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Get on Kamden's wait list for The HOLIDAY GAME PLAN:  a three-day holiday planning workshop for the ADHD brain. kamdenadhdcoaching.com/holidays There's a unique intersection of ADHD, womanhood, midlife, and navigating life as a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Hormonal shifts, midlife transitions, and menopause affect our faith, feelings, and daily life. Kamden walks through eight questions she’d want answered if she were just discovering ADHD through the lens of faith: -Does understanding your brain turn faith from a source of shame into relief? -How do you keep track of callings and commitments without feeling like a failure? -Why does “just pray harder” keep coming up, and how do you tell spiritual guidance from self-criticism? -How do you explain ADHD to family, your bishop, or Relief Society sisters without justifying yourself? -Is there space in your congregation to talk openly about mental health? -How do you honor motherhood while your own needs, creativity, and work matter too? -How do you stop comparing your inner experience to other women’s outward appearance? -What does it look like to draw close to God as the person you actually are?   00:00 Welcome and Episode Setup 04:16 Menopause Story Spark 06:31 ADHD Book Resources 09:05 Faith Shame or Relief 14:05 Callings Without Failure 20:13 Pray Harder vs Criticism 28:37 Explaining ADHD and Delegation 34:13 Mental Health in Church 40:19 Motherhood and Selfhood 45:39 Comparison and Hormones 48:41 Drawing Close to God 51:51 Final Encouragement Along the way: why estrogen and dopamine matter for executive function, how delegation and accountability partners can help in a calling, what a helicopter-pilot story taught her about measuring the right goal, and why God’s rest for you may look different from your neurotypical neighbor’s. Resources mentioned: Your Brain’s Not Broken by Dr. Tamara Rosier ADHD and Women by Dr. Jolene Brighten ADHD 2.0 by Dr. Edward Hallowell and Dr. John Ratey Taking Charge of Adult ADHD by Dr. Russell Barkley How to Keep House While Drowning by KC Davis

In this episode, host and ADHD coach Kamden Hainsworth dives into the concept of the "ADHD tax"—the hidden financial, emotional, physical, and energetic costs that result from executive dysfunction. Opening with a candid story about an impulsive splurge on an upcycled Moroccan carpet jacket, Kamden breaks down how brain wiring, dysregulated nervous systems, and decision fatigue drive impulsive behaviors, avoidance, and burnout. Examples include overspending, forgotten subscriptions, mail avoidance leading to late fees, and depleted energy from late-night scrolling, gaming, or gambling-like dopamine cycles. Rather than viewing these patterns as personal flaws, Kamden reframes them through the lens neuroplasticity and self-compassion. 00:00 Welcome Busy Brains 00:40 Moroccan Jacket Story 02:28 Ethical ADHD Marketing 03:59 What Is ADHD Tax 05:40 Impulse Spending Triggers 06:39 Costco Self Control Hack 10:14 Decision Fatigue Parenting 12:55 Hidden Fees And Avoidance 15:27 Energy And Sleep Costs 16:27 Health And Meal Planning 18:26 Neuroplasticity And Tools 22:06 You Are Not Broken 23:04 Closing And Community

You’ve been doing it “right” for years. Reading every day. Journaling. Checking the box. But somewhere along the way, a gift became a test—and you started performing your faith instead of living it. For Kamden, 20 years of daily scripture study created a powerful habit and a crushing belief: If I read, God loves me. If I don’t, I’m failing. In this deeply honest episode, Kamden unpacks: The transactional faith trap — and how to tell the difference between “feeling invited to grow” and “feeling fundamentally inadequate” Why scripture study became impossible — the emotional baggage + ADHD executive dysfunction that builds a wall between you and the word ADHD-specific barriers: decision fatigue (“Do I read? Highlight? Journal? Listen?”), interruptions, transitions, the gremlins in your brain The reframe that changed everything — what her husband said that shifted everything (spoiler: there’s no temple recommend question about reading daily) Letting go of the transaction — what it looks like to receive instead of perform The bigger pattern: What good things have you accidentally turned into requirements? If you’ve ever felt like your spiritual practices became proof of your worth instead of sources of nourishment, this one’s for you. Faith isn’t productivity. Worship is deeper than discipline. EPISODE CHAPTERS: 00:00 Welcome & Spooky Season 00:23 Audio Quality Note 01:12 Episode Setup: Scripture & Testing 02:15 General Conference & Absorption 04:30 Transactional vs. Transformational Faith 07:45 ADHD Resistance (Not to God) 10:20 Emotional Barriers 12:15 ADHD Executive Function Barriers 15:30 The Reframe: It’s Not the Gift, It’s the Story 18:00 Gifting Yourself Permission 20:15 The Bigger Pattern: What Have You Turned Into a Test? 23:30 Closing & Where to Find Me Interested in Coaching? Start with a consultation.

