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Last month Violet joined me to talk about dissolving intimacy blocks, and today her husband Jason is here to give us the male perspective on the same topic. We get into why so many men resist the healing journey, what it actually takes to call a man forward instead of pushing him away, and how revealing the impact on you works better than telling him what to do. Jason also answers the question I most wanted to ask him: how he would respond to the men who left angry comments on my viral post about sexless marriage. ✨ Topics Covered ➡️ Why men are raised to override their bodies and what that costs their relationships ➡️ The difference between revealing the impact and directing your partner ➡️ Clean boundaries and letting him lead, even when he fails ➡️ Why acknowledging effort regulates a man’s nervous system ➡️ What men actually want from intimacy, and why giving sex without your heart in it hurts them most Watch the TRIGGERED replay: https://tinyurl.com/TRIGGEREDwithbeckyaste ———————————————————————— Love Note From Becky Aste: How free is your voice? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.idobreakthrough.com/voice⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ I’d love to hear from you! Dm me "PODCAST" on Instagram and I’ll send you a free training that pairs perfectly with this episode 💬 ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram.com/becky_aste⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want to learn more about working with Becky? Book a call with her right here: [⁠https://calendly.com/idobreakthrough/free-connection-call⁠] Would rather stalk before we talk? No judgement here ;) Here’s my website!➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.idobreakthrough.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ XO Huge Hugs - Becky ———————————————————————— Connect with Jason Lange Jason Lange is a men’s embodiment coach, group facilitator, certified No More Mr. Nice Guy coach, and evolutionary guide. He helps men drop in and wake up to deeper clarity in their life’s purpose and relationships. Jason believes every man should be in a men’s group for the growth and support opportunities they provide, and through Evolutionary Men he creates spaces where men learn to connect with their bodies, their emotions, and each other. Evolutionary Men: https://evolutionary.men Evolutionary Edge Quiz for Men: quiz.evolutionary.men YouTube: https://youtube.com/@evolutionarymen Instagram: @evolutionarymen

Last week I ran my Triggered workshop, and today I’m sharing the first part of the first session with you because what we covered belongs in your hands too. If you feel like you live in a constant triggered state, where you can see it coming but can’t stop the shaking, the over-explaining, or the shutdown, I have been exactly there and I know how exhausting surviving gets. In this episode I walk you through why triggers are a body response and not a character flaw, and I teach the Domino Drill, a tool I usually only share inside Root to Rise, so you can trace any trigger back to the core need underneath it. ✨ Topics Covered ➡️ What a trigger actually is through a somatic lens ➡️ Why your body sends 80 percent of the messages and your mind only 20 ➡️ Living in alignment with your original design ➡️ Reframing triggers as GPS reroutes instead of breakdowns ➡️ The Domino Drill for finding the treasure in your trigger Watch the TRIGGERED replay: https://tinyurl.com/TRIGGEREDwithbeckyaste ———————————————————————— Love Note From Becky Aste: How free is your voice? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.idobreakthrough.com/voice⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ I’d love to hear from you! Dm me "PODCAST" on Instagram and I’ll send you a free training that pairs perfectly with this episode 💬 ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram.com/becky_aste⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want to learn more about working with Becky? Book a call with her right here: [⁠https://calendly.com/idobreakthrough/free-connection-call⁠] Would rather stalk before we talk? No judgement here ;) Here’s my website!➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.idobreakthrough.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ XO Huge Hugs - Becky ————————————————————————

Understanding and Working Through Triggers This week, we’re diving into the world of triggers — what they are, why they happen, and how we can begin to move through them with more awareness and care. We all get triggered sometimes, and it’s in spaces like this that we get to unpack what’s really going on underneath. Whether it’s emotional, relational, or nervous-system based, this episode offers tools to help you respond rather than react. ✨ Topics Covered in this Episode ➡️ What a trigger actually is (and isn’t) ➡️ The role of the nervous system in emotional reactions ➡️ Tools for managing triggering moments ➡️ Why community and connection are essential for healing ➡️ Reframing triggers as opportunities for growth 💌 Love Note From Becky Aste: Loved this episode? I’d love to hear from you! Come say hello on Instagram! ➡️⁠⁠ instagram.com/becky_aste⁠⁠ and DM me the word “PODCAST” for a free training resource that pairs perfectly with this episode 💬 TRIGGERED: A 1-DAY WORKSHOP WITH BECKY ASTE - October 14th, 2026 ⁠⁠https://www.idobreakthrough.com/triggered⁠⁠ Want to learn more about working with Becky? Book a call with her right here: [⁠⁠https://calendly.com/idobreakthrough/free-connection-call⁠⁠] Would rather stalk before we talk? No judgment here ;) Here’s my website! ➡️⁠⁠ www.idobreakthrough.com⁠⁠

