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This episode features a pre-recorded live webinar from SDC.com, the leading global platform for ethically non-monogamous dating and education. In Date Smart, Play Safe: Boundaries That Turn You On, Eve Hall breaks down how to communicate desires, boundaries, and safer-sex practices with confidence, respect, and sexual ease. Created for individuals and couples in the lifestyle, this interactive session reframes safety as sexy, consent as arousal, and communication as foreplay, offering practical tools for trust, connection, and better sex. Clear communication of yeses and nos without killing desire Making boundaries feel confident, sexy, and empowering Handling rejection respectfully in dating and lifestyle spaces STI education, including oral transmission risks Why consent, clarity, and curiosity increase attraction Discussing fantasies, kinks, and porn without pressure Safer sex strategies for ethically non-monogamous relationships Topics Covered Sexual boundaries and consent Safer sex vs. “safe sex” STI awareness and testing Ethical non-monogamy communication Fantasies, kinks, and desire-based conversations Rejection, respect, and community culture Body confidence and sexual empowerment Episode MentionedMen’s Sexual Health, Nocturnal Erections & Heart Health Guest: Dr. Elliot Justin Eve speaks with Dr. Elliot Justin about the link between erectile function and cardiovascular health, introducing smart ring technology that tracks nocturnal erections, a key indicator of overall health. Fewer than three nightly erections may signal increased cardiovascular risk. How to Connect with Eve & Please Me Websitehttps://pleaseme.online Social Media & Contacthttps://pleaseme.online/contacts Substack Newsletterhttps://pleaseme.substack.com Patreon – Ad-Free Episodes & Bonus Contenthttps://patreon.com/PleaseMePodcast Be a Guest on Please Mehttps://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/beaguestonpleasemepodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode Summary In this episode of Please Me Podcast, Eve Hall delivers an in-depth, sex-positive, medically informed conversation on sexual health, pleasure, and prevention for all genders. This episode covers how blood flow, hormones, nutrition, and self-knowledge directly impact arousal, erections, lubrication, orgasm, and long-term sexual wellness. Eve breaks down why erectile dysfunction and vaginal dryness are often early warning signs of vascular health issues, why masturbation is an essential solo practice, and how understanding your own body is key to closing the orgasm gap. She also emphasizes the importance of STI testing, informed consent, and being prepared for safer sex — especially during the holidays and periods of increased sexual activity. Listeners will gain practical tools, education, and prevention strategies to support confident, pleasurable, and safer sex at every stage of life. Sexual health as a reflection of overall cardiovascular and vascular health Erectile dysfunction, endothelial dysfunction, and blood flow Acoustic wave therapy for erectile and vaginal health Penis pumps, traction devices, and penile tissue health Masturbation, ejaculation frequency, and prostate health Female arousal anatomy, clitoral blood flow, and vaginal lubrication The importance of foreplay and arousal time Hormones and sexual function (testosterone, estrogen, progesterone, DHEA) Vaginal dryness, tissue thinning, and pain with sex Nutrition, micronutrients, hydration, sleep, and movement for sexual wellness Masturbation as self-care and pleasure literacy The orgasm gap in heterosexual relationships Communicating sexual needs with partners STI prevention, testing, and informed consent Oral and anal STI testing and why it matters Doxy-PEP and post-exposure STI prevention Sexual health “bug-out bags” and safer sex preparedness Yeast infections and UTIs related to sexual activity Herpes education and antiviral treatment HPV education, transmission, cancer risk, and vaccination Prevention-focused sexual healthcare and long-term intimacy Website: https://pleaseme.onlineSocial Media & Contact: https://pleaseme.online/contactsSubstack Newsletter: https://pleaseme.substack.comPatreon: https://patreon.com/PleaseMePodcastBe a Guest on Please Me (PodMatch):https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/beaguestonpleasemepodcast Topics Discussed in This EpisodeConnect with Eve & Please Me Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this special episode of the What’s Your Brand Story Podcast, host Dhylles Victoria sits down for a deeply personal and powerful conversation with Eve, creator of Please Me. Together, they explore the story behind the brand and how lived experience, trauma healing, and sexual liberation helped shape a global movement. This episode dives into the realities of sexual health, pleasure, and healing, and why breaking the silence around these topics isn’t just important it’s essential. In this episode, we discuss: Eve’s journey from childhood sexual trauma to sexual empowerment Why sexual health care is essential—not optional The orgasm gap and the truth about orgasm equality Why 95% of women require clitoral stimulation to orgasm Sexual health conditions rarely talked about, including: Erectile dysfunction (ED) Incontinence Pelvic floor dysfunction Premature ejaculation Healing sexual shame after trauma Men’s sexual health and why it matters too Pleasure, sex toys, vibrators, and redefining what “sex” really means How silence around sex causes harm—and how open dialogue creates healing Connect with the Host Dhylles Victoria What’s Your Brand Story PodcastListen on Spotify:https://open.spotify.com/show/4u7va5FBlQmBq9bk3SB6Rx Connect with Eve & Please Me  Website:https://pleaseme.online  Social Media & Contact:https://pleaseme.online/contacts  Substack Newsletter:https://pleaseme.substack.com  Patreon (Ad-Free Episodes & Bonus Content):https://patreon.com/PleaseMePodcast  Be a Guest on Please Me:Apply via PodMatchhttps://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/beaguestonpleasemepodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is a special re-release of the most-watched Please Me Podcast episode of 2025—an award-winning conversation recognized with the Latin Podcast Award for Best LGBTQ+ Podcast. Its message remains powerful, relevant, and deeply impactful, which is why we’re bringing it back for continued listening and reflection. In this meaningful episode, Eve reflects on LGBTQ+ advocacy, the power of visibility, and the importance of community—drawing inspiration from experiencing World Pride while in Washington, D.C. during the National Association of Women Business Owners (NAWBO) 50th Anniversary Conference. That intersection of global celebration and policy-centered advocacy sparked a deeper conversation around representation, accountability, and collective action. This episode honors the resilience, brilliance, and humanity of LGBTQ+ voices while addressing the ongoing social and legislative challenges impacting the community today. This episode is dedicated to our trans and non-binary friends in the LGBTQ+ community, whose lives, leadership, and lived experiences deserve visibility, protection, and amplification. Connect With Eve Website:https://pleaseme.online Social Media & Contact:https://pleaseme.online/contacts Substack Newsletter (Exclusive Content & Updates):https://pleaseme.substack.com Patreon (Ad-Free Episodes & Bonus Content):https://patreon.com/PleaseMePodcast Be a Guest on Please Me:Apply via PodMatchhttps://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/beaguestonpleasemepodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode Summary In this special feed drop episode, Please Me host Eve Hall shares a powerful conversation from the Shameless Care Podcast, exploring the history of HIV and AIDS—from its devastating beginnings to today’s life-saving medical breakthroughs. This episode traces how fear, misinformation, and stigma shaped the early AIDS crisis, how science and activism transformed treatment, and where we stand now with modern prevention tools like antiretroviral therapy (ART) and PrEP. It’s a vital conversation about education, access, consent, and the importance of shame-free sexual health care. The first reported HIV/AIDS cases in the early 1980s Early misconceptions, panic, and stigma surrounding transmission The discovery of HIV and the development of testing Why AIDS was once considered universally fatal The role of public health leaders, including Dr. Anthony Fauci Activism, government response, and public education efforts Breakthroughs in HIV treatment and combination therapy (HAART) The meaning of Undetectable = Untransmittable (U=U) How PrEP has transformed HIV prevention Why HIV still affects communities today due to gaps in access and awareness  Connect With the Hosts Website: https://shamelesscare.com Podcast: Shameless Care Podcast Connect With Eve  Website: https://pleaseme.online Social Media & Contact: https://pleaseme.online/contacts Substack Newsletter: https://pleaseme.substack.com Patreon (Ad-Free & Bonus Content): https://patreon.com/PleaseMePodcast Be a Guest: Apply via PodMatch https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/beaguestonpleasemepodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Season 6 of Please Me! comes to a powerful close in Part 2 of the season finale, with Eve welcoming back returning guest Anthony Weaver, host of the About That Wallet podcast, for a thoughtful and expansive wrap-up conversation. Anthony previously closed out Season 5—one of the most-watched episodes of the show—and returns once again for this special two-part holiday finale. In Part 2, Eve and Anthony reflect on the most impactful lessons, listener feedback, and standout moments from Season 6, with a deeper focus on kink education, communication, and sexual liberation. This episode revisits core pillars of sex-positive education, including consent, pleasure, boundaries, aftercare, and navigating sexual “icks.” Eve also shares major milestones for the show, such as industry award recognition, Spotify Wrapped achievements, and how podcasting has become a powerful tool for personal growth, community building, and accessible sex education. Listeners will hear honest, education-based discussions on orgasm equality, sexual wellness tools, STI testing, erectile health, lubrication, toys, and how communication strengthens intimacy—whether you’re exploring BDSM, vanilla intimacy, or something in between. This is a celebratory and empowering Season 6 finale (Part 2) honoring growth, curiosity, connection, and unapologetic big c**t energy. Topics Covered in This Episode Season 6 reflections and podcast growth milestones Why communication is the foundation of sexual satisfaction Kink education, BDSM basics, and the importance of aftercare Understanding sexual “icks” and navigating consent respectfully Role-play as a communication and connection tool Sensation play, pain scales, and the traffic-light consent system Sexual health testing, STI awareness, and oral/anal screening Erectile health, edging, penis pumps, and extenders (education-based discussion) Toys as tools for pleasure, connection, and orgasm equality The orgasm gap and how partners can close it together Holiday giveaways, Patreon exclusives, and listener support Guest Information Anthony WeaverHost, About That Wallet Podcast Referenced Episode: Financial Trauma & Money MindsetListen on Spotify Connect with Eve Website: https://pleaseme.online Visit the site for podcast links, sponsors, sexual wellness resources, and educational tools. Mentioned Resources & Sponsors Shameless Care — At-Home Sexual Health TestingUse code PLEASEME for $15 offhttps://shamelesscare.com SDC.com — Free Trial MembershipGet your FREE SDC trial membershipUse code: 37340https://www.sdc.com Parlor Gameshttps://www.parlor-games.com/shop/?AFFID=571343 LifeWavehttps://lifewave.com/PleaseMe Bonnie’s Herbalshttps://www.bonniesherbals.com/?AffId=3 CAKEShttps://cakesbody.com/?ref= Please Me! Podcast Patreon — Extended Episodes & Bonus Contenthttps://patreon.com/PleaseMePodcast All affiliate links are also available directly at:https://www.youtube.com/@PleaseMe-PodcastwithEve Be a Guest on Please Me! Podcast Interested in being featured on Please Me! with Eve Hall?Apply through PodMatch:https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/beaguestonpleasemepodcast World Vision — Philippines Disaster Reliefhttps://worldvision.org Giving Back Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I In the Season 6 finale of the Please Me Podcast, host Eve Hall is joined by Mistress Mia Darque, a professional dominatrix and BDSM educator with over 26 years of experience. This final installment of the Kink Education Series dives deep into power exchange, consent, sexual empowerment, and the importance of BIPOC representation in the kink community. Designed for both newcomers and experienced practitioners, this episode explores dominance and submission psychology, communication, trust, and inclusive kink education. Mistress Mia also discusses nuanced BDSM practices, including sissification and corporal punishment, offering guidance for those curious about these dynamics. What We Cover in This Episode Power exchange and its role in BDSM beyond physical sensation