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We take you inside our wedding in Canada: a ceremony that opened with a meditation, a secondhand gift circle instead of presents, and witnesses we chose for who they are to us, not for the role they'd traditionally play. If you're in an anxious-avoidant relationship, this one is for you. Go Deeper: Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate themselves from their wounds and patterns and into magnetism and mature love. Live workshop monthlyLive Q&A monthlyAccess the 21 day Nervous System Reset Path50+ somatic exercises -and more! First 7 Days Free >> Join Us 🧡

Can an avoidant man commit? Our engagement was not picture-perfect. We were aligned on a future together but had never talked about getting engaged, so when it happened spontaneously, it brought up uncertainty, stress and contraction as well as joy. We get honest about how an avoidant and anxious pairing shows up in a moment of big commitment. We also share the personal work that helped us stay steady, including journaling, coaching and learning to move through fear loops rather than pushing emotions away or putting them on each other. If you're in a relationship with an avoidant partner, or you're working on your own attachment patterns, this episode will make you feel a lot less alone. 📚 Book mentioned: The Game by Neil Strauss A real look at what it takes - from both sides - to build a secure relationship. Go Deeper: Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate themselves from their wounds and patterns and into magnetism and mature love. Live workshop monthlyLive Q&A monthlyAccess the 21 day Nervous System Reset Path50+ somatic exercises -and more! First 7 Days Free >> Join Us 🧡

My husband joins me for an honest conversation about his path out of avoidant attachment - the pattern of intense connection followed by pulling away, and how he finally recognized it as his own to heal, not something caused by his partners. We talk about the difference between "me" problems and "you" problems in relationships, the somatic work Björn did to shift beyond just intellectual understanding, and why healing is more like peeling an onion than crossing a finish line. 📚 Book mentioned: The Child in You by Stefanie Stahl A real look at what it takes - from both sides - to build a secure relationship. Go Deeper: Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate themselves from their wounds and patterns and into magnetism and mature love. Live workshop monthlyLive Q&A monthlyAccess the 21 day Nervous System Reset Path50+ somatic exercises -and more! First 7 Days Free >> Join Us 🧡

Why do so many of us find ourselves drawn to emotionally unavailable men - again and again? In this episode, we unpack how low self-worth, harsh self-talk, and struggles like body dysmorphia and disordered eating quietly shape our relationship patterns. We get into why breaking this cycle isn't about mindset or strategy. it's about the body and the nervous system, and why the real work starts before the relationship even begins. __ Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate themselves from their wounds and patterns and into magnetism and mature love. Live workshop monthlyLive Q&A monthlyAccess the 21 day Nervous System Reset Path50+ somatic exercises -and more! First 7 Days Free >> Join Us 🧡

He cancels plans, his tone shifts, he says he's busy, or needs space..and suddenly you're spiraling, convinced this is the moment he leaves. In this episode, we talk about that panic and how to tell the difference between when it's time to self-soothe and give him room, and when it's actually time to have a conversation. __ Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate themselves from their wounds and patterns and into magnetism and mature love. Live workshop monthlyLive Q&A monthlyAccess the 21 day Nervous System Reset Path50+ somatic exercises -and more! First 7 Days Free >> Join Here 💗

Getting a man who's willing to commit isn't about being more available, liking what he likes, or being "perfect." It's the opposite. In this episode: slowing down instead of rushing in, asking yourself how does this make me feel, paying attention to his communication and choices, and keeping your options open. Because staying in your power starts with staying with yourself first. Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate themselves from their wounds and patterns and into magnetism and mature love. Live workshop monthlyLive Q&A monthlyAccess the 21 day Nervous System Reset Path50+ somatic exercises -and more! First 7 Days Free >> Join Us

I'm sharing why those "small" triggers feel big. Why you might feel activated from a text left on read, or 'that tone' from someone you love. It's rarely actually about the small thing. __ Go Deeper with Johanna Join me inside Becoming Her - the program where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate themselves from their wounds and patterns and into magnetism and mature love. Live workshop monthlyLive Q&A monthlyAccess the 21 day Foundations Path50+ somatic exercises -and more! First 7 Days Free >> Join Us