If someone asked you right now what you actually want, would you have an answer, or would you freeze the way I used to? I sat down with Jen Schulz, a manifestation and money mentor who left her nine to five at 34, to talk about blending the woo and the do so you can make money on your own terms. We get into intuition, multiple streams of income, and the small shifts in how you respond that change what shows up in your money and your marriage. ✨ Topics Covered ➡️ What blending the woo and the do looks like in a real day ➡️ How to hear your intuition when you have no idea what you want ➡️ The Event + Response = Outcome framework ➡️ Why you need multiple streams of income and connection ➡️ One small shift to try this week in your money and your marriage ———————————————————————— Love Note From Becky Aste: TRIGGERED: A 1-DAY WORKSHOP WITH BECKY ASTE - October 14th, 2026 ⁠https://www.idobreakthrough.com/triggered⁠ How free is your voice? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.idobreakthrough.com/voice⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ I’d love to hear from you! Dm me "PODCAST" on Instagram and I’ll send you a free training that pairs perfectly with this episode 💬 ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram.com/becky_aste⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want to learn more about working with Becky? Book a call with her right here: [⁠https://calendly.com/idobreakthrough/free-connection-call⁠] Would rather stalk before we talk? No judgement here ;) Here’s my website!➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.idobreakthrough.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ XO Huge Hugs - Becky ———————————————————————— Connect with Jen Schulz Jen Schulz is a manifestation and money mentor, host of the Manifestation & Money podcast, and an early retiree who left her nine to five at age 34. She helps women rethink their relationship with money and possibility by blending the woo with the do, pairing manifestation practices with practical money strategy. Through her community, Manifestation Playground, Jen supports women in creating lives rooted in freedom, alignment, and intention. Manifestation Playground: https://www.manifestationplayground.ca Instagram: @manifestationandmoneypodcast

If you've found yourself asking the same questions about the affair again and again, or checking his location just to feel safe, this conversation with Monica Humpal is for you. Monica walked through betrayal while serving on staff at her church, chose to stay, rebuilt a marriage she is proud of, and then lost her husband to cancer seven years later. We talk about why the questions and the snooping feel so necessary, how to build safety within yourself instead of placing it in his hands, and how to hold something precious without living in fear of losing it. ✨ Topics Covered ➡️ How much to talk about the affair and when the questions start to keep you stuck ➡️ Transparency after infidelity versus snooping out of fear ➡️ Simple tools to build safety in your body and mind ➡️ Why healing feels so unfair and the choice you still get to make ➡️ Losing a spouse after reconciling and how old grief can return ———————————————————————— Love Note From Becky Aste: TRIGGERED: A 1-DAY WORKSHOP WITH BECKY ASTE - October 14th, 2026 ⁠https://www.idobreakthrough.com/triggered⁠ How free is your voice? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.idobreakthrough.com/voice⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ I’d love to hear from you! Dm me "PODCAST" on Instagram and I’ll send you a free training that pairs perfectly with this episode 💬 ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram.com/becky_aste⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want to learn more about working with Becky? Book a call with her right here: [⁠https://calendly.com/idobreakthrough/free-connection-call⁠] Would rather stalk before we talk? No judgement here ;) Here’s my website!➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.idobreakthrough.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ XO Huge Hugs - Becky ———————————————————————— Connect with Monica Humpal Monica Humpal is a United Methodist pastor, Master Certified Coach, author, and host of the Betrayed & Stayed podcast. She specializes in helping people heal after infidelity, particularly those who choose to stay and rebuild their relationships. Drawing from both professional expertise and her own experience of betrayal, reconciliation, and loss, Monica brings a compassionate, honest perspective to the complicated work of healing, and her book, Betrayed and Stayed, releases October 20, 2026. Website: monicahumpal.com Betrayed & Stayed: betrayedandstayed.com https://www.youtube.com/@monicahumpal1824

If you have ever flinched at your husband's touch, felt broken because orgasm doesn't come easily, or wondered whether your marriage is sexually incompatible, this conversation with Alexandra Stockwell is one I have been counting down the days to share with you. Alexandra offers real hope for women who have never experienced an orgasm, and she explains why the path to more pleasure begins with gentleness, curiosity, and learning what your own body needs. We also talk about rebuilding intimacy after babies and betrayal trauma, and how finding your voice in the bedroom can open the door to a deeper connection with your partner. ✨ Topics Covered ➡️ Why there is real hope for women who have never experienced an orgasm ➡️ How a narrow definition of orgasm keeps women feeling broken ➡️ Rewriting your sexual script after babies and big life changes ➡️ Rebuilding safety and intimacy after betrayal trauma ➡️ Navigating mismatched desire with honest, non-blaming conversations If your body still hasn't caught up to all the inner work you've done, Root to Rise 2.0 is your next step. One week, 15 women, $57 for the first spots. I'd love to have you in this container 👇 ➡️ https://www.idobreakthrough.com/rtrhousewarming ———————————————————————— Love Note From Becky Aste: TRIGGERED: A 1-DAY WORKSHOP WITH BECKY ASTE - October 14th, 2026 ⁠https://www.idobreakthrough.com/triggered⁠ How free is your voice? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.idobreakthrough.com/voice⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ I’d love to hear from you! Dm me "PODCAST" on Instagram and I’ll send you a free training that pairs perfectly with this episode 💬 ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram.com/becky_aste⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want to learn more about working with Becky? Book a call with her right here: [⁠https://calendly.com/idobreakthrough/free-connection-call⁠] Would rather stalk before we talk? No judgement here ;) Here’s my website!➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.idobreakthrough.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ XO Huge Hugs - Becky ———————————————————————— Connect with Alexandra Stockwell Alexandra Stockwell is a physician, coach, and intimate marriage expert who has been married for over 30 years and is a mother of four. For more than 20 years, she has helped men and women bring real connection back into every part of their relationship, from the ordinary texture of daily life to the quality of intimacy in the bedroom. She is the bestselling author of Uncompromising Intimacy, creator of the Aligned & Hot Marriage program and the Intimate Connection app, and host of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, which ranks in the top 1% of podcasts globally. Website: alexandrastockwell.com Membership Preview Masterclass for Men: Confidently Initiate Sex & Deepen Intimacy

When a practitioner scanned my body and told me my anger was off the charts, I said she had the wrong person, because I couldn't remember the last time I even yelled. That began my journey of learning that anger you can't feel doesn't disappear, it either explodes outward or gets swallowed, and I'm walking through it again right now in the grief of losing my mom. Whether you fall asleep to your anger like I did or it's running the show in your marriage, this episode will help you start building a securely attached relationship with it. ✨ Topics Covered ➡️ Why suppressed anger shows up in your body even when you never yell ➡️ Anger as neutral information and energy in motion, not a sin or a character flaw ➡️ How the fight response hides inside passive aggression and even your healing journey ➡️ What your relationship with anger has to do with secure intimacy with your husband ➡️ A body-based check-in to express anger in a contained way If your body still hasn't caught up to all the inner work you've done, Root to Rise 2.0 is your next step. One week, 15 women, $57 for the first spots. I'd love to have you in this container 👇 ➡️ https://www.idobreakthrough.com/rtrhousewarming ———————————————————————— Love Note From Becky Aste: TRIGGERED: A 1-DAY WORKSHOP WITH BECKY ASTE - October 14th, 2026 ⁠https://www.idobreakthrough.com/triggered⁠ How free is your voice? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.idobreakthrough.com/voice⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ I’d love to hear from you! Dm me "PODCAST" on Instagram and I’ll send you a free training that pairs perfectly with this episode 💬 ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram.com/becky_aste⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want to learn more about working with Becky? Book a call with her right here: [⁠https://calendly.com/idobreakthrough/free-connection-call⁠] Would rather stalk before we talk? No judgement here ;) Here’s my website!➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.idobreakthrough.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ XO Huge Hugs - Becky

Losing my mom five months ago cracked me open to a kind of connection I used to think was off limits, and this conversation is me leaning all the way in. I sat down with intuitive healer Kristen Stefiuk, and between our moms both being named Diane, both loving purple, and the wild string of synchronicities that brought us together, this episode felt divinely orchestrated from the first minute. We swapped the signs, numbers, and hugs from heaven that have carried us through grief, and I hope it reminds you that your person might be closer than you think. ✨ Topics Covered ➡️ What happens in your body when a sign arrives, before your mind makes meaning of it ➡️ The "clairs" and the different ways we receive messages from the other side ➡️ Why grief makes it harder to tune in, and how to raise your frequency to receive ➡️ Moving through religious conditioning and fear around connecting with loved ones who've passed ➡️ How asking for signs can rebuild self-trust after loss unravels your identity If your body still hasn't caught up to all the inner work you've done, Root to Rise 2.0 is your next step. One week, 15 women, $57 for the first spots. I'd love to have you in this container 👇 ➡️ https://www.idobreakthrough.com/rtrhousewarming ———————————————————————— Love Note From Becky Aste: TRIGGERED: A 1-DAY WORKSHOP WITH BECKY ASTE - October 14th, 2026 ⁠https://www.idobreakthrough.com/triggered⁠ How free is your voice? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.idobreakthrough.com/voice⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ I’d love to hear from you! Dm me "PODCAST" on Instagram and I’ll send you a free training that pairs perfectly with this episode 💬 ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram.com/becky_aste⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want to learn more about working with Becky? Book a call with her right here: [⁠https://calendly.com/idobreakthrough/free-connection-call⁠] Would rather stalk before we talk? No judgement here ;) Here’s my website!➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.idobreakthrough.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ XO Huge Hugs - Becky ———————————————————————— Connect with Kristen Stefiuk Kristen Stefiuk is an intuitive healer and the founder of Guiding Light Energy. After a devastating six-month stretch that brought the sudden loss of her cousin, the death of her grandfather, a near-fatal accident involving another cousin, and her husband's battle with opioid addiction, Kristen hit what she calls true rock bottom and found her way back through energy work, intuition, and deep inner healing. Now certified in Reiki, Angelic Medium and Soul Ascension work, with mediumship training under Lauren Rainbow, she helps others tap into their body's own capacity to heal, bringing a rare mix of lived resilience and spiritual training to conversations about grief, addiction, marriage, and the unseen forces that carry us through our hardest seasons. Instagram: @guidinglightsunset

This episode is different because you're not just hearing from me, you're hearing from the women who lived it. Julie and I sat down with a panel of past Root to Rise clients to talk about what really shifts when nervous system and attachment work moves out of theory and into your marriage, your parenting, and your relationship with yourself. Some of their marriages transformed, some ended, and every single one of them will tell you the same thing, either way you win when you stop abandoning yourself. ✨ Topics Covered ➡️ Why "neck up" healing like talk therapy and books wasn't enough for these women ➡️ The domino drill and other real-life tools clients still use daily ➡️ How shame and fight-or-flight patterns lose their grip with somatic regulation ➡️ Finding your no, trusting your intuition, and making decisions from a grounded place ➡️ What it means to win no matter what happens to the marriage If your body still hasn't caught up to all the inner work you've done, Root to Rise 2.0 is your next step. One week, 15 women, $57 for the first spots. I'd love to have you in this container 👇 ➡️ https://www.idobreakthrough.com/rtrhousewarming ———————————————————————— Love Note From Becky Aste: TRIGGERED: A 1-DAY WORKSHOP WITH BECKY ASTE - October 14th, 2026 ⁠https://www.idobreakthrough.com/triggered⁠ How free is your voice? ⁠⁠⁠http://www.idobreakthrough.com/voice⁠⁠⁠ I’d love to hear from you! Dm me "PODCAST" on Instagram and I’ll send you a free training that pairs perfectly with this episode 💬 ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram.com/becky_aste⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want to learn more about working with Becky? Book a call with her right here: [⁠https://calendly.com/idobreakthrough/free-connection-call⁠] Would rather stalk before we talk? No judgement here ;) Here’s my website!➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.idobreakthrough.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ XO Huge Hugs - Becky