Consent, trust, and communication in kink dynamics The psychology of dominance and submission BIPOC history, influence, and representation in BDSM The importance of kink education and community storytelling Guest Information Mistress Mia Darque – Professional Dominatrix & BDSM EducatorWebsite: https://www.justsayred.com Host Information Eve Hall – Host, Please Me PodcastWebsite & Resources: https://pleaseme.online Sponsors & Resources Shameless Care – . Use code PLEASEME for $15 off.https://shamelesscare.com SDC  – . Free trial code 37340.https://sdc.com Parlor Games – https://www.parlor-games.com/shop/?AFFID=571343 LifeWave – https://lifewave.com/PleaseMe Bonnie’s Herbals – https://www.bonniesherbals.com/?AffId=3 CAKES –https://cakesbody.com/?ref= Support the Show Please Me Podcast Patreon – Support the show and access exclusive content.https://patreon.com/PleaseMePodcast Be a Guest on Please Me Podcast – Apply via PodMatch.https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/beaguestonpleasemepodcast Giving Back World Vision – Philippines Disaster Relief – Supporting humanitarian aid and recovery efforts.https://www.worldvision.org Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Award-Winning Sex Education: Lessons from Season 6 of the Please Me Podcast | Season Finale In the Season 6 finale of Please Me!, Eve welcomes back returning guest Anthony Weaver, host of the About That Wallet podcast, for a reflective and insightful season wrap-up conversation. Anthony previously closed out Season 5—one of the most-watched episodes of the podcast—and returns for a special two-part holiday finale to revisit the most impactful moments, lessons, and themes from Season 6. Together, Eve and Anthony reflect on standout episodes and listener feedback while exploring core pillars of sex-positive education, including communication, consent, pleasure, kink, boundaries, and aftercare. The conversation also highlights the continued growth of the Please Me! podcast and its expanding community. This episode celebrates major milestones such as award recognition, Spotify Wrapped achievements, and increased listener engagement, underscoring the importance of accessible, inclusive, and educational conversations around sexuality, relationships, and personal growth. Whether you’re a longtime listener or new to the show, this episode offers thoughtful insights, practical takeaways, and a meaningful look back at a powerful season of learning and connection. Season 6 highlights and key listener takeaways Communication and consent as the foundation of pleasure Kink education, boundaries, and the importance of aftercare Sexual wellness tools and sex toys for all genders Erectile health, edging, and pelvic floor education Period sex, sexual “icks,” and respectful sexual negotiation Financial trauma, mindset shifts, and personal growth Podcast growth, awards, Spotify Wrapped, and community impact Anthony WeaverHost, About That Wallet Podcast  Website: https://aboutthatwallet.com  Referenced Episode:Financial Trauma & Money Mindsethttps://open.spotify.com/episode/31neGQ0zMbBV9hwgpFik6M?si=qwGcHsinRVyAt2myNL8c-Q  Website: https://pleaseme.online Shameless Care — At-Home Sexual Health TestingUse code PLEASEME for $15 offhttps://shamelesscare.com SDC.com — Free Trial MembershipUse code: 37340https://www.sdc.com/ Parlor Games — Play-Based Intimacy Toolshttps://www.parlor-games.com/shop/?AFFID=571343 LifeWavehttps://pleaseme.online Juice Plushttps://pleaseme.online Bonnie’s Herbalshttps://pleaseme.online CAKEShttps://pleaseme.online Please Me! Podcast Patreon — Extended Episodes & Bonus Contenthttps://patreon.com/PleaseMePodcast Apply through PodMatch:https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/beaguestonpleasemepodcast World Vision — Philippines Disaster Reliefhttps://worldvision.org Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this raw, honest, pre-recorded episode, Eve dives deep into the real risks that can happen in the bedroom—the uncomfortable truths most people avoid but absolutely need to understand. From modern dating culture to ethical non-monogamy (ENM), swinging, kink, and polyamory, Eve breaks down actual exposure risks, the tools that protect you, and how to stay empowered while enjoying pleasure. This episode delivers accurate, science-based guidance on: Doxy-PEP PrEP HPV & herpes management At-home STI testing Emergency contraception Oxytocin arousal products Eve also shares lived experiences from BDSM and femdom spaces—including DomCon—and explains why kink communities often lead the way in communication, consent, boundaries, and pre-negotiation. Whether you’re casually dating, exploring ENM, attending play parties, or simply want more control over your sexual wellness, this conversation expands your knowledge and strengthens your sexual health toolkit. Modern dating culture & increased STI exposure Differences between polyamory, swinging, kink, and ENM Communication lessons from BDSM communities STI prevention tools: At-home STI testing Doxy-PEP Daily PrEP Emergency contraception Herpes suppression The truth about herpes, HPV, and HIV Clarifying PrEP vs PEP Condom usage trends across sexual communities Oxytocin oral tabs, nasal spray & topical arousal cream Building a sexual health bug-out bag BDSM & kink events: DomCon, KinkFest, and more If you want to go deeper into topics discussed in this episode, check out these related conversations from the Please Me Podcast: Abortion Episodehttps://open.spotify.com/episode/5lOJNjCl6K2cHFt3XB7i1D Pregnancy Optionshttps://open.spotify.com/episode/6kP1BjJ3c6nbW3yOcJ0iSQ Shameless Care – Part 1https://open.spotify.com/episode/3NMBe90jI6My1THUuz8yWE Shameless Care – Part 2https://open.spotify.com/episode/3pqeN2QGkC03qUS2eLR8DX Erectile Dysfunctionhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/7ujry6ovC5PMhn1s0csqgr Vaginal Sensitivity & Drynesshttps://open.spotify.com/episode/2mPDmNCun7jKJNIa9SgSxk Website: https://pleaseme.online(Coaching, discovery calls & resources) Social Media: https://pleaseme.online/contacts Substack: https://pleaseme.substack.com Patreon (Extended Episodes & Bonus Content):https://patreon.com/PleaseMePodcast Interested in being a guest on Please Me! with Eve Hall?Submit your request via PodMatch:https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/beaguestonpleasemepodcast Use code PLEASEME for $15 offhttps://shamelesscare.com Extended episodes & bonus contenthttps://patreon.com/PleaseMePodcast Support survivors of typhoons and earthquakeshttps://worldvision.org Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this powerful episode, host Gary Scott sits down with Eve Hall — sexual health expert, pelvic physical therapist, and the charismatic host of Please Me!, the #1 Sexuality Podcast in the USA and globally. Together, they explore Eve’s transformative journey from childhood sexual trauma to a life rooted in liberation, healing, and embodied empowerment. With over 20 years of experience as a Physical Therapist, now specializing in Sexual Health, Eve supports individuals navigating erectile dysfunction, decreased sensitivity, vaginal dryness, pelvic floor dysfunction, intimacy challenges, and the emotional barriers that prevent full sexual self-expression. She leads the global Orgasm Revolution, a movement dedicated to closing the orgasm gap, dismantling shame, and helping people reclaim pleasure as a birthright. Eve speaks directly to those who have felt unseen, unheard, or disconnected from their sexual identity, offering insight, compassion, and a path back to self-trust and pleasure. Her work is saving relationships.Her message is transforming sexual wellness.Her voice is igniting a revolution. This conversation offers raw and honest insights into healing shame, improving sexual connection, cultivating body confidence, and embracing pleasure as a human right. Eve’s journey from trauma to sexual liberation The truth about the orgasm gap — and how to close it Why shame harms sexual wellness How communication, curiosity, and kink helped shape Eve’s identity How to join the global Orgasm Revolution What it takes to reclaim pleasure as a human right Connect With the Host — Gary Scott YouTube Channel: What If You Could PodcastWatch this full episode: YouTube Link Connect With Eve Hall Website: pleaseme.onlineSocial Media & Contact: pleaseme.online/contactsSubstack: https://pleaseme.substack.comPatreon — Extended Episodes & Bonus Content: https://patreon.com/PleaseMePodcast Be a guest on Please Me! Podcast: Apply via PodMatch Commercial Mentions / Affiliate Links Parlor Games: https://www.parlor-games.com/shop/?AFFID=571343 LifeWave: https://lifewave.com/PleaseMe Bonnie’s Herbals: https://www.bonniesherbals.com/?AffId=3 Eve’s Toy Store: https://pleaseme.online/vibrators-and-toys/ Shameless Care — At-Home Sexual Health Testing: Use code PLEASME for $15 off: https://shamelesscare.com SDC.com — Free Trial Membership: Use code 37340: https://www.sdc.com/ Mentioned Resources / Causes World Vision — Philippines Disaster Relief: https://worldvision.org Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we explore the foundations of BDSM—including bondage, impact play, electroplay, wax play, and sensation play—with Ben, a kink educator and experienced representative of The Kink Shop. With years of hands-on experience at nationwide kink events, Ben offers practical guidance on choosing the right BDSM tools, playing safely, and understanding the sensory differences between thud, sting, electricity, and temperature play. Listeners will discover the essentials of safe toy use, negotiation, consent, and hygiene—plus insights into The Kink Shop’s handcrafted designs, leather quality, beginner-friendly tools, and ergonomic impact toys. Whether you're new to BDSM or looking to deepen your skills, this episode delivers approachable, accurate, and sex-positive kink education. BDSM Foundations What BDSM stands for: Bondage, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, Masochism Psychological and emotional dynamics within power exchange Negotiation, communication, and informed consent Impact Play Essentials Thud vs sting: how sensations differ and who they suit How leather type changes feel: suede, chap, bison, moose, mule deer Beginner-friendly toys: bunny floggers, boa floggers Finger-loop floggers & why they reduce joint strain for tops Sensation Play Tools Leather & conductive claw gloves Scratch mitts Mop-in-a-Pocket toy Vegan impact tool options Electroplay & the Violet Wand How a violet wand works Sensation range: light tingles to intense stimulation Combining electroplay with other kink tools Essential violet-wand safety practices Wax Play Safety Skin-safe wax types vs dangerous household candles Heat management techniques Distance & layering for sensation control Toy Hygiene & Care Cleaning leather, rubber, and electroplay tools Avoiding cross-contamination in shared scenes Long-term storage tips for handcrafted toys Connect with Ben (The Kink Shop) Website: www.thekinkshop.comFetLife: @thekinkshop_Ben Mentioned Resources Shameless Care — Use code PLEASME for $15 off at-home sexual health testing→ shamelesscare.com Please Me Podcast Patreon — Extended episodes & bonus content→ patreon.com/PleaseMePodcast Connect With Eve Hall Website: pleaseme.onlineSocial Media Links: pleaseme.online/contactsSubstack: pleaseme.substack.comPatreon: patreon.com/PleaseMePodcast Be a Guest on Please Me! Podcast Want to be a guest on Please Me! Podcast with Eve?Send Eve Hall a message on PodMatch:→ podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/beaguestonpleasemepodcast World Vision Donate to Philippines ReliefSupport survivors of typhoons and earthquakes:→ worldvision.org Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this special repurposed episode, I’m cross-promoting my recent guest appearance on the Ask a Sex Therapist Podcast, where host Heather Shannon interviews me about some of my favorite topics in sexual wellness. Heather and I dive into Big Clit Energy™, sexual confidence, embodied awareness, pelvic health, and practical strategies for closing the orgasm gap. I also share parts of my own healing journey after sexual trauma, emphasizing the power of communication, consent, and shame-free exploration. We discuss approachable ways to explore fantasies, kink, desire, and pleasure with curiosity and confidence. This conversation is packed with insights for anyone looking to reconnect with their body, build sexual confidence, and deepen intimacy in their relationships. What You’ll Learn in This Episode How to embody Big Clit Energy™ Practical ways to close the persistent orgasm gap Why foreplay is essential for female arousal Safe, accessible ways to explore kink and fantasies How communication strengthens intimacy How shame and conditioning impact pleasure Tools for reconnecting with your sensual body after trauma Connect With Heather Shannon Heather Shannon, LCPCWebsite: heathershannon.co Mentioned Resources Shameless Care — Use code PLEASME for $15 off at-home sexual health testing→ shamelesscare.com Please Me Podcast Patreon — Extended episodes and bonus content→ patreon.com/PleaseMePodcast Connect With Eve Hall Website: pleaseme.onlineSocial Media Links: pleaseme.online/contactsSubstack: pleaseme.substack.comPatreon: patreon.com/PleaseMePodcast Be a Guest on Please Me! Podcast Want to be a guest on Please Me! Podcast with Eve Hall?Send a message through PodMatch:→ podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/beaguestonpleasemepodcast World Vision Donate to Philippines ReliefSupport survivors of typhoons and earthquakes:worldvision.org Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this layered, vulnerable, and intellectually powerful episode of the Kink Series, we go far beyond basic BDSM concepts and drop directly into the psychology, ritual, and emotional architecture of kink with Mistress Audry Lu Black — a professional dominatrix, lifestyle FemDomme, educator, and respected kink community leader. Together we explore how bondage, ritual, humiliation, sexual sadism, and power exchange can serve not only erotic expression but also nervous system regulation, trauma processing, and emotional liberation. What begins as a conversation about rope quickly expands into a rich discussion about worship, devotion, fear release, identity, surrender, and the transformative role of a Dominant who leads with intention and precision. This episode opens the door to understanding kink as both art and psychology, and how deep D/s can create safety, stillness, and meaning for those who crave structure, containment, or catharsis. • Why 20% of the body’s energy feeds the brain and how cognitive load, overthinking, and perfectionism show up in bondage scenes • Bondage as nervous system regulation — creating stillness, presence, and relief for anxious or neurodivergent minds who struggle with meditation • Somatic containment through rope and restraint for anxiety, trauma, and hypermobility conditions (including Ehlers-Danlos and other connective tissue differences) • The paradox of safety through restriction — how removing choice, movement, and anticipated pressure can reduce anxiety and soothe a dysregulated nervous system • Femme Domme philosophy and energetic leadership — what it means to embody dominance, hold power, and create psychological structures for surrender • Sexual sadism and humiliation — how intention, emotional tone, and negotiated meaning differentiate harm from healing, and cruelty from catharsis • The psychology of worship and groveling — why submission, devotion, and being at Her feet can be grounding, erotic, or spiritually significant • Ritual in kink — how structure, ceremony, and symbolic actions frame scenes, build trust, and regulate the body’s response to intensity • Lifestyle vs. professional domination — the differences in purpose, boundaries, emotional bandwidth, and the Dominant’s role in each dynamic • Deep-dive negotiation practices — understanding limits, desires, tone, chemistry, and psychological triggers before entering a scene • A full, realistic BDSM pre-scene negotiation role play so listeners can hear how safe, ethical, consent-based kink is structured before any play begins • The Dominant’s internal process — emotional labor, reading the submissive’s physiology, and creating a safe container for intensity • How humiliation can be affirming, transformative, or erotic depending on the submissive’s psychology and agreed roles • Bondage as an anchor for embodiment — helping the mind exit constant vigilance and enter stillness, surrender, or erotic presence  Touch Me There: Vaginal Reflexology, Squirting Secrets & Orgasmic Magic — available here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0AsOZmGPvMiR3pQfVZKfxR?si=fFDg8SQqS7OCQQn5ptYGoA Connect with the Guest Mistress Audry Lu Black Podcast: Placemaker for Perversion Substack: https://audrylublack.substack.com/ Official Website: https://mistresslublack.com/ Mentioned Resources Hani Cheng – Talk to the Peach: Sensual healing, feminine pleasure, and reconnecting with your body (Listen here) Hani Cheng – Reflexology: Mapping female g******s with reflexology for pleasure and body awareness (Listen here) Shameless Care — Use code PLEASME for $15 off at-home sexual health testing: shamelesscare.com Eve’s Substack — Q&A, workshops, & exclusive content: https://pleasemewitheve.substack.com/ Please Me Podcast Patreon — Extended episodes & bonus content: patreon.com/PleaseMePodcast SDC.com — Use code 37340 for a free trial membership World Vision Support survivors of typhoon & earthquake: worldvision.org Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode Summary In this episode of the Please Me! Podcast, we explore how to deepen intimacy, strengthen communication, and enhance sexual wellness through intentional relationship