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Emotional neglect can happen to any child in any household. However, all it takes is one stable adult in a child’s life to counteract this neglect! Now the question is: how can we heal this trauma as an adult? In this second video of my emotional neglect series, I explain the importance of healthy relationships for our overall wellbeing, how therapy can give us the experience that parents typically should, and how we ourselves can become the adult we needed as children. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok  www.codependencykate.com

The ACE study found 10 types of childhood trauma that directly impacted health in adulthood, but no one talks about the most pervasive kind: emotional neglect. This kind of trauma is often invisible to outsiders and even to the children who experience it because it's not about what happened to you, it's about what DIDN'T happen.    In this video I go over three common types of emotional neglect, including problem-solving without care, spiritual bypass, and toxic positivity. In the rest of this series, I will give you the tools you need to stop neglecting yourself as an adult.   Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok    www.codependencykate.com

"Gratitude lists" are a staple of self-help advice, but NOT on my channel. The opposite of toxic positivity = actually confronting the negative parts of your life and getting ANGRY.  In this third video of my emotions series, I offer 3 practical tools to feel your real feelings safely: hate lists, tapping, and emotional forecasting. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Refusing to name your emotions doesn't mean they aren't there. Hustle culture tells us to be "logical" rather than emotional, but you can't actually make a change if you avoid your feelings. In this second video of my Emotions 101 series, I share the most important step to becoming more present in your feelings: NAME IT TO TAME IT. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Hustle culture tells us to suck it up and "just do it," but when you ignore the fire in your heart, your brain has to deal with the smoke. In this first video in my emotions series, I'll show you how to actually feel your feelings before you "change your mindset." Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Many parents will say they “didn’t mean” to hurt you, but never actually change their hurtful behavior. When it comes to our children, we have to focus on the impact of our actions, NOT our intentions.   Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok    www.codependencykate.com

Snatching toys doesn’t make your child a "bad kid,” they might’ve learned the behavior from you. If you want to stop this behavior at the root you have to start with yourself. Here I introduce the term childism, point out how it might be showing up in your parenting, and offer a method that will help you AND your child make better choices.    Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok    www.codependencykate.com

When our kids misbehave, it's important to know why before correcting. With other adults, the complete opposite is true. Here I explain the difference between a "bottom-up" approach and a "top-down" approach, and how to know which one actually applies to your situation. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

If you grew up with a parent who only saw you for your behavior and not your inner world, your ignored emotions probably show up in ways you wish they didn’t. You don’t have to keep living like this! You can show yourself the love you should have received before by actually meeting your own needs, and the method I introduce explains exactly how.   Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Your kid isn't being "bad" when it's time to get in the carseat, but your mentality towards it is holding you back. Here I introduce you to the term "childism" and name it as the cause to this issue, and maybe many other parenting issues you may be having! Then I give you a method that will actually work to change this.. every single time. In this video: what childism actually is, how it holds you back, and the tool you NEED (BEND method) to change this for good. What is YOUR carseat struggle? Tell me below! Subscribe for more on codependency, boundaries, and generational patterns. www.codependencykate.com

This concludes our series on BAD COUPLES THERAPY… for now. Here Kate meets with Martha and Megan, who have both experienced bad therapy, to very different degrees. Learn when it’s time to report vs when it’s time to find someone else. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Renee comes to Class with Kate after her husband of 20 years had an affair. She wonders what to do and if her husband is really capable of repair. She then adds her experiences with couples therapy, which reflect Sarah and Renee’s experiences (in the previous episode). Listen to what Kate has to say about how to move forward. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Both Sarah and Renee have been unhappily married to their partners for quite some time. When they have sought out couples therapy, they have gotten no meaningful support. Listen to their stories and how Kate helps them advocate for themselves. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok   www.codependencykate.com

Are all relationships 50/50? For every action, there is an equal reaction, right? That’s how therapists have been trained to treat couples. But what about in cases of abuse? Let’s talk about when couples therapy harms women and how to advocate for yourself. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok   www.codependencykate.com

Content Warning: Discussion of childhood abuse, neglect, physical punishment, and trauma. John came into Office Hours worried about his attitude, his relationships, and the growing distance between himself and his children. But as he shares stories from his childhood, a much bigger picture emerges. Growing up with neglectful, emotionally abandoning parents, living in a hoarded home, and experiencing harsh physical punishment shaped far more than John realized. As we unpack his history together, I challenge the belief that he's simply an angry person and explore whether depression, grief, and unresolved trauma may be at the root of what he's experiencing today. This episode is a powerful look at how childhood abuse can become invisible to the people who survived it and how healing begins when we stop minimizing what happened.   Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com