You see their genius. You see their creativity. You see their potential. But you're also exhausted by their inconsistency, missed deadlines, and broken promises—even though you know they're capable. Here's the truth: ADHD is a disorder of doing, not knowing. Your employee isn't lazy, careless, or untrustworthy. Their prefrontal cortex doesn't break down tasks or manage emotions the way neurotypical brains do. And they've probably never learned how. In this episode, Kamden breaks down: Why ADHD employees are often your best creatives and visionaries—if you know how to support them The real cost of resentment and what it costs your business long-term How to have clear, kind conversations about accommodations without condescension Practical support strategies (task breakdown, time ranges, reminders, pre-made systems) Whether disclosure helps or hurts—and how to build the trust needed for it How this applies to church callings, too Whether you're a manager, CEO, or leader of volunteers, learn how to keep your best people by dropping the judgment and building structures that let them thrive. EPISODE CHAPTERS: 00:00 Welcome Busy Brains 00:23 Restore Conference Invite 01:28 Episode Setup ADHD Employee 02:25 Doing Versus Knowing 03:08 Manager Frustration Cycle 05:41 Reframe Not Lazy 06:59 Musical Ear Analogy 08:29 Adjust Expectations Together 10:33 Drop Judgment Build Trust 14:16 Practical Support Scripts 15:47 Fill Skill Gaps Early 18:30 Right Roles For ADHD 20:57 Advocate And Ask Help 23:04 Closing And Where To Find Me www.kamdenadhdcoaching.com Restore Conference 10% off code: KAMDEN

Are you living by rules you didn't choose, or are you authoring your own life? In this episode, Kamden explores the powerful concept of self-authoring—moving beyond letting other people's perceptions define who you are and stepping into intentional choice about your identity, values, and how you live. Drawing from insights shared by Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, Kamden examines Matthew 5:28 and what Christ's higher standard really means for people with ADHD. It's not about checking boxes or following external rules—it's about developing true self-mastery by learning to exercise restraint and agency in alignment with your own values. You'll discover: The difference between passive compliance and active, intentional choice How building capacity requires practicing restraint (even when it's hard) Why ADHD brains need a different approach to developing discipline The inspiring story of Olympic skater Alyssa Liu and what her comeback teaches us about self-authorship How to parent (and raise) neurodivergent teens with autonomy instead of rigid control Why your "wobbliness" with ADHD impacts this process Whether you're struggling with productivity rules that don't fit, trying to figure out your own values, or parenting a busy brain, this episode invites you to stop being defined by others' expectations and start creating the life—and faith—you actually want. Remember: You're not alone, and your brain isn't the problem. The world is waiting for what only you can create. 00:00 Welcome Busy Brains 00:25 Restore Conference Invite 02:29 What Self Authoring Means 04:29 Beyond Checklists and Rules 08:09 Building Capacity Through Restraint 19:16 ADHD Regulation and Guardrails 22:01 Self Authorship in Real Life 28:21 Choosing Your Gas and Brake 30:48 Faith Agency and Closing 33:38 Outro and Connect Online Register for Restore Connect Conference by Faith Matters 10% off code: KAMDEN Interested in ADHD Coaching? CLICK HERE

What happens when a busy brain meets faith? In this deeply personal episode, ADHD coach Kamden Hainsworth explores the intersection of neurodivergence and spiritual belonging within The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Drawing from her own journey—from a burnout-induced temple experience that led to her ADHD diagnosis at 36 to years of coaching others—Kamden challenges misconceptions about what worship and participation should look like. In this episode, you'll discover: Why ADHD brains thrive with "flexible structure," not rigid expectations How rejection sensitivity dysphoria affects faith and community participation Real strategies for finding your "Goldilocks zone" in sacrament meetings and temple worship Why your wandering mind in church might be exactly where God needs it How to bring your full, authentic ADHD self to your faith without shame or masking Perfect for: ADHD individuals in faith communities, parents of neurodivergent children, religious leaders seeking to create more inclusive spaces, and anyone asking "Is something wrong with me?"—the answer is no. You're just wired differently. "He didn't say, 'Come to me and I will show you how to be neurotypical.' He said, 'Come to me and find rest.'" Don't miss the Restore by Faith Matters Conference, Sept 24-26 at UVU Orem, Utah. Use code KAMDEN for 10% off! Connect with Kamden: Instagram: @Kamden_ADHD | @thebusybrainedsaint Website: kamdenadhdcoaching.com

