turnedonpodcast.com/newsletter Us on Fetlife: @ TurnedOnPodcast John on Fetlife (including his latest latex pics from this weekend) @ Megahurts Sue on Fetlife @ MistressInCharge Sue's email: [email protected] John's email: [email protected] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's show #199! This week - Weird kinks. Or what we something believe are weird, until we meet others who share it. We'll explore the museum of unusual turn ons... From bug sex to human furniture and more! Listener questions this week include someone wondering if you can be too good at oral sex, and another person asking Sue to define chemistry. They find it confusing. For our swinger friends.... Why science still can't explain our lifestyle! Our website: www.turnedonpodcast.com Us on Fetlife: @ TurnedOnPodcast John on Fetlife @ Megahurts Questions for Sue: [email protected] Next week... Our 200th episode! We can't wait! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week we're going straight at the biggest lie we've all been told: that sex after 40 is a slow fade to nothing. It's not. It's a total rewrite — and most people never bother to read the new rules. What's On This Week's ShowThe Biggest Lie About Sex After 40: That your libido is supposed to disappear, that ED means it's over, that menopause ends great sex. None of it's true. We break down where the panic actually comes from — and it's not your body. Sue's Sassy Sex Secret — The Nipple Map: Here's something almost nobody's tested: your nipples probably aren't twins, they're siblings with completely different personalities. Tonight's homework — become a detective. Two minutes, one finger, five techniques, a score out of 10. You'll probably be shocked which side wins. Why Afternoon Sex Is Underrated: Morning's unreliable. Night you're exhausted. Afternoon? Lower stress, warmer body, medication's kicked in. Maybe your libido didn't disappear — maybe you've just been making love at the worst possible time. So You're a Swinger — The World's Least Likely Rule Breakers: Half the room looks like they just finished helping at a school fundraiser. Turns out swingers have more rules than a hockey league, and most of them are more pro-marriage than the couples judging them. Dear Sue: "Are bi-curious guys welcome at swing events?" And: does pineapple actually change the taste of semen? We answer both. Honestly. As always. PLUS: Sue's exclusive interview with DD White, a 72 year old great grandmother who is not only having great sex, but, together with her husband, has no starred in, and produced over 200 adult titles! DDWhiteXX.com and AllMyLinks.com/ddwhite263 to learn more. Questions for Sue? [email protected] Website: www.turnedonpodcast.com Us of Fetlife: @ TurnedOnPodcast John on Fetlife @ Megahurts Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sue is back from Swingathon UK with a first hand account of this growing swinger festival, plus details of Naughty N'Awlins which was also a HUGE success! And, we dive into what is NEW in the world of swinging, or ENM or any of the newer "lables" being attached to the lifestyle. Sue's Sassy Sex Secret this week helps you with squirting! Some tricks to encourage more fluid. We also answer the question, "Does non-monogamy drive us or are we just bored?" Sue will get you all caught up with the most fun an interesting stories about sex that have been in the news recently and we answer two listener questions - one from someone wondering if they are at risk of being "stretched out" by their very large handed partner... And another, from an exotic dancer who would like our opinions on how people view sex workers... And a request for John to sing more? Ummmm what? Questions for Sue: [email protected] Questions for John: [email protected] Our website: www.turnedonpodcast.com Us on Fetlife: @ TurnedOnPodcast John on Fetlife: @ Megahurts Thanks for getting Turned On With Sue And John Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sue McGarvie has been talking sex on the radio, in seminars, and in print since the early 90s! And now on this podcast - Turned On With Sue And John - the sex education you WISH someone would have pulled you aside and given you decades ago. This week... Pleasure! And why receiving is harder than giving. We'll talk about getting out of your head and getting into sex while GIVING, we'll talk about the science of pleasure and why it matters, and why, when it comes to receiving pleasure, so many people are not able to just let go. For our swinger friends this week: The lifestyle runs on reputation. Some of the things you need to know before you are "that" person. And we answer two questions from you, our audience including someone who is now finding video sex with their partner to be a little "same ol', same ol'" and wants some help to change things up. And our second question deals with someone expressing the need for foreplay, while their partner just wants to get in and get out. We're online at www.turnedonpodcast.com - get in touch, send a voice note, subscribe to our newsletter, listen to past episodes and more! And on Fetlife we are @ TurnedOnPodcast (John on FL is @ Megahurts) Your questions for Sue: [email protected] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What is the best kind of sex? This week on Turned On With Sue and John we’ll help you answer that, including a list of the 10 best kinds, according to therapists around the world. Plus, we’ll discuss some types of sex that you may not believe are good, although, they actually are! Sue’s Sassy Sex Secret this weekdays with Spectatoring is the act of overthinking sex while having sex. And listener questions this week seek Sue’s advice on how to deal with, what they call “a broken c**t” and another person wants to know if it’s normal to sneeze (a lot) when she is close to orgasm. And, for our upside down pineapple friends - The things that surprise the “vanillas!” It’s time to get Turned On With Sue And John www.turnedonpodcast.com Us on Fetlife: TurnedOnPodcast John on Fetlife: Megahertz Sue’s email: [email protected] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1... 2... 3... How many sex partners have you had? Don't answer that. Because, the reality is, it doesn't matter. Your sexual history isn't a report card, or a scoreboard. Today Sex With Sue's, Sue McGarvie and John discuss "The Body Count." Sue's Sassy Sex Secret this week: The "Pulse and Pause" Edging Hack For swingers, a conversation with Bob from Naughty N'awlins plus... Hollywood Gets the Lifestyle Wrong. Again. And in sex in the news: The "wholesome" creator with more than 2,500 partners, and our friend Bonnie Blue is back in the news! Always pushing boundaries, always making headlines, and always fun to talk about! And Raven from the Adult Fun Superstore introduces you to her sex toy pick of the week - The Stroker / Main Squeeze from Doc Johnson! (www.adultfun dot ca) To connect with us: Website: www.turnedonpodcast.com Fetlife: @TurnedOnPodcast John on Fetlife: @Megahurts Email Sue: [email protected] To subscribe to Sue's Newsletter: https://www.turnedonpodcast.com/newsletter/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There is so much bad sex advice out there. And, sadly, a lot of people hear it, try it and things end up worse than they were. Sex With Sue's, Sue McGarvie has been a leading expert on this since the early 90s and on today's episode of Turned On With Sue And John, she addresses a lot of the bad advice, and sets the record straight on what DOES work! Including new sex ideas to hear things up and the wet and wild upgrade using fruits! And she'll introduce you to the "gum job" a candy that actually helps you give a better blow job! We're also going to send Hollywood to the naughty corner because a lot of what it has taught us is just... Well... Hollywood fiction. For our swinger friends - a new mega-swinger-centre is being built - we'll tell you where and we'll also tell you how to explore it FREE! You're welcome! This week's sex in the news includes a man arrested for stealing and then trying to re-sell boner pills at one of the largest swinger hot spots in the world, and a strongman who not only pulled car with his dick, he did it while his dick was on fire. And, a question about face sitting from someone worried that her partner may suffocate. Finally, our friends from the Adult Fun Superstore in Ottawa Canada (adultfun dot ca) introduce us to the new Delightful Vulva And Breast Pump from Shots! We're online @ www.turnedonpodcast.com On Fetlife: TurnedOnPodcast John on Fetlife: Megahurts Email Sue: [email protected] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.