rituals and beautifully designed intimacy tools. This conversation blends practical sex education, emotional connection strategies, and insights into how your environment and bedroom aesthetics influence desire and pleasure. We break down the transformative Four Intimacies Framework—verbal, emotional, physical, and spiritual intimacy—showing how each dimension supports long-term relationship success. From daily closeness-building rituals to the benefits of luxury silicone lubricants for comfort and long-lasting pleasure, this episode offers couples and individuals actionable tools for a more connected, fulfilling love life. Whether you're looking to build emotional safety, face relationship challenges with compassion, or elevate your intimacy routine, this episode provides a modern, sex-positive roadmap for creating lasting connection. Topics Covered The Four Intimacies: verbal, emotional, physical & spiritual Daily rituals that strengthen connection in relationships How bedroom aesthetics and environment impact desire Benefits of luxury silicone lubricants for comfort & confidence The Love Tank model for emotional availability How to communicate through relationship “icks” with compassion Connect With the Guests Dr. Amy Clark & Roy ClarkWebsite: arialuxelife.com Additional Resources Mentioned Shameless Care — Use code PLEASME for $15 off at-home sexual health testinghttps://shamelesscare.com/ Eve’s Substack (Newsletter + Community)Q&A, workshops, articles & exclusive content Please Me Podcast PatreonExtended episodes & bonus contenthttp://patreon.com/PleaseMePodcast World Vision — Support for survivors of the recent typhoon & earthquakehttps://www.worldvision.org/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode Overview In this episode of Please Me! Podcast, Dr. Eve continues her Kink Education Series, inspired by DomCon New Orleans. Dive into BIPOC kink history, subspace and domspace neurochemistry, neurodiverse pleasure, somatic practices, pet play, foot play, anal play, and trauma-informed, consent-based kink education. Learn practical tools, cultural insights, and safety guidance for exploring kink in a mindful, therapeutic way. Topics Covered🌍 BIPOC History & Cultural Lineage African, Indigenous, and non-Western roots of kink Yoruba deity Oshun, rituals, trance, and altered states Why cultural acknowledgment matters in modern BDSM Understanding subspace and domspace The “BDSM chemical cocktail”: dopamine, endorphins, cortisol, adrenaline Aftercare to prevent sub-drop and dom-drop Parallels with meditation, hypnosis, and somatic therapy How autistic and ADHD individuals thrive in kink Sensory needs, structure, and nervous system regulation Identity exploration and self-expression Puppy, kitten, pony, cow play, and more Safety and confidence in animal headspace Masks, hoods, and ritual gear as identity tools Psychological and somatic benefits Safety, hygiene, and party/event etiquette Hygiene, prep, body-safe materials, and pleasure mapping Trauma-informed educational approach Clinical, non-sexual medical play explained Trauma-aware role-play and consent demos Perfect for anyone curious about: BDSM safety Neurodiverse kink practices Trauma-informed intimacy Somatic pleasure exploration Cultural history in kink This episode is concise, informative, and actionable — grounded in sex education, historical insight, and safety practices. 🧠 Subspace, Domspace & Neurochemistry🧩 Neurodiversity & BDSM🐾 Pet Play & Role-Play👣 Foot Play Basics🍑 Anal Play & Pegging🩺 Medical Play & Educational Role-PlayWhy ListenConnect with the Guests The Commandant — Professional Dominatrix, BDSM Educator & Kink HistorianWebsite: hausofthecommandant.com Patreon Bonus Listen to the full-length, uncensored episode on Patreon including extended kink education, behind-the-scenes insight, and intimate conversations not included in the free version.Access the entire Kink Series for just $10/month. Additional Resources Mentioned Shameless Care — Use code PLEASME for $15 off at-home sexual health testing : https://shamelesscare.com/  SDC.com — Use code 37340 for a free trial membership World Vision — Donation links for survivors of the recent typhoon & earthquake :  https://www.worldvision.org/  Eve’s Substack & Patreon for Q&A, workshops, and exclusive content pleaseme.online : https://pleaseme.online/  patreon.com/PleaseMePodcast : http://patreon.com/PleaseMePodcast  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices