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Does God pick my spouse? In this episode, Malik and I talk about choosing a partner for marriage, seeking God's wisdom, and what it means to see marriage as a sacred covenant. Is there one person God has chosen for you—or are you called to make a wise, prayerful choice and faithfully build a life together? We share our thoughts on discernment, commitment, and the beauty and weight of the marriage covenant.

On this episode we have a very special guest; Megan Ashley joining us for the podcast! Megan is like a big sister to Emy and we shared all things prayer, intimacy with Jesus, fellowship with the Holy Spirit, and avoiding a "performing" christian walk. Enjoy!   Get $10 off your Elah Ring with code SAVEDNOTSOFT: https://bit.ly/4yopj2Z

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What does atonement mean—and why is it essential to truly knowing Jesus? In this episode, we move beyond simply talking about Jesus to understanding who He is, what He accomplished, and why it changes everything. Beginning in Genesis and tracing the story through the tabernacle, the priesthood, the Day of Atonement, and the book of Hebrews, we see how the Old Testament continually points toward the cross. We'll explore the meaning of atonement, the role of the high priest, the significance of the Holy of Holies, the sacrificial offerings, and how Jesus fulfills it all. He is our perfect High Priest, our spotless sacrifice, and the mediator of the new covenant—the One who offered Himself once for all to cleanse us, reconcile us to God, and restore us to fellowship with Him. God came wrapped in flesh to pay the price for our rebellion. Jesus is both the One who offers and the offering itself. Through His blood, believers can now approach God's throne of grace with confidence and become dwelling places for His presence. Before we can rightly understand Christian teachings such as submission or modesty, we need a solid foundation in the person and work of Christ. We must know who we are following—and understand the cost, beauty, and grace of belonging to Him. Key Scriptures: Genesis 3; Exodus 25; Psalm 110:4; Zechariah; John 1; Hebrews 1:1–4, 4:14–16, 5:5–10, 7:23–28, and 9:11–15.

Talking about money in church should not be awkward—especially when Scripture has so much to say about it. In this episode, we are removing the shame, fear, and defensiveness surrounding finances and returning the conversation to its proper foundation: our love for Jesus. Beginning with the sacrificial generosity of the gospel, we explore how our spending, giving, working, and saving reveal what has captured our hearts. We'll break down the biblical differences between generosity, stewardship, and tithing; confront manipulative teachings about "sowing specific seeds"; and discuss why genuine giving should never come through pressure or compulsion. We'll also examine the holiness of work, the danger of disguising idleness as spirituality, and the responsibility to faithfully develop whatever God has placed in our hands. Through the Parable of the Talents, we'll see that stewardship is deeply connected to how we view our Master—and that God is worthy of more than our leftovers. Finally, we'll talk honestly about the tithe, the difference between obedience and generosity, and why Christians are called to become builders in the local church rather than merely beneficiaries of what others have sacrificed to build. The question at the center of this episode is simple: Am I faithfully stewarding what God has placed in front of me?

In this episode, Malik and I sit down for a real conversation about what it actually looks like to lead as young adults. We talk about the weight of leadership, the reality of being Christian influencers, the pressure of being seen, and the difference between having a platform and having true responsibility. This is not a polished "we have it all figured out" conversation. It's honest, simple, and grounded in what God is teaching us about influence, humility, obedience, and leading well before you feel fully ready. For every young leader, creator, minister, or believer trying to steward what God placed in their hands, this one is for you. Support the show

In this episode, we're talking about what it means to live fully alive in Jesus — not distracted, not numb, not ruled by fear, and not stuck in unbelief that better days are possible. Life is too short to spend it chasing temporary praise, burying your gifts, avoiding obedience, or letting distraction steal the joy that is found in God's presence. This conversation is a call back to hope. Back to love. Back to awareness of the nearness of Jesus. From Martha being distracted, to Mary pouring out what others called "waste," to Lazarus walking out of the grave, we are reminded that Jesus is not only the resurrection — He is the life. Pouring your life out for Jesus is never a waste. Even if people misunderstand it. Even if it costs you. Even if it looks foolish. The only wasted life is the one spent apart from Him. So if you've been distracted, discouraged, fearful, or feeling like you've lost your joy — come home. There is fullness of joy in His presence, and there is still life to be lived faithfully. Support the show