It's not just that you're anxious. It's that you're living their life instead of your own. In this episode, Kamden explores why we assume our kids' experiences will mirror ours—and how that assumption hijacks our parenting. Whether you're worried about your daughter's social life, your teen's independence, or your child's future, you're likely projecting your own eighth-grade fears, your own insecurities, your own story onto theirs. The real issue? Your ADHD brain sees every possible problem all at once and believes it's your job to solve them. But here's what changes everything: Recognizing which problems are actually in your lane right now (and which aren't) Letting your kids own their own first days, their own stories, their own failures Releasing the cords of control—in parenting, marriage, and partnerships Trusting that future version of yourself to figure it out when it matters Because they only get one life. And so do you. For: Parents managing anxiety about their kids' futures, ADHD adults who catastrophize, anyone tired of carrying everyone else's emotional load. ADHD Mini Coaching Session

Careless. Lazy. Space cadet. Hot mess. If any of those words still make you flinch, this episode is for you. Kamden breaks down the everyday labels ADHDers hear — from childhood name-calling to workplace feedback — and translates each one back into what's actually happening in an ADHD brain, straight from the diagnostic criteria. This isn't about excuses. It's about the difference between a label that shames and a diagnosis that explains. Kamden walks through inattentive and hyperactive symptoms one by one, showing how "irresponsible" is really working memory, how "lazy" is really a stalled dopamine system, and how "rude" is really a brain that can't filter stimuli the way a neurotypical one does. If you've spent years believing these labels were just who you are, this episode offers a different starting point: it makes sense — and now you get to choose what comes next. Topics covered: ADHD labels and stigma, ADHD shame, DSM-5 ADHD symptoms explained, inattentive vs. hyperactive ADHD, ADHD and self-worth, reframing ADHD diagnosis FREE ADHD COACHING MINI SESSION

Ever feel like you know what to change, but your brain just won't let you do it? In this episode, Kamden breaks down why chasing the result — the timer, the planner, the "just be on time" hack — almost never works long-term for ADHD brains, because the real problem isn't the action. It's what's fueling it. Kamden walks through her approach as a causal coach: working backward from the behavior you want to change to find the belief, fear, or nervous system response actually driving it. Using two relatable examples — a workplace pattern of shame and hiding, and the surprisingly universal struggle of putting on shoes — she shows how the exact same action can come from two completely different internal places, and why that difference changes everything about how sustainable the change actually is. If you've tried all the hacks and you're still stuck, this episode will help you understand why — and what to look at instead. Free Coaching Mini Session

The Discipline of Constraint: ADHD Edition Ever been told to "just choose one thing and do it"? For an ADHD brain, that advice can feel almost impossible — and today I'm breaking down why. In this episode, I use the image of a bowling alley with no gutters — just one big open floor and 15 sets of pins in the distance — to explain what it's actually like inside an ADHD brain. While a neurotypical brain sees clear lanes and naturally knows where to aim, our brains see everything at once, with no built-in boundaries to guide us. That's why "just focus on one thing" can feel so much harder than it sounds. We'll talk about: Why your brain isn't broken, it's just missing the gutters How the limbic brain's motivational triad (conserve energy, avoid pain, seek pleasure) convinces us that chaos feels safer than constraint What it means to become the "VIP tour guide" of your own brain Practical ways to build your own gutters — lights, noodles, alarms, music, whatever works — so you can constrain to one lane at a time How to tell the difference between necessary pivots (like a hungry four-year-old) and the ping-pong ball effect Why constraining your focus doesn't mean being unrealistic, and why it's a skill, not a personality flaw Constraint is hard, and if it feels hard, that means you're doing it right. You don't have to knock down every pin at once to be worthy — you have to learn that as boring as it is you get to pick a lane and start. FREE MINI SESSION

