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In this episode Kylene and Patrick are celebrating 5 years in recovery! They are sharing their thoughts about surprises in recovery, grief through recovery, and advice they would retroactively give themselves.    We hope this episode brings hope and encouragement to you on your healing journey!    If you would like to see Patrick's Moments of Grace: https://www.facebook.com/share/v/1CvhNCr4T2/   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

In this final part of the "now what?" series, Kylene and Patrick discuss what steps a coupleship can take when moving towards recovery or reconciliation after betrayal.   This includes, establishing safety, increasing and improving communication, engaging in the tools we have covered in the past 3 episodes, and giving it the time needed. Healing takes time, and the brain and nervous system need time to pass to believe that safety is real.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Today's episode is a continuation of last week's episode supporting a betrayed partner immediately after discovery. Last week we focused on tangible action steps like connecting to a specialized coach or therapist and setting early boundaries.    This week, we are discussing mental, emotional and relational things to think through early on after discovery including having compassion on your emotional parts in grieving this traumatic experience and giving yourself time to gather the information you need.   Sobriety vs Recovery episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000684064277   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

In today's episode we discuss the initial steps a betrayed partner can take to create stability and begin the first steps of recovery.    We discuss why locking everything down can be helpful, and why it's important to connect with others whether it's friends or professionals to support you through your healing journey.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Today’s episode kicks off our 3-part “Now What?!” series, starting with the addict: You’ve been discovered. You’ve been found out. Now what do you do? In this episode, we walk through tangible first steps—who to connect with, how to begin your sobriety journey, and why facing the hard things head-on is essential for long-term healing and health. We also explore early relational dynamics. If you’re entering recovery while hoping to repair a relationship, there are key mindsets and behaviors that can either build trust—or further damage it. We break down what truly supports healing in these early stages. Recovery is possible. And in this episode, we share the steps that those who find lasting recovery consistently take. Sobriety vs Recovery ep: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000684064277   Getting Started Resources:  https://www.canva.com/design/DAGdxcXQ7ao/o5u9mYKFqkrZHBW1DIQTyQ/view?utm_content=DAGdxcXQ7ao&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=uniquelinks&utlId=h0c8eacefa3   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

In today's episode, Patrick and Kylene share why creating a vision is so important, offering some examples of how that helped them in their recovery journey as well as offering you reflections and questions to ask yourself as you begin creating your own life vision.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Merry Christmas all! We are so thankful for each and everyone one of you and wish you a joyous holiday season filled with love, laughter and peace.   In today's episode, we kept it brief, sharing some unexpected and positive outcomes of recovery that we never expected. We hope this offers some encouragement as you continue on your own journeys.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Creating new, positive habits is a key piece of successful recovery. In today's episode, Patrick shares thoughts on the importance of consistency as well as sharing tools,resources and tips on how to stay consistent through the inevitable ups and downs of life.   Resources mentioned in this episode: Daily Tools for Sobriety Series - RecoverU episodes 67-71 Customizable Productivity Planner ( what Kylene uses): https://www.papier.com/us/stationery/daily-productivity-planners/ Better Every Day Journal: https://www.insidethenout.com/products/better-every-day-journal 5 Year Journal: https://www.levenger.com/products/5-year-journal Full Focus Planner: https://fullfocusstore.com If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

In this week's episode, Kylene is discussing what are some signs that you are in a safe and healthy relationship? She shares conversations that exemplify safety, as well as offering examples from her relationship with Patrick.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

A podcast listener asked Kylene to share more on the challenge of feeling compared to other women and the feeling of not being chosen after betrayal.    Kylene shares her personal story and methods she used to move towards a place of feeling chosen both by herself and by Patrick.   She shares: She first had to choose herself  How she utilized tools like therapy, EMDR and subconscious reprogramming to help her healing process and address specific triggers How Patricks choices were supportive to her recovery   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

In today's episode, Kylene speaks with Ron Rhea about his book, "The Grounded Liberation Method". They walk through his 10 root method, discussing why mindfulness and connection are important and the gifts that facing your emotions and shadows can offer in life.   Grounded Liberation Book: https://books.by/ron-rhea-ii   Work with Ron: https://stan.store/TempleBuildingCoaching   Follow Ron on IG: @temple.building.coaching   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

In today’s episode, Patrick interviews me (Kylene) and asks me questions about my experience as a betrayed partner.    Some things we discuss are:   What was discovery like for me How was I able to express my emotions What were things that Patrick did that were helpful or hurtful What do I wish all addicts knew Why vulnerable conversations are so important   And more…     We hope that this episode both resonates. My story isn’t your story, but I know there are many aspects that may feel similar.   One thing I share in this episode is how intensely long, difficult and painful this journey was for me. We can’t sugar coat that reality. But what we also hope to communicate, is that  through the healing process there can be something better on the other side. Whether a couple stays together or goes separate ways, healing offers us an opportunity to create a life we enjoy.    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

We live in a sex saturated world. It's an unfortunate reality that children are getting exposed to inappropriate materials earlier and earlier. As parents, it's our job to guide our children and protect them to the best of our ability.   One of the best ways we can do this is by having open and honest conversations with them around sex, sexuality and pornography early, and often. But how can we do this in age appropriate ways?   In this episode we are sharing specific concepts and ideas to communicate to your children as well as navigating which types of topics and conversations to have at which ages..   We also mentioned several podcast episodes and resources and those are listed below!   "Where Modesty Culture Goes Wrong: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000731965520   "How to talk to your Kids about sex" https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000668310201     Books: *As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.*   God made all of me: https://amzn.to/4p2msHN    Good pictures bad pictures Jr: https://amzn.to/4p5Mdac   Good pictures bad pictures: https://amzn.to/4qSSQhw   How to talk to your kids about sex: https://amzn.to/3XiNkHx   The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex: https://amzn.to/47PjQ90   Education:   The parent training course from pure desire: https://puredesire.org/shop/parent-training-course-equipping-parents-to-have-conversations-with-their-kids-about-sex/     Kristen Miele’s Sed Ed Reclaimed: https://www.sexedreclaimed  

This week we are discussing 4 myths (that we think keep people stuck) in the recovery community.  Patrick and I deeply believe in our mission to bring education and awareness around recovery because we know the freedom in your life that it can bring.    That being said, there are several beliefs in the recovery and faith communities that we see keeping people from reaching their full potential in life.    4 myths we discuss today: 1. Your suffering is holy 2. Anyone who wants to lead a recovery group should (even if they aren't in recovery) 3. Addiction is permanent  4. Women can't have autonomy in marriage   In contrast to the above, we believe in: 1. Personal responsibility and boundaries 2. Lead by example 3. Addiction is reversible and you can achieve full freedom from it 4. Men and women are equal in marriage some we both lead each other in different areas   Additional episodes you may like based on todays’ content:   Sobriety vs Recovery:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000684064277     Forgiveness: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000629370575   We hope this episode is encouraging and shines a light on the possibilities of true health.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

In today’s episode, Kylene opens up about her personal healing journey—sharing some of her painful experiences with the church, moments of struggle in her faith, and how finding a safe and supportive community became a crucial part of her recovery. She also explores the importance of connection—connection to self, to others, and to God—and why cultivating these three areas is essential for betrayed partners on the path to healing.   Episodes/Topics mentioned in today's episode: Self worth vs Self confidence: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000708437532   Intrusive Thoughts:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000652006011   Kylene's story of divorce: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000643643605     If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune