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We've all had it: the awkward hookup, the disappointing date, the partner who just didn't get it, or the encounter that left you wondering, "What the hell was THAT?" This week on The Dildo Whisperer, we're talking about bad sex—what makes sex bad, why even good relationships can have terrible sexual experiences, and whether bad sex can actually be fixed. We'll explore everything from poor communication and selfish partners to mismatched expectations, lack of chemistry, awkward technique, and the dangers of assuming porn is a how-to guide. But what do you do when you find yourself in the middle of bad sex? How do you speak up without killing the mood? When should you try to work through it, and when is it simply a matter of sexual incompatibility? And how do you know when "bad sex" crosses the line into something much more serious? Plus, we'll share some cringe-worthy bad-sex scenarios, talk about what these experiences can teach us about our own desires, and remind you that becoming a better sexual partner often starts with one surprisingly simple skill: communication. Because sometimes the worst sex teaches you exactly what you want from the next encounter. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at [email protected]. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com

What happens when you're dating someone who isn't out of the closet? Maybe they're out to a few close friends but not their family. Maybe you're completely open about who you are while they're asking you to keep your relationship a secret. And maybe you understand why they're not ready—but you're starting to wonder how long you're willing to wait. In this episode of The Dildo Whisperer Podcast, we're talking about the complicated reality of dating someone who isn't out. We'll explore the difference between privacy and secrecy, how being closeted can affect intimacy and sex, and what it feels like to be someone's partner but not be acknowledged publicly. We'll also tackle some difficult questions: Can a relationship work when one person is still in the closet? Is it fair to ask someone to come out for the sake of the relationship? How do you set boundaries without pressuring someone? And what happens when supporting their journey starts coming at the expense of your own happiness? Because coming out is a deeply personal journey—but so is deciding what you need from a relationship. Sometimes loving someone means giving them time. And sometimes loving yourself means deciding that you can't wait forever. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at [email protected]. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com

What if you could have an STI and have absolutely no idea? In this episode of The Dildo Whisperer Podcast, we're talking about the infections that can fly under the radar—sometimes for months or even years—without obvious symptoms. We'll break down what people really mean when they say an STI is "dormant," which sexually transmitted infections can remain hidden, and why feeling perfectly healthy doesn't necessarily mean you're STI-free. We'll also talk about why regular testing matters, what you should actually be asking to be tested for, and how different sexual activities can require different types of screening. But an STI diagnosis isn't just a medical issue—it can become a relationship issue, too. What happens when someone tests positive and immediately wonders, "Did my partner cheat?" Can a positive test tell you when an infection was acquired? And how do you have an honest conversation about sexual health without turning it into a blame game? From testing and prevention to trust, communication, stigma, and sex after an STI diagnosis, this episode is all about knowing your status, protecting your partners, and remembering one very important thing: no symptoms doesn't always mean no STI. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at [email protected]. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com

Bears, Bears, Everywhere! This week on The Dildo Whisperer, Romaine is shaking things up! With Ajay out this week dealing with some medical issues, Romaine welcomes her good friend Chris to the podcast—and he comes armed with plenty of stories and opinions. The topic? Bears! From bear weekends and regional gatherings to some of the biggest bear events around the world, Romaine and Chris dive into what makes this community and its events so much fun. Chris has been to bear events all over the globe, and he's ready to spill the tea on what really happens once everyone arrives. What should a first-timer expect? What are these events actually like? How do you navigate the crowds, the parties, the social scene and all the different personalities? And perhaps most importantly… what the hell should you pack? Chris also gives his take on some of the biggest bear events in the U.S., including what's working, what could use some improvement, and what organizers and attendees might want to think about for the future. And just when you think you've heard it all, there's a poop scandal that you absolutely have to hear to believe! Whether you're a seasoned bear-event veteran, bear-curious, or someone who has wondered what actually goes on at these weekends, this episode is packed with stories, laughs, advice and plenty of surprises. Grab your gear, pack your bags and come join the bears! Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at [email protected]. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com

Sexuality doesn't disappear because someone has a disability—but too often, that's exactly how society treats it. In this episode of The Dildo Whisperer, we're joined by renowned sex educator, author, and Lunetta Lingerie owner Ducky Doolittle for an eye-opening conversation about sex, intimacy, and disability. Together, we challenge the myths and misconceptions that often leave people with disabilities out of conversations about dating, relationships, pleasure, and sexual wellness. Ducky shares her expertise on navigating body image, communication, accessibility, adaptive intimacy, and the importance of creating inclusive spaces where everyone feels seen, respected, and empowered. We'll discuss how disability can shape—but doesn't define—our intimate lives, why communication and creativity are essential in every relationship, and how partners can build trust, confidence, and deeper connections. Whether you live with a disability, love someone who does, work in healthcare, or simply want to become a more informed and compassionate partner, this episode offers thoughtful insights, practical advice, and an important reminder: everyone deserves intimacy, pleasure, respect, and the opportunity to express their sexuality without shame or stigma. Join us for an honest, inclusive, and sex-positive conversation that celebrates the many ways people experience love, connection, and pleasure. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at [email protected]. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com