Focused Faith: Jesus Christ Is Not Our Burden, He Is Our Relief Heyo, busy brain — welcome back to Focused Faith, the monthly segment where we explore gospel topics through the lens of ADHD. This month I'm joined by my friend Melanie Stroud, host of the Come Follow Me For Us podcast, and we're digging into a beautiful talk from April 2026 General Conference: "Jesus Christ Is Not Our Burden, He Is Our Relief" by Elder David J. Wunderli. We talk about the backpack full of rocks we all carry, why ADHD brains especially tend to grip tight and try to muscle through instead of surrender, and what it actually looks like to let Christ lighten the load instead of just walking beside Him. Melanie also opens up about a hard season she's in right now — and how choosing relief instead of another to-do item has made all the difference. This one's honest, a little scattered (in the best way), and full of real talk about prioritization, rejection sensitivity, distraction, and how showing up imperfectly is still showing up. Come as you are — busy brain and all. Download Here:  Free ADHD-centric worship guide

So many people with ADHD carry a quiet shame — not because ADHD is a flaw, but because of how often it's been pointed out, joked about, or misunderstood by the people around them. This episode explores where that shame comes from, why it shows up so often in relationships and marriages, and what it actually feels like to be fully known and accepted without having to explain or defend your brain. If you've ever masked your ADHD, apologized for how your mind works, or felt embarrassed by a diagnosis, this conversation is a reminder: your brain isn't something to hide. It's something to understand — and you deserve people who meet you with curiosity instead of judgment. Shop ADHD Store Free ADHD Coaching Mini Session

In this episode, we explore what happens when you finally reach a goal—but it doesn’t feel the way you expected. For many with ADHD, success can come with unexpected discomfort, self-doubt, and even anxiety as the brain tries to make sense of “good feeling bad.” We unpack the familiar ADHD patterns of overthinking, scanning for what might go wrong, and returning to old stories of not being enough. Through the “old teddy bear vs. new teddy bear” analogy, you’ll learn how your nervous system adapts to change—and why discomfort doesn’t mean something has gone wrong. You’ll walk away with a practical way to notice old thought patterns, pause, and choose a new response rooted in self-trust, emotional regulation, and freedom from survival-based thinking. This is about learning to let good feel new—and letting yourself grow into it.   00:00 When Good Feels Bad 00:12 Welcome and Weekly Journal 01:37 Why Success Feels Unsafe 03:21 Your Comfort Zone Teddy Bear 07:15 Limbic Brain Stories 11:02 Self Trust Over Scanning 14:50 Acclimating to New Good 17:53 Leveling Up in Sports 19:03 Events and Closing Encouragement Sign Up for Kamden's weekly ADHD journal HERE!

Rejection with ADHD isn't just "being sensitive"—it can feel like a freight train crashing through your nervous system. In this deeply personal episode, Kamden shares a vulnerable story of public embarrassment, rejection sensitivity (RSD), and what it looked like to regulate, recover, and keep showing up anyway. If criticism, shame, or feeling misunderstood hits you harder than it seems to hit everyone else, this episode will help you feel seen—and remind you that even painful experiences can become sacred teachers. Schedule your FREE ADHD Mini Session  Chapter Markers  00:00 Welcome Busy Brained Saints 00:30 What Is Rejection Sensitivity 01:37 How RSD Feels In The Body 04:32 Coaching Help And Mini Session 06:27 San Diego Sales Conference Setup 11:47 Called On Stage For Podcast 16:29 Public Feedback And Meltdown 23:53 Staying In The Room To Learn 29:29 Bathroom Break And Boundaries 33:15 Dinner Decision After The Crash 40:06 Explaining RSD To The Group 47:57 Meaning Making And Christlike Rejection 54:16 Hand Squeeze And Farewell

In this episode of The Busy Brained Saint Podcast, Kamden Hainsworth talks about the difference between who you are and the symptoms of ADHD. After listening to a research talk on ADHD and relationships from Kristen Carter, Kamden shares how it brought up strong emotions as a parent and led her to reflect on how easy it is to turn ADHD struggles into personal shame. She explains that ADHD symptoms can create difficult behaviors like forgetfulness, overwhelm, and emotional dysregulation—but those behaviors are not your identity. You are not “lazy” or “too much.” You are a person with a brain that works differently. This episode is a reminder that you are not the problem—your symptoms are something you can understand, manage, and work with, without shame. Schedule a free ADHD mini session with Kamden