Violet Lange met her husband in a dream three weeks before she met him in real life, and that is only the beginning of what she shares with me in this one. As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and incest, she walks us through exactly how she went from dissociating during sex and hugging the ex who broke into her apartment to feeling fully at home in her body and her marriage. If you flinch when your husband reaches for you, or you are afraid healing will open a can of worms you cannot close, this conversation is for you. ✨ Topics Covered ➡️ Why the closer a partner got to her emotionally, the more she pushed him away sexually ➡️ What actually happens in a somatic experiencing session (and why you never have to relive the story) ➡️ Yoni eggs, cervical wands, and tantra: the tools that finally connected the circuit board ➡️ When your husband takes your no as rejection, and how to hold your truth without mothering him ➡️ Crockpots vs. microwaves: discovering your unique turn-on blueprint If your body still hasn't caught up to all the inner work you've done, Root to Rise 2.0 is your next step. One week, 15 women, $57 for the first spots. I'd love to have you in this container 👇 ➡️ https://www.idobreakthrough.com/rtrhousewarming ———————————————————————— Love Note From Becky Aste: TRIGGERED: A 1-DAY WORKSHOP WITH BECKY ASTE - October 14th, 2026 ⁠https://www.idobreakthrough.com/triggered⁠ How free is your voice? ⁠⁠⁠http://www.idobreakthrough.com/voice⁠⁠⁠ I’d love to hear from you! Dm me "PODCAST" on Instagram and I’ll send you a free training that pairs perfectly with this episode 💬 ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram.com/becky_aste⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want to learn more about working with Becky? Book a call with her right here: [⁠https://calendly.com/idobreakthrough/free-connection-call⁠] Would rather stalk before we talk? No judgement here ;) Here’s my website!➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.idobreakthrough.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ XO Huge Hugs - Becky ———————————————————————— Connect with Violet Lange Violet Lange is a professionally trained coach, yoga teacher, Reiki master, and Harvard grad who left the corporate world to help smart, spiritual humans attract and create lasting love, supporting couples in creating soulful, connected sex. As a survivor of complex trauma and childhood sexual abuse, she is passionate about alchemizing our deepest wounds into joy, pleasure, and lasting connection. Love Harmonics with Violet Instagram: @VioletLoveLange Email: [email protected] Jaiya's free Erotic Blueprint quiz

If we're talking about intimacy, I refuse to hand you another surface-level trick like the ones on magazine covers, because your sex life is not a petal problem, it's a root system. In this episode I'm sharing pieces of my own story I've never fully unpacked here, from the purity culture belief that I could never say no, to the season our bedroom door was deadbolted shut while we were separated, to the miracle of where we are now. If physical intimacy in your marriage has gone dormant, I want you to hear me: dormant is not dead, and the roots are far more changeable than you think. ✨ Topics Covered ➡️ Why sex is the bloom, not the whole rosebush ➡️ The purity culture lie that trained me to have zero boundaries ➡️ How fight, flight, freeze, fawn, and flop show up around touch ➡️ Why sexual trauma lives in the body, not just your memories ➡️ The root audit: which areas of you are thriving, thirsty, or dormant If your body still hasn't caught up to all the inner work you've done, Root to Rise 2.0 is your next step. One week, 15 women, $57 for the first spots. I'd love to have you in this container 👇 ➡️ https://www.idobreakthrough.com/rtrhousewarming ———————————————————————— Love Note From Becky Aste:. TRIGGERED: A 1-DAY WORKSHOP WITH BECKY ASTE - October 14th, 2026 ⁠https://www.idobreakthrough.com/triggered⁠ How free is your voice? ⁠⁠⁠http://www.idobreakthrough.com/voice⁠⁠⁠ I’d love to hear from you! Dm me "PODCAST" on Instagram and I’ll send you a free training that pairs perfectly with this episode 💬 ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram.com/becky_aste⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want to learn more about working with Becky? Book a call with her right here: [⁠https://calendly.com/idobreakthrough/free-connection-call⁠] Would rather stalk before we talk? No judgement here ;) Here’s my website!➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.idobreakthrough.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ XO Huge Hugs - Becky ———————————————————————— 🌿 If your body leaned in during this episode, that's your sign. Join Becky, Julie, and Bridget at the Wild + Rooted Retreat 2026 for three days of breathwork, somatic healing, and sacred sisterhood on the Eastern Shore of Delaware.➡️ Grab your spot before it's gone