I'm taking you behind the scenes of my own relationship and sharing the 5 things I noticed about my now-fiancé that told me - this one is different. After years of dating avoidant men and convincing myself the anxiety was just chemistry, experiencing security for the first time was genuinely disorienting. I almost didn't trust it. In this episode I cover the five signs that changed everything for me - from the way he showed up on day one, to the moment he was willing to walk away rather than pressure me, to what it finally felt like to be truly held in my emotions. If you're not sure what you're looking for, or you keep finding yourself in the same cycles - this one is for you. Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate themselves from their wounds and patterns and into magnetism and mature love. Live workshop monthlyLive Q&A monthlyAccess the 21 day Foundations Path50+ somatic exercises -and more! First 7 Days Free >> Join Us

We're getting into why dating triggers anxiety that shows up nowhere else in your life, and what your attachment system is actually doing when real feelings are involved. If love is the one area where all your internal composure goes out the window, this one will help you understand why. Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate themselves from their wounds and patterns and into magnetism and mature love. Live workshop monthlyLive Q&A monthlyAccess the 21 day Foundations Path50+ somatic exercises -and more! First 7 Days Free >> Join Us

You know you over-give. You know you find it hard to receive. You've probably known for a while. So why hasn't anything changed? In part 2, we get into what's actually keeping you stuck - and what it looks like to start softening without losing yourself. Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate themselves from their wounds and patterns and into magnetism and mature love. Live workshop monthlyLive Q&A monthlyAccess the 21 day Foundations Path50+ somatic exercises -and more! First 7 Days Free >> Join Us

You handle everything. You've built a life that proves you don't need anyone. So why does it still feel like nobody really sees you? In this episode, we get into why the very thing that makes you so capable is the same thing keeping real intimacy out - and where it all started. Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate themselves from their wounds and patterns and into magnetism and mature love. Live workshop monthlyLive Q&A July 14thAccess the 21 day Foundations Path50+ somatic exercises -and more! First 7 Days Free >> Join Us

An episode about Internal Family Systems. The psychology framework to identify the different parts of ourselves and how they interplay (or sabotage) us. Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate themselves from their wounds and patterns and into magnetism and mature love. Live workshop June 7thLive Q&A July 14thAccess the 21 day Foundations Path50+ somatic exercises -and more! First 7 Days Free >> Join Us

No one is born with anxious attachment style. So the short answer is yes, you can change your attachment to secure! In this epsiode you'll learn: •⁠ ⁠Why no one is born with anxious attachment, and what actually created yours •⁠ ⁠How your mother's nervous system shaped yours before you even had words for it •⁠ ⁠Why books, therapy, and podcasts haven't been enough, and what's missing from most healing approaches •⁠ ⁠The difference between knowing better in your mind and your body actually catching up Join me live for coaching and somatic therapy workshops in Becoming Her 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/ep53-POD ✨ Working together 🌹: 1:1 Somatic healing - info + application Becoming Her - group space, live workshops and coaching calls Somatic Workshops - instant access to healing workshops 🦢

An episode to listen to when you're feeling anxious right now. Or, listen now and save the teaching for later 🫶🏼. We also touch on how to regulate your emotions, come back to your own sense of safety, and create a more grounded, secure way of relating. See in you in there! GO DEEPER WITH JOHANNA 🦢 Join me inside Becoming HER - the place you come when therapy and books haven't been enough. For the woman competent in other areas of life, but anxious in relationships.

We're diving into the dynamic between anxious women and non-committal men, and how over-availability and trying to hold everything together can unintentionally create the very outcome you don’t want. We also touch on why anxious tendencies attract avoidant partners, and what truly creates the space for a man to step forward, invest, and choose you. See in you in there! GO DEEPER Join me inside Becoming Secure - a 3 Phase Method for changing your attachment from anxious to secure at the nervous system level 🧡