Everyone talks about red flags in dating—but what about the yellow flags that deserve a closer look, or the green flags that tell you a relationship is healthy and worth investing in? In this episode of The Dildo Whisperer, we're breaking down the warning signs, the caution signs, and the positive signs that shape our romantic relationships. We'll explore the behaviors we often ignore because of chemistry, attraction, or wishful thinking, the yellow flags that call for honest conversations instead of quick judgments, and the green flags that show you're building a relationship based on trust, respect, communication, and emotional safety. We'll also talk about why so many people overlook unhealthy patterns, how to recognize when a partner is showing up in meaningful ways, and why it's just as important to ask if you're bringing green flags into the relationship. Because finding the right partner isn't just about avoiding red flags—it's about recognizing the qualities that help love grow and learning how to cultivate those qualities in yourself. Whether you're single, dating, or in a long-term relationship, this episode will help you look beyond first impressions and build healthier, happier, and more fulfilling connections.   Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at [email protected]. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com

Breaking up is one of the hardest conversations we'll ever have—but it doesn't have to be one of the cruelest. In this episode of The Dildo Whisperer, we're exploring how to end a relationship with honesty, compassion, and respect. Whether you've been dating for a few months or sharing a life together for years, we'll discuss how to recognize when it's time to move on, how to prepare for the conversation, and how to communicate your decision without unnecessary blame or drama. We'll also tackle some of the biggest breakup questions: Is ghosting ever okay? Can you really stay friends with an ex? How do you avoid giving false hope? And what does a healthy breakup actually look like? Ending a relationship is never easy, but it can be an opportunity to show kindness, emotional maturity, and respect—for both your partner and yourself. Join us for a thoughtful, sex-positive conversation about love, loss, healing, and why the way we say goodbye can be just as important as the way we fell in love. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at [email protected]. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com

Bro Code. Everyone's heard of it, but what does it actually mean? Is it a sacred set of unwritten rules, or just an excuse to avoid difficult conversations? In this episode of The Dildo Whisperer, we're unpacking the infamous Bro Code—the unspoken guidelines that shape friendships, dating, loyalty, and relationships between men. From the rules about dating a friend's ex to keeping secrets, having each other's backs, and navigating romantic conflicts, we explore where these expectations come from and why they continue to influence the way men interact. We'll also examine the consequences of breaking Bro Code, the situations where loyalty may conflict with honesty or ethics, and whether there are times when breaking the code is actually the right thing to do. Plus, we'll compare Bro Code and Girl Code, looking at how each reflects different ideas about friendship, communication, and support, while asking whether these "codes" still make sense in today's world. Whether you've sworn by Bro Code, broken it, or never really understood it, this episode offers a thoughtful, entertaining, and sex-positive conversation about friendship, trust, relationships, and the complicated rules we create for ourselves.

Fisting is one of the most misunderstood topics in sexual health. It's often surrounded by myths, misinformation, and sensationalized portrayals—but rarely discussed in an honest, educational way. In this episode of The Dildo Whisperer, we take a judgment-free look at what fisting actually is, why some people choose to explore it, and how communication, consent, and preparation play a critical role in practicing it as safely as possible. We'll discuss the differences between vaginal and anal fisting, the importance of anatomy, lubrication, and patience, as well as the do's and don'ts that can help reduce the risk of injury. We'll also talk openly about the potential risks involved, when it's important to seek medical attention, and why aftercare is an essential part of any intimate experience. Whether you're simply curious, considering trying it, or just want accurate information instead of internet myths, this episode provides a thoughtful, sex-positive introduction to one of sexuality's most misunderstood practices. As always, The Dildo Whisperer is here to replace shame with knowledge, encourage open conversations, and empower you to make informed decisions about your sexual health and pleasure. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at [email protected]. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com

How do you figure out what you actually like in bed if no one ever taught you how? In this episode of The Dildo Whisperer, we're talking about sexual self-discovery through the work of smart, sex-positive authors like Ducky Doolittle, Carol Queen, and Betty Dodson. From masturbation and body literacy to fantasy, toys, communication, and learning the difference between what you should want and what genuinely turns you on, this episode is all about using books as tools for curiosity, confidence, and pleasure. If you've ever felt unsure of your turn-ons, embarrassed by your inexperience, or disconnected from your own desire, this conversation offers a judgment-free place to start. Because figuring out what you like sexually doesn't have to begin with pressure, performance, or trial and error in the bedroom. Sometimes it starts with a great book, a little honesty, and the willingness to get curious about your own body and your own pleasure. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at [email protected]. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com

Have you ever wondered what actually happens in a sex therapist's office? Is sex therapy only for couples in crisis—or can it help anyone build healthier, more satisfying intimate relationships? This week on The Dildo Whisperer, I'm joined by AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Vanessa Cushing for an honest, insightful conversation about the challenges so many people face—but few feel comfortable talking about. From mismatched libidos and communication struggles to performance anxiety, body image, shame, and rebuilding intimacy, Vanessa shares practical advice for creating stronger connections both inside and outside the bedroom. We also explore why so many people wait years before asking for help, how our upbringing shapes our relationship with sex, and what it really takes to build confidence, improve communication, and embrace pleasure without guilt or judgment. Whether you're single, dating, married, or simply curious about how sex therapy works, this episode offers expert guidance, compassionate insights, and plenty of reassurance that you're not alone in the questions you have about intimacy. Join us for a thoughtful, sex-positive conversation that reminds us that great sex isn't about perfection—it's about communication, connection, curiosity, and giving yourself permission to keep learning.

What happens when alcohol or substances have been part of the way you flirt, hook up, date, or feel sexy—and then suddenly they're not? In this episode of The Dildo Whisperer, we're talking about sex and sobriety: the awkwardness, the vulnerability, the fear, and the freedom that can come with learning how to navigate intimacy without a chemical buffer. From liquid courage and lowered inhibitions to consent, confidence, hookup culture, and discovering what you actually want when you're fully present, this episode explores the complicated relationship between substances and sex. Whether you're in recovery, rethinking your habits, or just curious about how drinking or getting high may be shaping your sex life, this conversation is honest, practical, and completely judgment-free. Because sober sex might feel different—but it can also be clearer, safer, and more authentically connected than ever before. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at [email protected]. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com

This week on The Dildo Whisperer, we're joined by musician, author, award-nominated adult performer, and trans icon Blake Lovely for a candid conversation about confidence, sexuality, self-expression, and living authentically. This is part 2 of our conversation. From growing up in rural Virginia knowing she was destined to become the woman she is today, to building a successful music career, transitioning, and becoming one of the most recognized trans performers in adult entertainment, Blake shares her remarkable journey of self-discovery and empowerment. We discuss body image, attraction, dating, intimacy, the realities of working in the adult industry, and the lessons she's learned about confidence, communication, and embracing your desires without shame. Blake also opens up about her passion for music, her upcoming projects, and why authenticity is the sexiest quality anyone can possess. Whether you're curious about trans experiences, interested in the intersection of sexuality and self-expression, or simply looking for inspiration to live more boldly, this is an episode you won't want to miss. Join us for an honest, sex-positive conversation about identity, pleasure, confidence, and finding your power. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at [email protected]. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com

This week on The Dildo Whisperer, we're joined by musician, author, award-nominated adult performer, and trans icon Blake Lovely for a candid conversation about confidence, sexuality, self-expression, and living authentically. This is part 1 of our conversation. From growing up in rural Virginia knowing she was destined to become the woman she is today, to building a successful music career, transitioning, and becoming one of the most recognized trans performers in adult entertainment, Blake shares her remarkable journey of self-discovery and empowerment. We discuss body image, attraction, dating, intimacy, the realities of working in the adult industry, and the lessons she's learned about confidence, communication, and embracing your desires without shame. Blake also opens up about her passion for music, her upcoming projects, and why authenticity is the sexiest quality anyone can possess. Whether you're curious about trans experiences, interested in the intersection of sexuality and self-expression, or simply looking for inspiration to live more boldly, this is an episode you won't want to miss. Join us for an honest, sex-positive conversation about identity, pleasure, confidence, and finding your power. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at [email protected]. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com

Have you ever wished your partner could read your mind in the bedroom? You're not alone. One of the biggest obstacles to a satisfying sex life isn't technique—it's communication. In this episode of The Dildo Whisperer, we're talking about how to ask for what you want in bed without feeling awkward, selfish, or embarrassed. From overcoming shame and fear of rejection to learning how to give constructive feedback and discuss fantasies, desires, and boundaries, we'll explore practical ways to improve communication and strengthen intimacy. Whether you're in a long-term relationship, dating someone new, or simply trying to better understand your own needs, this episode will help you find the words to advocate for your pleasure and create more satisfying sexual experiences. Because great sex doesn't come from mind reading—it comes from honest conversations. Tune in and discover why using your words may be the sexiest thing you can do. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at [email protected]. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com