This episode started as a conversation Julie Brumley recorded for her own podcast, and the minute I listened back, I knew it had to live here too. The three of us — me, Julie, and Bridget Covill — went deep on a question I hear constantly from women who have done years of inner work: why does part of me still feel like it's holding on? We talked about shame, where it actually lives in the body, what breathwork does that nothing else can, and what becomes possible when healing stops happening in isolation. ✨ Topics Covered ➡️ Why high-functioning, self-aware women still carry a hidden undercurrent of shame ➡️ How shame shows up in the body — and in intimacy — before you even have words for it ➡️ What breathwork reveals that journaling and Zoom calls simply cannot ➡️ The difference between surface-level friendship and real sacred sisterhood ➡️ What relational healing looks like in person — and why some layers can't be softened alone If your body still hasn't caught up to all the inner work you've done, Root to Rise 2.0 is your next step. One week, 15 women, $57 for the first spots. I'd love to have you in this container 👇 ➡️ https://www.idobreakthrough.com/rtrhousewarming ———————————————————————— Love Note From Becky Aste: TRIGGERED: A 1-DAY WORKSHOP WITH BECKY ASTE - October 14th, 2026 ⁠https://www.idobreakthrough.com/triggered⁠ How free is your voice? ⁠⁠⁠http://www.idobreakthrough.com/voice⁠⁠⁠ I’d love to hear from you! Dm me "PODCAST" on Instagram and I’ll send you a free training that pairs perfectly with this episode 💬 ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram.com/becky_aste⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want to learn more about working with Becky? Book a call with her right here: [⁠https://calendly.com/idobreakthrough/free-connection-call⁠] Would rather stalk before we talk? No judgement here ;) Here’s my website!➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.idobreakthrough.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ XO Huge Hugs - Becky ———————————————————————— 🌿 If your body leaned in during this episode, that's your sign. Join Becky, Julie, and Bridget at the Wild + Rooted Retreat 2026 for three days of breathwork, somatic healing, and sacred sisterhood on the Eastern Shore of Delaware. ➡️ Grab your spot before it's gone ———————————————————————— Connect with Julie Brumley Julie is a trauma-informed adoptee coach and podcast host helping women heal the core wounds of abandonment, belonging, and identity through body-based work and the power of being truly witnessed. ➡️ Instagram ———————————————————————— Connect with Bridget Covill Bridget is a reset breathwork facilitator who helps women release what they've been carrying so their aliveness can come back online. ➡️ Instagram

I'm recording this from my front porch because I've been carrying something for 37 years that I've never had words for until this weekend, and I feel absolutely called to share it now. What I'm walking you through today is my own story, raw and chronological, from crowded school gyms as a little girl to the worst season of my marriage to burying my mom, and how all of it finally connects to one term I'd never heard in 15 years of coaching: post-traumatic derealization. If even one person listens to this and feels like someone finally gets it, this episode did exactly what it was supposed to do. ✨ Topics Covered ➡️ Becky's lifelong experience with derealization and why it took 37 years to find the right name for it ➡️ The difference between dissociation, depersonalization, and derealization, explained in plain language ➡️ How grief and major loss can push the nervous system into shutdown, and why that's not weakness ➡️ What has actually helped Becky move through her longest episode yet, from crying to breathwork to therapy ➡️ The triggers and warning signs to watch for in your own nervous system If your body still hasn't caught up to all the inner work you've done, Root to Rise 2.0 is your next step. One week, 15 women, $57 for the first spots. I'd love to have you in this container 👇 ➡️ https://www.idobreakthrough.com/rtrhousewarming ———————————————————————— Love Note From Becky Aste: TRIGGERED: A 1-DAY WORKSHOP WITH BECKY ASTE - October 14th, 2026 ⁠https://www.idobreakthrough.com/triggered⁠ How free is your voice? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.idobreakthrough.com/voice⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ I’d love to hear from you! Dm me "PODCAST" on Instagram and I’ll send you a free training that pairs perfectly with this episode 💬 ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram.com/becky_aste⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want to learn more about working with Becky? Book a call with her right here: [⁠⁠https://calendly.com/idobreakthrough/free-connection-call⁠⁠] Would rather stalk before we talk? No judgement here ;) Here’s my website!➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.idobreakthrough.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ XO Huge Hugs - Becky

There's something powerful about two practitioners who can just cut straight to what's actually keeping women stuck. My guest Marina Triner and I get into the real reason why understanding your patterns is never enough on its own, why your nervous system isn't broken even when it feels that way, and how the smallest moments, like hearing the door open when your husband comes home, are actually where the deepest rewiring happens. If you've done all the therapy, read all the books, and still keep ending up in the same place, this one is for you. ✨ Topics Covered ➡️ Why insight alone doesn't create lasting change, and what has to happen in the body first ➡️ The link between childhood emotional neglect and the overgiving patterns showing up in your marriage today ➡️ How to stay regulated when your partner gets dysregulated, and why that changes everything ➡️ The difference between expectations and standards, and why that distinction gives you your power back ➡️ What it actually looks like to build secure attachment with yourself so your world stops crashing when he has a bad day If your body still hasn't caught up to all the inner work you've done, Root to Rise 2.0 is your next step. One week, 15 women, $57 for the first spots. I'd love to have you in this container 👇 ➡️ https://www.idobreakthrough.com/rtrhousewarming ———————————————————————— Love Note From Becky Aste: How free is your voice? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.idobreakthrough.com/voice⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ I’d love to hear from you! Dm me "PODCAST" on Instagram and I’ll send you a free training that pairs perfectly with this episode 💬 ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram.com/becky_aste⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want to learn more about working with Becky? Book a call with her right here: [⁠⁠https://calendly.com/idobreakthrough/free-connection-call⁠⁠] Would rather stalk before we talk? No judgement here ;) Here’s my website!➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.idobreakthrough.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TRIGGERED: A 1-DAY WORKSHOP WITH BECKY ASTE - October 14th, 2026 ⁠https://www.idobreakthrough.com/triggered⁠ XO Huge Hugs - Becky ———————————————————————— 🔗 Connect with Marina Marina is a renowned somatic coach, and has supported thousands to move through stuckness, unleash their power, and step into unprecedented visionary success in their relationships, careers and life through profoundly transformative body-based approaches that go to the deep roots: addressing triggers, emotional healing and nervous system regulation. She has mentored thousands of clients through her coaching, online courses, and live programs. Explore support from Marina here: https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu/checkout

Rest Is Your Birthright This week’s episode is all about reclaiming rest — not as a reward, but as a birthright. I’m sharing my personal journey of overcoming productivity addiction and how I’ve come to see rest as essential, sacred, and powerful. ✨ What We Cover In This Episode ➡️ Why rest isn’t something you have to “earn” ➡️ My story of unlearning hustle culture and embracing softness ➡️ How productivity addiction shows up in the nervous system ➡️ Practical ways to prioritise rest without guilt ➡️ The connection between rest, self-worth, and embodiment 💌 Love Note From Becky Aste: Loved this episode? I’d love to hear from you! Come say hello on Instagram! ➡️⁠ instagram.com/becky_aste⁠ and DM me the word “PODCAST” for a free training resource that pairs perfectly with this episode 💬 Would rather stalk before we talk? No judgment here ;) Here’s my website! ➡️⁠ www.idobreakthrough.com⁠ Want to learn more about working with Becky? Book a call with her right here: [⁠⁠https://calendly.com/idobreakthrough/free-connection-call⁠⁠] TRIGGERED: A 1-DAY WORKSHOP WITH BECKY ASTE - October 14th, 2026 ⁠https://www.idobreakthrough.com/triggered⁠