In this deeply personal episode, I open up about receiving my diagnosis of OCD, anxiety, and depression, and the emotions that came with finally having language for a battle I had been carrying silently. As a Christian, I have wrestled with the tension between suffering and faithfulness: what it means to love God, trust God, and still be hurting. This is not a testimony of having everything figured out; it is a testimony of finding Jesus faithful in the middle of pain. I share the harm of a Christianity that dismisses real suffering, the freedom of recognizing that mental battles are not proof of spiritual failure, and the hope of believing in healing without demanding that it happen in only one specific way. Faith does not always look like being unbothered. Sometimes faithfulness is choosing to cling to Christ while your mind and emotions are weary. We do not follow an unwounded Savior, and we do not have to hide our wounds to prove we belong to Him. Support the show

This episode examines the truth about demons by addressing the common misdiagnosis in the church between sin and demonic activity, showing that Scripture speaks far more frequently about human sin and moral responsibility than it does about demons, emphasizing that while spiritual opposition is real, much of what believers attribute to demons is actually the result of disordered desires and the fallen human condition, as seen in James 1:14. The episode explains that sin is a distortion of what God created good, and while the devil tempts, he does not force, meaning transformation comes through repentance and sanctification rather than merely seeking deliverance, as reflected in Colossians 3:5. It challenges fear-based doctrine and overspiritualization by demonstrating through passages like John 9 and Matthew 16 that not every hardship or discomfort is caused by sin or spiritual attack, and argues that overspiritualization often stems from fear and inconsistency, sometimes resembling gnostic thinking that treats the physical world as inherently corrupt, despite Jesus living within culture without being spiritually compromised, as affirmed in John 17:15. Through the context of Luke 11, the episode explains that Jesus' warning about an unclean spirit returning to an empty house reveals that outward change without inward transformation leaves a person vulnerable, showing that deliverance alone is not the goal, but a life filled with the presence of God through intimacy with Christ. Ultimately, the episode teaches that spiritual stability does not come from obsessing over demons but from being filled with the Spirit, united to Christ, and formed by His presence, because lasting freedom is not sustained by performance or repeated attempts at deliverance, but by a life continually shaped by communion with God. Support the show

In this episode of Saved Not Soft, I'm joined by my husband Malik Brookins for a real and honest conversation about dating, engagement, and marriage. We share our story, how we went from friends to dating to saying yes to forever, and what we learned along the way about trusting God with our relationship. We talk about what it looks like to date intentionally, how to seek God while navigating feelings, how to approach engagement with wisdom, and how marriage continues to refine and grow you. Relationships can feel confusing, exciting, stretching, and beautiful all at once, and our hope is that this conversation encourages you to invite God into every stage of your love story. Whether you are single, dating, engaged, or married, we pray this episode reminds you that healthy relationships are built with patience, prayer, humility, and a deep desire to honor the Lord. Support the show

Suffering is unavoidable—but Scripture shows us it is never meaningless. In this episode, we look closely at the sufferings of Jesus: His rejection, betrayal, silence before His accusers, physical agony, and ultimate obedience to the Father. Rather than rushing past the cross, we slow down to ask what Christ's suffering reveals about God's character—and how it reshapes the way we endure our own. To suffer well is not to minimize pain or spiritualize injustice. It is to remain faithful, anchored, and surrendered when obedience is costly and understanding feels distant. Jesus shows us that suffering can be endured without bitterness, faced without despair, and offered back to God as worship. This conversation invites listeners to reframe hardship through the lens of the cross—learning how to suffer with trust, humility, endurance, and hope—knowing that resurrection always follows faithful obedience. Support the show

What if "daddy issues" isn't your identity—but a distortion that healing was always meant to correct? In this episode of Saved Not Soft, we confront the cultural narrative that reduces deep father wounds into a label, and we expose the lie beneath it. Through Scripture and lived experience, we talk about sonship, the difference between wounds and identity, and how deception forms when absence, abandonment, or misuse of authority goes unhealed. This conversation isn't about minimizing pain—it's about redeeming it. We explore how the Father heart of God restores what earthly relationships could not, how Jesus reveals what true fatherhood looks like, and how healing begins when we stop defining ourselves by what was missing and start receiving what was always promised. If you've wrestled with rejection, mistrust, or confusion around authority and love, this episode is an invitation to leave deception, step into truth, and rediscover your identity as a son or daughter—secure, seen, and fully known in Christ. Support the show